England isn’t working for me
Posted by Adventurous_Song8876@reddit | expats | View on Reddit | 9 comments
So I have been living here for a year now and the plan was to meet my family this year, apply for uni and I was told I would have no problem with uni since I’m citizen by descent but that was a lie lol, so the whole process has been so stressful and only one uni has given me home fee, I don’t even think the SLC will give me full support or any at all
So the option would be to wait two years for applying again but I haven’t been able to find job, I haven’t been picky, I have applied to all kinds of positions (cook, cleaner, waiter, retail, pets), having to be fully dependent in other ppl has been really hard since I’m used to work and pay all my own things, so I’m afraid I’ll be two years without a job and just wait, I haven’t even been able to make friends bc my town doesn’t really have any ppl my age since most are off to uni 😭
I’ve been thinking of just moving back home, I feel like I made everyone lose time and money but I could at least find job in my home city and maybe work while I pay my uni, everyone is telling me to try and make things work but I feel like without money I can’t really do anything, like joining courses or traveling, besides the degree I want doesn’t have the best job prospects so perhaps would be wiser to get it at home and if I want, come back here with savings for work
Any tips? Any ideas of what could I do in two years? I know Europe is suppose to have a lot of opportunities but maybe I’m not looking hard enough
UsedFortune5645@reddit
Don't ask what England can do for you but what you can do for England.
Adventurous_Song8876@reddit (OP)
I know it doesn’t sound much for a year but feels awkward listing everything but I have tried adapting and trying to give to the community
Adventurous_Song8876@reddit (OP)
Well I’d do more if it would only let me, lmao
I’ve gone litter picking in the forest, help a random lady in my street to carry boxes to the post office, help my family living here and I would work and pay taxes if I was just given the chance dude 😞
someguy984@reddit
Uni is 3 years before you are treated like a "regular" person. You can get benefits (job seekers allowance) in 3 months once you meet the Habitual Residence Test. NHS is no delay so long as you come to be a resident.
Top-Half7224@reddit
I moved to the UK as an adult, and had citizenship, however, I grew up in a third country. It is indeed hard to get established as many employers and rental agencies want local experience and references. Also, there is no doubt the job market is extremely tough right now, especially for young people entering the workforce. You're not alone..
University home fees are limited to those that have already been in the country at least 3 years. Honestly, this is pretty common knowledge and a quick google search should have given you this info. Nonetheless, this is pretty tough to find out once you have gotten here.
Have you gotten your NIE? If not, you need to apply ASAP as nobody will hire you without it.
Second, find your nearest Job Centre. They can help you find work, give you CV building advice, and often times have job listings. In the meantime, try volunteering when you can for one of the charity shoppes or any other niche that interests you. Meeting people, establishing references, and making yourself useful will not only open doors for you, but also give you a sense of autonomy and improve your mental health. Good luck.
Adventurous_Song8876@reddit (OP)
Hellooo, thank you for replying, yeah I should have done more research before coming, I had been really lost in direction and have been humbled really quick lol, researching unis I just saw the requirements and my dad reassured me I would qualify as a home student, but I have gotten my NIE all other papers
I’ll try to apply for volunteering, hopefully a charity shop will take me 🤞, anyways I was thinking of leaving in September if I made the decision so it would give me a few months to see how things progress, being young kinda makes you feel like you are falling behind
HVP2019@reddit
I am an older person and I grew up knowing that lives of immigrants can be very difficult, emotionally and financially for many years.
So it was important to choose country that is meaningfully better than home country so all this extra work and stress of immigration life will be worthwhile in the end.
Is UK meaningfully better than your home country to justify extra work and extra stress you are going through?
Adventurous_Song8876@reddit (OP)
First of all, Thank you for thanking the time of responding, any advice or helps is really appreciated 🫶
And, not really, I used to have a big room, freedom to move and my city was nice, I had a bad relationship with my mom but the one with my family here is kinda passive aggressive now lol, I guess what drove me more here was lack of direction but at least I did tried something new even if it didn’t work out
Adventurous_Song8876@reddit (OP)
I think the scariest thing would say to my family that I want to go back