Does anyone here actually understand what their significant other does for a job?

**TLDR**: two examples of my terrible self-absorption Years ago I was going to get married .... me and my intended had to go to the town hall to fix a date etc. We were interviewed by this official who sat us down and asked us a few routine questions. He then asked me "and do you know what Anne does for a living?". My mind was blank.... did I know.... what? .... no, I had absolutely no idea. Something in an office. Something to do with education I thought. I spluttered, hummed and hawed, looked out of the window for divine inspiration. What a terrible husband I would have made. Luckily we never followed through. OT ... that's not the worst example of my ignorance and self-absorption: I went out with a woman for 2 years. When we split up I was thinking about her and realised that I never knew her last name. I knew her christian name, but not her surname. That actually frightened me. How can you go out with someone for two years and not know their name? I had to ask someone and when they told me I went ..... 'nope, doesn't ring a bell".