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Honestly, I’d start treating this like a strategic exit plan rather than waiting until you’re forced into a crisis. The advantage you and your brother have is that there are two of you. You can split costs, support each other, and plan together. First, start building income. Don’t just “look for a job” and wait. Look at things like TaskRabbit, Fiverr, tutoring, dog walking, delivery work, restaurant work, warehouse work, retail work, whatever is realistically available in your area. The goal isn’t a dream career right now; it’s creating options and building savings. Second, work out what independence actually costs. Start looking at rooms, house shares, student accommodation, transport costs, food costs, and bills. Once you know roughly what rent costs where you want to live, you’ll have a target to work towards instead of just hoping things work out. Third, use the freedom you already have wisely. If your parents are happy for you to go to church, Bible study, the library, study groups, etc., use that time productively. Libraries have free computers, internet access, CV support, printing, and job-search resources. If you’re “going to study”, spend part of that time applying for jobs, researching accommodation, building skills, and preparing for independence. You don’t have to tell everyone every detail of every step you’re taking. If someone is actively trying to prevent you from becoming financially independent, there is nothing wrong with keeping your plans private until they’re secure. I’d also think seriously about university, apprenticeships, or vocational training. If you do go down that route, choose something you’re genuinely interested in that also gives you employable skills. Whether that’s engineering, IT, construction, healthcare, accounting, or something else entirely, education can be both a qualification and a route out. One thing I haven’t seen mentioned is that you need to protect your mental state as well. Living under constant control, criticism, or the threat of being kicked out can make people act impulsively because they’re exhausted and frustrated. Don’t underestimate that. Create some kind of space for yourself, whether that’s reading, working out, running, going for long walks, journalling, learning a skill, chopping wood, going to the gym, or anything else that lets you release pressure in a healthy way. You’re going to need patience and tolerance. The goal is not to win every argument or prove a point. The goal is to get yourself into a position where you no longer depend on people who can control your future. Most importantly: don’t rush. A lot of people leave difficult home situations too early and end up struggling because they had no money and no plan. Spend the next few months quietly building savings, income, skills, and options. Patience and strategy will get you much further than acting out of frustration. The goal isn’t just leaving home. The goal is leaving and not having to come back.

Women who run with wolves, laws of human nature, Mastery

Lifting weight and eat 3 well spaced meals with at least 30g of protein. It could be a salad with added protein or add healthy carbs like potatoes, quinoa, plantains…10k steps at least 5 times a week and seriously underrated but at least 7 hours of sleep

I’m curious as to why you don’t want to get involve even though you know what’s happening is wrong and could likely end badly for your colleague🤔? If the roles were reversed what would you want a colleague to do for you?

Seek a therapist to find out what happened/ is happening. Are you able to have open conversations with him?

It’s gone tits up

can you not cremate them? maybe it is cheaper