You're an adult and were told off about something and felt like a child again. What did you do?

Posted by SpaceTimeCapsule89@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 43 comments

I worked as a manager of a coffee shop when I was in my early 20's. I went out one Saturday night and never got home until 5am!

I text the area manager and said yeah I'm going to have to open the shop later today because I've lost my keys and will have to go and get them from one of the supervisors. I hadn't lost my keys at all but I couldn't open the shop in the shape I was in so I thought I'll sleep for 3/4 hours then open the shop at 10, no big deal.

I got there and opened the shop and I was absolutely hanging. The area manager turned up half an hour later 😱

She took me to the stock room and whilst both sat on upturned buckets she said -

Her - SpaceTimeCapsule89 would it be reasonable to say you didn't lose your keys since it's your keys sat downstairs?

Me - Yeah

Her - Is it also reasonable to say you're probably still drunk?

Me - Yeah

Her - What's the number one rule we have here?

Me - Don't go out drinking if you're opening the shop the next day

Her - Did you forget the number one rule?

Me - Yeah

Her - Will you remember the rule going forward?

Me - Yeah

Her - Good. You're so good at your job, it would just be great if you keep in mind the rules and work really hard to remember them

Me - I will

Her - Good, I'm glad we had this chat. Now you go and get yourself a bottle of water then get through this shift ok?

Me - Yeah. Thank you, I won't let you down again

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Grantthetick@reddit

Made a poor taste joke that the neighbour had died. I was immediately reprimanded by my family and told I wasn't funny. They were right.

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ExcitingCriticism524@reddit

My partner shouted at me before for standing on a chair to look on top of the fridge. I currently have a cast on my arm.

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Separate_Gas7643@reddit

Was the fridge responsible for the cast? Or was it unrelated

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ExcitingCriticism524@reddit

Unrelated.

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Separate_Gas7643@reddit

I would love to know what it is related to 🤣

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ExcitingCriticism524@reddit

I tripped over a step in the garden and just landed funny and fractured my elbow.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Should the step have been there ? 🤣

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ExcitingCriticism524@reddit

No because it made me fall over

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

🥲🥲🥲

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Upbeat-Fish-3348@reddit

About 10 years ago I worked in a restaurant with a really nasty piece of work boss/co-owner, I was a chef and he'd also do the occasional chef work if he wasn't sat on his arse all day. The kitchen we worked from was tiny and more often than not he'd be stood in the way of where I need to go so to pass by him I might occasionally have brushed past him or politely said excuse me to which he'd always scowl at me.

Then this one day when the other owner was in the kitchen along with some other staff he took it upon himself to turn around to me and say "do you mind, my 5 year old son has got better manners than you, why don't you stop barging past me and be more careful and considerate like my child would be".

Clearly trying to get on my nerve and treat me like a child for such a stupid thing, jokes on him I handed my notice in the next day even though they were down 2 chefs.

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HighRiseCat@reddit

Now you go and get yourself a bottle of water then get through this shift ok?

Come on, we all know coca cola is better for a hangover...

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Worldly_Let6134@reddit

Irn bru or Dr Pepper even better

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thehatteryone@reddit

You're an adult with responsibilities, and you acted like a silly teenager. Your choice, and your manager did a good (for you) job of reminding you of this. You're lucky to have a job, and lucky if they still trust you to do a proper job in future. Don't be upset at being treating like a kid/simpleton when you acted exactly that way.

Own it, learn, move on.

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SpaceTimeCapsule89@reddit (OP)

It was 20 years a go 😂

In another 20 years time I'm going to use what you've just said to me as an example of what happened to make me feel like I'd been told off like a child!

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Any-Pattern8246@reddit

Mental health Practitioner: Is your name

Me: No

Mental health Practitioner: Is your date of birth

Me: No

Mental health Practitioner: Is your address

Me: No

Mental health Practitioner: is your medical records

Me: No

Mental health Practitioner: (She actually then said this QUITE RUDELY) Oh so who are you?

Me: You rang me. So how do you not know?

Mental health Practitioner: Well I don’t. I rang the number of the patient and you claim you are not this person.

Me: Look you called me and my name and date of birth is XYZ. It is NOT whatever you said I was. This sounds like a scam

Mental health Practitioner: Why are you being rude, this is not a scam

Me: Ok thats not how you do security check

Mental health Practitioner: It seems like you have an issue with security check and my fault I actually have TWO computer screens in front of me and I was still looking at the patient I saw before you’s information

Me: No I don’t have an issue with security check, then don’t you think you should close the information from the previous patient and concentrate on mine?

Mental health Practitioner: Whats your name and date of birth?

Me: What?

Mental health Practitioner: Why are you being rude and difficult?

Me: I am not but I already told that why are you asking like 5 min after I told you?

This last 3 conversation where she asked me what my name and date of birth, she was on the phone to me for ONE HOUR and she asked me that 6 more times in total and each time her excuse was “oh the computer kicks me off after 5 minutes. Nope it doesn’t and I know it doesn’t because the amount of times I’ve had a 25 min telephone conversation with my GP and he done security check at the start of the call and never once asked for security again ... and this mental health practitioner is in the same surgery and uses the same system so its odd my GP’s computer don’t kick him off the patient’s records, after 5 min when hes looking at it but hers does ... its weird.

I complained about this to NHS England complaints team and got told off and got told "we are not upholding your complaint because that is HOW NHS DOES SECURITY CHECK BY GIVING OUT ANOTHER PATIENT'S INFORMATION TO OTHER PATIENT". I even asked for a copy of that call and got banned from having it. But I noticed in the google review of my GP surgery another patient asked for a copy of their call (and this review was like 4 years ago) and they got given it and I wasn't allowed a copy of the call between me and the this woman because I am apparently "banned" from having it and it wasn't allowed!!!!

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trigodo@reddit

I brought bottle of water to work. They say we can only use water dispensers on shop floor 🤦‍♂️

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lovesorangesoda636@reddit

My mum told me off for "wasting money" on the fancy kiwis from the shop rather than just buying the normal ones.

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srm79@reddit

Haha I think we've all done similar! I remember going to lunch with a friend then calling work to say I've had too many drinks it's probably best I don't come back in tonight - I got bollocked over the phone but next day boss said 'I can't complain too much, at least you were honest'

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Otherwise_Living_158@reddit

The drinking culture at my first job was crazy, we used to ring my boss up at about 2pm and ask him to turn our PCs off because we weren’t coming back.

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Mindless-Sail-4595@reddit

I owned a small shop. I depended on weekend morning coffee sales. If you opened at 10- you would have cost me a lot. More than the cash - the loss of customers that loose faith in a business that don’t open on time.

She was kind.

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SpaceTimeCapsule89@reddit (OP)

It wasn't a small shop, hence the area manager. It was due to open at 9:30 so it was half an hour later than usual. There was the same chain of coffee shop in the same shopping centre upstairs. It was also 20 years a go and one time in the 4 years I worked there.

She was kind.

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SecretRefrigerator12@reddit

She wasn't just kind she was direct and to the point. Too many managers skirt around issues rather than deal with them, I've done it myself, she was a good manager as well as kind.

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QSoC1801@reddit

Every time the office fire warden comes around and tells me I need to tidy, it takes all of my professional strength not to react like a teenager being told to tidy their bedroom.

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racsssss@reddit

When I started working in care, the light went out in the kitchen (it was like a strip light, not one we were allowed to change ourselves), I was told be a senior college that I had to call the emergancy repairs num as it was a health and safety issue, which I did. A few days later, the building management company phones the house and starts having a massive go at me about it, literally like a 10 minute rant about how I shouldn't have used the emergancy repairs, it would cost my company loads of money etc. Went on so long I couldn't quite believe she was still going.

Anyway I never heard another thing about it and I still work there 7 years later so I guess it wasn't that big a deal after all

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jamessrc@reddit

Put the heating on for 30 mins in my shared house (live with landlady and other lodgers) when it was freezing. Had to have a sit down chat the next day with landlady

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MLMSE@reddit

On a run and approaching a set of canal locks. The lock keeper was about to open the locks and had just put the barrier across the walkway that goes over the lock gates. Didn't want to wait around for the boat to go through, so i just ducked under the barrier and quickly run across. Lock keeper was not happy and have me a bollocking.

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RichKiernan@reddit

I wont go through exactly what it was as it involves a boring complicated process but is very important and has legal consequences if done incorrectly.

The issue is there is also a very quick and easy away around this entire thing that almost always gives the same result. Unless it doesn't, fortunately there is a checking process which caught it before any real consequences legally. However, I got a full lecture (rightly deserved) by one of the directors in a meeting that went on for 20 minutes. The only time I felt like that before is when my old man would tell me off

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pajamakitten@reddit

Made a small mistake of no significance at work. My colleague, who was not my manager but thought having worked there six months longer than me made her my manager, spoke to me like I was her five year old grandson. I think she was desperate to feel some power but just came off as condescending instead. She now manages a different team and they all hate her attitude, especially as she is far from perfect.

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Forsaken1741@reddit

I was walking along a path and some construction workers yelled at me to get off because it wasn't finished yet. I did notice it was bit uneven but I was fine and I didn't see any signs 🤷‍♂️

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mellonians@reddit

I'm a responsible middle aged man in a very professional job. Some might say an anally retentive culture (40% of my team are over 65).

I went for a trip up to our Yorkshire office with my boss. I went to make a tea (obviously they're proud of their Yorkshire tea) and loudly called out from their kitchenette "does anyone have any proper tea like PG tips or even Tetley?" And my boss jumped on me and told me off for being provocative and subversive "I know what you're doing doing man, and cut it out!"

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Overall_Gap_5766@reddit

Join the army and you can be spoken to this way by people younger than you for virtually no reaaon on a nead daily basis.

Yes I have done ten years in the infantry, why do you ask?

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Affectionate_Bat617@reddit

Depends how I'm told off.

If it's in a way that's meant to help me, I'm fine with it as I'm usually well aware that it's coming.

If it's in a patronising tone, that will depend on who's saying it and how badly I need the job.

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pishtalpete@reddit

Is it weird I'm turned on ?

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Imposseeblip@reddit

Sounds like a fairly decent area manager to be fair. Ive had some that would tear me a new one for them shenagigans

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ChelseaMourning@reddit

Same. I remember a particular area manager who would spend ages lecturing me on my T-shirts not being folded completely perfectly identical and even, forgetting that it was a shop and customers touch things.

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sleepyprojectionist@reddit

I used to work at Starbucks and have a similar story.

We were doing a staff exchange program and we were hosting a barista from Norway.

He wanted to go out. I was up for a few pints and an early(ish) night.

The next thing I remember is that it’s almost 5am and I’m getting a lift home from a Brazilian stripper.

The rest of the night remains a blank.

I did not make it all the way through my shift.

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