Ever try too date in your 40’s…I’m happy I’ve had therapy

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I’m 47, I was never tiny but since COVID I’m fatter that I’ve ever been and also pretty isolated. It would take so much to put myself out there, and it’s just not worth it. I wish it was, but dating is just disappointing.

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Powermac8500@reddit

I tried, but then Covid happened and I got fat and now I’m almost 50, so I’ll be trying to date in my 50s, and I don’t think I’m going to bother.

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catsoncrack420@reddit

When was your last physical ? I just hit 49 and have health insurance again. Saw a doxtrore for full exams. Serious life changes I had to make.

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Powermac8500@reddit

I’m way past due. I know there’s a lot needs fixing.

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migs647@reddit

Love your username.

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Powermac8500@reddit

Thank you; I loved that computer.

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flipnitch@reddit

Heck yeah, ups and downs like any other time of life, but found the love of my life at 43 so I’m glad I stuck with it!

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StreetCarp665@reddit

Reminds me of a Chris Porter bit.

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EricRShelton@reddit

My wife says I have to remarry if something happens to her and I think… nah. I’m too old and selfish now. I had a hard enough time learning to live with her. Learning to adjust and live with somebody else…? Probably not going to happen.

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mtron32@reddit

Same man, once is enough. I do not want to even begin to approach the baggage that’s waiting out in those streets

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rootoo@reddit

Yeah it was rough , but it worked. Found my person.

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-threefeetoffun@reddit

I stopped dating at 41 after the 2nd suicide attempt in 4 years. Not hurting someone else with my disorder again.

I like the quiet.

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SoTiredYouDig@reddit

48 here. Starting to date again. But reluctant for the same reason. I’m lonely and it aggravates my symptoms, but I get a whole host of different symptoms with a partner. Someday my prince will come….

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-threefeetoffun@reddit

The symptoms changing with a partner is so much fun. I love the constant fear of abandonment that comes with it.

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NoContextCarl@reddit

Not really many friends left that aren't either already married or divorced and given up. With that said, the common gripe is that, at least within our age group at this point, is that people don't even want relationships anymore; they just want someone to provide for them. It doesn't even seem like a search for a connection anymore. Its just feeling out what sort of lifestyle this potential partner can provide.

I dunno of its the age, or people are just becoming more shallow, or that's simply what modern dating is now...but i certainly don't envy any friends out there playing the field.

For me, if the marriage thing doesn't work I'm giving up and growing old with pets. 😏

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Kellzy1212@reddit

I quit during Covid. I like the peace. I think about trying again sometimes, but then i remember how bad it was.

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shamanmoo@reddit

I am trying. It is hard. It’s a bizarre sea out there. By your 40s, everyone has individuated to an extent that it’s difficult to find someone on the same wavelength and stage in life. Gotta keep the faith somehow. 😥

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Emannuelle-in-space@reddit

I went on one date since I turned 40, but it went well, so hopefully won’t have to again.

I never went on dates though. My style was more ‘just hang out where she hangs out and don’t be a dick’. Worked more often than it didn’t.

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FiveCrappedPee@reddit

I'm retired from the game. And I'm so happy with that decision. It's freeing.

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Ok_Breakfast5425@reddit

Last girlfriend I had was in 2019, broke up right before covid hit. I've had like two dates since then, it's not worth it. There is a woman I think I'm vibing with and kinda want to try my luck, but I'm not sure she feels the same way about me and I don't want to ruin a good friendship

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