Þórr is not the "chaotic aspects of masculinity". I think he's moreso supposed to be understood as representing all the ideal characteristics a Norse man should posess according to the norms of that time. He's a protector, he's goes out and righteously destroys evil, bad creatures. He's a force for good in Norse cosmology, holding evil Jǫtnar at bay and devoting himelf to protecting humanity and their world. Þórr is not some force living inside us. In my view, the sources point to Þórr being a literal, godly person Norsemen truly believed rode the skies on his chariot, and an example to strive for as a man back then.

I am most well read in Norse myth, so I can't speak for the others, but in Norse myth, I really don't think the gods are aspects of ourselves. They are living, breathing, very human-like personalities who affect the world in complex ways, while they mirror humans at the same time. And while they are flawed and full of very human feelings and emotions, they often stand as examples to follow, a prime example being the Ragna Røk myth, where, in spite of knowing that they will die and nothing can be done about it because such is their fate, they still want to go down swinging, thereby representing very important ideals for the norms and culture at that time.

It's also a common misconception that Þórr produces lightning in that way. There exists literally one attestation where Þórr directly is associated with lightning, that being when he arrives to duel Hrungnir. Other than that, he just hits things real hard with his hammer. Yes, he likely was associated with thunder and lightning, his name suggests as much. But in what ways that would come to light and how Norsemen imagined it, that is impossible to really firmly say. Personally, I've always been fond of the thought that it's his chariot that produces thunder and lightning when it rolls across the skies. The Celts had a corresponding god that created thunder and lightning in such a way, to my understanding, and the Celts and Germanics were neighbouring cultures and closely related in certain aspects. But again, no one really knows.

There's also nothing to suggest that Freyja has anything to do with vanity. She has different 'sins', if you want to call them that.

Btw, I hope I don't come across as condescending, that is not my intention. I just feel that your statements here contradict what I know and have been taught from my studies at my university. Interpretations of course differ.