It’s official, I would rather stay home

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ConversationOk470@reddit

I think of my house as a resort or a cabin. Not even kidding! Sometimes after work on Fri I’ll go shopping for all the “supplies” I need to stay in and enjoy the house on the weekend. 😂

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Organic_Bug1334@reddit

I see nothing wrong with that. A person should have space they feel comfortable in and if it isnt home? Then I dont know where that would be.

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My agency let us work from home for over a year before talking to each of us to ask whether we wanted to stay at home.We did. So we sold the building, stated renting a smaller office for group meetings, and became remote first.

Not quite, but my "Sphere of Travel Curiosity" has shrunk, or maybe a better way to say it is that it has more focus.

This was already me for a long time. I got into the “need to go out phase” when I got myself a girlfriend. That said we enjoyed chill time and usually just staying at each other’s or a friend’s house.

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Citizen44712A@reddit

All my stuff is at home. I have plenty of things to do at home. Of course still go out as needed. Surprisingly not as much video game playing as I anticipated..

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MissSplash@reddit

I love sitting on my deck with a book.

Unfortunately, I live at "work."

I'm 62 and disabled from my career, so I am responsible for caring for my Mom (86) and my younger brother.

Mom has lots of physical issues. Bro has untreated mental illness. I moved with them to help out with my grandchildren, who have since moved 6 hours away.

While I love some downtime at home, I find the most peace at a local barn. I clean and feed and ride the horses several times a week.

I've been a caregiver since I was a child. It was my career as well.

I did not realize the extent of my siblings illness, and now find myself stuck in a situation I created. In a house that I don't own, but I'm 100% responsible for its upkeep and the people in it.

I can relax when I visit my sisters home. I try to get there monthly.

So, yes, I like being at home. I'm just a tad burnt out. Lol. But who isn't?

I am not one for malls or restaurants. Really don't like crowds, especially during a pandemic.

I'm so grateful for the barn and my sister. Between those two places, I get micro breaks and I really appreciate them.

Really hoping to visit my kids and grandbabies this summer. Difficult on disability with gas prices, but I am trying to save enough.

I know I would be more settled if my children were still nearby. Now I simply exist to keep my family and their property maintained.

I think of home as work. It's disconcerting. You never really get a day off. But you get a few hours here and there.

It's better than being homeless, but not better than when I had my own place. If that makes sense.

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sadeland21@reddit (OP)

My BFF also finds peace of mind with her horse friends. Keep doing what brings you happiness

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Careless_Ocelot_4485@reddit

Hope you can do some visiting this summer and rest. It sounds like you do a lot for your family.

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MissSplash@reddit

Thanks!

Once a person sees more of the world, it can become less compelling to travel and staying home is more enjoyable. At our age, it is nice to make time to relax. We are always hustling with our jobs, kids, and parents.

I find that sometimes watching travel shows that visit exotic places and reading will scratch that exploration itch when it comes up.

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sadeland21@reddit (OP)

I love House Hunters International

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Master_Hospital_8631@reddit

I'm 58 now. Every day that passes i become more committed to not working a day after I first become eligible for social security.

I don't want to "hustle." I don't care about "social interaction with co-workers" or "getting bored."

We pay a lot of rent for the house, we want to get the most value for our money! /s somewhat

But seriously no I’m all about staying home as much as possible now.

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Alisterguitardevil@reddit

There are just too many “dumb” people out there nowadays. That’s not meant as an insult to anyone but the things I see and hear and witness confound the mind especially when driving!

I think part of it is me, I’m finding I am having less patience for people as I get older but that’s getting triggered from somewhere…

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Weird-Girl-675@reddit

Every time i have to run errands I’m reminded why I prefer staying home.

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Appropriate_Oven_292@reddit

Cashier asked me what plans I had for the weekend.

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wishmachine007@reddit

That sounds like a great environment! I used to dream of having a little mountain cabin. Preferably with some gnomes living in the yard, but I’d take multiple libraries too!

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Overall_Matter_2520@reddit

It’s costs money to leave my place that I pay dearly for….I will stay in and enjoy my rent.

Also, perimenopause has given some agoraphobia (my mother had it too) - I used to hate to stay home and now I hate leaving.

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Enlightened_Gardener@reddit

I’m just going to add this in because its important for all of us:

Perimenopause and menopause raise the rate of mental illness in women, independently from any other side-effects you might get. So even a woman having an “easy” menopause can still develop anxiety, depression, phobias etc.

Nope, still not that old and hopefully never will be.

I love my home, but the idea of sitting in it for the next 30 years is depressing.

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NateShowww@reddit

I stay home when I'm not at work. I don't really go anywhere, just no need to. We kinda got what we want, to be left alone and just have the stuff we want magically appear in front of us,, but there is this other horrible side of the world not having us to balance it back out.

So now we are starting to show up intentionally in public to make sure everyone knows we still exist. We may be home, but we can come out and play real quick.

I noped out of this long ago. My tolerance for traffic & crowds has bottomed out. It's to the point where I just don't enjoy anything that requires dealing with much of it.

Home is my favorite place to be - with my dog, my husband, my favorite activities and my favorite things to eat. Hypothetically I think it sounds fun to go out but then we talk ourselves out of it. On the other hand, when I do go out and socialize I always have fun and am glad I did it. It just takes some work to get me out the door.

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SacramentoUser@reddit

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I have always loved staying home. Even as a kid, I didn't even want to go to school, at first. One day the teacher told us we had been bad and we would have to stay "after school" and I was absolutely terrified. The teachers seriously thought there was something wrong with me because I seemed so afraid of the outside world.

Ha, my husband and I are the opposite. I could easily go weeks without leaving my property. I work from home and have for 17 years. My dogs are here. I have legal BC bud. I order the groceries online and husband does the pickup. He does the school runs on his way to work and picks them up in the afternoon before finishing the day in his home office.

I worked from home for ten years (starting before Covid) and then my husband started when Covid hit. (Fortunately, we have separate offices at home.) We rarely went out except for weekly shopping trips, and I could easily spend 4-5 days in a row at home.

Then we both retired last year, and we each found different hobbies that encourage leaving the house. We joke that we see even less of each other now that we’re retired than we did when we were working. Even so, we’d rather spend evening and weekends at home.

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Few_Policy5764@reddit

I like both. I like going out but small groups or crowds. Crowded elbow to elbow is no longer my thing.

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WillBrink@reddit

Between COVID and the f-ing crazies today, staying home is the easy decision these days.

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Top_Method8933@reddit

Absolutely 👍 Home is my refuge, and other than leaving it 5 days a week for work, I’d rather be here. I rarely even deal with shopping in a store either. I order most of my stuff online.

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WillBrink@reddit

I work at home, so if I didn't, you'd never get me out once back from work.

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Cantech667@reddit

I retired about a year ago and I am turning 60 this year. I’m divorced, single, no kids. I see friends about once a week, but keep in touch with people on social media daily. I have friends who are very social and love to travel, and I’m pretty happy just doing my own thing at home. I’ll travel a few hours to see live music from time to time, but otherwise I’m happy watching shows and movies, cooking good food and learning, new recipes, playing around with tech, and just enjoying my peace.

sadeland21@reddit (OP)

It’s always stressful just getting from point A to point B.

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katgardener@reddit

This.

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LAARPer@reddit

I agree with this wholeheartedly. It also seems like people are willing to fight on a dime, and a lot of guys are armed with something.

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Brilliant-Onion2129@reddit

I’m with you!

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Spiritual-Road2784@reddit

It's a bit easier now. I felt guilty, like I should be doing something all the time. I don't have those feelings anymore

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sadeland21@reddit (OP)

Yes, the guilt is gone

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit

thrilled when plans re cxlld.

Nope. I became a real homebody when covid hit and wasn't all that outgoing for a couple of years before that too. Got fat AF during that time. Last fall I decided to turn it around and now I run 5, sometimes 6, days a week. Love getting out exploring. I did a 10 miler through the city today amd had a blast... for the first 9 miles. Then not so much. 🤣

But that has also given me a lot more energy to do other things out and about. Spend more time working out with my kid. Go out for dinner amd breakfast more with my wife. Enjoying my select group of friends a bit more than I was too.

The only things that get me to venture out is meeting up with a few very good friends and stuff I have to do like errands.

I used to love going out to bars but unless it is with specific people I absolutely hate them now. Even if I am out with people I prefer bars that are quieter and not packed.

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Seagrave63@reddit

Yup. Been like this for years. One of the few silver linings from the covid restrictions.

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Rough-Flower8580@reddit

I love my home. Its not huge or fancy. Its safe & ours

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Nick_Fotiu_Is_God@reddit

I’m the same way. So here we are in the NYC summer, where I’ve been for 56 summers now.

Except these days, I hate the heat, I don’t like crowds anymore, most places are too noisy for me, eating out is too expensive, concerts are too expensive (though I still go to many), but the A/C in my apartment is awesome.

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wildcat_crazy_zebra@reddit

I'm the family cave troll and I'm good with it. I've kinda always had this tendency so everyone is pretty used to it.

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ivegotafastcar@reddit

I have my online games that I zone out on. I spend all day and several nights with people… I just need more down time to recharge my battery each day. I try to stay awake until 9pm so I will sleep 9 hours. I don’t want to get up any earlier than I have to.

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