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If you have moved away from the UK, how have you found it?

Posted by Desperate-Drawer-572@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 249 comments

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I’ve lived in Italy, France and Australia. I enjoyed my time in each but don’t regret moving back to the UK. I didn’t find the daily quality of life was overall better in any of them, each had different pros and cons. I was trying to live like a local rather than expat bubbles though, which perhaps made the cons more dramatic. I was highly competent in the languages, but not perfect so the workplace was a challenge and so was working out how to do simple life admin tasks. Most people I know who have decided to live abroad permanently either largely living in English speaking environments or have a native partner to support them. Australia came the closest to being somewhere I’d stay forever, but the distance from the UK was too much for me in the end.

how do I move out and survive as a single parent?

Posted by DangerRats@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 25 comments

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Every nursery around here gives parents the choice whether to average it or not, with the default assumption being that you will want to average it. It’s definitely worth OP checking.

Woke up to find a light switch turned off and another turned on. I live alone now and never sleepwalk. What could it be?

Posted by olacomoestaspablo@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 188 comments

Are the Post Office's Travel Money Cards worth getting if going to Greece / the EU?

Posted by Philster07@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 26 comments

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We have a Mastercard cash passport card. You do have to preload it, but it’s easy to do. You can use Apple Pay in the app. We were doing DKK so it was a bit annoying trying to work out exactly how much to load so we didn’t have any left over. But with Euros at least you don’t have that problem.

What does four bunk beds mean to you?

Posted by Active_SeriZZLEAF@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 318 comments

Can a single full width salad drawer be pulled out if the fridge/freezer door is only open 90 degrees?

Posted by themissingelf@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 21 comments

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Our salad drawer can be pulled out for full access with the door at 90 degrees. If we wanted to actually remove the drawer from the fridge (eg for cleaning), we’d need to take the bottle shelf off the fridge door but that’s very easy to do).

Can share your experience on EV car ?

Posted by In_Praise_of_Shadow@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 40 comments

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I have an electric Corsa and it’s great. I wouldn’t go back to petrol again, both for environmental reasons and because it’s nicer to drive. Easily handles local driving, charging every 2-3 days. On the occasions we do drives long enough to need to use public chargers, they’re roughly the same price as petrol would be. I don’t like sitting in the car for long periods anyway, so stopping to charge isn’t an issue. Some service stations need more chargers installed, but we’ve rarely had an issue finding one. We’re going down to one car soon and it will be electric. Once a year we do extremely long drives which would need multiple charges (eg Northwest to Cornwall), we’d likely just rent a petrol car for that.

Saw someone write “if I met my children when I was a child I’d think they’re rich kids” how true is that for you?

Posted by iffyClyro@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 97 comments

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Kind of true. Due to cost of living/house price increases, we’re pretty much matching the house I grew up in, how much I work and how often we go on holiday, despite our income being dramatically higher (accounting for inflation). But we choose to spend a lot more of our spare money on him. We take him to soft plays, days out etc way more than my parents ever did. We take him out to eat often. The holidays we do are more child focused and (in my opinion) nicer. We’re saving up to do some amazing child-friendly holidays (Lapland, safari) that my parents would never have done.

How long does your school run take?

Posted by myria9@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 50 comments

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If we get into our first choice school, it would be about a 20 minute round drive, so probably half hour including the time at the school. 45 minutes each way seems far too much to me, assuming it’s not on the way to somewhere else. I wouldn’t go that far for primary school and if it were secondary school, I’d be looking at public transport options for them to go alone.

What's you goto brand of trainers?

Posted by Various_Extreme_8773@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 548 comments

How do people cope with long commutes into London when living in the North?

Posted by Desperate-Drawer-572@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 28 comments

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My husband has to go to the London office every other month or so and dislikes even doing that. He tends to get a hotel the night before as he didn’t like doing a round trip on the day. He says he’d considering doing it once a week if the alternative was losing his well paid job, but I think he’d quickly change his mind if it did happen.

Those of you who are teachers, do you remember every student you’ve ever taught?

Posted by AndyKWHau@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 126 comments

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I taught for three years, less than ten years ago. I have some old class photos. Generally I can remember the names of about 80-90% of the kids, but remember some details about all of them even if it’s just their personality. But I was a primary teacher, so I spent all day every day with them. And that’s with me being prompted by photos of how they looked when I knew them. Whether I’d know the adult versions, I’m not sure.

How are people affording to have a family now a days? (South uk)

Posted by Happylife97@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 62 comments

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You don’t necessarily need several years. We got our mortgage as FTBs when my husband only had one year of accounts. We used a broker who got us a mortgage through Halifax.

Can I request flexible working hours when being offered a job due to sons disability?

Posted by fieldofcucumbers@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 19 comments

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Same here. I’ve just been approved for a flexible working request when my son starts school and several other team members have arrangements. I even have it agreed that I’ll do different hours in term time to school holidays (4x short days in term time, 3x longer ones in holidays).

Does anyone have recommendations for a good pot & pan set for a gas hob?

Posted by xlornax@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 13 comments

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We like stainless steel and have a large saucepan and frying pan from ProCook and a couple of smaller ones from IKEA 365+ range. I can’t really tell any difference in quality between them tbh, they’re all great. I was concerned about food sticking but generally we haven’t had any issues once we changed our technique slightly. I keep a non stick pan for pancakes and fried eggs but everything else I do in the stainless steel.

If a person finds it hard to drive manual, they get an automatic license in or give up driving overall?

Posted by pastaparmigianino@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 66 comments

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I didn’t give up because it was “very hard to learn” but because the wait list for tests was so long I didn’t want to risk having to retake the test. I knew I could pass on the driving side, the manual part just wasn’t a cert for me. So I didn’t the automatic test and passed it. My automatic licence doesn’t cause me any problems. I don’t use work vehicles, I’ve never had an issue hiring an auto. I certainly don’t see how “no licence” would be better than an auto one.

Your favourite pub and where is it?.

Posted by Various_Extreme_8773@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 86 comments

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I’m in Cheshire. Our favourites are The Dog (Peover), The Dusty Miller (Nantwich), The Bells of Peover (lower Peover), The Roebuck (Mobberley), The Bulls Head (Mobberley), the Bhurtpore Inn (Nantwich). Then we also like The Greyhound (Ashley) and The Swan with Two Nicks (Dunham) but they’re more Manchester way so you’ve likely already been. All are largely just nice vibe pubs with good food. The Dusty Miller has a lovely outdoor terrace overlooking the canal. The Bhurtpore Inn does Indian food rather than standard pub food.

Where can I buy genuinely nice strawberries?

Posted by macncheeseplzzz@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 103 comments

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In actual winter, I find none of them are good. In spring or autumn, Sainsbury’s Taste The Difference ones are the only consistently decent ones. The Aldi “fancier” brand can also be good, but they’re more hit and miss.

Are we about to enter recession? I am so worried.

Posted by SpicedCoconut@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 80 comments

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This is exactly what people were saying in the Industrial Revolution, it’s not unprecedented that machines take some people’s jobs and new jobs or changed roles spring up in their place.

Do many women work full time after having a baby?

Posted by NoTest5984@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 446 comments

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I don’t know anyone who went back full time, but most women did go back 4 days a week. Going back 3 days a week was the second most common, then full time after that. Being a SAHM isn’t common, I did it for a while and only met maybe one other.

When did you have a kid after meeting your partner?

Posted by Sad-Pellegrino@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 94 comments

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We’d been together just over 3.5 years, married for 1 when our son was born. I knew I was ready because I felt I’d done everything I wanted to that needed to be done without kids around. Anything else I wanted to do was either possible with kids, or (to me) better with them. So I didn’t feel like I was giving anything up.

Where do we stand on the electrical car parking spaces in car parks?

Posted by Chemical-Lettuce2497@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 102 comments

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I didn’t say what he did was a grey area. I gave an example of a different action that would be a grey area. He’s definitely not the bigger dick. You’re as bad as each other.

Where do we stand on the electrical car parking spaces in car parks?

Posted by Chemical-Lettuce2497@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 102 comments

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You’re both in the wrong. Parking in an EV space and hooking up to the charger when you otherwise weren’t planning to is a morally grey area (as it could inconvenience someone who does need the charger). But what you both did is just straight up wrong.

What do couples mean when they talk about going shopping for engagement rings?

Posted by 074DanBurn058@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 142 comments

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For us, we went to browse and bought the ring there and then. My (now) husband kept the ring until he proposed. The proposal was still a “surprise” in that I didn’t know exactly when it would happen, but we’d agreed it would be in the next few months. For me, I didn’t want a surprise ring that I’d have to wear forever. I wanted to choose, but also have his input so we both liked it (rather than me just picking one and sending him a link).

Does a cyclist have right of way through a crowd?

Posted by Soomroz@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 79 comments

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It’s a busy park hosting a funfair with 50+ people wandering around. The cyclist at minimum should have been cycling slowly enough that they could react in time if a hazard presented itself. Whether OP/his kid was also in the wrong doesn’t really matter. It’s careless to cycle in a busy place without the ability to stop suddenly if necessary.

What are your best and worst gastroscopy experiences?

Posted by Fun_Internet_1789@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 80 comments

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I was awake and aware, but I was completely calm and chilled out about it. When I’d been waiting I’d definitely worked myself up into a real state, but once the sedative was working, I was just calm. I remember the process and that it wasn’t nice, but I don’t have any intense emotions attached to those memories.

What are your best and worst gastroscopy experiences?

Posted by Fun_Internet_1789@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 80 comments

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I had one with sedation in January. I’m not going to pretend it was pleasant, but I’d feel relatively little stress if they wanted me to do another. The sedation didn’t make me forget what happened, but the memories don’t have any emotions attached to them, if that makes sense. It’s almost as if I remember watching it happen to me: I can describe the process and know that I was burping and gagging on the tube. But when I think back to it, I don’t have any intense emotions attached to the memory, like I do with other medical procedures or bad experiences.

I'm a minor and I want to convince my dad the UK is okay for me to travel alone. How?

Posted by Equivalent_Net_2155@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 136 comments

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The issue here isn’t really the safety of London and Edinburgh, but whether you can keep yourself safe in general. I would have concerns sending a 16 year old on a 2 week solo trip abroad, however safe the place itself was. You haven’t told us your age, gender or whether you speak fluent English (obviously you can write it well, but writing a planned paragraph isn’t the same as holding conversations, dealing with fast talkers or unfamiliar accents etc).

Do your kids watch screens at nursery ?

Posted by Afraid_Objective9321@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 33 comments

How much is your new build service charge per year?

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Where do BADGERS hide away in the UK?

Posted by MrGrubbycuddles@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 75 comments

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There’s a hotel/pub in the Lake District (aptly called Badger Bar) where they have badgers living in the grounds. The kitchen put scraps out late at night and they come out around 9-10pm. We went last year and saw some baby and adult badgers.

What is it called in your household?

Posted by Omgaegg@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 104 comments

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Breakfast, lunch and dinner. But “dinner” to me implies a hot meal. If we’ve eaten out at lunch time, I’d call our evening meal “tea” and it would be lunch-type food (sandwiches, leftovers etc).

Ladies - Where are you getting your everyday bags for work?

Posted by Affectionate_Day7543@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 81 comments

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I really like my Le Pliage. Tons of space and really easy to keep clean. It’s heavily used around here as a work or high school bag for good reason. Expensive for a nylon bag, but I’ve had mine several years now and it looks as good as new. My main work bag is a designer leather tote the same size and shape but doesn’t have a zip. It cost so much that I feel I have to use it for a good while yet, but I honestly prefer my Le Pliage.

Where would you personally draw the line at reporting a close family member to the police for a crime they've commited?

Posted by PaddedValls@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 432 comments

Is 5wks acceptable for ENT cancer screening?

Posted by Subject-Turnip-77@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 68 comments

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I had some dysphagia, my GP referred me for an endoscopy on the cancer pathway and I was seen a week later. That was for much more minor symptoms than you have. I would really be pushing to be seen quicker.

Are there Any Parents renting ?

Posted by username799_@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 9 comments

London is expensive, countryside is lonely… what’s the actual middle ground?

Posted by This-Income-3990@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 32 comments

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If Manchester is “the only city you’ve ever felt unsafe in”, you have a bizarre outlook. What made you feel so unsafe there? As a 5ft 5 woman with no martial arts skills (lol), I can’t say I’ve ever felt unsafe there at all, definitely don’t feel more unsafe there than anywhere else in the UK and have certainly travelled to places abroad that both felt less safe and statistically definitely were.

Do people prefer dark kitchens or lighter kitchens in UK homes these days?

Posted by mimiamsecond@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 37 comments

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Pick a cabinet style that can be painted in future. Then if it does go “out of style” or you just don’t like it any more, you’re looking at £2-3k to paint it or replace the doors rather than a whole new kitchen. But I have an orange kitchen, so I’m clearly biased.

What’s somewhere in the UK you visited once and immediately thought “I could live here”?

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Is this legal? (Paying back money after tax to parent)

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For the employer: Rather than paying tax on £100k taken in personal dividends, they’re taking £80k as appropriately taxed dividends and then getting the other £20k tax free from the employee.

Is it normal in the UK for grandparents not to buy anything for their grandchild?

Posted by Ok-Pomelo7667@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 506 comments

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I think it’s a very common thing to wait until baby is born. Not necessarily superstitious in that they believe the purchase will “jinx” things and actually cause bad things to happen. More an acknowledgement that until the baby is here, the bad things might happen and it would be awful for the parents to be to have to deal with handling the baby stuff. Even worse if it’s personalised.

To solve the housing issue, could we have student dorms but at a council housing level?

Posted by AQML@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 54 comments

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Singapore isn’t really comparable to the UK. It has less than 10% of the UK’s population to house and the highest GDP in the world to fund social projects with. To be honest, I don’t think it’s comparable to many places in the world at all!

To solve the housing issue, could we have student dorms but at a council housing level?

Posted by AQML@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 54 comments

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The council are obviously obligated to follow the law and will do so to a higher degree than private HMO landlords. Housing tenants in a HMO set up with only bedrooms for privacy/to escape any issues would be an absolute safeguarding nightmare. Consider that most single people who qualify for social housing tend to have difficulties which cause them difficulty in holding down a job or a stable life (and families can’t live HMO style). The HMO style would work for single people who have a regular routine (so aren’t at home most of the day to annoy each other) and are able to function well in normal society. Those people don’t tend to qualify for social housing in the first place, so it’s not really solving any existing problems and just giving councils an extra thing to manage on their limited budgets.

Those with children: did you go back to your previous job, cut your hours, stop working, or find another job?

Posted by InToot@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 28 comments

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After maternity leave, I went back to work two days a week. That didn’t work out, so I left when he was about 16 months but kept my son in nursery for those two days (as we didn’t want to lose his place for whenever I did go back to work). That ended up lasting about a year and a half, then I went back to work 3 days a week when he was a few months shy of 3. I find this is a great balance for now. When he starts school in September (he will be nearly 5), I’m planning to do the same hours spread over four shorter days so I can do all the school runs.

Premier Inn vs. Travelodge - would you pay extra?

Posted by ss2811@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 95 comments

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Except when asked to comment, Travelodge representatives insisted that the employee was following their own procedures. “Travelodge declined to tell the BBC what its security measures included but said staff at the time had followed them correctly.” [Link](https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3v77w5d437o)

Where to buy ?? IN NEED OF BOUNCY PLUMP PILLOWS ? 😴

Posted by moroccosherry@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 20 comments

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I bought the Premier Inn pillows which everyone raves about. They are great at first, but they’ve definitely gone soft and flat after a while. I’m currently trying a memory foam “cervical” pillow that’s meant to be good for your spine (not your cervix!) and I like it so far.

Do you get any money back for working from home?

Posted by Much_Yesterday642@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 18 comments

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I think for most people, the savings and general quality of life improvements from not commuting are enough that they’re not going to jeopardise their WFH arrangement but asking for more.

What's your opinion on raising kids on a specific diet from birth? ( Vegan, vegetarian, etc)

Posted by Loose_Avocado4670@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 214 comments

What's your opinion on raising kids on a specific diet from birth? ( Vegan, vegetarian, etc)

Posted by Loose_Avocado4670@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 214 comments

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The typical British diet includes meat from a small handful of the animals on the planet. Why is it restrictive to not eat any animals, but only eating <10 counts as “effectively unrestricted”?

What's your opinion on raising kids on a specific diet from birth? ( Vegan, vegetarian, etc)

Posted by Loose_Avocado4670@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 214 comments

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As long as the kids’ nutritional needs are being met, it’s not anyone else’s business. Your mention of kids not really understanding where meat comes from is surely an argument *for* raising them vegan, not against it? Lack of knowledge or understanding is a reason to *not* allow someone to do something, not a reason to make them do it unwittingly until they realise they might prefer not to! (And I say that as a meat eater who is not raising her child vegan).