Carinwe_Lysa

Would you retire if won a really big prize on the Euromillions?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

If I won say 1 million I'd continue working as normal, but I'd absolutely find a forever house in my local region & pay it off entirely in the short term. Pay off my car, give my close family who I love some money to let them have a great holiday/pay off debts etc, but then I'd let the left overs just stew slowly earning interest for the most part. If I won mega money into the multi-millions I'd retire, but still wouldn't go stupid. I like my life as it is, I'd do some more adventurous holidays and treat myself to better things, but I'd certainly be looking to make it grow & last a lifetime.

What are common misconceptions people could benefit from understanding?

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That reddit is a very small slice and is a miniscule amount of people compared to the wider world. I regularly see posts that hit 10-20k upvotes with a couple thousand comments all seeming to agree or dislike a specific thing, and think wow this must be incredibly popular. But then realise my middle of nowhere town has a higher population than the majority of involvement these posts get. In the context of a wider world, reddit isn't even registered as a drop in the ocean. You see it on gaming subreddits where a particular game is getting negative reviews or people are boycotting a product, and can't help but think you're not even making a noticeable blip for the developer or product owner. For every 1000 people "fighting the good fight" on reddit for example, there'll be tens of thousands not even remotely aware of what's happening.

Do you personally know a bad person who never got their comeuppance?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

While I was never bullied, all the scrotes in secondary school have pretty much turned out to have far more successful lifes compared to me. In well paid positions, with some owning their own companies. Mostly married with genuinely beautiful partners, most of which have kids & own their own homes etc. I had the misfortunte of bumping into a couple of them abroad of all places and they still have that same mentality/personality they had at 16.

Why is the news being so dramatic about the heat wave?

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I think its because its a bank holiday mixed with the fact that its not even summer yet, and we're already getting temps of 25-30+ in most of the country. May should still only be 13-17c for the most part, mixed with sun & roughly half a months worth of rain for the final topping up of the resevoirs before the actual summer hits. Its worrying that we're already at this temperature now... I dread to think what July/August are going to be like.

UK Heatwaves - do you love them or loathe them?

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Loved them living in my old house as I used to sit out in the garden, headphones on reading a book in privacy etc. But now living in a flat where there's no outdoor seating area & there's no nearby parks.

What’s the worst thing you have seen/got detention at school for?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

I was a pleasant kid in school, always had good results & nobody had anything bad to say about me - pretty much stuck to my small friend group and focused in lessons etc. Two still stick out in my mind! First time during a music class some of the boys who were always causing distrations were flicking pencils and throwing rubbers at each other, and one of them landed on my desk as the teacher turned around... I was the one who got shouted at, told the leave the class & put on detention lol. The deputy head of year was the one who held detention, and as I walked in even said why are you even here, so I told them what had happened and he more or less facepalmed. Second one was 50/50 I guess. There was one boy who nobody liked going around trying to get a rise of others, and beelined to me, punched me since I was a "quiet one" but didn't expect me to lace him one back. He got a day detention, I got a weeks worth as they expected better than me. Its funny because if I hadn't have done it, the surrounding football lads were ready to give him a hiding for hitting somebody who "didn't fight". Though my Dad thought I did great and got me the new Call of Duty that weekend, so wasn't all that bad.

Do people actually earn £50-60k, or are they outliers?

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Funnily enough (living in the north) I only know of three people earning 50k+. One is an experienced graphite engineer, second is very senior in an office role in utility company & the last person is in a senior position in a university for counseling. Everyone else earns in the 30s for various office or junior roles elsewhere.

Have I become institutionalised to more ‘working class’ surroundings?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Think I'd prefer that to be honest. I grew up on a truly awful very large council estate where daily worries would be whether the local kids target your house on a whim for gathering outside/stealing stuff, whether the local fields behind our house would be set on fire during the summer holidays or if the local bike gang don't decide to use our cul-de-sac as their hideaway from the Police. The local kids quite literally roamed in packs looking to harass strangers & dogs roamed free because the owners never closed their gates. Most of the gardens were shiteheaps & litter was everywhere. Sure living there nothing ever happened personally to me outside of kids causing trouble, but there was still a worry in the back of my mind every time I walked home from work or went out on a weekend. If I needed anything within walking distance I'd go outside early hours before the local scrotes were awake. School holidays are still burned into my mind due to how much carnage the local teens caused. But when I was mid-20s I moved into a really lovely area with my partner and the difference in quality of life & mindset was so different. It felt safe at all hours, families would be on evening walks, lone people would be out running well into nightime. The gardens were maintained, the people were friendly if sometimes a bit cool in personality wishing to keep to themselves which suited us fine. I could sit in my garden at all hours without the sound of kids in the surrounding area swearing nonstop, or groups of teens walking past throwing items in the garden or hovering around to watch us until we went inside etc.

Single people with no WFH - how do you manage to do it all?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Usually just keep on top of things so nothing particularly takes a long time. I do a quick wipe around on an evening in the kitchen after eating, then on Sunday mornings I'll take 30 mins to vac the carpets, mop & dust etc. Literally within 30 minutes or so its all done, and I'll have my headphones on so time seems to fly by. I do my washing on Sundays in two lots using the quick-feature so its a 15-30 minute spin, then I put them on the drying rack in the bathroom + tumble dryer to soften. For cooking I usually swap between batch cooking for 2-3 nights, then the other nights I'll cook something that takes maybe 30-40 minutes overall, and I'll be in the shower while its cooking so not to waste time. I go shopping on Tuesday evenings and then Saturday mornings so I always have a nice overlap of items. Exercise I only do rowing on a machine at home, but its usually one night during the working week, and then Sunday mornings as I'm not a late sleeper. Most of my socialing is done on Saturdays or nights after work, and then once I'm home its an easy quick meal, shower, a couple hours up & then bed. I will say though, getting a dishwasher was perhaps my bigged quality of life purchase in years, I cannot stress enough how much easier and time saving this was, definitely my best purchase.

Who was the tightest person you have known,and why?

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One of my uncles used to charge interest on any money he'd lend to family members if they needed help. Regardless if it was just £10-20 to put in fuel (I'm talking a good 15-20 years ago) which would be paid back within hours, or whether it was something sizable to help out etc. Didn't matter whether it was any of his siblings, his kids or parents, he'd charge interest on everything. He was probably one of the most loaded in the family, but he always penny pinched even into retirement age. Only ever went on holiday to one specific place because it was cheap, he shilled it to the family so a few went away with them, and turns out it was completely away from any resemblence of a tourist spot, where there was a single restaurant and grocery store for miles around and nothing of any scenery to enjoy etc.

Who's still working from home these days and what job do you do?

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Project Manager, WFH 4-days with an optional 1-day in the office. Lottery as to whether I go in though, as nobody from my team usually bothers and I've been burned a few times traveling in only to see the entire space dead with maybe 10 people in an office of 60+. As the weather gets nicer I do enjoy going in though, I make a day of it and end up buying a nice lunch & go shopping afterwards.

What’s something that’s become noticeably more expensive in the UK recently, but people don’t talk about much?

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Food shopping seems to have gone up over the years, especially the last year for definite. My usual order has easily gone up by £10-15 in total for the same items, and that's with generally worse use-by dates. I'd also say takeaways as well, a few years ago it was something we'd buy in on a whim for lazy nights or bad days at work and roughly spend £15 for two people, plus small nibbles for the following day. Now it seems just ordering a single main each puts us to at least £18+. The side dishes seem to be priced the same as mains so for two people its easily costing £25+.

Does the stereotype about our teeth being bad bother you?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Not really, to be blunt it seems more like a complaint and/or drama that's mostly around being chronically online. Whether on reddit, youtube or other social media platforms, its nonstop "UK food bad" "US food unhealthy" and so on, so forth. But in real life, very few people care about what your teeth are like (unless they're outright rotting in plain view), or what type of food your country eats etc. The world is a big place, countries are varied with lots of people - its silly to even acknowledge the generic stereotypes which chronically online people throw about.

What could we do to improves the lives of young brits?

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Something I've wanted to know, but it is unique about the UK and there being a need for youth & social clubs to stop anti-social behaviour with kids & teenagers? Other countries in Europe are in similar situations with no youth programs or social clubs for local kids/teens, but their kids don't turn feral and have gangs of teens wandering around causing general anti-social behaviour. But in the UK it seems like the youth club line is the go-to for whenever talking about young people.

Fox is taking all the cats on my road, what can I do about that?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

That's quite surprising, usually they'll both try to avoid each other, but otherwise a healthy cat would 99/100 times win in a fight against one. Only chance a fox would have if it either outnumbers the cat, or if the cat is already in poor health or injured etc. But chances are, you probably hear the foxes fighting or calling each other - you'd definitely recognise the sound as its godawful. Foxes would usually be after rodents, birds and such, there's no need to even attempt fighting cats as food would be everywhere for them.

Coworker is astounded that the Artemis II launch isn't blowing everyones minds (that he's spoke to). Why do you think that is?

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I think it was pretty interesting and the shots from the crew and of the separation sequence were really cool as a space nerd. That said, outside of Reddit I've honestly not seen this anywhere because of the sheer amount of doom & gloom dominating every aspect of media at the moment (namely what's happening with Iran, Lebanon, the U.S in general etc).

To those who lost a parent young, what are some things you wish your surviving parent did for you growing up?

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My mum passed when I was 13, and my dad then passed when I was 26, so lost both of them pretty young. But to be honest, I have no complaints or wishes for things to be different in how my dad did things afterwards. He hid his own grief & pain well for my sake, and it wasn't until I was older was I told he was going through difficult times for the first year or so. He always put everything aside for my sake, and made sure all of my needs were taken care of before himself, and was always happy to chat about whatever I wanted, no questions asked. We were always the best of friends and to be honest I'd give anything for more time with the old man. I always loved being able to treat him well and see him enjoying himself after having difficult times once I started work, and now I'm in a far better place than I ever was when he was around, its just sad I'm not able to share it with him, or for him to see how much I've progressed in life. One thing I wish is that he didn't sell his wedding rings, but he needed to for money reasons in the first year.

Do you tip your barber, and how much?

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Do people still cook Sunday Dinner?.

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Living alone its probably once a month or so, and usually on a whim! If I'm walking around Tesco saturday morning and happen to find a nice joint or chicken on sale, I'd buy it for dinner and make a few meals out of it. I do enjoy being invited out to a carvery though, would happily have one every day if I could afford it!

As a kid did you get dragged to the pub?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Not really, my dad would go out every other Friday night with his friends and mum took the chance to watch TV shows and play board games with me, I loved it to be honest. When I turned 13 & mum passed away, my dad didn't go to the pub for a couple of years due to not wanting to leave me alone, until 15 or so, but I didn't mind at all as it meant I could play games all evening. He always left me £20 for a chinese before he went and just asked me to buy him something to munch on for when he was home, so it was a win-win.

Why are so many companies demanding people return to the office?

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Our company is moving office this autumn supposedly, and once again they're choosing an awful location. At the moment its in one of the usual industrial estates where everything is run down, there's no amenities around it & the roads are perma-standstill at all morning/evening rush hour times. What should take me an hour commute is often closer to two. Now they're moving to another business park even further away and its just baffling. The office space will be no larger than our current one, its even more awkward to get to and public transport is non-existant. I don't mind working in an office at all, but from the past year of going in once a week... its kinda pointless. All of the parents go home at 2-3PM for the school run. Some just leave early to beat the traffic and work over in the evening. A lot of the team live long-distance so they'll never come in, and even those which do come in its a lottery for attendance, and chances are just sit with headphones on all day. Again I don't mind it, but when my manager isn't giving us a good reason and she's one of the few who leave early, or is in meetings all day so we never see her, its pointless. Might as well save myself 3 hours commute daily, money on transport and gain some extra sleep, while my productivity is still high.

do you make any assumptions about people who live on a council estate?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Like a few others here, I also grew up on an extremely large and very poor council estate in the north of England. Now, growing up as a kid/teen it wasn't that bad as it seemed most kids just played football on the fields, there wasn't much drug dealing or theft etc, it was just generally rundown. But then it went through a period where every "good" household either died off or moved, and the replacement families were every negative stereotype about council estate households rolled into one. On most council estates there is terrible antisocial behaviour, lack of cleanliness and general disrepair that you absolutely wouldn't find on most regular privately owned streets. Social behaviours, the way children are left to wander the streets or play unsupervised are just the norm, again which you would rarely see elsewhere. As my dad used to say, you have kids bringing up kids as so many 16 year old girls out of school would be getting pregnant with their 18-20 year old boyfriend, it was just the sad norm. Where I lived the council estate was on one side of the dual-carriageway, and opposite were all of the nicer postal code areas. Those nicer areas had constant police on foot/car patrols, almost daily street cleaners, the trees and shrubbery on public footpaths were maintained regularly, the roads/paveements were all maintained and so on. Whereas the estate never had any Police patrols unless there was a call out, the roads had potholes that were literally craters, the pathways were all overgrown that you had to walk on the grass, litter was a common scene where bin collections hadn't occured and some kids or the wind would knock them over, and leave weeks worth of rubbish to get blown around. It was genuinely night and day. I've met some of the kindest people growing up and living on an estate, but I've also met some of the worst absolute scum you could imagine.

What's something about your life that is out of the ordinary?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Bit sadder, but both of my parents passed away by the time I was 25 and all of my grandparents passed before I was born. I've only ever met one other person around my age who lost a parent at a young age. I'm forever slightly bitter seeing people twice my age in their 50s and 60s who still have parents around, or people my age with large families across all generations including grand parents.

Men of Reddit - who uses shower gel ONLY?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

I've one tried that 5in1 stuff for my head & body wash but to be honest my scalp went really dry after a few days & there's no way in hell I'd trust that stuff on my face either. Usually its either Head & Shoulders or Dove shampoo, with Original Source for the body wash (either mint or rasperry & vanilla at the moment).

What's a decent, cost effective fix for teenagers being loud while gaming?

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I was the kid in the same scenario, except I used to get angry at the games. Only had to have my dad remind me he can hear every word I was saying, to show some respect and tone it down. It was a *very rare* day my dad was genuinely upset or disappointed in me, so that was often enough to make me rethink my choices aha. Plus if I knew I upset my old man in some way, I'd always break 15-30 minutes later and go downstairs and sit with him for a bit or make him a coffee to win some easy points lol. If I really tried to give him the silent treatment, he'd call me to come down and just calmly talk me through what I did wrong, have some thought for others etc - could never resist haha.

Why do you not talk to your once bestfriend anymore?

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Natural drift & we spoke less & less. For my best friend it was natural drift when life takes you in a different direction. They had a kid and naturally he had to devote all of his time to family life, but that really didn't bounce back (his friend group moved to being fellow parents from nursery groups etc). We spoke a few times but he seemed a completely different person after that, absolutely no connections or shared interests etc. It was genuinely sad to realise to be honest.

How are people surviving without employment?

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It scares me thinking about being unemployed and somehow still having to manage bills. The only time I've been unemployed in adulthood was when I was 19 out of college and still living at home. My Dad covered expenses of course, and there was the need for work to help him/pay my way as the Universal Credit payment was incredibly poor, but the pressure just wasn't there until it started getting to 4/5 months of no progress. It was depressing as I genuinely wanted to find work, but going to the Job Centre for my UC meetings was an experience. Security & most of the workers treated me like less than Human, it was only by sheer luck I had a genuinely lovely job coach who tried to get me onto these youth programs for some extra money & hopefully an entry interview after the period finished (it worked, and landed me my first job, she even had tears when I walked out of my final session). But now I'd have zero idea how to manage being unemployed while paying bills. Redundancy money can only go so far and it would be soul crushing to see what few savings I've built up be taken up within months of no work.

Has McDonald's in the UK become too expensive for many people?

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McD for me serves its purpose as being relatively consistent and can be found everywhere (like Greggs). Only difference is there's a few which are open 24-hours compared to Greggs usual business hours. If I'm out in the early hours and need breakfast, I know there's always going to be a McD open within a couple of miles etc.

How do married couples split finances if on different salaries?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Tendancy is I pay the bills and "main" weekly shopping on my card/banking details, and my partner then transfers her split of the outgoings. Same for any of her household purchases, I'll transfer my share of the costs over. Could it be easier with a joint account? Definitely. But its just something we've done for years and we're at that point where its preferred to just keep going as we are since it works.

What’s a bit of prominent Reddit vernacular that annoys you?

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How there's always conveniently a user who's a speciaist in whatever topic is being discussed within a post. I'll come across a post featuring "bullshit" as an example with users exchanging various points or information, and there's always without fail somebody who pipes up with "bullshitologist here!" and gives their response. Or there'll be some niche random project that was worked on years ago, and somebody will be like "oh, I worked on this" like I highly doubt that.

What’s a bit of prominent Reddit vernacular that annoys you?

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I remember a digital artist being banned from r/art a while ago, despite their art style & posts being older than when AI art first really kicked off in the last few years. The mods simply told them to change their style, it was quite sad to see somebodies genuine skill be degraded like that. Yeah just change how you've worked for the past decade.

What does it seem nuts now that we used to do?

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Renting movies & games. I loved finishing school, going to Blockbusters for a couple of movies and Xbox games for the weekend & buying some junk food on my way back on Fridays. Also I don't know if this happens anymore, but during the six week holidays I was out more or less from 9AM until turned 7-8PM every day playing football on the local fields, only going home for a quick 15 minute lunch break, then zooming back out, or going on bike rides around the local area. No clue if this is still the norm, but whenever I speak to colleagues or younger family members it seems most kids just stay indoors for the holidays, their parents are too protective of letting them roam even locally, or having friends over/going to friends is this herculean planning effort... Makes no wonder why social skills are genuinely dying off, as I was always meeting new people of varying types. Some were good, others you learned to keep at arms length etc, but it was still learning social skills.

At what age do most people in the UK actually move out of their parents’ home nowadays?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

I lived at home until I was 26 then moved out when I had a good opportunity come up. To be honest I really enjoyed it. I lived with my dad, and it was more like two best friends living together rather than a parent/child relationship. I was more than happy to contribute towards the running of the house as it helped my old man so he could have a higher quality of life, and it still left me enough to dump into savings. He was retired so was always pottering around the house, meanwhile I was WFH in an upstairs office. It was always nice to be able to pop downstairs for a chat or break, or have tea together after work and watch the football etc. We still had our social lives, he'd be going out on a Friday night with his old buddies & I'd be going out on a Saturday and not be home until early hours. My old man passed away a couple years after I moved sadly, but to be honest I really cherished living with him, and were he still around I'd have loved to have a few more years at home. I had the quality chance of spending time with him, the chance to put a lot into savings while also having more expenditure than I do now. For my friends, most of them still live at home into their late 20s, with a couple either with their partners or living at their parnets parents while saving. Its not embarrassing really, its just the realistic situation many people find themselves in.

Do you feel alone since 2020?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Yeah I feel this too. I'm turning 30 this year and for the most part my friend group is from college/uni but nobody has the time to meet up due to wildly different working hours or living some distance away. We all chat online most days, but there's a difference between chatting online through Whatsapp etc, to actually meeting up and going out to do something. But I feel otherwise its just not possible to make new friends all that easily. I'm not a social butterfly that can fit into every group, but I still enjoy going out to bars and weekend activities. But it seems everyone else is out in groups that're either too large to intergrate into (i.e you're not wanted), or its awkward to approach people on their own/small groups and nothing comes of it. I remember pre-Covid on nights out I'd be chatting to all sorts of people while waiting at the bar, or to different tables next to us etc, but after Covid that seems impossible now.

What things seem to be only big problems on reddit?

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The weird UK posts where somebody rants & raves how shite greggs is, how they've never eaten it in their entire life, how their local bakeries are 1000x better and so on. Makes me think somebody needs to get out more. For wider Reddit, I guess how aggressive, snarky & downright miserable some people are. Occasionally, I'll see posts where somebody is looking for support or advice etc. Instead of getting reasonable replies, they're being hammered with nonsensical, chronically online advice like: don’t talk to your coworkers, you don’t owe anyone conversation, call the police on your elderly neighbour, asking people out is creepy and so on.

Are there still adult men in the UK who don’t cook?

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What's the threshold for knowing how to cook though? Is it being able to throw together completely random ingredients in the cupboard and make it a safe & somewhat decent tasting meal completely from scratch. Or is it simply buying in some pre-seasoned chicken, heating that for 20 minutes in the over & putting some rice/vegetables in the microwave for 5 minutes. For me I can cook well defined meals (i.e sunday roast, cottage pie etc), but I'd struggle if somebody gave me a random number of raw ingredients and said make a meal from it.

Has anyone here reconnected with secondary school or sixth form friends after years?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

I'm 30 now and a few years ago some people from my secondary school arranged a reunion of sorts from our year group (we were 26-27 during this). To be honest for the most part I barely recognised anyone. Some people I spoke to daily during school I hardly recognised their appearance, whereas a few looked a spitting image of when they were 16 it was really uncanny haha. What hit me was most people had completely different personalities to what I remember; some mellowed out with having kids, others had gone from shy/quiet to extremely confident & outgoing. The people I was most looking forward to speak with I barely connected with as too much time had passed. But others who I didn't know too well I got along really well, and we even stayed in contact afterwards. I'm still close friends with a few people I made in sixth form, but to be honest my friends from secondary school stopped contact the moment we left.

If you lost a long-term friend as an adult, what was it about?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Two close friends for me. My closest friend had kids in their mid-20s like most people, and their life just moved in that direction. Meanwhile I was also in a relationship but we were childless so had more freetime as expected. Firstly they had less time for socialising with our friend group due to childcare stuff, then their friendships moved more into fellow parents from nursery/school. Our contact from there slowly dwindled into nothing except the odd birthday/Christmas whatsapp message. Its a shame to be honest as were close friends from the first day of primary school right until a few months after their first kid. I understand the reasons, but its still sad to experience. The second person was due to their lifestyle becoming much more "higher end" for a lack of a better term. They got into a very high paid job that had tons of networking with similar aged and very confident/outgoing well-off people, slowly their lifestyle changed to match their peers and more or less stopped taking to us since. They found new friends who shared their interests/hobbies at that level and there was no connection or similararity to us anymore to be honest. Again I'm happy for them, but its clear there's little in common now seeing the kinds of trips, or the amazing scale of weddings they regularly attend, we'd be bankrupt trying to keep up with it.

What was your worst impulse buy of 2025?

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£60 on a gacha game, I never felt as stupid and put a stop to it since then. I've played a couple for some years and never spent a penny on them, but around early December they had some sales on that piqued my interest. When the purchase went through, reality hit me and though hell no I'm not falling further into this trap. Also a Switch 2 which I used for the first few weeks and haven't touched it since.

Winter in the UK means I’m spending 20 hours a day in bed. I can’t be the only one who lives like this?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Don't think I've ever been able to work in bed. I've tried it a few times lying down on the sofa, and it was uncomfortable as hell. Rarely I'd have a day laid in bed binge watching TV shows, but I'd never be able to do it working. Now I either put the heating on, or just wrap up in a cozy hoodie, joggers & thick socks.

What's the single most difficult life experience you've endured?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Losing both parents before even hitting 30 to be honest. Mum passed when I was 13 and I guess I was young enough & surrounded by a large family to "move on" quickly and still had my dad. But when I was 26 my old man passed away while I was holding his hand from lung cancer which was an awful experience which I can't even put into words. Seeing my dad who I've always known to be intelligent, big & stronger than I'll ever be slowly get worse over two years, his mind slowly slipping from the sheer amount of medication he was taking, to towards the end just saying he wanted to die instead of lingering in pain for no reason. He loved reading & doing crosswords, and I knew in the final few weeks when he'd have a book next to him permanently marked on the same page, and his hand writing was going from normal > scrawly > not being able to write coherently it would be soon. Makes it worse is that he sailed through the first chemo treatment with minimal downsides, didn't even lose his hair and the cancer was reduced by 70-80% but due to complications, he couldn't have the radiotherapy to finish it off and it quickly grew back over a year. What honestly makes me sad though is in his last week he wanted to see his best friends who were out of country at the time & had no options to return early. Lifes shit at times.

Is ordering pizza worth it anymore?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

For Pizza's now I tend to just go to Tesco and grab a couple of their branded finest ones for £5.00 each plus whatever sides I fancy. No matter the takeaway type now, it seems ordering for two people always approaches £30 or above and it just isn't worth the money, unless there's a few people chipping in for football night where we order a mix to share between everyone etc.

Is ordering pizza worth it anymore?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Similar to the posts where users shit on Greggs for some reason. Best part is when they state they've never eaten anything from greggs in their entire lives, like ok sure thing mate.

What do you do when you receive a supermarket delivery?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

I usually carry two massive bags for life to the door, then just unload the crates into the bags before handing them back to the delivery driver. Takes maybe 1 minute at most overall, unless we start chatting. I've once tried taking the crates into the kitchen to unpack, but it was far more faffy & time consuming.

For anyone that has deleted their social media accounts, do you feel isolated at all?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

While not deleted, I haven't actively used my Facebook account for about 6-7 years now, and I haven't used other social media like Insta, snapchat or Tiktok etc. I still keep WhatsApp & there's Reddit of course, but Reddit's more of a forum than anything. The one thing I had noticed is that social settings are funny now. I'll be sat there happily chatting away, meanwhile there's always people constantly snapping pics for instagram. Or if somebody goes abroad, they'll always have to upload every photo they took for the world to see. I don't mind it and if they enjoy that then who cares, I just don't really "get it" or see the appeal seeing as I've never been in that mindset.

Are teenagers just not learning to drive anymore?

Posted by MichealHarwood@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 1161 comments

Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Its more less wanting to learn how to drive and more not seeing the point when there's such a massive backlog for tests. Why spend so much money when you won't be able to take your test for 9-12+ months in most cases and more than likely fail it. I know some people in their 20s who didn't have the chance to take them when they were younger due to finances, and now despite having taken all of the lessons, they're still unable to actually get a test booked. So they're stuck booking in an odd lesson every week or two just to keep themselves familiar until their test comes about which is such a money sink.

Men, do you have somewhere to escape and decompress from life that isn't the pub? If so, where?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Gaming is one of my best escapisms. Nip to the supermarket for some food & drinks after work, get changed into my pajamas and I can quite easily sit gaming with a headset on and lose track of the entire night. Gaming definitely got me through some rough times when dealing with life stress & loss, even the more basic games like Minecraft I would happily play for hours to escape from the world.

How to fight in ‘hell’: Ukraine veterans say Nato not ready for war with Russia

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

The problem is most NATO militaries have been restructured around fighting small numbers of men with AK's in the mountains for decades, rather than peer countries with fullscale capabilities. Most countries in NATO possess low number of heavy armour, artillery and so on and have very little method to replace losses, to the point losses have never been factored into planning. Always assuming overwhelming air support would be available instantly. Most countries would only be able to fight intensely for maybe a week or two at most, and not even at the scale Ukraine & Russia have been experiencing, and would be racking up irreplaceable losses that would cripple their militaries within weeks, if not days. For example, France has 100ish CAESAR units, the UK has around 227 (150 active) Challenger 2s which will be reduced to 148 Challenger 3's after upgrades. These are quite literally a drop in the ocean when compared to the losses both Ukraine & Russia have experienced. They weren't ordered with fighting against another country in mind, maybe shipping a small batch off as a token force in the Baltics or fighting off some insurgents in the Middle East or Africa. I remember when NATO countries were helping Israel against drones and the way they were reacting about shooting down a few drones being this incredibly intensive operation makes me think most NATO countries would fold instantly. But I guess all the cool high-tec pictures makes for good PR.

Why is poutine not more popular here?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

I think its because cheese curds aren't really all that popular or common here. They're difficult to come by unless you order online from specific retailors, or live local to a dairy farm that happens to have an onsite shop. Plus, the prices are often quite high too due to how uncommon it is! Its a shame as fresh squeeky curds are great as a snack or when added to food, but they lose their freshness/iconic squeek very quickly within 1-2 days. That said, making knock-off poutine with just cheese still tastes really good, but its not the same haha.

Would you sign up for bread delivery to your door?

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Carinwe_Lysa@reddit

Probably not to be honest. I live 5 minutes walk from a large Lidl that has a massive bakery, and a smaller Morrisons etc. Seems easier & cheaper to go to the shops at my leisure and buy fresh often good quality bread, rather than being up at early hours for the off-chance I'm sold a stale loaf from yesterdays batch etc. Not to mention I doubt the vendor would make much money doing deliveries to individual houses, they'd probably make more bank setting up a van outside a hospital or large building site.