Why did WhatsApp show the wrong location?

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true_bluep3n1s@reddit

Does that not fall under controlling and coersive behaviour?

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Crichtenasaurus@reddit

Yes it likely would however it would likely require other factors to be a complete offence. Controlling and coercive is around the course of conduct and having your partners location on track isn’t sufficient for the offence. Making it an issue because they have not told you exactly where you are and made it a punitive situation the offence comes into play.

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Due-Juggernaut-2972@reddit

Break up with him

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HunchbaqOfNotredame@reddit (OP)

I am trying to :(

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creedbrattonage30@reddit

I’ve been where you are. Breaking up with the him was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I don’t know where I found the strength to do it, but I did, and so can you. Your whole life is waiting for you and it will be bigger and better than you can imagine and you will never, ever regret it. I promise. Good luck ❤️

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Sahm_1982@reddit

What is stopping you

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chloethespork@reddit

being abused probably? it’s not that simple to leave an abuser

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Fun_Efficiency3097@reddit

I mean it totally is if your lives aren't intertwined. They don't live together. Literally just break up.

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chloethespork@reddit

i hope you never experience abuse so you see how difficult it is. there’s more to it than just living together. they completely brainwash you.

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Brief_Reserve1789@reddit

There is no try. Tell him to fuck off block his number and if he comes to your house get your dad or brother involved. I assure you he'll get the idea

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CustardCheesecake75@reddit

Oh wow. You do realise it's not that simple? You don't know OP's situation and the level of violence involved.

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yajtraus@reddit

No no, the dad and brother will come to the rescue! /s

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dinkidoo7693@reddit

Not everyone has a dad or a brother.

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Hot-Conversation-174@reddit

........... It was an /s

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dinkidoo7693@reddit

I didn't mean to reply to your comment sorry

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Hot-Conversation-174@reddit

No need for apologies. Also wasn't my comment lol. But no hard feelings 😃

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Opening_Complaint_40@reddit

It's really not that easy, my ex strangled me, slapped me and threatened porn revenge, and it still took HIS own friends to force me to break up with him (they took my phone to block him and threatened him if he ever came near me/contacted me, and got my stuff from him for me)

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chloethespork@reddit

they sound like good people. i’m happy you had them looking out for you and i hope you’re healing and in a better place now ❤️

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Opening_Complaint_40@reddit

Still healing, but yes I am lucky, it was (again, one of his) friends that told me he was trying to cheat 😭 So embarrassing I stayed for so long. Thank you 🩷

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chloethespork@reddit

I know exactly how you feel in terms of embarrassment. I struggled to reach out for so long because i was so embarrassed of what someone else was doing to me but it definitely gets better with time. HE should be the one that’s embarrassed

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Hot-Conversation-174@reddit

Spoken like a true resditor who has never had to face anything more dangerous than a negative karma score.....

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SleepFlower80@reddit

You know, it’s not that simple to leave an abusive relationship. The most dangerous time for a victim is when they’re trying to leave. The abuser will often escalate because they know they’re losing control. The fact there’s a whole subreddit dedicated to this tells you how common this is. Having left an abusive relationship myself, I know that it took me over a year to get out. It’s not as easy as you say, it’s delicate and complicated. A bit of empathy wouldn’t go amiss.

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GREENK87@reddit

Try harder, he sounds like an absolute controlling prick.

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SleepFlower80@reddit

If you haven’t already, please contact a domestic abuse charity. You can call Refuge 08082000247 or contact them via their website [Refuge](https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/how-we-can-help-you/national-domestic-abuse-helpline/). They specifically have advice on tech abuse, which sounds like what he’s doing. They can offer support and help all hours of the day. Best of luck with getting out. I know it’s not easy but please reach out to them. Take care of yourself x

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Honest_Scot@reddit

I’ve been there before, I know it’s hard but you can do this, once you leave you’ll feel a weight has been lifted from your shoulders, please get a plan in place and leave.

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WestTangelo3432@reddit

This

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LinkedInInquisitor@reddit

Ask him why you would share your location with him if you were not at your house. Then break up with him.

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legatusbuncleitus@reddit

I'm a professional dog walker and all my walks and drives are tracked for admin & safety, they're not totally accurate 100% of the time. Please take care of yourself and if you ever need to chat/a getaway driver DM me and I'll give you my number. <3

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thebeesareescaping@reddit

"I just want to say I'm telling the truth" The fact you felt the need to say this and defend yourself to people on the Internet may indicate you feel the need to defend yourself/get accused of lying a lot. I could be wrong but I don't think I am. I have a feeling his abuse towards you is running deeper than it comes across to others and that there's probably a lot more going on throughout the relationship that isn't known to others. If that's the case you *need* to get out of this. It won't end, only get worse. Not trying to be an "armchair psychiatrist" or whatever just seeing the signs as someone who has been in a very similar situation before. So many alarm bells are ringing! Please have a really good think on your relationship with him. Stay safe please

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Pizza-Horse-@reddit

My WhatsApp location has sent people to the wrong place before. It happens. If you need to justify yourself to him then Google it and show him. It's common. I'm not saying you should justify yourself, but I know how situations like this are. Now getting down to it. Are you OK? Are you safe? Do you need someone to talk to? What is keeping you with him and is it possible for you to be able to get away from him? Acknowledging that he is a problem is the first step. Do not rationalise or normalise this behaviour. You should never ever have to justify your actions or your location to anyone. Let alone someone who claims to love you, or want a relationship with you. The world is a big place, containing many people. This man is not your person. You deserve better and there is so so much more out there for you. I PROMISE. Please do not settle for this.

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stuaxe@reddit

If you wanted to know the technical details: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wi-Fi_positioning_system In summary, your phone often skips using GPS to find your location (because GPS can be slow and takes a lot of power) and instead uses a clever quirk of Wi-Fi signals to make a 'rough' estimate. Unfortunately that rough estimate can be wildly wrong as it relies on random strangers keeping their wi-fi routers in the same location... Companies have literal maps showing the location of people's wi-fi routers (like a more detailed version of this https://location.services.mozilla.com/map#3.68/33.23/-86.45)... your phone will often use something similar to estimate your location... but like others have said this can be wildly wrong. You can find hundred of complaints just like this online: https://support.google.com/maps/thread/86876774/wrong-location-is-reported-which-i-suspect-is-due-to-wrong-wifi-data?hl=en

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meeeeee1971@reddit

Have you anyone you can confide in? Xxx

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Hot-Conversation-174@reddit

I really don't think it can? Maybe it was his other girlfriend and he's so paranoid about trying to hide, he's stumbled on his controlling bullshit... usually the most controlling have the most to hide. Its a very tricky situation to be in, if you call the cops they will show up and he will know, then they'll do fuck all ever again and pretend they have done all they can, leaving you exposed to him, because they can't just lock him up for being a bit mental. If you ghost him he won't just give up.. im really sorry you're in this mess. I know exactly how it feels when youre not able to get away from the one thing ruining your life. Ring the help line someone else provided and don't ignore anything they say. Remember, he has been trying to force you into thinking it isn't as bad as it is, but its absolutely mental to be demanding your location in the first place. If he was concerned for your safety then he would be escorting you home and there is no need for that level of control. Please do everything the helpline tells you because they csn see what you cant at the minute

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Apprehensive-Swing-3@reddit

This can only escalate. You need to find a way out. Contact womens aid charities and or police but this is abusive behaviour and it's not gonna get better. Only gets worse from here on.

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ClaphamOmnibusDriver@reddit

Because location data is also from WiFi routers and mobile data connections which can be remarkably inaccurate. Happens to my wife when shares her location all the time.

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Old_Distance8430@reddit

That's what she tells you lol

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HunchbaqOfNotredame@reddit (OP)

Thank you.

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ACatGod@reddit

He's not going to listen or believe you. The issue isn't he doesn't understand, the issue is he actively seeks out reasons to justify abusing you. He's not interested in the truth, and just as nothing you do causes the abuse, nothing you do can stop the abuse. He abuses you because he is an abuser who chooses to abuse you. He just pounced on this as a reason to have a go, and any reason from you will be willfully interpreted as lies and excuses from you. Instead of using your energies to unpick his reasoning, use it to plan your escape. Refuge is a great resource for escaping domestic abuse. Stay safe and don't let this man convince you that if you just do and say the right things he won't abuse you.

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ShineAtom@reddit

My location data frequently tells me I'm 40 or 50 miles from where I actually am. And google maps were even more inaccurate. Never trust it!

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Deeldough1234@reddit

Break up with him. He sounds like a cunt

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TheIncontrovert@reddit

How big does a red flag have to be before people act on it. Its ridiculous.

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CSIWHY@reddit

What a sheltered life you lead.

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chloethespork@reddit

I saw red flags for years before I was able to leave my abuser. It’s not a simple as just upping and leaving for the majority of victims

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babyformulaandham@reddit

Have some empathy, she's clearly scared. It's not as easy as seeing the red flags and leaving.

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dinkidoo7693@reddit

Wait, he is ok with you walking home alone but then kicks off if your location is off. My WhatsApp location currently has me 2 streets away from my house, sometimes it has me in a total different city. Please contact refuge.org or go to the doctor's/citizens advice/library and find details of a local women's support group and contact them and get away from this monster.

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fenrir1sg@reddit

I hope you have a good support network, friends family etc around you. Tell them what he is doing (abusive, controlling behaviour) and then break up with him asap. I share my location with my partner, and her with me. But for emergencies (I cycle a lot, she travels a lot) not to check up on each other. That’s not right. Hope you can get away from this and realise it’s not normal.

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blindingmate@reddit

Whatsapp is not the issue here...

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Terrible-Stick-2179@reddit

Do yourself a favour and break up with him if you can. You are doing yourself such a disservice by allowing yourself to be treated like that. Get police involved if possible. I know as well as anyone that it's not just a simple matter of breaking up with them, when it's someone who's like that. My mum had to go as far as get a restraining order against her ex because he was like this. You deserve better than that friend. It's a scary and tedious process, but compared to the alternative, take my word that it's worth it.

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jpplastering1987@reddit

Get away from him asap, get a restraining order if you think it's needed.

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spaceshipcommander@reddit

Stop sharing your location and dump him. As to why this is, it's not always based on gps. My location says I'm in New York right now because I have a VPN on my phone. When I'm at home it says I'm in Australia because I have a VPN on my router.

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Unhappy-Valuable-596@reddit

ip based geolocation. You position was based on you isp or cell location as either you phone cannot get a 3D GPS location or has no gps ability

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Igetsadbro@reddit

Were you connected to WiFi or carrier? I had a Chinese phone last year and it always said I was in Italy

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got_got_need@reddit

Sounds like you’re in an abusive relationship. Try to seek help. https://www.gov.uk/guidance/domestic-abuse-how-to-get-help

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Goochregent@reddit

You shouldn't care about that, leave him. No one should be helping you or advising you as to how you can appease a nutter.

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CSIWHY@reddit

It doesn't have to be this way. https://www.victimsupport.org.uk/crime-info/types-crime/domestic-abuse/

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medi0cresimracer@reddit

Have you got family to help you break up with him?

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Goblindeez_@reddit

Netflix and Amazon tells me I logged in from Scotland sometimes, it’s just normal WiFi fuck ups

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Evil_Knavel@reddit

Funnily enough when I open Google maps from home it's often shows my current location as the social club that's a mile and a half away.

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mogwaihelper@reddit

Yep. My location is often shown at the pub at the end of the round. It takes a lot convincing to get the wife to accept I'm just upstairs. Always makes me thirsty for another pint.

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dragonb2992@reddit

Netflix will be basing the location on your IP address. The same thing would happen if you were using a wired connection.

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Red_Splinter@reddit

Is it worth spending your life with someone like this? You only get one and living it being controlled and most likely driven to anxiety by someone who you're in a relationship with can't be good for you. A romantic partner should be someone who supports and trusts you and should make your life better, not someone who makes you panic and is asking you to send your location to them like you're a prisoner on day release, and making you panic due to a potential inaccurate location sent by an app. Focus on your mental wellbeing and your best interests and evaluate if this is someone who you really want to be with.

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germainefear@reddit

The problem here is your boyfriend is defective. Why would you knowingly share your location if you weren't where you said you were?

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AdministrativeLaugh2@reddit

Textbook abuse. As others have said, contact domestic abuse charities for advice and guidance.

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tmstms@reddit

Location data can often be off. I switched off the geolocation for my photos after every time I take a photo indoors at home, it told me I took it half way down the street.

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double_helix0815@reddit

Please speak to Woman's Aid if you haven't already. Breaking up with an abusive partner is by far the most dangerous time and you could be at risk of harm when trying to leave him. Please don't think it's 'not serious enough' - the fact that you are so anxious about a simple technical issue suggests you are afraid of his reaction, and probably for good reason. Claire's law would also be a good idea if you choose not too leave him (yet).

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liluniqueme@reddit

I had this with my now ex husband. I ended up with multiple hospital visits thanks to him. Leave him. Please. Contact a domestic abuse charity.

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