I have so many smallish health problems. If I just had one I could have a decent quality of life, but all together? Oof.

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willowmarie27@reddit

Well got laid off from work due to toxic admin which turned out to be a blessing.

I wrote a book.

Science Fantasy.

The wildest thing is trying to describe a book you wrote.. and blurbs are torture to write but here's mine

When Zan Lohalea is assigned to work for Ambassador, Emmer Marazon, she is just trying to earn some extra money, but he turns out to be an eccentric genius determined to break every law on the Islands. Zan starts asking questions and discovers she has been drugged by the organization holding her contract, brainwashed by religion and paid less than every other rune-mage.

With the threat of war looming, Zan encounters Davik, a man who travelled half-way around the world to find her. Through him, she discovers that the truth is buried deeper than she ever could have imagined and for twenty-nine years someone has been controlling her every move.

Morally gray characters drive this fast-paced science-fantasy novella, with powerful rune-mages dominating a fractured society through the use of enhanced warriors and mind-altering magical disks.

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JealousDot6409@reddit

45F might close, on my own, 1st time home .... it's now or never.

Still have teens at home to keep me young. I feel healthy for my age after losing a considerable amount of weight in the past two years.

My husband and I have been married for 34 years and at point it is just a long term partnership.We have a long past with great memories and a solid financial base, but we sleep in separate beds and don't even touch one another. Ironically, two men have made advances toward me in the last 6 months. I have been utterly shocked by this. We are all in our 50s and I thought this part of life had passed. I did not think I would be desired by anyone again, much less two someones. It has been validating though at difficult time in life where I am sandwiched between kids and elder care. I am a faithful woman though.

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kristen30324@reddit

With my dad. He’s in a nursing home under hospice. Nursing homes suck.

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Ok-Offer-541@reddit

❤️‍🩹

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48 year old male. Married w/ an 18 year old. We live an upper middle class lifestyle. But, I'm overweight, tired, and not motivated. I wrestle with significance/meaning, or lack of it. I have a steady career but haven't made my mark in this world. This can't be all there is.

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Apprehensive_Put4319@reddit

I am in a similar life phase, except I am almost 55 with two HS students. Financially in good shape for retirement but never achieved professionally what I could have. I WAS tired and overweight. I started with Zepbound, which immediately suppressed my hunger. The chain reaction it caused has been miraculous: I adopted a healthy lifestyle, eat about 1500 calories a day, run 20-25 miles per week, lift 3x per week. My weight is now about the same as when I was 29. I am shredded, feel great, every single physical, mental and emotional aspect has dramatically improved in less than 1 year. I will never go back to being overweight. The professional part I have learned to accept, one kid is kind of a fuck up/late bloomer but not without some hope, the other kid is almost perfect. It is sooooo true that if you don’t have your health, you have nothing. I will have a comfortable retirement even if I limp through these last 8-10 years professionally. Cant wait to knock out the bucket list but am enjoying the ride as we go. One kid is on track to play college softball, so the youth sports circuit still keeps us busy. I have learned to be content with all the great things an UMC life has afforded…am grateful to have avoided so many hardships that others unfortunately have to face.

Doing great! We've spent the weekend on a three-generation project on our family mountain cabin. It's 1,500 miles from where I live but closer to where our youngest lives, so we've had a great time working together (with my mom too) and hanging out. Hard work, but fun to be together and to see the project progress.

Life-Zookeepergame58@reddit

I just turned 60, I'm unemployed, I have 13k left in the checking account and a septic system to finish. Things could be much worse, I guess. My goal is to find a job asap and avoid tapping into my meager retirement. We'll see.

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stormcarver1@reddit

Been away from work on Workmen’s Comp. for almost a year now. Still not able to read due to a head injury. Moving back home to another state toward the end of the week, and the moving company hasn’t given me an exact date yet, so I’m kind of losing my mind.

Definitely looking forward to things being a little easier after the move.

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sudrewem@reddit

Bouncing between thinking life is pretty good and barely being able to hold it together. The future is looking stressful and the depression is very real but I have a wonderful husband, my kids are doing ok, and my health is relatively stable.

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I too am curious

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dirtybo0ts@reddit

Left my job 2 months ago after 15 years of caretaking for two dying parents with minimal sibling help…

Emptying out my parent’s house was more exhausting than taking care of them. So. Much. Stuff.

I’m f**king exhausted.

Needed some time because (and I may be preaching to the generational choir) caretaking will just drain you completely.

Wouldn’t trade the time with my parents for anything, but at 47 I’m finally taking care of myself.

So I’m “semi-retired”now. Inheritance very much helps to take a “me break”. My wife is also not working but going back to school in September and I’m starting up a consulting business.

Been self-renovating our house, challenging my DIY dad. Watching a lot of tennis. Getting our dream garden going. Caring for two senior pets.

Hate what’s going on in the world, so we’re working on building our home sanctuary and relaxing for a while.

I’m still exhausted. Very much miss my parents. Trying to make the best of everything, as we all are.

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TheJokersChild@reddit

I'm exhausted too. Emotional exhaustion is as bad as physical exhaustion. In the past year:

bought out after a year (job got "hubbed" to a new location where they pay half of what we got)

lost an aunt

6 months unemployed with 1 month of zero income in gap month between severance and unemployment

mom went into nursing home

mom sold the house

new job

new move

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thecardshark555@reddit

I feel this...

I don't want to sound whatever...but an anti-depressant helped me so much with my depression and anxiety.

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Angrykittie13@reddit

Been taking them for 20 years. In the process of switching meds because they aren’t helping. 🙏🏻

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GrapesandGrainsNY@reddit (OP)

If you can afford a coach, career counselor or a therapist, I highly encourage you to seek one out.

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Angrykittie13@reddit

I see a therapist weekly and I’m on antidepressants.

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psiprez@reddit

Best (and really only) friend is retiring next Friday. He is 70, and you would never guess it. He is hoping to come back part time, just to keep active.

Spent the whole weekend alone (with my cats, how cliche lol). Weather sucks, bbqs and parades called off (holiday weekend in the US).

Can’t afford to do anything fun and fighting my employer about a raise I was promised. Too old to start over.

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LeighofMar@reddit

48F and content. We've been in a drought and this week is thunderstorms so I'm all for it sitting on my porch watching the sky light up. Health wise I dipped but back to baseline now. Work is still sporadic but I've learned that we can go a month without payroll and still function so I'm going to stop stressing about it. Our expenses are as low as I can get them, no debt, so even our meager wages leave room for savings and fun. Looking forward to an arts festival in two weeks and working on my garden.

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Agreed. I’m getting into the medical field. Again. Fun fact, my degree (from the 1990s) is in respiratory therapy. But I made more money selling computers than any respiratory therapist did. So I got into network engineering instead. And college credits only transfer for 7 or 15 years depending on the classes……

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You're awesome!! Has cervical spine surgery two years ago, after 30 years of pain. Recently, had dominant hand surgery over this past winter. Two procedures. Honestly, Life is grand, no complaints. Ivye been in so much pain my entire life, so I take it as I can. No one wants to hear about fibromyalgia or CFS or neuralgia or anything else. Glad to be standing!!

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typicalamericanbasta@reddit

Overall pretty good- a small but surprisingly larger check than I thought from my old job should be here soon and I, somehow, haven't had a cigarette in over six months. Zin's are keeping the nic fits in check so that helps.

The big mystery lately is do I want to date or remain a single dad a little longer. Not much luck so far in finding a single woman who wants to date a 55yo widower with multiple grade school kids at home and lives in one state but works in a different state for half of the month. I needed a break after being accused of lying about being a widower. I guess someone could lie about that but damn.

Hope all is, and remains good in your world. We could all use a little grace and peace in our lives and I truly hope whoever reads this can find some in theirs.

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SarahJaneB17@reddit

I'm good in general but I don't have anywhere or anyone else to rant about some recent incidents. I'm on disability. My budget is super tight. It has rained every day except 2 for the past couple of weeks and my yard is out of control. I can't do it myself.

I asked my neighbor over a week ago if the guys she uses could do mine and she said it would be 40 bucks. Guy came a few weeks ago. He wanted 60. I had 40 cash and 9 bucks in my account, so no go.

Yesterday one of the neighborhood regulars/characters knocked on my door and asked for 50. She has an addiction problem. We all try to help her out as much as we can, but now I have 40 cash and 90 cents in my account. After a bit she comes back and says 40 is okay.

Guys, it is the most tweaker of tweakdom jobs you have ever seen. It's getting kind of hilarious at this point. The back yard is done in the center and long and hacked at on the sides. She did the ivy around my porch and the bits of plant are everywhere.

Saturday I get a letter from public works that my lawn is in code violation and I have about a week to take care of it.

I'll figure it out, I always do, but dang. I'm pretty sure it's the neighbors I asked for help that did the complaint too.

Spent the day with my sons(21,22). Watched wrestling. Ate food that was bad for me. All the good things today.

Surviving and doing my best to keep moving forward.

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WaterFrogSnail@reddit

Not so great and just going day by day now. Trying to find the small bits of happiness I can reach. Things are much better now than several years ago but I don't know how things will go moving forward. Was in graduate school working two jobs and towards my PhD in my 30s, got autoimmune encephalitis, and lost everything. This was after I was caregiver to my grandma (stroke), mom (cancer) in my 20s and early 30s, and then became the sole caregiver for my disabled brother after mom and grandma passed. Unless I win the lottery or my brain lesions and other permanent disabilities miraculously heal, it's just gonna keep being day by day. Still an unpaid caregiver, and working a toxic job and seriously underpaid. I'm so tired, I just want to retire, but that's never going to happen now.

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kskeiser@reddit

Tuesday is officially my last day of work and I’m retired. So looking forward to the next chapter.

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Lovelylady_hump@reddit

Congratulations 🎉🎈🎊..enjoy!

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whitemamba24xx@reddit

Laid off in October and I haven’t maybe 5 weeks of unemployment left. Probably will need to sell my things and live out of my car with my dog.

Never thought it would come to this. I just had my highest salary ever I was proud on my own.

On the plus side I start a masters degree program on 6/1. Should be interesting doing the coursework from my car.

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BogusNom@reddit

Financially stable. Mentally stable. Emotionally stable.

The Universe apparently hates my guts though.

Example in point:

My daughter landed in hospital last week with Stephens-Johnson Syndrome. My brother-in-law passed away that same day just one week shy of his 65th birthday. My frail elderly mother is an attention seeking, self centered #@$& who fabricates a life threatening problem every Sunday.

I fled a DV situation 5 yrs ago and have found that decent men in this backwater town are like diamonds in a coal heap.

I put a small amount of money into a not for profit supporting local sports entertainment. One of the other investors stole vital equipment, cost the company close to six months income and is now taking me to court because "I owe him money". Dude. I have proof. I will win but it's a pain in the arse situation I didn't need.

So I spend most of my life on my verandah among the trees avoiding people. When I'm not there, I'm on the road in my 4x4 chasing waterfalls.

Red wine, steak and fire pits feed my soul.

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GrapesandGrainsNY@reddit (OP)

I’m so sorry. Sending you healing vibes.

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FriendRaven1@reddit

Physical and mental illnesses have been trying to beat me down since birth.

Almost 60 years later and I. Am. Tired.

omfgwhatever@reddit

This is going to be extremely TMI.

I have been incredibly constipated for the last 2 weeks. I had a normal BM 10 minutes ago, and the universe seems to be okay again.

It's the weirdest things that bring me joy any more.

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Rewatched Topgun Maverick yesterday and felt sad and incredibly nostalgic. The scene at the start where the old photos of the original Topgun appeared made me remember watching the original in the theatre and going crazy over the tomcats, his ninja, beautiful meg ryan and those days when i was still in my teens doing street races.

Those scenes where tom cruise was going "ballistic with his hair on fire" reminded me of those days flying through the streets, drifting through the corners, with my heart pounding and my adrenaline spiking to the moon.

Haven't broken 80mph in about 30yrs and the only race i do these days is to bed before the clock strikes 9pm hahaha.

The good old days.

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DJ_Vigilance@reddit

I got to have a date night with my wife last night. The first one in months which is what we seem to average with a couple shortleggers. The simple pleasure of sharing an uninterrupted meal together is underrated.

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demona2002@reddit

Love life. Hate my job. Have my retirement date on a post-it on my monitor. Counting down so I can focus solely on the “loving life” part.

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Iko87iko@reddit

Feeling the wheel

https://youtu.be/9zr45OopVzA?si=ym9Ju_AFY-b5ZuMi

The wheel is turning and you can't slow down

You can't let go and you can't hold on

You can't go back and you can't stand still

If the thunder don't get you then the lightning will

Small wheel turning by the fire and rod

Big wheel turning by the grace of God

Every time that wheel turn round

Bound to cover just a little more ground

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alvb@reddit

On the sucky side, I'm 13 months post-op jaw surgery after falling while out fishing with my husband. Definitely didn't go as well as I had hoped, but what in life does? My husband is 14 years post-op spine surgery, in terrible pain and of course pain management is a joke, so we push along as best we can.

On the plus side, this past February, my husband and I celebrated 37 years from our first date and August we will celebrate our 32nd anniversary. And I am deep into research on my second book that will be published next year. So I'll take the wins.

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wildcat_crazy_zebra@reddit

Found out that my dad passed today. I had no clue it was coming because the last 10 years have been.... Nsfw one could say.

So I'm sitting on the floor in my kitchen with music playing -one of our biggest bonding areas so it's a bit spicy -trying to figure out how I feel. Feeling guilty when I the tears start so I shut them down hard as I can. Because of what caused the break.. I'm not allowed to feel anything..? I just feel lost as hell.

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GrapesandGrainsNY@reddit (OP)

I’m so sorry. Please don’t judge your feelings. Let them flow. The harder you push them down, the harder they spring back.

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wildcat_crazy_zebra@reddit

Thank you, truly..

I've been fighting this war for 10 years and trying to work through it and reconcile but knowing now that there are no more possibilities has put a huge spotlight on where I've been struggling.

Work stuff is crazy!
My job went from dream job to nightmare so I have to get out of there ASAP. Toughest thing is being stuck there, as much as I want to scream FUCK ALL Y'ALL and exit the building. Because I still need to pay the bills and I don't yet have another job lined up. Prospects are good, but it cannot happen soon enough!

Home stuff is good, though. Great relationship with husband and with both adult (married and living on their own_ kids, parents and in-laws.

We've just discovered The Blacklist, a great TV show that started 12 years ago, and totally enjoying that.

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Comedywriter1@reddit

I’m just starting The Blacklist, too. Am a huge James Spader fan and this has been on my list for a while now.

Hang in there with the work stuff. My wife is looking to get out as well.

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skirtstheissue@reddit

Moved dad into retirement home this week. Older sister told me not to take off work to help, that I would be in the way. Twice. I live in town, she flew in. Now she’s mad I didn’t disobey her and show up to help, anyway.

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PsychologicalRip6998@reddit

Big hugs to you

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PsychologicalRip6998@reddit

I’m in shock and exhausted. Why do cross-country plane tickets average $600 each way now? Why are groceries so expensive? Why does eating at a restaurant cost $100 for mediocrity? Why does a package of trash bags cost 10-20 bucks at target? Why is the person handing me a bagel in a paper bag expecting a tip?

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lexi_prop@reddit

Perimenopause Is kicking my ass. I've never had so many episodes of suddenly irate over absolutely nothing before. I'm so disappointed in myself and I'm such a deep depression after every episode because my family doesn't deserve those outbursts.

But on the plus side, i now realize i used to feel this level of self loathing frequently as a young adult, and now it's so foreign that I'm more unsettled by it.

All our kids live relatively close. Close enough for family get-togethers whenever we want.

All of our kids are awesome.

My wife has a job she enjoys and recently moved to a new team where she is learning new things and loving doing so.

Our dog is ridiculously cute.

I’m in Kansas City and rent my best friends moms old house as he moved her in with him.

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Bobofettsixtynoune@reddit

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Starting to suspect we’re all in Hell.

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Lumpy-Artist-6996@reddit

It was a good day. Saw my mom and step-dad, and brought them homemade pork mole, beans, Mexican rice and we had strawberries and cream for dessert. I made hibiscus tea mocktails because I was driving home.

Played Poetry for Neanderthals, and enjoyed the afternoon.

I'm 51 and the other night I started thinking about what I have to look forward to.

No longer being able to drive and therefore losing my independence.

My parents passing away.

What's left of my looks fading.

Perimenopause without HRT (stroke survivor)

My health starting to decline.

I have no kids, so if my husband goes first I don't know what will happen to me.

It's so depressing.

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Spicercakes@reddit

I feel like I'm failing at everything.

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heiberdee2@reddit

Same. I had been leveling up, but now I’m back in the basement. About two years ago I lost my job and had to go back to a job that I’d moved on from twelve years prior.

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SamHandwich0@reddit

Try to fail at the next thing you do- either way its a success!

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emacextrabrut80@reddit

45/f and fiancé is 49/m, we are both in good jobs but only one of us has health care through work. Only one of us has a good 401K/Roth IRA with match through work (both are me.) The stress is real. We’ve scaled our tiny wedding back to bare bones, but still lovely. Saving a down payment to hopefully find a duplex or triplex to purchase in 5 years or fewer. But again, the stress just seems to - live alongside us. I’m athletic and feel half my age, but FH has had hard jobs for decades. Neither of us have family wealth to fall back on or inherit.

IndigoHG@reddit

Sciatica attack that's affecting my pelvis and lower back. At least, that's what I'm hoping is affecting my pelvis and lower back. Also suffering from a cold that's moving into my chest, and with the whole Kyle Bush thing, I'm freaking out.

Otherwise, exhausted and depressed.

Xavelle@reddit

Meh... Feeling lonely. The single mom life was a busy one and now they're all grown.

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LawComprehensive2204@reddit

54 both of us. Retired 3 years. New paid off house. Financially secure. Married 28 years. Youngest in college.
By the pool drinking beer today. May watch a movie later.

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Pristine_Giraffe7941@reddit

55 and husband is 52. We are in the best financial shape of our lives. Both have state pensions for retirement and I have a 401k and IRA.

I work remotely and just got a small promotion to a much easier job. We are pretty happy with life.

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PahzTakesPhotos@reddit

Last weekend was the first renaissance faire in our local season. Just a small, two-day faire that is a fundraiser for local charities/scholarships/food banks. My job is as a photographer. So I walk around and take photos of whatever I see that looks interesting. (and, anything that blows up. The historical re-enactors get to fire muskets and cannons).

So it has been a full week since then and my chronic pain is still lingering. I'm going to try ice cream therapy. That is, I eat ice cream till I feel better. I think it'll help.

Here's a photo of the cannon demo during "Weapons of War".

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chillinwithabeer29@reddit

Thinking retirement, finances all set for that, married 33 years and going strong, kids off doing their thing. It’s 👍

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Away-Equipment4869@reddit

In my perimenopause era and its been rough. Today was one of the better days!

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r7pxrv@reddit

It's a "Bank Holiday" weekend for us in the UK, 30 degrees (Celsius) - friends over, drinking, BBQ.

All my house guests are in bed, I'm enjoying a bit of peace an quiet and cooler air, all good here, thanks for asking.

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LilJourney@reddit

I'm tired, Boss.

I don't really understand how, but time is moving much faster now. Maybe my brain is processing things slower?

But I keep falling behind - on chores, on bills, on workload, on to-dos. All I really want is to go sit on my deck in the sun with a cold beer and a decent audiobook.

I'm tired of planning, implementing, struggling, cleaning up after others (literally and figuratively).

I want the kids to graduate and move out, my retirement fund to be full, the house paid off, and retirement to start.

Positive note: Helluva finish to the 500 today and I got sent some new photos of my adorable grandson.

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OldBanjoFrog@reddit

I am burnt out at my job, and at almost 50, am worried about my ability to find something else. I want to walk away from engineering but I am so far along.

My mom also has a rare non aggressive form of bone cancer.

On the plus side, my daughter will be starting middle school in the fall, and wants to try out for volleyball. She also was singing Sepultura the other day (not the usual Taylor Swift/Olivia Rodrigo fare)

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LumpyheadCarini2001@reddit

Took an edible and settling in for a rainy Sunday night. Going to have some Chinese (Gen. Tso's chicken and fried rice with some Crab Rangoon) delivered. Probably watch the OKC/SAS basketball game and play some PS5. Things could be worse I guess. But they could also be better.

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