Is this being unfair to the dealership?

Posted by Fantastic-Radio-2088@reddit | askcarguys | View on Reddit | 131 comments

Long story short, the dealership recently performed a recall service on my vehicle and I asked them to rotate the tires while they had it. They forgot to tighten the lug nuts on FR wheel. Wife and newborn had to pull off the highway on an 80F + day because the car felt like “it was going to fall apart” while driving.

I was able to meet them, take the car and drive it to the same brand dealership of a different location that was conveniently 2 miles down the road. This dealership identified the lug nut issue during a multipoint inspection and reported the wheel “was about to fall off”

I reported this back to the original dealer. Gave them more than an earful. My wife and newborn could have crashed. They admitted fault.

While my vehicle was at the identifying dealer, their multi point inspection found a critical issue with my transmission - larger metal bits in the fluid.

The original dealer who forgot to tighten my wheel, is willing to give me a deal on a new car due to the grave error that they performed. I had proposed this as a way to “make things right” because I happen to be in the market anyways and I’m not sure I want their service dept handling my vehicle anymore.

Is it wrong of me NOT to disclose the transmission issue that the other dealer identified? I have no sympathy for the dealer who put my family in danger. FWIW this is a huge dealership and brand. US based.