How to get over the fear of moving abroad ??

Posted by TiredPlant9071@reddit | expats | View on Reddit | 6 comments

boyfriend suddenly announced he’s moving to canada, he said i can come along, which i agreed to, but im someone who hates traveling so far, im overly anxious, im someone who is very attached to my belongings and im super concerned about the fact ill have to take my stuff with me, what if it gets lost, stolen ???? i have so much stuff too and some that cost so much both money wise and emotionally wise. Gets about my bank account, or how i’m gonna get a job etc ???

i also have my cat, how does that work for traveling????

im just so scared, i don’t know anything, don’t know the paperwork to move there, but what scares me most is just how is my stuff getting there ??????

i’ve been a mess since this was announced to me especially since my bf said he’s leaving in a month while i don’t really have any plan as of rn. We agreed i join him once he gets an apartment there but im just so afraid.

please make me feel better about all of this, canada has been a place i really wanted to live at anyways or go there on vacation, so its not this that im scared about. plus i don’t have many friends here or people i care about, id love to leave too.

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TBHICouldComplain@reddit

Unless you already have Canadian citizenship you can’t just move to Canada. I think step 1 is figuring out if you realistically have a path to move to Canada. If not it’s a moot point and the real question is if you want to have a long distance relationship with a guy who decided to move to Canada without even discussing it with you first or if you’re in the market for a new boyfriend.

beginswithanx@reddit

Yeah, seriously. Any guy who decides to move to another country without me and then says “Ok, you can come along,” isn't someone I want to uproot my life and leave my family behind for.

When my husband and I moved abroad for my job it was a decision we made together.

Subterraniate2@reddit

Seconded with bells on. Stay where you are, with your little cat.

FinestTreesInDa7Seas@reddit

I'm assuming that your boyfriend is moving to Canada on a work visa? If so, you can join him only if:

Get your own work visa through a job offer
Prove that you and your boyfriend qualify as a common-law partnership. You need to prove that you've lived together for at least 1 year. They'll want lots of evidence, and probably and written letters from friends and family to support your claim.

But again, that's assuming your boyfriend is moving on a work visa. That same common-law spouse path isn't available in many other visas.

Like for example, on a Student Visa, there is only a spouse option for a Masters degree, or a PhD.

OP also needs to know that there’s quite a long processing time for a Family Class visa which is what a common-law relationship falls under. Last I heard it was 16 months.

You get over fear by doing research and plans to answer your concerns.

Do research as to the safety of where you’re moving, the rules for opening a bank account, getting a job, etc. Finding the answers will make you feel better.

Also, how are you able to move to Canada with a boyfriend without any such planning? Normally you need a visa (student visa, work visa, etc). How are you planning to immigrate.