Women - what was your mother's attitudes towards periods?

Posted by Secret_Owl3040@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 384 comments

I'm 34 and I've never been comfortable talking about periods and similar subjects with anyone other then my other half (male) or my doctor. It definitely comes from my mother's attitude to such things but I just wonder how common or not that attitude is (I think not that common?) My mother was a little older than the average mum at my age, not significantly though, she's late 60s now. But her mother was above average age for her generation so maybe her attitudes are quite old for that reason? But I need to ask and get this off my chest as well. Certainly periods were not talked about openly, only really briefly between mum and myself. Periods were really quite private and perhaps unintentionally shameful. I say unintentionally because that was not something that was said or intended but the whole behaviour adds up to it. My mum didn't know much about period products and bless I think she tried to help but left me to work it out alone a lot through her naivety. And she wasn't confident talking about it. She told me pads could be flushed which is, in retrospect, very clearly and obviously not the case and you can tell that by simply looking at them. I stopped flushing them quickly cos it looked like the toilet nearly blocked a few times and nearly overflowed. But there was no bin in the bathroom and I was too embaressed to take them through the whole house to the only bin in the kitchen which was an open bin. Dad and brother were regularly in the kitchen so I'd have been too embaressed to do that in front of them. Which lead me to hoarding a bag full of dirty pads in my room (crazy I know!) which got found by my mum and told off about (in a kind but firm way I guess, but with no resolution of the problem. I'd have been too embaressed to explain myself). I think I then just took to waiting to be alone in the house to deal with them and bury them at the bottom of the kitchen bin. And I'm pretty sure if I remember rightly that I had to buy all my own period products with my pocket money. I think that's just weird in retrospect. They weren't a luxury item! I'm sure it was part of me being a teenager and needing to learn to take responsibility for myself in general. But why couldn't they be bought in the supermarket shop? Although you used a separate chemist more often back then, I'm sure supermarkets still stocked them. And Dad would have done a lot of the food shop but Mum still did a lot separately. There's no way I wouldn't just buy them for my daughter if it was me as the mother now. They were more expensive than today comparatively. That was a lot of my pocket money! We were not badly off or anything, not flush with cash flying everywhere by any means but money wasn't a worry. I'm just curious how others experienced this topic growing up. Maybe it's totally normal to have bought your own products with your own money and I'm just picking on that because of the other things on my mind. But I'd guess that it was an easier conversation for a lot of girls. That you at least had a bin in the bathroom?