A classmate of mine popped up on Facebook and he’s… old

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hair_10@reddit

I dated my wife in high school. We went our separate ways and then reconnected and got married. I hadn't seen her in 33 years. She's still gorgeous. :)

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DirkDaring93@reddit

So whats the story on breakup and reconnection? What surprised you the most about how she changed over those years?

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The breakup... we were kids. Went off to college, tried the long distance thing, but we both had so much to learn and do. There's no way *I* (I won't speak for her) was ready for "forever" at that time. And when we split it didn't go well. I was an immature ass, and I didn't treat her very well.

Reconnection... after going our separate ways for 30+ years, we had both lived lives outside of each other. Both married, I had kids, living in different cities. While I was going through my divorce (after my ex's affair), I thought to myself "I really need to try and apologize for the way I acted as a kid". It's been my one big regret that I carried with me though life, because I am not that person any longer. I found her on FB, sent her a message, and basically said "I don't mean to intrude on your life and I don't expect a response, but I just wanted to say sorry for the person I was back then and how I treated you". I figured that was that. But, a short time later, she responded. We ended up talking on the phone that night and things just evolved from there. That was 7 years ago this week. We're now married and I'm probably the happiest I've been in my adult life.

What surprised me was easy it was to reconnect with her. It was like no time had passed and we just kind of fell back into it. As far as how she's changed, she used to be a quiet, reserved, almost naive girl in high school. Now she's a strong independent woman who definitely has a voice... and I love that about her.

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AndYouDidThatBecause@reddit

I know right?

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jzoola@reddit

How to say your wife has access to your Reddit account without saying she has access to your account.

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hair_10@reddit

Lol. She doesn't use reddit.

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

Yay!

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LetThem_1972@reddit

For all of those going on about the fat, bald popular football player and his now fat, wrinkled "cheerleader" wife: Admit that it makes you feel good to see them age poorly. This seems to be one of the top reasons people attend high school reunions. Lots of shit talking and gossip about people's looks.

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Cytwytever@reddit

Girls that barely spoke to me in high school were all hugs and smiles at my 30th reunion. It was weird.

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JamWen2@reddit

Some people change and some people stay stuck.

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heathers1@reddit

The women from my year are generally aging better than the men, according to FB pics

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IHadTacosYesterday@reddit

most people have a FB profile pic that was taken YEARS ago

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AllReflection@reddit

They try, many men don’t bother to spruce up.

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Pretty-Biscotti-5256@reddit

Every time I look in the mirror.

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DirkDaring93@reddit

Yep, an ex girlfriend I last saw in 96. In my minds eye she is still presenting as 19. Saw her in a work video this year at age 49 and fuck was my mind blown! Still looks like her and she looks good, but had a hard time reconciling her age in my head.

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nasalgoat@reddit

Went to a Death Cab for Cutie concert and was shocked when Ben Gibbard came out and had grey hair.

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Legitimate_Working11@reddit

Every time I go to a concert I realize the venue is full of old people, and that I fit in.

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flyboy_za@reddit

I thought this at a Pixies gig back in 2014, and then the older crowd (I was a young 37 and there were plenty in their mid 50s there) went absolutely apeshit with booze and what I assume were many drugs, and had the psychedelic time of their lives at the show.

Apparently the party doesn't have to stop as you level up. Which was part comforting, part terrifying.

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CollectsTooMuch@reddit

Truth. Headed to one tonight with a bunch of other old timers.

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dadsgoingtoprison@reddit

I saw a picture of a boyfriend from high school and he looks like Dumbledore now.

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DogSmoocher42@reddit

I'm super curious to see what my hs boyfriend looks like now. Why? I have no idea. He's not on any social media though so I could walk right past him and never know.

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AlarmingMonk1619@reddit

What’s weird is how everyone except me has fallen off the cliff!

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CollectsTooMuch@reddit

Yeah. Somehow, old people replaced the people that I went to school with. WTF!!!

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

WTF!

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believe_in_dog@reddit

This happened to me with BillieJoe Armstrong: I legit had a mini midlife spiral a couple years ago when I saw a new Green Day video- they had fallen off my radar 15-20 years ago. They are IN THEIR FIFTIES! Then of course I realised that I too was about to turn 50. WTF!!

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Logintheroad@reddit

He looks great though! I try to catch Green day live as much as possible. They have so much energy and enthusiasm for their fan. Love them.

(Also a very early 70's baby.)

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believe_in_dog@reddit

He does look great! I’m a 75er and always had a crush on on him haha. Actually, seeing him still kicking butt inspired me to learn ukelele and get back into art/ writing. And Saviors completely pulled me -and my family!- back into Green Day. We wanted to go to the Saviors tour but were out of town when they played in Toronto. My 10 year old loves them!

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IranticBehaviour@reddit

Haha. He and Eminem are both '72 babies, so very slightly younger than I am. And, I look a little younger than I am (as long as I stay clean-shaven or dye the beard, lol, the profusion of grey and white whiskers adds 10 years), but those guys look pretty great for their age.

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believe_in_dog@reddit

I’m a 75er, so I always looked at them as my bratty older brothers 😂. The do look great!

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

WTF!!

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yearsofpractice@reddit

Hey OP. I’ve got some very bad news for you. You’ll want to sit down for this.

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LetThem_1972@reddit

Nailed it

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

😭 😭

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glucoman01@reddit

My thoughts exactly.

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Watermelon_Sugar44@reddit

My brothers are old and I only see them on Facebook. Even my younger brother is old. This is what helps me accept the lines on my face and my wrinkles under my chin. People my age look at me like I'm attractive and they tell me I'm attractive. I'm a little above average for a woman who doesn't get fillers, botox or anything else done to my face. I accept it. I focus on being grateful to be healthy and alive. I think working in healthcare helps me frame getting older with a sense of gratitude. So many people don't get the opportunity to stay alive this long.

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

Love it!

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ZealousidealGrab1827@reddit

Sit down. I have some news for you.

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

Nooooooooooo

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I-used2B-a-Valkyrie@reddit

Saw a photo last year of the Football Captain and his wife, the Cheerleader. They were gorgeous in HS!

He’s morbidly obese and bald now, looks at least 75. She’s also pretty heavy set (no judgement) and her face just looks like … you know that phrase “it’s not the years, it’s the mileage?” That. They both look mid-seventies.

We all turned 50 in the last 90 days. I was shocked. Showed some friends who had no idea who they were. They’re unrecognizable now.

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sipperphoto@reddit

That's how they all turned out. All the hot girls look wrecked, and the very average girls from HS look pretty good. The dudes are either in halfway decent shape or old, fat, and bald.

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Kodiak01@reddit

Saw a photo last year of the Football Captain and his wife, the Cheerleader. They were gorgeous in HS!

He’s morbidly obese and bald now, looks at least 75. She’s also pretty heavy set (no judgement) and her face just looks like … you know that phrase “it’s not the years, it’s the mileage?” That. They both look mid-seventies.

Growing up, there was a guy a few years older than me that had the quintessential "Ladies Man" thing going. He was constantly with one girl after another. He was good looking, in shape and outgoing.

Last picture I saw of him was several years ago; he had also become morbidly obese almost to the point of reminding me of the WoW guy from South Park. No clue about his wife. He didn't have mileage, he had an odometer that flipped at least twice.

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changelingcd@reddit

It's funny when you see their photo on FB and think "Gosh, they really aged well" and then realize that's their kid.

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zephyrthewonderdog@reddit

Mate went to an army regiment reunion. He said he walked in and it was a bunch of ‘fat old men with grey hair’. He remembered them all as 20yr old recruits. Then realised he appeared exactly the same to them. Another old ex soldier.

Told me he wasn’t going to anymore ‘fucking shit military reunions’ as it depressed him for weeks. Said he should have spent the day with his grandkids instead.

We had a laugh at how angry he got about it. He realised it was irrational but it still hit home.

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Kodiak01@reddit

Told me he wasn’t going to anymore ‘fucking shit military reunions’ as it depressed him for weeks. Said he should have spent the day with his grandkids instead.

I know several old vets that actually bring the grandkids to the VFW and Legion with them. They sit together off to one side, sip sodas and tell funny stories to the kids while playing checkers.

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Dadaballadely@reddit

For me it's seeing someone in the street I think I recognise from school or college then suddenly realising that the person I'm looking at is probably 20 years too young to be the person I thought it was.

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Kodiak01@reddit

75er. I showed my wife current pictures of two women I went to early elementary school with. One of them not only looked 70 years old instead of 50, she looked almost like that in another photo a decade older! The other, she could honestly pass for early-mid 30s with ease.

I don't really see many pictures of others otherwise as I tend to stay away from Instabook, Facespace and the like as much as possible.

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illpoet@reddit

I recently reconnecting with my high school best friend's little sister at a funeral and it was really jarring bc she wasn't the pesky kid trying to hang out that I remember

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togocann49@reddit

Happens sometimes when I look in the mirror

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loCAtek@reddit

I'm divorced and single now, so I get some nice guys asking for my phone number, despite turning 60 this year.

I realized I've been declining their requests because 'they're all so old'. Well, shoot girl, you ain't no spring chicken!

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oopswhat1974@reddit

This past weekend I saw a friend of mine walking down the street with what I presumed was an elderly gray-bearded man -maybe a neighbor, or a friend of his dad's? Thin, looked almost frail-ish maybe? I was wracking my brain doing "who is that old man walking with Bob?"

I got up close and realized "holy shit that's _____ " (an old friend of ours - meaning known a long time, not as in age old). That... Struck me.

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Quirky-Buddy1449@reddit

I’m genX. Born 1966. Most of my male peers rock the grey facial hair that never looks to be groomed. Dudes, it looks like you don’t care but that shit ages you 15 to 20 years.

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WantDastardlyBack@reddit

We had a group of mean girls who would ridicule anyone who didn't spend every free hour at local tanning salons. I bumped into one of them a few years ago. Her skin was trashed, alligator hide, and all I could think was I'm glad I let my pale white skin remain pale.

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RedHighlander@reddit

Everytime I “FaceTime” with someone, I’m aghast at the old person I see in the top right corner (me).

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Fannnybaws@reddit

Same with some photos. Weird how in a mirror you always look 28!

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ContributionDapper84@reddit

Yes. +40 yrs all at once.

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TowerOfSisyphus@reddit

Even weirder - I used to be a high school teacher and now see some of my former students (10-15 years younger) who look older than I do now.

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Seyforth@reddit

Beastie “Boys” RIP Adam Yauch

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Necessary-Peace9672@reddit

I still live in my old neighborhood—sometimes I’ll be at the store and say, “That must be Phil’s dad…wait—that’s Phil!”

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DiogenesXenos@reddit

I’m 47 and on a recent trip home there was a little 70-year-old lady working security at the casino, turned out that was a former classmate of mine 🤣

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AZPeakBagger@reddit

I moved away from the city I went to college in and swore I'd never return. Life happened and ended up back here about 8 years ago. I do community outreach for a large non-profit so I interact with a lot of people on a daily basis and about 1-2 times a year I bump into someone I used to know back in the 80's. I then need to do quick mental calculations to see if the overweight and bald guy I'm talking to was the same guy that was wiry and had long flowing heavy metal hair that I used to work with or that sat next to me in class.

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Public-Significance7@reddit

Seen my 20th high school reunion photos and the number of guys I knew back then that are now bald was disturbing...the women seemed to be the ones that got fat. Like really fat.

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TC_Stock@reddit

I'm pretty sure that I'm the guy surprising everyone at how old I look.

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GrouchyPreference765@reddit

Went to my 30th reunion a few years ago. Those three decades were definitely kinder to some more than others.

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phinphis@reddit

Same, went to my 20th. Was shocked how some ppl aged faster than others.

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Neko_Dash@reddit

Last year, I met a classmate for the first time in 35 years.
His first words to me were, “Wow! You’re old.”

Yeah, I hear that’s going around.

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notguiltybrewing@reddit

I had a friend who sent me photos from the 30th high school reunion, everyone looked old. I didn't make it to the 40th, that friend has passed away by then. I saw photos on the internet. Everyone is old af, I barely recognized anyone.

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zhabesha@reddit

I went to a Duran Duran concert like 10 years ago and as I am on he bus to the venue from the parking lot, I’m wondering why all the parents are on the bus with me…

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geth1962@reddit

My friend from school appeared on my Facebook feed. I could not get over how much she had aged. We're all aging, but some seem to be aging faster.

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4158264146@reddit

I don't get that but fuck him because he needs it. On a side note, I hope it's me.

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AussieBelgian@reddit

I recently went back home to Belgium, first time since 2018 and everyone who was relatively young when I last went is now… not anymore. It was a real shock.

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Oxjrnine@reddit

My best friend and junior high in high school, we meet up for coffee once every six months or so. It’s very relaxing even though we’re not close like we were when we were young men.

But my God, staring across the table I thank my lucky stars that I understood the importance of sunscreen at a very early age.

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IdontLikeYou____@reddit

Don't jerk yourself off too hard over it, everyone else knows your old, just with smoother skin.

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Repulsive_Client_325@reddit

“Let’s not start sucking each other’s dicks just yet…”

~ Mr. Wolf

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BraveG365@reddit

The people I have seen recently on Facebook that was in high school have either gotten really fat....or have had so much plastic surgery they look like a chipmunk that got caught in a wind tunnel...or they look like they are ready for the over 80 retirement community.

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gramma-space-marine@reddit

I have a few friends that have all three!

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general-illness@reddit

I am completely unrecognizable from my younger self.

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JenNtonic@reddit

One of mine just did the opposite. He went quiet for a few months. Always a quirky looking guy. Did the lookmaxxing thing with the jaw bone surgery, hunter eyes, skin resurfacing, brought the hairline back into place, etc and the guy looks 25 now. Blown away. It’s the first person I’ve seen genuinely look amazingly younger.

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kerrykcb@reddit

I guess I’m too old to know what hunter eyes are?

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

Right! We’re not old. Just poor. ;)

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JenNtonic@reddit

You have a point

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imrickjamesbioch@reddit

Bwahaha I feel old every morning when I get out of bed… No social media pics needed. 🤣

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

When I was growing up, my mom used to say, “Every day you wake up not in pain is a good day” and I thought, ‘Well that’s dramatic.’ But now I get it!

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

When I was growing up, my mom used to say, “Every day you wake up not in pain is a good day” and I thought, ‘Well that’s dramatic.’ But now I get it!

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S99B88@reddit

Everyone seems to have changed. Except me of course, I look the same as I remember

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juliaskankles@reddit

I saw pics from a reunion and thought who are all those old people.

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balboasale187@reddit

All the people in my high school are now fat and old

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DJ_in_Kanata@reddit

I went to see Peter Hook & the Light (Bass player from Joy Division and later, New Order) and thought, what's with all these old people?

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charlotteagrammatica@reddit

Hands down one of the best shows I've ever seen. We're seeing him again in September.

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mrscindikitty@reddit

You shouldn’t have to explain Peter Hook. That’s old.

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DJ_in_Kanata@reddit

Most Canadians outside of major cities have no idea who they are.

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L_wanderlust@reddit

Yes definitely! But also some people age a lot rougher and faster than others. Some lead harder lives and/or don’t live healthy lives and it shows big time

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InevitableOk5017@reddit

Sun damage to skin, smoking, alcohol, sugar intake , lack of sleep , lack of exercise. I could go on and on.

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highknees69@reddit

And?

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L_wanderlust@reddit

Exactly

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FormCheck655321@reddit

Recently saw an alumni magazine from my high school with photos of the class of 2001 and those guys are graying, balding, and thick around the waist.

And I’m… much older than that. 😢😢😢

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HistoricalStatus5577@reddit

I’m old GenX with an upcoming birthday - what are we doing, what should we be doing and what are we absolutely not bothering with as we stare down 60? Btw, still think I’m 17.

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GoslingIchi@reddit

That's better than what happened with my friend.

I hadn't seen him in person for nearly two decades, and then it seems he was stage 4. His fb avatar was him. Granted it was him in a hospital bed with the air tube to his nose, but it was him.

Then when I went to see him, he was a skeleton with skin.

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Tiny-Balance-341@reddit (OP)

That’s so sad. And a reminder that aging well is better than the alternative. Sorry about your friend.

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GoslingIchi@reddit

Thank you.

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MarkDavid04@reddit

A highschool buddy of mine became a doctor. He's now my customer (medical sales). Was a great reunion, but damn he got old!! (Grey hair, balding, wrinkles... Age happens lol)

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Kong_AZ@reddit

All the time.

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Blue_Henri@reddit

When my friends and I were talking at a reunion after party two years ago one said “who were all of those old ass men???”

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texasdiver@reddit

There are a few people in my class that I remember the young version, I can see the current version, but I cannot see what possibly happened along the way to make them change so much.

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VanillaHuel@reddit

I saw a wedding photo when classmare got married out of college. Recently, saw a photo on FB and thought Gee, that new spouse still looks the same. Gasp: it was their lookalike now-adult offspring. The real spouse was in another photo....

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TheAnarchyChicken@reddit

I was just watching a mashup of John Mayer (my youth obsession) and Paul Simon (my childhood obsession) from VH1 - from back when they had music - and I said out loud “Oh god, why does this look so OLD?!? Why do they look so young??? Oh… oh god…” and then I had to stop myself from crying.

Menopause is a bitch and clearly my TV is broken.

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