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Kids paying rent?

Posted by bozakman@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 209 comments

Those of you with kids living at home who are out of school and working, do you charge them rent to live in your house?

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moccasinsfan@reddit

Nope. If they were a loser who needed to be booted out the house, I would simply boot them out the house. I have encouraged my son to stay home for 1 year when he graduates next May so he can save money
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SweatyTrain1951@reddit

Not me but A guy I know had the best answer. Wife, not the mom liked there kid living there but thought they should pay rent to teach resposablaty. His response was somthing like " They are maxing out there retirement, by they can pull it out i will be dead. I am reaching acros space an time to help my kid one last time". Dude made himself a force ghost.
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Ok-Board3436@reddit

Talking to other parents, successful situations discuss an end date at move-in and it’s usually one of a few strategies: 1- kid going to school: no rent, insurance covered, *maybe* kid pays for their phone bill. How the kid pays for school is an entirely different convo. 2- kid moves home after being gone: they pay ‘rent’ but it’s only enough to cover groceries, insurance, phone bill, and extra utilities for house. Usually $200-$600 3- parents don’t need money, kid is well-adjusted, and life is good: parents put the rent in a savings account and give it back to kid when they’re finally ready to move out 4- parents needs money: rent and utilities are split evenly among how many people are in the home. No one is getting a discount on anything. No real end date because both parents and kid are barely making enough each month to cover bills. 5- kid moves home and the kid’s SO can’t afford rent or has nowhere to go: I’ve seen parents move in their kid’s girlfriend/boyfriend on a semi-permanent basis A LOT. Rent is adjusted between the couple to be about 1.5 times what the kid was paying, usually involves an ugly transition period figuring out boundaries, and often involves a surprise grandkid. It terrifies me the most.
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SwimmingDragonfly328@reddit

Only because i'm poor/working class, and even then, theyre paying a fraction of what they would if they were to rent elsewhere/just what i need to make my mortgage. If I was able to swing it without help, I would not charge them.
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JenLiv36@reddit

This right here. Right now our son pays for his own pleasures and diversions (video games, consoles, TV, books etc) and then he also helps by paying for some of his groceries. We haven’t done rent yet but 200 is what we would ask as well if we needed to. If we were not struggling we wouldn’t ask anything but he had a huge surgery this year that we are still paying off so it sunk us. Glad we could do it for him but it’s a two parter and we will be paying for that too so he contributes a little in ways that he can. If I was rich he would pay for nothing.
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lovegood123@reddit

As long as they’re working, not getting in trouble and helping around the house we don’t charge rent. I’d rather they be able to save money to get their own place
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darthsteveious@reddit

When I was early 20s I had to move back home temporarily. I had a degree and a full time job. Dad charged me rent, much lower than real world, and I did yard work. It really established responsibility and budgeting for me.
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Tls-user@reddit

Our son has only been home a month and the deal I made was I wouldn’t charge him rent as long as he was investing $1000 per pay.
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doctor_machinegun@reddit

soo, you charge hin $2000 a month!?
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GenX-ModTeam@reddit

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AdhesiveSeaMonkey@reddit

My kids can come back to live at home whenever they want. So long as they are actively working toward independence - job, saving money, school, etc - they are welcome rent free. Why would I take their money when they are trying to save it to get on their feet?
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MyEvilTwinSkippy@reddit

We were going to charge ours a low rent ($500-ish) and keep it in an account without telling them, then give all of it back when they were ready to go.
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doctor_machinegun@reddit

why?? why not just let then save it themselves???
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AdhesiveSeaMonkey@reddit

This is the way to do it if you're going to charge them. Your proposal has been approved!
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Caloso89@reddit

Our kids are about to graduate from college and move back home while looking for adult jobs. They will need to contribute to the household by shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc., but we’re not going to charge rent.
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ApprehensiveCut9809@reddit

I didn't when they grew up and stayed at the house, but my oldest daughter came back after her divorce and tripled our utility bills (both water and electric) as well as having my wife spend enormous amounts of money on food for her three German Shepherds. When my boys said the dogs ate better than they did, I started paying attention. She was feeding them huge rump roasts. Yes, dogs are being fed raw human food. My wife was allowing this because she has zero idea about the value of money. She only worked for a couple of years in her early 20s before finding someone who made enough money so she could be a sahm. She lived with us for almost a couple of years until we had it out. She was bragging about how she was able to live her lifestyle, pay all her bills, care for her 5 pets, etc. That's when I flipped the light switch on and off, did the same with the kitchen sink and stated that the number one expense an American has is the roof over their head, water, electricity, garbage, sewage, taxes and she wasn't doing any of this. She was insulted by this, moved into an apartment with her loser boyfriend (hobosexual) and was immediately hit by reality when he couldn't pay his half of the rent the first month that they were together. She was still visiting our pantry late at night to "shop" for groceries and personal items like toilet paper, toothpaste, detergent, etc. I worked nights at the time (got home around 2 am), and my wife and the boys were often in bed by 10 pm. She'd stop by, leave virtually every light on on the ground floor, and take many stuff that my wife had planned for dinner the next day. We never charged her rent, but man I really wished we had not made her so entitled when she was in her early 20s.
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doctor_machinegun@reddit

your daughter was feeding her 3 dogs rump roasts every day? im sure she was 🙄
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Wishiwasinalaska@reddit

We do charge them, 200 just covers them being there. And they do t care since a rental would be 2-3 times that as a room mate.
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Kat1836@reddit

As long as my kids are making forward progress (job or school) in their lives, they are welcome to live rent free in my home. My parents provided the same safety net for me.
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Fishyprediction@reddit

My parents didn’t, but I feel the same as you, as long as they are positive productive members of society, they will always be welcome in my home.
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jaxknitsandknits@reddit

we call it rent but it's really just enough to cover their parts of the utilities and grocery bills.
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LaceyBloomers@reddit

We’re not at that stage yet, but my plan is to charge a small amount of monthly “rent” and put it in a separate account. Then when they move out I’ll give them the money as a little boost to start their independent lives.
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endlesssearch482@reddit

I started paying rent when I moved back from college during the summer. $400 a month in 1985. My first post-college apartment was $425 for a two bedroom. A great motivator to get out.
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Kershiser22@reddit

$400/month in 1985 sounds steep!
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endlesssearch482@reddit

It was, but it was a great motivator to move out. Within a year I dropped out of college and got a job with the forest service on a wilderness trail crew that came with cheap employee housing. One of my favorite jobs ever and one that gave me a great work ethic and love for the outdoors.
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suburbanplankton@reddit

Our son is 27, and has never moved out. We don't charge him 'rent', because it seemed wrong to suddenly make him start paying to live in the room he had always been in, but he does pay us each month: an amount roughly equivalent to a third of the utilities and grocery bill. He pays all his own bills, and about half of the streaming services we use. He also owns a bunch of the small appliances in our kitchen, so it's going to be tough for us when he moves out.
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Complete_Coffee6170@reddit

Yes. My 44 yo son moved in shortly after my husband - his dad passed. My son was going through a divorce and I wanted him and my grands to have a soft landing. We live in a VHCOL area - PNW. My son is working - rents for a SFH is around 3200 per month plus utilities. He pays half of the utilities- about 500 per month. He works and when he’s not - he’s focusing on the kids. Though at this point, he needs to focus on his future.
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mystery_biscotti@reddit

PNW is becoming harder for us to afford, but I love it here and don't wanna move. Mine's 30 and hasn't been able to leave home yet. A large part of that has been the cost of living out this way. He doesn't want to move in with a friend who might not be able to pay their half of the rent. He sees it pretty clearly; half his friends have had hours cut or layoffs happen to them. Multigenerational households might become the norm again soon.
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Quiet-Mastodon-3622@reddit

Yes but we are able to put it in a savings account for their future so they can move on when they are able.
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Everyday_everyway@reddit

LOL No. He pitches in for groceries every week. What kind of parent tries to make money off their kid? If it would be the same bill if he wasn’t here, then why would I tell him to give me money? That’s Boomer logic. We will be glad when it’s gone. Also to say that if your kid is a leech and irresponsible, that’s a completely different conversation. My kids are well rounded and respectful, it is just harder financially than it’s ever been before.
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Complete_Coffee6170@reddit

For me? The utilities water/power are greatly increased - so charging half of what the utilities are seems fair. Plus it’s been over 5 years.
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Choice_Student4910@reddit

Wife, post-grad daughter and I moved in together into an apartment. Beach city, high COL area with high rent. Our salaries are combined to pay for everything.
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Special_Cranberry679@reddit

Yes $400. Covers utilities, housing supplies and such. They work FT and no one lives for free. They prefer this rather than moving out to pay more than double that. I do most of the chores around here to my dismay. They pay their own car, cell phone and pet stuff and are required to contribute to 401k.
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TenderLA@reddit

24, 22, and 18 - no rent charged, still pay for their phone and car insurance. The older 2 chip in on groceries and the 22’s boyfriend that lives with us chips in the most on chores. When we move more permanently to our other home we are hoping at least one wants to live in the house with reasonable rent.
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sangvert@reddit

What I did was make them contribute some amount of money per month, like $200, but then I opened an account and put all the money that paid me in the new account. When they moved out I gave it back so they would have security deposit or whatever they needed
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AdhesiveSeaMonkey@reddit

Yeah... If I was to collect rent from my kids, this is what I would do.
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Top-Order-2878@reddit

My parents did the same thing back in the day. It was helpful when I was just getting started. I can't imagine trying to get out and on your own in todays world. Making full-time minimum wage in the 90's I could afford a crappy apartment and pay all my bills. I wasn't getting ahead but I could do it. Today, no way. I live in a state with a $15+ minimum wage and still couldn't come close to making it.
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ancientastronaut2@reddit

Yes, just a few hundred bucks. Our utilities doubled when they came back. When I cook, I make enough for everyone, but the rest of the time they buy their own food, and they'll pick up some items for the whole house as well, like Tide or toilet paper. They also help clean house and pet sit when we want to get away.
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Honeybee71@reddit

Same here
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East_Vivian@reddit

I would never charge a kid rent to live in our home. I would expect them to contribute by doing chores though. I lived with my mom until I was 24 and am very thankful she didn’t charge me rent.
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flixguy440@reddit

No, but I limit their spending. My 22-year-old receives a generous allowance from his paycheck. The rest is invested in a HYSA, Roth IRA and brokerage account. I've sat down with him to show him where his money is and had him do research on the assorted funds. He has a net worth well into the six figures. He pays for his car, phone and insurance and helps substantially around the house. The key for me is that he is set up when he's ready to go.
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staticfortune@reddit

The idea of you teaching them financial planning and being responsible/making good decisions about their money is amazing, and far better than any $ education I received from my own parents (a very long time ago), but why are you completely controlling the paycheck of your adult child? Giving them an allowance from their own paycheck seems like borderline financial abuse?
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flixguy440@reddit

I don't control it. He and I developed a budget based on his needs and wants and he lives within it. He's also learned to do his own taxes. Do I check his investments? Yes, I do. If that's financial abuse, so be it.
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staticfortune@reddit

As I said, teaching financial responsibility and education is amazing. The giving your adult child an allowance to their earnings is what caught me up. Do you override his investment choices? Does he have to run big purchases through you? Does he have full access to his money anytime he wants it? If an answer to the first two questions is yes, then in my opinion, that's financial abuse. And if the answer to third is no, then ya, definitely abuse.
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flixguy440@reddit

And, quite frankly, I care little about your opinion.
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staticfortune@reddit

You care an awful lot based on your replies. Have a great day!
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flixguy440@reddit

Well, no. no and yes. He comes to me for advice because what 22-year-old actually knows what to invest in?
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staticfortune@reddit

Then that's amazing that you have that relationship and are teaching them how to manage their money.
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tonna33@reddit

No rent if they're in school. Otherwise it's $200/mo. Doesn't come close to touching the additional utilities/food/etc. that they receive, but it's something.
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Basic_Assumption5311@reddit

Exactly the same here ⬆️
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jjschoon@reddit

We have 24 yr old twin sons that still live with us. We don't charge them anything as long as they contribute to the upkeep of the house. They are both saving to buy houses. Neither my wife or I ever rented other than college and I don't see any reason for them ever to be renters either.
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ToneSenior7156@reddit

My parents charged me $400 a month post-college in 1991. They did not give it back to me when I lived out but over the years they’ve been very generous. I would probably tell my daughter post college that she can live here fire free for a year and then charge her $400 a month. I have a friend whose son graduated a few years ago and has no job or motivation to get one. I think you can set an expectation without it being punitive.
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doubleohzerooo0@reddit

If they're out of school and working, yes. But it's a nominal fee. We pay insurance for the cars and we have a cell family plan because it's cheaper that way. Insurance and cell phones are covered in the 'rent'.
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jaydrian@reddit

When my kid and thwir kids had to move back in, we just split the bills. We both bought food etc. At that point in time, finding a rental they could afford was impossible. At a different point my other kid had to move back home, I didn't make them pay for anything other than their own food and personal bills, they picked up after themselves and helped around the house is needed. Once they were on their feet, they had the money to move and reestablish themselves. I guess look at the reasons they're living with you and use your judgement. But I also believe that nothing in life is free and so do my kids.
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Objective_Joke_5023@reddit

No, but they are never here more than just summers and school breaks. I probably wouldn’t if they were working a year-round job in their field. I’d want them to have the opportunity to save for a home, a bucket list travel experience, a newer car, grad school, etc. If they are working part time at some deadend hobby job and I was subsidizing their ability to do this by letting them live at home, they would be paying rent.
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beaushaw@reddit

Our daughter is in college and recently asked me if I would charge her rent if she moved back in after graduating. I told her I would but I would give her the money back for a house downpayment when she was read for that.
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ljculver64@reddit

My Dad made us pay rent right out of high-school since we didnt go straight to college. We got jobs and paid him 100 a month. As kids we got paid for doing chores. After we were say 18 and working we were more held responsible for making sure we cleaned up after ourselves and did our own laundry, kept the house clean by doing that. My Dad cleaned up after himself, so we did the same. Occasionally id be asked to shovel the driveway or something, but i didnt complain, he was still buying all our food, paying all the bills and keeping a roof over our heads. We all grew up with very strong work ethics and knew how to act responsibly & take care of ourselves. Im glad for it.
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jepace@reddit

No kids back yet, but it might happen this month. I was thinking of charging some sort of relatively cheap rent, but putting that in an account to give to them when they get stuff figured out. I like the 25% of take-home someone suggested, as a force that pushes but doesn’t break.
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notorious_tcb@reddit

This is how I’d do it. Just to help them save and get back on their feet quicker.
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Severe_Feedback_2590@reddit

If you don’t need the money, just charge rent & put it in a separate CD/HYSA and save until they move. Then just gift it back to them. It can just be a very small amount (small percentage of their income).
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Big-Sheepherder-6134@reddit

My parents never charged us rent. I doubt I would charge my kids rent either. But I don’t have any kids!
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tmsaunders@reddit

We don’t charge them rent because we found out that if we make them pay anything, that’s considered a rental agreement even if there isn’t a signed contract. We would have to legally evict them from the property if we wanted them out and if they wanted to be assholes and fight it
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shell_shocked_today@reddit

I gave the the choice of paying 'rent' or doing specific chores around the house for a set number of hours / month unless they are a full time student. Rent was defined as 1/4 of their take-home pay, so not taking their entire pay while they're still making minimum wage. Right now my older daughter is choosing chores, and doing a great job on the yard. My younger is graduating high school this year, and is leaning towards 'rent'.
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ponchoacademy@reddit

Not rent but... I guess room and boarding would be more accurate? I dont know lol it wasnt much, like $350. I wasnt trying to "charge" him, it was more of what we worked out since I was paying for his cell phone and other random bills. It all evened out, he just kind of took charge of anything our dog needed like food and hes the one who took the pup in for his shots every year, and he picked up groceries and would always ask if there was anything I needed. He also cooked most nights, obviously cleaned up afer himself, his own laundry etc. Its not like anything was going on like he was adding financial strain to charge him rent for...it actually helped us both out that he was still at home. He was working and going to school and the whole point of staying at home was to save up as much as possible to get life started on his own with a great financial standing. And yeah, when he moved out he had a very solid savings account, and has been able to live financially independent. That was the goal...
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Extension-Wedding-74@reddit

My kids got a couple of years grace period of no rent but still paying their own car insurance and other expenses after getting jobs. Then rent kicked in of a couple hundred $ each. I have 2 left at home and 2 out on their own.
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Dada2fish@reddit

My parents charged us rent as soon as we graduated high school, unless we were going to college full time. We all paid rent at one time or another, but my parents invested the money and gave it all back to us several years later.
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CheeseMakingMom@reddit

He’d been living on his own for a while, but that became too expensive for the job he was in, so he moved in with us. A few months later, he found a full time job at a much higher pay rate, but decided to continue to focus on paying off his student loans. He pays less rent to us for 2 bedrooms and a bathroom upstairs, and full kitchen rights, than he did in that apartment. He pays the internet and his own gas (and another utility, I’m sure), we pay the Costco membership, AAA, car insurance bundled with ours, and cell phone. And he eats dinner with several nights a week 😊
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Glad_Bunch_3473@reddit

We charge a reduced rate of $500/month to have the entire downstairs of our home, around 900sf of living space. We pay all the utilities plus their cell bill since the family plan is so affordable. We save the rent money and plan to give it back to our kids upon move out. However, they do not lift a finger around the house and never offer to cook (even if we buy the ingredients). It feels like we are running a B&B. Why are 20-somethings so lazy?
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MolsBedsFlan@reddit

That’s on you. If you want them to contribute chore wise then you need to implement it.
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JustFaithlessness178@reddit

They are still getting masters and bachelor's degrees. I will not be charging rent until they are 25. Eveb Even then, it will be a small amount. I know they will be doing everything in their power to get away from my nosy questions!
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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit

In my opinion money only goes down generations and not up.
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Ianthin1@reddit

I lived at home until I was 29, and paid the electric and water bills, along with doing all the yard work. One thing it did for me was expose me to the connection between use/waste of power and water and my expenses. Suddenly turning things off when I left a room or not running the water in the sink while I brushed my teeth became important to me. For my kid I would probably ask something similar.
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SomeLevel8419@reddit

Thanks for posting this. The second I read it, I looked up and realized the lights were unnecessarily on in the dining room and staircase. I immediately got up and turned them off. 👍
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Ianthin1@reddit

I’m not a super user by any means, but modern home automation has been a game changer for us. All the lights will be turned off when the last person leaves, that my daughters lights will be turned off when she leaves, bathroom and closet lights turn on and off based on presence and not just left on all day or night. I’ve seen a real difference in our bill from it.
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VioletSmiles88@reddit

My kids still share a room at 18 & 21. So no rent while that’s happening. We hope to convert our shed into a living space for one of them, then we’ll start charging rent. No rent if they continue their education though.
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stevemm70@reddit

Not yet. Our son just graduated and is looking for a full time job. He also has student loans to pay off. Even after he gets a full time job, we'd rather he lived at home rent-free for a bit to pay off the loans. If he's still living at home after that, we'll talk about rent.
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amnichols@reddit

We charged rent if they weren’t going to school and were working. Then we put it all in a Fidelity fund and gave it to them after. My daughter is still home after graduating. She’s studying for her CPA exams and working PT. We don’t charge rent. She helps with the dog and buys her own food, so it’s not a big deal
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Puppy_Breath@reddit

This is similar to our approach. No rent as long as contributing to society or preparing to contribute. If not, then rent. We did not tell them we were going to give it back to them, but that was our plan. They both moved out before the rent started (we had given them a couple months after graduation for runway)
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IHoppo@reddit

This is great - but in the UK it would be liable for inheritance tax inclusion. Better to have a chat with them about foregoing rent and investing their own money for themselves.
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RevToy@reddit

That was the rule with my parents, so that’s the rule with my kids. My two oldest both got degrees last month and are working full time, so rent will start soon. Still cheaper than living on their own.
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CDN_Gunner@reddit

100%. Our oldest just graduated university and as soon as he gets a job he'll be paying $1000/mo. We're going to save half of that to give back to him when he moves out. We paid entirely for his education including groceries and rent while he was away ($125k) so it's time for him to start adulting.
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Primary-History-788@reddit

😱
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Own-Slide4146@reddit

because her boyfriend moved in and we gave them the master bedroom. if she was by herself staying in her old room she would stay for free
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TheBison44@reddit

As soon as I turned 18 & started working my parents required that I do so. When I went to school ft and kept working ft a year later i still did.
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eric90125@reddit

Starting at 25 we will, but at a reduced amount. She's a zoo keeper and only makes about $17 per hour. She's already paying us for her cell phone plan and her car insurance. We've gradually added it on so she can get used to paying bills and balancing her budget. Her and a couple of friends are looking for someplace to rent, but with the way the economy is, it's hard to find a place in budget that is also safe.
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bonzai2010@reddit

I let them stay rent free if they are going to school. (I'll invest in them while they are investing in themselves).
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Long-Cockroach-8372@reddit

I moved back into my Parent’s house for a brief time in my mid twenties. Mom never asked for a dime, but I made it a point to contribute to the household. I Bought groceries, gassed up the station wagon, cooked dinner for the family, cleaned up around the house, did laundry. I did basic chores and it gave my Mom time to chill after work and allowed me to save up money to move into my own place again. I could have worked more and paid to stay there in the interim, but I think the free time was worth more to my mom than the money would have been, and it taught me a thing or two about the job that is running a household.
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LCesaille@reddit

My mother’s rule was that as long as we were in school we could remain at home rent-free. I intend to follow the same plan with my daughter.
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Interesting_Bill_456@reddit

Time to make the donuts for them. They need to make a start on their own with roommates, tight budgeting, and  not living comfortably in what took nearly 2 decades for me to live comfortably they won't attain  overnight. 
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atomickristin@reddit

My husband and I actually moved out when my sons were 23 and 18, and left our first house to our sons. They paid rent at a heavily discounted rate (covered the house payment) and took over utilities. They lived together for about ten years while they finished their educations and got started in their career fields. My oldest still lives in the house (he's 34) and works as a professional, but pays the rent at the same rate he always paid, which is a much bigger break now than it used to be. We figured it was a good way to both not let them have a completely easy slide of it while also giving them a hand up inasmuch as we were able to. Otherwise we'dve had to sell the house. As it worked out, we ended up paying off the house totally by this method.
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funsk8mom@reddit

No rent, but money towards car insurance. 3 out of 4 kids with cars and insurance is through the roof (20 and 21). The 4th is old enough to drive but doesn’t want to then contributes towards her phone and iPad cost. Once she gets her license this summer then her money will go towards insurance
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cyberfx1024@reddit

That's exactly how it is at my house but my caveat to that is I can pay for the phone and phone bill IF you abide by my rules with it. If not then you are free to go get another phone and pay for it yourself which my 17 year old son has done just that. My son has complained about needing to pay car insurance because "his friends don't have to" but I told him that I am not their parents so you will have pay for your own insurance
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Next_Ad_4165@reddit

That was our plan.  Told the kids when they were little that at 18 they’d have to pay us rent if they wanted to live with us.  They were mortified at this idea (they were like 4&6yrs old, lol)!   At age 16 we required them to get jobs and save half their money, donate 10%, pay for their phones, have short term savings, and then a bit budgeted for spending on whatever.  We also required for them to buy their own car.  (We purchased the car with cash, they paid us back with zero interest.  We had them pay on it for two yrs, then we cancelled their debt to us.  They didn’t know this in advance.) By graduation, they had saved $8,000-10,000.  Both were out of the house by 18.5 yrs.  We never charged them rent.  But they were motivated to get out on their own.   They are welcome here whenever they need to be here, but we raised them to be full adults by the time they left our home.  One stayed with us for two months when they moved back home from another state, and needed time to get a job and find a place to live.  The other just went thru a roommate bailing on them last min, and we offered to let them stay with us for a bit if needed, but things worked out. 
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Ray_The_Engineer@reddit

I haven't had this situation happen just yet, but I would definitely charge rent. As I've stated elsewhere, I think it's actually damaging to make "precious sweetums'" life as easy as possible, if they are able-bodied and employable.
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OptiGuy4u@reddit

Exactly. Adulting is reality and yeah, "bills suck" but that's life.
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Fantastic_Golf_7154@reddit

Yes. She pays $300 monthly. It's part of adulting. Electricity goes up, water bill goes up, grocery bill significantly increases and because she doesn't have a car, hubby and I take her back and forth to work. Remember the old saying " two people can live as cheaply as one " ? That was a lie. Now add in another adult.
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commandbasketball@reddit

Yes! Also teaches them responsibility
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mthenry54@reddit

I don’t. My daughter is a CNA which no longer has a livable wage. She tried it in her own and was falling way behind on bills. She moved in with us and is back in nursing school. We don’t mind at all.
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whistlepig4life@reddit

Our rule for all three has been. If you are a full time student. No rent. If you are no longer a student and a working stiff. Pay rent Oldest has moved out. Middle kid is struggling but our patience is waning with him. Youngest is a freshman in college.
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ultimate_ed@reddit

No, but she is maxing out her 401k contributions and paying her own other expenses.
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wild-hectare@reddit

this is our arrangement too
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kstweetersgirl2013@reddit

Yes and not enough
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JediKrys@reddit

I’m in this camp, my wife is in the free ride camp.
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kstweetersgirl2013@reddit

Oh and rent covers phone, car and health insurance and i buy everything. Toiletries, soaps, laundry soaps, groceries etc
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kstweetersgirl2013@reddit

My husband is the softie in this case. I was totally team full support 3 years ago when we started however now I have a full grown 23 year old man living in my house consistently eating all my food, not cleaning up after himself, leaving wet clothes in washer all night (my personal pet peeve) and just in general being a pain in my ass. He works 20-30 hrs a week at the 5th or 6th job he has had in the last 3 years. 3 of the 6 he has gotten has been me asking friends for personal favors to get him employed. He is supposed to be pursuing his ged and going to school but ive seen none of that happen. Work, PS5 rinse and repeat. Husband and I had a come to Jesus meeting about it this am. Fed up is an understatement. His sister came at same time he did. She holds two jobs and has had same two jobs entire 3 years she has been here. Has her own car amd own place right around the corner. Other sister and husband live in a rental we own and are self sufficient. Idk whar we are gonna do with this guy.
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PristineAsk6192@reddit

Son, DIL and 2 little ones moved in with us for a few months while looking/buying a house. They eventually found one, and it needed a little TLC. My background is construction, so no big deal there but it definitely extended their stay. They did pay us a nominal monthly rent, we didn't need it though. During the process they worked, helped out around the house, etc.. They weren't just freeloading off of us. When we got the house done and ready for move-in, we handed them an envelope with all their cash in it. I could have bought a pretty nice tool box for the garage with all that cash....the shit we do for our kids.. hahahaha
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cyphertext71@reddit

Son finished college, is working and no rent. He has a goal of down payment on a home. He saves and spends very little to reach this goal. If I were to charge him rent, I would put it in a savings account and give to him when he was ready to buy a home, but I don’t really need to do that since he does it already.
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heavymetaltshirt@reddit

I charged a nominal amount of rent for my kiddo once they were out of high school (like $100 a month). I needed the financial help honestly, because I was a single parent who never got child support. The agreement was that rent was free while they were in school, so I would have continued to cover it if they’d attended college.
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maxsam5150@reddit

No rent..because then they think we’re roommates & their sense of entitlement goes right through the roof
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RudeMechanic@reddit

This is a rough call because every family is different. If my kid had a good job and was just living at home so he could blow his cash on other things, I would talk to him about paying rent. But it's wrapped up in emotion, and if you do, does your relation change to being a landowner more than a parent. I'm not against it, but you really think about the family dynamics.
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Reader47b@reddit

I do, but I turn around and use half that rent to pay for their car insurance and cell phone, as they are on my insurance policy and my cell phone plan. The rest covers the increased utilities they consume and shared household goods (like TP, bread, milk, and eggs), leaving me about $25/mo "profit," probably. I hold that $25/mo aside in a "car repair fund" for them and give it to them when they need car repairs.
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anyoutlookuser@reddit

Yes of his own volition. He said he was doing this to get out of debt and insisted on paying. I suggested $200, he’s paid $450 consistently. And paid off his debt. Worked out well.
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KISSALIVE1975@reddit

Yes, Not Nearly As Much As We Can Get If It Were A Room For Rent, Quite Affordable… Paying Rent Was Actually Her Thought, She Wanted To Contribute… If She Returns To School Full Time, She Would Be Charged Zero Rent…
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Astronaut6735@reddit

I just have to ask, what are you typing on that capitalizes the first letter of each word?
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Own-Slide4146@reddit

My daughter moved out when she finished her schooling.She was living in San Diego for 5 years or so. She called and asked if her and her boyfriend could move in to save $. So we gather master bedroom and she pays 1100 a month. My boys that have never left do not pay anything ,atleast for now
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No_Profile_3343@reddit

Why the unfair treatment of your kids? Are the boys going to school? I plan to make my kids pay something if they aren’t in school. But if they are working and living at home, they will pay rent.
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Greedy_Guard_5950@reddit

Yes, 20 years old no school but working and trying to get into operators union. $200 a month and he pays cell phone and car insurance. I buy toiletries all bathroom/self care products and cleaning supplies. Not setting any aside as he has chosen that paying rent negates any chores from him. He is a roommate and is treated as such.
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TheRealCabbageJack@reddit

Yes, I put it into an account I'll give to her later when she wants to/can afford to buy a home
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Diasies_inMyHair@reddit

No. They "pay rent" by doing chores.
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dansamy@reddit

I charged them a portion of the bills and groceries. Far less than the groceries they actually ate lol.
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77librarian@reddit

I do, but not much and it’s so I can afford rent as a single person. She pays 25% of the living expenses for our household of two. No, she will not get that back when she moves out. I need that to help cover expenses. Since she pays so little and has a full time job, she should be saving on her own. If I lived by myself, I would get a smaller, cheaper place that I have no trouble affording by myself, but since it’s both of us, we needed a larger place.
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Vast-Recognition2321@reddit

I was planning to charge rent but set it aside for them. However, when it came time, I changed my mind. My son is great at saving. Charging rent and setting is aside could be seen as I don't trust him to save. I didn't want to send that message, so haven't been charging him. Just encouraging his saving and investing.
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nietheo@reddit

That's how I feel, my kid is the same way.
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juggsymalone911@reddit

25 year old just moved back home. We are charging her "rent" that we will keep and give back to her when she moves out.
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nietheo@reddit

Mine is a very motivated saver on her own so I haven't felt the need to make her save this way l, but I think it's a good idea.
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No-Country6348@reddit

This is the only way I would do it, although my preference would be to teach them to save money on their own, which I have done well with my oldest so far.
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mum_on_the_run@reddit

This is the way. Just have my 26 yo his “rent” back and he was able to buy a couch with it
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ThisIsACompanyCar@reddit

Our oldest has been in and out of the house for the past 5 years for various reasons and just can’t get her life together. We don’t charge her anything and she costs us a lot. My second oldest moved away for college, graduated and stayed where he was out of state. My middle son lived at home for college and graduated in May. He has a job starting in August, but also no plan of moving out. He only sends me his car insurance payment via Venmo at this time. I’m not sure what we are going to do for further adult accountability. He is great at school and I have no doubt that he will be great at his job, but he does very little around the house or yard to assist. Our 4th kid is still in college, lives at home, and will graduate next May. He works full time as well. He pays for car insurance, but nothing else. He plans on moving out after graduation as long as he has a job. He also does very little around the house. If he stays after he gets a job we will have to decide on that adult responsibility as well. Our last kid is 18 and just finished his first year of college while living at home. We are pretty far from him moving out or paying for anything besides his own gas and gun money.
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bigkat5000@reddit

Gun money?
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ThisIsACompanyCar@reddit

Typo/autocorrect Fun**
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Active-Confidence-25@reddit

Probably FUN money
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Preachwhendrunk@reddit

Are they good at saving/budgeting? My youngest, at 19 got a job making about 75k a year. Living at home, no bills, constantly broke. As a parent, it's my job to help him transition into adulthood. Began charging him $500 a month rent that went into a savings account which was given back when he decided to move out. It's important to learn to not live paycheck to paycheck. Saving money is the only way you'll have money.
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sanityjanity@reddit

When he moved out, what happened with the money?
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Preachwhendrunk@reddit

Gave it back to him.
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sanityjanity@reddit

I was wondering if this actually taught him to save, since he wasn't the one doing the saving.  I'm glad it came out well!
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Preachwhendrunk@reddit

Helped him learn to budget, instead of blowing $500 a week on doordash, gaming consoles, constant PC upgrades and games, etc.
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Competitive-Brief839@reddit

wtf did he start doing at 19 to make 75k?!
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Preachwhendrunk@reddit

P&G Northern Utah
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Caliopebookworm@reddit

No. We agreed when our child was born that if he lived at home at that time he would pay rent as my husband did to his parents and it would be something of an enforced savings plan (his mom gave him the money he'd paid when he bought his first house). Turns out that our son is a mega-saver so we never went through with it.
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nietheo@reddit

No. Mine pays her own expenses (car, clothes, phone, going out) but she gets her room for free so she can save for her own place.
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Intelligent-Exit724@reddit

No, he’s saving for a down payment. We live in a VHCOL area. He is making significant progress and doesn’t spend frivolously so we didn’t feel the need to collect it just to return it later.
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Savings-Sprinkles-75@reddit

No.
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bjb8@reddit

Yes we do, a token amount but it covers the groceries and extra utilities he uses. He is working but is commission and doesn't get steady income yet.
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Jealous-Lychee-5084@reddit

My older son lived with us about a year and a half after he got out of college and we did not charge him rent. Once he got a full time job in his field he bought a car, paid it in full, and saved up for first, last and a couple months of apartment rent and then he moved out. We are in a fairly HCOL area. My younger son has a developmental disability and works part time and receives SSDI. The SSDI covers his rent and food and utilities. If he wants extra stuff, including gas for his car (which we helped him buy) he needs to work. He is able to work, so it’s important that he does so. The SSDI would not cover living expenses in our area any other situation, fyi. We actually save it in a separate account so we can help him with bigger expenses, like classes he might want to take or when he totaled his vehicle, though legally we could absorb it into household stuff it since it’s being used for what it’s intended. So first kid - no rent, lived with us til 23. 2nd kid - rent, kind of, is living with us and is 24. Each to each one’s abilities.
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Bahlore@reddit

I do not, helping her save her money till she can get out on her own, I dont need it.
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Beginning_Key2167@reddit

One kid left for school across the country and the other one moved into a rental house with friends, they all work and go to college. Depends on the situation, though we most likely would only ask they buy their own food and toiletries that type of thing. We have to pay for the house regardless of the kids being here or not. I am not into treating kids as tenants.
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mudshark698@reddit

Yep. My 23 year old son lives with me and works full time. He pays me $400/month. I don't need the money, but I am trying to teach him about responsibility and that life does have expenses.
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Turbulent-Demand873@reddit

When my children were adults living at home they absolutely paid rent. It’s not a free ride when you’re an adult
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OBB76@reddit

Yes, but not what the total mortgage is. We actually moved from that house and brought our dream property out in the west part of our state. The oldest is going to college full time and working full time. Our mortgage is also cheaper than him getting an apartment out in town and we left a lot of things for him. So it's him, his gf and his sister living there for the next few years while he finishes college.
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welltravelledRN@reddit

How old are the “kids”? If they are o we 21 and working, hell yes. I saved it and gave it back as a gift when the time was right.
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Competitive-Brief839@reddit

My 21 and 22 year old still live at home. They do each pay $500 a month and we pay for everything, food, utilities, etc. However, they BOTH make more than I do, so damn straight they are helping lmao
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Ill_Ocelot7191@reddit

I have one living in my second home, rent free. I've been trying to support his dream. It's been about 10 years and I think it's time to have a that hard talk.
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doodlep@reddit

Living rent-free sounds like a pretty good dream!
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Hot_messed@reddit

Yes. I supported my offspring until they were 18, but they understood they would need to pay to stay afterwards. It’s not market rate, just an amount towards food and utilities. I provide concierge services (meals, assistance with laundry, other stuff). No loud noise after midnight. No overnight guests without prior permission. They have chores, obligations to the upkeep of the residence. Works well.
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TuesGirl@reddit

I like this
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dadieyoyo@reddit

Only if they are irresponsible. My husband and I don’t need the money but if my child didn’t know how to save, I definitely will charge them rent to teach them responsibility. I would then bank the rent and give it the them later to help them buy their own home so they wouldn’t be so house poor.
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Noobird@reddit

Every able bodied adult contributes in some way.  Mandatory chores or financial input. Slackers and dead beats can find their own way.
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Jammer125@reddit

Oh no! Not evil chores! What about my screen time? Haha
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introvertednurse75@reddit

No. My son is ASD and has never had a job. My daughter just came back after finishing nursing school. We did start having her pay dome of her own bills,.like phone, her car payment, and her student loans. No rent
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jackssweetheart@reddit

Nope. I can’t provide my child with college tuition, but I can make sure he always has a place to live for free.
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krschob@reddit

That's where we were, youngest went to college from home, at some point boyfriend (since HS) moved in, last year they had saved enough to buy the house next door to ours. (they were both very good about helping out around the house before and after) Oldest worked after college for a year (changed majors couple times, took a minute) moved back for a year until a career opportunity took her back to the city she wanted to live in opened up.
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sickiesusan@reddit

Same here.
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dr_police@reddit

The variety in these comments is fascinating. Sure seems like the answer is really individualized to the folks involved. Which… honestly makes sense. There are so many contingencies here that my only answer is “it depends” as I think about this with my kids who are high schoolers. What I’d want is an arrangement that actually prepares them for independence — and that can look like a lot of different things.
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TrailHawk79@reddit

No, but I would 😂
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18ekko@reddit

Most friends my age have gone with no rent if going to school full time, rent if working full time. One has a kid working full time, not paying rent, and saving to put 20% down on a house, and will hit that goal this summer after 2.5 yrs of living at home.
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Primary-History-788@reddit

Made my kids the same offer, I was given, by my parents. If you are in school, room and board,. If you are working, low rent. My dad told me, later in life, that if I had I stayed, while working, he’d planned to put the money market account, and give it to me, when I moved out, to help with first; last; and deposit. Very fair, and good practice, for life on my own. I, of course being of our generation, I declined both and move to Seattle from Ohio, instead. LOL.
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Green_Aide_9329@reddit

Will be the same with mine. Here, it is normal for university students to live at home, so while they are studying there won't be rent, but they will need to cover their study costs, transport etc. If they choose to stay after they graduate, there will be minimal rent costs, just to get them used to having a regular payment they need to commit to.
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Jynxsee@reddit

Id charge rent and put it in a savings account and give it all back when they move out.
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missangel21@reddit

My parents did this for me and I plan to do the same for my kids.
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Capt0verkill@reddit

That’s my plan
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FakenFrugenFrokkels@reddit

This is the way.
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chicagoliz@reddit

No. My kid just graduated college and is moving back home, and their girlfriend is also moving in with us. Neither have jobs right now, but we won't be charging rent. They would also prefer to have their own place, so once they're able to afford rent, they will be moving. I would consider doing the thing where they pay some nominal rent and I keep it in an account to give them to help toward housing if I thought that became necessary. But generally, I want my kids to know they always have a home if they need it. I do understand, though, that there are situations where it is appropriate to charge rent.
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Grouchy-Tap1071@reddit

I did not. I let them save to move out.
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HighSideSurvivor@reddit

I paid rent after I finished college, over 30 years ago. I expect I would do the same with my kids, if they choose to live with me after college. To be fair, my parents charged me a much lower rent than I would have paid elsewhere. And for my kids, I would extend a grace period. But I think charging a nominal rent helps them to appreciate the costs of living, it sets their position in your household on a more equal footing, and it incentivizes them to GTFO, which I think is good for their life journey.
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lurkertiltheend@reddit

I will do the same
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liddybuckfan@reddit

I charge my oldest rent. She didn't want to go to college, and got a full time job. It is a pretty modest amount (not even enough to cover her food really) but I want her to learn to pay a bill on time. I also made her set up automatic deposits to a savings account, as well as to a Roth IRA.
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MaximumJones@reddit

My kids had jobs in their fields as soon as they graduated college so never moved back home.
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Resident_Ability_390@reddit

We charge our kid modest rent once she graduated college. We’re putting that money into a savings account and she’ll get that money when she goes to make a down payment on a house. I remember how hard it was to go from paying no rent at all to paying rent or mortgage. This way, my daughter is learning to budget for housing costs, but I don’t feel like we’re taking advantage of her.
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New_Needleworker_473@reddit

I love this ❤️ It's so hard to save for a house and pay rent as a young person.
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JJQuantum@reddit

My 20 year old is in college but my wife and I have talked about what we’d do. We’d charge him rent monthly but save it in a separate account and, when enough was saved, let him use it as a downpayment on a house.
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Suspicious_Time7239@reddit

Yep! Not a lot but enough that we can both feel at ease about the living arrangement.
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sequinsdress@reddit

Mine has been out of the house for three years now but when he moved in after being away for college a few years back, we did not charge rent. He did chores and paid for random things while he saved up for an apartment. If he ever had to move back in again, I doubt we would charge him rent, but most likely he would kick in on expenses and help around the house because that’s his personality.
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TiredWillie24@reddit

No. They had to work or be in school. Never was an issue. They are now both professionals and make way more $$$ than I do. Couldn't be prouder.
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chrysmcat2014@reddit

I pay rent to my mom currently to help with bills. I paid rent when I moved home from college and when I moved back in with 2 littles during my divorce. Folks gave me time to find good work and get my finances under control, then we worked out what we felt was reasonable. I did not ask my kids to pay rent when I was in my own home, just that they be working, in school, or a combo of the 2.
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couchwarmer@reddit

At some point, yes. They have to learn how to make it on their own, because at some point we aren't going to be around anymore. If they aren't used to providing for themselves by then, they will be utterly screwed.
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trUth_b0mbs@reddit

I would not. My kids are free to live here for as long as they want as long as they're a contributing member of this household - dont treat this house like a hotel, clean up after yourself, work, pay your personal bills etc. I wont house an adult child living in the basement freeloading off me and making nothing of themselves.
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speckledhen74@reddit

No. My son is living with us after getting out of the military while he’s getting himself established here. He’s been home since last July, in that time he’s completed EMT schooling, gotten a job with the local fire department and completed their academy, and begun building a house. It should be move-in ready by August. It would have been so much more difficult for him to do all of these things while also paying rent and utilities… it’s expensive out there! He’s responsible for all of his own bills (vehicle, insurance, phone, entertainment) and he contributes to the household by doing chores, yard work, and helping with small projects (example: he replaced all the ceiling fans for me… much easier for his young self than my old shoulders). He’s pleasant and helpful and honestly I love having him here and will miss him once he moves out.
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blue-violet-@reddit

He sounds awesome. Congratulations on raising a great person.
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ZetaWMo4@reddit

No. I told mine that as long as they’re working 35+ hours and/or in school full time then no rent. They also would have to clean up behind themselves and be respectful. They also have to cook all their own meals or give me $200-300 and never have to worry about grocery shopping or cooking.
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doglady1342@reddit

No. We're trying to send money the other direction. Plus, our son saves us over $10k per year in dog boarding fees because he takes care of the dogs when we travel, which is often.
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SamePhotographs@reddit

As a teen, I was made to pay all of my clothing and personal care expenses once I turned 16. When 18 came - if I wasn't in school, I had to pay rent. I did a useless victory lap at high school, then went to work in a factory. Within a year, my rent was increased, and I found an apartment that had cheaper rent than my parents wanted me to pay. My children will not have to pay for their general clothing or personal care products, but specialty items like hair dye they can buy themselves. I may have a similar rule that they'll have to be in school or paying a monthly rent like expense. Their phones etc will be their responsibility, along with car costs. They'll certainly have help, but will also be expected to help with household expenses if they are living here as adults.
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Mondschatten78@reddit

My oldest had to buy her own food, and pay a little on the phone/internet and power bills. Before she moved out, she was paying for her cell line (on our plan) and some on the power bill.
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yayayagilliganhell@reddit

If you go to school no rent. If you work you pay rent.
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Chefy-chefferson@reddit

Yup!!
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grateful_john@reddit

Our son moved out a year ago, the day after he graduated college. We would have given him at least a year living here without rent.
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Pristine-Shine6365@reddit

My kid is 19. She has 2 jobs and is saving for her own place and money for school. I don’t charge her any rent. She is working her ass off with a lot cards stacked against her in this economy. I am trying to help her as much as I can.
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jaspnlv@reddit

No free rides bitches.
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Frecklefishpants@reddit

The 23 year old moved home recently to get back on his feet after a break up. Our plan was to charge rent starting in September if he wasn't in school (he wanted to return to school PT). We were going to charge $250 a month and put it into savings for him for when he was on his feet again. The 20 year old is home from uni for the summer and we aren't charging rent. We will give her a year of grace after graduation and then same.
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DaddyOhMy@reddit

My oldest is back home after college. Their work isn't consistent so we've agreed upon 10% of their take home pay each week for rent.
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butterflygardyn@reddit

Mine does chores in lieu of rent. And otherwise pays all their own bills.
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nonotburton@reddit

I have a friend who does. My kid is still on school.
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sprocket1234@reddit

No, but they have to be part of household. They help with chores, pick up after themselves, have some meals with us and respect. If you don't get these things they are a tenant and must pay rent.
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Throckmorton1975@reddit

Yes, they don’t get to live indefinitely here for free. They need to chip in for food and other consumables. What we’ve done in the past is collect “rent” monthly and then save that money so when they move out we give it back and they’ve got a bit of a savings fund built up. We don’t charge rent because we actually need the money, if that’s what you meant.
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copperfrog42@reddit

Not a fixed amount, but they have to contribute to the paying of bills and stuff.
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Agitated_House7523@reddit

Yeah, my kid lived rent free, but paid for his car,phone, food etc. How the hell else can u get going in this ridiculous country/economy?!
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Nira_50@reddit

No, I wouldn't as long as he's respectful of us and not taking advantage. Things are tough out there for these kids. I do make him pay for his car insurance but put the money in a savings account he'll have access to at 21.
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Listen-to-Mom@reddit

We charged $100 a month so very minimal.
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thyme2kill@reddit

Yes, though probably not enough.
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REDDITSHITLORD@reddit

Nah, man. She'll always have a home with us. Life is shit enough without making it worse for young people.
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