HOW WOMEN IN UK ARE SO KIND?

Posted by Kawwaal0067@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 1032 comments

Hey everyone I've been traveling to many places around the world. And when it's to Europe I do always hear that Spanish and Italian women are the prettiest. It might be true and might be not. But when I was in UK this last month I've been totally surprised British women are gorgeous, beautiful , Always smiling and saying nice words like "good morning" "How are you doing " "have a nice day " I did notice it among old women and girls my age too and that made me so happy and wanting to come back to UK just to make some friends and meet some new people. Because my journey there was with 3 friends from London it was a wonderful road trip from London to Edinburgh. Thank you

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Unique_Border3278@reddit

I can confirm women in England arent all gorgeous, beautiful and always smiling.

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bons_burgers_252@reddit

Everyone in the world is beautiful given the right beholder and the right circumstances. How often have you met someone who wasn’t immediately physically attractive to you but, when you get to know them and see that they are a good, kind and caring person, you start to see their physically appearance differently? It might just me but this seems to happen to me a lot.

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Educational_Cow111@reddit

Yes

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Unique_Border3278@reddit

The crackhead that rides the scooter down the hill I see everyday for sure won’t fit any of this

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LetsLive97@reddit

Speak for yourself 😍

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Unique_Border3278@reddit

Last time I checked I don’t ride a scooter down a hill while doing crack

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middlelayerzone@reddit

Ewzies

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SpezCockknocker@reddit

It's almost like the internet perpetuates exaggerated, false sweeping generalisations of people and it quickly turns into bullshit. Thankfully the internet isnt reflective of the real world.

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Odd-Row1169@reddit

[The right beholder](https://static.wikia.nocookie.net/forgottenrealms/images/2/2c/Monster_Manual_5e_-_Beholder_-_p28.jpg/revision/latest?cb=20200313153220)

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Ford601@reddit

Yes, and that accent is like catnip to anyone from the US [ at least me]. FYI, I dated a beautiful English girl for year. We had nothing in common, I just wanted hear her talk.

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---x__x---@reddit

Huh I’m a Brit living in the US and I much prefer American accents on women. especially southern accents.

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Ford601@reddit

Too funny! I am from the Southern part of the USA. I guess we all want what we weren't raised with. Cheers.

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SolidCroft@reddit

I think Southern US is in the top three of womens accents

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Agile_Vast9019@reddit

Thick of makeup, fake tan, eyebrows painted on, bleached blonde hair tied back, lips like hotdogs. Beer gut and a young child with no father.

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DefNotReaves@reddit

Mate that’s just a chav. Not every woman in England is a chav lol maybe stop picking up your women at Slug & Lettuce.

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Fiyenyaa@reddit

Isn't it odd how over 30 million people fit this extremely narrow-minded caricature you've drawn of them?

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Agile_Vast9019@reddit

Ye ever seen an English woman? Stinking.

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apeternier@reddit

Well obviously things are going to be different for everyone.

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Gloomy_Custard_3914@reddit

Yeah i feel OP hasn't been to the midlands lol

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pengaiwo424@reddit

If they would have been there, they would realise that it's not the case.

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thirdbrother3@reddit

I live 7 miles from the point (coton in the elms) that's furthest from the sea. Couldn't be more 'mid'land. I like to think I'm friendly.

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Zaphyn@reddit

Ouch! Hahaha

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toocoolforcovid@reddit

I thought the Midlands was just that place the trains ran through to get to the places south of Watford.

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FreudianWombat@reddit

DMZ between Yorkshire and London

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toocoolforcovid@reddit

Do people even live there?

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mr-no-life@reddit

Not “people”.

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Usual-Reputation4916@reddit

People in the midlands are typically friendly!

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Rude_Macaroon3741@reddit

Maybe not all over but I moved to London from DC in June and was surprised by how beautiful and pretty the women are. Honestly, they are out shining the men I’ve seen around town.

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littlenerpa@reddit

I feel like London is in its own bubble compared to the rest of the country. Like it ain’t Wigan y know.

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panserstrek@reddit

In my honest opinion you see more good looking women outside of London than what you do inside London. Manchester has the most beautiful women in the UK in my experience. There’s definitely less overweight people in London than in Manchester but if you go to the Manchester City centre on a Saturday night you will see some real beauties!

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MoxieHasKnottyBits@reddit

And Leeds! I feel like a goblin walking through the Love Island place there.

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panserstrek@reddit

Have you been anywhere else in the country to compare this to? I’m just curious. In my experience, although there is plenty good looking women in London. I find that they are more common to see in other major cities like Manchester and leads.

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LongStrangeJourney@reddit

OP: women in your country are prettier than I was led to believe and are more polite than the global average! Everyone in this tread: fuck off

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panserstrek@reddit

That’s true for everywhere though. One thing I do genuinely believe is that British women do not get the respect they deserve. I see people on the internet that have never been to the UK talk about them in quite negative way based on old stereotypes. Obviously not all British women are good looking and quite frankly there is a lot more consistently beautiful women in some other areas of Europe but some of the British ladies are definitely top tier women. Both looks wise and personality.

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itranslateyouargue@reddit

But if you are ugly, being kind is how you can still get people to like you.

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turingthecat@reddit

The only thing more supportive than my bra are random drunk women in pub and club toilets

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Educational_Cow111@reddit

😂😂 FOR REALLL

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aspecialunicorn@reddit

I was crying in Wetherspoon's toilets one evening after some kids tries to glass me outside. A group of slightly older and very drunk ladies basically adopted me, making sure I was okay, getting me tissues, etc. When I felt better I went out to my boyfriend, who was waiting outside, and these ladies just did a 180. They started screaming at him that he was a fucking cunt and how dare he upset me, fuck off and die, etc etc. Very protective, but totally wrong as he was very sweet and very worried about me. Makes us laugh these days.

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slightlyoffkilter_7@reddit

I feel like this is such a universal thing

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Sphealwithme@reddit

Nothing cheerier than the random unexplained warmth found from those strangers. Walk into some clubs gents are you’re welcomed like long lost family.

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Banditofbingofame@reddit

I love the random motivational speeches you find going on in smoking areas at 1am

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Agitated_Jello_2810@reddit

once a very drunk man had a chat with me in the toilet, cant remember the gist of what he was saying but he had his arm around my shoulder and said "sometimes in life - if you need to finger a pussy, you just gotta finger a pussy"

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

The gents? Only if you're a woman or have gear, in my experience. Well, experience of the latter only. I'd make a fugly woman.

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Phat-Lines@reddit

The men’s toilets are a completely different box of frogs lol. Pure silence and make sure not to look at each others cocks or even worse make eye contact. Tbf though I prefer that. The last thing I want is someone trying to talk to me while I’m taking a piss.

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Klandesztine@reddit

Or worse still, trying to talk to you about your cock.

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eccedoge@reddit

The best thing about getting old is all the old women start smiling at you. And all the creepy men who hit on you when you're just going about your day suddenly can't see you at all! Love it

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SwordTaster@reddit

As a woman in Norfolk, I'd call you a fucking liar if you came anywhere near Norwich.

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Tomatoflee@reddit

Despite what sometimes is the assumption, people from the cities are in general friendlier and more accepting, especially of outsiders.

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Elastichedgehog@reddit

I grew up rural and this is 1000% the case.

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Phat-Lines@reddit

I live in one of the most rural parts of the U.K and I live in a hamlet, the smallest kind of place. Even the locals in the pub 5 minutes up the road weren’t welcoming of me because I just don’t go to that pub (it’s tiny like the size of someone’s living room and pretty horrible). Rural people can be extremely unwelcoming lol even of locals.

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GratedKnees@reddit

I temporarily moved somewhere very rural and made friends with a man in the local pub because when he first saw me walking to the pub in the dark he thought I was a ghost. Not super relevant but your comment reminded me of him! So I guess rural people can be friendly to outsiders if they think you are haunting them.

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LovellyNarco@reddit

i love this lol

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FlawlessExecution@reddit

Happy Cake Day!

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vectorology@reddit

As usual, the real pro tips are in the comments. If I ever escape to the country, I’ll make sure to make scary haunting noises, maybe rattle a few chains.

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Nai-Oxi-Isos-DenXero@reddit

"this is a local pub, for local people! Are you... Local?"

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Hatanta@reddit

"Yes, I suppose I am"

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xboxjobson@reddit

Policeman-“I’m looking for a boy” Edward-“ poofter eh ?”

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mynameisblanked@reddit

Came across your sort in the army!

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memberflex@reddit

I was in a war

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crnppscls@reddit

I can I can’t

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EveningStar5155@reddit

Definitely on Dartmoor. Plymouth was full of people with a rural mentality but living in a city.

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CuriousAlice86@reddit

Thank you so much for starting this I’m crying and hunting for a league of gentlemen now

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Flashy-Pop-5783@reddit

Edward...is that you? ........

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Raven_Blackfeather@reddit

"We didn't burn him"

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Flashy-Pop-5783@reddit

Did you touch the precious things though?

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Raven_Blackfeather@reddit

You lied to me, Edward! There is a Swansea!

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Different_Reserve935@reddit

I want to put you all in a local pub and watch the locals struggle between being unwelcoming and pissing themselves into laughter

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BusyEqual2392@reddit

Hahaha 🤣

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Flashy-Pop-5783@reddit

It's just down the New Road.Barbara took me in her cab

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No_Coyote_557@reddit

Hansom?

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Raven_Blackfeather@reddit

Hello Daaave?

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jeweliegb@reddit

You're a mine wife now, Dave!

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erol_flow@reddit

London

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jeweliegb@reddit

I can I can't?

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NuclearNerdery@reddit

Tuuuubs? What's all this shouting we'll have no trouble here

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cruddy_mooth@reddit

Pubs dont work like that,its not the slaughtered lamb lmao.Sometimes if you dont engage in your small community you get outcast is what the poster meant...I think.

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Phat-Lines@reddit

I mean there are local pubs and then there are pubs like the one up the road. My local in town is a local pub but it’s just friendly in general. The one up the road in my hamlet is just very odd. Tbf it’s also in an ultra ultra quiet area where the only customers are people living in the north part of the hamlet basically.

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cruddy_mooth@reddit

Now that sounds like 'the slaughtered lamb' lol. -"i missed ma darts"

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Maximum_Discount_486@reddit

We didn't burn him!!

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Phat-Lines@reddit

They looked kinda surprised when I said I’d lived in this hamlet my entire life lol. Tbf I think they were just surprised to see two people in their early 20’s coming into their pub as well lol.

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MissCoote@reddit

You heard the man Tubbs... 😆

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Wanallo221@reddit

The village I grew up in was a very small, almost one road village of maybe 80 houses. Even then somehow they found a way to find a divide. Anyone who lived to the north of ‘the gap’ (basically a small open field) was a ‘Northern bastard’.

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Phat-Lines@reddit

I’m Cornish so literally everyone is a northern bastard to me lol. Damn northerners coming down from Devon!

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julesallen@reddit

Don't forget though to me if you're not south of Penzance you're a northener bleddy emmit.

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Wanallo221@reddit

There’s probably a bloke living on Lizard Point who spends his days shouting ‘Northern Bastards!’ Out his window.

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bobberfett@reddit

Moved to Scotland from London, lived in some hotels and hostels before finding a place near the North Sea, though I’ve got the accent I’m not British born, the locals in rural towns and city Centers were all equally as friendly so much so it reminded me of my home country. Personally, and I mean this in no offence, it sounds like you didn’t fit and immediately decided to wash your hands, I’d recommend popping in more frequently, a few beers and a couple of smokes and you’ll soon be belting out rhinestone cowboy with the locals!

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rian5678@reddit

"This is a local pub for local people" "I am local" "Not local enough"

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TheRealJetlag@reddit

So much this. A new landlord/lady took over the pub in our hamlet and instantly infuriated about half the locals by having the fucking audacity to learn their names and, get this, use them. Apparently, it was taking liberties to do what, anywhere else, is a common courtesy.

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Resitance-is-FUT1LE@reddit

I lived in a hamlet like that. All the old people hated young people. Don't know why, though. There weren't many of us. And if you were a single parent ...oft they judged the fuck out of you. Even if you had to leave for dv,a spousal death..

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thenewfirm@reddit

Honestly it's because they have nothing better to do with their lives.

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Phat-Lines@reddit

Yeah it’s very weird. This pub had some of the drunkest (no judgment I love to get pissed and have a drink with my friends too) middle aged/older people I’ve seen. The fruity is right by the door and the guy on it was so pissed it took him a good two minutes to register that I’d been repeatedly asking him to move so we could come in and tapping him on the shoulder. Bless him he was actually quite sorry once he realised lol. Stayed for one drink then abruptly left. When anyone else left they all got a simultaneous goodbye from the rest of the regulars. I said cheers and smiled n did a little wave but me and my partner got nothing back lol. Was like over a £5 for a Crabbies though so fuck going in there again even if it wasn’t a bad small pub.

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Conscious-Arm-7889@reddit

I think you need to be third or fourth generation in a village before you're considered "a local"!

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Mediocre_Let1814@reddit

Hang on. Of there's a pub 5 minutes up the road, how is that rural?

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Phat-Lines@reddit

Rural doesn’t mean there are literally no humans or buildings lol.

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Ok-Set-5829@reddit

Ime, rural people can be so welcoming to people from far away, even the the other side of the world. But if your from the next village you've got no chance.

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buford419@reddit

Yeah, fuck that village. It's a proper shithole.

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No_Coyote_557@reddit

In a small town in Yorkshire, at a neighbor's BBQ I was told not to associate with the people in the next street because "they're not like us".

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Carefusonomist3443@reddit

Coming from a country of mostly rude people that shout all the time, I enjoyed the politeness a lot, guess since I was a foreign visitor it didn’t feel fake to me..

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Triana89@reddit

I used to live in a village with two pubs, I was two roads away from them, less than a 5 minute walk to the furthest of the two. One day I went for a drink in one of the two pubs and got a full blast of the "you ain't local enough to be in here" stare. Thing is I picked that pub because I was the barmaid in the other pub and it was my day off. What made it even weirder was it was the summer holidays when we get a lot of tourists.

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MrJamberino@reddit

So true. I went to a pub in the next village from mine which is still pretty local and they treated me as if I was a migrant from Somalia who just got off the dingy after crossing the English Channel.

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HoraceAndPete@reddit

This is both hilarious and heartening to read as someone who lives in a small city.

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Open-Sea8388@reddit

Hah. Sounds like American Werwolf in London with the pub scene at the beginning

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The_Queef_of_England@reddit

Yeah, some places are cliquey as heck, but some other places just down the road can be friendly. It's odd.

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updownclown68@reddit

I’ve lived rurally and people were very friendly, even to me as an interloper

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alex494@reddit

This is a local shop for local people, there's nothing for you here...

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Hellzer0@reddit

I grew up rural and this couldn't be further from the truth, it really just depends on the communities youve experienced...

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Metrobolist3@reddit

Went to a wedding in rural Yorkshire once and the do afterwards was outside of town in a wee crossroads type place with a church, a pub and not much else there. The do was in a tent up the road from the pub. Come nighttime it's pitch dark outside and I realise I can't get a mobile signal to ring a taxi back to the BnB in town. I walked down to the pub and asked to use their phone (sitting right there on the bar) to ring a taxi. Nope. Offer to pay for the call. Nope. Apparently there's a phone box just round the corner outside I can use. Yeah, thanks. It's pitch dark There's no road lighting - just those cats eye things in the road outside. I'm kinda drunk (but still pretty coherent and I'm not an angry drunk) and I've never been here before. I wander about for a couple of mins trying to find this alleged phone box with no luck and eventually give up and jog back up to the tent to retrieve my other half who's a bit more worse for wear than I am. Got back eventually but no thanks to the good folk of that particular corner of Yorkshire.

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Feelincheekyson@reddit

Having been to rural places this is 1000% the case

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

Can I assume the key word is "grew up" as in are no longer living in a rural area? I've always been a city boy, but my mum was living rural in her teen years. Boring, everyone knew your business, stupid small town mentality in many people, according to her. She also said when she and her ex stopped by not too long ago in a village co-op they were being scowled and hissed at by the women and the men looked to be sizing them up... For me? Better the devil you know. I could talk a road man out of stabbing me but I couldn't convince a farmer not to fork me if I'm too close for comfort to his crops lmao.

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Elastichedgehog@reddit

Yeah. I moved away for university about 7 years ago and never looked back. I grew in a small Welsh town and the division between English (non-Welsh) and Welsh people (particularly in schools) left a sour taste in my mouth.

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

Some things never change then eh? Do your family still live out there? Are you Welsh or English yourself? (Not that it makes much difference since you clearly didn't approve of that nonsense) I can kind of relate, not to growing up in a small town, matter of fact I'm very close to the city and my town is the largest in the whole of Scotland... But anti-english sentiment is heavy anywhere outside of England, to be quite honest lol. My mum is English. I've heard it all, or people realise too late and go silent around me. It isn't pleasant. I think the people who try to convince themselves they aren't bigoted morons are the same types that probably scream the loudest about racism or other isms in my experience too. First of all, cities aren't big and bad, they are just a giant meeting pots of good and some very bad too. And not every village is a peaceful haven either. The only city with the worst rep is London, and aside from crime etc, the demeanor isn't because London folk are these terrible people, it's just the city itself. It never stops, everyone's busy and trying to get somewhere. My mum grew up there until she moved to that villagey area and later returned when she was old enough.

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lottesometimes@reddit

as someone who's moved to the uk: 100% this. I got so many friends who are from rural places up north and tell me how friendly they are. Yes mate, TO YOU. BECAUSE YOU'RE FROM THERE. As someone who isn't it's often a different story, even more so if you look very different.

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StrongTable@reddit

As someone born in London and being constantly told that people in London are unfriendly and how horrible London is by a lot of people from outside. I assumed that everyone would be friendly and welcoming in other parts of the UK. Not true. Most people are friendly if you strike up conversation but I have only ever experienced racism from places outside large urban areas in the UK. I have never experienced racism in London, or any other large city. So please, stop telling me Londonders are unfriendly and some how other places in the UK are way friendlier. To echo your point. YES, PEOPLE ARE FRIENDLY TO YOU!

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EveningStar5155@reddit

The population is too transient, though. I would make friends, and not long after, they would move to another part of London or out of it altogether.

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lottesometimes@reddit

there really are no ways to travel to other parts of London. None at all.

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SarcasmCupcakes@reddit

In fairness, in Sydney it’s not dissimilar. If your friend lives on the other side of the Bridge, you’ll never see them.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

Or just occasionally like once a year. Berlin is like that. You have to pick your district carefully as you won't be travelling out of it much.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

It's expensive amd time consuming especially when you are working long hours on not much money.

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Cool_Pitch2834@reddit

I really think it depends on their experiences of a place though, I grew up in Glasgow and whilst it has a bad reputation generally most people I speak to are surprised when they visit and comment on how friendly the people are. Also probably the area of the bigger cities you go to, I'm used to Glasgow (big city) being friendly and have lived in rural villages for around 15 years that weren't so friendly so I always assumed London would be a friendly place, I've been once and on that occasion I witnessed a man in his late 20s (at a guess) knock an elderly woman over on a skateboard, he didn't stop to check if she was okay and we had to cross the road to help her because those nearby were just stepping over her. My partner travelled down there last year to buy a car and it died on us 3 weeks later, took the dealer to court after he refused to do anything about it and we discovered he was using a fake name, fake everything to make dodgy car sales and rip people off.... To me that isn't "friendly" but those are just two experiences and those are my own experiences of the people there, not everyone has had those experiences but it's likely the people who say it isn't a friendly place have experienced similar levels of unfriendliness.

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lottesometimes@reddit

arseholes and crime do exist everywhere, that's not a London thing.

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Cool_Pitch2834@reddit

That's true but my experiences of London have been filled with assholes so that's the opinion I've formed based on those experiences... From that first trip there it just seemed everyone in that particular area was so uncaring and self absorbed 🤷🏼‍♀️ at least 30 people stepping over an elderly woman lying in a busy street.. that's alot assholes concentrated into one area. The second experience of the place didn't help anyone's case although I'm fully aware dodgy car dealers are likely in the minority (at least I'd hope)

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TywinHouseLannister@reddit

Like the previous person said re: up north, its probably because you're from there - I've met nothing but arrogant twats on the streets of London but I'm sure if you're from there you can probably form a nice little community with your neighbours etc

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StrongTable@reddit

I think racism is probably on another level to arrogance

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TywinHouseLannister@reddit

It was really a throwaway comment for the lols but you're right, though I don't necessarily agree with the idea that London is somehow a utopia for anti racist sentiment it is almost a fact that UK towns and villages are more racist than cities.. It's not like something you can teach (I mean, you can, my parents raised me right) but more of a social phenomena that when a homogenous community are isolated from others they are free to inherit or develop shitty attitudes which sometimes never get corrected - a lot of UK towns also have economic woes and a lack of jobs, leading to a poorer quality of education, which can further fuel misdirected resentment etc.

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StrongTable@reddit

I agree with you. Numerous studies show that racist attitudes tend to be concentrated in areas with the least amount of diversity and their lack of interaction with others is clearly an easy route into othering people. Mixed in with all the other issues that you outlined. Although, there are large areas of deprivation in London and people don't by and large, hold racist attitudes towards other groups so I would ascribe a lack of interaction with others as being the leading cause. Of course London and any other large urban area in the UK isn't free from racism but it's far less prevelant than other non urban areas of the UK. And I don't see a divide between regional areas such as the north and the south. I have experienced open racism in Kent as much as I have in North Yorkshire for example. I just find it particularly galling that in the very same community I'm visiting someone can say something blatantly racist to my face and the very same day I can also be told by another person that people in X area are far friendlier than "you lot in London" or the nearest large urban area.

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lottesometimes@reddit

If you're in London visiting rather than living there, chances are the people you meet on the streets are not local either but commuting/visiting.

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lottesometimes@reddit

never had issues in London with people being unfriendly, neither have my parents when they visited. Instead they always commented how helpful everyone was. Just because people aren't in your face all the time, doesn't mean they're rude

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saucerhorse@reddit

As someone from London who hasn't lived there for 15 years, it always amazes me how friendly Londoners are when I go back.

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Grotbagsthewonderful@reddit

Oh for sure, I grew in a small semi rural town, when I first went to Uni in Sheffield it took my brain a little while to adjust to how friendly every one was, I think it was the first time in my life I was actually able to relax.

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opopkl@reddit

Country people think cities are unsafe at night, city people think quiet countryside is unsafe at night.

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AncientProduce@reddit

The countryside is unsafe, once i left my back door open for 5 days and a fox wandered in during the night and drank all my beer from the fridge. Partner says it was me, but it wasn't i was already too drunk.

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Thestolenone@reddit

My sister lived in the countryside and a badger went through her handbag.

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Geekonomicon@reddit

Is that a euphemism?

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SMTRodent@reddit

No, they're buggers for handbags, are badgers. You can't carry cash in badger country; they'll have it.

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Geekonomicon@reddit

🤣🤣🤣

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The_Queef_of_England@reddit

A pheasant stole my car once

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QuiteMagical@reddit

A moose once bit my sister...

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No_Coyote_557@reddit

I got shat on by a wood pigeon

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Dont_believe_me__@reddit

Not a peasant?

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MrsArmitage@reddit

Was it looking for mashed potato?

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Carl0s_H@reddit

Everybody knows...

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Beebeeseebee@reddit

Badger loves MASHED POTA'O

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Charlotte-De-litt@reddit

Preposterous.

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DanceWorth2554@reddit

At least it wasn’t a tiger that ate all your food, too.

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mr-no-life@reddit

He was invited for tea.

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chloelouiise@reddit

He also went for a pint (RIP Sean Lock)

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account_not_valid@reddit

Tigers would much rather coffee. I remember the old jingle; "Tiger Brand coffee is a real treat, Even tigers prefer it To a cup of raw meat." Why they filmed the advert in Africa though, I'll never fully understand.

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fengshuifountain@reddit

It rumoured that they also like Frosties...🐯

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fengshuifountain@reddit

But surely not to drink all the water from the taps? (Although at least they did all get to go to the cafe for supper!)

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TywinHouseLannister@reddit

I grew up in country and live in city, as an analogy I would go and sleep outside or walk the streets at any time in village that I grew up in - whereas I'd be more on guard whilst doing the same in the city - because there is so much more potential to run into some unknown stranger [and who knows what they upto] That said, I would go to most city pubs with a fair degree of anonymity, not knowing anybody and be able to relax and talk fairly freely with strangers whereas in the country pub I'd be more reserved, most people ready know eachother and you have your clique, they have theirs - it isn't like that when every person is an unknown variable. I think there's something in the safety in numbers thing, in the city there are more perceived threats so you make sure you're good with people. I believe that the more or less isolated a community is, the greater or lesser extent that these extremes are exaggerated TLDR; In the city the main cause for concern is stranger danger and individual interactions go a long way - whereas in smaller places it is the sum of somebody's reputation which is deemed to be important - the problem is always those bastard humans!

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zillapz1989@reddit

You should try the daytime, quite likely to be murdered by cows if you stray from the road.

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SilverellaUK@reddit

Sheffield is quite a friendly place.

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Bevvy_bevvy@reddit

Sheffield is particularly friendly

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hnsnrachel@reddit

I got really freaked out the first time someone just randomly said "hi, you okay?" while walking past me in a city, coming from a small town, totally get how weird it is at first when everyone seems so friendly.

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butidrathernot@reddit

I grew up in London but also went to Uni of Sheffield. In my experience, Sheffield people are (for the most part) very openly friendly and warm. Londoners aren’t bad, but we just don’t strike up these random friendly interactions in the same way.

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Happy-Thinker@reddit

Some Londoners can be downright fucking rude. I went to a local pharmacy, was waiting in line for the pharmacy to open and so i turn to the bloke next to me to essentially moan about the long wait and he turns to me and says " is there something wrong with you, are you mental" , to which is replied " you can either rbe fucking rude or, we can have a nice friendly chat for 5 mins, there are 9 million chances i wont ever see you again and we can have a natter to make you feel good or you can pissoff, which one is it" we spent 5 mins have a laugh and ive never ever seen him again. Londoners have some interesting ways to express disinterest that can be tricky to learn. The passive aggressive culture drives me nuts.

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Loud_Puppy@reddit

I mean Sheffield has to be friendliest city in the UK

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barrythecook@reddit

That's what I've found having lived in a lot of places for work, when I was in the tiny villages they'd generally tell me to fuck off back where I came from (hull) in the citys most people were fine with me

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frankchester@reddit

This is so weird, I recently moved to a small village in the south and people have never been so welcoming. Day one all my neighbours came round with cakes and treats and wellwishes. Now we’re at the stage that everyone is willing to help out whenever, we borrow tools off neighbours, give each other lifts, everyone is so kind.

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Book-Prize@reddit

Oh goodness. I want to throw up little teacakes, Jaffa cakes and cucumber sandwiches with a cuppa tea. What y'all do on the weekends? Grab a washcloth and start washing the neighborhood children? It all sounds quite lovely. But I need the puke bucket. Can I borrow one, please? I'll return it clean.

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frankchester@reddit

What the fuck is your problem?

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Book-Prize@reddit

I ❤️ you

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Cool_Pitch2834@reddit

I think it very much depends on how "new" the village is, the wee mining villages from way back when seem to be the worst for not liking outsiders cause they're all related somehow - don't want to upset the gene pool 🥴🤣😂🤣 those that have a more mixed population as in not everyone is your neighbours uncle or auntie, seem to be more welcoming/friendly. Those people likely moved there from somewhere else and genuinely love the place and want to share that with people rather than people who have never been further than the nearest town for the food shop and are afraid of change 😅

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frankchester@reddit

Maybe that’s true. My village is about half Victorian houses (and only about 30 of them) and then lots of 1960s houses. There are a few people here who bought in the 60s but most are newer. It’s very old people focused, but as a couple in our 30s we’ve been embraced more than I would’ve expected.

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barrythecook@reddit

Dunno probably changes depending on the village, or maybe I'm just not the sort of person they want Ive lived in five for work though and all were pretty unwelcoming

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LordUfford@reddit

Probably because you were a townie

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barrythecook@reddit

From my understanding I was an emmet in Cornwall at least

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Throwaway84936__@reddit

Go to south London and walk around and you’ll get accosted by machete wielding thugs. Don’t get many of these people in the countryside. I think you’re selecting our middle class metropolitan people. Who aren’t that accepting. If you’re a working class person from suburbia and didn’t go to their universities you’ll find them never letting you in. The truth is there are good and bad people everywhere. You’ll get a lot of good mornings in the country but you’ll get a lot of blank stares in cities.

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Tomatoflee@reddit

I spent 15 years living in London and plenty of time in places like Peckham without any issues, plus you're talking about the worst bits as if they represent the whole, which they don't. I was in a supposedly dodgy bit of Brixton (the estate near the Windmill) a couple of months ago dropping off some boxes and I dropped a load of stuff out of the boot of my car onto the pavement. A couple of scary-looking dudes stopped to help me pick it up. It's not like there isn't crime in London and bad things happen everywhere, as you say, but in London and other UK cities, you are more likely to get a friendly, funny, or helpful reaction than in the countryside, especially if you don't look like you fit in on the surface.

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imprintimprint@reddit

Don't think that it's that bad of thing to imagine, we have to expect the worst.

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

Bollocks, respectfully. I've lived in Swansea for over twenty years and that is definitely not the case here. I grew up in a village and if you understand the term "village mentality" you'll know why that suits me just fine.

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CeeApostropheD@reddit

Rural dwellers are usually less socialised than city folk so they have more of a "stranger danger" mentality. Pound for pound they're every bit as lovely as city folk, but you need to break through that psychological shield sometimes to get to the real them.

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TywinHouseLannister@reddit

Grew up in a small town with fights at the pub every night, "you're not from around here" mentality, neighbours were all acquaintances.. moved to the nearest city and hardly ever experience that kind of stuff, neighbours act like people who know eachother etc!

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dreamsonashelf@reddit

That's what I like the most in London. The vast majority are the complete opposite of judgemental because there's all sorts of people here.

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SwordTaster@reddit

All I know is, in Norfolk, we don't like outsiders. You can still be new on the street after living there for 10 years of you're not the one to initiate in this county because we won't be the ones doing it

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Random_Nobody1991@reddit

Lived in Norfolk for 15 years and can confirm. Not having the accent and being able to greet people with the traditional “Yer alrite boyeeee!!!!” didn’t help with that.

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HarassedPatient@reddit

Not surprising - the correct phrase is "ya roit bor?" - “Yer alrite boyeeee!!!!” is a Norwich phrase, and while we ain't keen on furriners in general, it's them Noriddge folk we carnt stand must.

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Random_Nobody1991@reddit

I bet you shew them a thing or two on that puter of yours.

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HarassedPatient@reddit

Tha I dew bor - haint got toime fur them new fangled mobiles fur internet, carnt beet a mus und kaybord fur surfin tha web.

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Random_Nobody1991@reddit

I miss Norfolk 😢

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RoyofBungay@reddit

NFN.

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Green_Solution_123@reddit

Says the devil worshipper...

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Leicsbob@reddit

I went for a interview for a teaching post in Norfolk and asked why there were so many special needs kids. The head replied "Normal for Norfolk".

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RoyofBungay@reddit

I think the myth originated from doctors putting NFN on patients notes. Having lived in Norfolk, I am not quite sure that this is actually a myth.

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cjhreddit@reddit

I know a nurse who works at a hospital in Norwich and its definitely part of their vocabulary !

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StripeyTiger1a@reddit

> in Norfolk, we don't like outsiders This is a local shop for local people...

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petrastales@reddit

Would somebody actually say that??

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StripeyTiger1a@reddit

I'm not sure whether your comment was about Norfolk or whether you were unaware of the origins of the phrase.

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petrastales@reddit

Oh I don’t, haha - sorry!

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Mouffcat@reddit

The League of Gentlemen. Go and watch it, now!

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petrastales@reddit

Haha yes, Sir!

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Mouffcat@reddit

I'm a lady don't ya know...

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petrastales@reddit

Whoops sorry I didn’t look at your icon 😂 Sorry!!!

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lodav22@reddit

My husband’s village is just like this, I’m always teasing him about “Is this just for *Local people* or can anyone go there?” He hates it 🤣. They look down on “Townies” like me, but they have to accept outsiders once in a while to dilute the gene pool a bit!

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Mouffcat@reddit

That's why I like it lol. I'm 49 and it's like going back to my childhood.

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theotherquantumjim@reddit

WE DIDN’T BURN HIM!

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ClemDog16@reddit

Calm yourself Tubbs!!

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Mysterious-Leek-2705@reddit

I've heard similar stories . Someone I regularly talk to said she used to live in Yarmouth for 20+ years. Went back a few years ago to visit her old house, and was stared at my some local. I must say though that East Anglia has been very kind to me and I love it so much more than where I came from.

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SwordTaster@reddit

What can I say, I love it here but we are antisocial buggers. If you can force us into conversation we can be pleasant but we will never be the ones to initiate, it is the way. It's the reason a lot of celebs tend to choose somewhere around here for their homes, we will outright ignore them unless they come to us. Hell, my dad is from Cambridgeshire, we saw Stephen Fry in a restaurant about a decade ago and dad was trying to insist on going to get his autograph for me. I told dad to sit down, shut up and give the man his privacy.

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petrastales@reddit

Is it always the case that you don’t initiate down there, or do you mean just that initial conversation needs to be initiated?

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SwordTaster@reddit

Initial meeting conversation. After that first connection you're no longer considered an outsider/stranger so we're at least OK to nod hello

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Beatnuki@reddit

Unless you're seen in the streets of Norwich and pretended to be not seen / ignored, which is a local pastime everyone complains about one another in the Fine City™

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petrastales@reddit

Ahh, okay - got it 👌 Thank you

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Happy-Thinker@reddit

Ironically you're likely to get the same level of respect in Cape Town, but once you turn to chat its always friendly and people do become life long friends fairly easy just by starting a conversation. Though people from Jo'burg get confused 😄 they ignore everyone and expect the neighbourhood to run after them. The practice in Cape Town is once you have moved in to knock on the neighbour's door with a cake or just hello and get to know who your neighbours are. Ive never seen that done anywhere in the UK. It's done for safety reasons. This way neighbours know who you are and visa versa and if they see something sus they let you know to call the police. Helps keep the neighborhood safer.

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SwordTaster@reddit

That sounds like a good way to make friends. Not a practice over here but legit, if you move here and don't make steps to befriend your neighbours you will be ignored as people will just assume you dont want anything to do with other people and let you do you.

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opopkl@reddit

I saw Steve Coogan in a restaurant in Coniston. I had to pass his table on the way out. I desperately tried to walk past pretending I hadn't noticed him without making it obvious.

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SwordTaster@reddit

That's the way to do it

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Mouffcat@reddit

I'm jealous you live there tbh. Property prices are not cheap though. I read that WFH Londoners are moving to North Norfolk and that Sheringham is one of the top 10 most popular places to live now. I love Brancaster and would move there if I had a spare million quid.

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SalamanderPlus625@reddit

“It is the way” really made me laugh!

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RepresentativeWay734@reddit

Not the one to initiate Well i live in Norfolk and i can assure you myself and everyone i know will always exchange greetings. That's just good manners being polite. Saying that how does the Norwich song go again Your mother shags her brother.............

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SwordTaster@reddit

People you KNOW aren't outsiders

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RepresentativeWay734@reddit

I was referring to people i know will always greet people they don't know. Outsiders, what's it an exclusive club where you live.

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Happy-Thinker@reddit

Different systems of greetings. Watch the body language and greeting practices and it gets easier when you sound like the locals. This is true worldwide.

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dibblah@reddit

My family live in Norfolk and to be honest I've found everyone very friendly. I like to go walking and often meet new people out on walks to have conversation with. I've never noticed unfriendliness. That being said I don't go into Norwich much, so maybe it's a city thing.

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Beatnuki@reddit

Genuinely no idea why you're getting downvoted for factual accuracy

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SwordTaster@reddit

People don't understand the difference between outsider and other local who we happen to not be familiar with in a personal level

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Mouffcat@reddit

But everyone seems so friendly when I visit! Is it a facade?

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jbruton97@reddit

I’m sure everyone’s gutted that they won’t be accepted into the Norfolk community, what a tragedy 🥲

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Mouffcat@reddit

I love Norfolk and may retire there. My partner's mother is originally from Norwich and her retired brother has moved to North Norfolk. It's so beautiful and quiet compared to where I'm from, like going back 30 years.

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GoliathsBigBrother@reddit

"Get out of here, with your unwebbed fingers and genetic diversity!"

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wholesomechunk@reddit

On an unrelated matter, parents.

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pintofcider@reddit

Speak for yourself, Norwich is a lovely city with lots of welcoming and friendly people. Of course, there are a few bag eggs everywhere but on the whole Norwich is a great, 'socially warm' place to be.

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LowerPiece2914@reddit

I've heard you lot like to keep yourselves to yourselves, if you know what I mean. Big eared boys on farms and all that.

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Floral-Prancer@reddit

You're talking about an established community inclusion though which is true for many of place but visitors tend to be treated nicely.

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mcneil1345@reddit

I'd say this is true in some cases. I grew up in the absolute middle of nowhere in Norfolk surrounded by other villages in the middle of nowhere. It's like the cul-de-sac of villages, and you'd have to go pretty far out of your way to even get here. It's not that we have an active disdain for outsiders, but our main thought process is "what the hell even brings you here, and why would you want to come? There's literally just fields, swamps and marshes". We've had people move to our village from all over the place, and are generally well received if they get involved and make an effort with the community. Strangers seem friendly when you're out walking and stop to say hi, and the old boys down the pub are all too keen to have a mardle for as long as you'd let them.

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SwordTaster@reddit

That's exactly what I'm saying. We're not hostile but we are suspicious. We don't like people coming here when there's clearly no good reason to be here. Try to make friends and it's OK but we don't like being the ones to take take first step

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lickyagyalcuz@reddit

Explains the inbreeding.

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gridlockmain1@reddit

Explains all the inbreeding

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TH1CCARUS@reddit

Weird flex.

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cwaig2021@reddit

Never been to London?

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Tomatoflee@reddit

Lived there for 15 years, so yeah

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cwaig2021@reddit

Ouch. Worked there for 30 years. Can’t imagine wanting to live there. Nobody has time to even say hello.

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Tomatoflee@reddit

It depends where in London but I lived most of my time there in a place with a strong sense of community. There are lots of islands of Zone 2 where there is plenty going on in super nice communities with loads of interesting people. I miss it a lot tbh but living in a nice part of London is incredibly expensive these days.

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zillapz1989@reddit

This is a bit odd to my experience. As someone rural I've always found in cities people go about their business and have no time for you. Rurally people stop and chat.

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jevlegend@reddit

Bollocks! You ever been to bleddy Cornwall??

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Successful_Warthog58@reddit

Agree in northern cities but from my experience certainly not London.

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Shushyabullshit@reddit

*Apart from London

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The_Growl@reddit

London bad

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Shushyabullshit@reddit

Yeah it’s full of rude cunts, that’s why dickheads think it’s acceptable to cut toenails on public transport and all the other weird shit you lot do. But it’s just a meme right.

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Fina1Legacy@reddit

You realise how big it is right? Of course there are cunts, doesn't mean most people aren't nice. But the cunts get the attention

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tamizheelam77@reddit

As a Sri Lankan Tamil British are nice people but wow ur Reddit character reminds me of Paige out of WWE

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Impressive-Bench9223@reddit

Norwich is the friendliest place I've lived... Though the other places are Cambridge and London so it's not a high bar.

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Joplain@reddit

Cambridge is fine, though I've lived in friendlier places. I don't mean it in a xenophobic way or anything but there's such a big foreign population (students / tourists and immigrants), there's not as much shared culture, and in the flat block I live in, I rarely hear English conversations. I have no qualms with it, but it makes it difficult to make as much small talk. Comparatively when I was living in a much less international city, it was more common to chat to people in public. I quite often chat to strangers in pubs in Cambridge, especially when it's sunny and more often than not they're never actually from Cambridge itself, which is quite funny.

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172116@reddit

There's also an element of people not staying long term to be considered - I grew up in Cambridge, and at the end of every term our parents had to confirm whether we would be back for the next one, which should give some idea of how transient the school roll was!

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moofacemoo@reddit

Champion of the Thames is a good pub for that.

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Kind-County9767@reddit

Yeah no idea where that person's chip came from but Norwich is a very friendly city, and actually relatively diverse compared to the UK as a whole. The rest of Norfolk? Less so admittedly, but Norwich is nice

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ch0rlie@reddit

Diverse? Norwich is one of the whitest cities I've lived in.

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Kind-County9767@reddit

Norwich is more diverse than the UK average so yeah it counts as diverse to me. Sure it's not London or Birmingham. But then most cities aren't.

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sleepingjiva@reddit

Where does diversity come into it? The most racially diverse places I've lived are generally the unfriendliest.

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Kind-County9767@reddit

The whole "outsiders aren't welcome here" thing often has a racial slant to it which isn't really true in Norwich but unfortunately is true in parts of Norfolk.

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Bitomaxx@reddit

Yeah but only if you're a Londoner buying houses at the beach, otherwise welcome.

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sleepingjiva@reddit

Ah, I understand. I speak as a white man so obviously haven't experienced that. But the level of friendliness in London or Birmingham to, say, the West Country or the Cotswolds or anywhere in Scotland is unbelievable in its difference.

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weaselbeef@reddit

Bradford is well friendly. YMMV.

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_ologies@reddit

Cambridge is a very friendly place!

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___Scenery_@reddit

I moved to London from NZ in February and I've found it extremely friendly so far!

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PlatformFeeling8451@reddit

It is friendly, provided you yourself are friendly. The people who slag it off have either 1) Never been in their lives 2) Been to Central London during rush hour and been surprised that nobody said hello, or 3) Lived there for a short time, not made an effort to integrate, and moved quickly away as "London isn't friendly".

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SwordTaster@reddit

When the bar is on the floor tripping over it ain't hard

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MattheqAC@reddit

Outside Norwich, we find the ten fingered ladies to be attractive

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philo-sofa@reddit

Lovely job.

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ForrestGrump87@reddit

My wifes from Norwich , when i visit i go into the city and always get people talking and make friends ... they always say how people from Norwich arent like us northerners (im born & raised in Manchester) - they dont stop & chat , i have to remind them that they are doing exactly that right now and sometimes it just takes somebody to make the first move ... for whatever reason people assume no one wants to talk and no one starts the conversation. Everyone i meet in Norfolk/Norwich is lovely and polite .. maybe i have just been lucky 😂

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SwordTaster@reddit

Ah, you've found the trick to getting us to be friendly is that you have to be the one to start the conversation and carry it in the beginning. We CAN be pleasant but it requires initiation from the other side. We don't like to take the first step and it will seem hostile to folk from elsewhere. The old people can be so damn suspicious of people in general they can be unpleasant even if you do make the first move

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ForrestGrump87@reddit

put on a fake manc accent to start and then slowly slip back into the local one when you have made friends 😂 I love Norwich , we dont visit as much now but used to go down 4-5 times a year

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DevilBlade69@reddit

Tbh I always had a thought Norwich had a lot of welcoming and nice people.

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sc2c03@reddit

Well yeah Can't be fucking up with those people, they don't joke around.

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prettyangel_x@reddit

They are actually very nice down Norwich too. Unless you’re a weirdo

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sephelutis@reddit

Lol

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TheKipperTheMan@reddit

How weird, don’t see my hometown mentioned often…and never this truthful! Some bitter peoples around here, men and women!

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HachiTofu@reddit

What do you think of the pedestrianisation of Norwich city centre?

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biosmatrix@reddit

Access to dixons!

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StripeyTiger1a@reddit

I didn't realise they had cars in Norfolk.

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Discombobulated-Bit6@reddit

Young people in Norfolk either don’t live in Norfolk or are pretty rude

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Flamepreacher@reddit

Live in Norwich, can confirm

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Snoo_874@reddit

As a woman from Norfolk I cackled at this 😂

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

Same in south Wales. I'm a man but I've known enough women over the years to know bullshit when I see it from a Karma farmer.

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mand71@reddit

My best mate comes from just outside Norwich. She's cool, but I remember her talking about locals talking about 'incomers'...

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Farsydi@reddit

Most women around here are lovely!

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Gloomy-Method-6818@reddit

I’m from Norwich and I would say that the post aligns just as well there

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True_is_Inevitable@reddit

I want whatever OP is smoking 😏

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Beatnuki@reddit

Ah yes Norwich, where artisan boutique speakeasy coffee shop cocktail bars open every three doors along every street every three weeks or so, in which you're sneered at for daring to enter and then a few months later the local paper interviews the owners looking forlorn because they're now closing down like "I don't know why we have to close, shite market or economy I guess"

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snopony@reddit

As a former local radio DJ and now prime time BBC television presenter (currently awaiting a contract for a new series that will definitely happen) I have to thoroughly disagree with your opinion of Norwich.

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lawlore@reddit

Even with the pedestrianisation of the city centre?

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snopony@reddit

I'm dead against it. People forget that traders need access to DIXONS.

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lawlore@reddit

But what about wheelchairs?

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RosemaryFocaccia@reddit

What's your opinion about farmers?

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snopony@reddit

Scum.sub human scum.

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Fordy4020@reddit

A-ha

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FinalCat-UK@reddit

Aha!

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DogOk5995@reddit

I think you might be projecting, people don't think about you as much as you think they think about you.

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Bauch_the_bard@reddit

Yeah sounds about right, source I come from there

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Lastaria@reddit

As a woman from Liverpool I can say we are very friendly. Norfolk does not represent the country.

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frankchester@reddit

Unless you have a Southern accent then not friendly at all.

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Lastaria@reddit

Not sure where you get that from. In the Liverpool sun all the time getting messages from people who visited from all over invluding the south saying how friendly we are. It is more the other way around Scousers meeting hostility down south, last week the Dad of a murdered daughter doing a charity walk refused access to a bed and breakfast being an example.

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frankchester@reddit

Just personal experience. Same in Manchester when I lived there. Got a lot of flack for my accent and lots of inverse snobbery as they assumed I thought I was “posh” despite being a lot less wealthy than most of my acquaintances. It was really weird.

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DogOk5995@reddit

They were likely just kidding, the sense of humour there is dry and banterous.

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frankchester@reddit

It wasn't just a one off thing, it was pretty common and ultimately left me feeling not particularly welcome. I'm not sure if you meant to diminish my experience, but I'm well aware what constitutes as banter vs just general dislike.

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Groganat@reddit

Been in Liverpool twice and can echo that. If I was gazing into my phone with a stupefied look on my face, regularly people would stop and ask where I needed to get to. Also in restaurants etc staff lovely.

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harrygooday@reddit

Nice pun with 'Echo'. Intentional?

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Extaziat@reddit

As a one time tourist in UK - Liverpool I would like to take this opportunity to say "Too bad no one can understand you" 😁 by no one I mean I cannot understand that language and I tried. Talkative? Yes! Friendly? How would I know...

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pops789765@reddit

Norwich family trees don’t have branches.

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cremedelapeng2@reddit

its a family wreath thank you very much.

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SilverellaUK@reddit

NFN

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platdujour@reddit

Keep the circle round

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Tiger_Widow@reddit

Ah yes, the family log.

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robkitsune@reddit

Family trunk

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TheDaemonette@reddit

The marriage guidance counselling service in Norfolk is called ‘related’.

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Ok-Toe-6969@reddit

Go go Ipswich

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A_kind_guy@reddit

Do you live in a different Norwich to me? Everyone is lovely. I'm 26 and talking about people around my age though. Don't really interact with anyone younger than 21 or older than 35, so your mileage may vary!

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DogOk5995@reddit

I have no idea where all of this has come from. Im northern and have a strong northern accent and moved here, and people have been nothing but lovely.

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Notittygothgf_@reddit

Norwich is the happiest place on earth compared to Yarmouth

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batty_61@reddit

You'd be able to tell - they wouldn't know the traditional Norfolk greeting. "Gimme six."

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MelodicAd2213@reddit

Sometimes it’s 6 1/2

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nacnud_uk@reddit

And, we found the problem.

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seppukucoconuts@reddit

I've only met a few people from the UK while traveling but the one thing I can say seems pretty universal is they'll almost never talk to strangers. Some won't even talk to their own family.

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_Doc_McCoy_@reddit

I live in Suffolk. Can confirm.

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Cultural-Abrocoma-92@reddit

I liked Norwich, I thought it was a nice place. I remember seeing that guy that dresses as a woman strutting around the city center looking for somebody to take issue with how he was dressed 🤣

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SwordTaster@reddit

Not seen him yet, I just like seeing puppet man

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Cultural-Abrocoma-92@reddit

Is he the guy that travels around a bit doing it? I seem to remember a friend talking about him

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SwordTaster@reddit

He does Norwich and Yarmouth, depends if you call that travelling. He's our favourite local weirdo

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Cultural-Abrocoma-92@reddit

Yeah that's the sort of travelling I was meaning. Think it was Yarmouth we saw him

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sewistforsix@reddit

I am relieved to know it wasn’t just me then. I’m from the US and twenty five years ago I went to school in Norwich for a semester and my self esteem still hasn’t recovered.

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Interesting-Amoeba25@reddit

And especially North Norfolk. Yikes. Lovely scenery, awful people lol.

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cherrypez123@reddit

Really this is so new to me. Wonder why? 😂

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Fluffy_Juggernaut_@reddit

Amen! 🙌

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AllModsAreL0sers@reddit

Norfuck?

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minimalisticgem@reddit

Norwich has been one of the friendliest places in the UK, also there’s a university there so clearly you are accepting of ‘outsiders’

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Lead_Penguin@reddit

I visited Norwich for the first time last week and it's the most welcoming city I've been to in the UK, I absolutely loved the place. We live out in the Fens but already want to move a little closer to Norwich at some point.

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SwordTaster@reddit

You folks really aren't getting it. Didn't say within Norwich, said anywhere NEAR Norwich. And I don't mean we won't nod at other locals we don't know personally in the street. What I'm saying is, Norfolk is full of suspicious folk that have a pretty good idea of what local looks like and we know when you're not from here and will look at you sideways until you initiate something. Having a university isn't something that makes a place friendly, London can tell you that.

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Tiredofbeingsick1994@reddit

How can you tell that someone is not a local? I've interacted with quite a few people in Norfolk, and they were a little bit surprised that we were from the west country. It was fairly recent, and nobody gave us weird looks as well.

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SwordTaster@reddit

West Country is easy to confuse for Norfolk, this country is like a bunch of farmers got together in the middle and kept walking in opposite directions until we hit our selected spots.

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cremedelapeng2@reddit

it's a local place for local people.

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asphytotalxtc@reddit

I have to agree! Was DJing in Norwich last weekend.. first time I've ever visited and the pace was lovely! Really friendly, lovely local pub (fucking FANTASTIC pies!).. was great! Plan on going back 😄

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nicskoll@reddit

As an immigrant woman of colour living in Norfolk, I'm with you there. Closed and unfriendly in these parts.

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Kawwaal0067@reddit (OP)

Haha I don't think I've been there why what's wrong?

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Fluffy_Juggernaut_@reddit

Nothing wrong with Norwich. Lovely place. Everyone else in the whole county - just awful

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SwordTaster@reddit

We just generally don't talk to outsiders unless you initiate. We won't be hostile but most people will look at you with some suspicion of we can tell you're not local

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jmacca86@reddit

Yes but you all have 7 fingers on each hand over there so i’d be grump too ……..

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HarassedPatient@reddit

Very few actual Norfolk folk left in North Norfolk - it's full of retired Londoners who moved up to cash out their inflated council house prices and 'to get away from the ***" So the finger to hand ratio is approaching 5 rapidly.

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SalamanderPlus625@reddit

I visited Norwich. On purpose. Fucking lovely. Didn’t get spat on once.

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cjhreddit@reddit

That'd be initiating contact, so is frowned upon !

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arandomguyfromtheuk@reddit

You got spat on more than once then?

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AiberdeenScurry@reddit

I went to uni there and only got spat on once.

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SwordTaster@reddit

Not a habit we have, mostly just sideways looks at the weirdo that actually chose to be here.

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ChiefBr0dy@reddit

Lol what a c*nt

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technologicalslave@reddit

I moved to Norwich, lived there for 4 and a bit years and I still think the people are some of the nicest I've met. Bloody love Norfolk, I'd move back in a heartbeat!

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00roast00@reddit

Also from Norwich, and I agree!

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Smooth_Ad2532@reddit

Thank you for your words you kind and beautiful person. I really appreciated the read. Of course you are welcome back any time. Best wishes, an English girl.

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Too_Soft99@reddit

Hello

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AccountForDoingWORK@reddit

Brits are great at portraying “nice”/“polite” because we don’t like confrontation and we like to be liked. It’s not exactly genuine. I hear the gentle “coo-ey” tones all the time from women on the phone talking to customers, but as soon as the phone is put down, they’re talking shit. It’s one of my least favourite parts about living here, to be honest - the insincerity.

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Either_Lifeguard_966@reddit

I wish i could upvote this a thousand times. They are confusing the “politeness” with friendliness. It’s not genuine at all

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letmehaveathink@reddit

Lol exactly this. “Oh you too, cheers byeee!…Christ what a cunt”

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AccountForDoingWORK@reddit

The higher up in pitch the “byyyyeeee” or the more “byes!” I hear, the more shit I know is going to be talked afterward LOL

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collapsedcuttlefish@reddit

I think of it like the rules of forced interaction. If you have to interact with people to get something done you just want it to be done as smoothly and peacefully as possible. Whether the interaction is genuinely nice or bothersome is irrelevant because my opinion of the person shouldn't affect their ability to perform this exchange. Its not my place to deny them the same treatment because we are both here by circumstance trying to get to the desired conclusions as easily as possible. Outside of these interactions like with friends or in social places I will absolutely remove myself from the presence of people I find irritating because its a waste of my free attention. You could call it insincerity or maybe its just the conduct people have. Its not enjoyable to make transactional operations anymore insufferable than they have to be.

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KingoftheOrdovices@reddit

Would you prefer everyone be horrible to each other 24/7?

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AccountForDoingWORK@reddit

Why does it have to be one or the other? Why are you making such an extreme hypothetical situation your counterpoint?

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RoohsMama@reddit

Politeness can be seen as insincerity but I think it’s a necessary ingredient in daily interactions. I absolutely adore how polite British people are and how well taught they are to hide their true feelings. I lived in Singapore for five years and if you’re not part of the set you get treated like shit. So I think I prefer having an insincere but polite interaction rather than a sincere and abrasive one. More professional looking, more mature, and it’s likely you will get what you want.

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NoBrilliant681@reddit

>coo-ey” tone I really need an in-depth explanation as to what this means. I always tend to think that British people are fake polite (especially in London) as well.

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LollipopBunny@reddit

Coming from a country of mostly rude people that shout all the time, I enjoyed the politeness a lot, guess since I was a foreign visitor it didn’t feel fake to me..

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AccountForDoingWORK@reddit

It's not something you would necessarily pick up on if you weren't a local.

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LollipopBunny@reddit

I understand what you mean, for me specifically it’s difficult cause in my country kindness and politeness are seen as a weakness and gullibility, where in the UK what I experienced was ‘be nice and others will be nice to you’. You should consider visiting Israel then, you might enjoy it haha.

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AccountForDoingWORK@reddit

I'm not really arguing that there aren't some hostile cultural traits in other countries. I'm just saying I like to know where I stand with people.

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LollipopBunny@reddit

Oh course, I didn’t think you were, just thought it’s interesting how different cultures can be and how visitors and locals experience it differently. Thanks for the chat! Have a good one :)

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obliviious@reddit

People are way more genuine than this guy thinks. It's projection.

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LollipopBunny@reddit

I really enjoyed my time there, I thought everyone were lovely and friendly, would definitely come back in the future.

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obliviious@reddit

Yeah on the whole is a nice place to live. Obviously results may vary but generally most are looking to be treated how they want to be treated. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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obliviious@reddit

Sorry you feel that way, I actually like being nice to people. It gives me a dopamine hit I guess. You can't really blame people for resenting the required customer service voice they are told to use and wanting to let off steam afterwards.

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LJMele@reddit

Same, really tiresome is the self loathing bitterness in this askuk reddit sub, whenever anyone from another country posts anything positive about here, it's like 30% a of the sub do everything they can to shit on the idea. Other countries subs aren't like this

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obliviious@reddit

Yeah they just seem to project their angry shut in nature onto everyone else. It can't be that people are nice because I'm faking it!

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Banditofbingofame@reddit

Hard disagree but on a regional basis. I find that down south but in the west, Wales, the North and most of the Midlands it's genuine. It's just the south East that's has a stick up its arse.

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ignorae@reddit

It's the same in Canada. Polite, but cold.

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NeckBeard137@reddit

Don't mistake politeness with kindness/warmth. People in the Uk are great at using politeness as a shield.

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Either_Lifeguard_966@reddit

This ^

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LJMele@reddit

Knew it would t be long before someone on here came to rub some mud on the good vibes

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Longirl@reddit

I genuinely would hate to live my life like this. If someone is kind to me I accept the kindness, I don’t walk away thinking ‘they’re just being polite’. It sounds exhausting.

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Grand_Delivery_2967@reddit

Its hard to ignore the fact that almost everyone you talk to is a fake person/personality though, no one is real in person.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

Then, when you are being real and invite someone to your home hoping they will turn up, they won't thinking it was a fake invite. If you invite me to your home and I accept, I will turn up barring foul weather, illness or work emergency. Because I keep my word and expect other people to do so as well. So there will be hell to play if it was a fake invite.

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xendor939@reddit

Wait, is this a thing???? Not showing up when invited with a date and time? O.o

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I think you should show up when invited unless you have a good reason. But if you don't want to go somewhere, you have been invited to be clear and say so. If someone issues a fake invitation and you turn up, that's their problem, not yours. It's more common in southern England where more people play these mental games that only sociopaths would normally play. If you grew up with it, you wouldn't question it, but I did. Not so much in Wales or Northern England. Sociopaths invented these traditions.

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xendor939@reddit

We are not talking about "we should *definitely* have dinner at mine, once", right? You are saying "why don't you come for dinner tomorrow?" can be a fake invite?

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EveningStar5155@reddit

There are some crazies who would do that. Especially in southern England.

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mebutnew@reddit

But that's literally Britishness - layers of empty manners and politeness

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xendor939@reddit

One could say it is exhausting having to be polite to everybody all the time, thus having to recur to passive-aggressive behaviour to get your point across when needed. The average post on AskUK is "my neighbour is keeping me up until 4am by blastic techno music. I have confronted them by casually commenting on how he seems to be having a good time every evening and then running away. I don't know what to do, help!"

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Longirl@reddit

I think that’s mainly a Reddit user issue tbf.

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xendor939@reddit

Not being willing to have difficult, direct conversations is a direct consequence of British politeness. Exactly because it's not about always being respectful of others, but about always "being kind" and avoid inconveniencing others in "public", which requires phrasing negative stuff more... passively. This is the big difference between British and European politeness. You can be respectful to a person while having difficult conservations. But often you can't be kind/generous/friendly AND have a difficult conservation without being somewhat passive-aggressive. Of course you *can* have a difficult conversation, but it will take effort. Exactly what I was talking about. British English is considered very indirect for a reason.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

It makes it difficult to have any difficult conversation no matter how civilised you are. You are expected to be so indirect, non British people, and thick skinned people won't understand what you are saying. But if you say something like "Could you please turn down the music, or use headphones," it gets read like you said, "Turn that music off or else."

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I usually report them to the authorities when they do this. It's not worth talking to them about it.

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jbarms@reddit

I used to think that the better I got at understanding someone’s hidden intentions behind the things they do and say, the better off I’d be. Since I’ve stopped trying, I’ve realised that the opposite is the case.

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Longirl@reddit

I think it’s better to take people at face value and if they then become problematic deal with it then.

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colabear_@reddit

Its just a cultural difference. If you think everyone in the uk who polite in a British way is invested in you you'll find it alot more exhausting then if u just follow the context clues of when someone is being kind or polite

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EveningStar5155@reddit

To be honest, I am sick of treading on eggshells around over sensitive people, and it has got even worse in the past two decades. At one time, if someone was over sensitive, as most people are these days, we would think there was something wrong with them. That's the flipside of the icy politeness. Also, I like to know where I stand with people.

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BOBOnobobo@reddit

You can say that but for a lot of people that's their experience with Britain. It seems friendly at first but very few people are actually friendly.

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Paleontologist-Flaky@reddit

God forbid anybody online express a positive sentiment about the UK

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mebutnew@reddit

"The women are pretty and they said hello to me"

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Paleontologist-Flaky@reddit

Wow you’re a miserable lot on here

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buford419@reddit

Yes that's right. It is forbidden by God.

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Paleontologist-Flaky@reddit

Good job he’s not real then

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Epsilonian24609@reddit

You just described Americans. From my experience, Americans (at least customer service people) are more polite, nice, and "eager to help" than British people. However British people are genuinely kind. They don't put in the facade of "service with a smile" because they don't have to pretend.

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littlenerpa@reddit

This is really interesting. One of my tutors is Russian and we were talking about the whole Russians come across as rude thing and she said that for them we are the ones who seem rude. Cause we act all nice and polite but it’s just small talk and not actually real so we come across as really insincere and fake. Really interesting to see it from other perspectives.

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Narrow-Cup325@reddit

My British ex husband couldn’t understand why, me, a South American woman always felt lost among his English female friends when I just arrived in the U.K. I used to say him, they are nice, very nice to me but there is something I can’t quite put my finger on it. Also I have notices they are nice in your face, but criticise people once they leave. This feels fake to me, I don’t know where I stand with them, I rather know if someone doesn’t like me, no need to be rude or mean, but you know, just knowing… I won’t get along with this person and that is fine, in my country we just know.

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MoxieHasKnottyBits@reddit

I feel the same and I was born here! The female friends I do have don't do this crap, but loads of people do. Men don't tend to, hence I tend to chat away to the blokes much easier. They will make it very clear if they don't like you.

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sritanona@reddit

Lol men also do it

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MoxieHasKnottyBits@reddit

Yeah but men tend to be much less adept at showing their true feelings on their face and in their tone of voice. Up north at least. I can tell when my husband's mates think someone is a wanker, even if they are "being nice" to that person. With the women, I really struggle to tell until they say something afterwards.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I had a 'friend' who would badmouth almost everyone to everyone else, and it was so boring especially when you hear the same old complaints even about people no longer in his life. He didn't want to do fun things. he only wanted to sit around talking and eating when with friends. It would be nice weather for a change so I would suggest a walk but he didn't want to walk far. He never wanted to go swimming, cycling, or boating, and there is a lake near me with boats for hire. Once he was talking about an abusive ex-girlfriend, and I replied, "But you still kept seeing her?" He didn't like that. He didn't share children or a home with her. I knew he badmouthed me to as many people as he could as they weren't as friendly towards me as they once were. So he plays people off against each other. He used to let people use and abuse him.as he never stood up for himself but it often turned out that he pushed people into doing that. I often overheard him trying to push loans of money onto people.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I agree as I like to know where I stand with people. You don't socialise with someone when you can't stand them, so end up being verbally abusive with them once you have a drink inside you. Or invite them to your home and hope they don't turn up. Yiu give them a wide berth.

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lifepursuits@reddit

Sounds familiar, heard something about constant smiling is not being well received in Russia.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I was born and raised in the UK, and my family doesn't like it either. They aren't Russian, Polish, or French. Smiling most of the time attracts creeps and puts you at risk in public. I love how Rammstein sent up the constant smiling in their video Mein Land filmed in Malibu. So often they were posing like in a stock photo but moving. One of them was rubbing sun screen into two girls while grinning directly at the camera and not at the girl. I saw a video on the Buzzfeed channel on YouTube about where two men go to work in the office and notice all their colleagues are acting like they are in a stock photo. There were women eating salad while grinning.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I would rather grumpiness or coldness in someone than fakeness.

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OsamaBinLadenDoes@reddit

A friend from Poland said pretty much the same thing. Compared to what they were used to (being absolutely direct), we were more subtle and it wasn't obvious if we were being genuine or just 'polite'. Stiff upper lip by the sounds of it!

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SuzLouA@reddit

I actually love Polish people for this, they are blunt as fuck and I find it incredibly refreshing.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

Then the overly fake and polite British people get drunk and start being blunt in a way that even Polish or Russian people people would be shocked at. It's why they get drunk. It's why I now avoid parties and restaurants as some start drinking at home before they come out, and they mix different types of alcohol Go into any supermarket, and there is usually someone with hardly any food in their trolley, but lots of drinks. On any day if the week.

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xendor939@reddit

Also in Italian this level of politeness would sound overly fake and pretentious. Are you weird, snob, or are you trying to get something from me???? It took me a while to get adjusted to the fact that it's merely empty words.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I call it love bombing and it would make me want to avoid that person.

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

I wonder from our perspective if language differences in inflection etc counts too? I'm learning both European and Brazilian Portuguese. The euro version sounds very Russian-esque to my ears. For both, I have had to listen to native speakers and adapt how I speak, because it makes me wonder - if Russians can sound cold and aloof, do I sound like a complete good to the Portuguese/Brazilians (probably still will despite my trying lol) or will they wonder why I sound so peppy when I'm asking them how much 3 bell peppers will cost me?

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xendor939@reddit

The key is that there is a difference between "polite" and "friendly" words (or even tenses). You are supposed to be respectful, not friendly (unless you actually mean it). The latter won't harm (apart from some formal settings...), but will definitely sound peppy.

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webmoneyostap@reddit

Sounds like someone did you really wrong, how does that even happen?

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glytxh@reddit

I think of politeness in public as a shared frame of reference myself and a stranger can have an interaction in. It’s a weird little dance we both know. I don’t want to ever be a dick, and I’m always courteous, but I absolutely use it as a means of avoiding as much interaction as possible with strangers. People scare me

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EveningStar5155@reddit

If I want to avoid interaction with people, I grey rock them.

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Consistent_Umpire443@reddit

Who hurt you

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RomanK81@reddit

He's definitely hurt, He's been done wrong I can see that.

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Comcaded@reddit

Nah she right about that

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jimydog12@reddit

Sir digby Caesar used his cunning wit to acquire a can of special brew with his “charm” then dashed away putting his two fingers up

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TheFuzzball@reddit

That's Sir Digby Chicken Caesar to you.

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jimydog12@reddit

How did I forget the chicken! I have failed

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Fluffy_Juggernaut_@reddit

Or are you HIS NEMESIS?!

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heavenhelpyou@reddit

Found him!

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NibblyPig@reddit

dun dlun dun dun dlun dun dun dlun dun dun dlun dun doodla doolda do do doooooo

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pukachang@reddit

British people 😢

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Longirl@reddit

Probably his neck beard.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

It makes it difficult to be honest and assertive when you need to be. Eventually, I run out of excuses and hints as to why I don't want to go to certain places or hang out with certain people. Even when people are being controlling and verballly abusive, I met it with a blank stare and said nothing. Then, I did the opposite behind their backs. I have been accused of 'biting someone's head off' when I did nothing of the sort. I just failed to show sympathy over something in his past that he could have easily avoided.

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jake03583@reddit

Same can be said about “Southern politeness” in the US. It’s all a shield

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VelvetDreamers@reddit

I’ve never experienced this in the 25 years I’ve resided in the UK as an immigrant. I can discern patronising and distinguishing professional obligations and decorum with sincerity but British people do not use courtesy as a shield. A shield from what? To maintain class distinctions like in period dramas and convey how civilised they are from savage? Lmao, the social ineptitude of Reddit is so bizarre.

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FookinBlinders@reddit

OP is just being miserable. Not true at all.

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FookinBlinders@reddit

Why are you so miserable?

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indefatigable_@reddit

I disagree. Yes, some people are just putting on a front, but most people I know will use pleasantries with strangers, and be willing to have genuinely warm engagement if the other person wants. I include myself in that, both in general and professional life, but also previously when I worked in a pub, a supermarket and even in a call centre. If the other person wanted to have a chat and they weren’t being a dick I’d more than happily chat and be interested in what they say.

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barkwoofgrowl@reddit

Yes, and what OP is describing is how I treat customers, so I wonder if the women he is talking about were working in hospitality and being polite because OP was a customer.

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_Dracarys98@reddit

You sound fun

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ThrinnyMcWhinny@reddit

So true

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smellyfeet25@reddit

really? I find a lot of them miserable sour face things that look contantly at their phones

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Mahbigjohnson@reddit

See, this is what I always tell people that British women are the best. The friendliest, most fun, and most chilled women on the planet. I've been all over the world, and whilst my experiences have all been positive, none compare to the UK.

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Comcaded@reddit

Me when I spread misinformation online

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Mahbigjohnson@reddit

I feel sorry for your mother Guess the film quote

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curiousincurious@reddit

Menace 2 society?

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Mahbigjohnson@reddit

Ding ding ding!

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Jonnyporridge@reddit

If I'm comparing to my wife then I have to agree. Friendliest, most fun and most chilled definitely did not apply to my previous relationships though.

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Mahbigjohnson@reddit

I mean we do have our nutters but even they are great fun ....from a distance

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Jonnyporridge@reddit

It was the distance bit I was falling down on 🤣

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Mahbigjohnson@reddit

🤣🤣🤣

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Matttthhhhhhhhhhh@reddit

I personally think Italian women are friendlier and way more fun. But that's probably because I'm fluent in the language.

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Mahbigjohnson@reddit

Italian women are awesome but I've dated a few and they can switch like no man's business

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Matttthhhhhhhhhhh@reddit

Yep, I've noticed that too. ;)

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miked999b@reddit

Being down voted for this 😂 There's some miserable bastards on this sub.

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Mahbigjohnson@reddit

They must be from Nottingham....which is fair enough 😁

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RBXXIII@reddit

False bro, Bulgaria has the most beautiful women in Europe, go see for yourself :P But come to North of England we've got the hospitality of an overweight women from southern USA who likes to bake, make sure you've had enough iced tea and call you sugar.

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

I've seen Dutch women that made me feel like I'd been kicked in the stomach. A real physical reaction to stunningly beautiful women. I don't remember it ever happening here.

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RBXXIII@reddit

Sorry you got downvoted, I think its super interesting man! I've never been to the Netherlands but have always, and intend to visit! I think the differences in physical appearances is super interesting. Especially in relation to regions and such. Whether or not those particular features appeal to you should not be looked down open, but celebrated. Crazy times.

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

No need, I'm not here for upvotes

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RBXXIII@reddit

*have always wanted to go

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Kawwaal0067@reddit (OP)

I'll try Bulgaria one day and yes it's true people from the north were friendly than London maybe because London is a huge city with many mixed ppl

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RBXXIII@reddit

Theres many historical and cultural reasons bro. And I'm sure it's the same in other countries, different regions different attitudes. But your observation is refreshing, and welcome always my brother :) much love.

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mickohno@reddit

dated a girl from Nottingham (i’m from the US) nicest??? lmao absolutely not xx

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ClearMajor3579@reddit

Because you're a hot foreigner to them! British guys stink to them 😂

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ChezDudu@reddit

UK people are very kind and polite and say "good morning" "How are you doing " "have a nice day ". Not just women. Side note: as a foreigner it took me a while to understand that "haya there you allright?" is just a synonym for "hello" and not, in fact, a query about how I am.

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greengotfingered@reddit

I’m not a foreigner and I still take it as a how are you, I can’t stop. Usually only respond with “yeah you?” but left in silence!

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ChezDudu@reddit

I also learned to answer with “nottoobadandyou?” and then ignore the answer as per tradition.

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bigblackshaq@reddit

> and then ignore the answer glad to know I am not the only one zoning out after saying not bad

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spnelson@reddit

Usually “yeahgoodyou?” Fading into the distance

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Nickibee@reddit

Or you can close off with “yeah thanks, lovely/crap weather though!”

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charliesheenpart@reddit

That works as well, and the best part is that you could say it in any situation.

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Fluffy_Juggernaut_@reddit

This is the correct answer

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bostero2@reddit

I feel like lovely/crap weather is the correct definition for weather in England.

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dogdogj@reddit

Not worth the extra brain storage to have lovely as an option, default to crap.

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NostAlpha@reddit

Not just all one word, sometimes I manage it in 1 syllable

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blazh24@reddit

Yeah if you could manage that, then why not do that I guess.

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Armodeen@reddit

Congratulations, here is your citizenship

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Jerryxixi@reddit

That's right lol, that's all they need to do to get the citizenship.

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dan1d1@reddit

The audacity when somebody says no and starts to explain what's wrong...

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ccth2012@reddit

That's what it's about, as long as we're learning I guess.

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PlatformFeeling8451@reddit

You have now achieved peak-Britishness, now all you need is to have strong opinions on Jaffa cakes and your integration will be complete.

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bornfromanegg@reddit

I’m British and I don’t really care about Jaffa cakes! Shall I get my coat?

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PlatformFeeling8451@reddit

Just fake interest, only insane people *actually* care

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bornfromanegg@reddit

Right, got it. Yeah, Jaffa cakes?! Don’t talk to me about Jaffa cakes. Not even a real cake, is it?! Or something. How’s that?

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No_Coyote_557@reddit

Biscuits

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fengshuifountain@reddit

And marmite

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SoulSkrix@reddit

Hopefully negative opinions on that one.

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fengshuifountain@reddit

Oh no! Marmite is lovely!!

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johnbtc99@reddit

Yep, it just doesn't get anymore British than that I don't think.

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EveningStar5155@reddit

The exact opposite would happen in Germany according to the Radical Living channel on YouTube.

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WongUnglow@reddit

Or just nod and "alright?" "Alright" (maybe a nod) Keep walking.

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whosafeard@reddit

The trick is to mush it into one word “yehyu” and just say that instinctively when asked if you’re alright

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Low-Gazelle2705@reddit

Underrated comment

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bons_burgers_252@reddit

Or, if you’re a little needy, use it as an excuse to tell everyone how bad your life is. “Alright?” “No actually. I’ve been up half the night with diarrhoea but I took some Imodium. It’s not been the same since my grandma died. I bought a new TV a few months ago and it’s got a huge scratch on it. Bloody kids. I feel like I can’t concentrate or focus. I’m all over the bloody place. Etc.”

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Elastichedgehog@reddit

Yeah, you? Is a perfectly fine response. Just don't expect a reply, as you said.

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vitalik25@reddit

You get what you get, that's just how it goes in the Britain.

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Jamericho@reddit

You always get that one person that replies “Well..” and you are stuck nodding for twenty minutes.

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EmiAndTheDesertCrow@reddit

This has always been my answer and it’s so ingrained that I never noticed that the other person generally ignores the question until now! You just say “yeah, you?” and then they start talking about the thing they approached you for in the first place 😆

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Saito09@reddit

Better than the confirmation loop; Hey, you alright? Yeah, how are you? Good, yeah. Im good. You doing alrite then? Yeah not bad, not bad. Howve you been though, okay yeah? Aye mate, ta. Yourself?

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IAdoreAnimals69@reddit

I was born and raised in England and recently moved to the countryside after 30 years in London. It took a while to get used to people saying "good morning/afternoon/evening" as you pass them. Try that in central London and you'll get at best a confused look, more likely a punch in the face or the recipient running away and calling the police.

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welsh_cthulhu@reddit

Born and bred UK, and I always take it as an enquiry.

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greengotfingered@reddit

If I’m feeling chatty I use it as a conversation opener - but from most comments I see it’s not wanted

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DC38x@reddit

I only take it as an enquiry if it's repeated. "Alright?" "Alright." "You alright?" "Yeah all good cheers you?"

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Boris_Johnsons_Pubes@reddit

Well that’s just rude of the people that leave you in silence, the correct response would be “yeah I’m good too thanks”

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Mysterious_Sugar7220@reddit

I normally just yell 'good thanks!' over my shoulder as we're already 10 feet away at that point

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Tariovic@reddit

That's because what you are saying is the correct way to say 'hello' back! I'm sorry if you feel that the person is being rude to you, but just know that the other person is regarding that as a perfectly polite exchange.

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NoordRev@reddit

Which is fucking stupid, my friends stopped doing that at all after I started just dishing out every little problem of mine, just to be a pain in the ass. What I hate even more is "you should come over for dinner" knowing full well they don't want you to come over. I started actually making plans on the spot. Stupid ass "polite" culture I fucking swear???

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Bl_Lover@reddit

Lols wherw did u goooo?????

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florence_ow@reddit

it isn't a synonym for hello, but you don't go into detail. if someone opened with "you alright" and you say "hello" back that would be slightly weird

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DeifniteProfessional@reddit

"You alright mate" or "alright, how are you?" are the only two legal responses

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shalverson1127@reddit

Yep, that's really true. If you greet them then They'll greet you back.

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rex1991@reddit

Also 'Ey up duck' is not actually calling you a waterfowl

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Ihavecakewantsome@reddit

Best thing about living in Nottingham 🥰

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HannaaaLucie@reddit

And Leicester. 'Ay up me duck' is pretty common here, as well as 'Ay up me ol' bod'.

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Ihavecakewantsome@reddit

Oh yes, true! My lovely colleague often greets me that way and they are proper Leicester ❤

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HannaaaLucie@reddit

'Propa Lesta' I've known people take the piss before for my accent, personally I love my Leicester accent.

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joeflan91@reddit

And someone calling you love doesn't in fact mean they love you. Call everyone love, love abroad, confused faces everywhere.

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jeobleo@reddit

WTF?

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Glittering-Skin4118@reddit

Tbh I’m from the uk and when I say “haya you alright” I actually mean it as both you have the option to reply. They usually reply “yea you” then I say good and then I move on.

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ofthenafs@reddit

I was born here and still say "I'm alright how are you?" Throws them right off

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Humanmode17@reddit

>"haya there you alright?" Why did I read this in the strongest Geordie accent?

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invincible-zebra@reddit

As a rare breed of Geordie who can turn the accent on and off from a lifetime of living all over the place, I feel I should correct the pronunciation. It’s actually ‘HIYA MEEEYT Y’AAREET?’

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FranScan1997@reddit

As a geordie who lived in London, I used to love saying "alreet" and watching southerners why confused/excited at this provincial thing in front of them

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CrownedGoat@reddit

“Turn the accent off” So what’s the accent now?

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invincible-zebra@reddit

Sort of just your every day stereotypical British, not quite RP as I say bath, grass, and France properly, none of this barth, grarss, or frarnce weirdness. I have a slight northern twang that people pick up on.

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BmuthafuckinMagic@reddit

Typical response to "you alright? “being "getting there" or a simple head nod if you're a guy.

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reverse_horsegirl@reddit

“Yeah not bad you?”

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sweetsimpleandkind@reddit

"Yerayou?" in a Yorkshire accent. Probably meant to be three distinct words I guess, but who has the time?

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rulebreaker@reddit

This is the default script, yeah.

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bercg@reddit

In Scotland the typical response is "surviving" or "aye no bad"

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mikehive@reddit

"Can't complain"

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petemorley@reddit

There's also the other exchange "Alright?" "'Alright"

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flyingspumonimonster@reddit

"Alright then"

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onmytod@reddit

Hahaha where the hell do you live? The only people I've heard say that are customer service workers, and most of the time they don't bother (I'm very polite to them). Maybe living in London has coloured my opinion, but there are people from all over living in London. The vast majority of us are rude AF. I'm guessing that OP is an attractive guy, and that's why a bunch of women were fawning over him.

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SuzLouA@reddit

This is apparently a noted phenomenon amongst medical professionals in this country, especially if it’s treatment for an ongoing issue (and therefore you see them quite often). Our brains just automatically put “fine thanks” into our mouths because we’re so used to saying it as a response to “how are you”. My physio says she had to start directly asking “how is [your body part]?” because even if they’re in agony, most people will still say they’re fine if she just asks how are you.

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pm_me_your_amphibian@reddit

Response “hello”s being: “good thanks you?” “bit warm/chilly” “Yeah but can’t believe it’s dark already!” “Happy it’s Friday!” “Alright for a Monday morning I suppose” Etc

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Dont_believe_me__@reddit

Dont forget the prankster response " no actually, Im half left"

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bercg@reddit

"with a bit in the middle"

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pm_me_your_amphibian@reddit

Ayyyyyyy 👈🏻

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TheAmazingSealo@reddit

I usually answer with 'Yeah, still alive'

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pm_me_your_amphibian@reddit

Oh yes, another classic. Particularly if you say it in a manner that conveys you’re actually quite inconvenienced by that fact.

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applescracker@reddit

Here’s a question - what’s a good reply to “heya, you alright?” I work in hospitality, so usually it’s a very nice person saying this to me and I only have about five seconds to formulate a good reply before they leave, and I can never think of a good answer in time

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Commiesstoner@reddit

Yea when people say that the most you should reply is really "Good you?", I go through this with Euros/Americans and Asians I play with online that don't understand my short-handed responses when they ask how I am.

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Beatnuki@reddit

Yes yes, if anyone starts talking about how we actually are emotionally we just get weirdly uncomfortable! 🇬🇧

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SnooEagles3302@reddit

Am I the only one who doesn't mind that much if people get confused and start randomly trauma dumping when you ask how they are? If it was bugging them that much I'd rather they just said it. The only situation where I really disliked it was when I was working as a cashier, but working in retail makes you dislike everyone who interacts with you.

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whosafeard@reddit

“It’s called small talk, not my depressing life in 30 seconds”

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99zakya@reddit

😂

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windol1@reddit

Not necessarily, there's plenty of people who ask it and generally mean the question. It is probably one of the most annoying people in the UK do when it comes to greetings, but on another note if someone says "alright" when encountering them then that is another way of saying hello.

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Teedubz1@reddit

orite yerself mylove ow ya been ;)

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stifferdnb@reddit

In the south maybe, up north when we say "y'alright" it is , indeed, a query about how you are.

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Chashme_Wali@reddit

2 years in and I still respond with a "I'm good, how are you?" And then sigh thinking "that's not what she meant."

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cherrypez123@reddit

I had the same thing when I went to America and everyone was asking “heyyy what’s up?”

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Agent---4--7@reddit

It's 'ya oryt' not 'you alright' 😆

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fulthrottlejazzhands@reddit

That's funny. I'm an American who's been over here for quite a while. My wife (Brit) and friends here used to quib it was annoying that Americans would greet with "how are you?" when they actually just meant "hello". This confounded me considering the amount of times I'd hear "you alright?" here.

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elbapo@reddit

It's a check to see if you are mental or not

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Pierogchen@reddit

I always wondered. Do you actually have to say "Yes, I'm good, and you?" or is it enough to just copy-cat back with "Y'alright?"

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PsychologicalFan7749@reddit

as a socially inept teen i would just answer the question and then ask how are you?...then wonder why theyd just say "yeah good thanks" then walk off.

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Mr-jollie@reddit

It's complicated, in some places people are genuinely interested to know if you're alright and if you just say the same back theyll become a little bit irked. Maybe it's just where I live idk.

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Bathhouse-Barry@reddit

Americans asking “how’s it going?” But it’s just a hello basically and I feel like a fool for stopping to tell them.

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Nickibee@reddit

Oh you should definitely answer that in full just to mess with people. 😂

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Kudosnotkang@reddit

We’re all confused by it yet find ourselves saying it .

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shipcalleddignity@reddit

Alright is an answer that can also mean alright? As in, I’m alright are you alright?

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Orange_Reign@reddit

Come to Sheffield. Might change your opinion but I'm glad your experience has been with the exception of this lovely dirty little country.

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According-Strategy74@reddit

where the fuck have you been

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Hellchild400@reddit

Where abouts in the UK are you on about because my part of the UK apparently sucks 😅

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Cassyj-8888@reddit

Rual area completely agree everyone says hi

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Howtfdoidraw@reddit

Damn, gotta go to wherever you went to meet those women

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Ohshutyourmouth@reddit

You're just attractive probably.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

I’m assuming you’re only polite to people you find fuckable but the majority of women aren’t going around al day desperately looking for a sexy bloke. If they’re polite they’re just polite, not trying to charm and sweet talk you. This attitude is exactly why some women are afraid of being polite in public btw. Smile at a man and he decides to follow you onto the fucking bus, force conversation and ask for your number then get upset when you say no because “you were flirting with me”

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realiloneli@reddit

As a woman I agree with the top comment people underestimate how attractiveness is valued in societies. And how being attractive can lead to more acceptance by a society for both genders. I remember when I was uglier people especially men were not polite to me I used to have men slam the door in my face while they opened it for other attractive women. When I started dressing nice and treated my acne suddenly they started opening doors for me and smiling at me instead of scowling and not wanting to look me in the eye. Unfortunately I know that there is a misogynistic layer underneath this too and there is so much pressure for women to appear more attractive than their male counterparts. I do know that men can experience more respect for their attractiveness too. Think of how we bash ugly people on telly for being dumb a lot more while attractive people on telly are rewarded for it (just look at Love Island). I'm not saying that people who finds you attractive find you shaggable always however you certainly gain a lot more decency from strangers for being at least attractive.

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letmehaveathink@reddit

What is this, not even 1% of men? Stop calling us all weirdos for the sins of the few. I literally feel like most women don’t want men interacting with them in public unless they deem them attractive

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bad_omens1@reddit

Think you've run in the wrong direction with this one. It's a known phenomena that attractive people experience higher levels of politeness/positive interactions, regardless of gender. Sources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4873083/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8289770/ https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0092656612001390

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

*Higher* levels. Doesn’t mean these women are *only* being polite because they find OP attractive, which is the incel narrative being peddled by the comment I replied to.

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EmmaInFrance@reddit

You're both right! The 'pretty privilege' is a real, research, studied phenomenon and I don't know if you ever read r/2××chromosomes but it does get discussed over there regularly. As does the increasing invisibility of women as they age, both after 30 and after 50 are two points at when most women say it hits the hardest; gain weight, become pregnant - with some exceptions as it can actually be more attractive to some men; have small children in attendance, perhaps in a pram or pushchair; are less conventionally attractive; and so on. Conversely, women there also discuss their experiences on being noticed more and being treated better when out in public, on getting better feedback, bonuses and pay rises at work, or doing better in job interviews and salary negotiations, following weight loss, particularly substantial and transformative amounts of weight loss. Similarly, attractive women of any size whose natural hair colour has always been dark or just mouse brown will still notice that if they chose to spend the hours and hours and £££££ in the hairdressers to artificially lighten their hair to somewhere in the range of the different blonde shades, then they will not just get hit on more by men but also get treated better by society in general. We are all conditioned and programmed, from a very young age, by the society we grow up in and live in, to subconsciously retain an ideal image of the human body and face, of what is and isn't attractive. This is constantly reinforced throughout our lives by our families, within the communities we grow up in, by the friends we have and by the media we consume. The image of the ideal woman in European society has absolutely changed over time! Even just looking back over the last few hundred years, it's easy to see that! As a curvy, pale redhead, I might have been considered very attractive back then when red hair was prized, and both plumpness and pale skin were a signs of wealth! But that didn't do me much good as a teen, growing up in the UK in the 80s, when having red hair got even pop stars viciously bullied by the tabloids and school kids suffered even worse!

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KtRedHen@reddit

I don’t know if it will make you feel any better at at all but I have always thought red headed women are the most beautiful. They are the most exotic beauties in my eyes and I have always been upset I wasn’t one lol.

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

I think a little more emphasis need be put on the "society we grew up in" I'm no longer interested in women, if I ever was. But I personally found black or mixed race girls to be the prettiest/most alluring despite being white in a very much predominantly white area, why? Best friend was an older black girl, also had a few only positive interactions with black girls as a kid. So I wasn't told what I ought to find attractive, or at least I didn't listen, and I doubt I am unique in that. Also, as a gay person, I was told to like guys like Zac Efron and Ryan Gosling (why? Just why? Honestly perhaps it doesn't need to be said, but to me he actually looks below average to my lens, he's no hunk) but in actual fact I like builder-like guys, skinheads or, for lack of a better term, stocky oaf-like men. All quite removed from what's peddled as attractive to my ilk, if you follow my meaning? Perhaps I am in the minority, but I doubt it. Perhaps it could be argued that we are more programmed for individuality (surface level, of course) and contrarianism? Perhaps I'm getting lost in boll*cks :D

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

Yeah I’m very aware that men treat women better (or, well, differently) when they find us attractive. It’s pivotal to my point that some men then assume politeness from women can only mean she’s attracted to him, because he cannot imagine being nice to someone of the opposite sex for any other reason. (Conventionally) attractive people obviously have a better time of things but there’s of course more nuanced social issues at play.

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

That is so true. I don't claim to be out of this world, but a little tan, a nice outfit and well presented hair is the difference maker for me. I felt like I was trested like trash and clearly had aged or declined... Dependent on the way you look at it I must be quite unappealing without those things I mentioned, but the minute I was... "Dolled up" it was like people were more interested in talking to me, were complimentary and I was judged differently (I know, shocker) Basically I can go from scruffy, pale council estate boy (someone EVERYONE in society loves to hate) to attractive and esteemed/intelligent homosexual Ken doll (wild card but most are neutral if a little confused by my presence) quite easily. And no one wants to bother or snipe at the latter in my experience.

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WatermelonCandy5@reddit

I wonder the sort of man who has those three articles in his back pocket ready to go.

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itsmetsunnyd@reddit

Presumably someone with 10 seconds on their hands to google the topic?

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bad_omens1@reddit

I wonder the sort of person who is incapable of googling the topic for themselves. Not like these are my bookmarks, just trying to educate people who default to rage.

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M05HI@reddit

It's so easy to access data these days and r/WatermelonCandy5 out here insinuating someone based off receipts. Imma log out, enjoy folks

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LJMele@reddit

I love how women on Reddit are constantly inventing situations to be angry about in order to justify their rudeness and/or hostility to others

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

It doesn’t happen to you so it doesn’t happen to anyone, right? My example was relatively specific because it happened to me. I’ve also had to use that trick where you run and to a woman and pretend to know her so the strange man harassing her in public gets bored/can’t talk to her any more/thinks she’s no longer alone and vulnerable. When we aren’t careful we’re blamed. When we are careful we’re blamed. Starting to think we are just expected to be hurt and stay quiet about it.

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LJMele@reddit

Yeah whatever. Just don't smile at me whatever you do or I wouldn't be able to control myself and would be compelled to follow you home... Jesus wept.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

Again, you’re angry at women who have been harassed instead of getting angry at the men doing the harassing, giving men a bad name and making things unsafe for women. Do you not see the issue here?

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LJMele@reddit

Why are you going through my post history? That's like literally harassment.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

It’s a public comment history and I was curious if you make a habit of being angry at women. Turns out you do.

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LJMele@reddit

Call me what you will but at least I'm polite to strangers and do my best to make the environments I find myself in friendly and welcoming for others. Id rather that than be dwelling on the irrational fear that one might try to rape me if I do and treating everyone coldly as a result.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

Again, why are you at the women whose lived experiences have made them scared? Why not be angry at them men scaring them? Is it because you’re angry that you’re not getting attention from women? Are women routinely cold towards and afraid of you?

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LJMele@reddit

I don't like anyone who uses past "trauma" as an excuse to be mean or rude to others. I've had more than my fair share of it and I don't use it as a reason to lash out at the world. A smile or a pleasant exchange can make a person's day or at the very least brighten it just a little, and it literally costs nothing to do. If everyone did it the world would be a whole lot less miserable

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

A smile or pleasing exchange and and has put women in unsafe situations also. Again, why are you angry at the women who have been scared badly enough to keep themselves safe and not the men who are scaring and harassing women? Why is it the victim’s job to get over their harassment and keep pleasing random men?

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LJMele@reddit

You sound like you hate men far more than I hate women.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

I love men, wouldn’t be dating one otherwise. But I also value my safety and am painfully aware of how often comments sections are full of comments that boil down to “she should have known better, she should have just told him to leave her alone” when we are attacked by strangers. I’m also not rude or cold to strangers. It’s possible to be conscious of your safety and have a way out without ignoring and running from men who make eye contact with you. It’s just a thing you think about in the background. I also surround myself with wonderful men who know they aren’t entitled to the attention of random strangers (male or female), and who understand the social cues of a person who doesn’t want to talk to them. Sad thing is you outright admit you hate women and yet you seem to want to date us. That’s not going to help you. And hating women instead of being annoyed at the men who give you a bad name is not a good way to gain that happy society you apparently want.

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LJMele@reddit

I do hate those men, they are the scourge of the earth and a disgrace to my gender. If I see them online I ridicule them, if I see them on the street (rare but very occasional) I do more than ridicule them. Literally every proper man is like this though, it's the absolute norm in society so I don't even feel the need to say it. I don't hate women anyway. I don't care for attention either, I like a quiet life and adore the people around me that I call my friends and family. I don't even know how you've come to the conclusion I hate women. I said I'm polite and warm to "people" not just men, that includes women. Youre the one who seems to change your behavior depending on the gender in front of you? Using random anolomies to justify it is just cowardly imo. It's like me saying I'm kind and polite to everyone except black people because statistically they are more likely to beat and rob me. That also has the added bonus of being a "lived experience ' of mine too. But guess what, I don't blank every random black dude I meet now and will always smile or help should the situation arise.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

You outright said you hate women lol. Your post history is incel territory too. The issue here is that you don’t believe women. You think my experience is a “random anomaly” and that we’re making shit up. People adjust their behaviour based on the situation and their perceived safety all the time. Getting upset that women do it specifically and dont fawn to random men is pretty silly.

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LJMele@reddit

I admit I'm incel but I don't hate women and never said I did? Me saying you seem to hate men more than I hate women isn't me saying "I hate women". And see, this is my problem right here, you think showing basic courtesy to men like smiling and being friendly is "fawning over them". It's literally just being a decent person and treating someone the way you'd hope to be treated yourself.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

> You sound like you hate men far more than **I hate women**. Incel behaviour is inherently hateful. It relies on entitlement to women. You’ve heard this a hundred times before because it’s true but that personality and mindset is what’s putting women off, not the fact that you don’t look like “chad”

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LJMele@reddit

You're not even listening and are simply projecting your bigotry and assumptions onto me. This is pointless, I'm done here. Id say I hope you try to live life a little more compassionately and optimistically but fear that is unrealistic.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

I’m not the one accusing women of lying about being harassed because they have the cheek to be afraid of strange men. Hope you improve the attitude towards women before you inflict yourself upon one.

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LJMele@reddit

God I feel sorry for the poor sap who is couple up with you. I'd genuinely rather live the rest of my life along than sign up for that emotional death sentence.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

He’s got enough emotional intelligence to understand the subject so it doesn’t offend him. You wouldn’t get it :)

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LJMele@reddit

Yeah, well good luck and godspeed to him

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Ohshutyourmouth@reddit

I bat for the other team and your assumptions are entirely wrong.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

Your orientation isn’t relevant as I said “people”. Men are also people :)

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Ohshutyourmouth@reddit

Maybe don't make such assumptions then. Everything you've said is totally wrong.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

It’s really not. I’m talking about women’s lived experiences in a thread about women. Even then, I didn’t specify women when taking about the impression you give.

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

Yeah and the worst of it is I'm a desperate man-wh*re with no self respect. And all those creeps with no boundaries be bothering women who aren't interested. Shame they can't come screw a dude who's almost always interested (unless they're greasy fat neckbeards, they can f*ck off). Star-crossed lovers I tell ya. Idk if that pertains to you, but playing crazy has helped this scrawny gay boy out of many situations. People say that fronting it out or sticking up for oneself isn't the way to go, but if you're able to convince a man he'll wake up with his dog's head next to him in bed (perish the thought, I love dogs :( ) and he won't make that same mistake twice :p Play the twisted people at their own game, that's what I say.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

Haha, you gave me a good laugh with that one! I’m not sure how well I could play crazy but I’ve done that thing where you jump in to talk at a woman and pretend to know her so she can pretend back. It’s always confused the pants off the man harassing her because suddenly he’s being ignored and shouting at us doesn’t work as well because we just keep talking, ignoring, establishing that we know each other and someone is waiting for us at the station etc. So they just wander off angry.

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

True, and although I've always seen myself as low key timid, perhaps I've overplayed that and I am not in fact timid but just someone who once was and am quite hyper aware. Idk. No one really tends to believe me when I say this, but if it works for someone like me, I'd think it'd work for anyone. Believe in your strength... It's like thinking abstract or outside the box. For you perhaps you might see it as "I need to protect a younger, more vulnerable girl than I" so it brings out a much more fiery side, or get yourself as angry as you like. Anything! To be fair though that technique seems to be tried and tested and if it works, it works too. Most women will stick together on that one, I'd hope/imagine. Another, if you're open to any suggestions should you be caught up in some unpleasant business, is be a calculated cookie, I have done it myself. Are you aware of how you look and what you present, intentionally or not? E.g you might be a petite woman who looks like a wee lass, which instills this white knight mentality in people around you. Well? In that sitch I'd exploit it. See I said I'm a scrawny gay boy. I am also angelic blond and have one of those goofy faces, so at worst annoying but also have that look that says "why would anyone hit him for?" So where I have had homophobic issues, I make a scene but I am calculated enough not to swear, not to be too stereotypically screechy and show some vulnerability. Basically I think of it as giving the audience what they want. No one wants to help overconfident gay guy, but people want to feel like they're stepping in and doing the right thing. TL:DR - embarrass the hell out of the creep. Embellish a little in the moment. It's fight or flight and he started it with the wrongful behaviour, you need to do what you need to do to get him to p*ss off. Total tangent, but yeah, if you have a potentially scary side to you, you should embrace it. If you're a cutie patootie to other people, own it. The same way my great aunt was a fork-tongued good time gal back in the day, but now she has reinvented herself as sweet Scottish granny (and btw is she heck, but I still love her lmao)

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Top_Wishbone3349@reddit

Of course they aren’t consciously mistreating ugly men but they do it all the same

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Consistent-Pound572@reddit

Once a mental bloke approached to me on the street and said “Hello, what is your name?” and judging by the disoriented looks, weird approach I took a step back and he said “Don’t go! I love you.” I was quite scared, started speeding up to the opposite direction and this mental bloke was following me for a moment. Then he saw another woman walking, approached her. She smiled and said “hello” back. To this day I find this level of politeness unbelievable. I’m not British. She is.

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Far_Preference5310@reddit

I find it much easier to disarm people like that man by saying "hello, how's it going man" and moving on, they like being acknowledged and I've never had any bother with follow up. Treat them like they are humans, not monsters. I have lived in Glasgow for 20+ years and have seen my fair share of stoaters.

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Consistent-Pound572@reddit

It wasn’t the fact that a random guy approached to me, but the way he was behaving was quite disoriented. Otherwise I talk to random people on the street everyday because I work outdoors.

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Far_Preference5310@reddit

I was asked a question once but had my earphones in so asked him to repeat, by his initial gesture I thought he was asking for the time or for a light, no, he was asking if he could feel my tits, as it was raining and they were "nice and wet". I laughed and said you can't say that to a lady in the street so he said "I'm sorry, can I feel your breasts then?" He was off his face on something, but we laughed and went on our way, it could have gone so differently. I'm sorry your moment wasn't so fun.

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Fearless_Employee_89@reddit

very interesting story

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Consistent-Pound572@reddit

How often a random guy says “Hello, I love you.” to you?

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Fearless_Employee_89@reddit

Everyday when I look in the mirror

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SleepFlower80@reddit

You sound like the kind of moron that genuinely believes the girl behind the bar in his local pub is polite to him because she fancies him, and not because she’s in a customer service job and is paid to be nice to everyone, and then doesn’t understand it when she says no after he harasses her for her number at work.

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Ohshutyourmouth@reddit

Actually no I bat for the other team but thanks for imagining all of that in your head.

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SleepFlower80@reddit

Which makes your original comment all the more worse.

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Banditofbingofame@reddit

Strong mark Corrigan ordering coffee and trying to marry everyone vibes.

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littlenerpa@reddit

Lmao literally just watched that episode as I read this.

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MorningToast@reddit

I'll have you know I look like the lid from a pringles tin that's been through the hot rinse cycle in a dishwasher and women are still polite to me.

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Ihavecakewantsome@reddit

Everybody loves toast in the morning though!

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Dying_in_London@reddit

Just my type then ;)

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Fina1Legacy@reddit

Once you pop...

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SmokeYourEspresso@reddit

That's oddly specific

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northernbloke@reddit

Sympathy politeness 😂

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MorningToast@reddit

I'll take it

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rachll0uisa@reddit

This whole thread is a classic case of British not being able to take a fcking compliment.

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Gullible_Wind_3777@reddit

You didn’t go down south far enough 😅 Another half hour drive in the opposite direction you’d end up in hillbilly land. No one is nice down there 🤣

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Yell0w_Submarine@reddit

The most racist and impolite people I've met have been UK people.

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Physics_Revolution@reddit

The Brits are usually very polite. Some SwordTasters though!

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Norythelittlebrie@reddit

As a French person, nothing makes me quite as fuzzy and warm inside as a British cashier lady telling me "there you go my lovely" while giving me my change

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Expensive-Piano1890@reddit

Spanish and Italian women are the prettiest? That has definitely not been my experience…

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Throwaway84936__@reddit

You have to remember, we have a culture of politeness. We may actually hate you but we are still polite. My auntie, god rest her soul, spoke 5 languages and she said British are the only people who when asked for money straight up by a tramp say “sorry, no” She said the French et al don’t feel the need to apologise. My wife is foreign and she is confounded by people being always nice to her and then finding out they don’t want to be friends. Her culture you are straight up with people if you don’t like them and they give no fks about showing it. Here it’s appalling to show this to people. If you do it’s serious shit

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According-Sample-123@reddit

This is UK propaganda (no not a good look at something).

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DevilBlade69@reddit

Go to Essex and then you will see the definition of 'nice women'.

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Savageparrot81@reddit

Shhh it’s a secret. We don’t like to share

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NoConsideration7426@reddit

Brits are a nice lot. Their moaning and whining is just a bit of catharsis for the day and easily solved by a good cuppa

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BomberBootBabe88@reddit

I was pleasantly surprised at how friendly everyone in the uk was when I visited last fall. I'm american, and it's kind of an open secret that the rest of the world can't stand us (that might be propaganda, though), but everyone was so lovely and welcoming!

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mokkiefication@reddit

Totally agree. I miss the fact that people in UK greet the bus driver. After moving to Singapore, it seems like no one does it here.

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Scube1975@reddit

Go to Essex.

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Dolphins_With_Dildos@reddit

I'm very very surprised to hear this

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martinjohanna45@reddit

I was born and raised in Texas and I’ve lived here all my life, and every time I’ve been in the UK, for the most part, people are so nice. I got super lost one day in London in 1993 and if it wasn’t for the extensive kindness of many strangers, I never would’ve made it back to my hotel. I’ve been in big cities and tiny villages and although there were a few dicks, most people were charming and kind.

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salutdamour@reddit

I’m glad you enjoyed your time in the UK and the British politeness!

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arbakotoviache@reddit

I feel like that people are mostly just polite, it's just some people.

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Kawwaal0067@reddit (OP)

Thank you 🙏

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GamblingChad@reddit

Well at least he didn’t realise yet

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AccomplishedSun4835@reddit

did you go to manny??

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Far_One_9630@reddit

Glad you enjoyed your time here, we are polite. But as an Englishman who has lived in France and travels to Spain and Italy regularly. "Good Morning" and "Have a nice day" to a stranger is actually very uncommon unless it is between a customer and a shop attendant. In France, you would walk down the street and greet everyone you pass even when you didn't know them. At first it was jarring when I came back to the UK as I was doing that and people looked at me funny. Italy is the same as France apart from the cities too for the most part, Spanish people are most friendly but only if you innitiate I have found.

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Story-co@reddit

Depends where you are though. If you are on a country walk or in a small village with not many people about, you would smile and say 'morning' etc to strangers as they pass. You certainly wouldn't be shocked by them greeting you.

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davus_maximus@reddit

That's weird, I find only women abroad will speak to me with any kind regard!

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losingfocus2015@reddit

Some of them will speak to me faithfully or sincerely too!

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Ethroptur@reddit

I find that no women will speak to with me at all!

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mypostisbad@reddit

Maybe you're a nob-head.

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Ethroptur@reddit

There’s no maybe about it.

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mypostisbad@reddit

:D

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mesk@reddit

Are you absolutely certain you exist?

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systemsbio@reddit

And only the really poor ones, am I right?

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mycatiscalledFrodo@reddit

You are more than welcome, it's lovely to hear. We've just come back from visiting Edinburgh, we live in the Midlands so may well have crossed paths! If you are the lovely American lady who bumped into my daughter in a pub toilet in Middleton on Tees and said "sorry little lady" you absolutely made their day!

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EveningStar5155@reddit

I like how they call girl children, 'little ladies'.

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mycatiscalledFrodo@reddit

It made my children's day!

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Used_Lingonberry7742@reddit

I lived in the UK for 3 years and I agree 100%. The ladies I worked with were lovely and very welcoming of me. I loved my time there and would go back in a heartbeat.

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PLAYMYDOH71@reddit

Re Norwich a football song to the Adams family theme tune goes Your uncle is your brother your sister is your mother. You all shag one another, The Norwich family!

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PLAYMYDOH71@reddit

English women are kind and caring, most of them. You do get the sour faced Bitches. Jamaican women are wonderful nurses and carers. Nigerian women make rude, kissing teeth noises. They are terrible nurses. When you see how Nigeria treats it's animals - Trophy hunting it comes as no surprise. Phillipino nurses are extremely kind and caring

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adnap_2952@reddit

You didn’t come to South London

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RoohsMama@reddit

Maybe you have a nice face. In my hospital there was a young trainee from Egypt with absolutely striking pale eyes, contrasting very well with his dark curly hair and beard. All the females were nice to him, and oh! especially the little old ladies. They were always looking for him and asking about him and saying how he brightened up their day 🙂

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AcceptableClass7115@reddit

That's very nice of you to tell everyone this in the UK. This us generally true. We can be friendly here in the UK. I would say it depends where in the UK you go. And if you mean the British. I as a British woman do not find all of the British people here very friendly towards there own people. I have to be truthful. Some are but not many. Strange as everyone is sooooo mixed and cosmopolitan here now, it's untrue in some places. I'm a people person but it's changed here in the last 5 to 6 years drastically. I'm glad you think we are friendly though and glad you will be coming back to the UK to make friends. Good luck.

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l_exodus_l@reddit

Glad to hear you enjoyed it. With that attitude you're welcome back anytime bro 😁

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princepapplewick@reddit

Glad he's got your permission to come back

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AbsolutelyBarkered@reddit

I could only read this in the voice of Paul Whitehouse with one of his accents.

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smallaxe86@reddit

Well I guess that's how the people are just more trusting than the other places.

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theworldsaplayground@reddit

Get a puppy, you can't walk 2 minutes down the road without hoards of young women throwing themselves at your feet (to stroke the puppy). Some even talk to you. It's great.

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thegraveyardcat@reddit

They’re not kind, they’re normal?

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Kawwaal0067@reddit (OP)

Maybe normal for me is kind where I live I don't come across good manners

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Proud-Complex-5267@reddit

It’s pretty much a greeting that’s drilled in, rather than an attempt at being nice. The correct answer when someone asks you “how are you doing?” In greeting is “I’m good, you?”, and never ever tell them the truth if you’re having a bad day. 😆

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Sad-Spring-3085@reddit

As a gay man I can tell you Romanian women can be the most beautiful (Google Romanian singer Inna).

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Icklediamond91@reddit

I always thought as living and from the uk. People are miserable and moody… you must come across very nice people and just lucky lol

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RepresentativeOld304@reddit

Yeah, London is not the uk. Officially there are like 40% immigrants in London compared to Brits. I'd wager this number is a lot bigger. Study was probably done for London City alone and not taken the surroundings in to consideration(all these people also go to london to work) This is the reason London women are beautiful. Feel free to proceed and downvote me to oblivion. Truth hurts, I know

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Sea_Coconut_1481@reddit

He went on a road trip from London to Edinburgh.

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RepresentativeOld304@reddit

I'd like to say I need Glasses, but I think a new brain would be more appropriate

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redminx17@reddit

From the title I thought this was going to be about going out to a club and making friends in the women's bathroom 😂 I swear no one is friendlier or more supportive than the drunk women in British nightclub bathrooms.

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bastante60@reddit

I found a loving, gorgeous English woman. And she actually seems to tolerate me. Who's the lucky man? Me. I am.

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NorthernSoul1977@reddit

I tried hard to post yesterday with a title that didn't contravene mod rules and ultimately failed. This title is a kick in the teeth! 😂

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sellis80@reddit

It’s amazing what gets pulled due to mod rules and the stuff that gets a free pass. Some of the stuff I’ve seen posted (and stayed up), particularly of late baffles me. This sub is really testing me. But occasionally, an interesting question pops up. This post isn’t one of them.

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NorthernSoul1977@reddit

I'm afraid it's the old Reddit Mod cliché. https://youtu.be/5DFCOh0mtYs

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sellis80@reddit

I’ve seen that before. Always worth a chuckle and a read through the comments.

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anna_b_1@reddit

Glad you enjoyed yourself and that people were kind to you! 💕

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Ilkley_dipper@reddit

You sound like you think women are exhibits in a zoo

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CSvinylC@reddit

Yeah this is written in such a patronising a passively objectifying way. It gives a lot of insight into how the OP frames women in his mind.

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Dapper-Pomegranates@reddit

He may as well have rated the women from the different countries he's visited out of 10 while he was at it Benevolent sexism in a nutshell

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GooseEasy7709@reddit

As a male I cannot relate to this in any way. Women do not smile at me or greet me, in London.

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LivingWithTheSoil@reddit

fake nice vs real nice wool has been pulled over your eyes

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onilol@reddit

Wtf u on about, mate? Kind? They may be polite but a lot of them are snubs

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GoneRacing2@reddit

As someone from the U.K., are you sure you didn’t visit another country? 🤔

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

Does anyone else think we are kind of a land of extremes where most of Europe is more... Mild? I mean in the sense that you find with many Europeans and abroad that they aren't quite as chatty or in your face as Brits in interaction but the capacity for a bad situation is quite a bit lower too. Or I'm just talking out the wrong cheeks.

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

No, "you talking to my bird? have some of this"

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CommonDimension1079@reddit

Not everywhere certainly not in Bristol, but I have heard people up north are more friendly. I wouldn't call the British culture a" kind culture" perhaps polite? I have seen kind people in other countries for example Turkey, Morocco. I have travelled quite a bit and lived in another country. I think kindness is not the word, sorry!

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

Fuck no, you do see this is a karma farmer yes?

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CommonDimension1079@reddit

Ah alright I got it now....

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Accomplished_Fan_487@reddit

You have NOT been to a Spoons on a weekend night.

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

Or Yates...fuck me I've seen stuff

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Snoo-8101@reddit

Why are you specifically pointing out women?

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NastyEvilNinja@reddit

HOW CAN SHE SLAP?!

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BuckRusty@reddit

>”it was a road wonderful trip from London to Edinburgh” This right here made me realise this is all lies. Why would someone go online and lie like this? Absolutely unforgivable… /s

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

Karma farmer. "All British women are so kind and pretty" fuck no they really are not, but they are suckers for flattery queuing to upvote this prick.

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Significant_Bet3269@reddit

Me and my gf shared a taxi with a senior British lady in Greece some time ago and she wouldn't let us contribute on the bill.

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

So paying your taxi fare = a good person? not someone who could afford to be magnanimous on holiday?

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CilanEAmber@reddit

I can tell you didn't come to Stoke

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v1kkys@reddit

I like to think when you say "good morning/afternoon" and "have a nice day/evening" especially people at work it could make their day much better. Years of working in retail you get the good and the bad.... especially the bad but all it takes is one person to just be nice to completely change your mindset for the day. Plus i do think the majority of people prefer to be kind. Being negative takes far too much energy, its exhausting and i swore against it in early adulthood. Definitely come back to the UK and maybe visit Bristol and Bath at some point. Im bias but its the best.

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Feanturii@reddit

What did you take while here?

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

lol I could do with some. I know that mate.

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gimmietyourtoes@reddit

Cus we are scared of confrontation (Well, most of us.)

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

Not me, fuck em all and by "all" I do mean ALL not any specific group.

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h0sti1e17@reddit

As and American who loves the UK. They are polite. Second only to US southerners.

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

That isn't the reality though. American = exotic you have no idea.

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SpectreSquared@reddit

try canada

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Nearly-Shat-A-Brick@reddit

Not if you live here they don't matey.

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Ok_Poet_6914@reddit

Lucy Letby

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junimobuddy@reddit

Behave.

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Ok_Poet_6914@reddit

Surprised to get so many down votes!

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junimobuddy@reddit

Too soon, too soon.

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Ok_Poet_6914@reddit

Understood 🫡 I take it back. Withdrawing my comment 🙏

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junimobuddy@reddit

I think you have to write it backwards for it to count

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Extension_Reason_499@reddit

Exactly many a smiling assassin amongst us.

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adrenalinexfreak@reddit

the crazy thing is she doesn't look like a murderer at all

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Baron_Butterfly@reddit

She's not even twirling her moustache.

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updownclown68@reddit

I’m glad

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KOLKATA70@reddit

Let the Pakistani blend in, all kindness will turn into jihad

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greengrayclouds@reddit

>But when I was in UK this last month I've been totally surprised British women are gorgeous, beautiful, and always smiling This would come as a surprise to me too, and I’ve lived here all my life.

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Whtzmyname@reddit

Why are Brits overseas not like this though? They are downright rude and some quite obnoxious.

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Similar_Quiet@reddit

Because they can be out of their comfort zone, frustrated at language differences, are probably suffering from the sun and heat and are drunk to boot.

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Matttthhhhhhhhhhh@reddit

Because they still think the British Empire is a thing, the poor sods.

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LadyGoldberryRiver@reddit

Only a lot of the package holiday Brits and football fans, though.

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BulletproofBean@reddit

Ffs there are some utter twats on this thread 🙄 Found the people who give us a bad name when they travel out of the country……….

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Monteshitshow76@reddit

That's lovely! I'm so happy you had such a positive experience of our country and people! 🇬🇧🇬🇧🇬🇧Xxx

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Several_Inevitable76@reddit

I wonder where you are from? But where I live (Derbyshire) everyone is usually very friendly and will make idle chit chat with everyone else in the queue. In general british people are really nice it's only the small few that ruin it for the rest of us.

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Unlucky-Leadership23@reddit

This smells like incel from 10 miles away. Grow the f up

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Cross_examination@reddit

Because they have to deal with the British men.

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No_Maintenance3529@reddit

Don't be fooled, whilst there's a lot of lovely people out here, it's very common for people to have a mask of smiles, act all nice etc just to be covering up a highly judgemental prude. Though I assume that's the case wherever you go, having two faces is a common trait round here. But also don't let that take your confidence away! There's so many people in this country and there's for sure a lot of brilliant characters. Explore and find your crew!

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anywineismywine@reddit

Ohh thank you!! I’m so glad that you have been made to feel so welcome on your trip :)

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21stCenturyJohnBull@reddit

Very glad and proud to hear you had a good time in England and that people were kind!

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Correct-Owl109@reddit

So far they haven’t treated me thaaaat well I guess because I’m a foreigner but omg they’re gorgeous

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moneyy777@reddit

Only the ones not in London

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burncap@reddit

It's called passively aggressive. Hate that.

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Mariioosh@reddit

Come to Blackpool

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jodudeit@reddit

What's in Blackpool?

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Fit-Gas7297@reddit

It's interesting how basic decency (emphasis on BASIC) is such a foreign concept to some people from other countries...

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Zealousideal-Sail893@reddit

Iam I Geordie lass (NE England), and I can say, we are all like that up here. Costs nothing to be friendly and who knows, it just might brighten someone's day. Why aye man... 🤗

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Ihavepills@reddit

I'm cumbrian but have spent a lot of time on the east coast. Geordies take the cake! Nicest people you'll meet!!

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Proud_Nerve_9349@reddit

British people definitely have manners Pretty might be a huge overstatement

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tired_watchman@reddit

As a Scottish Aberdeenshire resident I have to say that almost everyone I bumped into down in the home counties area and London was absolutely charming. Both men and women. We went to Oxford, Milton Keynes, Chipping Norton and people of all ages were just lovely.

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EtherealAriel@reddit

Passive aggressive...

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gidiaunt55@reddit

I always heard that people in London were unfriendly but the last time I went they were so helpful and kind, went out of their way to help me out on a couple of occasions. People often don't deserve their reputations.

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ComposerThen6483@reddit

I grew up in a small market town in Berkshire, & it was & still is a very friendly place

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LarsBohenan@reddit

UK women are by far the coolest Ive encountered. They're so down to earth, even the pretty ones, that I'm actually taken aback.

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ABToole@reddit

Bro, which Uk have you been to? Everyone here is fucking miserable

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Dopaminergic_7@reddit

Oh, boy. They are empty words. When someone asks how are you, how many of them actually want to hear how are you?

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Necessary_Border_396@reddit

Nope 😂 inaccurate

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Bogdania@reddit

People friendly in UK? Depends on the area honestly. Mixed bag!

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NoBrilliant681@reddit

Londoners are the fakest humans on Earth, bar none

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greybong@reddit

There was an abundance of cunts in London - is that normal?

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Bogdania@reddit

Yes, completely normal. Welcome :-)

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redditrebelrich@reddit

Imagine experiencing a tiny, miniscule percentage, and then thinking that equates to the whole populace. What is this nonsence. Go to Walsall mate, tell me how UK women are gorgeous and well spoken again then, yeah?

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Gloomy_Custard_3914@reddit

Or coventry, lovingly called "chaventry" for a reason 😅

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redditrebelrich@reddit

Think the Walsall birds found my comment and downvoted it 😂 Fucking creatures 😅😂

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Gloomy_Custard_3914@reddit

I went to walsall once, it was traumatising and i grew up in eastern Europe. 🤣

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Educational_Sound188@reddit

Lol, the folks are good at salutations and forced politeness, sure. People are annoying as f.

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Asaxii@reddit

Yeah, stay in Wolverhampton for a week and your views will change. “Yu wot m8? Am u a perv?”

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danjlp@reddit

Don't be fooled. You have to be polite in retail. It's a trick.

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ProfCupcake@reddit

THAT'S COOL AND ALL BUT WHY ARE WE SHOUTING?

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IwanJBerry@reddit

WHY NOT? IT'S A LOVELY DAY.

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wheres-me-trews@reddit

WHAT A DAY. WHAT A LOVELY DAY.

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Bitter-Decision-3125@reddit

WITNESS.

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jimydog12@reddit

ITS A BEAUTIFUL DAY!

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ControllablePsi@reddit

Calm down Bono.

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_ologies@reddit

That's just OP's accent.

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digitalscale@reddit

They're from capital city.

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Kawwaal0067@reddit (OP)

Hahah I Just forgot that I was writing with caps on

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gr4n0t4@reddit

Kind? Sure, gorgeous and pretty? Come on! XD

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Comcaded@reddit

They hated him cause he told them the truth

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Captain_CoC_Nova@reddit

Because they’re faking it. I’ve always seen British people mumbling and grumbling insults under their breath when they think you can’t hear/see them

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burkeymonster@reddit

I dont know about Spanish and Italian being the prettiest but they for sure are the loudest

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Here_4_football@reddit

Interestingly, if someone is walking towards you (in a park, or down the street) and they glance up, and say “Hi” or “Good morning”, in their head I can assure you that they are thinking “stay the fuck away from me, I’m not stopping and you had better not also”.

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Due_Warning7294@reddit

You're also welcome in Gravesend ☺️

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Robinisawesome_001@reddit

If you want to keep thinking this…don’t go to Newcastle even year 5s are jumping people there. They aren’t even ten yet

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CircaSixty8@reddit

Women are not obligated to smile at you. The idea that you think they should makes you a creep. I mean who goes to a country just because of what the women look like. Yuck.

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AttackOwlFibre@reddit

Loool this is a lie. The majority of comments/greetings/conversations made by anyone in this country is most likely dripping in passive aggressiveness and sarcasm (especially if your face doesn't fit).

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PoloniumAkAJalil@reddit

Psyop post

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reflUX_cAtalyst@reddit

>And when it's to Europe I do always hear that Spanish and Italian women are the prettiest. If you've never been to eastern Europe, you may think that.

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Strong-Obligation107@reddit

In Scotland our woman are so mean and brutal they can afford to be nice to strangers. Put it this way. If someone tries to break into my house I would go deal with the intruder quickly because if he wakes my wife up it will evolve into a series of war crimes. So I would in effect be doing the intruder a favour by dealing with it myself.

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Mikon_Youji@reddit

You clearly have not been to many places in the UK.

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Downtown_Gear8588@reddit

I think you got off at the wrong country... that's not the UK at all.

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try1988@reddit

East midlander here, we're all pretty friendly.

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discustedkiller@reddit

They have the best tits too .

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thelostjoel@reddit

Surely an anomaly. Sure, many are nice, but the dating pool here is awful. Far better quality women in Europe imo

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EvilSynths@reddit

East Midlands here. Can someone show me where these kind British people are? Because they're an endangered species here.

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surfhobo@reddit

I think you’ve got the wrong flight m8

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HangryHufflepuff1@reddit

Where are you????

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KyaMosher@reddit

Were you in the North? We tend to be a friendlier breed up here 🥰

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grumpy-kunt@reddit

You should see how friendly our women are when you have a big bag of cocaine in your possession lol.

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Deadpooldan@reddit

Bro the women that are mad keen for baggies are typically not the ones you want to go for haha

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grumpy-kunt@reddit

Didn't take long for the downvotes to come lol, for a uk subreddit it's kinda sad how many people lack the sense of humour we used to be known for.

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WatermelonCandy5@reddit

The life raft of all losers, abusers and pieces of shit, ‘why can’t you take a joke.’

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KOTS44@reddit

Fucking hell it's a joke about cocaine you utter bellend.

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grumpy-kunt@reddit

Nowt like a bit of virtue signalling on reddit is there.

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as1992@reddit

The worst part is that his comment has 9 upvotes. Bunch of weirdos on this sub I swear

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as1992@reddit

Jfc, calm down. The user isn’t an “abuser or piece of shit” for making a harmless joke about cocaine

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ProfCupcake@reddit

*makes a shit joke* *nobody laughs* "Am I out of touch? No, it's the entire rest of the country that is wrong."

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as1992@reddit

Yeah you’re right, he should have made a joke about coronation chicken or cups of tea. That’s the kind of top tier humour that goes around on these British subs

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as1992@reddit

I wouldn’t read too much into it mate, the humour that people are into on these British subs isn’t exactly reflective of the British population. As just one example, remember the awful chicken coronation joke?

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ElkInteresting8157@reddit

All living in fairy land. The UK women are a fucking mess

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TaffWolf@reddit

Are all uk women “a fucking mess” or is that maybe your view of the world, and women, is fucked?

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RainbowPenguin1000@reddit

Dafuk

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grumpy-kunt@reddit

They most certainly do.

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Historical-Cicada-29@reddit

This is a joke right? In my line of work, if a member of the public (male) approaches is (public worker) it's normally a query or asking for directions. If it's a female walking toward my cab my brain goes "here we go..." and normally it's a female either insulting me, my job or being outright f***ING rude. I work in the public sector with a great job, union, pension, sick pay, up to £17 an hour overtime or £33 an hour on bank holidays. Another thing I've noticed is that children are far more considerate and have great manners compared to the elderly. This isn't an opinion, it's an observation. Yes, I was yelled at by a female this morning for solely doing my job.

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AgeRevolutionary3349@reddit

Spanish women are not the prettiest 😭😭🤣

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AlarmBrief7820@reddit

My GF from Poland pointed this out to me, people seem so kind here compared to other places. I'm not so sure how much of it is genuine vs performative. A few times a "nice old lady" has greeted me, not heard my respons and then proceeded to insult me like I'm the devil for not returning her gesture. Or someone has gotten mad because I haven't thanked them for stepping out the way etc. I think it's mostly for show, people are about the same everywhere.

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obliviious@reddit

We mostly just doing like rude people that can't demonstrate simple courtesy. Some do take it a bit seriously though

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MrBird93@reddit

Yeah. Wouldn't care in the 2 examples but I'd still think you're a nob.

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obliviious@reddit

Well yeah, I think the guy who doesn't wave back when I let him drive past is a nob 🤣 Best to keep your grumbling to yourself unless necessary.

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Fluid_Door7148@reddit

Can’t see this being the legacy of Lucy Letby tbh

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

This is such a weird comment to make. Would you be on every thread that mentions men to talk about Wayne Couzens? Women commit drastically fewer violent crimes so are you just fascinated by the rare occurrence or trying to make a point about women?

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Fluid_Door7148@reddit

Woah there keyboard warrior pipe down. I was making a light hearted comment upon recent news.

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strawbebbymilkshake@reddit

Pointing out how weird your unfunny flop of a comment was doesn’t make me a keyboard warrior lol. Sorry your sense of humour sucks

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Fluid_Door7148@reddit

And im sorry the world cant be as funny as you and make fun of the news. enjoy life

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Efficient-One5331@reddit

It's the British courtesy that's indoctrinated into society from childhood. Good morning and please for example. Standing in queue. Society takes those for granted. Problem is when you don't show this courtesy you come across as incredibly rude.

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tres-bon-oeuf@reddit

We’re just being polite. If you tried to strike up a conversation we’d tell you to get lost.

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postvolta@reddit

There was data going around that when asked which country you'd help out in time of need, the UK would gladly help basically every European country. Basically every country had the UK at the bottom of their list. We demonstrated this with Ukraine being invaded when we were one of the first to provide proper support while Germany and other countries dragged their feet. It's kinda sad. We get a bad rap but we're alright really.

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Enceladuses@reddit

Lol, no. British women are ugly and whilst many seem nice it's just on the surface. A lot of them are nasty and two faced

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christianvieri12@reddit

Mostly obese too

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UnarmedUncle123@reddit

Since moving back from Switzerland it’s so easy to see how many people in this country are overweight. It’s completely normalised that you don’t even realise until you go elsewhere

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christianvieri12@reddit

Laughable folk are downvoting this - the health of this country is so bad in general.

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Siamesecat666@reddit

Wait til you come across the typical British female chav

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

Chav girls are always pedestrian to me (as in their normal selves) till they hear my voice. In other words, a lot of them don't get to meet very many a gay man. And they all seem to want one of their own. Not like the men they're used to, more like a puppy or accessory. But they can't have us mwahaha.

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ElkInteresting8157@reddit

So 99% of the population then

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greenwindowsill@reddit

Don't know why you're being down voted when you're right!

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play_Max_Payne_pls@reddit

Why are you booing him? He's right!

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Siamesecat666@reddit

Pretty much lol

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terry-dactl@reddit

Even chavs will say thankyou to the bus driver.

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Do-it-for-you@reddit

More like “Ta luv”

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Fearless_Employee_89@reddit

love to see that fake tan

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massdebate159@reddit

As a woman from Southampton, you're a fucking liar. Where are you finding these women?

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zibafu@reddit

Why you lyin for ?

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Denethorsmukbang@reddit

The comment section is insufferable, what a moany miserable lot Jesus

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Livvoynju@reddit

As a British woman I'd say hi and smile might even start up a nice conversation.

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VampireKissinger@reddit

I always find they do that thing where they match eye contact with you and just keep staring deep into your soul with a menacing smirk as they walk past. Women be casting some sort of hex and trying to steal my essence, I ain't falling for that. I carry a crystal of flouridite to keep my pineal gland calcified and very closed thank you very much.

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XercesGetsDown@reddit

What if they call you a Glam-p Vamp? Is it still a trick or do you get a little flushy'n'blushy? Or more high'n'mighty'n'bitey?

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Ihavecakewantsome@reddit

You have a way with words that is really quite magical 😂😂😂

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loubotomised@reddit

Well shit....he's on to us

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longbottomleaf29@reddit

wish i could forget this comment just to experience reading it for the first time again

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anotherbozo@reddit

Did you find the men to be rude?

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Kawwaal0067@reddit (OP)

No at all , Just I focused on women because elsewhere in some countries you find some women are rude and men are cool most of the time. In the case of the UK both were amazing. Even my trip mates are all Brits and I met there friends and family it was awesome to be honest

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tiredfaces@reddit

> in some countries you find some women are rude and men are cool most of the time yikes

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Obvious-Water569@reddit

I'm glad you had a good experience but don't assume all women (or anyone for that matter) in the UK are nice. There are some right cunts about.

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sofia_the_first19@reddit

TIL- Apparently I'm not British!

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Immediate_Demand_151@reddit

I’m from Liverpool and 90% of the women here have attitudes like spoilt brats, are snotty and call guys ugly but they never leave the house without calling themselves in tons of makeup Juts my tow cents

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Ok-Department-8771@reddit

good thing you stayed in the south....the north as more....rash

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Aesthetictoblerone@reddit

Stereotypes are often true, but not always. Many British stereotypes come just from London, or what was/is trendy (and the negative parts are always more noticeable). Glad you enjoyed your time, I hope you come back soon!

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Cyberdog1983@reddit

What UK did OP visit? Cos it ain’t mine.

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sophia_snail@reddit

You a re clearly not from Yorkshire then!

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barkwoofgrowl@reddit

I'm ngl, I find it a bit weird how half of this post is about UK women being attractive. What does that have to do with being kind? >Always smiling and saying nice words like "good morning" "How are you doing " "have a nice day " I did notice it among old women and girls my age too and that made me so happy and wanting to come back to UK just to make some friends and meet some new people. Were these women waitresses/cashiers, because this sounds like how I talk to customers.

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kaciusa@reddit

I've recently visited Edinburgh. The most polite people I've encountered

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Impossible_Jelly9789@reddit

Your lying mostly every uk woman isn’t nice there is a select few that are though

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Ecstatic_Yam_5998@reddit

Come to Wales, everyone here is super friendly and welcoming!

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PeteLong1970@reddit

Come to Teesside, we will balance out your high opinion.

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Raven_Blackfeather@reddit

Dude my BFF is from the Boro, the stories I've heard from her are unreal, even more so if they find out you're LGBT =/

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Airnomo@reddit

I dont usually call people a liar but you're clearly on some powerful chemicals hahahaha

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indianna97@reddit

Visit Bristol, most friendly place in England, I would argue!

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monsterbills@reddit

all fake tho

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greenwindowsill@reddit

I am British and I live in the UK and I don't know why everyone thinks we're so kind. I find people mostly awful and rude, idk. I don't connect well with British people and I am one lol, but I think a lot of that is down to British politeness aka being reserved and bottling up how you feel, which is not something I can work well with.

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botanygeek@reddit

I just visited for the first time and I was astonished at how nice (yes I mean nice and not just polite) people were. There were several times on our trip that we were slightly lost or needed assistance, and without asking a single person, some older bloke or a lady would approach us and help us out, often chatting with us and asking where we were from. We even got stuck talking with an over friendly guy more than once that just seemed like they wanted to know about America. All took me by surprise as the stereotype is that they are polite but not nice. Was mostly outside of London if that matters.

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maddog232323@reddit

My partner is not from the UK. She works with a lot of British women as well as women from all corners. She reckons British women are very nice to your face and they'll avoid any type of confrontation but finds it's a different story behind her back. She's adamant a while generation of British girls have been spoilt rotten and brought up to be princesses and are very entitled. In general it's a completely different story with European colleagues.

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Psychological_Bid589@reddit

Definitely didn’t visit the UK

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louwatking@reddit

Im in a poor town in the NE, many people here haven’t got much but are super happy and friendly… admittedly some are also drunk 😂

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Chromate_Magnum@reddit

Error: this opinion is not Reddit-approved. Delete immediately! Error Error Error

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IntelligenceLtd@reddit

london friendly, are you sure? edinburgh yes tho

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TeddyMMR@reddit

Clearly you didn't run into my sister

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Resitance-is-FUT1LE@reddit

I'm from a rough area and I'd say we're pretty reserved here. But if you are nice to us, we'll be nice back. You are probably a very nice person and people sense that.

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UnarmedUncle123@reddit

You realise people are paid for their job right?

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SnowflakeSJWpcGTFOH@reddit

If most of the women you were interacting with were at their place of work doing their job, that's why! It's called customer service.

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Paradoxical-Pal@reddit

Come to Herefordshire next time - we moved here three years ago and find everyone is so friendly. A big contrast to living and working in the busy south-east.

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1DisgustedGuy@reddit

😂😂😂😂😂😂

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Tuskn@reddit

All completely subjective experiences here. You can meet a cunt anywhere in the UK.

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tylerthe-theatre@reddit

Okay so this definitely didn't happen in London 😆 I can believe it more up north.

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Xavibooom@reddit

people tend to project their dominant way of thinking onto people and places. if you expect to find welcoming people that's what you are likely to experience. if you find them grim then, well, that's your grim brains. except women from Norwich obvs (grim)

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Highlife-Lowlife@reddit

Think you have a skewed perception. I'm afraid your small subsample is not significantly representative of the whole population. Sorry ladies, but not all of you are kind hearted, I would say probably half if that as an estimate.

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The_Queef_of_England@reddit

Thanks! We're lovely we are.

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Thughlife@reddit

Are you by chance attractive? That makes a HUGE difference!

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Hyzenthlay87@reddit

Aww thanks, that's a really nice thing to hear.

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sossamourai@reddit

From somebody who travels to the UK very often, hearing "are you alright, love?" from a woman always hits different

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Kawwaal0067@reddit (OP)

Thank god someone understands.

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PS_Vinrael@reddit

Larp harder ahahaha

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TragedyOA@reddit

Always smiling and saying nice words like "good morning" "How are you doing " "have a nice day " Not even once. :(

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Agile_Vast9019@reddit

It's because you're foreign. If you were British, they wouldn't give a shit. You say hello to people normally and they give you funny looks or grunt at you.

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Parker4815@reddit

I saw a young boy waiting with his dog outside a shop the other day. A man walked by, barked at the dog to piss him off then just walked off laughing.

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jim_jiminy@reddit

I’m glad you had a good experience.

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MamaStobez@reddit

I work for migrant services, mostly women, all of them (except the odd one or two) super kind and wonderful. Women in the U.K. are generally empathic and loving, its a nice place to live. I live in Lancaster, which makes it extra nice!

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WavyHairedGeek@reddit

Mind, there is a difference between being polite and being kind. British people are taught to be polite. They'll ask "How've you been?" but it's out of politeness. Most don't want any other answer than "Fine. You?" I've lived in both England and Scotland and the more South you go, the more polite people get, and the more North you go, the more honest people get. So... It's all about what you appreciate. If you've got a bit of salad stuck in your teeth, do you want to be told, or for people to be perfectly polite to your face and laughing behind your back?

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Crunchie2020@reddit

Just British politeness.

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Bfreak@reddit

/r/WrongSub ?

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Cryopharma@reddit

if you say so bro lol

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Happy-Thinker@reddit

Lmao I know what you mean, however what you're assuming is kindness is a greeting practice. They are just saying the equivalent of Hello, Good Day or Good bye. Dont mistake "You Alright" for any suggestions of being kind😂😂😂. It's the Southern way to say , Good morning, good afternoon. The Northern areas are actually more friendly and polite and if you're older, they are so polite they will let you talk and talk and talk. I've tested this until I see them squirm. 🤣. I have found the North, past Manc, Bermingham to be very kind and helpful. Also Midlands very cheery and happy. Just dont make assumptions. Those kind of social assumptions will get you into trouble. Listen three times, think twice before answering so you can observe. Best of luck.

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ukpunjabivixen@reddit

Thank you! That’s made my day 🙏🏽

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runjump-lift@reddit

Wasn’t talking about you

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ZestyData@reddit

lmao

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8JelloHills@reddit

Hey 👋🏻 there you alright?

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jpaints526@reddit

Are you sure they were British women? Not my experience 😅

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pencilrain99@reddit

I've never heard anyone say Italian and Spanish women are the most beautiful

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as1992@reddit

Is that a joke?

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pencilrain99@reddit

No it's usually Scandinavian women that are spoken about as the most beautiful

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as1992@reddit

Yeah often, but Spanish and Italian are also often mentioned. Was just quite surprised that you’d never heard anyone say that.

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pencilrain99@reddit

They really aren't a quick Google shows they aren't in any top 10s

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as1992@reddit

You must be using a different Google to me, as these links were results 2, 3 and 4 when I search “most attractive women in Europe” https://thefoxmagazine.com/dreaming-bigger/european-countries-with-the-most-beautiful-women/ https://www.wonderslist.com/most-beautiful-women-of-europe/?amp=1 https://www.insidermonkey.com/blog/25-countries-with-the-most-beautiful-women-in-europe-1174333/?amp=1

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pencilrain99@reddit

What about the rest of the world?

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as1992@reddit

It’s not relevant, we’re talking about Europe here as per op’s original comment you replied to

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pencilrain99@reddit

Fair enough, but Italy and Spain aren't the places that come to mind when asked about beautiful women. I'm not saying there aren't beautiful women in Spain and Italy just that they aren't renowned for that.

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as1992@reddit

In your opinion. As I just demonstrated to you, in most people’s minds they are renowned for that

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jimydog12@reddit

Yeah Scandinavian are crazy attractive

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ThefurryGoose97@reddit

I’ve always found northerners to be friendlier than southerners

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Mr-jollie@reddit

Often it's only to your face. I'll often hear my other half talking to her neighbours outside all cheery and friendly, and as soon as she's indoors she's cursing their names. Seems a common thing.

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Shinjirojin@reddit

Morning Tracey! You good? Yeah, you?

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homealoneinuk@reddit

Surely we are not talking about United Kingdom.

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meenmachimanja@reddit

They’d also shag anything that has a pulse

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International-Set-30@reddit

Thinly veiled creep post

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smackdealer1@reddit

Where are they kind? Certainly not in Scotland. I'm sure they feed on our displeasure.

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International-Set-30@reddit

Dementors

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miked999b@reddit

I'm English, but I've spent a lot of time in Southern Scotland over the past 15 years and the people couldn't be lovelier. Always found folk friendly in Edinburgh too. I'm sure there are places where that might not be the case, Glasgow possibly, but I've only positive experiences to report.

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smackdealer1@reddit

I was born in Edinburgh and loved there for a long time. I find people from Edinburgh to be the worse kind of folk. So honestly I don't believe you.

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miked999b@reddit

You calling me a liar because I expressed an opinion based on my own experiences? It's almost like two different people can have two different experiences. But no, if YOU didn't have a positive experience then it's absolutely inconceivable that any other person could do, right?

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smackdealer1@reddit

Right but I spent 20 years there and you spent how long in Edinburgh? I merely said I don't believe you. Just like I wouldn't believe any other tourist that visits Edinburgh.

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Affectionate-Long-10@reddit

Come to teeside, you'll change your opinion very quickly lmao.

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nokia7110@reddit

I love how you and your friends didn't realise that (in general) people in the UK are generally polite, including women. And when women are polite it doesn't indicate that they are interested in you. It feels weird explaining this but here goes anyway... women don't have to be polite or kind to strangers. Just like blokes aren't expected to "smile".

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LadyNajaGirl@reddit

This warms my soul because I don’t always see kindness from people and it’s so nice to hear that someone has had such a lovely experience. It’s so important to just be a nice human! Thank you OP, you’re always welcome back to the UK and I’m glad you had a wonderful time 💞

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_throwafae@reddit

Bless. Every country has attractive and nice people.

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runjump-lift@reddit

Come to Birmingham so we can get you recalibrated

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cgcmake@reddit

I'm french and I was pleasantly surprised each time I went to the UK by how nice people were to strangers like me (from the guy that hosted on me couchsurfing when I was barely major, the dustman excusing themselves for their work (?), the kind and smilling air hostest from BA. (also yes, the girls were cute)

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ShovonX@reddit

Was in the UK for 4 months and am currently in Berlin. And I have to say, I miss British hospitality and politeness. Everyone was very nice and warm.

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OkWolf4218@reddit

There are nice and not so nice people, male/female and other, to be all inclusive, all over the world. You seem a kind person. If you’re kind and you have a nice warm and honest smile, people tend to warm to you. Wherever you are. Obviously there are cultural and religious differences, why people behave in different ways. Their countries history and many other aspects play a role too. Happy that you have had a nice experience.

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Matttthhhhhhhhhhh@reddit

You should try going out on Friday evening in the streets and see if it's still the same. Don't mistake politeness with kindness. It's not the same thing. Especially in the UK.

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Rogue_elefant@reddit

They were being sarcastic 👍🏼

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OutsideWishbone7@reddit

You’re probably good looking, look non-local, look well kept etc The rest of us ugly local buggers are just scowled at.

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Revolutionary_Pierre@reddit

When Brits ask "how is going?" When they should just say "hello" and you're stood there paralysed with anxiety because you don't know what facet of your tumultuous life they're referring to and how dare they get that personal with you, but by the tike you've doing the mental acrobatics of arming yourself with a reply, they've walked off disinterested 🤣🤣

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MarxistMann@reddit

The kindest women in the world live in Glasgow

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dabassmonsta@reddit

I'm very surprised. I guess they were nice to you because they really liked your guide dog.

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lilacredblossom@reddit

😂😂😂

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vishbar@reddit

I don't know if you've heard the old saying... The beauty of their women and the flavor of their food made the British the world's greatest nation of sailors.

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Beatnuki@reddit

As a Brit I've never actually heard this but I think it's a joke "about" us, not "for" us :p Not gonna lie, I love it though! 😁

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lichterudy@reddit

Euh where are you frim?

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Azi_449@reddit

Brother must be beautiful

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NoanneNoanne@reddit

As a woman from the UK, this makes me very happy. Let me know if you ever visit South-East England. 😊

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PrettySoft1917@reddit

Steady on Noanne

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mypostisbad@reddit

Her name is NoanneNoanne. Pronounced No-anno-wan

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LawabidingKhajiit@reddit

Would you like a cup of tea, father? No-anne no-anne no-anne no-anne. NO-ANNE!

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mypostisbad@reddit

I'll just make you one anyway in case you change your mind.

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NoanneNoanne@reddit

Noanne is Joanne without Anne, so just Jo.

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MoistHD@reddit

Jo who?

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mypostisbad@reddit

So effectively your username is No-No ;)

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TheStatMan2@reddit

NoanneNoanne... Oh with your eyes so blue...

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Hoodless_Robin@reddit

LOL

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MyFingerYourBum@reddit

Username does not check out

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Educational_Cod_2855@reddit

This man could be a murdering rapist for all you know

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Similar_Election5864@reddit

I mean that's a win win for some of us.

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bambrini16@reddit

Oh it’s a dude? Idk why but reading it I had OP in my head as a woman

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Grotbagsthewonderful@reddit

Same here, I'm pretty sure the OP is a woman.

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Alternative_Route@reddit

Is that because your experience is that women aren't normally this nice to men in the UK?

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Adept-Confusion8047@reddit

Oh ffs lmao Some people on Reddit have such fucking victim complex

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Are_you_a_horse@reddit

For me it was this part: > I did notice it among old women and girls my age too Now, given that the post was written by someone whose mother tongue is not English, it's possible I shouldn't read too much into the phrasing, but I was left with the impression that OP is a woman.

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Grotbagsthewonderful@reddit

No it's because the majority men aren't normally this open with their feelings out of fear for some the responses you see in this thread.

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Boris_Johnsons_Pubes@reddit

They could also be someone who murders rapists, you never know

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Are_you_a_horse@reddit

My kind of murderer

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NoanneNoanne@reddit

If I were to meet a stranger, it would be in public with my partner/friends/family present. I have been on road trips with strangers in other countries. It's a great way to get to know people.

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Kudosnotkang@reddit

You don’t sound like a very kind woman

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TedMaul636@reddit

No, Anne, no! Anne!!!

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redditrebelrich@reddit

r/sadcringe

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_R9_@reddit

Wrong app, love.

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ElkInteresting8157@reddit

Lmao most of the people in London ain't from the UK mate. The women here are actually the same as the ones in the US. Horrible twats. If you want to see what beautiful women look like, go to any Eastern European country. That's what women with class look like.

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WatermelonCandy5@reddit

Is it me or did anyone’s else’s dog start barking when you read this to them?

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as1992@reddit

You spend too much time online mate

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EvilInky@reddit

I checked with my Labrador, and he reckons it was more of a dog fog horn than a dog whistle.

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ElkInteresting8157@reddit

If the shoe fits and all that

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No-Computer-2847@reddit

Someone's been dumped recently

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ElkInteresting8157@reddit

No I've just travelled the world and see what a mess the UK is compared to other countries. The UK is a third world country full of clowns who think they are better than everyone else when in reality, it's the complete opposite. Eastern European women are clear

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Fearless_Employee_89@reddit

as eastern euro that looks 8/10 i do confirm this guy is right but its not something to say loud

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No-Computer-2847@reddit

Okay mr football twitter man

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JonLeePButler@reddit

As for someone who is born and bred in London. Not one person ever said 'morning' (unless it's the milkman, postman, or the girl on the checkout), nor do they say 'how are you doing?' (unless it's doctors), never is it heard to be said 'have a nice day' (unless you are saying it to a member of staff or are an American). Did the men also tip theirs hats and bow their heads as they asked "how do you do?". Either you've been watching too many victorian dramas. Or were surrounded by workplace individuals. Don't get that on an ordinary street with ordinary folk.

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ATARI-ST@reddit

Thankfully the rest of the country isn't like London.

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JonLeePButler@reddit

Think it's more of being part of a community that knows each other well where there's no need to ask what is already known for. Why ask someone "how are you doing?" when you already know about their hardlife and upbringing. Then it's more to ask, "is there anything you'd like me to do for you?"

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Ok-Contact-1408@reddit

You should’ve stayed little longer in uk, work here..etc. and then to get to know better. This politeness most of the people know how to fake.

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Jaghead@reddit

Lol even people in the UK know it's the fattest and ugliest country in Europe. That goes for the men as well as the women.

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ATARI-ST@reddit

I would like to refute this but I mean... come on.

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Turquoise__Dragon@reddit

Chances are those women from London were not British. There's people from everywhere in London, and in abundance.

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_Anxious_Hedgehog_@reddit

I feel like these women maybe work in retail and actually have to be nice because it's their job.

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JFK108@reddit

I’m a guy from the states and at this point almost all my pen pals and online friends are British woman 🤣 they just have a great sense of humor, are really nice, and are very confident with how they carry themselves. Oh and they’re all incredibly hot from my experience but that’s besides the point.

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mortalstampede@reddit

Creepy

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as1992@reddit

This must be a different uk you’re talking about

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WorriedEstimate4004@reddit

Then everyone stood up and clapped...

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bakegoodbread@reddit

You must be a very handsome or beautiful mofo

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Nyoteng@reddit

Is just pleasantries and the culture. They are not actually invested in those words any deeper than saying "weather is nice today".

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PurpleInteraction@reddit

This is one of the things the UK has in common with the US.

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covimarius@reddit

Go eastern europe or Russia and see how beautiful women are.

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LowerPiece2914@reddit

Yeah but then you'd have to be in Russia

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deadllhead@reddit

I'll assume you did not visit the South (UK) then.

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petrastales@reddit

OP said *London* to Edinburgh

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dcrm@reddit

Lmfao.

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Major-Row8964@reddit

I live in Manchester and this tracks. People are lovely here.

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BigMattress269@reddit

British politeness

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jewelofthegalaxy@reddit

Aww that is so kind thank you!!!

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really-something@reddit

Being polite is not specific to a certain gender. And I’d say it’s rather curious (and a bit creepy) that you’ve hyper focused on “new friends” and women. I hope you’re not being a creep to people.

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StatisticallySoap@reddit

Are they? Lol

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highway_29@reddit

you must have not passed through southampton on your travels!

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DeviousBeevious@reddit

This must be a London thing. you're lucky if you get glared at in my part of Scotland.

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Impressive-Bench9223@reddit

Ah yes, Londoners, renowned for their warmth and hospitality

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FloppedYaYa@reddit

Last time I visited London I thought people there were a lot more friendly than I expected

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DeviousBeevious@reddit

A lot of people move to London from other countries and import their culture of warmth and hospitality with them.

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Due_Ad_2411@reddit

Looks like it’s going really well

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DeviousBeevious@reddit

apparently so. I assume they eventually learn the error of their ways but in the meantime they cause international incidents like this.

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Shushyabullshit@reddit

London thing 😂 last time I was there someone was collapsed on the floor and everyone stepped over them like they didn’t exist, or if you get mugged and need help no one will help you. That’s the London thing.

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DeviousBeevious@reddit

Depends on the part of London, I dare say if you go to the right part of Edinburgh a pretty woman will smile at you as well. Your wallet will be empty afterwards but thems the breaks.

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Shushyabullshit@reddit

I don’t carry a wallet.

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Shushyabullshit@reddit

Nah it doesn’t depend on what part, I’ve been just about everywhere in London. It was all the same.

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MrPoletski@reddit

You haven't met my ex..

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artisbreakingchains@reddit

And the men all swore at you??? ffs

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oharu@reddit

glad you decided to make this about men for some reason even though op doesn’t mention them at all

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artisbreakingchains@reddit

Just wanted to say most people here are polite not just the women.

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StripeyTiger1a@reddit

Nah, they probably gave them a good tutting.

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tiendx@reddit

You come from the west, aren’t you. Imagine you are Chinese or any eastern country. Things gonna be different

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Clarebroccolibee@reddit

Weird, I’m from north west born and raised and I don’t find people particularly friendly

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Due_Ad_2411@reddit

For the most part, the UK has a friendly feel. Maybe because we do genuinely have a good mix of different nationalities etc. Its not a recent thing, have a look at the Battle of Bamber Bridge for an example of British morals. A lot of European places I’ve been don’t have that same warmth. As soon as they hear your accent you get looked at with contempt.

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POLISHED_OMEGALUL@reddit

>British women are gorgeous, beautiful 💀💀💀

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SpuffJob@reddit

British women are so happy because of British men 🕺

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Incubus85@reddit

Everyone is so scared in the UK of being seen as even remotely negative to someone foreign that you're always going to get this. Don't mistake those kind of things for meaning anything at all. A lot of nice British phrases are a subtle fuck off I just need to get home ASAP before I explode.

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penicuiklass@reddit

Because it’s extremely easy to fake being nice.

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Mysterious-Leek-2705@reddit

As much as we get a bad wrap for being cold. We are nice people here in the UK.

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