i plan on doing that at one point, i just dont feel like it, im kind of just tired of doing anything, like going out my way to pay money for sex i really dont have the horniness for anymore
honestly, i dont have any friends either i hang out with. id be doing this by myself in my shitty apartment, i doubt id have fun. thats it too, man. im just a fucking loser on all points
i dont have anything to start out with. if i had friends who hung out with, id be somewhere, do coke and drink with them. going out at my age (28) by myself, like some club, and then just bother a group of people who dont know me, arent interested in knowing me, is not going to work out
Unless you're saying crazy shit that scares people, it actually probably will work out
Bars and clubs are places people go to be social. Just gotta practice talking to people. I've had my fair share of awkward encounters. It still happens today even. But you just shrug your shoulders, walk away, and move onto the next person that you think you'd like to talk to.
I understand how incredibly daunting it seems, but it's much easier than any of us make it out to be. I find the average person is generally happy to engage in conversation with a friendly stranger.
Mental health and physical health effect each other. Start doing 50 pushups two days each week. Even if you have to do them 2 at a time. Just keep going till you get to 50 for the day.
Lift some weights, you'd be surprised what it can do for your self esteem. One time purchase, lift them until they stop being heavy. At that point you'll have your mojo back and want to do more. Get yourself out of this temporary slump
i know this, but at the moment, i have some things to worry about and i just cannot go work out. shitty excuse, i would go more into it, but thats too private
And also, I just meant buying some dumbbells to lift at home, do some curls and tricep exercises, you'd be surprised how quickly weights start feeling light, even if you can't see the results in your arms yet, which you will a little, but you wouldn't be getting compliments about it just yet, but you yourself will see it, and once you can do 10+ reps of any kind of exercise you know it's time to add some more weight, at which point you might say to yourself "fuck it, I'm gonna start going to the gym, I'm making progress here" and that's you getting the ball rolling and realising you have potential to be a better version of yourself. Water that seed and see what happens
Je bent niet alleen vriend. Ik herken mezelf in wat je zegt. Ook voorbij het punt dat het me uitmaakt. De ‘het is gewoon niet voor me weggelegd’ gedachte overwint.
laat maar zitten, weet je wel? het heeft het punt bereikt dat de "moeite" dat het kost om uberhaupt mn broek uit te doen voor een prostitue iets is dat te veel gevraagd is door de frustaties met het krijgen van een vrouw die ik in het verleden heb gehad
Also I don't know how but women can just like... Smell desperation on you. I went through a phase when I was younger where I didn't get any action for years. Then one day I got a fat libtard gf who sucked. It wasnt a pleasant experience by any means but it just opened the flood gates. Suddenly women were interested in me. I could get girls off tinder. It was such a weird phenomenon I can't explain it. It's just like... They can sense no other girl wants you.
The ultimate pheromone for women seems to be being in a committed relationship.
It's really not that hard to tell when someone is desperate for anything, really. A lot of it comes down to overly praising, being overly nice to the point that it feels like they want something from you, and just being way too awkward for a normal social interaction. Think about it this way:
The person with the most leverage in any negotiation is the one who's more willing to walk away from the table.
A lot of the girls who are at least around average have a good handful of guys who have or are actively showing some kind of interest in them, but many of them suck in some way. Socially, it's just much more common for men to be the initiators and women to be the ones to accept or reject intimacy. Guys who have no prior luck with girls in the past, because they have fewer opportunities to interact with a girl they might be interested in due to being the ones that have to initiate most of the tine, are more likely to be desperate to make any shot they shoot work. Conversely, guys who have had success in the past understand that rejection will happen, and it's not a big deal, and they go into every approach with the mindset that there's plenty of opportunities to try again so long as they actually look for them and try. They treat it like a numbers game instead of taking each rejection personally. The first group comes off as desperate, and the second comes off as confident, and a lot of that is shown in how much they care about appeasing the individual girls they talk to.
If girls are interested in you while you're in a committed relationship, that means you ARE plenty attractive, but you just come off as too desperate when you're trying to get with them. And luckily, that's very fixable.
When socially unaware men are already in a relationship they are more likely to treat other women like normal human beings instead of fuckable quest loot where they have to pick the correct dialogue tree, because of this they can hold a somewhat bearable conversation without all the spaghetti falling out of their pockets. Thats all it is.
People can tell when you want something from them because you fucking homunculus have no tact and never overcame the shame of your Williams syndrome mother and deadbeat alcoholic father treating you like a pet fish instead of an independent conscious human being out of the guilt they feel from drinking/smoking during your pregnancy.
The stench of desperation is completely true and should be taught to boys at a young age. It's tough love but entirely fair. Stop always trying to make people happy in every social situation and stop 'being yourself' all the fucking time. Be good company instead.
Nah, I get it. Hanging around with a "People Pleaser" is just tiresome. Even as a friend, but for women it is especially unattractive.
Just think about it. You ask your friend "What do you want to do?" then they always say "Whatever". You ask "Do you want to hit the gym?" they say "Whatever you want." Okay which day are you free? "Whatver you want, anytime". Okay what do you want to train? Chest, back, legs? "Whatever, chief" Wanna grab some food after workout? "Whatever bro" What do you want to eat? "Whatever, anything you want" Is chicken okay? "Whatever".
yes, a woman can sense if you can get pussy from other women. and won't respect you if you can't. that's why a lot of relationships cool off. that's also why it is a good idea to flirt with other women while you are are public dates and I'm not joking.
Like almost everything there's the duality to it. Personal responsibility to do something now on your own and then there's the bigger societal trends that contribute to it.
This applies to everything basically from obesity to poverty to education. The bigger meta issue is that the more personal responsibility you put on people the more people will act individually to be better but the less likely you are to have a societal change to make it better.
Homeless ppl are homeless because they are lazy (not saying I disagree with your statement but it's certainly less than 90%, I'd say more likely around 50%).
There are 10% of men with IQ low enough that even military wouldn't let them in. There are also other factors that seem to be relevant more and more such as looks, and threshold for being considered "useless" keeps rising.
If we keep having more young military age men who are marginalized by society bad things will happen and it's better to prevent that by exposing systematic issues
Sounds exactly like the Anhedonia sub that I keep getting downvoted in.
“NO, other people can play video games and are perfectly happy, so I don’t understand why I’m so bored and depressed playing the same video game 24/7 for years, why would that make me anhedonic in any way?!”
Nah man I'm in a relationship and I can just do that any time I want pretty much. Gotta find you the right partner who can be okay with the statement "I want an alone time day"
"Women are all worthless whores with no accountability and bring nothing to the table except their clapped out bodies. Why are they always crawling on Chad instead of me?"
That was one of a myriad points I wanted to make but couldn't be bothered typing out.
Porn-damaged brains, insane expectations on relationships (she couldn't possibly be out drinking with friends to have fun; it must be because she is scouting for chads!), a genuine low-key economic depression impacting all aspects of life from dating to will to live(lmao).
Some dudes genuinely just don't take rejection that well and fall into despair after one "public humiliation" (she said no when you asked her out while she was hanging out with her friends), or just repeated rejection.
But they always fail to acknowledge the fact that, as with literally any person on this planet, you are not in 24/7 looking for a date-mode, unless you are extremely desperate. You are not going to make eye-contact across the room and immedietly find your soulmate. Most people are very picky, even towards people they likely could see themselves being in a relationship with, just because the first impression was wrong, or they aren't feeling like seeing someone at that moment, or a thousand other reasons.
Incels take every single "failure" as proof that reinforces their worldview. The only difference between them is what level of bitterness they have reached.
I remember reading some American medical officers report on the translators incidences if anal herpes there. Like that's just what guys there do. In some isolated places you might, like might over your entire life just see a couple women in your entire life because the women are so sheltered and kept behind closed doors there. Even then, they'd be covered head to toe so are you really even seeing them.
definitely a symptom but I’ve seen many men who behave like you say as a learned response, not because they came out that way. i mean they had a crush, they asked multiple girls out, every one of them laughed (even the fat one). some of these guys even shower regularly but they're still short and have a high pitched voice
See if this is the extent of how you socialize with women I have bad news for you buddy.
Just try to find any way to regularly be around a rotating group of mixed genders and sex will eventually just happen unless you act like a complete freak. Take it from me, a balding autistic weirdo with different size eyes who was a complete jackass in his youth, turns out none of these things are barriers for attractive women as long as you are able to have a normal conversation without fondling yourself
In my twenties I almost ended up as an incel but got my life turned around. Got fat after high school, started uni got fatter. No girls in that time but at least tried.
Gladly I have had girlfriends during school so eventually became motivated enough to get fit. And I never let school slip, got a degree and started working full time.
Got married eventually and now have kids
But had I not had that spurt of motivation and that one coworker that pulled me with him I might now be a miserable 40 year old with nothing in life.
I can kind of understand why these people can end up like that. You have to not give yourself up and they have a long time ago. Now with the economy spiraling downwards for normal people it can be even more difficult to have anything to fight for
Yeah I want to say I don't blame them; god knows we as people can be our own worst enemy.
But I swear most of the time, it is a combination of really weird expectations and a huge lack of trying. It's like asking a smoker how often they smoke; they'll usually give a number lower than reality.
No, showering, going to the gym and being a people-pleaser is not gonna get you a partner, that's like the bare minimum. You need other hobbies than gaming and going to the gym too (and let's be real here, most of them aren't regular gym-goers to begin with despite claiming it).
idk man me personally i have good grooming skin care exercise often, executive of some social clubs in uni, active in said clubs, earn 30 bucks an hour (which should be good for my age) treat women well have alot of female friends who think good of me but still KHHV and im like rlly close to choosing to blame society ong either that or neck rope
I’m late 20s and when I was 19 decided to change that. Started lifting, running, got a color chart on my phone so I could dress nicer, moisturizing my face, started walking around the neighborhood to practice saying hi to people. Basically unfucking my brain and body (I was a drug addict gooner, straight up addicted to opiates when I was 16, just weed and tons of alcohol after that). Now I’ve slept with +50 women but I’m still a greentext loser at heart. The deep seated emotional problems do go away. I don’t think anyone will like me if I don’t have abs and big arms. It doesn’t get better. Give up now.
4 relationships across 8-10 years with space between for "+50" casual fucks means I doubt these were any sort of substantial relationships bro. I've been with the same woman for 8 years and married since September and I'm perfectly happy
Not much really, but there is dudes who literally dated girls when they around 14, sleep with them around 18 and till they graduate from college and after that romantic and social life become chud looser wageslave
Maybe their love life is not so grate and full of sadness, maybe they just tired of girls and "bad" bitches and want trad wife and good life, or j*b and living in this fucked world kills any libido and suck up energy so you never have a chance to meet someone outside your workplace
In the end they feel even worse then dudes who never tried it, because they already did it, like it, and understand that they can't do this anymore, while virgins already adapted to lonely life
Yeah except for:
approaching people on the street, you’re a creep
Approaching someone at work: creep
Approaching someone at a gym or other shared hobby space: creep
Meeting people online: good luck jumping through all the inflated expectations of the female user base also it’s literally rigged to monetize your loneliness.
No one has ever shown interest in me. At some point you stop expecting it and just give up.
The people who would call you for a creep or say 'Women don't want to be bothered by you at blank activity' don't speak for all women and are full of shit tbh, obviously respect it if they aren't open to it but in person will have a way higher success rate for normal guys compared to online dating if you're actively trying. Becoming a regular somewhere and going out of you way to shoot the shit and banter with them, workung on in person social interactions and getting used to akwardness will put you ahead of most dudes. This is all only if you really care enough to try though, plenty of people don't anymore and it's hard to blame them with how it is currently.
You can tell yourself that but it's really not that rare. Sounds like you are coping with the fact that this is just a massive skill issue on your part.
yeah, thats my conclusion. ive given it a few attempts, tbh im tall, okay looking and have resources so its not hard.
but its just... not even remotely worth it. sex in general is just wildly overrated imo, i dont understand how its the central motivator for most people.
unless you find the needle in the haystack girl whos actually smart, interesting and attractive but that might as well be a unicorn
just went back to being permanently single, i even get approached once in a while and have just straight up declined.
No need to type out "umm", but that's weird, sounds like that boyfriend is more of a speed bump than a stop sign. She still hugged another dude who she thought slapped her arse. I would say go slap some arses and be a cheeky, indifferent arsehole. Women like that if you can be funny about it and not creepy. Some folk don't know how to walk that line though
Well maybe something could have been there... But it felt a bit weirdish... Since she already had somebody she was with.
I just rather not walk the line since I'm scared to be called a creep😭. Still traumatized by some guy that dragged his lady friend to me saying that she would like to be my GF and she gave me the yuck face. Now I feel like if I talk to a women in the back of my mind that woman would also be yucking mentally but being nice externally😫
Nah nah, you're looking at this from the wrong perspective. You are not in a job interview looking for a girlfriend to "hire" you. You're always going to feel second best in that dynamic. Throw the whole girlfriend thing out the window for now and just try to get to know people, ask yourself if they would be a good fit for you, not you for them. If you can actually embrace that mindset and put yourself first, one way or another you will benefit. Girls in general are not very logical, but they're damn good at reading emotions. Most would rather try to win over a man who doesn't seem to need a girlfriend Vs a man who is clearly trying to get one. So go to gigs, or whatever your hobby may be, and go there for yourself but like, talk to people. Have a chat, but don't try chat girls up. Just talk about the shared interest that has both of you in that place and be prepared to go home alone, no expectations. Do that enough times and I guarantee you a girl will be asking you "what are you doing after this".
Even not being a virgin myself, the 'just shower and smile!' crowd always irritates me. It's really not that simple, but they insist the only reason some people can't find a partner is because they can't perform basic hygiene. That's, like, .5% of the issue. But it's parroted all over Reddit, wild.
They have evolved beyond basic human urges to defile women and spread their seed. They no longer crave the pleasures of the flesh like us lessor mortals
From the moment I understood the weakness of my flesh, it disgusted me. I craved the strength and certainty of steel. I aspired to the purity of the Blessed Machine. Your kind cling to your flesh, as though it will not decay and fail you. One day the crude biomass you call a temple will wither, and you will beg my kind to save you. But I am already saved, for the Machine is immortal… Even in death I serve the Omnissiah.
I have personally noticed that the younger generations have a very weird and warped sense of sex and sexuality in the first place. Any mention of any kind of sexual urge makes you a pervert, or a simp or a “freaky ahh”. I’m assuming it’s from the amount of sexual content on the internet that they’ve all kind of bounced back against their human sexual urges as something to be embarrassed or ashamed of, especially for males.
ive been on 2 dates and got a hug once. i had mostly female friends at university and hung out with them a lot (though it was always platonic). this is considered a poor record among my irl peers but is lucky compared to many people here.
To be honest, I kinda wish I kept my virgin superpowers and didn't start dating or get married. A good majority of my money problems are the result of involvement with women.
It's like how the 13 year old girl that grew up in low income neighborhood in a major city knows about farms and the country life from tv/school/social media, but never experienced it herself. Better yet, the guy that lives in a podunk small town where most people in the area barely leave the state, let alone the country. They can wonder about, but since they never experienced it, they don't miss it.
Being a sexless rock that hasn't even as much been touched by a woman would be better than I am now. I'm older now and no longer have my more youthful looks. I'm a neurodivergent hot mess that isn't even loaded with money. It will take 10x more effort to bag a 4 or 5 now, then it took me to lazily score a 6 or 7 when I was in my 20s.
I've tasted the fruit, but know I will never be able to have such a delicacy on my plate again. Due to all the simpery going on, I can't even get some bruised and spotted apples, because losers have elevated their egos to the point they think they are worth Yubari King Melon prices.
This is me at mid 30s, and im pretty much resigned to it, I used to work out, worked abroad, traveled a lot, yet nothing. So I just gave up. At least seeing what my friends are going through Im not missing much. Still stings sometimes though
For me it's weird. I'm 30 and in the past 10 years I had sex with 7 different girls. 3 were just like ONS.
The rest were kind of girlfriends, but none of them real GFs. As in I never really spent much time with them. So in a way I still don't know what is it like to really be with a girl. To share the living space with them etc.
A GF tells you all about them, and you become keenly aware of their coming and going by that as well as other signs such as the contents of the bathroom trash, which you'll be expected to take out.
The main problem with being a late bloomer is that you start with zero experience and your first experience will most likely be a trainwreck, due to the lack of experience. But at this point your peers are talking about marriage, kids, houses etc., so realistically you don't have unlimited tries like you would have like in your youth. Maintaining a relationship is a life skill.
As a below average looking introvert/autsitic dude i never understood this. I've been nonstop in some or other relationship since i've been like 22. I'm pushing 40 now. The longest I wasn't between someone's thighs was like 8 months. And the women I've been with were definitely good looking. 6-7 and above.
Not here to brag at all. I just don't understand how people who want this never had this. If they don't want this (which I think is pretty weird tbh) and don't have it i get that. But like putting any kind of effort yields pretty good results in my opinion. Just fucking take a shower daily, shave that neckbeard, keep your nails short and clean and that's pretty much it.
Here's where you nailed it. On these threads challenge these people to post a timestamped picture of their bathroom within 5-10 minutes. They'll almost never do it.
well I'm obviously not gonna send pics or Ig links. but in my opinion they look(ed) better than me. Aim high and you'll reach for the stars is what I always say and thankfully they don't.
It's a deeper issue - fear of rejection, internalized man-shaming (becoming self-loathing and guilt), and what I'd consider a lack of wingmen or "social proof". These lead to men not even wanting to initiate or respond to advances ("...maybe she was just being nice. I don't want to seem like a creep").
I'm lucky that I was able to overcome those psychological issues many times. But I can easily sympathize with dudes going through them.
Got everything I wanted and am content, I am happy, as a bored and aloof widower- to preach to the virgins on how they may get a crumb. I can be their messiah
Getting hit on is really gonna throw off the stats. You could get married and have 4 kids without having another woman hitting on you, especially if you are from a place where women just don't do that.
You people act like it’s impossible lol. I’m fat and mid looking and I’ve consistently had a girlfriend for the last 5 years just by being nice to them
Seriously think the cure for a lot of simps is just sending them to a strip club (or brothel if it's legal in their country). Having the thot sitting naked on your lap and feeling her boobs in exchange for a $5 tip clears up that worship that builds up from just seeing them on a screen
Much of the problem begins because children are segregated due to sex at an early age, and kept apart until the age of about 18, when they are expected to meet, date and marry someone, and live happily ever after. It ain't gonna happen.
If you've ever raised dogs, you know that unless they socialize with other dogs as puppies and later, they do not see them as friendly, but as enemies. They still strongly want to mate, but cannot resolve the two problems. Humans are not particularly different.
hear moaning and slapping coming from my wife's room
must be Chad again
know they would want privacy, sit down at my computer
log onto reddit and open /r/4chan
read a funny greentext from le 4chins and chuckle as I listen to my wife begging for the genes I can't give her
think of a convoluted way in which I can relate homosexuality and falsehood to the events in the greentext
suck the cheeto dust off my fingers as I begin to type my masterpiece in the comment section
Fake: OP has never even tried
Gay: he has done all of this, but with dudes
giggle as I imagine the intellectuals of leddit perusing my incredibly witty and original comment
hear my wife moan with ecstasy as Chad floods her fertile womb with his seed
it's been a good day
i'll get lots of upvotes for my impressive contribution to internet culture, and Chad might even let me eat his cum out of my wife's pussy if he finds my comment funny enough
This was me until 23. I hadn't even held hands with a girl, only asked one girl out, and was turned down.
Then I started my first job, met some 6/10 and shagged on the first date... which wasn't even a date, she was waiting for her actual date and we were killing time while the other dude had to work late.
She actually took a call from the dude while I was inside her. That was an interesting experience.
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
Yeah this is me, whatever
NewLiefToEurope@reddit
Where from you?
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
Netherlands
I_Don-t_Care@reddit
Imagine being a virgin when you live in what is basically an open-air whore house
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
i plan on doing that at one point, i just dont feel like it, im kind of just tired of doing anything, like going out my way to pay money for sex i really dont have the horniness for anymore
WhoisGarythe3rd@reddit
Do cocaine then
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
drugs are bad for you, mkay. also, probably expensive and also just illegal
FormerPresidentBiden@reddit
You live in the Netherlands
Theyre cheaper there than most developed countries
I landed in Amsterdam for the first time and had cocaine delivered to me within 8 hours
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
how would i even go about this? who do i talk to? what does this person look like?
FormerPresidentBiden@reddit
Go to bars
Talk to people
Once rapport is built, ask if they know where to get it
I received a literal menu and a WhatsApp #
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
are undercover cops a thing? serious question
FormerPresidentBiden@reddit
I don't know the Netherlands like that, but I sincerely doubt they are wasting police resources to catch random buyers
They're far more likely to be doing the opposite to try and catch the dealers
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
hmm, ill keep this in mind if i ever care for some reason to do coke, thanks
FormerPresidentBiden@reddit
Just don't ever start doing it on a regular basis.
You'll ruin your health and bank account.
It's fun every once in a while and, luckily for you, pretty pure in NL (unpure coke sucks)
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
honestly, i dont have any friends either i hang out with. id be doing this by myself in my shitty apartment, i doubt id have fun. thats it too, man. im just a fucking loser on all points
FormerPresidentBiden@reddit
Well, I'll tell ya this much, alcohol and coke are both fantastic social lubricants
It's pretty hard not to talk to people whilst doing either
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
i dont have anything to start out with. if i had friends who hung out with, id be somewhere, do coke and drink with them. going out at my age (28) by myself, like some club, and then just bother a group of people who dont know me, arent interested in knowing me, is not going to work out
FormerPresidentBiden@reddit
Unless you're saying crazy shit that scares people, it actually probably will work out
Bars and clubs are places people go to be social. Just gotta practice talking to people. I've had my fair share of awkward encounters. It still happens today even. But you just shrug your shoulders, walk away, and move onto the next person that you think you'd like to talk to.
I understand how incredibly daunting it seems, but it's much easier than any of us make it out to be. I find the average person is generally happy to engage in conversation with a friendly stranger.
I_Don-t_Care@reddit
Jesus christ just dont do anything at all then, see if that helps
JessHorserage@reddit
I think he seems fine where he is, going from his line.
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
not at all, im suffering mentally, and therefore also suffering indirectly physically
JessHorserage@reddit
Shit nvm.
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
its good, have a nice day
Tommysrx@reddit
Mental health and physical health effect each other. Start doing 50 pushups two days each week. Even if you have to do them 2 at a time. Just keep going till you get to 50 for the day.
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
i do some things like walking or biking, mostly to just clear my mind, maybe ill do strength things too, ill see
JessHorserage@reddit
Likewise and also for the life too!
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
i feel like doing coke, which i have on interest in, is not the only option next to doing nothing
Energy_Turtle@reddit
You should probably just go to work for the next 40 years and then die then. Wouldn't want to shake things up too much.
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
its more like that its illegal, i dont want to get caught buying or having that shit
WhoisGarythe3rd@reddit
The boy needs some hope. It will break down all his introvert barriers, trust me I'm a guy from Reddit
the_capibarin@reddit
Become a passportbro then
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
Im too poor and mentally defeated
anyokes@reddit
Lift some weights, you'd be surprised what it can do for your self esteem. One time purchase, lift them until they stop being heavy. At that point you'll have your mojo back and want to do more. Get yourself out of this temporary slump
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
i know this, but at the moment, i have some things to worry about and i just cannot go work out. shitty excuse, i would go more into it, but thats too private
anyokes@reddit
And also, I just meant buying some dumbbells to lift at home, do some curls and tricep exercises, you'd be surprised how quickly weights start feeling light, even if you can't see the results in your arms yet, which you will a little, but you wouldn't be getting compliments about it just yet, but you yourself will see it, and once you can do 10+ reps of any kind of exercise you know it's time to add some more weight, at which point you might say to yourself "fuck it, I'm gonna start going to the gym, I'm making progress here" and that's you getting the ball rolling and realising you have potential to be a better version of yourself. Water that seed and see what happens
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
thanks for the tips, i dont plan on not getting fit ever, just not right now
anyokes@reddit
No worries, you don't owe me an explanation, I'm just saying it would help.
EarthBoundBatwing@reddit
Dude said he lives in Netherlands. He could just walk out the door and have legal prostitutes within a stones throw.
He's either lazy or putting pussy up on a pedestal and doesn't want his first time to be with one.
Business_Trick9394@reddit
I was just in Amsterdam dutchbro. Literally just go to De Wallen and pick one lol
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
i can be in a whorehouse within 5 minutes, i just dont feel like it
MisterMaroonYT@reddit
Je bent niet alleen vriend. Ik herken mezelf in wat je zegt. Ook voorbij het punt dat het me uitmaakt. De ‘het is gewoon niet voor me weggelegd’ gedachte overwint.
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
laat maar zitten, weet je wel? het heeft het punt bereikt dat de "moeite" dat het kost om uberhaupt mn broek uit te doen voor een prostitue iets is dat te veel gevraagd is door de frustaties met het krijgen van een vrouw die ik in het verleden heb gehad
Business_Trick9394@reddit
Up to you. I thought it might break you out of your funk and see that sex isn't this insurmountable thing
eelikay@reddit
Grow some balls, go to a bar, and talk to a real woman.
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
i asked out 10 women irl, all said no
eelikay@reddit
You dont just go straight to asking them out, talk, flirt, ask for number, chat.
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Mister_Cornet@reddit
Time to become like Halper NL bro, get some thai poon
Coelachantiform@reddit
90% of these self-proclaimed KHHV's literally put in negative effort then blame society for their lack of conviction.
countrybreakfast1@reddit
Also I don't know how but women can just like... Smell desperation on you. I went through a phase when I was younger where I didn't get any action for years. Then one day I got a fat libtard gf who sucked. It wasnt a pleasant experience by any means but it just opened the flood gates. Suddenly women were interested in me. I could get girls off tinder. It was such a weird phenomenon I can't explain it. It's just like... They can sense no other girl wants you.
The ultimate pheromone for women seems to be being in a committed relationship.
Aluminum_Tarkus@reddit
It's really not that hard to tell when someone is desperate for anything, really. A lot of it comes down to overly praising, being overly nice to the point that it feels like they want something from you, and just being way too awkward for a normal social interaction. Think about it this way:
The person with the most leverage in any negotiation is the one who's more willing to walk away from the table.
A lot of the girls who are at least around average have a good handful of guys who have or are actively showing some kind of interest in them, but many of them suck in some way. Socially, it's just much more common for men to be the initiators and women to be the ones to accept or reject intimacy. Guys who have no prior luck with girls in the past, because they have fewer opportunities to interact with a girl they might be interested in due to being the ones that have to initiate most of the tine, are more likely to be desperate to make any shot they shoot work. Conversely, guys who have had success in the past understand that rejection will happen, and it's not a big deal, and they go into every approach with the mindset that there's plenty of opportunities to try again so long as they actually look for them and try. They treat it like a numbers game instead of taking each rejection personally. The first group comes off as desperate, and the second comes off as confident, and a lot of that is shown in how much they care about appeasing the individual girls they talk to.
If girls are interested in you while you're in a committed relationship, that means you ARE plenty attractive, but you just come off as too desperate when you're trying to get with them. And luckily, that's very fixable.
KonyKombatKorvet@reddit
yall are maidenless and it shows.
When socially unaware men are already in a relationship they are more likely to treat other women like normal human beings instead of fuckable quest loot where they have to pick the correct dialogue tree, because of this they can hold a somewhat bearable conversation without all the spaghetti falling out of their pockets. Thats all it is.
People can tell when you want something from them because you fucking homunculus have no tact and never overcame the shame of your Williams syndrome mother and deadbeat alcoholic father treating you like a pet fish instead of an independent conscious human being out of the guilt they feel from drinking/smoking during your pregnancy.
CrowLaneS41@reddit
The stench of desperation is completely true and should be taught to boys at a young age. It's tough love but entirely fair. Stop always trying to make people happy in every social situation and stop 'being yourself' all the fucking time. Be good company instead.
HFentonMudd@reddit
These seem to be contradictory
Cheap-Fun802@reddit
Nah, I get it. Hanging around with a "People Pleaser" is just tiresome. Even as a friend, but for women it is especially unattractive.
Just think about it. You ask your friend "What do you want to do?" then they always say "Whatever". You ask "Do you want to hit the gym?" they say "Whatever you want." Okay which day are you free? "Whatver you want, anytime". Okay what do you want to train? Chest, back, legs? "Whatever, chief" Wanna grab some food after workout? "Whatever bro" What do you want to eat? "Whatever, anything you want" Is chicken okay? "Whatever".
See?
JessHorserage@reddit
Ah, but, for who.
brynden_rivers@reddit
yes, a woman can sense if you can get pussy from other women. and won't respect you if you can't. that's why a lot of relationships cool off. that's also why it is a good idea to flirt with other women while you are are public dates and I'm not joking.
JeSuisLePain@reddit
This is terrible advice lol. A truly confident man wouldn't feel the need to peacock like this. It's also just super douchey.
Dunkopa@reddit
Ah yes, the classic "Women can smell the desperation on you but not the painfully obvious signs of the psychopath" argument.
As always, leftists are the real misogynists and racists.
Coelachantiform@reddit
Yeah this goes for men too. And it is definetly something that makes you less attractive (appearing desperate, that is).
The_Elusive_Dr_Wu@reddit
Men have this too. I can spot a neet a mile away
Round_Bullfrog_8218@reddit
Like almost everything there's the duality to it. Personal responsibility to do something now on your own and then there's the bigger societal trends that contribute to it.
This applies to everything basically from obesity to poverty to education. The bigger meta issue is that the more personal responsibility you put on people the more people will act individually to be better but the less likely you are to have a societal change to make it better.
anonimus10010110@reddit
Spot on, it's complex issue but people in fortunate circumstances keep framing it as simple "ppl are lazy" untill problems grow quite a lot
anonimus10010110@reddit
Homeless ppl are homeless because they are lazy (not saying I disagree with your statement but it's certainly less than 90%, I'd say more likely around 50%).
There are 10% of men with IQ low enough that even military wouldn't let them in. There are also other factors that seem to be relevant more and more such as looks, and threshold for being considered "useless" keeps rising.
If we keep having more young military age men who are marginalized by society bad things will happen and it's better to prevent that by exposing systematic issues
Total_Network6312@reddit
"maybe another day of video games and masturbation will fix my chronic depression"
BrocoliAssassin@reddit
Sounds exactly like the Anhedonia sub that I keep getting downvoted in.
“NO, other people can play video games and are perfectly happy, so I don’t understand why I’m so bored and depressed playing the same video game 24/7 for years, why would that make me anhedonic in any way?!”
vitringur@reddit
When you are in a relationship you dream of a day home alone full of video games and masturbation…
MrMooostache123@reddit
Nah man I'm in a relationship and I can just do that any time I want pretty much. Gotta find you the right partner who can be okay with the statement "I want an alone time day"
Falcon84@reddit
Haha so true. The grass is always greener isn’t it?
Total_Network6312@reddit
ya true and now that im single i dream about a gf that is home waiting for me
slav1504@reddit
I will wank myself unconscious into being a man
TheDanLopez@reddit
"I'm awkwardly quiet and visibly look upset every time I leave the house, why hasn't a foid mounted me yet"
thegame2386@reddit
"Women are all worthless whores with no accountability and bring nothing to the table except their clapped out bodies. Why are they always crawling on Chad instead of me?"
Valuable-Chipmunk784@reddit
C_umputer@reddit
shit I have the exact same monitor
nelsonalgrencametome@reddit
I shifted to doom scrolling reddit and chain smoking and it has done wonders for my mental health.
bgovern@reddit
And surely the 24/7 on-demand pornography they have been gooning to since age 12 has given them a fair, healthy, and nuanced view of relationships.
Coelachantiform@reddit
That was one of a myriad points I wanted to make but couldn't be bothered typing out.
Porn-damaged brains, insane expectations on relationships (she couldn't possibly be out drinking with friends to have fun; it must be because she is scouting for chads!), a genuine low-key economic depression impacting all aspects of life from dating to will to live(lmao).
Some dudes genuinely just don't take rejection that well and fall into despair after one "public humiliation" (she said no when you asked her out while she was hanging out with her friends), or just repeated rejection.
But they always fail to acknowledge the fact that, as with literally any person on this planet, you are not in 24/7 looking for a date-mode, unless you are extremely desperate. You are not going to make eye-contact across the room and immedietly find your soulmate. Most people are very picky, even towards people they likely could see themselves being in a relationship with, just because the first impression was wrong, or they aren't feeling like seeing someone at that moment, or a thousand other reasons.
Incels take every single "failure" as proof that reinforces their worldview. The only difference between them is what level of bitterness they have reached.
Intrepid-Ostrich2937@reddit
What about the 10% that do try
Coelachantiform@reddit
I say the same to them as I say to people born deaf, blind and mute; I am genuinely sorry for your predicament.
palmerry@reddit
Maybe he lives in rural Afghanistan
Coelachantiform@reddit
Afghanistan is turning into the stinkiest, most hairy sausage-party on this planet.
palmerry@reddit
I remember reading some American medical officers report on the translators incidences if anal herpes there. Like that's just what guys there do. In some isolated places you might, like might over your entire life just see a couple women in your entire life because the women are so sheltered and kept behind closed doors there. Even then, they'd be covered head to toe so are you really even seeing them.
DreamsServedSoft@reddit
definitely a symptom but I’ve seen many men who behave like you say as a learned response, not because they came out that way. i mean they had a crush, they asked multiple girls out, every one of them laughed (even the fat one). some of these guys even shower regularly but they're still short and have a high pitched voice
CremousDelight@reddit
The solution is to grow a beard out and wear a conical red hat, chicks love gnomes.
JunosArmpits@reddit
Gnomemaxxing is high risk high reward, few can pull it off
mascotbeaver104@reddit
See if this is the extent of how you socialize with women I have bad news for you buddy.
Just try to find any way to regularly be around a rotating group of mixed genders and sex will eventually just happen unless you act like a complete freak. Take it from me, a balding autistic weirdo with different size eyes who was a complete jackass in his youth, turns out none of these things are barriers for attractive women as long as you are able to have a normal conversation without fondling yourself
8last@reddit
Be fun. Thats like your only way in other than be rich.
theshotgunman@reddit
Ok
H2O_Delorean@reddit
Ok
aghastamok@reddit
At a guess, I'd say it's about 90% of these cases are just porn-sick idiots with standards through the fuckin roof.
"I wish someone could look past my appearance and love me for who I am." - but only pursues 8/10 qts.
Ramuh@reddit
In my twenties I almost ended up as an incel but got my life turned around. Got fat after high school, started uni got fatter. No girls in that time but at least tried.
Gladly I have had girlfriends during school so eventually became motivated enough to get fit. And I never let school slip, got a degree and started working full time.
Got married eventually and now have kids
But had I not had that spurt of motivation and that one coworker that pulled me with him I might now be a miserable 40 year old with nothing in life.
I can kind of understand why these people can end up like that. You have to not give yourself up and they have a long time ago. Now with the economy spiraling downwards for normal people it can be even more difficult to have anything to fight for
Coelachantiform@reddit
Yeah I want to say I don't blame them; god knows we as people can be our own worst enemy.
But I swear most of the time, it is a combination of really weird expectations and a huge lack of trying. It's like asking a smoker how often they smoke; they'll usually give a number lower than reality.
No, showering, going to the gym and being a people-pleaser is not gonna get you a partner, that's like the bare minimum. You need other hobbies than gaming and going to the gym too (and let's be real here, most of them aren't regular gym-goers to begin with despite claiming it).
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No-Foundation3497@reddit (OP)
I'm in the 10 percent who are socially inept but I try nevertheless
Elbromomento@reddit
idk man me personally i have good grooming skin care exercise often, executive of some social clubs in uni, active in said clubs, earn 30 bucks an hour (which should be good for my age) treat women well have alot of female friends who think good of me but still KHHV and im like rlly close to choosing to blame society ong either that or neck rope
Here4th3culture@reddit
I’m late 20s and when I was 19 decided to change that. Started lifting, running, got a color chart on my phone so I could dress nicer, moisturizing my face, started walking around the neighborhood to practice saying hi to people. Basically unfucking my brain and body (I was a drug addict gooner, straight up addicted to opiates when I was 16, just weed and tons of alcohol after that). Now I’ve slept with +50 women but I’m still a greentext loser at heart. The deep seated emotional problems do go away. I don’t think anyone will like me if I don’t have abs and big arms. It doesn’t get better. Give up now.
DerSchweinebrecher@reddit
Try an actual relationship with a woman then. Sex doesn't fix your heart, love does.
Here4th3culture@reddit
I’ve had 4 relationships. Those didn’t help either. If anything my mental health was the worst during those
mehmenmike@reddit
4 relationships across 8-10 years with space between for "+50" casual fucks means I doubt these were any sort of substantial relationships bro. I've been with the same woman for 8 years and married since September and I'm perfectly happy
Here4th3culture@reddit
mehmenmike@reddit
Cope, seethe, mald, dilate, etc., etc. I'll bang my wife for you tonight.
Earthworm-Kim@reddit
give her a couple of pumps from me, too
Tommysrx@reddit
“ honey , the next couple pumps are from Reddit user earthworm-Kim “
:::plap:::plap:::plap:::
bigmoodyninja@reddit
Sounds like the last option to explore is our lord and savior Jesus Christ
Murandus@reddit
Sounds grim, if that's the only option.
LevSmash@reddit
That's not the only option, they said sounds like it's the last option, meaning buddy is trying everything else first.
anyokes@reddit
Sounds like they were just bad pairings. I wouldn't shut the door on everyone just because of a few bad matches
LooseButtPlug@reddit
Gross.
LobsterNo9737@reddit
Have you tried getting TOPPED
HoldTheCellarDoor@reddit
The hole to the soul
HonestLemon25@reddit
Dude replaced his drug addiction with sex addiction and wonders why he’s still depressed.
The goyim are stupid animals that deserve death
UpvoteCircleJerk@reddit
>started walking around the neighborhood to practice saying hi to people
Did you prepare a printed list of how to respond based on what people might say to you?
Here4th3culture@reddit
No. Started with just walking outside.
Then nodding at people while looking at their eyes. Then smiling when I nodded. Then saying hello. Then saying hello how is your day going.
After a while people would say hi to me and ask how I was doing if I had an off day where didn’t want to speak or look at anyone.
PinBeneficial1366@reddit
Not much really, but there is dudes who literally dated girls when they around 14, sleep with them around 18 and till they graduate from college and after that romantic and social life become chud looser wageslave
Maybe their love life is not so grate and full of sadness, maybe they just tired of girls and "bad" bitches and want trad wife and good life, or j*b and living in this fucked world kills any libido and suck up energy so you never have a chance to meet someone outside your workplace
In the end they feel even worse then dudes who never tried it, because they already did it, like it, and understand that they can't do this anymore, while virgins already adapted to lonely life
JeSuisLePain@reddit
TeslaCrna@reddit
No matter how ugly, stupid, gross, poor you may be, there is always somebody out there for you.
displeased_potato@reddit
or just not interested
YesIam6969420@reddit
This was me until the age of 21
Tenko-of-Mori@reddit
listen king, it's really not all it's cracked up to be. you aren't missing out.
the robots will be much better probably.
KingVape@reddit
Nah I actually really enjoy dating. Cooking meals, watching things, fucking, cuddling, companionship, etc.
Some of yall fellers are just broken and need to experience love
MisterMaroonYT@reddit
Yeah except for: approaching people on the street, you’re a creep Approaching someone at work: creep Approaching someone at a gym or other shared hobby space: creep Meeting people online: good luck jumping through all the inflated expectations of the female user base also it’s literally rigged to monetize your loneliness.
No one has ever shown interest in me. At some point you stop expecting it and just give up.
WolfLacernat@reddit
The people who would call you for a creep or say 'Women don't want to be bothered by you at blank activity' don't speak for all women and are full of shit tbh, obviously respect it if they aren't open to it but in person will have a way higher success rate for normal guys compared to online dating if you're actively trying. Becoming a regular somewhere and going out of you way to shoot the shit and banter with them, workung on in person social interactions and getting used to akwardness will put you ahead of most dudes. This is all only if you really care enough to try though, plenty of people don't anymore and it's hard to blame them with how it is currently.
Tenko-of-Mori@reddit
too bad that that kind of thing is the rarest in the world to find and you may consider yourself blessed beyond belief for having known it
KingVape@reddit
Idk dude I’m 34 and haven’t been single for a long stretch since I was 18. Sounds like skill issue to me
willowsandwasps@reddit
"rarest thing in the world" when it's probably one of the most common, fundamental human experiences is fucking crazy lmao
Fuzzy_Wheel_4565@reddit
He has an anime profile picture, it was doomed from the start
Fuzzy_Wheel_4565@reddit
You can tell yourself that but it's really not that rare. Sounds like you are coping with the fact that this is just a massive skill issue on your part.
Tenko-of-Mori@reddit
well obviously I am speaking from personal experience, so sorry I'm a retarded chud lmao
uDudyBezDudy@reddit
I wish i was born later, or significantly earlier. Either 50s waifu of Robo waifu. Sadly all we have is Sara from the office and her 2 cats
cheapshotfrenzy@reddit
I started gardening.
JessHorserage@reddit
Hell yeah.
Virgil_Rug_Say_RUG@reddit
yeah, thats my conclusion. ive given it a few attempts, tbh im tall, okay looking and have resources so its not hard.
but its just... not even remotely worth it. sex in general is just wildly overrated imo, i dont understand how its the central motivator for most people.
unless you find the needle in the haystack girl whos actually smart, interesting and attractive but that might as well be a unicorn
just went back to being permanently single, i even get approached once in a while and have just straight up declined.
No-Foundation3497@reddit (OP)
Finally some good fudging news
H2O_Delorean@reddit
Ooo, I can’t wait for silicone robots.
yeetzapizza123@reddit
On God how is this possible?
Zealousideal-Buyer-7@reddit
Life... That's how...
MetallGecko@reddit
Depression and traumas can do wonders.
yeetzapizza123@reddit
Seems more like anti life
Zealousideal-Buyer-7@reddit
Could be... Had my first hug from a woman and it was on accident because her friend tapped her ass and she thought it was me but it was her friend😭
tehringworm@reddit
If she hugged you because she thought you grabbed her ass, you had a giant opportunity.
Zealousideal-Buyer-7@reddit
She um... Already had a boyfriend so...
anyokes@reddit
No need to type out "umm", but that's weird, sounds like that boyfriend is more of a speed bump than a stop sign. She still hugged another dude who she thought slapped her arse. I would say go slap some arses and be a cheeky, indifferent arsehole. Women like that if you can be funny about it and not creepy. Some folk don't know how to walk that line though
Zealousideal-Buyer-7@reddit
Well maybe something could have been there... But it felt a bit weirdish... Since she already had somebody she was with.
I just rather not walk the line since I'm scared to be called a creep😭. Still traumatized by some guy that dragged his lady friend to me saying that she would like to be my GF and she gave me the yuck face. Now I feel like if I talk to a women in the back of my mind that woman would also be yucking mentally but being nice externally😫
anyokes@reddit
Nah nah, you're looking at this from the wrong perspective. You are not in a job interview looking for a girlfriend to "hire" you. You're always going to feel second best in that dynamic. Throw the whole girlfriend thing out the window for now and just try to get to know people, ask yourself if they would be a good fit for you, not you for them. If you can actually embrace that mindset and put yourself first, one way or another you will benefit. Girls in general are not very logical, but they're damn good at reading emotions. Most would rather try to win over a man who doesn't seem to need a girlfriend Vs a man who is clearly trying to get one. So go to gigs, or whatever your hobby may be, and go there for yourself but like, talk to people. Have a chat, but don't try chat girls up. Just talk about the shared interest that has both of you in that place and be prepared to go home alone, no expectations. Do that enough times and I guarantee you a girl will be asking you "what are you doing after this".
Zealousideal-Buyer-7@reddit
I'll... Actually take this into thought. Gotta save this ngl🤣
anyokes@reddit
Good. I hope it helps! Best of luck bro
spunk_wizard@reddit
Wh-what?
Zealousideal-Buyer-7@reddit
Yea that's the story of the first time a woman hug me outside my family and it was on accident🤣
Zealousideal-Buyer-7@reddit
People love to say "just shower bro" but really can't understand that sometimes... Stuff don't happen even if you do the bare minimum.
A_Stoned_Smurf@reddit
Even not being a virgin myself, the 'just shower and smile!' crowd always irritates me. It's really not that simple, but they insist the only reason some people can't find a partner is because they can't perform basic hygiene. That's, like, .5% of the issue. But it's parroted all over Reddit, wild.
Murandus@reddit
I mean the only helpful suggestions would be years of therapy, a stable job and some ressourceful hobbies. Better do the hygiene thing then.
Total_Network6312@reddit
They have evolved beyond basic human urges to defile women and spread their seed. They no longer crave the pleasures of the flesh like us lessor mortals
MetallGecko@reddit
I only believe in the certainty of steel, the flesh is weak and will decay and fail you.
stenebrosa@reddit
Yes, now I only crave the certainty of steel
JessHorserage@reddit
peepeeinmypajts@reddit
Up my ass
Unfunnycommenter_@reddit
Autism
CriticalFunction@reddit
Only 5k hours in 2026 is crazy get those numbers up
MissNibbatoro@reddit
Porn addiction
C_umputer@reddit
literally started 30s that way and going strong
DiogenesTheHound@reddit
I have personally noticed that the younger generations have a very weird and warped sense of sex and sexuality in the first place. Any mention of any kind of sexual urge makes you a pervert, or a simp or a “freaky ahh”. I’m assuming it’s from the amount of sexual content on the internet that they’ve all kind of bounced back against their human sexual urges as something to be embarrassed or ashamed of, especially for males.
biIIions-must-cry@reddit
ive been on 2 dates and got a hug once. i had mostly female friends at university and hung out with them a lot (though it was always platonic). this is considered a poor record among my irl peers but is lucky compared to many people here.
countrybreakfast1@reddit
How was the hug?
biIIions-must-cry@reddit
really, really nice
JessHorserage@reddit
Hugs are ballin' tbqh.
eelikay@reddit
I know some of you need to hear this. Grow some balls, go to a bar (with a wing man), and talk to a real woman.
g_rated_pornstar@reddit
To be honest, I kinda wish I kept my virgin superpowers and didn't start dating or get married. A good majority of my money problems are the result of involvement with women.
It's like how the 13 year old girl that grew up in low income neighborhood in a major city knows about farms and the country life from tv/school/social media, but never experienced it herself. Better yet, the guy that lives in a podunk small town where most people in the area barely leave the state, let alone the country. They can wonder about, but since they never experienced it, they don't miss it.
Being a sexless rock that hasn't even as much been touched by a woman would be better than I am now. I'm older now and no longer have my more youthful looks. I'm a neurodivergent hot mess that isn't even loaded with money. It will take 10x more effort to bag a 4 or 5 now, then it took me to lazily score a 6 or 7 when I was in my 20s.
I've tasted the fruit, but know I will never be able to have such a delicacy on my plate again. Due to all the simpery going on, I can't even get some bruised and spotted apples, because losers have elevated their egos to the point they think they are worth Yubari King Melon prices.
mits_the_second@reddit
This is me at mid 30s, and im pretty much resigned to it, I used to work out, worked abroad, traveled a lot, yet nothing. So I just gave up. At least seeing what my friends are going through Im not missing much. Still stings sometimes though
HFentonMudd@reddit
We are our own worst enemies.
Xitztlacayotl@reddit
For me it's weird. I'm 30 and in the past 10 years I had sex with 7 different girls. 3 were just like ONS.
The rest were kind of girlfriends, but none of them real GFs. As in I never really spent much time with them. So in a way I still don't know what is it like to really be with a girl. To share the living space with them etc.
A
HFentonMudd@reddit
A GF tells you all about them, and you become keenly aware of their coming and going by that as well as other signs such as the contents of the bathroom trash, which you'll be expected to take out.
stop_talking_you@reddit
women are taught to hate men from a young age and they literally refuse to produce offspring by choice. add average looks and you end like that.
Wimi_Bussard@reddit
The main problem with being a late bloomer is that you start with zero experience and your first experience will most likely be a trainwreck, due to the lack of experience. But at this point your peers are talking about marriage, kids, houses etc., so realistically you don't have unlimited tries like you would have like in your youth. Maintaining a relationship is a life skill.
Trick-Caramel-6156@reddit
Litteraly me
Hearasongofuranus@reddit
As a below average looking introvert/autsitic dude i never understood this. I've been nonstop in some or other relationship since i've been like 22. I'm pushing 40 now. The longest I wasn't between someone's thighs was like 8 months. And the women I've been with were definitely good looking. 6-7 and above.
Not here to brag at all. I just don't understand how people who want this never had this. If they don't want this (which I think is pretty weird tbh) and don't have it i get that. But like putting any kind of effort yields pretty good results in my opinion. Just fucking take a shower daily, shave that neckbeard, keep your nails short and clean and that's pretty much it.
The_Elusive_Dr_Wu@reddit
Here's where you nailed it. On these threads challenge these people to post a timestamped picture of their bathroom within 5-10 minutes. They'll almost never do it.
BlackShield69@reddit
You're talking to socially inept, fat dinosaur nugget eating people here man. Not that hard to understand why they aren't in a relationship lol.
The_Elusive_Dr_Wu@reddit
One of my favorite replies to any threads like that is
this filters a solid 95% of them out of their own threads
heyodai@reddit
Respectfully, I’d want to see what you consider “6-7 and above”. Because that’s usually what it comes down to.
Hearasongofuranus@reddit
well I'm obviously not gonna send pics or Ig links. but in my opinion they look(ed) better than me. Aim high and you'll reach for the stars is what I always say and thankfully they don't.
TheDeadlyZebra@reddit
It's a deeper issue - fear of rejection, internalized man-shaming (becoming self-loathing and guilt), and what I'd consider a lack of wingmen or "social proof". These lead to men not even wanting to initiate or respond to advances ("...maybe she was just being nice. I don't want to seem like a creep").
I'm lucky that I was able to overcome those psychological issues many times. But I can easily sympathize with dudes going through them.
Easterland@reddit
I think the point at which it stops for most guys in this situation is when you have to make some sort of first move
Hearasongofuranus@reddit
Well, yeah, but in the age of tinder? I got laid by sending a meme for fuck's sake.
Easterland@reddit
You’d still have to meet up after sending that meme. I’m not even autistic and that shit is pretty nerve wracking
Hearasongofuranus@reddit
Well I think it's exciting and if you think about it it doesn't fucking matter at the same time. I think framing is the key.
Easterland@reddit
Gigachad
Ok-Boysenberry-3066@reddit
working in the service industry as a sid gig works wonder too
snoopbirb@reddit
A few more years and he will get his wizard powers.
BlueDaka@reddit
Late 30's actually...
HolyBidetServitor@reddit
Got everything I wanted and am content, I am happy, as a bored and aloof widower- to preach to the virgins on how they may get a crumb. I can be their messiah
liright@reddit
Almost zero, but thankfully there was this one time with your mother.
FerencS@reddit
TheThalmorEmbassy@reddit
Everyone who posts this gif has undescended testicles
4ensicFiles@reddit
Promise? :3
cheapshotfrenzy@reddit
.....Stifler?
thegame2386@reddit
.........yeah officer, I just witnessed savagery on a criminal level.
H2O_Delorean@reddit
Holy sick burn
ErblinBeqiri@reddit
Yeah, you fucking got his ass, nice
staloidona@reddit
No-Foundation3497@reddit (OP)
Haha. Nice one
steauengeglase@reddit
Getting hit on is really gonna throw off the stats. You could get married and have 4 kids without having another woman hitting on you, especially if you are from a place where women just don't do that.
MastermindX@reddit
The last sentence is true, when I was a prepubescent boy I had done everything on the list except having sex.
You guys are way, way behind.
Sleep-more-dude@reddit
Some advice kids, money will make you happier than pussy.
Barely_s0ber@reddit
You people act like it’s impossible lol. I’m fat and mid looking and I’ve consistently had a girlfriend for the last 5 years just by being nice to them
Intrepid-Ostrich2937@reddit
Idk bro I actually try, like genuinely go out my way,and yet here I am at 20
Psychological-Yak924@reddit
I wanna touch some boobs
nishant__-@reddit
what is the gender ratio of 4chan?
MissNibbatoro@reddit
1:0
Evil_Patriarch@reddit
Seriously think the cure for a lot of simps is just sending them to a strip club (or brothel if it's legal in their country). Having the thot sitting naked on your lap and feeling her boobs in exchange for a $5 tip clears up that worship that builds up from just seeing them on a screen
UnluckyStartingStats@reddit
Paying for it isn’t the same as getting it organically
DaRealKili@reddit
I mean, it is really pleasant, even if you have to fork over a few bucks
GrandmaFuxAlot@reddit
But I just wanna sit in my rocking chair, smoke some weed and read my book…
sparxdragon@reddit
Look up the term "loveshy"
SatanVapesOn666W@reddit
Either hideous, autistic, or insufferable. Max and match as you see fit.
I was a dick for most of the 2010s and had no issues. It's a skill issues.
Positive-Face1705@reddit
Us women too! Some uglies.
DreamsServedSoft@reddit
I love to break it to you but all you have to do is lose weight
Positive-Face1705@reddit
I am underweight. Perhaps I need to take a shower and work on my personality.
Big_Figs14@reddit
Getting laid didn't solve my problems, fixing myself did.
zackit@reddit
Thankfully I've had sex with my first girlfriend at 17
Ultrox@reddit
They do it to themselves lol
Woman also like to slam crotch. Just don't be an ugly fat retard
WendyLRogers3@reddit
Much of the problem begins because children are segregated due to sex at an early age, and kept apart until the age of about 18, when they are expected to meet, date and marry someone, and live happily ever after. It ain't gonna happen.
If you've ever raised dogs, you know that unless they socialize with other dogs as puppies and later, they do not see them as friendly, but as enemies. They still strongly want to mate, but cannot resolve the two problems. Humans are not particularly different.
FingerDemon@reddit
This is me at 26
But it's also my fault, I don't make the effort
JustChillin3456@reddit
Statically around 10-12%
fletku_mato@reddit
Statistically those 10-12% form 99% of 4chan userbase.
Midziu@reddit
And 100% reddit moderators.
LooseButtPlug@reddit
I'm 43 and never kissed a woman... But I'm gay and never tried. Been with hundreds of men though.
WHALE_PHYSICIST@reddit
Isn't this 4chans main demographic?
ashireddit@reddit
Bruh the smell of pussy the girl you love is freaaking amazing. Uff I don’t know how to tell you. Its in top 3 human experience you can ever have.
sharppeta@reddit
just be yourself
buzzerkiller@reddit
Fake: OP has never even tried
Gay: he has done all of this, but with dudes
TendieBot2000@reddit
GravySealActual@reddit
This isn't the place for your fantasy erotica.
Puccini100399@reddit
sorry guys. I'm fakecel
DefinitelyNotPine@reddit
🙋♂️I might have had some show interest but I can't pick up signs
Unlikely-Bus-3944@reddit
Bro just subscribe to Clave courses and cave in your jaw with a hammer.
Ok-Boysenberry-3066@reddit
me till 19 (I hung out with some but nothng happend until 19)
Early_Power_5366@reddit
As of late not much :/ I don't trust them
FinalFantasyer@reddit
No..
cant_decide_9611@reddit
This was me til about 28
ExaBast@reddit
Damn that's just sad.
Medical_Officer@reddit
This was me until 23. I hadn't even held hands with a girl, only asked one girl out, and was turned down.
Then I started my first job, met some 6/10 and shagged on the first date... which wasn't even a date, she was waiting for her actual date and we were killing time while the other dude had to work late.
She actually took a call from the dude while I was inside her. That was an interesting experience.
pito-faezz@reddit
It's over
BLANKTWGOK@reddit
Its me and there are more like me out there