Left a job where I was undervalued, navigated three competing offers, now my manager is making my exit difficult. How do I make the right call?

Posted by thenetsecguy24@reddit | sysadmin | View on Reddit | 197 comments

Long post but want the full picture out there for advice. I’m a Security/Network Engineer at a university research lab. About a year ago a colleague left and I absorbed all of their responsibilities on top of mine, kept critical infrastructure running for 11 months, onboarded and trained their replacement. Asked for a raise during this time. Got nothing. Hadn’t gotten a raise for 2 years at that point. Over 2 years now. So I started looking. Got an offer for 141k as a Network Security Engineer at a major university(99% remote). Put in my two weeks. My lab immediately asked what it would take to keep me. I said 160k+. They came back at 150k, below what I asked. I declined. Around the same time, through a former colleague, I was also offered a Senior Network Design Engineer role with the main campus IT team at my current university, also 150k, 100% in office. Bigger scope, more senior, and my future manager specifically recruited me knowing my work. I chose the internal transfer over the other because: • More senior title and bigger scope • Manager I already trust • Better long-term career trajectory (design vs. operations) The downside: The other university is 99% remote. The new role is 100% in office. And now my current manager is making the exit difficult demanding I stay until June 26th vs my June 12th last day, and implying he’d involve HR to delay my transfer. I still technically have the new university offer available since I haven’t seen a written offer from my current. Part of me wonders if I should just take the clean break. Did I make the right call taking the internal role? And how do I handle this exit?