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If you were honest with yourself can you say if your children like you?

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I am truly baffled when people say their parents are like this, this 'you owe me' attitude. Umm, we as parents owe our kids everything, they owe us nothing. I'm lucky that despite my parents many flaws, to this day they are supportive and always asking if I need help (financially, moral support etc). My kid knows I will always be there for her. Even when I'm gone from this earth, I will be there in her mind and heart whenever she needs me.

If you were honest with yourself can you say if your children like you?

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Kid is not quite an adult yet, but I'm pretty sure she likes me. We have long conversations about all sorts of things, she knows I listen to her even if I disagree. I've proven I'm reasonable with my asks and expectations of her. I really listen to what she is saying, take it in, reflect and respond (I try my best anyway). I apologize when I'm wrong or snap at her from frustration. I very deliberately took the good from my parents and tried to weed out the parts that messed me up. She remarks how our relationship is different from the ones her friends have with her parents in that she shared a lot with me and I actively know what she likes, what is going in her world and truly take an interest in who she is. Granted, I was as am nowhere near perfect. I tell her if at any point in her life she feels/realizes that something I did hurt her/messed her up etc to please talk with me. I've proven that I'm not reactive or defensive and will listen to her.

Saw Backrooms with my teenagers and realized they’ll never know the specific boredom that made us

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Boredom is so important - gives you room for thinking, imagination and rest. Even when we were watching those infomercials, they didn't take much brain power so we could have a sort of quiet for our minds. I remember so much summer boredom, long car drive boredom, mother dragging me to the garden store for hours boredom. At the time it was torture, but now I crave more of those silences in my life. I've been actively focused on not having any electronics on and reading physical books. Listening to an album the whole way through (latest was The Police's Synchronicity). Re-starting my pen to paper journal writing. when I do use electronics, doing my best to one use one at a time (ie not on my phone while watching s/t on Netflix). My teen daughter and her friends saw the movie this past weekend. She loved it, but I don't think she picked up on the silences/boredom/empty spaces vibe of it. We do often have convos about slowing things down, de-stimulating and the importance of boredom.

Anybody else looking at our aging families and their lack of mobility as a huge warning ?

Posted by DiaDeLosMuebles@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 238 comments

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My parents are still pretty active for their age (late 70s and early 80s). They go to the gym in their building most days, and my dad always walked everywhere. My mom had health issues but when she started working out again she dropped 30 lbs and has so much more mobility and endurance. I visited them recently and full invested in the attitude of movement as medicine. Sure, shit can happen, but might as well keep ourselves and strong and agile as we can. I've been deliberate about working out at least 30 mins a day (yoga, cardio, weights in some rotation) for the last 2 months and I feel so much better. I'll take it.

For those of you that ended up divorced. Did you remarry? I don’t think I will ever get married again…

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Honestly probably not but who knows, maybe someday? Been divorced <2 years, and my focus has been finding myself that I realized had faded to some transparent gray over the years (20+ year marriage), healing, building community, and most importantly making sure my kiddo is well taken care of and to keep building on the strong relationship we always had.

What was your favorite skit on the Dave Chapelle Show??

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Does Anyone Else Still Have Their College Textbook?

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I kept the ones I cared about - mostly on international conflict resolution and the mediation process - maybe I should give those another look and see how outdated or relevant they are in this crazy age? I also kept one from a Russian history class and a cross-cultural communication class. I miss college.

Still a thing!

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What was your favorite skit on the Dave Chapelle Show??

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What bands/movies from our era completely passed you by somehow and you’ve gotten to enjoy (or not) discovering them in middle age?  Or even have YET to discover?

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Quick or Yoo Hoo?

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I am confident AI is going to crater the economy and cause mass job losses for one specific reason familiar to all of us

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New exec came into the company. Used AI to scan all the slack channels to understand accounts and write summaries (and draw conclusions). Determined and shared with team that the my accounts were all in shit shape, without talking to me. I had to meet with the team getting my old accounts that there was so much more nuance to all of it (which I had written in notes I had provided). So, thanks to AI allowing people to be lazy but appear like they understand things, I look like I fucked stuff up, when in fact I haven't. There is so much madness at my job right now, but this was the last straw.

“No matter where you are. I can still hear you when you drown.” (Smashing Pumpkins 92’) What are some song lyrics that still stick with you to this day that you still hear in your head and have a meaning?

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If we're talking about the 90s: "The trick is to keep breathing" - Garbage "Don't think cuz I understand, I care" - Sneaker Pimps "Words play me deja vu, like a radio tune I swear I've heard before" - Duran Duran "If I die before I learn to speak Can money pay for all the days I lived awake But half asleep?" \- Primitive Radio Gods

What’s your favorite song from your childhood?

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So many I couldn't pick one. Most consistently, I'd say "Stepping Out" by Joe Jackson. I remember watching the video on MTV and the whole spirit of there's a bigger, better, more joyous life out there. Also, I've always been an old soul (yeah parentification) - the lyrics "We are young but getting old before our time" always hit me, thought just how has evolved as I've aged.

Middle School Dance

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we had our 8th grade dance in the cafeteria/atrium area of our school right after the graduation ceremony. We decorated courtesy of our local party good store. DJ kicking tunes, 8th graders dancing awkwardly. Had so much fun with my friends. One of my favorite memories was the dance off between one of my classmates and a Japanese exchange student. They both had moves! The joy of simpler times.

Dealing with friends death

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Dealing with friends death

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I'm so sorry. Please feel and express your grief, remember and cherish the memories and experiences you had with her. We cry to express our sorrow, the joy of having known the person and what they meant to us. I found out my friend from college died from cancer this week. We had met in college back in the late 90s, had drifted apart as life happens and then reconnected a few years ago when I saw that both of us had had cancer (different types). We live across the country from one another, but the universe was kind and allowed us to meet up for a day about 1.5 years ago. We kept in touch (calls and texts) and then around xmas she told me her cancer had come back. I knew it was bad, especially after the last time we talked after her surgery and they couldn't get it all out. Her husband called me to let me know she passed and after I got off the phone just bawled. I continue to cry whenever I think about her. We were so young when we met, and she wasn't even 50 yet when she died. I keep thinking to myself we're all too young for this shit.

“I’m too young to be old and too old to be young.”

Posted by RebelScum77@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 69 comments

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I feel this so much (will be 49 later this month). Some days I feel downright youthful, while others all the rando (and not so rando) aches and pains bother the shit out of me. Ankle I broke in my mid-30s. Stiff every morning. Also being on post-cancer meds aged my body a bit faster than it would have otherwise (hello menopausal belly). So what to do? I take inspiration from my mom. In her late 70s, she works out everyday, eats well - lost 30 lbs and improved her stamina and general health with the above. She and I recently talked about how she let herself go around my age, and rediscovered herself in her late 60s. And so, I make sure I exercise everyday (strength training is so important for us peri/menopausal ladies!), watch what I eat, make sure I'm connecting with friends and building community. We all decline eventually (ah this mortal coil) but I'd like to do it as gracefully and joyfully as possible.

What's that one household item you grew up with that you still use/eat/purchase today?

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Do you have close friends?

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Yes I have a small handful. My closest friend moved across the country to help her aging parents, but I know she'd help me in a heartbeat and be there for me if I needed her. We met through our kids when they were in preschool - they drifted apart but she and I are still going strong 10+ years later. I have a few additional friends of various degrees of closeness that I've known for 20 years - we drifted apart as life happened, but now in our late 40s coming back together. What was shocking to me is I made a new, non-work friend fairly recently. We met at an event and over time started hanging out more. We share a lot of similar interests and it's been such so reassuring being able to make a new good friend at this age.

Current Favorite Sit Down Restaurant

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Coming up on the anniversary of this event soon. Where were you when this happened (June 17, 1994)

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Watching the NBA playoffs - Knicks vs Rockets with my dad (was a huge Knicks fan back in the day). OJ verdict was in the dorm lounge when I was a college freshman. Thinking back on it now, and given the 24/7 insanity we deal with now, the chase almost seems quaint?

What were your favorite jeans?

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This was in a computer history section of a science museum.

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Ever randomly miss your grandparents?

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Yes my paternal grandmother who lived with and co-raised us (folks worked full time). She lived with us til I started high school and then went back to her home country. I think about her everyday. From things like how she and I used to cut green beans together or how she'd used to squint and 'read' my palm saying I would have a lot of money (still waiting lol). How she'd make snacks for me after school or loved watching old shows like Hawaii 5-0 and Barney Miller and loved the Price is Right (I think she mostly adored Bob Barker). How she learned English watching those shows. Little superstitious gestures she'd make that I still do b/c they make me feel connected to her. She was a strong ass women with a petite build who had a very hard life and suffered a lot. When I was little I couldn't understand why she had this deep sadness with her all time but I always knew and felt she loved my brother and I fiercely. She's been gone for 25 years now and I still miss her.

Can you talk about humpback whales without thinking of this?

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Head Like a Hole

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PHM is still in my regular rotation - it satisfies a particular itch in my soul sonically and lyrically. *Bow down before the one you serve* *You're going to get what you deserve* Sums up my thoughts about the current state of affairs in the US

What kind of lunchbox did you have?

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https://preview.redd.it/mt286bfc27wg1.png?width=856&format=png&auto=webp&s=eaeed86b06b554ae0aff19825e1a166da156d362 Early 80s. My brother also had a Peanuts one from the 70s that I loved as well

Is it rare or unusual to be into your 50s and not having to take any doctor-prescribed medications?

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Struggling with my kids growing up

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Parenting, if you're doing it right, is by it's very nature bittersweet. Our job is to develop and guide them in order to let them go with grace, confidence and knowledge into the world. I have a 15 year old and have those twinges of yesterday. I was sitting in the park yesterday and watching the toddlers on the swings with their parents/caregivers and I waxed nostalgic of when my kiddo was small and I'd take her to the park. That said, I have SO much joy in my relationship with her as a teen. All the hard work you did, loving and caring and parenting them mainfest in so many ways. My daughter and I are still super close, and now we share awesome experiences like going to see plays, concerts, watch shows together. I still teach her and she teaches me too. We still do the annual girls trip she and I have done since she was in K. And yes, she still lays her head on my shoulder and says I love you at the most unexpected times. I also think of something my mom has said about she still sees me in her mind's eye as a 3-4 year old, but also fully respects, recognizes and articulates about the woman I am. I think as parents we will also continue to hold our kids in our mind's eye at many different ages, and ideally appreciate them all.

Alright people, it's time to bust a move..

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Still know most of the lyrics to this fun song. "Movies showing/so you're going/could care less about the 5 you're blowing" - ah remember when you could go to the movies for $5?

Let's reaaaaally make sure this entire generation suffers from Generalized Anxiety Disorder

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I have fond memories of this game. One of the ways we'd challenge ourselves was hiding the pieces around the ground floor of the house, start the timer and then run around like crazy people finding and putting the pieces in before the timer ran out. We actually got pretty good at it. Go big or go home lol

Addressing family

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Aunties and uncles all around. Childhood friends' parents still Mr or Mrs So-and-so. In addition to us growing up in ye olden times, it's also a cultural ethnic. In South Asian culture, I cannot imagine calling your relatives and your parents friends by their first name. My kid interchanges uncle or aunty so and so with just their first name. I don't mind her friends calling me by my first name. Frankly though, even though they are teens, I'm still usual my daughter's name's mom

I feel like younger generations aren't going to get their own Kevin Smith.

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Threads like this remind me how we love to bitch and complain about youth is lacking - but in this group, we are these kids parents and had/have a lot of influence in laying the foundations for our children. Oh no, they have shorter attention spans? What did you do as a parent to foster longer attention spans when they were younger? I'm not saying society/culture is not impactful, but c'mon, we cannot abdicate responsibility. My teen kiddo loves old movies and TV shows. Her father is passionate about film and shows and showed her a lot of the classics - so much so her favorite films are old films for those most part (Hitchcock, things like Taking of Pelham 1-2-3). She and I have been watching the OG Twlight Zones (her request). She noticed and appreciates how much slower paced they were, how smart and clever the show is, how it requires attention and patience. Even I'm pleasantly surprise by how articulate, thoughtful and intellectual Rod Serling's intro were and how that's fallen away. Of course, there was A LOT of schlock back in the day too, but if can't help guide and curate our kids experiences, that is on us.

Xennials, tell me about your region specific nostalgia

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NY Area (not sure if all of these span the Tri-State Area) - Apex Tech commercials (we did a spoof of it for a class in high school), WDRE, Z100, old Godzilla movies and all those old movies on WPIX on rainy afternoons, the Magic Garden, WWOR - Seacacus, NJ.

As a younger xennial this speaks to my soul!

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Our current state of affairs has been in the making for decades upon decades. What's going in in Minnesota - think about the Civil Rights movement. Think about post-Civil War in the South (let alone the entire history of this country). The militarization and glorification of violence and might makes right and the rugged individual. Late stage capitalism and greed. Our current government reflects the underlying ugliness that has always been there. Lulled into complacency by a system that makes you focus so much on survival that all you have is fear of losing what little you have and then easily blaming the person next to you because it's simpler than being like, oh fuck, the whole system is built to screw 90+% of us to varying degrees.

Set Adrift On Memory Bliss

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This song is such a mood and makes me feel joyful. This and Back to Life by Soul 2 Soul. Know the subject of Back to Life is dark but both these songs are intertwined in my mind and bring such a feeling of contentment.

What were your life lessons you took away from watching this series as a kid?

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Watched this in 4th grade. This is where I learned ASL letters. I still remember most of them, though I often mix up d and f, which my kid who is learning ASL laughs at me about.

Very special episode about bootleg tapes

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PSA: Please CHECK YOUR BOOBIES

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So glad to hear you're on the other side of treatment and wishing you many decades of good health. As someone who was diagnosed with breast cancer at 46, I heartily 2nd, 3rd and 4th your PSA! Ladies, get those mammograms! I got my 1st one at 45 - clear, 2nd at 46 - and there it was. Luckily it was very small, early stage and slow growing but given its location w/o mammos I wouldn't have even felt it for years so who knows where I'd have been if I had waited. I didn't end up needing chemo so it was lumpectomy and radiation only. Also, please advocate for yourself and learn your family medical history if you can! When they found it the doctor gave me shit about doing the biopsy (it's likely not cancer, this is why premiums go up, come back in 6 months). I told him it's my body and I want to and have the right to know. Also, my grandmother had it and her side of the family is known to have several types of related cancers and I strongly take after that side of the family. That was 2 years ago and I'm cancer free and on estrogen blocking meds for another 3 years or so (HR+). I alternate between mammos and MRIs every 6 months, and while a pain in the ass I will never miss one!

What was your first concert ever, but also, what was your BEST concert ever?

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First concert: U2 Zoo TV tour (1992) - Giants Stadium - so much fun in the nose bleed seats when I was 14 :) Best concert: Depeche Mode (2017) - Oakland, was my 2nd DM concert. They were fantastic and I went with a close friend, culminating a very long, super fun day of playing hooky from work

Does anyone remember 227?

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What are the five most beautiful songs you’ve ever felt?

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So many songs for so many different reasons. A small sample: \- Working Hour (Tears for Fears) - the sax, the lyrics, the whole ambiance of the song \- Steppin' Out (Joe Jackson) - always thinking of being a young kid watching the video on MTV and thinking about all the adventures I'd have when I grew up. Just hearing the first few notes of the intro brings that feeling back like nothing else \- Would? (Alice in Chains) - just everything about this song speaks to the angry/hurting part of my soul \- Summer, Highland Falls (Billy Joel) - the lyrics and simplicity of this song

Fellow xennial ladies - isn’t awesome how fast chin hairs grow? You know, in case it breaks off when you’re trying to tweeze it out. At least you get another opportunity to try again the next day💀

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Which of your kids' shows did/do you actually enjoy?

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Happiness was MTV

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Would love to know more about this painting that’s been collecting dust in my parent’s garage.

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We have so much old stuff now. I just washed cups from my first apartment 20 damn years ago that I still use daily. Every time I think about stuff my parents had from the 70s while I was growing up in the 90's... and realize I'm now that person.

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Have Corningware plates that I've been using since middle school (late 80s) - my mom gave them to me when I moved into my 1st apartment. I've managed not to break or lose them over the last 35 or so years, they are perfect size for breakfast and they don't make plates in that shape anymore. If it literally ain't broke...

Anyone else obsessed with Depeche Mode?

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Only band I've seen twice. I remember being introduced to them with a dub of 101 that my friend gave me in 7th grade. I didn't like it at the time, put it away. I listened to it a year later and mind was blown and I've been a fan ever since. One of my life mottos is "I give into sin, because you have to make this livable"

What Xennial Song Is Perfect In Every Way?

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