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How? Easy. You never took it away from them. Don't expect others (even your parents) to magically change.

Yes, yes I did and I replied exactly how I would've navigated. You use "paper" passive tense instead of directly accusing the guy signing your performance reviews in public. Perception *is* everything.

Yep... It goes in stages too! First you catch yourself using business language and you tell yourself it's useful to manage upwards, then you look around and think "fuck, am I the only adult in the room?" and next thing you know you're advising people on the internet...

Except you don't need to point the gun at someone to point it away from you. You use royal we, "the budget has never been approved", etc etc etc. When someone inevitably asks, you say " I don't remember who exactly from (dpt A, dpt B,...) , I'll pull the emails with the proposals and share them. That way, if it's your direct boss it's his own damn fault for asking. The way forward is calm and collected, not blowing up. Humans have a default tendency to feel attacked, defusing that from the start is the easiest way. Fuck me, I've really become a manager........

I'd you like the place to work, you think the new team is well known to you and not in a bad place, I'd still keep the internal offer, talk to your new hiring manager and let him deal with it - worst case 2 more weeks won't kill you. The new external group is an unknonwn, you could be signing off for a shitload of stress. I'd *also* be using the external offer to negotiate one day of remote work a week, but you would know better whether your new manager can squeeze that in or not.

You probably didn't get to the end of the post - he's not thinking about the counter *at all*, he's thinking "do I still take the other internal position in another team that I had applied to, or the external one"

> Every single person I know who has lived abroad for extended periods laments having to return. That's because they've **had** to return. Cohort bias issue.

Ironic.

Same thing I'm doing now - play video games, watch TV and read books.

Exactly. We top up wash and tire pressure within a few weeks of getting notified on either dashboard or phone app, and our car is a 5 year old Toyota...

We started on corporate $200 per month licenses, and are moving to token-based starting jun1st. First thing we asked was "cap all keys to 200 per month". Why would you open yourself up to uncontrolled liability like that without a cap?

The trick is routine. You grab 2 biscuits while your tea is brewing, close the pack and put it away. By then, tea is done. Repetition wins.

When I was in Uni, I did 6 months of volunteering in a school in a very low income area and the computers were all Ubuntu, it worked out great. Some kids learned a tiny bit, others learned a bit more, but they seemed at least partially engaged and I didn't have any behaviour problems. I say go for it my dude!

Agreed. I had a look this morning at the AVG humidity between my birthtown and London and it's not really that far off, but over there I'd be around 25C with a light jumper. Here, I want to dig a hole and bury myself in it.

I just get drowsy. Like "probably shouldn't drive" drowsy. I can't wait for a cheeky nap after work.

Call me when they self-land.

As someone who reviews substantial PRs per week... yeah no way I could do 150+, with or without LLM assistance.

I dunno brother. I've been assigned as a reviewer for an agentic internal tool that's been left as abandoneware by some external software house, and is currently only being worked on by its product owner and....... it makes some *really* bad decisions often enough. I'm pretty sure I'll be involved in a full rewrite a year or two down the line if the tool proves its value.

Same shit happens to me in Spain for xmas (I have family there). As long as the sun is out, I'm in just a t-shirt. The sun just heats much much more than we're used to.

I have always taken a full hour. It's always been office jobs, but I absolutely need that hour to recharge mental energy.

This is a variant of my loop. I try to start with something that directly references a project they've worked on, the type of question that you can't really not answer correctly. What I'm looking for is how you describe it, how wide / deep you worked on it, and if you learned anything at all. From there, I like to do a question that is very much out of your realm of experience as far as I can tell - not in terms of complexity, but in terms of familiarity (typically by changing the industry context). I warn that I am trying to understand how you approach new situations, and ask them to describe how they would attack it, if they can think of anything they'd focus on. I'm looking for info based on their known unknowns, and how they deal with unknown unknowns. I'm not asking trivia style "but what is the syntax of X". Finally, I'm now regularly asking if they have experience using AI-augmented/assisted coding, and regardless of whether they say yes or no, I ask them if they can think of good vs bad usecases for LLM-assists. I'd expect *every* developer in 2026 to have a basic idea of what the tool is, even if they haven't used it before. Any who don't lack basic curiosity and forward thinking. I don't care if they have biased "I hate what AI is doing to our discipline" views as long as they are substantiated. I'm looking for engineers, not ticket-fillers.

3, 2, 1, let's dance

Even if an iPad because... Reasons, why a *new* ipad?? Used iPads can be bought for less than half what they're chancing.

Except shoes is literally the only store where this type of thing is regular. I can't remember the last time I went to a standard retail store where I couldn't just get what I wanted and move on. So why put staff outside roaming if all there needed for is the tills and one more function somewhere?

Honestly, that's a call for the product owner. "Is there enough value in supporting yaml json and xml as well to justify extra devwork?" Yes -> do, No -> move on.

I'll give you a hack: don't *tell them*, *ask them* instead. The philosophy of asking vs telling makes a lot of things a lot easier to defend. Of course, you need to also be able to move on when the answer is not what you'd expect, but that's easier once you get into the mindframe of "I raised it, no longer my problem"

I have it on good authority that change is coming in June for enterprise clients.

I'm not OP, but: the heat never lasts until you're off to bed the day after. We rented a place like this once and ended up having to buy electric blankets to be able to watch the telly at 8pm because the place was freezing.

Yep, I can vouch for this - I stick to Vim with nearly no plugins.

No one wants to be evil, that's the basic reason PR firms exist.

The problem is that from your org's perspective, it doesn't matter if it's true - it only matters if the contract say it's true. Your org doesn't care about anything other than its liabilities.

And here I am still with our self-hosted Jenkins stack.....

Hey mate, sorry to necro-thread. How are you doing lately? Would you be able to recommendyour provider (feel free to PM)? Looking to get my mum in a program and she asked me to do research for her.

C25K is great and easy to follow, and you should be advised that if any particular week felt way too hard, you can just repeat that week instead of progressing to the next one. I've done it twice (once from couch-potato and another after an injury) and I've enjoyed both. One thing no one tells you (or at least it happened to me) is that as you start regularly excercising, your appetite also changes. I found myself craving *salad* way more often when running 5k multiple days a week. I think you should give it a try. It'll only cost you time.

Honestly, use it enough times and you do the learn the basics pretty quickly. `:%s/quickly/painfully/gi`

Until your product starts getting bad press due to outages and you need to start offering compensation. >Most software companies are a monopoly at this people Let's agree to disagree on "most"

I don't get this take. With agentic flows basically making PR reading a nightmare, I'd say QAs are likely to be *more important* in the next few years.

> US wages are $90-120k WHERE? Because the US isn't a uniform, small sized thing. Context *really* matters. 90K in Maine is vastly better than 120K in LA.

30k isn't minimum wage though.

Absolutely worth £54 quid. Paid that much to see it at the BFI IMAX, no snacks.

You mean you don't think SAFe is a good enterprise framework to work from? I'm shocked! Shocked, I tell you! No one manages to read through the whole thing.

100%. Curiosity on literally anything in our discipline is a huge positive signal right now. Even if that anything is understanding the AI itself

And they're not even landing on this one! I suspect the actual "boots on the moon" one will gather more interest.

Yeah interviewer PTSD is also an option.

Hey, I'm not saying that it's great how some companies do. I don't think anyone is perfectly happy with exactly how they run interviews. I'm just saying that there _might_ be qualities that are legitimate to a hiring group that are... let's say difficult to find good signals for. I agree, most interview loops are quite bloated, but there's a lot of organisational baggage that _may_ apply in analysis paralysis or past-employee trauma.

Honestly, no, you're not expected to guess. But you *are* expected to be a good match for the role, team culture and challenges expected ahead. Take it as a "you can know your stuff and still not be a good fit, nothing you can do about it". The really shitty part is that honest feedback to unsuccessful candidates is very widely discouraged by HR / legal departments pretty much across the West. Most people would understand honest "here's why we don't think you're a great fit", but it'd take just one asshole with a mission to start pulling BS on social media (or the legal system) to send plenty of money down the drain to fix it.

Tbf, that interviewer might've been replicating internal conditions. If the specific team/product/dept the role is in has recently gone through some flux the it might be desirable for them to see how a candidate deals with that uncertainty. It could also just be a lot of performative crap.

Agreed, and same. If the EM isn't creating the space for technical conversations to happen honestly and for feedback to flow naturally, then he's not doing his job right.

Spot on. The key is cutting off the feedback loop of tease/abuse -> response -> laughter -> more tease/abuse. Easiest way is to just stop giving a fuck. Put on your headphones and ignore. It works on so many other situations, like beggars, drunks, those assholes in front of the tube pretending to be charities, religious preachers on the street, etc etc etc.

It's easy, 3 steps *1: show your hands to dog and allow him to sniff them but don't touch him yet. Feel free to smile and talk to the dog in whatever silly voice you end up using. *2: look up to owner. If they want to warn you about something or ask you to not pet, they will do so now (and 99% of the time it's just "sorry, she's a licker!") *3 if owner didn't give warning in a couple of seconds, pet dog.