Do you feel like you can’t have fun?

Posted by Humanracer45@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 27 comments

I’m 45.

i was told off recently for clapping at a rock concert.

i then went to a bar and was dancing on the dance floor by myself when someone asked if i was on drugs. This was in Newcastle. It seems others were just sitting on their phones.

Music makes me happy but others are making me a little self conscious.

Maybe you can suggest places in the UK for people in their 40s who won’t get judged. Maybe I should just stay at home.

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Morganx27@reddit

Honestly, this whole "joy is cringe" shit is probably a symptom of the biggest issue with modern society. I see it all the time, go to a gig and people are just stood at the back half paying attention, half scrolling on their phones like they're watching fucking Newsnight.

Get me to a gig where everyone puts their phone away and enjoys the bloody moment, you don't get too many of them before you die.

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Humanracer45@reddit (OP)

True and I think it got worse post covid.

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fluffypuppycorn@reddit

Fuck em.

Enjoy yourself.

I'd prefer to go to a gig with someone who dances, claps and embraces the moment, than someone who sits in their phone.

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RichieQ_UK@reddit

Go to a rave mate, take drugs 🕺🪩

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Tefached666@reddit

Don't even need drugs tbf, but sounds like he would have more fun there than wherever he is going out now

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MikeySkinner@reddit

Where abouts in Newcastle were you? From history that definitely doesn’t sound like the Toon! Most Geordies are well up for a dance

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jenni_jen85@reddit

This! I was surprised as a Geordie myself we are usually up there joining in!

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Humanracer45@reddit (OP)

Blackie boy

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jenni_jen85@reddit

Oh I’m Newcastle based I thought it would be the best place for it with our night life! But then again maybe it’s just the bar. Maybe check for some 80’s nights if that’s what your into (from comments) and you’ll have a different experience I’m sure! Always plenty of those types of events going on :)

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Laorii@reddit

Get yourself down shields. Plenty dancing in the pubs.

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Quirky_London@reddit

10 years ago, I was at a bar in Thesolaniki. Not a single young person drank or looked at each other.. I never bothered to check in London but I think Gen Z everywhere has caught this disease now.

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Independent-Middle22@reddit

Move to London:)

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CumGuzlinGutterSluts@reddit

Show em who's what. Get like 5 pills of E, some acid and a syringe of meth, go back there, and dance till a taskforce is made to stop you

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m3ggi3bunss@reddit

I hate today’s society. Nobody can seem to have fun without someone else having a problem with it. In my opinion, just carry on enjoying life and don’t worry about what other people think.

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Vast-Faithlessness85@reddit

Yea, last time I was in a mosh pit at a rock concert people were getting upset at the moshing. As if it was abnormal antisocial behaviour.
Social media has built and enforced the fear of standing out from the crowd. Social etiquette constructed by the lowest common denominator.

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garlicandherbsauce@reddit

i’m sorry people had to project their insecurities onto you! if you’re looking for a proper night out with friends or even solo i’d suggest the gay village in manchester!! there’s always something on and people are so so welcoming <3

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noivernd@reddit

Some people are just melts mate. I’m 15 and people do this when you do something like try to have fun. Dance around and do what you want. being 40 doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. Sounds like you’re just cooler than them all

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MojoMomma76@reddit

Nah, you're just going to the wrong places. I'm 48 and danced last night with my husband to Hozier in our lovely local in London, whilst our friends cheered, clapped and filmed. I routinely go to gigs in the city and howl along with everyone else. Pick better venues 😄

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Humanracer45@reddit (OP)

You could be right. I’m into 80s bands and music but maybe I need to look at something more modern lol

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don't let anyone make you feel foolish for being you. you sound awesome

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Humanracer45@reddit (OP)

Thank you!

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