Do you feel like they just exist ?

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Does anyone else feel like they just exist on a merry go round ? I get up feed the dogs, go to work come home, walks the dogs eat dinner and go to bed. I’m 41 male and childless, I am married but my wife probably does more or less the same as me. Maybe I’ve been sold a dream by social media, but does anyone else feel like each day is more or less a copy of the last and feel like they should be doing more but they’re not. I have friends who I’ve known since school but only see them every month or so as they have children and we live a distance apart. I feel like life is passing me by, maybe it’s a millennial problem or a first world problem or both ?

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ddmf@reddit

Yeah. For the most I work and sleep. Currently extra tired from fighting off the pollen. Saturday I'm usually in bed to recover, chores Sunday, ready for work Monday. Yay.

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skkkrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr@reddit

Get a decent air purifier. Has changed my QOL at home. I got the Philips 3200 (has dual filters). I sleep so much better, don’t wake up with a sore throat and congested nose anymore.

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ddmf@reddit

They're great things, definitely improved my sleep quality

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Jumpy-Scallion-9463@reddit

I retired early a few years ago. Well off with a good pension and yes, I know how lucky I am. However, I too am living a quiet, comfortable, predictable, unremarkable life. I barely know what day of the week it is, let alone what month I'm in. And I think it's fucking wonderful.

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cheezypeazy123@reddit

Yep, single 42 f. Noone really checks in on me because I'm always "alright" and I've stopped chasing because they're always busy. Never had a serious fella, despite my feelings, so I don't know what it would even feel like to share my day with someone. But I've got cats and I'll stay alive for them.

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CromulentConfusion@reddit

I feel the same way, it's not just you, friend. Seems like same shit different day, repeat forever. Also the older I get the faster time seems to pass. It's kind of like waiting for something to happen but I dunno what.

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hauntedathiest@reddit

It's waiting to die. I''m 63 stuck in a rut can't go out as disabled and also have agoraphobia. I'm just ticking down the days.

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Motor-Command-2680@reddit

Ground hog day syndrome. Yeah i feel the same. I have depression as well. I used to enjoy my hobbies like coin collecting etc. Now i just don't bother hardly with anything.

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kylehyde84@reddit

Butter the toast, eat the toast, shit the toast. God, life's relentless.

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Rynho-skills@reddit

Yeah mate .. wake up, work, sleep, repeat, feels like I'm just NPC-ing through life sometimes lol

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Zharkgirl2024@reddit

All the time. I wish I could move to Cyprus and work with a cat sanctuary.

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these_metal_hands@reddit

I do feel this from time to time, yes. Sometimes it gets me down. One thing I heard somewhere, that I try to remember, is that musing on these kind of thoughts and actually just being bored in general, is a type of luxury. We are no so consumed by survival, or exhausted by work that we can't experience and engage with this type of thinking. Knowing and reminding myself of that doesn't make the existential feelings go away, but it helps me maintain a little perspective.

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Humorous-Prince@reddit

Yep, work, single, childfree, don’t do much of anything else in my life. Ain’t got much of anything else in my life either.

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Asleep-Software-4160@reddit

Yes, I was like this for years and it's taken a real effort to break the cycle. You have to make plans, there has to be something ahead of you. I let my comfort zone get too small, and I would only do things I was comfortable with, which is a limiting condition.

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Dartzap@reddit

Welcome to midlife, the delightful time where our bodies start preparing us for the slippery slope. Sorry, I mean slippers. Avoid getting a motorbike.

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WitchiEmpress@reddit

I used too a lot more. Now I spend all my free time doing hobbies and /or with my partner. Also child free, but have 2 cats. I’m either crocheting, gaming, or reading. I would definitely recommend finding a good hobby with something to look forward too, and making new friends

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