Am I kidding myself, or do I have a lot more left in the tank?
Posted by Appropriate-Water920@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 90 comments
Yes, I'm getting old, and I know it in a bunch of different ways. I just turned fifty, and I'm having all the same experiences other people are having. More physical ailments for both men and my wife, the, loss of a parent, financial stressors with the kids getting older.
But I also just ran my first half marathon last year, and I'm thinking about training for a full on the next couple of years (helps that I see all these generic freaks of nature absolutely dusting me in their sixties).
I'm thinking about writing a novel. Will it be any good? I don't know, and I don't care much. It's something fun I could accomplish.
Now that my kids are older, the wife and I are free to spend a little more time together, we're reconnecting after a decade and change of thinking about almost nothing but the kids.
I'm reading more, putting together a list of classics I want to tackle. Listening to different music (sorry Kurt, we've been together a long time, but I want to branch out a little). I'm looking around for new hobbies, trying to get a little more out of life.
I'm not stupid, I get that I'm on the slightly younger side of Gen X and there's a whole decade of new species of hell getting ready for me, but I still really believe that the best is yet to come. What's the alternative, roll over and wait to die?
Am I naive? Is anybody else still taking life by the horns or what?
CityNot@reddit
50 here. I promised myself many years ago that I would do all of the things I loved doing as a kid / teenager / young adult as long as I could till I died. So I play soccer (same group of people for almost 25 years), play guitar, piano and bass and sing, play video games, drink delicious beer and eat lots of gummies. All while raising three daughters. Feeling awesome. Always make a little time for yourself
Ok-Satisfaction3857@reddit
Nah you're not crazy.
I'm a couple years ahead of you and I'm finding so many new things I love, re-finding old things, and generally pushing the limits of what people say I can do in my 50s. I'm running marathons, riding 60 miles on the bike, hiking, motorcycling, and the latest - skateboarding (which I loved as a teen).
Go get it!!!! Live life. Don't wait for retirement. Everything hurts more but here's the pro tip - sitting on the couch hurts too.
Unexpectedly99@reddit
I know it's not the most exciting thing you are going to hear. I'm young Gen-x 45 going on 46. I'm married to a boomer that retired in 2019. Our kids are 19 and 23.
I'm most excited to spend the next several years focused on my career. My better half supported me through going back to school and finally getting my degree and I'm happy where I'm at.
I don't have to rush home to worry about dinner or kids events and he's always interested in hearing about my day and we talk all evening.
It's finally time to focus fully on me and I've become the primary for our family and I'm both grateful and stressed about the fundamental changes, but I believe that's because I see it as a challenge in the same way you are facing new challenges.
Good luck to you on your journey, no matter where it takes you.
bizzylearning@reddit
I think we finally have some resources and bandwidth to consider what we want to do (on top of what needs to be done, which has been the default setting for decades). Run with it for however long you can! It sounds like you've found things that refill your tank, so to speak, and that's literally how we keep going and enjoy it.
Today, I hit up a friend to see if she'll section hike the Continental Divide Trail with me. (I'd hashed out the plan to do it, myself, and as I was telling my daughter about this awesome new plan, she said, "I am not going with you. You know this, right? Do you have a hiking buddy lined up? Because if not, this is how people die.")
(Confession: I was totally going to see if I could talk her into it, but she's not a hiker, and she saw me coming from a mile away. I did, however, appreciate that she's not convinced I'll die by trying it, only by trying it alone. Fair enough.)
Hubby and I are closer than ever and having more fun together than we've had in a long time. (Again, bandwidth to focus is nice!)
And there are always more books to read!
gmkrikey@reddit
Don’t let the old man in. There is plenty left in the tank but it’s also easy to let yourself slip into old man in your 50s. So many people do it’s an expectation for many. Your post is asking more or less “can I defy this expectation” and yes you can.
Keep your fitness and physical vigor along with mental attitude.
Me, I started endurance sports in my mid 30s. Did my first marathon at 37 and my first Ironman at 40.
The year I turned 50 I raced a sprint, Olympic, half Ironman, and full Ironman triathlon. Also a 5k, 10k, 15k, half marathon, and full marathon. All in those 12 months.
Now I'm 60. I've had some health challenges, but I'm still in better shape than my early 30s. I added in strength training 4 years ago and I'm stronger than I've ever been. I’ve still been racing. Training for a half Ironman right now.
Upper_Ad_4379@reddit
Life in my mid 40s is so much more fun and fulfilling than any other time.
We have the money to travel frequently and we occasionally take the kids (now ages 21 and 12). We have time to take care of our health and love going to the gym and getting outside. I recently started competing in powerlifting, and the husband and I are also training for a 10k in a few weeks. I've been reading more.
I switched careers about 6 years ago, and I absolutely love my job as a sports massage therapist. I get to stay connected to the community of athletes that I love, I'm always learning something new, and my days are rarely boring.
I say this is the best part of life.
More_Law6245@reddit
It's funny my wife and I have recently retired and my wife like her farther is busier than when they were employed. For me because my career for over 20 years was a very high stressful period in my life I have chosen to stepped back, I just want time to myself and it feels like I want to decompress and not be on someone else's clock for a while because I was in project management and lived by the clock.
I know I will get back to my hobbies and community service at some stage but I'm just wanting to take some time out for myself as I kind of think I've earned it and I'm OK with that.
gailclark@reddit
When I begin to feel old, I stop and think about my 90 year old father.
Gen X: We have a lot of adventures left to fulfill! Enjoy this time of less self-doubt. I am more empowered today than I was as a 30 year old.
I, for one, will not be looking back but only ahead.
Glad_Bunch_3473@reddit
Late fifties and these are definitely the best years coming up. I get almost overwhelmed by the endless possibilities, in spite of societal challenges. Forever young!
UnplannedProofreader@reddit
I wonder if I’m delusional all the time because I feel like the good stuff is still coming. 51 and feeling forever young.
doglady1342@reddit
50 isn't old. It used to be old....like when my grandmother was in her 50s. Even she lived to 90. Stop thinking you're old. It affects your mindset.
mandoaz1971@reddit
Writing my second book, took up hiking and birds. Clocks ticking friend so Carpe Noche!
Zestyclose-Dream-409@reddit
My grandma turns 99 this summer and still walks 3 miles a day. On her bionic knees now, but it's the ritual of daily walks that keeps her sharp.
Whatever movement calls to you - do it. If we aren't moving, we are rotting away. I teach and practice yoga, and walk my dog. And renovate houses (I'm 55). At the end of the day, I'm physically exhausted and feel ALIVE.
What if you have 50 more years? It's possible - my grandma is proof. Live well.
GuitarHeroInMyHead@reddit
Absolutely the best is yet to come. You can't stop aging but you don't have to get old. You have as much left in the tank as you fill it with now. Screw the whining...life is good.
PacRat48@reddit
F3Nation
A free, outdoor men’s workout group. You don’t sign up. You just show up.
It’s great being around motivated men. Guys are often 20’s to 60’s. All shapes and sizes.
We are capable of so much
temerairevm@reddit
Just try not to injure yourself. At 54/55 my husband and I have been battling injuries this year and it’s hard. Also menopause is 10x harder than peri was, at least for me.
Still in the game but this year I realized a lot of that is just survival of the fittest, rather than controllable by your own effort.
chipinserted@reddit
Can I ask what is harder about menopause for you my wife is 54 and in the middle of one of those peri or full on and it's kicking her ass
temerairevm@reddit
It’s very individual so not guaranteed. I breezed through peri like “what peri”? And suddenly I have all the weird symptoms like whole body itching and menopause hip and also I want to strangle everyone because they’re sooo annoying. Hormones have helped but not in the miraculous way some people say.
chipinserted@reddit
Interesting my wife strated progesterone about 2 weeks ago and I haven't noticed anything different fun
lovegood123@reddit
50 is no longer old. Go for it!
WasASailorThen@reddit
Hit the gym. Stay in the gym.
Appropriate-Water920@reddit (OP)
I read somewhere once that strength training is a cheat code to beat aging. I've definitely found that to be true. Makes me wish I had been into it in my 20s, but oh well, better late than never.
WasASailorThen@reddit
I row on those Concept 2 rowers. If you row 1M meters, you get a free t-shirt. I'm about a week and a half away from a free t-shirt. Frankly, it's an ugly t-shirt. I want that ugly t-shirt bad.
Bluered2012@reddit
Turning 50 in two months, and after a near death illness last fall, I was able to start doing weights in Feb. I’m addicted to the change it made in my body and my mindset. I’m still really struggling with turning 50, to be honest. But this is helping. I just want to be healthy. And also be able to enjoy myself with some vodka.
pasquamish@reddit
Hell yeah…52 and heading out for a 900 mile bike ride in 30 days
chipinserted@reddit
You know you can rent a car no need to bike that far your taint will thank you 😁
pasquamish@reddit
so true. I’m so aware that this falls pretty high on the list of stupid things to do, but fuck it. Otherwise I’d have to go to work for most of those 9 days. Given that, this plan seems better.
chipinserted@reddit
Good choice then I truly hop it's what you are looking for good luck!
Chemical-Carrot-9975@reddit
That’s awesome!!
slade797@reddit
I was walking down the hall at work the other day with the CEO and COO of the company I work for, and they were both in *much* worse shape than me. CEO has a bad back, walks hunched over, COO has bad knees, walks very gingerly. Me, I’m just walking along like always.
Individual-Army811@reddit
57 and I say, DO IT!
Do all the things you couldn't do when building a home, raising kids, and getting by. See the concert, run the marathon, travel the world. Whatever floats your boat, do it! ❤️❤️💪
Sure-Coffee-8241@reddit
I’m trying to see 50 as the halfway point. I’m working to keep myself physically and mentally sharp to live to 100. I’m a few years past 50 but so far so good. Hoping to retire at a good age and enjoy decades of life after that fit enough to really enjoy it.
Kalorama_Master@reddit
That’s me as well. My family has a history of longevity, so 50 is actually young for us
Sure-Coffee-8241@reddit
same my parents are in their 80s and doing fine
redbeard914@reddit
Dude, I'm 60. I have a TON left in the tank!
PopRemarkable2755@reddit
If you're not growing, you're dying. Keep doing all you can and want to do for as long as possible.
mtcwby@reddit
IMO this is how you are the 60 and 70 year olds that are still well functioning. Almost 61 myself and just spent two weeks in the Netherlands walking for miles every day with no issues. At 40 I would have been sore.
Standard_Gur30@reddit
Great to hear all these replies. At 55 I’m still a runner and got back into mountain biking a couple years ago.
Moonsmom181@reddit
50? I wish I was 50 again. 56 here and I’ve got so much to do. My husband is older and is still learning/trying new things.
It ain’t over ‘til it’s over.
hells_cowbells@reddit
runnin' on empty (Runnin' on) runnin' blind (Runnin' on) runnin' into the sun But I'm runnin' behind
forgeblast@reddit
Sons of legion have a song with the following lyric "there's an old man coming but he ain't here yet". Tell myself that everyday.
WhisperedSoul@reddit
You have a lot of mileage left. Keep going. Keep that zest for life.
timmy242@reddit
Keep rockin' it, dude. Lost all my elders. Lost my wife to cancer 5 years ago last month. Still have three kids under 19. New dog. Just dated a 22 year old, but she was after the money she was shocked I didn' have so she's gone.
So, yes. Live you're life. Walk your walk. At some point your body will start making those choices for you.
LeighofMar@reddit
What choice is there? I get that people age differently but I feel the majority of people who go in thinking they're old will in fact look, act, and feel old. The rest are living life not paying attention to numbers but how they feel. I feel like this is Our time and it'd be a shame to waste it thinking we're "done".
Subject-Ad-8055@reddit
got 40 more years to go
ihatepickingnames_@reddit
I ran my first and only full marathon when I was 51. I wasn't fast but I did it (I was never fast though even when I was young). I climbed Denali two years after that. I'm 61 now and keep screwing up my knee when I run so I stopped doing that but I still do boxing workouts and walk (and carry a lot of photography gear around).
KingPabloo@reddit
59 and I’ve already run a marathon, just finished the first draft of my first novel and wrapping up my first album - both of which I’ll release on my 60th birthday. I feel like I’ve got a ton more in the tank…
schultz100@reddit
They key is to keep moving and go lighter on any drugs and alcohol. My parent are both closing in on 80 and their late 60s/70s were incredibly active and athletic. They have both had knees replaced and other ailments but are just in recent years starting to show signs of slowing down.
If you take care of yourself and keep moving it is possible. It also requires a fair bit of luck but you can only control what you can.
pmllny@reddit
I started kickboxing class at 57. The instructor won't let anyone hold the pads for me but her because I am the hardest puncher she has...and there are people way younger than me in class. As GenX, I am very proud of that.
croissant_and_cafe@reddit
Hell yes.
I’m in my next “third” as I like to think of it. 0-32 was the FAFO era, 32-48 was the marriage, house, kids, career era. Now things are easy with the older kids, work is not my main focus, and I have enough money to travel and do things.
I’ve been working on music, going out dancing, checking out all sorts of different things that I would have been to tired to about 6 years ago. Covid did a number on me and I’ve just got my health dialed back in. I’m going to a punk show with my daughter next month!
Sintered_Monkey@reddit
I ran 9 marathons between my mid 30s and mid 40s with some decent times. I think I'm done with them now, but I have moved on to gravel bike racing and "ultra" type mountain bike racing. I am about to retire right before I turn 59, and the thing I'm looking forward to the most is having more time to train.
Unfortunately, I'm a million times better at running than I am at cycling, so I'm prepared to be a mid-packer at best.
BandicootStunning244@reddit
Slacker!!
Firesequence@reddit
im 55 and tomorrow i have my 1st ever drumming lesson !
Oldachrome1107@reddit
Fifty is the new thirty.
automator3000@reddit
The only objection you could possibly have here is “but it might not be great”. Your novel might suck. (Actually, it probably will suck - the list of first time novelists in their 50s who totally crushed it could probably fit on the back of a movie ticket stub.)
It’s ok to not be great at something. Just do it because you want to. If you enjoy it, do it again. Since I turned 40 I’ve played with writing poetry, painting, playing guitar, drawing, pottery … it’s all fun.
Appropriate-Water920@reddit (OP)
100%. And even if it was somehow good, the odds of getting it published are looong. If you're doing something for yourself, you're not going to be disappointed as long as you did what you wanted to do how you wanted to do it.
44synchronicity@reddit
Did a spartan sprint today in an hour. 50f. Completed all the obstacles except the javelin throw. Life is good.
Embarrassed-Region29@reddit
I did college much later than most there were people in their 40s and 50s in every class, one semester in had two classes with a woman well into her 70s who absolutely made honors lists.
Keeping active is the best way to stay sharp.
Secret_Computer4891@reddit
I am absolutely taking that sumbitch life by the horns. I'm 49 and she is 50.
Finances are great, kids are grown and independent. We are making up for lost time and traveling a lot. We have always made our marriage a priority, but those crazy young kids who go married 30+ years ago are once again able to put each other in the center in the center of the universe.
We joined a gym and are working out, eating right, and feeling great.
We damn near bought gummies when we were recently in a recreational friendly state - it just didn't work out, but maybe next time.
Look, we maybe be 50'ish and may be closer to the finish line than the starting line. Doggone it, we are going to enjoy every day the Good Lord gives us to the fullest and do what we can to eek out as many days as we can.
Bad-job-dad@reddit
I've noticed a lot of my friends are slowing down. I'm 51 and I can still handle just about anything and I have a lot of drive.
2PlasticLobsters@reddit
Nobody knows how much time they have. Someone in perfect health could still have some crazy accident. The best thing we can do at any age is take our best shot at happiness.
Left_Warthog_3732@reddit
Just keep doing. Nothing worse than "I should have"... Failure only exhibits an attempt was made, and an attempt is better than nothing.
Kalorama_Master@reddit
Yes, this subreddit sometimes makes me feel like I should slow down and reach for the Bengay while I watch The Golden Girls.
If you still got that fire in the belly, go for it. I firmly believe that once you choose to slow down, that’s when you’ll really start to age.
percydaman@reddit
"the Bengay"
How long?
Appropriate-Water920@reddit (OP)
That's kinda what I've been thinking reading this sub too. And I get it, people do have different experiences. Sometimes life hits you hard, and I'm not judging anyone for that. I anticipate some guy punches coming for me, but I guess I feel like there's no need to roll over for them before they even come.
limited_instincts@reddit
You know the old saying 'Get busy living or get busy dying'. It's about this age you see a real divide with people. I'm doing everything I can to stay on the good side as I see plenty people who don't and it hasn't ended well for them.
philly-buck@reddit
Keep active. I am older than you and feel great.
My retirement plan is a cynical book on society. Title will be “Oh say can you see”. Cover art will be a guy with his head up his ass.
If you steal my idea. You will be hunted down. Have a great day.
supplantor@reddit
When I was much younger I asked my 60ish NP why she went back to school to get her advanced credentials after 55.
She looked at me and said "I am still here."
Age is never a reason NOT to do something.
TripMaster478@reddit
Ahhhhh yes I'm pretty sure there's a novel in me too. I've even strewn together a couple draft outlines. It'll come out when it's ready.
AethelflaedCAD@reddit
I've been having some similar thoughts, my bod is a little more broken (wait for knee replacement) but I still want adventure. I'm almost at retirement from work and trying to figure out what I want to do when I grow up. Aka next career.
Hefewiezen1@reddit
Whatever you do don’t stop until you have to. I’m 57 and run as hard as I can.
mydmouse@reddit
I love this post! I see so many lamenting age and illnesses, etc. I'm at the old end of GenX...63. I'm so gen X my age group got disenfranchised from GenX! Anyway, I'm very healthy, active and have really cool plans for retirement. You're not naive! You're healthy in mind amd body. Very refreshing. Thanks for the post!
R808T@reddit
Just hit 60 and looking back my 50s were some of the best of my life. Don’t slow down and don’t put things off.
sony1015@reddit
Do not stop moving.
DangerBird-@reddit
You can stop to rest.
Chemical-Carrot-9975@reddit
I’m absolutely more fit at 52 than I’ve ever been. I’m also happier. I have no medical diagnoses and am on no med. I get my regular scheduled screening and vaccines. I believe in the body in motion less likely to stop, and I practice that daily. I can’t run because my hips don’t like it, but I walk 5-7 miles a day as many days as I can. That’s enough for me. Health is wealth.
Massive-Insect-sting@reddit
Power to you man and I'm right there. More often than not the posts I see in here are commiserating and I don't get it because I feel like I'm still peaking.
KiltedMusician@reddit
I’m starting hobbies every few years and imagining where I’ll take them when I retire.
Olympic style archery is may latest adventure. I was barely able to convince myself that my shoulder might not appreciate a war bow.
I’ll be Wilson from Home Improvement by the time I’m retired.
DiogenesXenos@reddit
What’s your alternative? Way to die? I talked to a 90 year-old lady at the grocery store today that was as sharp and spry as most 60-year-olds.
cowboyJones@reddit
I feel when you don’t have goals or are working towards anything, you are getting old.
OldBanjoFrog@reddit
I appreciate this
trUth_b0mbs@reddit
I'm 50 now but since turning 35-40, I started training Muay Thai, returned to power lifting (trying to figure out a proper schedule between MT and power lifting), trying any new hobby, spending money on good food and enjoying the experience (used to see food as sustenance only), tons of travelling and surprisingly going back to EDM lol.
life is short, find the joys in life any way you can.
Miserable_Jacket_129@reddit
50 here. I actively compete in powerlifting (I have a meet Saturday), I retired to start a nonprofit that has now become a full time job, I shuttle grandkids to practices, school, appointments. I travel a bit, I coach some boxers and youth athletes in strength training groups.
Not dead yet, no reason to act like I am.
chompy_jr@reddit
Keep going. You definitely have some gas left in the tank. It expires if ya don’t use it
MaximumJones@reddit
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Standard_Hold_238@reddit
Never stop moving. Always remain engaged. Partner and I are both competitive age-group athletes, still working although we pick and choose clients (LLC) and are exploring an eventual move to Portugal. The whole point of adulting is working to make possible your dreams.
fujidust@reddit
We’re about the same age and I’m in a very similar place as you described. Long story short, there are younger people that have less time than you and there may be another fifty years ahead of you. Who the heck knows? Taking care of our bodies and doing our best to savor these years is all we can do. Science shows that staying busy and having purpose is good for us, so if you keep filling your tank, odds are good that you’ll have more in it for years to come. Statistically, the clocks on our health spans is the one we should worry about (the type of life worth living thanks to good health). Make the most of it and don’t look back.
Best wishes for a long and happy life!
WasabiChickpea@reddit
Honestly, live life however makes you happy. My dad is 80 and still rides his Harley. He and my mom are rarely home. I live by their example. My hair is grey. My body doesn't recover like it used to but I'm doing whatever tf I want until I can't move anymore.
renegade7717@reddit
hell no - not sitting down and letting it just happen. Wife and I are 57/55 and grinding until we can’t anymore. Hike - lift - chasing grandkids - working - etc. Too much to still get done. Not about to let age chase me down and kick my ass
SamWhittemore75@reddit
The tank still has fuel left in it.
The problem is the frame rot that is coming for us all any day now.