ULPT How should I stop a my best friend's sister coming to me house?
Posted by Regular_Chip_8693@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 23 comments
My best friend stays in another country. I met her younger sister just twice and don't really like her personality as she seems to have a bad temper. The sister called me suddenly 2 days ago saying that she has some work for 2 days and will be coming to stay at my place. I didn't get time to make an excuse since I work here and ended up saying yes since I do not want issues with my best friend. But now I am regretting the decision because I have too much office work to host another person on weekdays and my parents aren't thrilled about her coming and staying because she is not close to me and they are busy too. They were telling me why can't she stay at a hotel. (And honestly why is she even coming here when I hardly know her. She shouldn't have asked in the first place)She has booked her flight to come and hasn't even told me her flight time to go back even though I asked her. I am stressed that she might end up staying for more time. How do I stop her from coming or ensure that she goes back the next day. I cannot directly tell her to not come or go early due to my best friend. Pls suggest some thing!
Sfb208@reddit
"hi, sorry, but I live with my parents and they say you can't stay, you'll need to find a hotel"
Or "i was flustered on the call we had because you caught me by surprise and I didn't know what to say, but on reflection, afraid staying at mine isn't a possibility and you'll need to find a hotel"
CaterpillarJungleGym@reddit
This is Unethical tips. Have them stay, thrown a party, "sleep walk" and recite German poetry. Tell them you only allow eggs as food in the house.
Fallout4Addict@reddit
"Sorry but you can't stay with me, my parents said no and as its there house I can't go against them. I should never have agreed without asking them first. Here's a list of local hotels/Airbnb in my area"
Followed by a short list (dont bother doing major research just pop down what Google pops out 1st)
decmcc@reddit
"my parents are uneasy about someone they don't know,
they said you (bf) are welcome to stay here and your sister can stay at yours"
lun4d0r4@reddit
1: she did NOT ask, she told you she was staying at yours.
2: tell her something has come up and there isn't space for her to stay. Say it now, ASAP so there is time to make other plans.
3: learn from this and JUST SAY NO next time.
originalmango@reddit
Tell her as soon as possible that you’ve changed your mind, and when she still shows up (which she will) don’t let her in. No explanation needed, just a firm no.
Draigdwi@reddit
No need to say OP changed their mind. Their parents live in the house too, they have a bigger say on who visits. Call, say the plan wasn’t approved.
insquestaca@reddit
Definitely call her back now and tell her no while she has time to make a reservation at a hotel. She has a lot of nerve and actually is not your friend.
vyrus2021@reddit
Does your best friend have a history of being upset when your refuse her sister's unreasonable demands or are you an insecure people pleaser?
Witty_Candle_3448@reddit
If she is on a work trip, her employer should pay for a hotel. If she is coming for pleasure, tell her you can't host her.
Jammer125@reddit
Don't open me door
Realistic_Store9122@reddit
Ugh, you look sick... Better no let anyone stay with you, might get them sick.
magseven@reddit
Do you live with your parents or do your parents live with you? If it's the former, say your parents are sick and you can't have guests at their place. If it's your place, tell her she's more than welcome, but she'll have to share a room with Carl. Who is Carl? Carl is the homeless guy you're going to give a room to for a couple of days if she calls your bluff.
Weary-Babys@reddit
Claim bedbugs.
monkeywelder@reddit
has she been made aware of the implications?
easterss@reddit
Tell her your parents are not okay with any guests at this time? Make up whatever reason
mslisath@reddit
That would be the truth
Quirky-Invite7664@reddit
Let her know now that your parents said no, they’re not comfortable having anyone outside the family staying there.
Then get therapy to learn how to set boundaries. You can’t spend the rest of your life avoiding uncomfortable discussions. Having uncomfortable discussions is part of being an adult.
I would also suggest you learn what “red flags” are. The fact that someone you barely know informed (didn’t ASK) you that she will be staying at YOUR PARENTS’ house (not YOUR house) is a giant red flag. And the fact that your best friend thinks this is acceptable for her sister to behave this way is another red flag.
writinglegit2@reddit
"Im afraid to say no, what do I do?? A person wants to do whatever they want to me, but im afraid!!!"
Fucks sake
tetheredvoid@reddit
You seem afraid to be honest with your best friend, so you might want to check if you are really "best" friends. Your happiness should be more important than this.
Icy_Huckleberry_8049@reddit
WTF? She self-invited herself to stay at your place?
Just tell her, "NO"
No is a complete statement and doesn't need an explanation.
thewharfartscenter_@reddit
You need to talk to your best friend, or tell her you have some communicable virus and can’t have guests.
i-am-foxymoron@reddit
This is when you find out if she is truly your best friend. You need to have a conversation with her. A best friend would still be your friend after something like this.