ULPT How to make them feel ashamed? 🆘
Posted by Opposite-Maximum-261@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 58 comments
My ex-boyfriend and my ex best friend live right downstairs in the same apartment as mine.
Unfortunately I’m not able to move out of the apartment right now, but they still live and hang out together despite cheating on me and sometimes we encounter each other at the elevator and it makes me going through a panic attack.
I really hate them both and I want to stick a note outside their door and there is no CCTV but I want to write a bad words or hurtful things and stick it outside their door, but they will know that it’s obviously me so is there anyway I can do this without getting myself into trouble? Please help!!!
Muufffins@reddit
Fuck their dads
mister_nimbus@reddit
Okay so the second most hurtful thing you can do is....
ScenePuzzled@reddit
Their moms?
ryfromoz@reddit
and their moms
FirebirdWriter@reddit
Therapy for you. You don't think they'll notice you are the main suspect for this? Come on. At least wait a year or two before you actually do anything so they're not going to immediately know it's you
YouSnuffTheBlaze@reddit
Op is a fucking looney. This did happen years ago. She’s married to someone else now and she’s still obsessing on how to get revenge on a presumably happy couple.
Any_Disaster_5620@reddit
Slip a piss disc under their door
Nervous_Bobcat2483@reddit
Scrolled far too long before seeing this suggestion
SimonNicols@reddit
Always the gold standard on this sub.
TheCommander21@reddit
Hehehe, "gold".
hardlybroken1@reddit
Amd now its the top comment, lol!
Opposite-Maximum-261@reddit (OP)
Will do!!
Whole_Hat_4852@reddit
El famoso disco de meo
DoubleBreastedBerb@reddit
I know this is ULPT, but this actually happened to me back in the late 90s.
They got married, had infertility problems, became raging drug addicts, had legal issues, and divorced within five years. She went on to marry at least two other people afterwards and then dropped off all social media. He went on to marry another person as well (it didn’t work out). A little while ago I received an apology from him, but all it did was make me chuckle a little and wish him a happy life back and going on my merry way.
See, I’ve been married for over 25 years to the love of my life and I couldn’t be more content with how everything turned out.
You don’t feel like it right now, I know, but they did you a favor. Keep your head up, mourn privately, and carry on. Better things await you.
Opposite-Maximum-261@reddit (OP)
That’s right, but what do I do with all the anger?
MoneyElevator@reddit
Just let it go. If you stay angry, you lose. Only way to win is move on with your life.
Intelligent-Lead-692@reddit
You have to get over it. Your friend and this guy are shitty people. Let them have each other. And never talk to them again. Now move on with your life and choose better friends.
Amonette2012@reddit
Throw pillows at the wall.
Pavswede@reddit
Join a gym and get yoked.
YouSnuffTheBlaze@reddit
You’re married. Move on and enjoy your life. If enough time has passed that you started another relationship and got married I would suggest that it’s a bit mental to still be obsessing over an act of betrayal presumably several years ago.
Sunlit53@reddit
Next time you see her on her own ask if she’s had her first herpes outbreak yet. Tell her you caught it from him and that he’s been in denial about his infection for years.
mister_nimbus@reddit
The most hurtful thing you can do is move on and treat them like they're nothing. Completely ignore them. Don't even acknowledge they exist.
Anxiety_Fit@reddit
Oh hi, you still live here?
Then walk away.
hyyerrspace@reddit
Ignore and piss discs is the only way
AMadWalrus@reddit
This is unethicallifeprotips for a reason.
The people want chaos.
yeet-away@reddit
Send yourself bougie ass flowers to their door, but "from male name"
Successful-Side8902@reddit
Stay happy, smiling and aloof when you see them. Also stomp the ever living crap out of the floor on Sunday mornings when they're trying to sleep in. You are STOMPENSTEIN 🧟♀️
-bonita_applebum@reddit
What you do is at 4:30 am get out of bed and do one jump landing on your heels.
That will wake them up, but there won't be another sound for them to know what woke them up.
It's also too late to fall back asleep & have a decent morning at 7
bimpldat@reddit
dance
Gucci_meme@reddit
This one OP
paulinaiml@reddit
Get a DDR mat or tap dance lessons
Substantial_One5369@reddit
You're just going to make yourself look like a nutjob if you do something like that. I know it hurts but look, but if they gave a even the tiniest bit of a shit about you then they wouldn't have done that. Nothing you can do will hurt complete garbage people like that who are more than likely sociopaths. Move on and be grateful that you don't have people like that in your life anymore.
kevinh456@reddit
You are letting them live rent free in your mind. Stop.
You can't make them feel ashamed. If they felt ashamed they wouldn't have done what they did. The best thing you can do is completely forget about them, so that if they saw you on the street and said hi you would literally not know who they were.
If it gives you solace—once a cheater always a cheater. He'll cheat on her too and she'll feel just like you do now minus one best friend.
Opposite-Maximum-261@reddit (OP)
I cannot forget about them. I’m in therapy for three years now. You’ve no idea how hard it’s for me. And they walk like nothing ever happened. If I cheated on someone I’d move out of that place because I wouldn’t be brave enough to show my face.
Coup-de-Glass@reddit
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Please look into EMDR therapy. This worked wonders for a friend who came home one day early and found her then husband in bed with his coworker.
OkConcentrate3302@reddit
You know them both intimately!! Use this knowledge to exploit their insecurities. What does your exes want more than anything? Whatever they want, you have it! You want to create envy which will lead to bitterness. Make them question why are they each with a loser. You are awesome!!
Put on a happy face (pretend you are going for an academy award) and when you see them say...I have to thank you to both of you for allowing me to leave my mundane life so I could experience what living is all about. As soon as my lease is up, I am taking a year off from work to travel. No hard feelings. I know you have always mentioned want to go to Australia. Is there anything there I can pick up for you? Find a hot guy to make out with in the common area.
Orangesteel@reddit
I’d be wary of the recommendations here. They will almost certainly suspect you if you use piss discs or anything else. In the short term, the best option is to ignore. If you still angry over the medium long term, maybe a year on, then these options will be viable. Honestly though, I’ve found the best revenge is to do well for yourself and not to look back. I say that as someone who has taken revenge and also not. Today I feel bad and ashamed about the revenge I took and genuinely wish I hadn’t.
Primary-Strawberry-5@reddit
And in the meantime, just before moving out, eat a bunch of asparagus. Asparagus piss discs
Amonette2012@reddit
If the cheated on your he will cheat on her too.
drunk-orson-welles@reddit
Liquid ass on their doorknob. Shove cardboard with their shipping address on it in the garbage chute so they get a fine from the building, if your building does that. Super glue their key hole at night so it fucks up their morning. Make sure you're not seen on camera.
Opposite-Maximum-261@reddit (OP)
You’re the best!!!
Amonette2012@reddit
Also, flytip waste with their address in it.
john_the_fetch@reddit
Is there any carpet between their door and the elevator?
If you know either of them hates certain smells. Like tuna or pickles or fish sauce or... You get the idea.
Drip a little bit past their door, so it looks like their neighbors dropped food or something from the elevator to the door.
Oh! You want to make them feel ashamed...
I'd wait till you're about to move out and I'd put up print outs of their infidelity so when you're gone at least the whole apartment building will know.
Opposite-Maximum-261@reddit (OP)
Yes, that’s an amazing idea. Can’t wait to move out soon. I will do this for sure!
Flux_My_Capacitor@reddit
Are they right under you?
It’s time to take up tap dancing.
Opposite-Maximum-261@reddit (OP)
No, not right under
Nomatterko@reddit
So the problem is it bothers you that they are happy together and that you cant move because of your personal reasons and your best solution would be to make them move out of their apartment so u dont accidentaly come in contact with them outside? You are bothered here not them so u should maybe move out and find a different place for living? Or maybe even stop going out? Now it doesnt sounds right i know but it isnt right to make someone do something because u dont like their decision… sorry for my bad english, but this triggered me because op wants to make someone feel ashamed because she is unhappy and that is diabolical
ThePureAxiom@reddit
They have already moved on, acting on your ruminations will not provide you the closure you seek, but instead will just make you the 'psycho ex' in their minds, and that elevator encounter gets a lot more awkward for you.
You want closure, let them go. Holding on to hate is letting them live in your head rent free and keeping you living in the past rather than moving forward.
Justdyeingtees@reddit
Gangbang
erisuko@reddit
and how exactly would that benefit op? can you read?
ChaoticEvilFG@reddit
A fake message to one of them saying they are positive for an STD and to inform all partners
_muck_@reddit
Find someone to have loud sex with
gg-black@reddit
Make it your goal to act like you’re the happiest person alive!
No_Address687@reddit
Create a tinder profile with your ex-best friends pictures and start matching with scumbags. Send all the scumbags to their house and watch the antics ensue. Set up cameras if possible.
doublebagger45@reddit
Here’s the thing, anything annoying you do to them will only drive them closer together. They’ll bond over their common enemy (you). Hating on your inconveniences will postpone the inevitable - their pending breakup (because cheaters aren’t known to be selfless).
Mentally prepare yourself every time you’re about to get in the elevator. Make sure you’re looking good/smelling good, chin up, text a good friend/loved one and ask for encouragement or a pick me up. If you run into them, just be aloof/indifferent.
Remember, they are miserable betrayers and their relationship is built on a house of cards. Thankfully that kind of scum isn’t in your life anymore.
unicorn_345@reddit
Shame requires some pride in oneself. They may not have any pride about being faithful. So there won’t be shame about being unfaithful. But you might hook them up with a Craigslist ad for hookups just the same. Just don’t do it from home without a VPN.
If you still want to cause shame you’ll have to go after things they actually care about. Perhaps you know about things that matter to them. Maybe you can find a way to use it against them.
But really, in this case many others are right. Move on. Sometimes the fantasy is soothing or even fun. But crawling in with the dogs just gets you fleas. These don’t sound like the kind of people to lose sleep over or the kind of ppl to have shame.
Something_McGee@reddit
Before all else, hold your head up high. Remember, you're not the one who has anything to feel ashamed about. Cheaters are selfish scumbags who lack self-control and morals. You need to get this through your head. Bc when you start to hold yourself with a sense of pride, they're going to notice. And it's really gonna drive the point home that they're some pathetic ass people. They can love each other all they want. They didn't have to go about it in such a despicable way, though.
Significant_Hand3348@reddit
Throw a brick through their window