Working today makes me sick.

Posted by gamerinagown@reddit | Dallas | View on Reddit | 416 comments

It sickens me… not only was yesterday the 199th mass shooting in the US this year, but they are so commonplace we aren’t even granted the opportunity or time to mourn or process. You are telling me that 9+ people were murdered in cold blood while shopping just 15 minutes down the road from me… I saw and read things I can’t unsee….I feel traumatized and sick…but we had 1 day to process so we should be good now? It’s Monday, so I have to go to work and talk about marketing campaigns and pretend this didn’t happen? Have to deal with small talk, the “hope you had a great weekend” e-mails, and the tasks marked urgent even though they don’t really matter in the grand scheme of things… just so I can afford to process this in my bi-weekly $150 out-of-pocket therapy appointments that the crappy insurance I’m forced to pay for every month won’t even cover (funny that despite so many people claiming “it’s not the guns, it’s mental heath”, mental health resources are DAMN near non-existent here…) Can’t grieve on company time. Guess we have to do so on our lunch breaks. It’s revolting.

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teamworldunity@reddit

I'm gonna drop some realness: Did y'all vote? That's the single most effective tool you have to stop this nonsense, and change society on a massive scale. Use it at every opportunity you've got! Texans are always complaining, but voter turnout is atrocious. People bitch on reddit, but don't turn up when it counts. If y'all didn't vote, you're partially responsible.

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DaNo1CheeseEata@reddit

>I'm gonna drop some realness: Did y'all vote? You're Russian.

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ez_surrender@reddit

This attitude is so fucking stupid. It's not the fault of regular people who are so overwhelmed by trying to stay alive in this decrepit shitty society that they can't find the time to vote for some worthless lip service liberal. If the powers that be were actually concerned with changing things they could actively try to restructure our failed institutions, but they can't even go after something like the filibuster because they are afraid of upsetting their supposed political enemies. This stupid ass mentality that it's the fault of nonvoters is just well off educated people making excuses for a system that only benefits them by blaming the people who are getting fucked by that system. There is no vote for ending mass shootings, it's voting for someone who says maybe they'll vote on a reform if they feel like it and if the party tells them that changing the structures of government that effectively block these reforms from happening then oh well at least we tried, maybe the unwashed masses should have voted harder.

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rerunbasics@reddit

Awesome, I agree this place is a shithole, that's why me and my family are moving to Syria next month :) heard they have a great work life balance

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Southern_Library7718@reddit

This guy didn't vote.

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IMSLI@reddit

Statistics consistently show that the so-called “single issue voters” do vote, in large numbers, consistently…

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

Yeah just not the way people here want em to!

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gamerinagown@reddit (OP)

Sure did. This weekend voted in our local elections and we were some of the only people under the age of 50 there. Only 11% turnout in our county and all of the religious conservatives running in our county ended up winning. So that sucks…

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

Lel when I checked the results I saw just under 9% turnout. Sure does amplify my voice though.

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Darkeyednightsky@reddit

I voted AND encouraged a lot of people to vote. I did run into a lot of people that are fully convinced that voting does absolutely nothing which was incredibly frustrating.

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quaestor44@reddit

🙄

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greg_barton@reddit

I did. Richardson city council stayed Democratic. Democratic school trustees were elected. It was basically a democratic clean sweep. You can make a difference. 2024 will be a big election. We can kick out Ted Cruz. And we need to hold the presidency, obviously. Time to pack the SCOTUS.

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omar_strollin@reddit

I was going to vote, but I got sidetracked by this asshole with an AR-15 keeping me in the back of a shoe store. No joke, though, I was going to vote after shopping at the outlets. Please do vote next time everyone, your life quite literally depends on it.

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ryker002@reddit

I almost felt like it was done to scare people from voting. But maybe that’s just me overthinking it.

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OrganicTomato@reddit

Ugh. My cousin already said last year that she's afraid to go vote because who knows if some alt-right nutcase asshole might decide to come shoot up a polling location with an assault weapon. :/

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Independent_Ad_1686@reddit

Don’t they have mail in voting?

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yesitsyourmom@reddit

Hell, yes!

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DL72-Alpha@reddit

>199th mass shooting in the US this year, You have a legitimate source on that? because that's absolute bull.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Statistics never lie. Statisticians do

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DL72-Alpha@reddit

I have since discovered they have redefined a mass shooting as involving 2 people including the shooter. So every single police or defensive shooting is considered a 'mass shooting' by the left.

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gorosheeta@reddit

That's pretty gnarly! Which agency defines it that way?

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DL72-Alpha@reddit

The Media and the CDC. ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯  You know the power they have.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Yeah. Reddit sure is a great place to feed little snippets of information like 199 mass shootings but they forgot to include the little tidbit that you just commented. Funny how that works

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Impossible_Pop_6035@reddit

You need to grieve for strangers?

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That75252Expensive@reddit

Everyone had to go to work the day after 9/11.

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gamerinagown@reddit (OP)

That is shitty too.

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fuzzydunlop-CI@reddit

We didn't get a day off after 9/11 but we did get a change in laws and policies to make flying much safer so that we haven't had to have to sit back and watch it happen over and over again. I sympathize with your pain. My Drs office was shot up by a man who purchased an AR-15 that day. 4 people were killed just going to work/the doctor. It's worse when it's children. But bury your head in the sand seems to be the common advice here. Please please I urge you to vote for change.

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StrLord_Who@reddit

None of the airline policies instituted after 9/11 have "made flying safer."

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_TheNarcissist_@reddit

Oh yes, thank god for the Patriot Act! /S

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

The TSA is security theatre. I'm sorry to hear that happened to your Drs office. This man was 33 years old with no priors, the only thing that would have prevented it was if any and all military discharges involved referrals to mental health counseling in the event of a mental health related discharge. The most a ban on assault rifle style platforms would have done is to force him to use a California style AR or else a pistol.

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fuzzydunlop-CI@reddit

I wasn't specifically talking about TSA so that isn't the own you think it is. There have been many changes around aviation including reinforcement of cockpit doors and a ton of data analytics and tracking of terrorists. I would argue that white supremacists who promote and glorify mass shootings are terrorists. I do believe that common sense gun laws would save lives. The coward who killed 4 people had told his wife his plan and she alerted authorities. Unfortunately he walked out with the gun before they could act. If he would have had to wait a few days for security and insurance checks etc. they could have increased security at the Dr office and he could have been investigated by police. Could he have done something else? Brought a knife? Maybe. Maybe not. I think I'd take my chances running from the knife. I don't know the exact answer but I will be voting for change, supporting gun control yes even if that means California style AR. I am urging those who want a change to vote. And you are free to vote otherwise and accept mass shootings as part of life.

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

It’s life, though. Enemies don’t get days off, and on Sept 12, we knew who the enemies were. My first job out of college, my start date was Sept 11, 2001. I was a Jr Art Director at a cool ad agency in LA. My first assignment was, “we can’t get ahold of our clients in NY, so we need you to redesign this video game cover.” It was a game called Rescue 911. And it had 2 twin towers, with 2 helicopters exploding into each tower. So, yeah, that was my first day on the job! I didn’t ask for a day off to “process” and “grieve”. Even though my cousins were NY Firefighters and they were first responders. You just have to carry on. Otherwise, you’re not a stable part of society.

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badgalkiriii@reddit

“it’s life tho” really??? and we’re supposed to accept this? this type of attitude is part of the problem

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

Yeah, that’s the way the human species has operated since the dawn of man. If you want to change the world, go for it.

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badgalkiriii@reddit

LOL NO IT HASNT TF 😂😂😂😂 this planet is 4.5 billion years old and capitalism has only existed a couple hundred years. come on now.

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

🙄 I was referring to humans, since the dawn of man, have always had to pick up where they left off and keep moving forward. When I said “that’s life”, I was referring to the most basic of survival instincts, not capitalism. 🙄🙄🙄 Lawd.

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badgalkiriii@reddit

yeah smart ass i know you were referring to humans. the human species has existed for millions of years..which is still longer than capitalism 😂😂😂

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

You seem extremely unhinged

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badgalkiriii@reddit

i am 🤭

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

OIC. Sure.

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Myfriendpatience@reddit

I know this is supposed to sound upbeat or determined but it just comes off psychotic. This is the sort of “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” drool that makes “men need to be men” and deter mental health prioritization

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

To you, maybe. You're entitled to your opinion. I'm not psychologically damaged by any of it.

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

Nah bro I get where you're coming from. Just gotta take this life day by day.

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Myfriendpatience@reddit

I know I am and I know for a fact that you are because no one can go through what you did and admit they aren’t damaged to some degree by it. You are a prime example of what I’m talking about so thank you for playing your part to a T!

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paulwhite959@reddit

I mean, it's not psychotic. You can be shaken and still function. I was a high schooler working at a grocery store when it happened. We definitely had to work. People needed to get food and medicine. Was a weird as hell atmosphere for a few days I'll say that

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badgalkiriii@reddit

IT IS FUCKING PSYCHOTIC

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

See the all caps makes it true

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NearHi@reddit

No. It is psychotic. I was a highschooler during 9/11 and I was walking the halls confused. Worried. Lots of things on my mind. But our principal was someone with the "we mustinst let them get us down, so business as usual!" types. I forgot to wear my school ID that day... You know... Other more pressing things in my mind. And this bitch, who knew me by name, sent me to detention for it, giving no fucks about how I was walking past her like a zombie.

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politirob@reddit

Glad you can take the opportunity after every national tragedy to brag and gloat about yourself and career. Really good and cool!

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

Not sure how you interpreted an anecdote as a brag, but OK.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

I support you friend

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politirob@reddit

We're all very proud of you

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

Neat.

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NearHi@reddit

"Our enemies..." Jesus... You know, because our enemies win if NearHi doesn't design another overpriced trade show booth for another pharma company...

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

I don’t know who NearHi is, but good luck in your Big Pharma journey.

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DaddyDollarsUNITE@reddit

maybe a society that doesn't allow us time to grieve our countrymen and neighbors lost to preventable tragedies isn't a good society.

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Big_Apple-3A_M@reddit

What about people killed due to drunk drivers or drug overdoses?

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DaddyDollarsUNITE@reddit

debating about grieving over 8 of our community members being killed is not a good look, sweaty.

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AdolinofAlethkar@reddit

I think the point is that assigning personal grief over the death of strangers and asking that you get time off of work for it is, well, stretching the purpose of the word "grieving" just a little too far. If you actually do not have the mental or emotional fortitude to deal with the (very sad) fact that thousands of people die every single day in this country from preventable causes, then that is indicative of your own need for counseling and mental support more than it is anything else. Your best bet isn't to work at all, but instead to bury your head in the sand and just ignorantly believe that nothing bad happens, ever. There were 25,261 drunk-driving crashes in 2021 in Texas alone. As a result, 1,029 people were killed — that's one death every 8.5 hours. If we were **actually** talking about grieving, then we'd be focused on a cause of death that so vastly outpaces gun violence that it borders on comical. Even using Gun Violence Archive, which doesn't differentiate between gang shootings and random targeted mass shootings, there have been 29 deaths in "mass shootings" in Texas in 2023. Extrapolated out, that would be 83 (82.7) mass shootings for the year in 2023 (Today, May 8th, is the 128th day of the year. Divide the deaths by the days so far this year, then multiply that by 365). That's **304 dead Texans** for every one that dies in a mass shooting. Are you saying that the people who die in mass shooting events are 304 times more valuable than those who die from drunk driving accidents? That's not a good look, sweaty.

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DaddyDollarsUNITE@reddit

i was so happy to see a cosmere username until i read your comment. you're doing the thing that i said. i'm not debating whose lives are worth what. everyone's life matters. i am a huge advocate for switching to public transit over personal transportation - which would greatly alleviate drunk driving deaths. but it ain't really relevant to the mass shooting of 8 texans that we're talking about in this thread.

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AdolinofAlethkar@reddit

>i was so happy to see a cosmere username until i read your comment. Believe it or not, we're allowed to like the same book series' without having the same opinions on everything else. I feel bad for you if this topic is incredibly sacrosanct on your ideological scale, because Mistborn Era 3 is going to heavily involve guns... in a good way. >you're doing the thing that i said. No, I'm saying that if someone assigns themselves so much personal grief from the random death of 8 people that they believe they should be given the day off of work, then that says more about that individual person and their need to get better mental health support than it does the shooting itself. >i am a huge advocate for switching to public transit over personal transportation - which would greatly alleviate drunk driving deaths. If I peruse through your comment history, how many comments am I going to find concerning drunk driving deaths and switching to mass transit in order to alleviate them? Where we spend our time advocating (literally advocating, not simply saying, "I would prefer this") says volumes about how we actually **do** decide which lives are worth more. >but it ain't really relevant to the mass shooting of 8 texans that we're talking about in this thread. Again, this isn't about the shooting. It's about OP's inability to deal with the very real, very sad fact that people die of preventable causes every single day in the US, and in numbers that outstrip mass shooting deaths on a scale that makes focusing on them downright comical.

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DaddyDollarsUNITE@reddit

i don't advocate switching to public transit specifically because of drunk driving deaths - it's just a nice side effect of having better transit options available to everyone. but if you trawl through my comment history in r/texas r/texaspolitics r/dallas r/plano r/frisco r/denton you'll find me consistently pushing the idea of public transit, yes.

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AdolinofAlethkar@reddit

>i don't advocate switching to public transit specifically because of drunk driving deaths Why not? It's obviously a much more serious public health emergency than mass shooting deaths - literally **300 times more so.** Why do these events deserve your attention and comments but those do not? Because I count literal dozens of comments from you trying to restrict the right to bear arms, regardless of a mass shooting or not. *Under no pretext should arms and ammunition be surrendered; any attempt to disarm the workers must be frustrated, by force if necessary.* Which is ironic as hell if you know where that there quote is from and considering the books that you tell other people to read.

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DaddyDollarsUNITE@reddit

i'm also an active reader in r/SRA and i haven't called for any gun restrictions actually. just pointed out why the democrats and republicans won't pass any: money. i agree with marx's quote you've linked. i do not agree with disarming the working class, any "mental health" restrictions on firearms would be used against minority communities such as people of color or LGBT activists (see the disarming of the Black Panthers by Reagan as evidence) you're beating up a straw man that doesn't exist, my friend.

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AdolinofAlethkar@reddit

Yeah I already called myself for this error in response to your other comment, my bad and I apologize for making such an assumption. It's simply one that, more often than not, tends to be true when it comes to progressives and most reddit "socialists."

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DaddyDollarsUNITE@reddit

and btw idk where you got the idea i'm anti gun cuz i'm not lol you are making that right up

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AdolinofAlethkar@reddit

You know what? That's fair and you're right. You do seem like an actual socialist who understands the importance of firearms for the populace. That's on me and I apologize about pushing that assumption.

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Big_Apple-3A_M@reddit

I’m not saying that OP shouldn’t grieve. It’s sickening and perhaps with better access to mental health treatment and tighter gun laws a mass shooting is preventable. I guess my point is to equalize the sadness. of something like this to a drunk driver killing someone or a drug overdose.

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theLostGuide@reddit

Also “enemies don’t get days off” so our endless marketing campaigns and making more useless trinkets and getting people to buy more shit is really making the world a better place?

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

We do. There are designated days for that, which are national holidays.

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DaddyDollarsUNITE@reddit

your whole comment is literally about soldiering on the very next day after a tragedy or else you're not a stable part of society so this is kind of a wild deflection lol

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

Well, it's no skin off my back if you disagree. But it's clear the OP doesn't have some necessary coping skills. She needs to take a minute, take a day off - which is what I said in another response. To complain that the whole city, area, county, or all businesses don't take a "day off" is pretty absurd and points to the lack of coping skills necessary for life.

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Intellectuallygifted@reddit

You’re coming across as a bootlicker or middle manager. Either way it’s not a compliment.

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slowro@reddit

During this first comment after reading the enemies don't get days off I thought he was going to talk about enlisting and nope.

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Voiceofreason81@reddit

You're way of thinking is everything that is wrong with America. You full on drank the Kool-aid of American indoctrination. You for real need to speak to someone.

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SaskrotchBMC@reddit

You might have a different perspective if you were near the 2 towers. That’s what OP is saying.

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

several of my old college roommates lived and worked below 14th street in NY when the twin towers were hit. They share in my sentiments. They all (ALL of them) went from sleeping in the dark b/c of no electricity downtown to dusting off their clothes (dust seeped through every crack) and walking to work the next day. Some work actually took place, some didn't. The point is, they weren't cowering.

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Learnmegooder@reddit

Yeah, man, people went back to work on 9/12. Just like people are going back to work today. What the hell is your point? OP isn’t “cowering,” he isn’t staying home and wallowing in fear, he’s just venting about how much it all sucks. I imagine you and the multitude of friends and acquaintances you know who personally lived at the base of the towers and were directly affected by 9/11 terrorism actually felt like shit the next day and had a lot to gripe about as well. Maybe keep your pedantic little snarky advice to yourself next time.

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

OP is 1 keystroke away from cowering. None of us complained about going back to work. The friends in NY were so preoccupied with what had just happened that they looked forward to seeing coworkers. It was a relief to see familiar faces. No one lived at the based of the towers, you know that. I'm sorry my anecdotes trigger you.

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morningsharts@reddit

You can always stop typing.

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

And you can keep scrolling.

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Learnmegooder@reddit

You seem to be going out of your way in an attempt to trigger people, just to make yourself feel good. Grow a little empathy for Pete’s sake. Nobody’s impressed with your show of keyboard bravado in response to someone’s genuine anxiety and frustration about our current situation. You just come off looking like a complete jackass.

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DonDoesDallas@reddit

>I didn’t ask for a day off to “process” and “grieve”. Even though my cousins were NY Firefighters and they were first responders. You just have to carry on. Otherwise, you’re not a stable part of society. Well maybe you should have. Even though 911, was over 20 years ago, you're recounting it, as if it happened recently. Dealing with trauma isn't optional - it comes up eventually. And people are wise to prioritize their mental health first.

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

oh boy.... I only brought it up because it's relevant to the conversation, as it correlates other people's proximity to tragedies in the past. I never said I didn't deal with it. Regardless, I wish you well in your healing journey.

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totaro@reddit

Wow I was just reading about the artwork on that particular game sorry that just happened to be your first day

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

it was pretty memorable, for sure.

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dubiousN@reddit

>Enemies don’t get days off, and on Sept 12, we knew who the enemies were. You sure about that?

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

LOL, well, at the time, yeah, we were mostly "sure". If you want to go down the rabbit hole of who started it all and who's to blame, should the West have ever meddled in the Middle East, etc, that's for a whole other sub. But by and large, we all woke up and it was pretty clear who took credit for it.

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adamantinegirl@reddit

I worked on 9/11 in the evening. It was super quiet and everyone was listening to the news on the radio.

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alkaliphiles@reddit

And school. Same with Columbine.

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c-note26@reddit

Not true at all. I was in high school at the time in the same conference as Columbine. School was cancelled for a couple of days and all extra-circular activities were canceled for some time (I was in track and we ended up only have 5 meets all year as opposed to the 20+ that were scheduled).

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WeHaveIgnition@reddit

A lot of business and schools closed the next day.

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Wads_Worthless@reddit

Not really, outside of NYC

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Captain_Wobbles@reddit

In Texas my school did not close but they did not question any parents who wanted to pick up their child early. My birthday is actually on 9/11 so I was already going to be pulled out of school but I didn't go back until the next week. I didn't even know what was going on, my mom took me to Toys R Us, Taco Bell, and then plopped me down infront of Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

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bhellor@reddit

I went to work that evening, waiting tables. One of my 3 tables of the night was out celebrating. Smiles, laughs, and cheers with drinks. They were so happy they didn’t know anyone who died in the planes or towers. All the staff was trying to watch the President while they were enjoying themselves.

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Voiceofreason81@reddit

Anyone who worked at an airport or a landmark or tourist spot of some kind did not. They even shut down the mall I was working in for 3 days after it happened just in case. Not everything opened up on that Wed after that tragedy.

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Diabetesh@reddit

Why wouldn't you? If you aren't directly affected, it isn't much of an issue. It may be a tragic event, but if we felt traumatized by every single incident in ours or any other country we wouldn't be able to live. Tens of thousands of people die every day to murder, accidents, negligence. You gotta keep moving forward.

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jls75076@reddit

199 is bullshit. You are making yourself miserable for a bullshit .gov stat.

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Zomba08@reddit

I get the anxiety, but I’d suggest stepping away from the news. We were not meant to handle the constant barrage of negative news, punctuated by shocking events closer to home There are so many preventable deaths every day that it is impossible to fully process. Not just guns, but DUI accidents, drug ODs, etc. I’d focus on your anxiety first, then get involved in solving some of these issues (if so inclined)

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EepeesJ1@reddit

I get what you're saying, but 199 shootings in less than half a year? That's pretty extreme and being stressed about it is completely reasonable. I don't think 199 shootings is something anyone should be able to ignore simply by stepping away from the news.

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JinFuu@reddit

[The "Mass Murder" stat they use is better](https://www.gunviolencearchive.org/reports/mass-murders) That's the "random shootings" that everyone thinks of when it comes to "Mass Shootings" as opposed to the bulk of Mass Shootings being gang/organized crime related. 21 is still a lot, but not as doom scroll enabling as 199.

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Phoenixrebel11@reddit

I don’t like separating them because that needs to be talked about too. It’s like those killings aren’t as important.

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the_real_ch3@reddit

But you can recognize that is at least slightly misleading to include them in the same category to create the idea that random mass shootings in places like malls and schools are happening more than once a day

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Phoenixrebel11@reddit

I see what you’re saying but I don’t think anyone plans to get shot up. Plus what if there are innocent bystanders? It’s still a mass shooting.

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EepeesJ1@reddit

Thanks for providing this. Definitely a better number when considering the risk of going to public places, but I still think the fact that it's possible because there are people out there who are thinking about doing such a thing is terrifying.

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ubettaswallow@reddit

Are you stressed about dying by driving down the road? 4,500 people died last year in Texas due to vehicle crashes. Your fear priorities are all ass backwards

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Voiceofreason81@reddit

And there were 4,600 firearm deaths in Texas. Anxiety isn't fear and most times they are not related. Their priorities are exactly where they want them to be, and your comment is more telling of you than them. Good drivers rarely have to worry about being that statistic, and considering how much more time people spend driving down the road than they do using a gun, I would say you just flat out don't have a clue about what you are saying and may not be smart enough to ever be able to change that. Feel free to prove me wrong on that last part.

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AdolinofAlethkar@reddit

>And there were 4,600 firearm deaths in Texas. And the vast majority of those were suicides with no other victims. You really don't have to include suicides in this number if you're **actually** concerned about anxiety. Conflating one-off suicides with homicides only **increases** anxiety, so there's literally no reason not to only list homicides when making your argument. >Good drivers rarely have to worry about being that statistic And most people shouldn't worry about being in a mass shooting event, especially if you use the FBI's definition and not the definition of a couple of redditors who made a website to track their own, more broad, metric instead (Gun Violence Archive). >I would say you just flat out don't have a clue about what you are saying and may not be smart enough to ever be able to change that. You are really quick to be judgmental towards others concerning this topic when you, yourself, are using data that purposefully misconstrues the probability of someone being injured or killed by a shooter. If you were actually concerned about anxiety, then you'd talk about the gun deaths that *should* be related to inducing it instead of using a much more expansive number that does the opposite. It sounds like you just flat out don't have a clue about what you are saying and may not be smart enough to ever be able to change that. Feel free to prove me wrong on that last part.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

That person is just regurgitating the rhetoric they’ve been indoctrinated with

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IamSpiders@reddit

Lol? Drunk or distracted drivers running reds kill innocent people all the time, many of them not even in a car. You don't worry about dying from a car because it isn't fed to you negatively in the news. Car fatalities are mostly reported using passive voice "Man hit by car dies" so it doesn't seem as sinister as it is.

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GasFlow@reddit

Yep, my kid was hit crossing the street two years ago.

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twittereddit9@reddit

Yes? Who wouldn’t be with the insane death rate on these crazy roads?

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ubettaswallow@reddit

Seek help

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twittereddit9@reddit

you're likely a sociopath

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ubettaswallow@reddit

I am a psychopath because I don’t live in fear? The fuck you smoking haha

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bugsliker@reddit

no I agree. if I could get around reasonably with trains and buses I'd ditch my car immediately. not worth the risk, we just ignore it bc we have no other option here

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tx4468@reddit

Yes and how many laws have been passed to help the traffic situation vs the gun situation?

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ubettaswallow@reddit

Do you think people who go out and do a mass shooting will care about laws? Do you know how many laws have been passed for gun control already? Have you done any research on this? Thousands and thousands of laws passed and mass shootings still happen, although it is mostly inner city gangs killing each other.

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tx4468@reddit

I think you're underestimating how these laws put barriers in place. Maybe you underestimate people's laziness too. If a lot of work. Effort, and money is required to get a gun it stops people from doing this in thr first place.

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ubettaswallow@reddit

Ok. You need to be fine with those same restrictions on voting then. You cannot just implement barrier to something on the bill of rights.

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badbydesign@reddit

Don’t know why you’re being down voted… A drunk driver will easily change your mind about being safe just cause you “drive safe”. Yet we don’t go blaming the car or the alcohol, we blame the driver. Funny how we blame an inanimate object when it comes to a shooting…

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ubettaswallow@reddit

If you just leave a gun there, it apparently will shoot you

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elmaspanchito@reddit

I'm aware of my surroundings while driving. And I know that there are assholes driving around me and putting me and my family at risk. Sometimes I stress about being in a wreck and my kid getting hurt, but I keep with traffic on the highways, don't speed on regular roads, avoid driving late at night on the weekends, double or triple check intersections because DALLAS-DRIVERS-SUCK, I wear a seatbelt, and put my toddler on his car seat at all times. I control my family's safety as best as I can, and hope for the best. Seatbelts and airbags and helmets have kept me alive several times. What the fuck am I supposed to do to prevent an armed asshole shooting at me and my kid while out shopping on a Saturday afternoon? How can I control my family's safety in a situation like that? Stay inside at all times? have my kid wear a bulletproof vest everytime we step out of the house?

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AcidTWister@reddit

199 mass shootings in 127 days.

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Catdwn@reddit

Stepping away from the news is all well and good but it doesn't do a thing for someone like me who hasn't purposely paid attention to the news since Tom Brokaw and Dan Rather were on the screen. I have a perfectly fine working memory, though, and it has a tally of all the senseless mass shootings that I'm aware of. Like Columbine, Virginia Tech, Uvalde, Parkland High School, the country music festival, Pulse. I can't help but add this one to my mental list (which is a surprisingly small list considering how many shootings actually occur.) I had to talk myself out of multiple panic attacks while grocery shopping today and I couldn't look at anyone even though I'm usually very friendly.

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sailorjerry134@reddit

I think the whole "If it bleeds, it leads" news agencies have today is toxic. I get that bad news draws in more readers, gets more viewers, and entices people to click but it gets to be too much after a while. I'd find it hard for ANYONE to not have an existential crisis after being fed a steady diet of everything that's currently on our 24 hour news cycle.

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Voiceofreason81@reddit

The real question you should be asking is why is there so much negative to talk about and so little good. That is the reality of what America has become, and blaming the news for reporting what gets views is crazy. You need to start voting for what will create change instead of burying your head in the sand and hoping it doesn't happen to you or someone you love. More people need to start giving a shit, not the other way around.

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Some_Whereas_5371@reddit

There is a lot of good but the news wont talk about any of it.

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Comfortable_Face_808@reddit

What kind of fucked up take is this? These shooting a real and growing problem. It is not a fantasy created by the media to be ignored.

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Zomba08@reddit

100% agree And online content is even worse. Designed for clicks and intended to have you lose perspective

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sailorjerry134@reddit

Yes, the additional problem with online content is that it allows you to exist inside your own echo chamber.

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Voiceofreason81@reddit

Pretty sure Fox News, Newsmax and OAN are all a propaganda echo chambers as well. All of media is an echo chamber and you have to know how to navigate it.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Reddits a god damn echo chamber to the fullest extent

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Acrobatic_Internal62@reddit

Nothing keeping you here. You are free to leave.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

I do, often. Ill start to miss the rare high quality content I’d find here. Give it another go. But the liberal rhetoric and propaganda is just too much. The headlines to all these posts are purposely misleading, leaving out important detail or adding unfounded theories and opinions to promote a narrative. A quick read of the articles show just how sensationalistic these post titles are. Most people don’t read them though and only remember the misleading titles as the truth, exactly how it was designed to work. The comments are nothing but a circle jerk as anyone with a differing opinion is deemed wrong. We’ve gotten to a point where people are so fragile when it comes to their beliefs and ‘ideals’ that they would rather live in this fantasy land where everybody reinforces everybody’s shared shitty ideas with absolutely no visible push back. Sometimes I have to remind myself that the opinions and schools of thought that dominate Reddit get at the most about 100,000 upvotes give Or take. Usually it’s much much less especially when it’s political. A couple hundred thousand out of 331 million people will never accurately reflect what the whole country actually thinks or believes. Reddit gives the vocal minority what seems to be a louder voice. All this shit on here is lost on the real world and the people who actually decide the elections. Sniffing your farts all every day will eventually give you pink eye

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Acrobatic_Internal62@reddit

You act like the red pill community is non exist. I see Reddit as a cess pool of 4chan leftovers. Funny how that works.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

I honestly don’t ever see red pill community shit. At least not on Reddit. I don’t give much for the algorithm to work with and stay on the popular page tab and it just keeps churning out heavily leaning liberal posts constantly. Any pushback or differing opinions gets buried. I hopped on twitter this week after not using it for any of the past 5 years. Almost every single reply I saw on their in regards to Brownsville and Allen was the complete opposite to what I’d see here. Psychotic conservatives everywhere with what seems to be like quite a bit of support. I was shocked to see that. I had never seen so many wild conservative takes and opinion on a forum like twitter. It almost seemed like some people got the idea to create a bunch of fake twitter accounts that present themselves as right wing extremist and then just have some sort of AI creating inflammatory right wing ideas to flood twitter with. Either way the most concerning part is that from a neutral outside perspective, left and right are simply two sides of the same coin. They hate each other because they are exactly like each other. We all lose

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Where would I see that on here? Without going out of my way? The conservative subreddit appears in my feed every so often but that’s pretty rare and that’s the only one so I can go a day or so without seeing anything from it

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Acrobatic_Internal62@reddit

Then you are willfully ignoring it. I can’t help that. Good luck out there.

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Atlasatlastatleast@reddit

And that’s how you get people shooting strangers for being in their driveway, or at their door, without any provocation

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Naive-Watercress4983@reddit

It’s not nowadays. Don Henley sang about it in the 80s.

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sipes216@reddit

Our brains are hard wired to look to trainerecks and massive events. This is the sad natural evolution of syndicated media. I second the step away from news. Me and the wife only have media subs like hbo/netflix and the like. Aver since i started stepping back from toxic media (incl facebook) my life has been markedly happier. Im right around the corner from the shops/allen... we didnt like going because of the parking shitshow, but now i dont think we will ever go back to that poorly designed mall. Or really any malls. As of late, ive kind of liked just not going out for things.. or if we go iut, its for a joyride/the few days we go into the office per week... Maybe im becoming a hermit?... hmm....

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zekeweasel@reddit

Unfortunately I think most people just get sort of emotionally calloused to it all, unless its happening to someone they know closely. There was an article some years ago about people's "monkeyspheres", meaning the number of people that are "real" to them and not abstract "other people". https://www.cracked.com/article_14990_what-monkeysphere.html Basically if it's not happening to someone in your monkeysphere, it's abstract and unreal and easier to dismiss. It kind of sucks but that's how people operate.

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notapaxton@reddit

We got the bubble headed bleached blonde Comes on at five She can tell you 'bout the plane crash with a gleam in her eye It's interesting when people die Give us dirty laundry

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Diligent-Towel-4708@reddit

I miss when news was basically 3x a day, morning, 5pm, 10pm

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noncongruent@reddit

I don't think hiding the problem and pretending it isn't happening is going to be a viable short or long-term strategy. The best way to stop the reporting of all these mass shootings is going to be stopping them from happening in the first place. There's no possible future in this nation's existence where treating these as not newsworthy is a valid strategy.

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Zomba08@reddit

Don’t disagree. My recommendation was for the OP, who is struggling with anxiety, focus on their mental health first and thing figure out how best to engage and drive change. My aunt went into a spiral with all of the negative Covid news in early 2020. It turned her into a pretty unwell hermit for a couple years. Self care is important

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realityczek@reddit

Additionally, news agencies can use tragedies to drive populations to adopt causes. So when a tragedy happens that fits their goals? They are absolutely going to blast it as hard as they can. The folks who decide which tragedies to feature, and which to ignore, are counting on driving fear, horror, and anger so they can then present you with the "solution." This is not a left/right thing either - everyone who desires power does it. Currently, much of the media leans left so it is a little more prevalent in that agenda, but the right are not angels in this.

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MonolithOfTyr@reddit

I haven't read a single article or seen ANY news about the shooting but I'm still sickened by it. I'm sickened by the letters my kids' schools send home about various daily incidents of weapons found on campus. I'm sickened by how my 1st-grader comes home and tells me not about how much further his reading skills have improved but that today they practiced yet ANOTHER active shooter drill. The issue is not the news cycle. The issue is not mental health. The issue is not IlLeGaL iMmIgRaNtS. The issue is this country's ridiculous obsession with instruments of murder.

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Dyslexic_Hippie@reddit

The problem with that theory of yours is that guns have always been prevalent in America. However, mass shootings have only been a thing here since the 90s and have only within the last handful of years become frequent. Did people just suddenly realize guns were around? Or has our culture become so rotten that people all over the place are losing it? I'm almost 30 and seem to be part of the last generation that played outside all day every day through childhood. Over time, I've seen the trend progress as people become less trusting of others as stories would crop up on the news about kidnappings or bombings or any other nefarious deeds. Nowadays, kids hardly go outside unsupervised and are mostly raised by technology. Either we're becoming toxic as a society, or we're all so desensitized to violence and generally terrible behavior constantly portrayed in the media that we're starting to conform to it or assume the worst about any strangers. TL;DR It's not a gun problem. It's a mental health problem.

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MonolithOfTyr@reddit

Mental health issues aren't just an American thing, though. 199 mass shootings so far this year. This is the only country with this issue.

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Dyslexic_Hippie@reddit

And again to my point that the rate of active shooter incidences has increased over time, there were 3 such incidences in 2000, 27 in 2010, 61 in 2021 and now 199 so far this year if your number is accurate. Gun laws have only become more strict over time, so you tell me what's changed.

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MonolithOfTyr@reddit

This happened in Texas where gun laws are extremely lax. Mental health care in this state is 50th in the US meaning dead last.

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Dyslexic_Hippie@reddit

Yes, this case. But we were discussing national numbers. And who knew no access to mental healthcare and easy access to guns could possibly be a bad combination? Especially in a time of economic crisis and the looming threat of a potential world war. Any older folks I talk to look down on these younger generations with pity as they see the state of the world we're inheriting. I and many people I know are at least borderline suicidal so I really don't find it that surprising that unhinged people are directing that emotional turmoil into violence, especially given the media sensationalism they know they'll receive.

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MonolithOfTyr@reddit

I don't see it as sensationalism and perhaps that's the difference. Then again I don't really watch anything but streaming services now and then. I understand how *gestures broadly* is making things far worse. The suction is obvious but the monied powers seem to prefer watching us tear ourselves apart than help.

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Dyslexic_Hippie@reddit

I say that, but specifically, I mean that any shooter's name or face should never see the light of day. Don't give them the infamy they seek, and that will at least curb some from trying it. I have mixed opinions about gun laws myself, as I stand by the constitution, and at the end of the day, there's more guns in this country than people and it would likely cause either a Civil War or a revolution if the government actually tried to disarm people en masse. Oh, and technically speaking, all gun laws would likely be considered laughably unconstitutional by those who drafted the Bill of Rights anyway, but I digress.

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serietah@reddit

This one was minutes from my house. A place I’ve been countless times. A place my friends and family go. A place I drive past any time I leave my city because it’s right there off the highway. I’m at work (currently hiding in the bathroom trying to motivate myself to put on my fake “I’m ok” face and get to work. The local school districts excused absences for today. One mom said her daughters teacher told her there were only 3 kids in class today. The news hasn’t actually given us any real updates. Families released names and photos of two victims. Others aren’t identified yet. The cops released the shooters name and are digging into his life. What else can we do but keep watching, waiting for updates? I just want to go home where I feel safe :(

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riinkratt@reddit

Lol you think you’re safe at home 😂

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serietah@reddit

Relatively. I’ve lived in my neighborhood since it was built and so far it is safe. That doesn’t mean my anxiety doesn’t tell me there’s always a murderer in my shower if the curtain is closed though lol

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TheHendryx@reddit

this is the nicer version of what I was going to say

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Ridikiscali@reddit

Yup. Stopped following the news and my mental health has gotten much better.

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gitrjoda@reddit

The ostrich method!

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Ridikiscali@reddit

Not really. Headlines are there to grab eyes with garbage writing.

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gitrjoda@reddit

Ok but we aren’t talking about sensationalized news. We are talking about murder and terrorism literally down the street from OP. But yea, just turn off the news.

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Ridikiscali@reddit

I didn’t need the news to tell me about that. Heard it via a friend. Don’t need details, just need to know location and what occurred. If I consumed every tragedy happening 24/7 I’d be a miserable person.

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gitrjoda@reddit

Yep, agree with the general point. In this context its a pretty vile point to make though.

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Ridikiscali@reddit

In your point of view, sure. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. There’s no rule to the world that states every person in the entire world needs to be caught up on all news 24/7. Shall I prosecute my friend currently out in Big Bend with bad cell reception that has no idea this probably even happened?

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gitrjoda@reddit

“I don’t have to know everything about everywhere all the time, and that’s totally relevant to this person who is having trouble processing murder and terrorism in her home town.” Not sure what you mean about prosecuting your friend in Big Bend. Not sure you know what prosecuting means. All in all, think I’m gonna let this conversation go. Best to ya.

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Oso-Sic@reddit

I'm not sure if all of this is happening more and more (pretty sure it is, but) or it feels like we just hear about it more because of the age of social media and the Internet. You can't avoid it, and it's demoralizing.

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supdog13@reddit

Is this a joke? Mass, public shootings are factually happening more and more.

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supdog13@reddit

Stepping away from the news doesn’t change how much of a psychotic shithole Texas is.

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iqueefkief@reddit

there’s no avoiding that news when you live so close to this

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aunt_snorlax@reddit

I don't think this helps with OP's issue of a mass shooting happening down the street from them. That's not a "you watch too much news" problem.

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UniqueAd8173@reddit

Parents are also constantly receiving news about students bringing guns and other weapons to school, including elementary students. I'm not a parent, but if I hop on Nextdoor, I'm constantly seeing people posting about gunshots, high schools going into lockdown every other week, parents posting messages from school admin about a gun found on a student. We aren't watching too much news and I'm tired of hearing that talking point. I've heard gunshots in my quiet, safe suburban neighborhood. That's not normal, and not watching the news isn't doing anything about that.

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Gringo0984@reddit

Absolutely! We are not living in a new day and age of more crime and bad things happening. What we are living in is a newer age of having 24/7 news reporting across the world where every single thing is reported and with camera phones, so much of this is filmed and posted. Reddit can be the same way. These social media and news platforms prey on what makes you the most vulnerable and it shows this to you. With advanced algorithms as to what you respond to the most, mainly negative. Stepping away can be a breath of fresh air. Us humans were not meant to have this much sensory overload and every part of the day. Crime as a whole is actually down from the past but we think it is much worse because we are now exposed to it all. We weren't back then.

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PorQueTexas@reddit

There is a term for what we are experiencing: Mean World Syndrome https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mean_world_syndrome

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Ok-Mango-7727@reddit

I know how you feel. I'm struggling money wise but not one person brought it up. The outlet was is 5 miles from where I live. I am the only employee that had to drive by there this morning. I have seen and read everything and then come into work where no one says a thing. No one reached out. All I'm hearing about is thousand dollar vacations that they booked. I feel like this weekend really changed me and I can't go back to my same mind frame.

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SPARTAN-Jai-006@reddit

Yeah… I miss working at Starbucks and shooting the shit with people. Talking, laughing, mourning. Working a middle-class, white-collar job is soul-sucking. Work with stuck-up, self-important, trust-fund ass mf’s who are shells of human beings. Live in huge cardboard box houses, never talk to your neighbors, and all everyone can think about is getting the next nicest car or electronic. Co-workers are either dead inside, or alive with the sole purpose of stabbing you in the back so they can get promoted. Add easily accessible guns and profit-driven, commodified everything (including the things that are supposed to be an antidote to all of the above, like religion) and you get a perfect recipe for the thoroughly individualistic and decomposing society we live in. The wickedness and violence festers not in the seedy underbelly of Dallas, but in its upper-middle class suburbs. Shit’s crazy, the way we live. We wonder why we’re all so politically polarized and why otherwise healthy young men keep doing this bullshit. The real madness is living in 21st century suburbia.

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gamerinagown@reddit (OP)

Hit the nail right on the head. The older I get the more I desperately crave community and getting to know my neighbors. After the shooting and our local election results I felt helpless, so I asked myself what change I could make to better impact my community and the people around me. Decided to look for people-focused, local, non-religious affiliated volunteering opportunities… and was shocked at how limited the options were. Slots are either already completely full for the upcoming months, or require weekday availability, or they simply aren’t accepting new volunteers. There are no physical meetings or get togethers, just go make an account on this 3rd party site and grab a slot if one is available. It even feels like actively trying to serve your community nowadays is inaccessible and cold.

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HanSolosHammer@reddit

I used to volunteer at the Holocaust museum downtown and give tours. It was always very rewarding teaching kids about the dangers of hate. I miss it and wish I had the time to do it.

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

You might have some luck volunteering through your job, mine hosts volunteer events. Also, church affiliated events are rarely "religious", if that makes sense. The focus is always on the service first.

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Ok-Mango-7727@reddit

I agree with you. I was looking to volunteer prior to this and events seemed fairly limited.

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insta-kip@reddit

The only thing that was different about this weekend was the proximity. This has happened a lot in our country, I’m surprised this many people are reacting this way only because it was closer in distance to them. (And it’s completely fine if you feel that way, not trying to be judgmental).

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twittereddit9@reddit

Welcome to America. No sense of community. “Well I’m fine!” If it were a Normal Place, the people would be filling the town square demanding change. Even Serbia got immediate change promised by leaders a day after two mass shootings happened.

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i-am-from-la@reddit

I feel exact same way snd took the day off. This country and the intellectual dishonesty, general apathy is truly exhausting . I am working towards getting the fuck out of here

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

Nice ! Take 10 liberal friends with you !

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i-am-from-la@reddit

Thanks, i hope your family or your loved ones don't become a part of a mass shooting statistic as well.

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bostonshroomery@reddit

You took the day off because there was a shooting in your town?

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badgalkiriii@reddit

wow u seem like such a tough guy!

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bostonshroomery@reddit

Nope just dead inside

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

Your farts must smell horrible

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i-am-from-la@reddit

Yep, the company I work for encourages taking some time off to process grief or just take the day off if not feeling well. I am grateful for the opportunity and understand that not everyone in this country have that privilege. The fact that you are shocked by this is what I feel is wrong with American populace in general

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Just1Darque@reddit

There's something weirdly comforting, knowing that other people are finally starting to feel what I've been feeling since Columbine.

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

That kids now are mentally unstable ?

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Just1Darque@reddit

No, that I'm not the only one with the breaking heart for all those dead kids. The only people happy about mentally unstable kids are the gunfuckers who sell them their guns.

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GuysHell@reddit

It's sad it is taking this for people to realize that shit is bad not just for some but for all and when we take our heads out of the sand we can all see the real crap. This is not sustainable eventually something is going to give. I lost someone I knew at the El Paso shooting. A great man who would have given you the coat of his back was killed in cold blood. I needed to see them, the looks I got when I told my job I was taking time off was disgusting. Stop giving these companies your life. Work on yourself, take the time you need to grieve. Take the days you need to collect your thoughts and get ready to take on the next day and ensure that we all work together to stop this from happening again.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Did you need time to process after that woman drove through the homecoming parade at Oklahoma state university? She killed four people including a 2 year old child. Or the Christchurch mosque shootings where 51 people were brutally executed, did you need time to process that too?

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dotyin@reddit

The people in the comments saying to stop reading the news are misguided. Burying your head in the sand when a brutal attack happens somewhere you frequent is not right. We should be outraged and we should be demanding change from those in power. We shouldn't let politicians get away with pushing the responsibility onto mental health care when people can easily and legally get their hands on semiautomatic rifles in this country. As for today, the day after a violent attack that could have happened to any of us, pretending like nothing happened is disturbing. Telling your neighbors to ignore it because it happens all the time is disgusting. Sure, we all have bills to pay and have to work today, and if some short term denial is how we get through this week, that's okay. Outright telling people not to care, though, is not okay.

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

Man the goalposts really did shift after the 2022 legislation, oh well.

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ccbrownsfan@reddit

You can acknowledge that something has happened woliyhout fixating on it. Constantly reading about things outside your control only induces anxiety stand despair. Checking the news once a day or even less can still keep you abreast of the situation without causing undue stress.

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c0d3s1ing3r@reddit

Mentioned it to my colleague, was a bit freaky because it was only 20 minutes away, but life goes on yeah? If we stopped life for every tragedy we'd never get anything done. Can't give in to it.

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Striking_Wrangler851@reddit

Take a break from the news. The news knows horrible things will sell that is why it is nothing but shit. Start googling articles about the good things that are happening. There are still good things happening in the world. It’s just not what’s going to be on the first page of anything.

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aunt_snorlax@reddit

Someone really took the time to go through and downvote every sympathetic comment. Y'all need to reflect on yourselves, something is broken if you really don't care at all. Amazing how people have come to think caring about a problem that is affecting your community and wanting to make things better is being a wiener, but ignoring it and pretending everything is fine is the brave choice. Please.

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

Downvoted lol

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Same

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Darkeyednightsky@reddit

I am there with you. I literally kept my kids home from school today. There have been threats to schools all over DFW. Then the mass shooting... how exactly am I supposed to go about normally? Shit is not normal right now.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

The media is working it’s magic on you perfectly

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quaestor44@reddit

You need to get off social media

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

They secretly love it. That’s why they won’t get off of it regardless how it makes them feel. Now that’s sick

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montannarae007@reddit

Op, it will get better. I know that sounds nuts right now but keeping yourself busy helps. Maybe look up an organization that is supporting the victims families, church groups, etc. you can volunteer at to help on your free time. it’s not the mental health that’s THE problem, although that is A problem, but in this situation with Allen Outlet Mall, the gunmans access to military grade fire arms is what caused it. We have got to do something about gun control with military grade farms.

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SignatureOtherwise16@reddit

He could have done what he did with a simple handgun.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Ghost AR-15s from a CNC machine will do the trick too. those things that aren’t exactly subject to gun control laws.

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LightningLolz@reddit

I agree. Shootings are so common nowadays that they don't even make the morning news. I was literally just watching TV on Saturday and apparently, the Warriors vs Lakers game is more important.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Kind of is tho

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Ill3galAlien@reddit

agreed. i cant be angry, on company time, so i have to bottle it up... and god forbid i let it out at home.

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Anger management might help

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Krusty_Klown_Kollege@reddit

>Yes. Deal with it.  \-Greg Abbott, prolly

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

We should have started working a few weeks into the ‘quarantine’

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Krusty_Klown_Kollege@reddit

Sadly, we did 🤷

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SpecialAgentPickle@reddit

Around 10 people are murdered in Chicago every weekend. It’s just what the news has been focusing on

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Slow_Opportunity_135@reddit

Yeah to get them feeling exactly like OP and it’s working like a charm

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thedrunkensot@reddit

A few years ago we had a shooter at my office. Fortunately no one was injured, but a lot of people had to hide through it. I’ll never forget when the CEO called everyone to a meeting a few weeks later to tell us he’d heard enough about it, it was over, and everyone just needed to focus on the future. A) I wasn’t sad at all to leave that job B) I didn’t mind reading his obituary when it came

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

So you quit then ?

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thedrunkensot@reddit

Eventually. Not on the spot.

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quaestor44@reddit

Was that the office building by 635 & 75?

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thedrunkensot@reddit

No.

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Mensars@reddit

You guys are acting like first time it happened. It is been only 5 months since 2023 started and more than 13.000 people died of gun violence and The Mall Shooting in Allen was the 199th Mass Shooting of 2023 but today working makes you sick ha? Have you feel sick before too when it happened 200 times? They killed a guy right in front of me for some stupid argument couple months ago and i was on my break while i was working at a shopping center. I had to go back to work after my break. It also makes me sick to see that kind of reaction from you guys. Because it is just showing off like you really care.

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

If those 13k, how many were self inflicted suicides that did not invoke a crime or another person ?

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BigTunaTim@reddit

>They killed a guy right in front of me for some stupid argument couple months ago and i was on my break while i was working at a shopping center. I had to go back to work after my break. When I was in 4th grade my friend told me I shouldn't dig a hole too deep because one time his dad dug a hole so deep that he saw the devil. That story is more believable than this one.

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BeaversGonewild@reddit

Bad shit happens every day. Everywhere. It has been since the beginning. People act like it's the end of the world. The only difference now is media reports it more because it's proven to make them more money. None of those guys give a fuck they just act like they do.

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Mensars@reddit

That was exactly what i was trying to say. They just act like they really do care but of course they don't. They just like to get an attention and make some stupid internet points so they would satisfy their ego.

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i-am-from-la@reddit

Sorry but i do care, if i could i would vote for someone that is going to abolish 2 A eveytime. The fact that you and the rest of texans are apathetic and dont want to do anything about it is much more of a problem. That 9/11 united this country but domestic terrorism everyday gets a shrug is appalling

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Historical-Trash5259@reddit

Agreed. But if you've never lived in or around a large city you always have to be aware of your surroundings. Rifle shots and shit fired 100m away is like sniperfire. Fuck the NRA and Rightwing NRA fuckbuddies

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

Come and take it

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chknnoodsoup@reddit

I agree. There was a man arrested for threatening to shoot up Downtown FTW Sunday. I work gobsmack in the middle of DT. My job didn't tell the employees. Additionally, we work under apartment complexes. Some apartment resident shot and killed the maintenance man. Swarm of cop cars. Someone had to hide in our office. They also didn't tell the employees (the ones who work in the back, aka me) that this happened either. And we kept working. Only finding out these things bc someone who works front desk will tell me when we leave together. There's a difference between not wanting to cause panic and not giving a shit about your employees.

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

So quit and start your own business

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Ill_Stand9809@reddit

and its almost been a year since the Uvlade school shooting that killed 20+ kids and nothing has been done

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

What are you gonna do ? Go door to door and take people’s legally acquired firearms ? Read the 2nd A for a refresher

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csbc801@reddit

Remember how you’re feeling today when you step into the Voting booth next time. There is only ONE solution—vote the Party of the NRA out of office once and for all.

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

Yawn

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noncongruent@reddit

Actually, day before yesterday was the 199th mass shooting, the same day there was another one in Chico, CA that was #200, and yesterday the 7th there were four more mass shootings, CA, MO, MD, and NJ. Just know that you're not alone, not at all, and that there are people all through this nation sharing your grief and anger.

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AgreeableGravy@reddit

When is enough going to be enough?

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

When you volunteer to go door to door to confiscate legal gun owners property ?

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ChildishCam@reddit

I feel your pain. Yesterday, I felt so paranoid at a crowded grocery store and today I’m back at the desk working. I’m in Tennessee too where gun laws are just as relaxed as Texas. Makes me sick that elected officials can ignore the gun violence that plagues this country.

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rye_212@reddit

In comparison to Serbia where their president immediately announced a drive to reduce gun ownership in response to the first of their 2 mass shootings last week.

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

USA > Serbia

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whiteforasiancd@reddit

Nothing spreads like fear……

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cammatador@reddit

Suck it up buttercup and learn to deal with the finite nature of life. You know how many other people died that day? Shootings. Car accidents. Falls. Strokes. Cancer. Drug ODs. Some surprises, some not. Some violent, some not. Many beyond control of their own fate. What is revolting is that it takes some politicized, scandalized, media-ized, event to make folks realize we are all on the clock and we are not the ones setting the alarm. Folks like you. Anyone's ticket can be punched at any time. WTF difference does location and number matter? The take away, the learnable lesson, the silver lining, is, for those who do understand this EVERYDAY, is to love the things you love while they are here because that ain't always going to be the deal? Yeah, I'm telling you 9 people were murdered and life goes on, if you're lucky. Now if those people's who lives were taken were kin or friends, my sympathies. If not, I suggest you turn off the tv and step away from the internet until you can learn to scale your reaction.

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mcait02@reddit

My former company was very empathetic to tragedies going on in the world. Our CEO would commonly hold meetings or send an email after these type of events telling everyone to take it easy today, don’t work if you need time to grieve, and encouraging us to seek mental health resources, and we’d sometimes break out into smaller groups to talk about it. My current company did send a mass email acknowledging the event and reminded us about our mental health benefits, but just seemed less heartfelt and more of a copy/paste message, and everyone just went about business as usual.

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iodinebones@reddit

I am so sorry. know that others are in the very same headspace as you. I work at Stonebriar and I’ve already been here since 7am, fixing all the clothes on display at my store and all I can think about is the shooting. I don’t feel safe at a mall, my workplace. it all feels so wrong.

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mcait02@reddit

And Stonebriar was evacuated Saturday night too but turned out to be a false alarm after we were just there the night before. My teen is now afraid to go to malls. And I can’t even tell her honestly “don’t worry, it will be okay.”

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rTreesAcctCuzMormon@reddit

Even Stonebriar had that incident in 2018 with that kid from Plano West that [planned to carry out a mass shooting](https://www.nbcdfw.com/news/local/frisco-student-was-inspired-by-islamic-state-to-carry-out-attack-at-stonebriar-mall/75390/). It’s crazy.

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iodinebones@reddit

i remember that, and a bombing plot thwarted by some kid years before that too. malls in general don’t feel safe to me any more… needless to say I went home early today.

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rTreesAcctCuzMormon@reddit

I’m glad you were at least able to get some time back for yourself. Not sure if mall security still cares about parking behind the white line, but you’ve got my permission to park in front of it.

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iodinebones@reddit

thank you so much for your kindness, that made me smile

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khalkar74756@reddit

Repeal the Second Amendment. Having a firearm is not a right, it’s a privilege.

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MrZeppy@reddit

its so fricking annoying that we are at the point we expect to see this on the news just fudging take some actions - like its clear the government isnt even tryin to limit

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aeroluv327@reddit

I felt the same way all day today. I'm the only one on my team located in Texas (I'm remote) and nobody asked if I was okay today. I'm not, I was incredibly distracted and anxious all day. Serbia just had a school shooting (maybe their first?) and they declared a national day of mourning. Then they had a second mass shooting within the week and literally people are marching in the streets, demanding that high ranking officials step down. Meanwhile I'm making stupid spreadsheets because God forbid we slow down the capitalist machine to actually fix this stupid country.

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No_Entertainment670@reddit

I’m right there with you on that. Sick and tired of big muck a mucks blaming it on Mental Disease. Does Mental cause someone like that asshole to join that nazi racist organization? It didn’t. he joined for the thrill and their beliefs. Since they are all saying it’s mental disease then pass a law that requires all people to take their mood altering meds. Vs making it against the law for women to have abortion. Now passing a law I stated in my previous sentence……would be more helpful than the abortion law. Now I may get some back lash and that’s ok. Bec right now all of us Dallasite are still recovering from Saturdays Shooting. Unfortunately nothing will change until it happens to one of their loved ones. That will be the only time any of us see change regarding guns.

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Champagne_Ernie@reddit

I made the mistake of going on Twitter before bed and first thing in the morning. The lack of understanding and empathy is so demoralising and draining. I work remotely and my team is based across different cities, and they’ve asked what’s wrong with me today and I’ve just lied. Partly because I don’t even know how to navigate that conversation at work or want to, but also I feel similarly to the person who posted yesterday where, I’m not a family member of one of the victims, I don’t know anyone personally and I can’t imagine what they’re going through. So it feels off expressing these feelings. But then I also think to myself, should we not be able grieve for one another? I also can’t stop thinking about how there’s two different threats. The threat of the people who would commit atrocities like these. And the threat of the people who support them because they think their interpretation of a right is more important than our collective wellbeing. Anyway, I guess I should join this zoom call now

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Dismania@reddit

I only recently downloaded Twitter to keep track of some artists. I’m in the age range for Twitter- it just never appealed to me. But after seeing the comments surrounding the shooting- I don’t know how everyone does it. How do you maintain mental health when you’re reading all the absolute horrific things people are commenting? How do you maintain any glimmer of hope when it’s just literally doom scrolling down the whole page? And somehow, blocking it out seems worse. Like it’s the cowards way out.

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UpvoteMePlebor@reddit

> How do you maintain mental health when you’re reading all the absolute horrific things people are commenting? you don't it's not the "coward's way out" to choose not to read comments written by chronically online degenerates with no realistic perspective on anything competing to say the worst stuff possible my twitter timeline consists of art, cats, and boobs, and even then it's only nice when taken in moderation. if I feel prepared to intake news, then I go and find it - and I certainly don't go on twitter for it. allowing news events (which you have no control over) to appear randomly in your life (that may or may not derail your entire day) is just insanity - but is unfortunately what most people seem to do

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Yttrical@reddit

It kinda speaks to how hollow those conversations in the office always were.

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YourMomsFootrest@reddit

Lol relax

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7oodoomamajuju420@reddit

https://www.gofundme.com/f/allen-tx-shooting-victims-fund https://www.gofundme.com/f/allen-tx-shootingrip-kyu-cindy-and-james-cho?utm_campaign=p_cp+share-sheet&utm_content=undefined&utm_medium=copy_link_all&utm_source=customer&utm_term=undefined

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WooPigDontSueMe@reddit

It is revolting.

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mrbrianface@reddit

Or… get a new job?

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ThatGuy_S@reddit

Just because this was “close to home”, does it make it worse? People get slaughtered everywhere 24/7.

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Vallejotacoz@reddit

Dude… KIDS. Kids do NOT get slaughtered 24/7

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ThatGuy_S@reddit

You must be new to Earth. Welcome.

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WartyBalls4060@reddit

Wtf… I can see someone having this reaction if they were there or knew someone who was injured/killed, but you want a day off just because you saw it in the news? Really? Do you get like this when you read about yet-another triple homicide in South Dallas or is it only when it’s at the mall that you have a pity party?

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Vallejotacoz@reddit

A triple gang related or drug related homicide isn’t 4 children gunned to death in a mall…

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pilot333@reddit

i think that’s why some employees get 25k raises each year. some people can keep it together better than others and really excel in the workplace under any circumstance. some are weaker and those ones are placed under leaders in any settings even outside of corporate

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WillrayF@reddit

Don't feel too badly - your boy Ted Cruz sends his prayers.

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wolverineismydad@reddit

I have to go back to working with kids tomorrow. I already called in on Sunday. I feel sick about it.

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Routine_Blueberry_79@reddit

I say we all GATHER TOGETHER AS A FAMILY & STOP GOING TO WORK. F*** the government & our BILLS. If we all COME TOGETHER WE ARE MORE POWERFUL THAN THEY WILL EVER BE!

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Next-Moose-9129@reddit

This kind of things happen everywhere. All we can do is fell sorry and move on if they are not our family members or friends. It should be part of your life dealing with it if you do not know the people though it sucks what happen to them and I wish their family best of luck going forward.

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Every_Papaya_8876@reddit

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with this. Great point about mental health care. It’s a joke and impossible to get when you gotta work all the time. Hang in there.

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Every_Papaya_8876@reddit

I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with this. Greta point about mental health care. It’s a joke and impossible to get when you gotta work all the time. Hang in there.

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Prize_Pay9279@reddit

I grew up in an abusive home and would have to go to school the next day. So, I just feel numb to tragic news stories. When 9/11 happened, I remember watching people fall from the buildings and not having any big reaction to it.

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lilchiflada@reddit

Lot of assholes in these comments. Unsympathetic to the reality they live in. I get some of their sentiments. At the same time I think your feelings are valid. And to the assholes, they’re not saying they should automatically get a day off after (another) mass shooting. They’re saying it’s bullshit to keep living life like this in this country because some of y’all want to play Rambo on a gun range.

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Specialist-Start-616@reddit

I agree. It’s like everyone is totally desensitized to the point that they don’t give a fuck anymore.

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badgalkiriii@reddit

these people never gave a fuck in the first place

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Ok_Water_347@reddit

There’s just a lot to gun control, I think they need to have strict regulations around owning firearms. On the flip side everybody I know with guns owns several that have zero paper trail so the regulations wouldn’t even matter. The gun connoisseurs aren’t the ones doing the mass shooting, it’s the ones that have guns that shouldn’t even be allowed to or that have no paper trail. I don’t think it’s as clear cut for either side as we pretend. I agree people are less sensitive nowadays though. Some shouldn’t be at work today because some people got shot yesterday yet they probably drive past hundreds of homeless dying on the streets and don’t care. The worlds a sad place, I avoid the news because it’s all just depressing… much rather just work and play video games.

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Ok-Mango-7727@reddit

Thank you. Let OP be upset. It's very close to home.

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jmel79@reddit

It is very close to home, but OP is coming across as someone who just doesn't want to work and wants to capitalize on a tragedy.

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aunt_snorlax@reddit

That is an awful thing to say. Did you actually get that from the post, or are you making some negative assumptions about someone else's motivations?

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jmel79@reddit

I think OPs post about having to go to work is a bit absurd. If they personally knew someone, ok. But likely not. I think OP needs to get a grip. What exaxtly does he expect?

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aunt_snorlax@reddit

There’s a pretty big difference between “what do you expect” and “you’re lying and really just want to get out of working” though.

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cowdrey_matt@reddit

It really hit me hard when I saw the victims included two kids that went the the same school my kids did when they were elementary age. I do not know the family and it has been a few years since my kids were at that school but it made the connection and grief feel a lot stronger.

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Saurumansidepiece@reddit

You should take some Zofran and get over It.

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SnooBeans5591@reddit

Letting severely mentally ill people walk free on the streets and deny them the help they need has been the policy in this country for far to long.

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Throwawaylawyer123@reddit

I have felt the same all day. I’m in a fortunate position to work from home, but have been completely unproductive. I can’t stomach the fact that we are expected to not talk about it, not think about it, and just get our insignificant work tasks done when something so vile and tragic has hit so close to home. I can’t blame my leadership for it, but it’s just made doing anything today so difficult.

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Striking_Reindeer_2k@reddit

Try to stay grounded at home. Talk to neighbors. Be a neighbor. Greet someone at the local market. Remember that bad things do happen, but not all of them in your neighborhood. It is challenging to keep perspective when media reaches around the globe for the worst.

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yleencm@reddit

It’s unfortunate but I’ve come to accept that the US’ sole purpose is to make money. Our whole society is designed around profit. All I hear about when people move here is “economic opportunity”. Which for many people is great. I’ve had a hard time accepting this fact as I was holding our hope that we would be able to implement change and social reform. However, the last few years has really been disheartening and I’ve seriously considered becoming a citizen of another country. I’m not able to afford such a move at this time but I would like to become familiar with the process.

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Acceptable_Stay_3395@reddit

Making money is not the issue The issue is inequities. Yeah, sounds like I’m a socialist but the biggest issue in the US today is people feel down and out and don’t have a way out but to kill others and go out in a blaze of glory. It’s sad but unless America stops voting in Republicans and buying the crap about how the rich should pay no taxes, America will continue down this path. Yeah, you can stop people from buying AK 47s but people can still kill with cars (like the guy in the border town).

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Dyslexic_Hippie@reddit

Just heard about that border town crash, and yeah, I think I'd rather be shot than go out like that. But it's really not a Republican vs Democrat issue as almost all of them are corrupt. The more I've tried to look into ways of solving the problems we face as a country, the more I've realized how corrupt every corner of every institution really is. Practically every three letter government agency has had a history of abusing their power, and our healthcare system is controlled by insurance and pharmaceutical companies, the latter of which is basically a revolving door of executives between them and the FDA. Then there's all the many ignored issues like school funding and infrastructure, all while bills are being signed into law that have hundreds, if not thousands of pages of absolutely stupid, useless expenditures. The system is indeed about making money, but only for those at the top.

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Acceptable_Stay_3395@reddit

Agreed. R and Ds like to frame this issue as capitalism vs socialism but in reality, again, the issue is with concentration of power. The more inequities there are, and inequities can arise from both the right and the left, the more unstable society is. I mean, North Korea is a communist country but at the end of the day power and wealth are concentrated in a few people. The US, whether you concentrate power in government or in corps and the billionaire class is the same thing. Yes, you can concentrate power and money in the hands of the few billionaires and call yourself a capitalistic society but when these billionaires can buy lawmakers, there is no difference. In theory, the framers wanted a system where there was not this concentration of power but they forgot that power comes from money and money can buy power.

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Dyslexic_Hippie@reddit

I've come to realize over time that the political spectrum is actually a circle. You go far enough left or right, you end up in brutal totalitarianism and execution of the opposition. History, including recent events, shows the power that the media has in swaying the public with propaganda. They can make anyone enemies with anyone.

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teamworldunity@reddit

Check out r/AmerExit and r/expats. Also, its not just the US. Some countries are far more greedy. Be careful of the-grass-is-greener syndrome.

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RaisingCanes4POTUS@reddit

Exactly. I’m a Korean American, and korean culture is even worse. I mean it. We only see the good side on TV, but my friends in their 30’s grew up so poorly due to extreme competitiveness. Now, they work 6 days a week if they are lucky.

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assholier_than_thou@reddit

"America is not a country, it's a business." - Brad Pitt in some movie.

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martin_castillo@reddit

Great quote & very true. The film is "Killing them Softly" (2012). Also starring the late, great *James Gandolfini*: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNoSRlOJXm0

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assholier_than_thou@reddit

Yes, this movie. Thank you.

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krepkiyoreshek2@reddit

>US’ sole purpose is to make money DING DING DING DING DING There is no life here outside of consumption and enriching the 1%.

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SPARTAN-Jai-006@reddit

Yeah every institution in this country is designed either to keep someone in power or make them money

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EzdaGreenMach1ne@reddit

This is something descendants of slaves realized from the inception of this country.. glad everyone is waking up

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i-am-from-la@reddit

Look into canada express entry. If you are willing to learn french or are willing to a 1 year diploma from a canadian university the process is pretty straightforward

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NoKarmaHalp@reddit

I don’t remember this kind of outrage when the little Christian children got shot up.

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Graviton_Lancelot@reddit

They took a day off work to celebrate.

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darioblaze@reddit

Everyone is saying stop looking at the news like the problem won’t be there when they turn it back on. The most American answer I’ve seen.

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dcbullet@reddit

Life goes on.

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Mysterious_Stick_163@reddit

Turn off the news or whatever you watch/listen to. Yes, horrible feel bad but you did not know these people. It’s a distraction from the 5K coming across the border every day as we speak. That is why it’s getting played up.

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Mjf2341@reddit

Bro stfu lol

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Muttly2001@reddit

It sucks. Nowhere is safe. Imagine working in the public schools where these mass shootings seem to happen most often. School shooting in Uvalde happened, still had to get up and go to work and hope my school was not next.

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KentuckyFuckedChickn@reddit

we need a general strike or at least to organize enough people nationwide to do it. even better if people who work for the arms manufacturers could be organized to strike enough to stop production until something, anything is done

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rye_212@reddit

The other line to draw from the weekend is that, like me, Aishwarya Thatikonda, 28, probably had emails to respond to this morning also, or meetings to attend. Now she is the news, being "repatriated" to her home country.

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chloe1919@reddit

Honestly I’m appalled people not only posted video/pics of the deceased but also people *willing* chose to watch those videos and look at those pics. I really feel for those who were directly impacted by being there, having loved ones there, and worst yet, having loved ones injured or killed. ESP the 5 year old child. I’m happy that my job is bringing in counselors for Employees today.

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lawyermorty317@reddit

Do you feel bad about people documenting and viewing pictures of the Holocaust? Some people look for these images so they can “bear witness.” Some look at them to remind themselves of the value and fragility of life. Some people look so they will remember the victims. There are many reasons to view the images. It’s hardly anything to be appalled about. Frankly, we would have more action on this issue if more people viewed the damage. I’m more appalled that the people who work against gun regulations never see images showing the results of their actions.

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chloe1919@reddit

Do you honestly think this is the same. Ooof

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lawyermorty317@reddit

Do you honestly not understand the difference between comparing and equating? Oof. I’m not saying they are the same. I’m saying the same logic can be applied to both situations. People view photos of the Holocaust to honor the victims, bear witness to their suffering, and to recognize the fragility of life. People view photos from terrorist attacks/mass shootings for the same reasons. Try using critical thinking instead of condescension next time. Especially when you don’t understand simple concepts.

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Greenie1985@reddit

You seriously wanted your job to give everyone a day off? If you're that traumatized, just use some PTO and call in sick. What happened was terrible, but I'm sick of seeing posts from people who have no involvement in the situation of any kind, try to make it about them.

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cherryjuice0@reddit

Don’t borrow trouble. What do you need to personally grieve? A loved one? Consider yourself lucky that the worst part of this for you was seeing pictures.

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gamerinagown@reddit (OP)

SO personally knew somebody who was killed.

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cherryjuice0@reddit

Seems like info you should have included firsthand if true

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WonderWolf16@reddit

It happens so often that I don't even feel anything anymore. It's just like whatever, I guess.

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DastardlyDirtyDog@reddit

I'm sure if you knew anyone affected your boss would give you a day. People were at work 9/12/01.

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tressa27884@reddit

You saw and read things because you went looking for them here or on Twitter. The network stations didn’t show the reality of the bloodbaths. I’m sorry you feel traumatized and sick. I agree with the poster above that said to step away for a bit. I had to do that with Parkland. The company you work for isn’t to blame for what happened, they need their staff present to make money to pay your salary. If you have sick time available, use it. Be thankful you have a job and insurance (even if it isn’t great).

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keep_it_sassy@reddit

I, too, saw the image and I was not looking for it. In fact, I opened Twitter to search for Pete Delkus’ humorous storm play-by-plays in an effort to have some comedic relief. Unfortunately, it was the very first image on my timeline. Unrelated: you can be thankful for a job and wish the benefits were better. Two things can be true and co-exist at the same time.

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RegalRegalis@reddit

Not OP, but I saw the bodies and never looked for them. You only know your own experience and no one else’s. Experience of and response to tragedy is far from one size fits all. OP doesn’t think their company is to blame. Their nervous system doesn’t have the capacity to properly focus on their employer’s concerns today. They can’t help that any more than the victims can help being dead.

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Addie0o@reddit

This is a symptom that leftists or people with basic empathy have been feeling for years now. Columbine literally happened before I was born...... My entire life has been filled with these shootings and the risk just keeps getting higher and higher as time goes on.

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chuckbassisbritish@reddit

I work down the street. Saw the media tents and cops driving by. I feel sick and I have to pretend all is well.

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Full_Association_254@reddit

Burn PTO yo

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ms_juju_b@reddit

Literally couldn't say it better.. my stomach and heart just hurt for what happened and people are pretending it’s another day.. the way people are so immune to this crap is so disheartening

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kendo31@reddit

Love your post & feel your dilemma. Perhaps we the working class should hold the capitalist world accountable by effecting it where it feels, no heart but hit the bottom line. W2 ppl should call out of work for distress upon recent catastrophe. Lump in everything, work life balance, mental health, stress. If we use these extreme acts of violence as a day for PTO, perhaps such a reaction (protest of sorts) will signal the need for better quality of life within the machine we slave for. In the end we only work to pay bills

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DM-ME-DUCKLING-PICS@reddit

its still mental health and stuff that causes these shootings, just because theres no resources doesnt mean that mental health isnt the reason its just showing us that the people in power dont care enough about us and are just going the easy way blaming guns cuzx it doesnt cost them money to ban guns it sure does cost them money to provide mental health services though. poor guys, have to actually care about the people who elected them.

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pbugg2@reddit

I am right there with you. We all need therapy.

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Ricksauc3@reddit

Life isn’t fair and everyone handles things differently but, if you or your immediate family and friends weren’t affected then I’m not really sure what there is to grieve. I grew up in Allen which makes it hit home a bit more, but there isn’t anything I can do about it. Atrocities happen every day in all parts of the world that I would venture to say you don’t grieve. It’s an unfortunate reality of life.

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Impossible-Pie-9848@reddit

You’re not sure what there is to grieve about children getting their brains blown out outside a mall by a crazed man with a gun? And that this happens every day in this country, and an entire political party that could do something about it refuses to because #freedom? Just because it’s not feasible to grieve all of the world’s suffering doesn’t mean it’s not worth grieving some.

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london9387@reddit

I feel your pain. I took a mental health day. My aunt was there. Thank god she is safe. Allen outlet is my go to spot. I shop that side specifically because of the cosmetic store. I just can’t believe this anymore :(

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ragavdbrown@reddit

Same feeling here. I guess I’m not alone. As an immigrant I was already anxious on various levels, now these kinda happenings are eating my brains out. It’s because of some nice people like in here, I am even functioning. Being a really friendly person, months ago, I asked in a post about how to talk to and establish a good friendly relationship with local people here like neighbors, grocery man, etc. Today I’m terrified to even talk to others and deleted my post overall. Sorry good people but I’ll mind just my business ahead. Thanks. Just an upset rant.

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Welschmerzer@reddit

It sickens me that Hispanic applicants are given a boost in hiring/college admissions over Asian Americans, all the while we have Hispanic white supremacists carrying out genocidal attacks on Asian Americans.

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nh43de@reddit

Short term health advice. Take a breather. Go for a walk. Try to be happy and love those around you. Don’t marginalize anyone or make assumptions. Make the world a better place. Smile and include others. Shootings are the new national pass time and we will need to tackle this together.

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NotoASlANHate@reddit

US is a business, not a nation.

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gtsturgeon@reddit

Tried to call the governor’s office to voice my opinions, was disconnected after a message that says to leave a message.

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Cane_Skretteburg@reddit

Baby diego's death really hit me too lol

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tx4468@reddit

The press conference that night was so cold.

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BasedATF@reddit

Sounds like you need to just call in.

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iamarubberglove@reddit

I’m sickened by the exploitative articles. Having to scroll to near the end to find any information about the victims besides a quantity. Idk if I’m just over analyzing but all the news attention being on the sick fuck feels disgusting. Does anyone else feel this way? I just feel like they’re giving him what he wanted.

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Aintaword@reddit

At first I was like, QQ moar. But now I'm like, hey yeah, let's get a paid day off every time someone gets murdered. Vacation for life!

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pifumd@reddit

What the fuck is wrong with you.

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zimjig@reddit

Take a social media cleanse and reset… too much negative energy right now. Or just strictly watch funny animal videos

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2ndDefender@reddit

Why not pitch a bitch for all the other deaths?

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limestone_tiger@reddit

I mean..I get it. But did you feel this way after the shooting in Nashville? The shootings in California? The shooting in Kansas City? Or do you feel this way because it's suddenly bought the violence to somewhere you know. I don't mean to be heartless, but processing this and carrying on is part and parcel of who we as a country have become. Our leaders at a state level have made it that this sort of shit is going to become more and more common. It is the guns, but sadly - unless there is some fundamental change -there is nothing more we can do about it.

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Psychological-Cod231@reddit

The shooting was on Saturday.

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Bluebloods56@reddit

Lol

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Visual-Rate6101@reddit

If you’re not feeling it call out of work!!! Take a sick day!!! Your company clearly doesn’t care about you so take care of yourself first!

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lawyermorty317@reddit

Bold to assume someone has enough sick days to take one for this lol.

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Visual-Rate6101@reddit

Yeah even if someone doesn’t have sick days FMLA could be an option. OP has the energy to write out this post I’m sure they can figure out if it’s really that bad!

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texag2014-1@reddit

What’s sad is that we are actually on track for the yearly average of mass shootings by this time of year… This isn’t anything new.

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greg_jenningz@reddit

You need to go talk to a therapist.

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lackingInt@reddit

For me it helps to see it as fate. If it's my time to go then it's time. I'm not saying that's how it is so let's not make an effort to change things. But for me, I can be calm thinking that way.

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SamLBronkowitz2020@reddit

It’s where we’re at right now. My son’s school is three miles away front the shooting, and I stopped by this morning to lay my respects. During my morning meeting, my co-worker who lives on the east coast didn’t even hear about the shooting. People will pay attention and then the attention will shift to next week’s mass shooting.

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brackattack27@reddit

Stop whining. You don’t have to go to work. Take the day off or something. Man, sometimes you guys…

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PecDeck@reddit

I'm confused about what OP wants. Every business in a 50 mile radius closes its doors because something bad happened? If you're so frail mentally that you "just can't" today, then stay home, but don't say that it's revolting when people want to move on with their lives.

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jmel79@reddit

I think OP is the type of person who is always looking for an excuse to take time off and wants to jump on this one and look pious in the process.

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BeaversGonewild@reddit

Subs turned into a an echo chamber. Mods clearly made their stance well known during the elections. It's a shame.

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twittereddit9@reddit

Do you know how reddit works? Lol

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Trooper057@reddit

Don't forget a lot of the executives in a lot of companies that a lot of you work for use the money you make them to support gun culture politicians. We're ALL contributing the carnage! Yay work!

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interstatebus@reddit

I feel this today. It’s really hard. It’s hard after all of these and I waver between ambivalence and terror. I do think being out of my house helps, so I’m not just sitting and reading the news and Reddit. I can focus on something else. I saw you commented that you voted this election, OP. Good, that is how we change stuff. We make people understand how bad the current system is and how need a better one.

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LILVADR@reddit

If the news tells you there have been 199 mass shootings this year, stop listening to them. Today is the 128th day of the year, that would be 1½ mass shootings a day. Please get your headspace correct before allowing trash to fill it.

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chmod-77@reddit

"I would do anything for my child's safety" \- manchild who keeps the AR15 with which he makes fantasies about shooting bad guys; doesn't give a shit about stats or doing anything that is effective

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GoStars817@reddit

Yes. It’s called being an adult. Put your big boy/girl pants on and grow up. Life goes on.

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1Fire1Nil1Nil@reddit

I lived in the south side of Chicago before I moved here. I would have had so many days off.

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i-am-from-la@reddit

Yall are clearly sociopathic

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Substantial-Hat7272@reddit

Look into online / e-health therapy I bet it’s a lot cheaper. Thoughts and prayers with the families and victims but the suck is the world keeps turning however I believe companies should offer some form of training on what do do in a similar situation (yea I know there really ain’t anything that can be done besides finding cover) and maybe have a few group therapy sessions for a few weeks. (Texas business owners would never, due to greed). It’s unfortunate because just weeks ago my co workers and I have had several conversations about what we would do if there was a situation at our restaurant, it felt like a genuine conversation and not a what if kind of thing.

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pepsiblast08@reddit

I get it. I'd love to be able to process all this shit. However, our bills don't stop piling on to be paid so there's really no time to absorb and reflect on anything these days. I guess you could take PTO. Even then, though, there's a million things to be done outside of work.

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Swallows_Return202x@reddit

Appreciate the post. I've been feeling this way since the pandemic - it's as if we are constant attack (disinformation, death suffering, disasters) and can't even process what is happening. Workplace culture is a little sick; many just retreat into their personal shell and focus on what is 1 foot in front of them.

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Specialist-Start-616@reddit

Some of these comments lack empathy. We are getting way too desensitized to this and it shows. Of course people die everyday, I get that, but to die without warning when you’re out shopping because some guy decided to go on a shooting spree because of extreme beliefs? No one wants to talk about it. Do you know how frustrating it is to see this lack of empathy? To see the lack of action? To see the lack of care for something that is absolutely horrendous right here in our very own country? This will only continue to happen and we will continue to go to work.

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twittereddit9@reddit

Imagine how this looks to foreigners who live in developed countries. There just isn’t this learned tolerance of violence and social decay.

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faeoblivion@reddit

i wish you peace and healing ♡ i relate to how you're feeling a lot, life is very unfair

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SleptWithYourGirl@reddit

Someone can’t handle the world. U might want to up the therapy. In a situation like this where your not a directly affiliated party, you should not have such crippling emotions. You need help. This is a tragedy none the less but this is planet earth. Shit happens and we have to move on

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RambleOn79@reddit

Someone is an asshole …

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SleptWithYourGirl@reddit

Someone needs to be an asshole this person can’t live their entire life feeling sensitive about everything that happens around them. Yes it sucks that this happened. It’s a horrible tragedy, and it could be prevented by proper mental health reform. But the simple fact is if this person is as I assume which has no connection to this tragedy other than being near it, they should not feel this level of crippling feelings. Now I don’t know this person situation if they have a family member or close person involved then yes, they’re totally right to feel this way but from the way it was worded in the post it sounds like they’re a third-party that just lives near this incident

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Twain_didnt_say_that@reddit

>Someone needs to be an asshole They *really* don't. Human empathy is not a weakness, the world does not need any more weird sociopaths that think empathy is just something that gets in the way of "success", jerking each other off and validating their antisocial behavior.

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SleptWithYourGirl@reddit

None of what I said implies this. Empathy is a virtue but it gets WAY overused. OP is obviously extremely sensitive and very much so a empath. As stated by Op they are having emotional issues after this tragedy in which (assuming since unstated) they are a unaffected person. OP needs serious help if tragic events near their location which doesn’t directly affect them gets in the way of their emotional stability

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Twain_didnt_say_that@reddit

I'm more disturbed by the notion that if a handful of randomly selected innocent people are executed out of nowhere 10 minutes down the road, that there's no rational reason to have anxiety or despair around that unless your loved ones were involved. That's a horrifying concept that sounds like a traumatized kid that's just *numb* to horrors. It's not normal, it's not okay, it's reasonable to be both nervous and sad when you have just as much of a chance of being gunned down as the people who dared to go to the mall on the weekend.

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SleptWithYourGirl@reddit

The chance of you being gunned down in public is so minimal you have a better chance of winning the Powerball jackpot. This is something to be mindful of not something to cause crippling anxiety and sickness throughout your day Again, this is a case of severe oversensitivity

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i-am-from-la@reddit

This comment bothered me so much its a flat out lie. Odds of dying in a mass shooting: 1 in 10,000 and increasing every year Odds of winning powerball: 1 in 292 million

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Twain_didnt_say_that@reddit

>The chance of you being gunned down in public is so minimal you have a better chance of winning the Powerball jackpot. You're talking about someone minutes from the event, and that's what you're going with? Just a baffling amount of ignorance, insensitivity and cope. I don't have anything else to say here, honestly. Straight up, I don't think you're in any kind of position to be giving recommendations to others about their mental health, and I'm very, *very* grateful that I haven't shoved down my capacity for human empathy into a tight little ball hidden deep in my stomach. Yes, OP should talk to a professional, but that professional definitely isn't going to be parroting anything resembling what you've said.

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SleptWithYourGirl@reddit

I live less than six minutes from the event. I’m not over here crying rocking in a corner in my room. Yeah, it’s a tragedy. Yeah I recognize that. And yes, I’m gonna be more mindful of my surroundings in the future but I’m not overwhelmed with crippling emotions to the point where I’m unable to go about my day-to-day activities. This is yet another example of oversensitivity . You might not like how it said, but you know it’s the truth deep down no matter how much you hate the way I say it.

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RambleOn79@reddit

There are ways of helping people without being an asshole … your method is not only unkind, but ineffective.

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SleptWithYourGirl@reddit

It’s not meant to be kind, op stated their in therapy. I suggested the increase the amount of therapy their in. That’s the only logical method to helping this persons emotional instability. This world is not a kind place, especially as depicted by recent events. Sometimes people in life need someone to be straightforward and not sugarcoat things. This is a large problem with our world nowadays everything has to be so sensitive and comfortable for people that anytime the smallest thing happens people just absolutely lose their marbles

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Distinct-Hold-5836@reddit

Imagine being in/from Uvalde Nothing will change. You can be as sick as you want from this, but we're in Texas. Politicians won't change anything when they're accepting money freely from the NRA

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nkap91@reddit

Honestly, at this point, I was shocked for some time, and then the thought, oh well, another one. Like you said, so little time in between them and our other priorities, we become desensitized to it quickly

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AngelinFlipFlops@reddit

I feel ya, my co-worker asked me if I “survived the weekend.” He was referencing the storms we got but like, terminology matters 🥴

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Pickle_Slinger@reddit

It does feel weird continuing to work. I’ve felt the same way about many of the recent events. It makes me sick to go in and try to have a normal day while others have had their lives destroyed for simply going to a mall. This is not the American Dream that my family moved here for. But aside from my feelings, those shareholders need more money. They can’t live off the millions a year they are making. They need more profit, so they need cogs in their machine to keep it running. We’re the lifeless robots forced to grind away to build their dreams while losing ours in the process.

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adorablescribbler@reddit

My mental health was already not great before Saturday, so this incident and the wall-to-wall coverage just sent me careening into the abyss yesterday. I’ve been looking at pics of a particular cat breed I like and will get later this year. It has helped tremendously.

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Learnmegooder@reddit

I feel you, man. And add to that the school threats that have been going around, so I’m getting a stomach ulcer worrying about my kid as well!

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Heinousdude@reddit

Agreed. It’s very difficult. I work in management at a big box retail store about 30 minutes from the Allen Outlets and it’s a challenge to ease the nerves of my team after what happened. A lot of my team and others are scared of the what if question; What if it happens in our store? But like others said, we have to do it. We have to pick ourselves up again and continue to endure

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HowTonto@reddit

Quit consuming the news all the time. Life is much better without it.

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KiloIndia5@reddit

"mental health resources are DAMN near non-existent here…)" It's not just here. Our society is destroying our mental health. No one cares. Media supports mental illness and tried to make it acceptable.

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PorQueTexas@reddit

Call in sick...

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samz22@reddit

I get it but you need to realize this is no where close to what happens everyday all over the world. There’s kids out there surviving off sugar and water cause they don’t have food for the mothers to produce milk for their babies. There’s lithium mines in Africa where “machine mining” is not allowed so they have salves of thousands with pickaxes mining for earn $1-$5 a day. I can go on forever, point is pain is everywhere.

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bokojo@reddit

I broke free. I decided playing guitar and being poor was worth more than living in that web of bullshit and telling myself it was supposed to feel okay. I get sun when I need sun. I nap when I need to nap. I grieve when I need to grieve. Am I sweating replacing the windshield on my 20 year old Toyota? Yes. Pros and cons. I bought a lot of very expensive time for myself. I cook a lot of delicious food at home. My dog loves the shit out of me. We dont need therapy.

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RambleOn79@reddit

How do you support yourself?

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bokojo@reddit

Playing guitar. It brings me enough.

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RambleOn79@reddit

You must be very good! :)

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bokojo@reddit

The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago; the second best time is right now.

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istockustock@reddit

As a parent of school going kids, I’m super worried every day on what the heck is going on in this country. There are some stupid idiots posting on social media about threats to specific schools in Frisco and McKinney isds. emails from school districts telling us that if we feel unsafe or worried don’t have to send kids to school today. This is so freaking crazy ! So many Americans feel we should have sensible gun laws, yet- all we are seeing is lowering/ removing restrictions.. how do we get around this ?

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fivemagicks@reddit

Step away from the news, man. You're seeking to absorb this information. The country, states, counties, nor cities completely shut down because of a mass shooting. If that bothers you, then it just does. It's not right or wrong, but it's the way it is.

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bigdeallikewhoaNOT@reddit

Horrendous, unpreventable things happen every single day in our country and around the globe. If you we all stop living life every time something horrible happens then we may as well just die because we will be in constant mourning. The fact is - life isn't promised - today could be any our last days. In the next 60 minutes someone will die of heart attack, brain aneurysm, cancer, drowning, car accident, stroke and yes violence. In Brownsville on Saturday a man purposefully drove his SUV into a bus stop and killed 7 people. No one is talking about that because we didn't spend the weekend immersed in the news because it didn't happen on our doorstep. It's just as heinous and awful. Live your life. Be kind. Love Hard. Take care of the people you can. Be the best you that you can be. Go out and be the change that you want to see. That's really all any of us can do.

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absurd_logic589@reddit

Just quit reading about it and immersing yourself in it. Avoid as much news about it and quit discussing it. You will feel a lot better. This is coming from someone who got to experience and witness a very similar event first hand. Switch to only reading positive things and watching cat videos and put your head in the sand. It sounds really bad, but sometimes it's the best thing you can do for your mental health.

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ClassicPop6840@reddit

Honey, I’m a few miles away from there and the big difference between us is, I don’t watch or read the news anymore. Sure, important stuff leaks in, I acknowledge it, and then I move on. I have kids and I drove them off to school just like any other Monday. Unless you were there, under attack, you should not be absorbing tragedy like this. But if you must, use a sick day and take today to shut off communication from the outside world. Meditate. Go to a church/place of worship. And then the next day, you wake up, put your Big Girl Panties on, and you do as the British did during WWII when they saw absolute bloodshed all around, bodies and limbs torn apart by German bombs: You Keep Calm and Carry On. It’s that simple. And no, companies shouldn’t automatically “give you a day off”… what makes you feel entitled to be given something like that? Then, you need to be extra vigilant about who you elect at the local city and county elections, just as much as you would state and national. Vote for those that fight for as much forceful protection as possible. Vote like your life depends on it.

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Greatspirrit0@reddit

I feel you, I grew up in that part of Collin County and I have a lot of memories up there. Reading the news over the weekend got me really sad too and I’ve had a hard time concentrating this morning on my job as well. I think it’s this depressing feeling of helplessness about the whole situation, feeling like it’s going to happen again and again and even in one of the safest cities in the US. Feel sad it’s okay to feel sad and feel angry that’s okay too.

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