melancholyy-scorpio

Is it rude to not say thank you and please?

Posted by KaleidoscopeOk2422@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 153 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Given that OP has answered other comments in this thread and has now deleted the post, I'm going to gather that it isn't their culture, it's "culture", as in an excuse so nobody can argue with them.

Is it rude to not say thank you and please?

Posted by KaleidoscopeOk2422@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 153 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I'm not meaning to sound judgemental. I know some cultures think it's rude to say please/thank you to close family members because it's insulting. Others bow their heads to show gratitude.

Is it rude to not say thank you and please?

Posted by KaleidoscopeOk2422@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 153 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

What's in your culture that stops you saying please and thank you?

Is it rude to not say thank you and please?

Posted by KaleidoscopeOk2422@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 153 comments

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I think it's a massive show of character that you don't say please or thank you when you're asking people to do their job. For me, it *does* say you're a rude person, because you think they're beneath you to show them politeness and common decency.

In the UK, do you think University and degrees are worth it?

Posted by AccomplishedBug1797@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 238 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Anything with a direct career. For example, medicine will get you into medicine. Avoid anything with transferrable skills that don't have a direct career, for example anything English related. I did English Lang and ended up doing a Level 3 (GCSE level!) apprenticeship in marketing.

If you're married, when did your parents meet your in-laws?

Posted by summers_tilly@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 179 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Was waiting for a comment like this, I met my partner's mum on our first date because he still lived with her at the time. I saw her 3+ times a week for over 3 years!

Is it justified to be offended by my cousin not inviting my wife to her wedding?

Posted by Jeremys_Iron_@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 209 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Little bit sensitive but sure

Is it justified to be offended by my cousin not inviting my wife to her wedding?

Posted by Jeremys_Iron_@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 209 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I'm chilled lol I'm just asking a question.

Is it justified to be offended by my cousin not inviting my wife to her wedding?

Posted by Jeremys_Iron_@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 209 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Okay and?? What's your point?? If the point is that OP's cousin needs to bolster numbers, what's their excuse for not inviting the wife?

Is it justified to be offended by my cousin not inviting my wife to her wedding?

Posted by Jeremys_Iron_@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 209 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I mean, they're important enough to be invited to the wedding in the first place.

Is it justified to be offended by my cousin not inviting my wife to her wedding?

Posted by Jeremys_Iron_@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 209 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

It's not about being separate people. Weddings are meant to be family occasions. Being married to someone means you are part of a family. OP's wife not being invited suggests to me that the bride/groom don't extend that feeling towards OP's wife - they don't consider her part of the family enough to be invited to a family occasion. That is 100% going to be hurtful.

Is it justified to be offended by my cousin not inviting my wife to her wedding?

Posted by Jeremys_Iron_@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 209 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

This exactly. Marriage is meant to be the invitation of joining a family. OP is family so, so is the wife by definition. I can understand OP 100%. As you say, boyfriend/girlfriend is different.

What are some non-tacky fathers day gifts?

Posted by No_Oven_7267@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 25 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I'm getting my grandad a tin full of all his favourite snacks.

Should I stay awake or go to sleep for a few hours?

Posted by melancholyy-scorpio@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 42 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit (OP)

Because why not? You've spent so much time commenting when you could've just scrolled past. Heaven forbid someone asks a silly question, fucking hell.

Should I stay awake or go to sleep for a few hours?

Posted by melancholyy-scorpio@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 42 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit (OP)

Perfectly capable thanks? More just prompting discussion.

Should I stay awake or go to sleep for a few hours?

Posted by melancholyy-scorpio@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 42 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit (OP)

Should I stay awake or go to sleep for a few hours?

Posted by melancholyy-scorpio@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 42 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit (OP)

Because that's what Reddit is for, stranger. Can't go before or after because he'll get unsettled because it's out of his routine.

Should I stay awake or go to sleep for a few hours?

Posted by melancholyy-scorpio@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 42 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit (OP)

Yes which is why I can't go later. He'll also be unsettled if I go now, grandparents are wanting some kip before they leave, so I'm getting there about half an hour before they go.

Would you retire if won a really big prize on the Euromillions?

Posted by Sad-Passage-3247@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 518 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

He is, I'm very lucky ☺️ It wouldn't take him long before he'd be tinkering or offering to do things for other people.

Would you retire if won a really big prize on the Euromillions?

Posted by Sad-Passage-3247@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 518 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

My boyfriend can't sit still. He always says he'd continue to go to work (mechanic) but lower his days and do passion projects as you say. I fully believe he wouldn't last the week without being extremely bored and desperate to go back to work.

What is your opinion of charities (in general)? Do you support any?

Posted by SquiglySaws@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 62 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I don't have any problem with charities apart from those who spend their time blocking entrances/exits and checkouts begging for your time and generally making life more difficult.

Why so much hostility towards AC?

Posted by Main_Masterpiece8414@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 302 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I think it possibly comes from a place of ignorance / not wanting to admit that it's getting worse. All over X, it's full of people saying "back in my day this would be a lovely summer's day." *It's spring* and we're already breaking records. It's not a lovely summer's day, it's a sign of things to come. People just don't want to admit it.

Why so much hostility towards AC?

Posted by Main_Masterpiece8414@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 302 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I'm currently not in the position to install AC - renting - however it is 100% a conversation I've had with my partner about doing when we get on the housing ladder and find our "forever home". It doesn't take a genius to see that these hot days are becoming a lot more common, and will continue to do so. A little bit of forward planning goes a long way and I'd rather be prepared. It seems like the type of purchase that you will never complain about spending the money on when it's 30-40° outside and you otherwise wouldn't sleep, even if that's just 1 day a year (unlikely). Maybe it is an investment, but a worthwhile one surely?

Why don't we have air conditioning on our public transport?

Posted by Fun_Yogurtcloset1012@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 63 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Absolutely. Went to London in October and realised the tube was like travelling in the depths of hell, hated every second of it. My bus is boiling anytime it goes over 20 degrees. My car's air con is always on low. It absolutely wouldn't just be used on the hottest days of the year.

How to tan as someone who is very pale?

Posted by Unusual_Trainer_2546@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 73 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Whatever you do OP, DO NOT use sunbeds or any sort of tanning substance that you have to ingest, including nasal sprays, drops and tablets - [they are not safe](https://www.cancerresearchuk.org/about-cancer/causes-of-cancer/sun-uv-and-cancer/fake-tan-and-melanotan-injections).

Has anyone else experienced “work PTSD” after a toxic job?

Posted by LostinLondon25@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 53 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Working in a call centre (sales) did that for me. We were customer's first point of contact because they couldnt get through to other departments. They would call raging at us, and when we also couldnt get hold of other departments, they would take it out on us. Also being micromanaged and every call tracked, every mistake scrutinised and penalised. Stressful times, the commission wasn't worth it. Hated that job.

Is there any useful things to know for somebody considering bankruptcy?

Posted by joefromreddit@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 12 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

r/personalfinanceuk are brilliant for questions like this.

Can I get financial support leaving an abusive household?

Posted by NumerousPickle6207@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 15 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

The only thing I personally know of is Universal Credit but this will very much depend on your salary. https://benefits-calculator.turn2us.org.uk Someone else may have an idea about other support on offer!

People that get the bus do you get up before the bus stops when you want to get off?

Posted by Itsalladeepend@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 77 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I don't. I don't trust my balance enough to not make a tit of myself.

Travelling vs Saving in early 20s, what would you do?

Posted by ar2002-@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 152 comments

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I want to add that it 100% depends on your living situation too. I'm 23, and as much as I really want to travel, my home life with my Mum is extremely toxic and emotionally abusive. I have no life or freedom to do whatever I want because of her. So me and my long term partner are saving to move out together, and will plan holidays once that's done. There would be absolutely no point me going abroad and spending all my savings on a 3-6 month holiday if I've got to come back home after it. That would completely wreck my mental health and I would absolutely rather wait.

Please can I have recommendations on where to buy the perfect comfy bra for small boobs?

Posted by Ok_Requirement_7489@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 90 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

M&S are always really good for bras!

Is anyone put off by the increasing child-friendliness of a lot of attractions around the country?

Posted by not-much@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 163 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I think general disdain for children is becoming extremely more common nowadays. Kids just existing seems to be a source of irritation and disrespect for a lot of people, sometimes even when they're literally just minding their own business. We should have adult-only places / times (holiday resorts, bars, restaurants mainly) just like we have child-friendly areas / times (cinemas etc.) but I don't think National Trust areas should be one of these places. Areas of natural beauty and education should be for all.

Is my wife odd?

Posted by Healthy-Two-5047@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 317 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I have a few words i dont like. Most recently, "lug" 🤮🤮

What can be a good memorable gift for a special achievement?

Posted by Easterling_1093@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 34 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

For something like this I'd always suggest a watch. You can get some nice watches for your budget, it's a nice sentimental gift and can be engraved to be more personal.

Would you retire on £400 a week if you had no bills except utilities?

Posted by RS_Phil@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 551 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Considering this is more than I currently receive now (apprenticeship) yes I absolutely would.

Were you hit as a child by your parents/carers?

Posted by don__gately@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 338 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

If you have to hit a defenceless child to teach them right from wrong then you are a bad parent and a bad teacher. Assault has no place in disciplining / punishing children. Consequences and punishment, yes, but not assault. You wouldn't hit a dog for bad behaviour. You wouldn't hit an adult for being unruly, disobedient or rude. Your logic is deeply flawed.

Were you hit as a child by your parents/carers?

Posted by don__gately@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 338 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Born early 2000s, never smacked. My brother was mid 90s, he was never smacked either. My Mum and her two brothers were born in the 70s and my grandparents never smacked them. I'm now realising they must be in the minority in their generation.

What question is guaranteed to get loads of replies ... but none that actually answer it?

Posted by mrsilver76@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 160 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

10/10 response no notes

What question is guaranteed to get loads of replies ... but none that actually answer it?

Posted by mrsilver76@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 160 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Alternatively - *Skim reads* Here's a question or advice you've already tried and spoken about in your post.

What question is guaranteed to get loads of replies ... but none that actually answer it?

Posted by mrsilver76@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 160 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Yes, I feel like this is absolutely a wider Reddit problem. Anytime anyone expresses any difficulty, any situation which makes things tense or difficult, or anything that needs challenging or work, it's always breakup or divorce.

Do you take a number 2 in your hotel room or lobby?

Posted by lxlviperlxl@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 350 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

This is such a funny and British question lol. Ill only ever go for a shit in public if I'm really desperate. As a child of someone with Crohn's disease I should absolutely know better to not be embarrassed about it, but alas, I can only shit in a bathroom that is my own, even temporarily. (And as long as my boyfriend cant hear me!)

What’s the most British sentence you’ve said this week?

Posted by astralabscouk@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 43 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

I've had a pay rise but I'm being taxed more so I've actually had a pay cut!

Why do certain people on Instagram seem to be on holiday after holiday?

Posted by Turbulent-Access-916@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 262 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

If only it was that easy lol.

Why do certain people on Instagram seem to be on holiday after holiday?

Posted by Turbulent-Access-916@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 262 comments

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melancholyy-scorpio@reddit

Curiosity is fun, and it sounds like that's all OP is doing. When it crosses the line to comparison, like it did me, coming off social media is definitely essential for the ol' mental health.