How many of you have little to no friends outside of your family?

In my 40s and my group of 4 oldest/closest friends are geographically all quite far apart. The closest is 45 minutes away but she works 2 hours in the opposite direction as well, so it’s not like I can just drop round any time. The others are 1 hour, 1 hour 45, and 3 hours away. All except one of us has kids and of course we all work (except one, who homeschools her kid, which keeps her busy enough!), and a couple of us have pretty irregular work hours/shifts as well. So we only meet up about 2–3 times a year. No ad hoc going to the pub or anything. I’ve tried making ‘mum friends’ to no avail and don’t want to be too pushy either. I don’t want to be the kind of person who thinks just because our kids get on, we have to be besties. My kid goes to school 50 minutes from where we live as well, making it even harder. I do have ‘friendly acquaintances’ with kids where I live, but I’m always the one reaching out and trying to plan stuff and if I get a ‘meh’ vibe twice in a row I just back off because I don’t want to be ‘too much’, yanno? I have my kid only 50% of the time, and my friends/acquaintances who are parents don’t seem to be interested in having more ‘grown up’ evenings/nights out on my off weeks. Can’t really blame them as not everyone has easy access to childcare, and I don’t want to push the issue and make them jealous about my free time either. On the flip side, I don’t seem to fit easily into the typical local ‘single and childfree’ activities because I do have my kid half the time so can’t commit to the stuff they want you to commit to and don’t have the same lifestyle or things in common either. I’ve tried hobby and interest groups, but I’m a crafter and artist, and in my small rural town those groups still skew very much older. I’m certainly not averse to having friends who are retired and in their 70s or 80s, but I get the impression those folks don’t feel like they have much in common with me and they’re polite but not overly warm. Tried MeetUp and people had driven in many cases for over an hour in various directions simply to drink together in a pub garden. I met ONE person from my actual town. One person, and he was a bit weird. I’d love to pop down town for random pub drinks occasionally, but it did not seem to be a great way of meeting actual locals. So yeah. You’re not alone. I’m actually quite extroverted and would love to meet more people, but I’m not sporty and that seems to limit me. I’m old enough now to look creepy alone in pubs and clubs but too young for the retired folks’ activities 😭