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Also for sneakers you can’t go wrong with Vans slip-ons!

Embrace the slip-ons and loafers! I’m actually in the process of adjusting my (mostly black goth-ish) wardrobe to accommodate more compression socks, and adding loafers into the mix because I love to travel and any slip-ons are the only shoes I can stand throughout a flight these days.

Related: I look forward to wheeling around in the nursing home with bed head while Depeche Mode plays on the institutional sound system.

I just assumed we were all moving into shopping mall communities, no?

Acne extractions 😂. They’re very soothing and I doze off in minutes.

Lotion, saline nasal spray, ipad (for falling asleep to extraction videos lol), chamomile tea, back scratcher, nail file, lip balm, kleenex

The socks and ice are fine but you’re a monster for eating in bed.

I was about 10 and REALLY wanted to watch it based on the HBO previews (because cavepeople!!) and my parents finally let me watch it by myself at the neighbors since we were looking in on their place. I remember I was also assembling my Visible Woman anatomy figure at the same time. Later on I figured out why they preferred not to watch it with me. 😂

The Possession of Joel Delaney

My 14-year-old nephew bought a Golden Girls sweatshirt and loves it!

Simon and Simon has one of the most ear wormiest theme songs in history!

YESSSS!!!

I rewatched a bunch of episodes several years ago, and a lot of them are relevant today. My favorite is the “Deities” episode with the religious cult uploading deceased loved ones’ souls into their cloud but at too low of a resolution. 😭

The theory is Sex & the City is actually a continuation of Square Pegs!

Also since you’re 16 I can’t provide examples but come back in 2 years and I’ll tell you stories. On a more serious note, in some ways this era was preferable because it comprised people who were interested in tech as opposed to…everyone. Nerdy men more often regarded women as their peers, but once all the “normies” jumped in there was increasing dismissiveness and sometimes even hostility toward women. I now see this cycle through every several years, and in my experience so far with Gen Z men they seem to be on the right track as far as how they regard women, and understand the sensibility of Gex X. I had a Gen Z student submit a VR assignment, and within his landscape he included a Rickroll! I gave him all the bonus points. 😊

“Dot com” office environments were WILD and might require their own chapter. 🤣

I wonder if part of that is “oh I’m not quite feeling like going out but they’re local so I’ll get to see them.” I’ve done that, especially living in NYC because you know they will be back. A few years ago I saw The Soft Moon on the last tour and then not long afterward Luis Vasquez passed away. I was thankful to have seen that final show, and now I make every effort to see bands I love even if I’m low on energy.

I took my mom to see Nirvana opening for Dinosaur Jr!

I didn’t necessarily care about PF and would never would have otherwise sought out tickets, but I was with some school friends in Köln in 1989 and one of them had the idea to get last-minute tickets to that show on the tour. It was INCREDIBLE. And…this was in spring of ‘89, so I saw them in WEST Germany. :)

I can imagine a Jimmy Kimmel-style prank scenario in which all the chocolate is carefully replaced with carob and the kids are confused and traumatized.

I miss these! Apparently they stopped production in 2022.

I still eat salted soy nuts!

My mom would send me to school with peanut butter and alfalfa sprout sandwiches.

I started drinking coffee around 10, and my mom would try to get me to substitute Postum 🤣

What’s the statute of limitations for this heinous crime??

It’s a wedding in the Philly region and they didn’t book the Mütter Miseum?? What a squandered opportunity!!

I just felt very tired/weary as if I was starting to be sick, but was just fine about 1.5 days later. It was the same if not slightly less for the second shot. I describe both to others as “kind of kicking my ass.” But def not terrible!

My friends and I would find that hilarious! My only rule is no punching down.

My friends and I always joke how Depeche Mode will be playing for low-impact aerobics or on background speakers as we’re wheeled around in chairs with our bed cowlicks.

Nuxe

A big bag of cereal marshmallows (no pesky cereal pieces to move aside)!

The silly ones don’t bother me. I can’t deal with the therapy-speak or other phrases that make younger people sound like kids playing grown-ups: I hold space for you BOUNDARIES dating with intention Toxic TEA Narcissistic Honestly/to be honest

I’m in a certain women’s group and they often say seggs. They tend to be on the younger and / or normie side, so they would spawn blank thought bubbles if I explained why it makes me think of Edie the Egg Lady in Pink Flamingos, or just some traumatizing sex with smashed hard boiled eggs.

I’m in my early 50s and feel the same. Since I’ve lived in NYC apartments for the last 30 years this feeling may be even more entrenched. To make things even more confusing, my neighborhood has transformed from an environment with immigrants, industrial lofts, and plentiful music / dance venues to a glass tower-dominant landscape. This has attracted people in their 30s who live in athleisure wear and carry golf clubs. The other new demographic look as if they stepped out of a Getty stock photo search using the term “wellness”(obviously I could move further out where my taste would be more aligned with the surroundings, but I have a great deal despite the gentrification around me). All I can do is hang on!

I notice stylists in film and TV sometimes come close but as far as I can see no one has truly nailed ‘80s hair on set!

Started in peri, solidified in menopause

Not at all…this is the dream! Even better would be separate residences and we take turns at both when we aren’t alone.

Although I do have to prepare for calls even with loved ones, I’ll put off a task that involves a stranger phone conversation for days, even weeks. The latter generally involves an exchange of information, and I’ll do ANYTHING to avoid having to spell out my street address and a series of account, DOB, etc numbers several times (just to make sure they have correctly recorded it!). Then you’re put on hold and you can’t really do anything else because what if you’re not paying attention and accidentally drop the call, then you risk enduring another round of a phone tree! Or, you ask about making an appointment and they just rattle off some random dates and act surprised you can’t immediately pick one without carefully consulting your calendars. Perhaps you’re trying to rectify an issue, and in addition to the tediousness of the call itself you’re stressing out about an answer that will frustrate you even more.

I really have to schedule a block time ahead of the occasion maybe because I know I have to really focus on the call itself.

Only in the PNW!

None!

I’ve kept my bangs in various forms (now curly), but also I don’t yet need Botox. 😊

I know that everyone varies in how their bodies respond to certain treatments, and it’s really frustrating! As far as weight can estrogen is “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” since est regulates metabolism via the hypothalamus, but it also can draw the fat toward the stomach area. And with testosterone, a certain amount will always aromatize into more estrogen which varies according to factors such as age, body mass, etc. I wonder if the pellet testosterone aromatization in your case disproportionately increased your estrogen based on your physical characteristics? Given the still relative lack of research in this area, I think many of us are still on a troubleshooting “journey,” and we may just need to figure out what works for each of us individually. I’m curious about how I might fare with the pellet so I definitely want to at least try it. I met with my doc yesterday and once again lamented the libido issue, and she said “that will require testosterone.” The only reason I haven’t asked for a cream is that she is already very liberal about her meno / anti-aging approach, and will give me anything I need (also offers overlap adhd meds if my psych isn’t available), so I don’t want to push her. I know I’ll have to at least try the pellet, and if it doesn’t work overall I can discuss other possible testosterone options.

What about the pellet? It includes testosterone and that’s my next step.

And even when on HRT the new estrogen may not make you overly accommodating unlike the “original.” A comment in another discussion accurately describes the estrogen of your past as “beer goggles,” and when removed you realize how much bullshit you’ve tolerated up until the present.

In addition to both partners’ hormones, I just don’t think it’s reasonable to expect compatibility for the duration of your lives. If it happens, awesome! Otherwise, why not find someone who is more appropriate for the person you have become?

My void is not unpleasant, but I hear and acknowledge yours! Hang in there. ❤️

My friend got me an A24 membership for my birthday, and when they drop their new release free tickets I now treasure my new Saturday afternoon so matinees!

RELIGIOUSLY CONSISTENT

We didn’t have one where I lived in the ‘80s, but did receive the catalog for years before I finally stepped foot into a store when I was about 16 or 17. One thing that stood out to me and I truly appreciated was that they made cute underwire (“adult”) bras for A cups. Every other department store line started at a B cup, and I finally felt seen!