I have been living in the Netherlands for around 2 years. I live in a small town. In my experience people always told me to join hobby or clubs to make a friend. People here don't really talk to strangers while in coffee shops, bars, or cafes. My classmate or housemate, they don't talk anymore after we are not together, or when I texted them they don't really interested. Other expats I found online also said the same, it is very difficult to find Dutch to befriend with.

I have international friends, but mostly doing Erasmus for less than 6 months. Then we don't meet or talk anymore.

My hobby is gaming, gardening, and cooking. I cannot find a cooking club in my town. Gaming communities are mostly creeps, if you know what I mean, like abusive and pornography addicts. I think the internet community in the Netherlands is really bad. I cannot find a decent person from there. I found many weird people, that have mental issues and are manipulative. I used tandem but I met many creeps too. I had another post about this. I think most people are focused on hookups from the internet while I am not in that thing. They also lied about themselves or catfish. While gardening is mostly extreme feminist or vegan, they don't tolerate other people that are not like that.

I am an orphan so I cannot share my problem with my family. Friends from my past usually focus on marriage, so we lost contact. The embassy and people from my country advise me to date Dutch but it is very difficult to find a decent one.

I tried many other International clubs but I always met Asian fetish guys that join the club for finding Asians to date or have cross-dresser things.

Tbh, I think I enjoy squash club, the people there are nice. But mostly teen while I am 30. Probably I should join other sports but it is costly while I'm struggling financially.

Meetup is not available in my town, mostly I need to go by public transportation by 2 hours minimum, and it is very expensive. Plus mostly in the evening while I need to use a taxi and it can cost 100 euro. I heard a lot I could create a meet-up community by myself, but do you have another idea or specific thing?

I also feel culture shock with my own community, they try to impress foreigners a lot and belittle other races. Students from my country that live here are mostly from rural areas. So they don't use to be in the open society and liberal life, they had strict religious parents back home. I had so many harassments from them because they are not used to see girls that open. They think the single woman that not married is a bad thing, so they can do anything to me.

It's very difficult to share this with Dutchies because mostly they don't really help or care if we are not close enough.