Couples who’ve had kids - how long did it take for you to want to be intimate again regularly?

There are several different ways of doing sleep training. What we did when ours were about 9 months (so there's some object permanence) is put them through some bedtime routine. Then you put them in the cot/crib while they are still awake. When they start crying, you start a 5 minute timer. If they cry until the timer is up, then you go check on them. You check on them for less than a minute and you don't pick them up during the check. Then you go out and do it again. After 3-5 5-min timers, you go to 10-min timers, then 15. We found it took a little over a week before ours could get themselves to sleep and get themselves back to sleep after waking in the night. There is a lot of crying and the process is not fun, but the process isn't so distressing as just leaving them alone through the night cold-turkey. If kids get unwell, then we would bring them into bed with us while they were unwell. Then it might take another day or two of sleep-training after they got healthy to help them adjust to sleeping alone again. We also found that with infants, when they are napping, it's best to let them nap out in common areas of the house where there is lots of noise and light. That seems to help them not be light sleepers. And then one trick that's proved very useful for me is that anytime I go in to check on kids, whether during sleep training or anytime thereafter, I go in full volume. Not yelling or screaming or anything. Just talking at full volume. I think trying to sneak and be quiet to keep them asleep is high drama and interesting for them. Go in full volume it's boring and somewhat irritating and they'd rather just be asleep. That trick has honestly made a huge difference in getting kids to go back to sleep.