Our parents stood to us because their parents did them because their parents did to them

There’s no instruction manual on having a kid and there was no information about ADD at the time

I don’t hold it against my parents about what they did I mean they could’ve done better, but I had a pretty good life overall, and there are much worse growing up situations than that

I didn’t have a dad that would drink incessantly and then start molesting me for instance

But definitely, I’ll give you a reason to cry was the mantra of my mom and oddly enough my mom was the only one that would hit me. My dad would only leave the room and be disappointed. She broke a wooden spoon on my ass one time so she found a what’s called a ream ruler. They’re used in paper factories to measure reams so it’s very thin steel with a bunch of little holes no air resistance and started using that and I asked my dad this year. They’re both alive. I take care of them both or try to I asked my dad was over time when you should’ve stopped Mom from beating me because since I was the known liar, my brother would lie and I would take his punishment as well and they always said I just don’t want you to lie to me. I don’t care what you did just don’t lie, but I lied because I have mental health and he said you know there was a time when I should’ve thrown that goddamn ruler away and we still own that ruler and It looks like they one day if I get into an argument, I’m going to pull it out. I got passive aggressive, asshole and be like oh no mom it’s time to beat me or something stupid I don’t know but that ruler sucked bad and I’d also told my dad it’s like even though she would say that her to you more than me which is a blatant lie there seems to have been times when she enjoyed it

But again, her parents did that to her because their parents said death to them because their parents did that to them

I think as a generation X I’m late. I’m for 49 years old. We’re the main generation to recognize that our parents or caretakers could be and were often very very wrong.

I made it to a sync point to never hit my child. I only have one child and she has some half children so I was around her half sister her first one as well and never struck her and tried to talk about feelings.

She’s now married to an army officer. She’s a licensed BSN but is a stay at home mom for the last five years homeschooling her five-year-old and raising or six month old sons she’s not perfect, but she definitely did not seem to get the drug addiction that I have and the sex and love addiction that her mother has who had four husbands beyond me. I was the first one.

But I did talk to her about she should talk to a doctor about some of the symptoms that she does have because she does have the generational chemical in there and she does have trauma from once she was in college. The kind of changed her life, but I was like I’m not saying go to doctor to get on medication but you should go to the doctor just to see if you have something like if your stomach hurts so bad you couldn’t stand it. You’d wanna know that you had pancreatic cancer right you’d wanna know that there’s treatment available right? You’d want to know, but we’ll see but she’s very well adapted raising a family on her own living in Europe. I’m so blessed that she turned out so well and she did that all on her own too because I was too busy partying. I told her that I couldn’t send her to college so she scholarship her whole way through nursing school five year degree.