doglady1342

No. We're trying to send money the other direction. Plus, our son saves us over $10k per year in dog boarding fees because he takes care of the dogs when we travel, which is often.

We do plan to buy our son a house eventually. We did buy a house for him to live in while he was at university and sold when he graduated. We also paid for all of his schooling and his car. We pay his auto insurance and his health insurance as well. We can afford it, so why not? (I'll note that we're fully retired and have no debt and purchasing another house would not affect our lifestyle.) Have you talked to your wife in depth on why she's resistant to doing this? Could she be worried about putting money aside for later in life? If either of you end up needing assisted living or Memory Care, that is very expensive. Or, maybe there are things that she would like to be doing with the money that you guys aren't doing? My opinion is that it's important to take care of your own needs first. Before you start buying for someone else, make sure that you have no debt and that you have enough invested to live off of yourselves and to do the things that you want to do. If you're all good financially then it's an awesome thing to be able to help your son and his wife in this way. Just don't neglect the things you and your wife would like to do in order to pay for a house for your son. But, really, have a sit down talk with your wife about this and find out what her reasoning is. I know what she told you, but there could be more behind it. You definitely need to both agree. Also, please make sure that you're not attaching any strings if you help them out. It's very kind to buy a house or give down payment money, but only if you don't feel like that money gives you some sort of say over your kids lives.

You see the 1969 under your user name? That's your flair.

I'm not going to tell you what to do, but if you decide to give your home to one of your kids, you first need to speak with an estate attorney and a tax specialist. Your CPA should be able to give you good tax advice. That would be a huge gift, presumably under the lifetime limit though. You just want to make sure that you don't do anything that's going to cause a big tax problem for you or for your kids.

I don't think GenX buys into that nonsense. I'll respect those that deserve respect, regardless of age.

When I was 17 I had an older boyfriend who drove a Mustang GT and also had a Bronco, both manuals. He taught me. I still drive a manual.

Depends on where you are. My husband had to go to urgent care last week and saw a doctor. They gave him a prescription until them to come back on Tuesday. On Tuesday he saw a doctor again and they extended the prescription. He has a staph infection. His Urgent Care visit was $50. If he'd gone to the er, it would have been closer to $1,000. Urgent Care has a place. You just have to go there for the right thing.

My husband and I both used to have our college degrees hung in our home office. When we moved, I packed them up and never put them back up. We retired almost 6 years ago and nobody cares about our degrees now anyway.

I think you might have the wrong thread.

Never been offered or given a senior discount. I'm 56. I do look younger than I am I'm not going to complain about that. Lucky genetics and sunscreen I guess.

I can. If you can't, start working on both core and balance exercises. It's very important to have good balance as we age.

That is nowhere near enough to retire on unless you're close to death. I'm assuming that since you are posting and then GenX sub, that you are 62 or younger. At $500,000, you basically just have to exist. And, if you ever got sick or needed surgery or needed to go into Elder Care, that money would be gone almost immediately. For example, my husband had a medical emergency (ruptured colon) about 2.5 years ago. The first surgery and 11 day hospital stay was over $100,000. Thankfully we have good insurance. The second surgery wasn't quite as much...only about $60k IIRC. The third surgery, to fix the hernia and other issues caused by the first two surgeries, resulted in a 5-day Hospital stay. That was also close to $100,000. I'm sorry to say that I would tell you to keep working. I just do not see how it's possible to retire on the $500,000 unless you are going to move to some country that is very very cheap. Often though, that means that you're not going to have great access to good medical care if you need it.

I live in a relatively low-cost state. That wouldn't be nearly enough where I live.

Alternate = DCS or CPS Depends on where you live. Child Protective Services. Department of Children's Services. Department of Children's and Family Services.

50 isn't old. It used to be old....like when my grandmother was in her 50s. Even she lived to 90. Stop thinking you're old. It affects your mindset.

Report that shit and get it stopped. I owned a manufacturing company for 30 years. One of our top rules was "no throwing things". It was grounds for immediate termination and we did fire people over the years. It's a safety hazard in numerous ways and I didn't want anyone getting hurt. I also didn't need to be paying out workers comp because someone was acting like an idiot around heavy machinery. The rest? The rest is all just people trying to get through there today and maybe have a little fun while working a boring, repetitive job. Give them a break. You were young at one point, too. Maybe try to relate to them a little bit. Aren't we supposed to be the generation than ever grows up?

I used to live about a mile from him. He occasionally would show up at the local Atwoods farm store. That was back on the laye '90s. Just a small town guy. My former office manager (we're both retired) went to high school with him. (Owasso, OK)

I watched it live, standing on the side of the road in Florida when it happened. My dad said something like "I don't think it's supposed to look like that."

Yup. Llamas will be off the table. Fortunately for OP, camels are related to llamas, so a good substitute. I've twice ridden a camel. You're a lot higher up than you'd imagine. They're so tall!

I never personally owned a car with a foot switch, but I remember this being a thing in a couple of my dad's cars.

Stay at home dad.

The German version is one if my faves. I can only single it in German. I have no idea what the English lyrics are! (I did grow up listening to grandmother and great-grandmother speak German and understanding it.)

Yup. My grandfather was an alcoholic and so was my mother. My dad drank, sometimes excessively, but was definitely not an alcoholic. I don't think I really made a conscious decision to not drink (much), but that definitely plays a part in it. Plus, my mother had Alzheimer's. It is not something that runs on her side of the family. She is the first person on that side to have any sort of dementia that we know of. My grandmother and great-grandmother lived to be very old and we're both very very sharp until the end. I had four doctors, including my mother's neurologist, tell me that her Alzheimer's was almost definitely caused by her excessive consumption of alcohol over the decades. I do not want to end up like that.

Not really. I occasionally have a drink when we go out to dinner or are traveling. Usually only one. I almost never drink at home. I maybe have 10 alcoholic beverages in a year. I figure I drank enough in college to last a lifetime.

Not much. My mom was a hoarder. I keep nothing that I don't use. I always have a box or bag that I'm filling to take to Goodwill ir wherever. Somehow I ended up with a bunch of old suitcases. I've been filling those up instead of boxes.

When I was in high school, we moved to a small, semi-rural town in northern Illinois. We had a deer overpopulation problem. Cop or deer, you slowed down if someone flashed their lights.

No.....? You flash your high beams. You don't turn the lights on and off.

Where do you live? Mercurochrome was banned OTC in the US in 1998.

Hormone imbalance/loss is one thing that can cause dementia. However, there are a lot of other causes. My mother was on HRT. Unfortunately, she was also an alcoholic for decades. She's the only person on the maternal side of my family to have dementia. Four doctors told me it was because of the alcohol.

Generation has zero to do with this. There are people like this of every generation. My terrible in-laws? Silent generation. My awesome parents? Silent generation. That said, I would tell your father that it's just too late. If he hasn't been interested up until now, why should he get to come to celebration? I don't really know anything about your father. I have two theories. One is that he's a narcissist and sees this as a way to put himself as a center of attention. Alternatively, he's going to trade that plane the ticket in for another one to go somewhere else. Actually, you could run a little experiment. Buy him a basic economy plane ticket on American Airlines through a third party OTA. It won't be changeable or refundable, not even for credit. If he wants to use the ticket, he'll have no choice but to come to where you are.

It does cost something. It costs money for a plane ticket. It costs a lot of emotional turmoil. If it may cost son and everyone else their enjoyment of the day. People that don't have selfish, self-centered, or narcissistic parents really have no idea about how these things go. That parent will try to make themselves the spotlight, will come in with the office of criticisms, and will generally ruin the day. That is, if this isn't some sort of a scam to get a plane ticket and exchange it to go somewhere else. That's the other thing people like this do. They promise to show up and then they don't. I had great parents, but my in-laws were really something else. Honestly coming the best thing they ever did was quit talking to us.

I feel the opposite. If OP's father hasn't made any effort to be a part of their lives, then he doesn't get to show up for the celebrations, particularly if you can't be bothered by himself a plane ticket to get there. I think a lot of the debate in this thread is because people who have good and present parents cannot fathom not having them in their lives. It's a BS argument that the guy is 75 years old and he's not going to live much longer. If he's a shit parent, who cares? I can see both sides. I had wonderful parents who were both gone too soon. I always wished my father had been around to meet my son. However, my in-laws are an entirely different story. I don't even know how they put up with each other, both being such selfish self-centered people. They stopped talking to us 10 years ago. We know the stated reason, but we also know that's not really the reason. They didn't want to be around anyone they can't control with their money. FIL is dead now (good riddance) and apparently my mother-in-law has alienated almost everybody in her life. She tried to make contact about a year and a half ago after my sister-in-law died. My husband shut that down really quickly. She doesn't get to alienate her son and grandson and then just come back into our lives because she lost her support system.

Basically, what it boils down to and what I think you're saying is that if Grandpa really wants to see his grandson graduate, Grandpa needs to figure out a way to be there on his own dime. Grandpa is probably an undiagnosed narcissist. He's only interested because he thinks he can put himself in the spotlight.

This is wrong. Showing OP's son that it is okay to not let people use you, no matter who they are, is the lesson here. Because someone is blood related to you, even a parent, doesn't mean there is the possibility of a healthy relationship there. Never ever teach your children that it's okay to let somebody treat you badly and keep coming in and out of your life. The OP's son will be just fine because he has a parent that cares about him and a parent that doesn't let people trample all over his feelings. I rhink it would behoove you to take care of your issues if you think it's okay to let people treat you badly and continue to let them in your life and your child's life.

The best thing I've found for RLS is a combo of magnesium, iron, amd B1 supplements. The B1 made a huge difference when I added it.

I scrolled way too far to find this. I'm 56 and frequently grateful that we weren't so easily reachable when we were young adults.

Have you talked to your doctor? HRT can help. I'm in peri and my progestin prescription has eradicated the brain fog.

We retired early and we travel a lot. We're 56 & 57. We take 3 to 5 dive trips to the Caribbean each year, usually around a week long. Then we try to do two bigger trips during the year. Last year was Micronesia and South Africa/Antarctica. This year is Indonesia and New Zealand.

Hahaha.... now explain to gen Z how famous Elvis and The Beatles were.

Potentially, but I can tell you that my mother very clearly remembered the distant past when she had dementia. Sadly, she didn't recall much from the last 15-20 years of her life.

Very often, people with dementia remember the more distant past very clearly.

My neighbor took me and her kids to see Jaws in the theater. I was 5-1/2. Her kids were 5 and 3. For decades I was terrified of swimming in the ocean. (I learned to scuba dive in 2019 and now I love diving with sharks.)

I used to, but I haven't balanced any of my checkbooks in at least a dozen years.

My parents were both silent generation. Dad was born in 1932, mom in 1941. I'm born in 1969.

I've never heard of this before.

What?

Yes! You can get the fun size ones at Halloween. I think they also sell the full size ones in the candy aisle (in packs of 6 or 8).

I loved those! Unfortunately they just aren't the same anymore. We were talking with friends about a similar topic...they live in Mexico. He's Mexican and she's German. They never heard of a Whatchamacallit. So my husband bought some the last time we went to visit. I was very disappointed.

Genetics are a huge factor. The only thing I take (which is totally optional) are progestin birth control pills to stop my periods. It's for my convenience because my husband and I travel a lot. You think this shit would stop by 56 years old, but at least there's a non-surgical oprion. Anyway, I'm perfectly healthy and don't expect to need prescriptions. My parents were very healthy people genetically. My parents both died younger than they should have. My mom caused her own problems. My dad died from mesothelioma due to asbestos exposure during gus military service.

Live your life! My husband and I have one adult son. He's in his mid-20s and he lives with us. We have a guest suite of rooms, so he has ample space. He works and could easily move out, but, he's saving money and looking for a different job. His field is not doing so great right now. It's working well for all of us right now. We travel quite a lot. He takes care of the house and watches the dogs. Our dogs are pretty old and basically sleep all day, but his work schedule is flexible, so they don't get left at home all day. Our son doesn't think a thing about us going off and doing what we want to do. Of course, I'm a person who pretty much always does what I want to do anyway. Sometimes we are only gone a week, but we take longer trips too. We'll be gone for 3 weeks in September and almost a full month at the end of the year.