Is the UK crap?

Posted by Tenshi1977@reddit | expats | View on Reddit | 510 comments

I know, harsh title, but please hear me out.

I've been living in the UK for nearly ten years. I have a good job, bought a house in London, my partner is English and I just had a baby, who will be half English. I am happily settled here, I've learnt to understand the country and the British ways and to love them. Can't say I have many British friends but people have always been nice and I am gratefully for the opportunities this place has given me.

And yet I find myself fantasising constantly about moving elsewhere, and what life would be like and would I be much happier? This is probably a response to the feeling that this is it, now the cards are all laid out on the table and I will stay here forever. I've lived in different countries and maybe I am just freaking out at the idea of settling down permanently away from home.

But I can't help having this feeling that no one really likes it here. That very much like its weather, this is a cold, miserable place that even the English want to escape from. It seems that everyone I know who's left thinks it's the best decision they've ever taken and not one seems to want to come back. I've lived in America and in Spain, and people do generally seem happier, whereas here there is a constant sense of discontent and looking forward to the next trip away. I know some of it's just the weather and some is also part of British culture, but still, is there more than that? Or is it all in my head? Am I just in a funk?

I need people to remind me why this place is great. What makes it special. Why you have no intention to leave.

Or alternatively convince me that no, it's not all in my head and grass is indeed greener so I can at least feel less anxious and maybe start planning my future.