Have you enjoyed getting older?
Posted by postprandialrepose@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 192 comments
Hi, everyone. I turned 50 recently and feel I haven't enjoyed getting older.
I believe the mid-40s age cliff — one of the two age cliffs scientists recently identified — affected my mental health more than anything else. The series of mental-health events since then have made me resent aging. I've not been pleased with the process at all.
Quick background: I had been taking an SSRI (Escitalopram/Lexapro) at a low dosage since about 2003. I found a local psychiatrist about five years ago who helped me improve my mental health after a major downturn. He increased the SSRI dosage and prescribed me an SNRI (Atomoxetine/Strattera).
Last month, I experienced another significant downturn. The prescription the doctor wrote for an NDRI (Bupropion/Wellbutrin) has helped tremendously.
Regaining some agency over ADHD that went undiagnosed and untreated for 45 years — and the increasingly destructive conditions that come with it (depression, anxiety, panic attacks) — has been wonderful. But it hasn't changed my opinion about getting older.
But enough about me. Have ***you*** enjoyed getting older?
Momma_Ginja@reddit
I love it! I turn 62 in September, switched to a new job (same state agency, but different and higher paying role). I have until at least 2028 before I can retire but enjoy my position enough I may continue.
I’ve been on Duloxetine for years - more for anxiety than depression. I did get an ADHD diagnosis and started taking Wellbutrin last year (lost the stupid menopause weight). I’m not sure it helps that much… it’s hard to stay focused with our current situation. The only disadvantage is pain. But TBH I had arthritis as a teen and young adult, tennis elbow from color guard, horrible plantar fasciitis late 20’s (traded heels for Birkenstocks). I’m not sure this is worse, just different. I’m trying to keep my weight in check and stay active - but hate to give up sugar, alcohol and hate exercise unless it’s social! lol
I try to be kind and transparent with others. I’m politically aware and active. I volunteer for several non profits.
My husband and I took up backpacking in 2019, and we take at least one backpacking trip a season, plus training day hikes. We ski in winter. I garden, we have dogs and chickens to enjoy.
We have a blast when we are with our adult kids 27 & 30. No grandkids in sight.
We are part of a zymurgy club with members from mid-30s to early 70s. We enjoy several babies/toddlers (and of course homemade beer, wine, mead and seltzers) in our group.
We go listen to live music almost monthly - folk, jazz, or our friend’s cover band. Sometimes we go to Beer Choir - a total hoot! Many bars are offering fun N/A drinks nowadays and trivia nights, karaoke, board game nights, etc. If the ones near you don’t have fun activities maybe suggest it.
I’ve never been one to care a great deal what others think of me. Now I really DGAF. I’m a good person and I know I contribute to my community and do my best as a human.
If you’re not enjoying life (at any age) I suggest becoming more involved in community or finding a hobby. I binged on books like Happy City, and Walkable City, and Strong Towns. One of the groups I’m involved with is trying to make our community more walkable and bikeable. Service clubs like Kiwanis & Rotary are important to the fabric of communities - if you have time and money you could investigate your local groups.
Many Americans have become too insulated from the world - suburban living and long commutes are bad for our health and often make it difficult to build social connections.
TollyVonTheDruth@reddit
No. Absolutely not. The worsening eyesight, balding, graying, sleep apnea from out of nowhere, random long hairs growing in places I can't reach, and probably other things I missed... no thanks. I'd be much happier getting older yet remaining how I was in my 30s.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
The eyesight thing is frustrating. My astigmatism has stabilized for now, which I understand is to be expected at this age. But I can't read shit without my glasses.
TollyVonTheDruth@reddit
Astigmatism here too. I'm at the point where I need glasses to see far away but need nothing to see up close. Bifocals really mess with me, so it's a real back and forth hassle to watch tv while trying to read on my phone.
endlesssearch482@reddit
I’m 59 and while last year had a few health hiccups, overall, I’ve loved my last decade and look forward to more years to come.
joshua_addison_music@reddit
52 feel great, look great. In the gym 5 days a week. This is nothing like I thought it was going to be. Fingers crossed 🤞
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I'm really glad to hear it! Sounds like this time in your life has exceeded your expectations.
CynicalOne_313@reddit
Yes, I have.
I am disabled, and went through a traumatic upbringing with a lot of abuse and my mother manipulated and kept me sheltered most of my life with her toxicity.
I finally was able to start healing a few years ago and feel better about aging, even with my disabilities and conditions, because I'm looking out for myself, finally.
When I turned 50 last year and told people excitedly how old I was, they were surprised.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It's inspiring to hear how you managed to emerge and become a strong self-advocate.
beansoupscratch@reddit
I haven't minded it as much as I thought I would. I don’t have any pressing health issues so I am just going with it. I went on Wegovy and it changed my life. I'm active, weigh less, feel years younger. Still haven't hit menopause and I am 51. It’s not perfect but life's better than it was in my 40s
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I'm glad to hear about the improvements you've made. 😎
um_like_whatever@reddit
Funny. Had a very rough midlife crisis in my 40s largely got past that without actually healing just kind of buried s*** none of my 50s I kind of went into a stasis or a rut where life wasn't bad at all but I didn't feel like I was really moving forward in any practical way and now just this last 6 months at the age of 57 I have feeling completely Reborn I'm the best version of me that has ever existed and I am loving my life so much right now.
dextercool@reddit
Very inspiring - feeing stasis right now - what prompted the change?
larissaorlarissa024@reddit
Ok, I have to say that I have felt more joy in the last 6 months than in the last decade. 57F, still working as tenure track faculty, 6 more years I think, kids are doing all right, live nearby, no partners but I see them every Sunday for brunch and fun, hormone replacement I think has been the biggest part of feeling better- that or quitting a high paying but toxic job... also added strength training class, gratitude for so many things and reminding myself of that daily, have longtime good friends, house paid off and money in the bank, fun hobbies and a good hubby. Dang, I think maybe I've got it all. But def better now than the last several years.
larissaorlarissa024@reddit
Also I quit drinking and do not miss it.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Likely the best choice. Congratulations!
larissaorlarissa024@reddit
Thank you!
CountHoliday8311@reddit
Not one bit.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I understand. Is there anything in particular that makes you feel that way?
CountHoliday8311@reddit
When I really think about it, it's not necessarily the age but rather dependencies by others. I know I can live happily on my own with very little and without help from others. But having the responsibilities of supporting others is taking it's toll.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Thanks for replying. Caregiver burnout is a real thing.
KimBrrr1975@reddit
A typical case of "youth really is wasted on the young" where I wish I knew myself as well as I do now, but 30 years ago 😂
I am in full menopause, but the 10 years of peri really sucked. Not 24/7, but enough that it impacted a lot of areas of my life. I'm on the tail end of those symptoms finally and so glad for that. I have no health concerns other than I already had a hip replacement 2 years ago 😂 But no meds or chronic issues. I feel more myself and aligned with my life goals than I have at any other point in life. Kids are mostly grown and out in the world. Husband and I are solid, jobs and finances are good. I have time and money for my interests and to take care of myself. I can't complain too much on a personal level.
Xavelle@reddit
I hear so much about the horrors of menopause. Here I am at 54 and wondering did it skip me?? Is there a test for it?
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It boggles the mind what menopause does to women.
I would have enjoyed having the experience, knowledge, and self-awareness I have now back then.
SC_Scuba@reddit
Except for having to wear glasses, nose hair and ear hair it’s fine.
Guttersnipe77@reddit
Receding hairline, ear hair, and unusually long eyebrows are almost as bad as the back pain.
BusyDark7674@reddit
I was looking in the mirror earlier and there was 1 ear hair about an inch long. How does that happen?!
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It's an odd place to grow hair.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Good to hear! I didn't enjoy getting glasses, but it was in 2017 — so, whatever. I've dodged the ear hair so far. I keep the nose trimmed.
Automatic-Evidence26@reddit
Yeah not so bad until I hit 58 and my heath went down hill
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I am sorry to hear that.
Automatic-Evidence26@reddit
Thanks
HistoricalNail4956@reddit
M60 & recently decommissioned out of the rat race. I am so happy to be free.
Wife, family/friends etc all want me to be active & work for another 5+ years but I am totally committed to freedom of my mind.
It’s stressful, we have more $ than we will ever need
Have fun!
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's the spirit!
MissDisplaced@reddit
I wouldn’t mind it so much if things didn’t begin hurting. My back and feet especially. Otherwise it is what it is. We all grow old.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Indeed. Pain is such an unfair feeling.
DragonfruitGlobal513@reddit
No. I would pay big bucks to rewind. I know I’ll never be as young as I am now and it depresses the hell out of me.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I hear you. I really do. This has been a weird time.
Sierra_November_Lima@reddit
No.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Same. Hahaha.
Swiftiefromhell@reddit
Yeah I’m more chilled than I’ve ever been.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Good deal!
lazytiger40@reddit
I suppose from a wisdom type perspective, yeah I felt mentally I have made a transition, like I'm seeing my life more externally as a background character in a bigger movie that's playing ... So I supposr much of the annoyances kinda don't get me too down ..
But physically, financially? ugh...I miss my younger years. If not for my kids I would totally do over if I could, not to correct any mistakes but just to try something different, to get an overall better life outcome ..
So yes? No? Maybe the duality itself is concerning....
(..I'll have to read up on these cliffs...)
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I hear ya. The cliffs are the real deal. One in the mid-40s and one around 60. Here's the actual research. https://www.nature.com/articles/s43587-024-00692-2
Aging cliff sounds a lot better than Nonlinear dynamics of multi-omics profiles during human aging.
lazytiger40@reddit
I plan on reading up on this before bed
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It's worth your time.
Available_Wolf1059@reddit
Just turned 55 and I don’t mind. I don’t sleep as well and work sucks. Looking forward to retirement of it ever happens. I have a few more aches and pains and my hair is falling out at a rapid pace but a lot of my buds lost theirs at 30. Life is good but I’m a bit slower and that’s ok
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That sounds like a pretty well balanced outlook. Thank you for replying.
Beyond_the_Matrix@reddit
Like most things, it's never black and white.
Have I enjoyed accomplishing my goals and see how it is paying off in my career? Absolutely. If you knew the details, you'd appreciate how far I have come and where I am now.
Have I enjoyed how my perspective on interpersonal relationships and friendships evolved as I have gotten older? Yes.
Do I miss the younger me who had innocent notions of love and possibility? Yes. So much so I made a Playlist of 90s song to remind me of that version of me.
Did I enjoy seeing my parent decline? No? Have I appreciated watching their resilience? Yes.
Did I enjoy seeing my other parent die? No.
Do I enjoy having a better understanding and level of forgiveness I may not have had if that parent stayed alive? Yes. In many ways, I have a closer relationship with my passed parent, understanding what they struggled with. I mean, I always knew. But it's not easy to be so detached and zen about when you have to deal with the consequences of their unresolved trauma?
Have I enjoyed thinking about the future because of current circumstances? Of course not. And I say this in code purposefully because I can't make specific references. But I am worried about our future on many levels. So, in that vein, no.
Am I hopeful things can get better? I have no choice but to have some hope. Otherwise, what is the point?
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Great reply. Thank you for sharing that.
Beyond_the_Matrix@reddit
Sure thing. Hope it can provide some comfort and support. Turning 50 this year myself! 🤪
I certainly don't "feel" it. Lol.
Old__Medic_Doc_68@reddit
Age is a number and not how i feel. I’m 57, 58 in September of this year, and feel good in heath and well being. I will retire in 18 months and want to live my life on my schedule, experience life to the fullest till my dying days.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I'm delighted to hear that. I wish you all the best!
Old__Medic_Doc_68@reddit
Thank you
mmmmmarty@reddit
Fuck yea. Growing old is the shit, and my life is really cool.
Love my home and job, husband is awesome, kid is a hoot. Farming is hard but so rewarding.
I protect my peace and my lovely days with an iron fist.
I remove things that don't increase me from my life that day. I won't put up with it for an hour, much less a season. I have always had a very low tolerance for people's bullshit and that has paid dividends in my middle age.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
We have some things in common. No farm here, though. I have a wonderful family, home, job, hobbies, etc. The sad part, though, is that if something's not going right in my head, the context that reflecting on what I do have does nothing at all to make me feel better.
mmmmmarty@reddit
Everything goes right in my head lol. It's the implementation that sometimes goes awry.
kb_colas@reddit
Antidepressants aren't meant to be taken that long, they end up causing the depression. Just sayin.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It's not the medication, but rather the person taking it has developed a tolerance over time that makes the medication less effective.
mjh8212@reddit
Mentally I’m in a good place my meds help. Physically no I’m not good. Chronic pain and recently diagnosed with dysautonomia have me not living the life I thought I would.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I'm sure that is disheartening. Chronic pain is no joke.
HalfCaffontheRocks@reddit
Personally, I felt really bad 48, 49… like I was really starting to age. 50 came for me during Covid so I had a good chance to reset my mind. I constantly tell myself that in 10 years I will wish I was the age I am now. I also started strength training , which made a huge difference.
I would say ages 52 to 55. I’ve been very happy.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It's great to hear things have improved!
Cat2370@reddit
Yes—mostly. Menopause is horrible, but I’m on hrt. Major game changer. Also, had to quit drinking bc it was wrecking my sleep among other things. But that’s ok bc I feel so much better. I also need a lot more stretching and low level exercise—walking every day or else my low back hurts. And I’m on a low dose high blood pressure medication—family history. But otherwise, it’s been good. I love being older and wiser! And having adult money. Lots of gratitude here.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
My wife is on her way. I can't believe how impactful and intrusive menopause is for women.
fridayimatwork@reddit
I love it. I’ve never been as content
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's outstanding. I am working on a path to that place.
Immediate_Owl5910@reddit
I might be in the minority but I’m loving it. I feel great. Active, etc. a few things we joke about vision etc
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I am very glad to hear that!
Beatrix_Kitto@reddit
I try not to focus on the number and instead just keep moving and doing my best to stay active and as healthy as I can.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That is a smart and simple plan that I genuinely hope is as simple as it sounds! 😁
LayerNo3634@reddit
As I am closer to 60 than 50, I can say I am in better shape than when I turned 50. It's never too late to make changes.
My mom turned her life around at 65. She had diabetes, high blood pressure, and lots of health issues. Started eating healthy and exercising. Lost weight and got in shape. She is now 80, off all medication, and can run circles around me.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Luckily, a lifestyle change I made almost ten years ago has kept me out of danger for diabetes, etc., but I know one day age and/or genetics will force me to treat with medications. And that's OK.
eggs_erroneous@reddit
Man, I don't mind physically getting older. It's not great, but it's just the way it is. What I really hate is the fact that it's impossible to make friends or have a social life. I'm an introvert and don't really WANT one, but somehow it's different when it's not even possible, you know? I hate how life when you're young is fun and interesting. Now it's just a slog. Obviously, this is mostly due to circumstances. Wealth would improve everything.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Lack of resources definitely makes tough things unbearable.
sinsandcrimes@reddit
The only thing I get excited about anymore is the power of healing.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I enjoy healing, too.
JadeSebring@reddit
No. Hate it.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I get it!
ScreaminEagle2502@reddit
From a financial, career and marital stability standpoint, yes. From a physical health standpoint, not so much.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Switch your physical with mental and you have my situation. Sure, there are always worse things. But that's performative crap. Few things are truly worse than being physically or mentally unwell.
aburena2@reddit
Yes. I’ll be 61 later this year.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Excellent!
Informal-Ad-4527@reddit
58F a lot more than I thought I would. Finally untethered to find what I actually like in life. Stopped worrying about what others think because, let’s be honest, they aren’t thinking about me near as much as they are of themselves. Few more years to retirement but full remote job, I can do that whenever I want. So yes, it’s a big F yeah!
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's wonderful! I love the sound of that. I stopped caring about what others think a long time ago, but the part of my brain that I can't control sometimes has other ideas about that. It sucks.
Historical_Bath_9854@reddit
Absolutely!
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
What's something that makes you feel good about aging?
Historical_Bath_9854@reddit
I know better know.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's fair. Helping others with the experience I've gained makes me happy.
Temporary_Way_9563@reddit
Gracefully and thanking God along the way.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Your contentment is admirable.
Temporary_Way_9563@reddit
Thank you for that.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Of course!
Dogzillas_Mom@reddit
I’m not enjoying the effects of menopause on my metabolism but I’m not sitting around, flailing my arms about, whining about it. I’m adjusting my eating and exercise habits.
Somehow, when I was 40, I pried my ass off the couch and wandered into a dance studio and started taking pole dance classes. Eight years later, a friend messaged and invited me to try her aerial silks classes at a gymnastics gym. At 50, I gave my first aerial performance. It was just a student showcase and it wasn’t great but I was right up there in the air, doing my tricky tricks with the 20-somethings.
Sure I have my moments where I look on the mirror and go “who the fuck is this old bitch and where did cute Me go?” But we have all learned by now (hopefully), that looks are fleeting. And that it’s more about who we are and what we are doing with the time we have left. And that can include re-focusing on health and trying to figure out how to exercise and eat healthy at this stage of life. I’m finding my body simply does not process things the way it used to and I have to work with what it can do.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
"I’m finding my body simply does not process things the way it used to and I have to work with what it can do."
Replace body with mind and you have the situation I'm dealing with right now.
Dogzillas_Mom@reddit
Wishing you success in sorting this out. These ones of meds are difficult to get right because our needs change over time and obvs, you have to tweak dosages. Consider thinking about the mind-body connection and how you can strengthen that.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Thank you. I absolutely trust the science of whole-body health. It's disconcerting to think the panic attacks and all of the other treasures that cone with ADHD shorten lifespans.
Ennuiology@reddit
I enjoys some aspects of it, yes.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It's your study of mildly irritating things that keep you enjoying some of it. Haha. Ennuiology.
deep-sea-savior@reddit
Yes and no. I’ve enjoyed growing as a person, but I’ve also not enjoyed trying to hang onto “childish things”. It’s like I’ve got one foot in each world, trying to reconcile the two, but I’m failing miserably at it.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I appreciate seeing this reply. I feel it, too, but for me it's more like one foot on the ground and the other six feet deep in the ground. Good stuff.
mmmmmarty@reddit
I love everything I do. Love my home and my job, my husband is awesome and my kid's a hoot. If I find myself involved in something I don't like, I change that right then and there. I refuse to let anything ruin a single day of my life, much less a season.
Honeybee71@reddit
Sometimes
OldBrownWookiee@reddit
Only on Tuesdays.
greeneyedmtnjack@reddit
I love 60 year old me. I'm healthy, happy and do what I want.
MrWhisper2021@reddit
60 next month and I’m just like that too. I write music, play video games and work around the house. I’m single with a few pets and stopped drinking but I’ve gone back in time with the “oregano” lol. I retired at 55 after being diagnosed with cancer. All is well. No treatments needed but my doctor said, “No stress.” He never told me to stop with the spices.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I hope to say the very same thing at 60!
No_Maintenance_9608@reddit
Not sure if I enjoy getting older, but it’s not like we have a choice. I’ll be 56 this year. When I think or hear about someone who’s younger passing away, I’m sad they will never have the opportunity to reach my point.
It’s been sad the past 10-12 years dealing with health issues and my mom’s passing six years ago. But I will say since my mom died I’ve felt more “free” if that makes sense. I’m relieved I no longer have to worry about her.
Brilliant-Trick1253@reddit
I have not enjoyed getting older. The few things that I should enjoy( being at the top of my earnings, raising two children and two stepchildren, being a leader that my organization turns to for solutions) ring hollow. My wife decided she wanted a divorce on my 55th birthday this year. Now my reality is trying to figure out what I’m going to do next. I don’t like where I live, where I work, the climate here, the people here. I’ve been here all along for my kids or her. And now I’m tired. So I guess getting older for me feels like being tossed into the dirt heep.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I have not enjoyed getting older. The few things that I should enjoy( being at the top of my earnings, raising two children and two stepchildren, being a leader that my organization turns to for solutions) ring hollow.
I feel everything you just described quite deeply. I went through all of that for what? I should feel proud of what I've done — and I've done some cool stuff — but I ultimately don't. And pretending I do makes it hurt more. I'm not sure how to change my thinking.
My wife decided she wanted a divorce on my 55th birthday this year. Now my reality is trying to figure out what I’m going to do next. I don’t like where I live, where I work, the climate here, the people here. I’ve been here all along for my kids or her. And now I’m tired. So I guess getting older for me feels like being tossed into the dirt heep.
I am sorry to hear about the divorce. But maybe you can take this as a way to adjust where you live, work, and so on. Easier said than done, I know.
Brilliant-Trick1253@reddit
Thanks for reading and replying. It very helpful to not feel alone.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Or course! I hear you.
CommodoreVF2@reddit
Ambivalent, until I'm on my bike. Then my knees say NO.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Ha!
Strong_Medium_6646@reddit
Yes! I’ll be 61 this year and have never been happier or more content! Hope to fully retire at 67 and have a comfortable, but not extravagant retirement.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I'm happy for you. That sounds great!
Truth_and_Soul@reddit
My 20s and 30s were filled with addiction and excess. Sobered up around 40, built a career, discovered fitness, finally became comfortable in my own skin. My "older" years have been my best.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I'm happy to hear you made it!
IrwinJFinster@reddit
No one over 25 likes aging.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I freaked out when I turned 25. I could 't believe it was possible!
East-Garden-4557@reddit
Untrue. We aren't all afraid of the passing of time, and it doesn't have to define who you are.
hyst0rica1_29@reddit
Honestly hard to enjoy “getting older” when I seem to spend more, precious time paying off debts than anything. Just when I seem to get closer some f’n new bill happens, and being the mythical “debt free” seems farther & farther away.
Plus it doesn’t help, sometimes, to not be mentally beaten down by the reality I haven’t achieved all the “life goals” (ie house, marriage, kids, yadda yadda) you’re “supposed” to have reached by this point. 😐
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Plus it doesn’t help, sometimes, to not be mentally beaten down by the reality I haven’t achieved all the “life goals” (ie house, marriage, kids, yadda yadda) you’re “supposed” to have reached by this point. 😐
We're our own worst critics. The only thing I've figured out when it comes to that kind of thinking is that it's good to question why any of that stuff matters.
Sufficient_Stop8381@reddit
Not really. I’m actually encouraging and looking forward to the apocalypse.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Sounds like a serious hobby!
PGHNeil@reddit
I’m pushing 57 and we’re just about empty nesters. It would be more fun if my back wasn’t shot and I didn’t have to get up to pee at least once a night.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I hear you.
Zadyria_Gelm@reddit
Lexapro is evil. That drug made me MEAN. I was a walking ball of rage. Paxil fixed things!
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Each brain is different, so I'm glad you found a treatment that works for you!
Heck, I took Mucinex one time in the very early 2000s and its active ingredient made me experience every emotion in a 15-minute time span. Weird shit. I decided congestion isn't so bad after all. 😂
lancerreddit@reddit
Since 50 yrs. Mid to late 40s not so much
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I just turned 50, but I agree that the mid/late 40s sucked.
SoCal7s@reddit
Not my 40s that felt like mostly inevitable physical decline. But the rest of it has been a pretty good run. The last two years I’ve figured out some reversal of the physical decline (and some acceptance)
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I think we're conditioned to start looking for the physical decline. The aches and pains we understand. It's wear and tear. Sure. Makes sense. But the changes in mental health, at least for me, have managed to sneak in. It's devastating.
trUth_b0mbs@reddit
I have never had any issues with aging and I think a large part of it is due to the fact that I've always been active/life a healthy lifestyle since 16. Hitting the gym or regularly doing any challenging activity continuously demonstrates just how physically strong and capable you are.
we all age; there's no way around it but what you do with the time you have now is what counts. I continue to live life, enjoy every moment and kick ass while I'm at it.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
"I continue to live life, enjoy every moment and kick ass while I'm at it."
I'm good on the first part, trying for the second part, and am fairly consistent when it comes to the third part. I want to be able to say what you just said and mean it as I know you did.
noseleaptilbklyn@reddit
I did until the last 3 years and the fall of American empire and loss of freedom and the future looks bleak af
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I've been trying to not let world-sized shifts impact me, but it's hard to outrun what you have accurately described. What we're experiencing now is really something dark.
jchasse@reddit
53 and living my best life… well… other than unemployment… but HEY! I might not be retired but I don’t have to go to work so. 😁
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I had that temporary retirement plan for far too long. It really grinds you into nothingness if you let it. You found the upside!
SkipNYNY@reddit
I don’t know if I’ve enjoyed getting older, but I never would want to go back.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's fair. I subscribe to the never wanting to go back for two reasons:
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PrettyWorn_@reddit
TBH I have, yes.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I hope to say the same sooner than later. I am happy that you've enjoyed getting older.
Twisty12223@reddit
My 40s were my roughest years. I have found a strange peace with myself in my 50s. Life is good.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Same here regarding my 40s. I am glad that decade is over. Would you mind sharing one or two ways you've found that strange peace with yourself?
GeoHog713@reddit
I enjoy it more than NOT getting older.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Yes. It certainly beats death. 😂
reeferthetuxedocat@reddit
Fuck no. Things hurt more and stay hurt longer. Everyone is fucking dying. Eyes don’t work as well.
I honestly do not think there is anything good about getting older. Absolutely nothing.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
It's a weird thing — and an uncomfortable thing — for sure. I'm struggling to find the greatness, let alone the goodness, of aging. There are some helpful things life experience gives us, and I try to focus on that. Can my experiences in X, Y, and Z benefit someone? That is what I look for when trying to stay level-headed about all of this.
UKophile@reddit
Yes. I feel very lucky to be alive. I lost immediate family members as a teen. I will never resent aging.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I can't imagine what you've been through, but I'm glad you emerged with a perspective that gives you a sense of foundation when it comes to aging.
huxley309@reddit
Better in some ways, worse in others. Before 50 I was a very keen ultra runner, now I'm lucky if I run at all since my knee decided to chip a bit of collagen from the pad, been several months and only now I'm starting to think about starting again.
Energy levels are way down, that took a big nosedive then again I have a very hard job. My tolerance level for idiots is also very similar, since I don't have the energy for any drama.
But the upside, I do what I want and don't care in the slightest what anyone thinks, of course this rubs a few backs up but that's to be expected.
Overall I'd say I'm enjoying life more, I've just had to adjust how I live and what I can manage.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
> Overall I'd say I'm enjoying life more, I've just had to adjust how I live and what I can manage.
I want to get to the first part of that sentence, and I think the second part of the sentence is *how* to get there.
ElevatorNo4425@reddit
Just turned 50 myself. Not sure if enjoy is the right word. Mentally , yes. I’ve had my share of issues throughout the decades- currently take Trintelix and Wellbutrin and have for several years now. Things are in a good place now. Physically, it sucks . Body is breaking down, arthritis all over.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
If it's not one thing, it's another. Ha! I'm not sure which kind of pain is worse — mental or physical — but I'm hopeful my mental health will improve.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
If it's not one thing, it's another. Ha! I'm not sure which kind of pain is worse — mental or physical — but I'm hopeful my mental health will improve.
MaximumJones@reddit
My 50s have been the greatest time of my life so far.
lionbacker54@reddit
Me too. I think it’s the best decade.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That is great to hear! My 50s just started. I am glad to be past my 40s, but that's mostly because the last half of that decade was not that good.
Ok-Grape-3380@reddit
Just survived a nasty cancer (I’m 49). Pre-Cancer would’ve said no, not enjoying this. Post-cancer, gotta say, aging is definitely better than the alternative.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's frightening. But it sounds like you have the perspective. I'm glad you can say post-cancer.
TowerOfSisyphus@reddit
Aging is not great in general but I'm so happy with everything about how my life is turning out. I met my wife kinda later in life and now we have three beautiful young children and a very full agenda stuffed with friends and activities that keep me young and active. I'd love to be doing all this with a 25 year old body but I couldn't be more grateful for where I'm at.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I applaud your outlook! I have plenty to be grateful for as well — and I am. But, wow, the mental health I'm trying to manage takes everything out of context and makes it hard to be appreciative sometimes.
80sfanatic@reddit
I actually have enjoyed getting older. My 50s have been a really good decade so far (I’ll be 57 later this year). I always used to look young for my age; now, not so much thanks to crows feet and under-eye darkening and slight puffiness, which I try to conceal with makeup if I have time (and I don’t always have time- oh well!). I love and embrace fun and try to look for it in most environments. I go nuts for almost all animals with fur and conventionally “cute” things like Grogu from the Mandelorian, who I still refer to as Baby Yoda just because I like that name better, lol. Maybe it’s a pipe dream since I’m not getting any younger, but I want to avoid taking prescription meds for as long as possible. Right now I only take an OTC supplement for menopause-related symptoms, and that’s more than fine by me!
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
> Maybe it’s a pipe dream since I’m not getting any younger, but I want to avoid taking prescription meds for as long as possible.
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I've always felt this way, and I've made lifestyle adjustments to make it a reality. I know that genetics and age play a role and that eventually I'll have to buy a bigger pill organizer.
radioactivecat@reddit
I got myself one of those led light masks and it really seems to be helping with fine lines - it also has chillers for under the eyes and those work amazingly well.
Grand_Taste_8737@reddit
Yep, it sure as heck beats the alternative.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Getting younger? Only kidding.
raford@reddit
59 here and it’s been rough with all the loss I’ve had in recent years (husband, brother, and mom all died in the last 2 years). So that’s been really rough and not something I have enjoyed.
But now, on the other hand, I have more freedom than o ever have had before. The trick for me is to try to figure out how to use that freedom.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I'm sorry to hear of your losses. But I'm glad you see freedom and are interested in how to apply it.
East-Garden-4557@reddit
Getting older is just the passage of time, it is a natural part of life. I don't let my age restrict me or define me.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's a great mindset and rational outlook.
Alit_Quar@reddit
I’m 51. I retired around 45 due to mental illness. I’m relatively stable now. Tried to go back to college last year and my symptoms worsened, so I know going back to my career isn’t an option. No, I have not enjoyed aging but it is inevitable and natural. I do have a good bit of essential dread. Especially after my sister died a couple years back. It happens to princes and paupers alike.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Unfortunately, I understand. My last role exacerbated the mental-health problem I had and, because my brain was fed nothing but stress and negatively and threats, caused others to surface. Even though I'm treating my condition(s), I still feel broken. If I could retire right now, I would — and that's not because I'm sick of working.
LeighofMar@reddit
I've been loving my life best since 40. That's when I came into my own, became an emptynester, rediscovered who I am and what I want, and have been living for me ever since. I don't even think about the number. I have to remind myself oh yeah I'm 48 because I'm too busy living life to care and age is one of the least interesting things about me.
penntoria@reddit
No. I just feel closer to death, with gray hair and more wrinkles but less energy and cognitive ability.
Jolly-Sandwich-3345@reddit
Wish I still had hair to get gray...
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I get it. I really do. I am certain the changes in my mental health have caused changes in my physical health. I promised myself 2026 would be a year focused on wellness. And while I've worked to keep that promise, I'm bot sure what good it has done.
Alive_Refusetogiveup@reddit
I know it sounds silly, but yes, I do enjoy getting older. Sure the aches, lack of sleep, these darn eyes playing tricks on me sucks… but the realization that the older I get the less I GAF is exciting! I had the best childhood. Not perfect by any means, but we had bikes, Blockbuster, music stores, friends we talked to face to face, and so much more rad shit the younger generation will likely never experience. So, yeah, I don’t mind getting older because the alternative would be to be younger in this new shit show.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That doesn't sound silly. And the fact that you enjoy getting older — even if it is for death to pull you from what's left of society sooner than later — you at least can enjoy the enjoyment.
Sweetness_Bears_34@reddit
Beats the alternative
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Certainly.
root_fifth_octave@reddit
Second adolescence in a lot of ways.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
This gave me pause. I agree! I should try to look at it that way.
KingPabloo@reddit
Pushing 60 and have loved getting older. I’ve worked very hard on my health, finances and relationships and am enjoying the fruits of all that work now. Plus I nap more now, especially after my long runs. 😎
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
I am very glad to hear it!
demona2002@reddit
For the first time since young childhood I don’t have to take care of anyone else. I’ve had some great experiences along the way but life has just been hard a lot of the time. I’m burned out.
Thankfully on the cusp of retirement. Im taking care of me. Im growing in new ways. I cannot wait to spend this next chapter relaxing!
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
You have plenty to look forward to. That rules.
freakymack@reddit
One hundred per cent! I have enjoyed every decade so far. Each zero birthday is the beginning of a whole new adventure of ten years. Where will I travel, what language can I learn, what shall I do in the next decade?!? So many possibilities.
I have MS, I am disabled, I wasn’t able to have babies and wanted three since I was little, I came from an abusive family, blah blah blah.
Still love getting older.
I can wear a tutu and converse and people think I’m quirky! If I did that at 20 they would think I was insane.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
That's wonderful!
Rational-ish@reddit
I don’t know if I’ve enjoyed getting older, but despite everything I’m glad to still be here.
postprandialrepose@reddit (OP)
Same here. Despite everything.