š High School reunions
Posted by nycorganizer@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 132 comments
Is anyone else having the unique xennial challenge of organizing theirs? Besides scouring social media/LinkedIn, how are you finding your former classmates? Our school is useless and the info from the only other reunion we had is very limited, so we've only been able to find a fraction of our class online.
For a good laugh, our school had a 3-ring binder of handwritten forms that we'd completed at graduation filled in with now entirely irrelevant contact information... landlines of homes we don't live in, friends we likely don't talk to anymore and their landlines, parents (maybe alive) who maybe don't live at their addresses any more - certainly no email addresses (and even the ones we established soon thereafter probably wouldnāt be active today).
Upstairs-Kale-3794@reddit
Why on earth would I want to be in the same room as 20 ex-girlfriends at once?
VolunteerOnion@reddit
I talk to who I liked. The rest of them? Why would I get on a plane for that ?
TheREALBaldRider@reddit
Use whatever my college does to track me down and ask for more money. Iāve moved 15 times since graduating and they always seem to find me.
VolunteerOnion@reddit
I sternly told them they were never getting a dime from me after naming a building after a (raging racist) professor from my era.
Seems to have worked? Or they figured out Iām poor
esocharis@reddit
A lot of schools use the same skip tracing to find you for that, that debt collectors use to find you for 20 year old credit cards lol
TheREALBaldRider@reddit
People must be donating for it to be worth it. Cost has nearly tripled since my freshman year (increased 31% between my freshman and senior year). What are they doing with it? Iām not giving them any more money.
esocharis@reddit
I would imagine the bigger the school, the more its worth it. I honestly have no idea though lol
A good collector can probably get decent returns of small dollar stuff if they can actually get someone on the phone these days, but who the hell answers unknown numbers anymore?
TheREALBaldRider@reddit
My school was very small <2000 students enrolled at one time. The living alumni group is probably smaller than current student populations of large universities.
59apache01@reddit
I usually mark those "Return to Sender" when they show up in my mailbox.
clutzycook@reddit
Right? Private eyes have nothing on college alumni departments.
SteveEcks@reddit
My college just offers 0% credit cards.... Like a lot.
username__0000@reddit
I have a couple diplomas and one Iāve only used for insurance discounts. lol
badteach248@reddit
A few years ago when I still lived in the US I was deep in debt, and making 11 bucks an hour with kids...one with special needs. My school called at 10pm. I let that poor student have the wrath.
jawnbaejaeger@reddit
Right? Stop asking me for money. I have no money left to give.
After_Preference_885@reddit
Right? Like you MFers... I JUST paid off my student loans and got nothing left. Nothing.
Bird_Herder@reddit
Still paying and owe more than when I finished school.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
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Primary-Strawberry-5@reddit
I went to my 5 year reunion. In 1999. That was enough
OregonResident@reddit
Ever heard of facebook? Thats how these things are always organized. And how I tell the obnoxious organizers no every time.
teenbean12@reddit
Create a FB group for your class. Invite everyone you are friends with from your grade to the group. Ask them to forward the group info to their friends. Create a post asking people to message you their address and also addresses of people who their are friends with who are not on Facebook.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
Thanks! We have done all those things. Just wanted to see if there was something we were missing. We're not trying to force this down people's throats by any means, but a lot of people were bummed to miss the 20th and are now really excited about this so we're making more of an effort to dig.
Funwithfun14@reddit
I think a personal touch of messaging someone directly and asking they pass on to their HS friend group is important.
FionaGoodeEnough@reddit
The reddit post is key. Most people I know who quit Facebook still go Reddit.
xrocket21@reddit
Lol, fuck all of them, well except for like 3 people.
emeraldrose484@reddit
Our 10 was haphazardly organized on Facebook - someone said "I manage a sports bar!" But id devolved into people inviting whoever they wanted. We had a class of 600ish, I think they managed to invite 200 on FB, at least a third of who were in other graduating classes or didn't graduate with us.
I left FB years ago. I assume someone did the same thing for our 20-year, but as I'm no longer on FB apparently that means I stopped existing so didn't get an invite if it happened. Oh well!
All that being said - FB still seems to be the way to go, but ask people if they have okd contact info for some others you can't reach because you never know.
Unapologetic_Canuck@reddit
I have never gone to any kind of school related reunion and I have zero interest in doing so. I can count on one hand the number of people I wanted to keep in touch with. Definitely donāt need to be seeing all the pricks I had to deal with.
AlmondSprite@reddit
This will be the third one of ours Iāve organized. The first one I lived 1,000 miles away. This past one and now Iām 2,000 miles away (but possibly moving to the adjacent state before the reunion).
Iām not bothering to find them. They know I have always had a Facebook group for our class. Iāve already posted a Save-the-Date event for it. Everyone knows how to find me if theyāre not on Facebook since thereās 3 generations of my family still in that town. I chased down people for the 10-year and had all the energy of an unmarried/childfree person then. I no longer have the bandwidth to try to contact 400 people.
travelinmatt76@reddit
Went to my 5 year and I never want to see those people again.
ODB247@reddit
I think our generation was the death of this stuff.Ā
Inspi@reddit
I've considered suggesting one on the Facebook group that has most of us in it. Then I remember that whoever suggests it will end up organizing the whole thing and I've got enough other stuff to do.Ā
Disastrous-Screen337@reddit
Same cliques same people, just older. I didn't mind high school but I am definitely not in the group that would enjoy reunions at this point. Maybe at 50 years
CheesyRomantic@reddit
Our high school graduating class tried to organize one 3 times. They were finally successful this past year, but it wasn't a super huge turn out.
I didn't go nor did anyone I was close to even want to go.
myuserhasafirstname@reddit
Never went to one, never will.
Wodentoad@reddit
I might, If I become famous or accomplished. My sorry butt in grad school in my 40s is just gonna stay home.
nucl3ar0ne@reddit
The only answer right here.
bell83@reddit
The people I wanted to keep in touch with after school, I kept in touch with. I really couldn't care less about the rest of them, and I'm sure the feeling is mutual.
Clear_Tangerine5110@reddit
Yep. Me too, which is almost none of them. Nevertheless, we have social media, which previous generations for the most part did not have, so reunions were about the only way for many of them to catch up every now and then. Now nobody cares because everybodyās living their fake lives online for everyone to see.
BlackberryHelpful676@reddit
Hmm, I had fun at the one I went to š¤·āāļø
Wodentoad@reddit
As long as it's not a stupid expensive affair that only the rich kids go to. Hubby's 10 year is the only one we went to, I've skipped all of mine because they have been too expensive and one was on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving. Yes, let me drive 6 hours to see people I don't remember and don't care about, then drive back in time to cook my giant dinner for the people I actually love.
smokiechick@reddit
I had a tiny graduating class. If you are connected to one of them, you can find all of them. I got a message out of nowhere from a classmate asking me to the reunion that is this coming weekend. I was trying to figure out how he found me and realized that we had more than 10 mutual friends on Facebook. Scour social media and check friends lists. And don't be afraid to ask people if they know how to get ahold of specific people. While I'm not going to mine (it's my mom's last birthday before she turns 80), I think I'd feel snubbed or forgotten if I found out it happened and I hadn't received at least a message for the headcount.
AndrewInMN@reddit
My class set up a Facebook group and asked that people either provide contact info or reach out to the people not on Facebook if they were able. But my school was small and rural and high percentage of them already on Facebook. I went to part of my 10 year and it was fine. Was cool to hang out with the old friend group again all in one place. I skipped the 20 year because their plans were lame (heard after the fact that turnout was terrible. No shit.) 30 year will be a game time decision, if they plan one. Iām certainly not gonna take those reigns.
Grinzy@reddit
I tried to plan my 30 with some people I know still on facebook, but I think our politics don't jibe and they stopped responding. I think I'm just going to delete my fb now since that was really the only reason I kept it was to keep in touch with people... No one posts anything anymore and it's all AI slop and people yelling at each other, or racists talking about people in their neighborhoods...
I told them where I'm going to be on a certain date and they can meet me there if they want. Let's see what happens.
enters_and_leaves@reddit
We had a 10 year. I didnāt go. I think I was in grad school at the time and couldnāt afford (either monetarily or time wise) to go. It seemed like it was a very small group of folks who never moved away (like 20-30 people max out of 600+) of which I only really knew a couple and knew of only a handful more. Covid meant nothing happened for the 20 apart from a single Facebook post.
Ever since that John Mayer song came out I have looked forward to going to a reunion. I would love to go back, but traveling is so expensive and if nobody else I know is going then it is really hard to justify.
Jr5309@reddit
The last time I knew about one was in 2018. Not on FB, so a friend told me about it. Posting on socials and spreading word of mouth is probably the best option.
If you know of any classmates recently married, reach out to them. Might have some people on their guest list with updated contacts.
S_A_R_K@reddit
Nah, fuck them kids
NotMe739@reddit
At 5 years they sent an email directly to me. I didn't go. At 10 years they found my little brother on Facebook and asked him to pass on the message. I still didn't go. I haven't heard about any of them since which is fine because I still have no plans to go.
Cytog64@reddit
Tried organizing it once in 2011 for our 10yr.... 12 people showed up. Never doing it again...
Miz_momo82@reddit
My high school organizes one every year for those celebrating 5, 10, 15 yr etc. And it's always the same weekend so I basically already know when and where my next reunion will be
enters_and_leaves@reddit
I think it should always be Homecoming weekend. I donāt know why it isnāt. The only thing we would have to figure out is a standardized idea of if it is homecoming the calendar year 10/20/30ā¦ years after you graduated or the year before that to coincide with 10/20/30ā¦ years since you were in school.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
See, that would have been smart from the start!
According-Talk-5194@reddit
Who the hell wants to go to their HS reunion? Fublio F@#$ that!
59apache01@reddit
Next year would be my 30th and as far as I know, my class has never had one. I wasn't in a big class (80-some kids), but we pretty much scattered in all directions after we graduated. The last time I really talked to any of them was probably close to 20 years ago. To top that off, my high school was shut down in 2011 so any outdated records they may have had are probably long lost by now.
NoWordsJustDogs@reddit
Iām the person who left their hometown at 17 and wanted nothing more to do with those racist homophobe-ass losers.Ā
So no. If someone from HS attempted to contact me, theyād get blocked immediately and Iād go on my merry way.Ā
FriedBreakfast@reddit
Same. Grew up in a small town that, even though desegregation happened, the town was still segregated and racially heated. LOTS of racism in that town.
Anyway, I never heard from my high school class since graduation and I would rather drink a bucket of donkey piss than to ever talk to those people again.
NoWordsJustDogs@reddit
yeah, growing up an ethnic minority in the northern rust belt in the eighties was brutal.Ā
The best gift my parents gave me was good insurance when i was younger because I needed a lot of therapy, mostly due to racial bullying.Ā
Alternative-Wish-441@reddit
Same. Thereās a handful Iām in touch with but most of them stayed in a county that is over 90% white as of the last census and never changed their shitty views.
BlacksmithThink9494@reddit
Same here. It is very sad and disappointing
someguyfromsk@reddit
Far right, single digit IQ, Maple MAGA, Alberta separatist morons.
BeBopBarr@reddit
Our class has never even had one š¤·āāļø
SweetCosmicPope@reddit
I was on our 10 and 20 year reunion committees. Really it was just Facebook. The vast majority of our class was there and we created a class of 2002 group. For the ones who werenāt, we put out feelers to try and contact them. We probably ended up notifying about 90% of our class add had about 50% turnout. Not bad.
The harder thing for us was justifying tickets. A lot of people didnāt understand why they had to pay $50 to get in. But we had to pay for venue, food, decorations, music, etc.
brainybrink@reddit
Old contact details help TBH. If you Google someone and include an old phone number or address it narrows down who youāre looking for and will pull up current address and phone number in the innumerable websites that specialize in people search.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
Interesting! And that sounds right. I Will float that to see if anyone who's not me wants to take it on. Thank you!
BlacksmithThink9494@reddit
I went to my 20 year but there were so few people who went, we ended up having it at a bar (class of 500+). I realized then that none of us actually liked each other or had anything in common. Its nice for nostalgia but honestly I would not attend any others. Facebook groups helped a lot as far as I remember.
wheres_the_revolt@reddit
Honestly I thought most of us were not going to these things.
minneapocalypse@reddit
My HS friends were younger than me and older than my brother so we shared a friend group. We all go camping together once a year with friends weāve made along the way/spouses, etc. The group has grown smaller as people have kids and are too busy - but the core group still goes and itās always an excellent few days on the lake full of good food, good drinks, music and memories. You have to make your reunions what you want them to be otherwise they are basically networking events.
Mrpeewee982001@reddit
We had our 10 year, then 20 was sidelined by Covid concerns still in 2021 and haven't heard a thing about a 25th this year.
that1tech@reddit
I occasionally try to find classmates on Linkedin. Found a couple and one has become a decently respected psychologist with a couple of papers published. Otherwise I don't bother. I talk with 1 person from high school and its because we float in and out of each others lives. Back in the early 2010s, I would send them amusing things I found online to entertain them in their dull job at a copy center while I was working my repetitive job running shows at a Children's theatre. They were one of the few friends that watched my hooding my masters program and I watched their graduation from Law School (we live states apart). We don't talk like we used to but reach out when we need someone with perspective.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
We've tried LinkedIn but next to no one lists their high school there, plus last name changes and common names make it difficult.
that1tech@reddit
Yep ran into that too. The few I found had pretty unique names and I remember what college they went to
Affectionate_Big8239@reddit
Weāve only had one and it was kind of a bust. This year wouldāve been 25 years but I havenāt heard anything about anyone organizing anything.
FionaGoodeEnough@reddit
Going against the grain, but I actually would attend a high school reunion now. I got off Facebook years ago, because that felt like living at the high school reunion, which I do not want. But one evening? Sure! A minor surgery and then covid prevented me from going to the 10 and 20 year reunions. Maybe if there is a 30th someone will find me?
Try to have some sort of searchable web presence so that someone from your class who has lost touch with everyone could find some sort of info on whether an event is happening.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
Thanks! That's what we've been trying to do, logic being that people who actually thought about it and would want to come could easily find us.
tour79@reddit
They invite me on FB. I politely say Iām not attending, Iām not close to that area, geographically or emotionally. I offer a meet up if theyāre in my neighborhood, I am left on read with no reply
I canāt say I mind any of this, serves me well
beautifulcheat@reddit
My school clearly doesn't do a very good job of it because I've never gotten an invite š I know that my 20-year was canceled for a natural disaster. I might try to go to the 30 year one out of morbid curiosity tbh. I had friends more in other years than my own so I don't even remember most of those people.
WoefulKnight@reddit
Itās time to put those skills you got playing āWhere in the World is Carmen Sandiegoā to work.
bkheightsnyc@reddit
Hahhahahhaa š„š„š„
SadAcanthocephala521@reddit
Wait, people our age are still going to high school reunions? I've never been to one and never had a desire to.
Kjler@reddit
Have you tried calling those numbers as was intended? If they aren't there, ask if they have any forwarding information. That's why they filled out those forms.
I know no one wants to talk on the phone, but they also don't want to go to a high school reunion.Ā
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
So your suggestion is to call 500 landlines from 30 years ago because no one wants to even go to a reunion?
Kjler@reddit
No; my suggestion is to give up. Otherwise, yes; make those phone calls. I think they don't charge for long distance anymore, so you've got that going for you.Ā
Powerful-Entry8505@reddit
Great last sentence. Such an unexpected turn, so true, and made me laugh!
throwawaytoday9q@reddit
As far as I know my class never had one.
BeefSupremeeeeee@reddit
I've not gone to a HS reunion yet. Might go for my 30th....
DifficultMinute@reddit
Our person just uses Facebook.
Send an invite to everyone in the āschool class of 99ā and let it sort itself out.
Iāve never gone, but it apparently works as theyāve got about 1/3rd of our class (and their guests) that go every 5 years.
burnmenowz@reddit
I had to help organize our 10 year. I think we had 10 people show up, even though more RSVP'd. Lost a lot of money on it. Definitely sell tickets and get the money up front.
On that note, I have zero desire to organize another one. They just are not worth the time and effort.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
Good call on all. We are selling tickets in advance and I definitely won't be helping with this again š¤Ŗ
BradimusRex@reddit
I haven't seen anything from my high school and I'm pretty sure we haven't had any reunions.
WendyPortledge@reddit
We have a Facebook group. Theyāre trying to organize our 25th reunion for this summer. We graduated with over 300 but only around 50 have RSVPed in there. Weāll see what happens!
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
LOL classmates .com the orginal facebook!
jar36@reddit
I've never been invited despite being friends on FB with those that are involved in putting it together. I dropped out with 2 months left of my senior yr bc they took 2% off your grade for every unexcused absence and suspensions are unexcused absences. I was suspended for 30 days. 100% on my grades would get me an F in all classes, so why stay? I went back the next yr but I had a deal where I was only there for periods 2-4. Half the year 3rd period was a study hall where I hung out in the library quietly.
I kinda fell between the cracks. I get enough of them on facebook for the ones that are worth speaking to. I live in Gym Jordanland Ohio, so there are a lot that I'm glad that I haven't seen in over 30 yrs
yardini@reddit
I was on my reunion committee and we relied on word of mouth a lot - everyone on the committee messaged the few people they were in contact with and asked them to pass it on. We also opened our reunion up to surrounding grad years because not all of them have put together reunions.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
We are doing the same. Thanks for chiming in with helpful info as opposed to your feelings!
NicePatience43@reddit
We do this too, we include people that moved as well
Kind-Feeling2490@reddit
Our reunion planning was so disastrous and filled with petty drama it was downgraded from a hotel with catering to a small Italian restaurant with about 30 people.Ā
I didnāt go. I just got out my popcorn and watched it all unfold on Facebook.Ā
SteveEcks@reddit
I remember, when I was still on Facebook, the crew putting together our 10-year hit me up with a "Hey we're just wondering if you'll be there, what's your story? We want to make it easy for everyone!" (I was homecoming King, but that was the extent of my popularity, I was in the marching band)
I hit them back with the: "Well, I moved to Los Angeles. Traveling to Indiana for a one night event is kind of a big deal. My parents don't live in town any more- So that leaves me to fly ($) into any one of the 3 big city airports, rent a car ($), drive 3 or 4 hours and finally check into a hotel ($) in Auburn, Indiana. It would be costly for me"
They basically said "oh we hadn't thought about people who don't live here anymore!" Then they got a block discount at one of the hotels. It still didn't make any sense for me.
I didn't mention that I would do all that to sit with mostly people I don't know, and the people I did know I wouldn't have spoken with in about a decade.
I do want to go to one of my reunions eventually, but... I need to go on an actual vacation with my family some day before doing anything like that.
CannedDuck1906@reddit
My class never put one together. I wouldn't go if they did.
Zeke688@reddit
I think they may have died out with genX. We had a 10 year thing, there was rumors of a 20th in the works, but it all got cancelled because of Covid & now I just donāt think anyone cares.
bell83@reddit
The people I wanted to keep in touch with after school, I kept in touch with. I really couldn't care less about the rest of them, and I'm sure the feeling is mutual.
Imaginary-Race311@reddit
I graduated in 1999 and have no problem contacting the few classmates I care to talk to. I truly donāt care if the other classmates evolved from the insulated, privileged, racist, homophobic shitheads I left 27 years ago. I sure donāt want to hear about how theyāve breeded or partnered with.
Remote_Independent50@reddit
I went to my 15 year. It was fun. Would do again. You only need to see 2 people that you were cool with to make it worth it
throwaway8675309999s@reddit
Never been to one, so why start now?
Evendim@reddit
My school doesn't exist anymore, so... at 42 I have never been to a reunion.
CreativeFedora@reddit
Our 10 year reunion was organized flawlessly in 2011 via a Facebook group. Oh, what a time when social media was novel and useful. Our 20th was disrupted by the pandemic.
Wish us luck for our 30th in 2031. š¤£
NicePatience43@reddit
We started a Facebook group, had people add others. It's not very active but we do have people "gathered". It's a fairly good representation of our class, we do have a couple that no one can track down, we're 2 years out from our 30 year and we've been looking for them since our 10 year.
S4FFYR@reddit
Mine was an overpriced excuse for the mean kids to show theyāre still the mean kids. It was organized in a private FB group & they declined to accept half the class because āew, they were losers.ā $50 per person for a cocktail party at a crappy bar downtown with enough canapĆ©s for everyone to have 1.5 & 2 watered down drink tickets. Oh and it was 2 days after xmas- but the juniors who did early graduation and technically graduated as part of our class werenāt allowed to come because it was ājust the OG classā
I went to a bar down the street from the venue, texted the few people I knew who were going & about an hour later most of the people Iād wanted to see decided to come join me. Needless to say, I got kicked out of the reunion FB group š
Brokelynne@reddit
I was class of '99. I remember just after graduation our class president trying to get everyone to join some paid database that likely went defunct sometime during the first GWB administration, then Classmates.com, which was rendered obsolete by Facebook, if the constant spam emails weren't a deterrent in their own right.
In the intervening years, I believe we've had a 10-year (went for that), a 15-year and an event coinciding for the 20-year that was more a casual bar meetup rather than a full-fledged reunion. Zippo for the 25, which is one of the years that's made out to be a bigger deal. I think the 15 and 20 were organized on our class Facebook page.
noonesaidityet@reddit
There are maybe two people out of my entire class that I don't already see regularly that I would like to see. One of them actually showed up at the 25th, reunion and I kind of wish I had gone just to see him and then bolt. I have zero interest in reliving my high school days. I had a lot of fun, but also not.
litchick@reddit
For our last reunion we kind of glommed on to 99, I think (I'm 98) and there was clearly a lot of people missed and they were kind of pissed about it. For our thirtieth I was going to propose starting with facebook but then branching out and asking classmates to contact people not on social media and just creating a spreadsheet, having a few point people and just saying, if you want to continue to get information on class reunions, you need to contact one of these people with your updated info.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
That's a good idea to try and contact other year organizers, thanks! We have a Facebook group and an Instagram, and that's been the bulk of the finds, but it's still only about 90 of 500 people. I'm finding it funny that our age group (and prior) has been uniquely able to vanish compared to people where tech has always been a part of their lives. I mean obviously they can choose to disappear but I think they are likely easier to find.
AgPatriotAg@reddit
They know. Most people really HATED high school and would rather not go see "everybody" they once knew. I'm sure those who had glory in their high school days will reach out and find each other.
solomons-marbles@reddit
Yet to go to one. I still live in my hometown. Iām friends with the people I want be, social media keeps me up on more than I need to know. The idea of seeing people I havenāt seen in 20+ years, repeating the same small talk all night is just fucking torture.
msondo@reddit
I went to the 10 year and the 20 year.
The 10 year was unofficial - just some random friends that I still keep in touch with. We invited a few other friends so it was maybe 10-15 people and we were all fairly close in high school but didn't necessarily talk to each other. It was a fun night just goofing off at a bar when we went our separate ways and I haven't talked to the folks that I wasn't already talking to since. I realized most had gone in different directions and we just had our own lives to worry about but I was glad we had all moved on and were doing different things.
The 20 year was the official one. Holy hell that was awkward. I think maybe 50 out of the 600 or so kids I graduated with showed up. The only reason I went was because it was just a few minutes from my home and it was at this new bar that was pouring 20 oz of a high ABV beer I liked (most bars will only give you a 8 oz pour.) I tried talking to a few people - everybody just seemed so sad and uninteresting, even with all the alcohol. I still physically cringe a bit thinking about that evening - just how strange and awkward everything was. To be honest, I didn't remember like 80% of the people there and the ones that I did recognize seemed more or less exactly the same and had nothing really interesting to say. There was an arcade in the back so my partner and I slipped there, played some games, then bounced out without saying bye to anyone.
crazycatlady331@reddit
You couldn't pay me a winning powerball ticket to go to my HS reunion. I wanted nothing to do with my class then and I sure as fuck don't want anything to do with them now.
_R_A_@reddit
If they really wanted to find me, it wouldn't be that hard. I really only keep up with my best friend from back in the day, but I have a sufficiently public professional profile that I wouldn't be hard to identify. So I assume they don't care to reach out to me or they aren't doing them; either way, it would be the same people who never moved away hanging out in the same crap bar they probably do every weekend anyway.
psilosophist@reddit
I forgot those people the second I was done, and had no interest in ever revisiting that time. Back when I used facebook for more than just marketplace, I'd get friend requested by people who I'd apparently spent 4 years in homeroom with and didn't remember them at all.
The best was I'd get requested by former bullies, and they'd be cops, divorced, or have pictures of their kids in their profile and strong opinions on family court, showing a shocking lack of evolution or personal growth.
So I'm good on ever seeing those people again (helps that I'm thousands of miles away from where I went to high school now).
After_Preference_885@reddit
Always cops or nurses š sometimes a teacher
jaqattack02@reddit
Yep, this. The few friends I had from school that were actual friends I still see off and on were people I knew from middle school or earlier. I went to a different high school than they did. I still see them from time to time but have zero interest in seeing the people I went to HS with.
paintedwoodpile@reddit
We have a Facebook group for our class that is rarely monitored. Lots of hackers trying to sell t-shirts. A couple of people post up if anyone one passes away. They do one every gathering about 5 years or so. For the 20th, they tracked down nearly everyone in our class to invite them. I hear it was a good turn out. If anyone from back then wants to reach out, I am easily found on social media. So far, not that many people have done so. Same from my end.
tultommy@reddit
Nope not at all. I don't want to attend them and I sure have no intention of helping to plan them lol. The rich assholes I went to school with want $300 a ticket to attend ours this year. I laughed and remembered I hated those people in high school so I have no idea why they think I'd want to see them now. I can see they all got fat and went bald on facebook lol.
IkariYun@reddit
If we liked them, we still have some kind of contact. If not, I don't want to see how successful or big of a failure they are. I have social media for that
Havering_To_You@reddit
Well yeah, if you care about reunions, you aren't supposed to wait 25-30 years to make first contact. The organizer should have been doing these every 5-10 years since graduation and keeping contact info up to date.
If no one has been doing that, it's a good indication that no one cares. Which brings me to my next point:
Spoiler Alert: No one cares. My school has been very active since graduation, very large class, like only 8 people ever show up. And they're mostly the people who weren't even part of anything at the school.
I know exactly how the small group people I care about from high school are doing and I think most people are about the same.
ACorania@reddit
Quite frankly I would limit it to things like Facebook.
Not everyone wants to participate or has any desire to do so. Most of the people who do will be on something like facebook because they value staying in touch.
Keep a spreadsheet to track who you know that knows about it. Ask those who do care to reach out to any that you haven't been able to.
Be ok with the fact that you can't reach them all... they are fine with you not being able to reach them.
I would be annoyed if people from highschool were reaching out to me on linkedin, don't do that.
cloudydays2021@reddit
Was your high school in NYC? Asking because of your username. I went to high school in NYC and no one from my school or any friends that went to other public high schools ever had an official reunion. Curious about this!
Anyway good on you for taking on such a big task. It isnāt easy organizing stuff like this, regardless of how people feel about reunions.
nycorganizer@reddit (OP)
No, I did not. We had a small 20th reunion in CA that was decent and it was interesting to see how everyone turned out as well as the school (they did a campus tour the day after the party). It was also affirming of my life decisions (chiefly to leave ASAP). Now that we're older, everyone was nice at least.
Jerkrollatex@reddit
My school uses it's Facebook page or did. I'm not going.
Spartan04@reddit
My class has tried to have a few reunions, though thereās never been a lot of interest so I think they have either been cancelled or just become a bar meetup each time. I always referred to my class as the āmehā class when it came to school spirit and things like that, especially when compared to the class before us. So Iām not surprised there isnāt a ton of interest in reunions.
PiggyBear6667@reddit
I went to a catholic school that always seems to find me and ask for money. If there was a reunion invite, I probably tossed it thinking they were asking for money.
brokenman82@reddit
My class had a 20 year reunion and like 20 people showed up. Out of 400. And I looked at the pics and didnāt recognize 18 of them:
big_ringer@reddit
Every time I went back home, I was reminded of all the reasons I left in the first place. Hard pass on high school reunions.
Jimmy_McAltPants@reddit
I keep up with the 2 or 3 people I care about from high school, donāt care about seeing too many of the rest. I skipped my 15 and 20 year reunions, and I guess my 30 year will be coming up in a couple years, and Iām pretty positive I wonāt be at that one, either.
Double-Mouse-407@reddit
Anyone from back then that needs to know how to contact me already does.
Greedy_Practice_5327@reddit