Long arse witch hair | TheaterFire

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Slow-Objective-7440@reddit

Still color. I do not like grey or silver hair. Definitely not a good look for me.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

not looking for a man, i'm single & super content. I do love aesthetics- different lens yall

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Coconut-bird@reddit

Sorry, I didn't pay attention and thought I was on the dating over 50 sub! The adult ADHD was kicking there.

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eejm@reddit

I’m a younger Gen X. Our mothers thought it was !ADORABLE! for us to have chopped boy cuts, which went so well with our huge, ugly plastic glasses.

holy cow those boomerz can hit it outta da park i tell ya.

Our twins' granpa says his "disco ears" can't understand most conversations🤣

Do you ever run a little argan oil through the ends while it’s Damp? Maybe a leave-in conditioner first?

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Desperate-Rip-2770@reddit

Yes. I think it's me. I always had thick wavy hair that was just fine on its own so I never learned about all the different products and how to use them

I have always loved white hair. When my grays started showing up white I was thrilled. Right now I’m about 50/50. And it’s long!

When I’ve been asked why I don’t color it I say I love white hair, plus my hair grows really fast. There is no way I could afford frequent touch ups.

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Southern501@reddit

I've had more women stop me and ask where I get my hair done. I'm shades of grey ... the kind that people are paying $200+ to get.

I'm just lazy. It's natural. I'm way too lazy to go in and maintain color. I'd love to be all dynamically brunette again, but ugh. No. I'm fortunate enough to have dimension in the grey shades so I'll stick with it a while longer until I might need to do something during a final transition to silver/white.

I whacked off my length about 8 years ago to shoulder-ish length. Also because of laziness, lol. Being the Gen-X that I am, I like the volume of our music and the volume of my hair so i need a little length and wasn't ready for the short hair.

I can't imagine telling someone "Don't talk to me if your hair is silver." And honestly, if one of my friends said, "You're too pretty for silver hair." ... I'd probably be minus one friend. That's like saying, "You'd be so pretty if you'd lose weight."

Be you. Love you. Heck with everyone else. I'd start wearing a pointy black hat if I were you!!

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Due-Asparagus6479@reddit

I started going white in my teens. By the time I hit my 30s I was 80% white. I dyed my hair for decades. For about 3 years I went fully natural. Now I do a very light henna on it. That solid wall of white washed me out. I leave a little bit of widows peak to frame my face. I also keep my hair longer. Henna isn't as harsh as traditional chemical dyes.

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pippi_longstocking09@reddit

Yep. Henna and other natural dyes (indigoferae, senna, whatever) all the way!!!

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qetral@reddit

I'm 55 and had that damned DH wedge haircut too. Got accused of being a boy in the girls bathroom once in school - changed my outlook on myself and life in general. Anyway, I have always admired women who wear their age and don't give any F's. Now I'm doing the same, though I don't have full silver yet - just in the temples. I want full silver though, so waiting on that to come out to play.

If someone states on their dating bio "if you've gone silver don't bother to respond", imagine how they'll treat a woman who gets pregnant by them or just puts some weight on in middle age when married to them or doesn't want to wear makeup for a time. Those are the toxic bros that nobody should pay any attention to - they want you to cook, clean, and take care of them while looking hollywood perfect at all times. Sad sad little boys all of them.

When I was in my 20s and married, my mom kept asking when I was going to cut my hair. I also remember her saying things like older women with long hair looked haggard or witchy. She made me get a Luke Skywalker cut for the longest time. I was going to enjoy my hair, and it's now down to the middle of my back.

Silver hair can be stunningly beautiful. The main challenge with silver isn’t the color, it’s the texture. “Old” hair can get brittle and coarse, which makes it lack flow and shine. If you are curious, you can talk to a hair specialist about conditioners that can help make older hair look healthy and intentional.

restingkarenface@reddit

62 here. If you don't like my short, silver hair then off you go.

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martafoz@reddit

57.

I do what I want with my hair. Don't care if it goes silver.

I can decide to change anything any day because it's my life and my body.

Aren't we too old to give a crap about social pressure on our appearance anymore?

Let that freak flag fly and let the conformist attitudes eat it! ...unless you want something different. It's up to you.

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bmyst70@reddit

I personally would find that far more attractive than the typical I see for most women in our age bracket which is extremely short..

My mother was a hippie who didn't let my sister and I get hair cuts.

So ofc I wound up alternating between mohawks and a shaved head from about 17 on.

Also a few of my old friends are literally angry w me for having the long natural hair.

Your friends are angry at you for being yourself? wtf, we did leave high school, right?

I'm gonna say this...it's a huge achievement to feel comfortable in your own skin. Anyone who still feels the need to pick on other folks looks, to judge or make you feel less... well ,again, wtf.

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SometimesHungry_@reddit

While I hate Sex and the City and its spinoff, And Just Like That, there is a scene in the spinoff where Miranda goes gray, and Charlotte reacts

"I just think the gray ages you," she blurts out. But Miranda serves it right back: "No, you think the gray ages you, because if we are friends and I am this age, you can't be whatever age you're pretending to be."

And that highlights your friend's reactions. It's not about how you look at all; it's their own insecurities. I grew out my gray at 38 years old. It has been liberating, and I have gotten so many compliments on it. I am proud to age. And the gray has not aged me. life has. And I still look damn good.

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Winterdeep@reddit

You are totally right. I just wasn't able to express it clearly this early in the morning. Maybe after talking about gray hair we should talk about female early waking. Ack

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Short-Classroom2559@reddit

Your friend is mad about YOUR hair? Tell that b to mind her own damn business ffs.

I'm greyish and not changing a damn thing. Aging is a natural part of life. Period. If a man doesn't like it, that's his own damn problem

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Cheetah51@reddit

I love that look and if my grays were silver instead of moldy mouse colored, I’d do so too. Beautiful long silver hair is a head-turner!

My mom cut my hair in a bowl cut until I was big enough to fight her off. Then I had various versions of 80’s hair, and in the 90’s had the Vidal Sassoon short cut. Since then I have had varying lengths but now it’s the longest it’s ever been!

I color it with pure henna. It is fiery. It glows in the sun. It is strong and glossy. It gets disapproving looks but I don’t care, I wished I’d done it sooner.

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LawrenceSpiveyR@reddit

I'm trying to encourage my wife to go natural but no luck. She cannot keep up with her grey roots and that isn't flattering at all. She's also too cheap to have it done in salon even though I'm paying. Good on you!

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RelativeEvidence1014@reddit

Queen I’m gonna say this to everyone i meet now: I haven't thought about "pretty" in a decade. 👑

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East_Vivian@reddit

I’ve got the long silver hair. I think it’s pretty. I do not give a F if people think it makes me look old.

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Agrippa_Aquila@reddit

I wanted to join the long silver hair gang. Unfortunately, menopause decided to be a dick and caused my hair to thin out. Given that I have fine hair, that's a bad situation and I had to chop it short to avoid my scalp being super visible.

LizTruth@reddit

TBH, a lot of folks who dye their hair just look sad to me. As our faces age, darker hair emphasizes our wrinkles. My husband loves my grays.

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istara@reddit

I’ve often seen it advised to dye to a lighter shade than your original natural colour, for this reason.

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bluebellheart111@reddit

I agree. Especially since you can always see the roots. Even with fresh dye they are lighter bc they haven’t been colored as much. I feel so badly for people when I see that bc it just looks like walking self esteem issues.

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My hair was long but the texture really started changing and I didn't like the way it always looked sort of dull and wiry so I went with a shorter cut and when I did, I was happy to see that my curls came back. So I have been buzzing off the sides and back and keeping the top longer and I love the way the gray highlights the sides. When it gets grayer I plan to play with non permanent blue and purple just for fun. But outside of that I embrace the gray.

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HousesRoadsAvenues@reddit

It's long, but thin and now has some kinks. Not entirely silver. I wear it in a braid. Not ashamed.

Ancient-Cow-1038@reddit

Dude here so I know you didn’t ask and forgive me butting in, but…

The aura of confidence and self-possession that radiates from a woman who’s a) refusing to get a short mum cut and b) celebrating the silver is AWESOME.

My wife had to do it as she’s allergic to colorants and I am LOVING her look.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

nah buttINski away! shame dying colorants are just chocka full of heavy metals. eeesh is someone trying ta dementis us olds??

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Unistrut@reddit

It's not "going grey" it's "cronemaxxing" and they're just jealous they can't get with the hot new trend. Next up, try and befriend some crows.

Just a guy here, but if it makes you happy, keep it.

Sure there might be dating bios that say shit like that, but that's what the ol' left swipe is for. At this point I'm glad when someone is so obviously horrible, saves time. Why would you even want to date someone like that?

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

oh heck no do i date online. It's like hitchhiking on a freeway of literal traffickers.

not sure how our "grew up w bundy in our midst" can get w it

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Dee1je@reddit

My hair is completely white at 60 years old. I mostly wear it in a braid or a bun, because it's a lot of hair, almost waist long.

Sometimes people criticize me, telling me it makes me look old.

I don't care, I AM old! I love my hair and I'm proud of it.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

can you believe ppl use the word "Old" like its a bad thing? My Gawd, do ppl say "breathing" like it's a bad thing? 🤣

riddle me this: shame ageing & grieve death?

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Tiger_grrrl@reddit

Keep your long hair, whatever the color 🙌I think the seeming urge to chop your hair short when you reach middle age is MUCH more aging!! I absolutely do not understand it. I wear mine up most of the time, in a braid or twist, and only have grey at one temple, but I love having long hair and have almost my entire life, not gonna cut it just because I’m a grandma 😹

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eastbaypluviophile@reddit

I’m white in front and a mix of gray and my remaining natural dirty blonde in the back.

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VoodooSweet@reddit

My wife started going grey a couple years ago, she went and got it dreadlocked and the silver in the dreads looks amazing….. I personally love it, and she gets a lot of compliments on it. She likes it because there’s no brushing and styling her hair, she lets them hang or put them in a ponytail on top of her head. She goes to the Locktician every couple months and has them fixed and the new growth locked up. She’s sleeping right now and would be pissed, or I’d show you a picture, it looks great.

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Charlotte_somex@reddit

Sounds amazing!

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mellypopstar@reddit

I LOVV❤️❤️E long grey silvery hair on women. Super stunning. I not so secretly want two silver stripes on either temple to develop on my own glorious crown over time.

My mum and dad are completely white and have been since I was 40 but I am not flashing out my silver yet as I imagined that I would. SO, I am going to perm it while still can, and choppy bob-cut it on a whim with a pocketknife, while listening to "Need You Tonight", her hee.

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Impressive-Shame-525@reddit

Not a lady but my wife is.

She has long natural hair and I'm infatuated with it. It's like an aphrodisiac to me. Soft, silky, smells amazing.

When we hug I like to bury my head there on her neck and inhale until my lungs are near to bursting.

Looking back through our time together, it started long and brown and sexy as hell. Over time she got this stripe of platinum like Rogue from the X-men. And that was sexy, too. Now we're both in our 50s and it's more silver and platinum than brown and that's so fucking hot.

When I'm laying down and she leans in to kiss me and her hair falls across my face. Heaven. When it's on my thighs... Ahem, never mind.

Anyway. Yeah.

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Charlotte_somex@reddit

Yeah ✨

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mlb222@reddit

TMCze@reddit

I don’t have gray hair - they took it just fine

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VioletSea13@reddit

I’m 57. My hair is down to my bum. I’ve gone a bit silver (about 10%). I haven’t colored my hair in 10 years…and don’t plan to ever again.

It’s my goal in life to be the mysterious recluse who lives in a big creepy house on the edge of town - and all the kids think I’m a witch.

That's interesting because I had the opposite reaction. It's hard for me to feel bent out of shape about my grays now because I got my first ones when I was 18.

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grayhairedqueenbitch@reddit

Same for me.

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ThreadLaced@reddit

Also lbr I was hoping it would grow into a stripe like Rogue or Anne Bancroft (it hasn't, several decades later, alas).

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ApolloAthena321@reddit

Am from north-east England so had to look up Dorothy Hamill 😆 and yes that cut was here in the late 70s/early 80s and it’s what I had! Along with Princess Di pie crust collars. Now 53, I’ve long since gone against rest of the women in my family with their shorter hair. It’s past my shoulders with its natural loose waves. I’ve used henna for years so it’s a mix of red and bright orange where it’s covering grey!

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ThreadLaced@reddit

Silver hair is sooooooo pretty and anyone who tells you is jealous at how good you look with hair *they* think is old.

I started getting grey in my 20s and stopped coloring in my 30s. 52 now and mostly grey. No one comments in it, but a few years ago when it was more streaky I got a lot of requests for the name of my colorist because people loved it.

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Big_Criticism_8335@reddit

I only have streaks of my OG hair left. I've fully embraced SW & CCL status since I turned 40 (53 now)

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chaos-revelry@reddit

I really want to know what the rest of your shirt says!

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Big_Criticism_8335@reddit

I ❤️ Butt Drugs

I personally think silver hair is so gross and makes the person wearing it, male or female, look ancient.

People should do whatever they want to their hair, but I gag when I read a comment about "rocking silver hair". Yeah....a 60 year old looking like a 80 year old is totally cool.

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Loose-Chemical-4982@reddit

I stopped dying my hair in my 40s because it was ruining my girls.

This is from a few months ago:

Former blonde - now “putty.”
At least I have a name for it now. My hair is sort of the color of Taylor Swift’s natural but hers of course is far prettier. And a LOT SMOOTHER.

I have not embraced the gray. I just wish it would gross grow and not be so thin anymore.

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MrMilesRides@reddit

I know you weren't asking for male opinions - but I'd die to meet a gal with the long, silver, witchy hair 😍

Those negative opinions are just the trash taking itself out!

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Tiger_grrrl@reddit

But the best male reply 🙌

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Tinker107@reddit

I’ve complimented only two women on their hair in the last five years: one had long, straight white hair and the other had stunningly beautiful gray hair.

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No_Rule_761@reddit

On your team! 55 with hair almost to my ass. Silver streaks just in the temples. Like Paulie Walnuts. What is it with the pressure from other women to dye my hair??? Now I must admit I'm a little bummed about my eyebrows turning, but can you imagine how Groucho I would look if I dyed them?

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

Yah i have some long silver eyebrow hairs. Hair-larious.

I’m about 10 years past being able to call it “premature” grey but been visibly sparkly since mid-30s and now fully salt and pepper.

I have a loose, unspiked mohawk that I do pigment colors (manic panic, good dye young etc) for fun, teals and bluey greens come out the best, but otherwise leaving it how it grows.

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AdmirableLifeguard75@reddit

Maybe just have it trimmed and conditioned, so it's not "witchy". But it's YOURS, do what you like! Fuk em.

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Blankbetty11@reddit

My hair is dark, ever so slightly reddish blonde getting grayer every day. I earned those. I call it ‘not salt and pepper, cinnamon and sugar.’ No intention of altering the color but use a tiny bit of purple shampoo every couple of weeks to brighten it a little.

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Lopsided_Panic_1148@reddit

Why do your "friends" care if you have long, natural hair? WTF is up with that? They are literally trying to police your body and that is not right. I'm team "Do whatever the fuck you want" with it.

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Mindless_Meet_2094@reddit

Even though I'm 51, I don't have silver yet, but I gave up almost all salon treatments and hair color right after COVID. I sat in the chair for five hours and my hair was beautiful for about 2 weeks. Then I had roots, so six weeks later, back in the chair.

Y'all, turns out I dislike the chair and all that goes with it. I have an idiotic passport photo with long roots and it's been two years since I have done anything but a new haircut when I think about it. I don't even have a stylist anymore. I just go to Supercuts ... lol. God, I used to spend $1k a year on these strands. Now it's about $75 with tip. My hair is thick, glossy, and soft with silver strands. I might be the only one who admires my current hair, but I'm starting to suspect that that was true all along.

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starship7201u@reddit

Still going gray. I hope I take after my Mom. She was still going salt & pepper when she died in 2017.

I used to fight with her all the time about MY HAIR.

hypothetical_zombie@reddit

I have ugly gray hair. It's got some blonde, some brown, some black, and some dark sludgy gray all mixed up. It started when I was 12.

If I had some silver, or platinum like my dad, I wouldn't bitch.

I had almost black hair when I was younger, and now have quite a bit of white. I was getting the roots touched up every three weeks, and it was not enough. So then covid hit and I let it grow out. Only the white washes me out…. So now I get low lights every three months or so…. Which puts me in dark silver territory instead of light silver. I also now have a shoulder length bob. I am happy with it.

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Next-Cut-2996@reddit

I get a ton of compliments on my salt and pepper, and I’m 46. I dyed it for two decades because that’s what society said I had to do… Covid made me say fuck it and I’ve not gone back. I wish I’d NEVER dyed it.

Guy here: I fucking love that look.

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_Feral_Child@reddit

Hey, hi, 90s bitch here. Grew my hair down to my ass during covid. No fucks given. I like it.

Am not completely silver yet so enjoying dying my hair plum while I wait it out. Is it a little bit witchy? Ya. Lean in crones.

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Hippie-chick-4ever@reddit

OMG, love you to pieces! Just by reading your post! Get it trimmed but leave it silver. Was that the question??

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sorenelf@reddit

I (57) have shoulder length hair with an undercut that I’m growing out. I used to bleach and then do vivid but my scalp has surrendered, lol. This time round I bought a couple of dark violet/ red boxes, threw it on and called it good, lol

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snarknerd2@reddit

I love this color on you!

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sorenelf@reddit

Bless, thank you. It’s much easier to apply and leaves my hair in better shape, so I think it’s my new go to.

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Training-Finish-2754@reddit

I just turned 50 and my hair is just above the backs of my knees. I haven’t dyed it in about 9 years and all around my face the highlights are silver- I LOVE IT!! I wish my whole damn head would just turn snowy white already, I am sick of the auburn!! My grandmothers were both almost totally white by age 65, so hopefully I don’t have too long to wait.

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whatsupgrizzlyadams@reddit

Ive had greys since I was 12. Now Im about 80% gray. Ive been bleaching and coloring with fun colors since about 1996.

Im currently silver and lilac at age 58. I dont give 2 shits about haters.

Most ladies around my age compliment it and wish they had the gumption to have some color in thier lives.

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vmflair@reddit

Super early Xer guy here. I find that coloring my hair makes it much softer and easier to manage. At least for guys I find that choosing a color close to your original shade or lighter looks the best.

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Rich_Group_8997@reddit

I have gray patches around my hairline (and my fucking eyebrows 🫩). I've never cared about my gray hair. It's just doing what hair does. I've also only been to a hair salon once in my entire 51.25 years of life. I hated it and couldn't understand why people pay so much money for someone else to wash and blowdry their hair.

Anyway, I'm one of your witchy people! Let's start a coven!

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CodenameZoya@reddit

Gray hair is fine, but a big sloppy mess on top of your head of any color is unattractive.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

your mess might be my fine art.

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tviolet@reddit

My hair hasn't gone grey yet but I'm a redhead, we generally just fade into translucence. It used to be below my butt but I was so freaking tired of accidentally sitting on it, clogging up the dryer, unwrapping it from the vacuum roller, chasing down giant tumbleweeds of hair strands melded to cat hair that I finally cut it to like bra strap length. Plus I thought it made me look like a hippie and I am a 80s punk, dammit.

I'm 58 and have been getting grays since I was 21. I thought I'd dye my hair forever. About 6 years ago I said I was done with dye. My hair is long and beautiful witchy gray and I'm embracing it now! Yes I get some who say oh you should dye it again. Heck no, I've earned every single gray and a color you can never get out of a box.

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bullfrogftw@reddit

WhY U speek like bRAin dammagd miLlenIal?!?

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Lost-Platypus8271@reddit

why U reply like one?!?

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grayhairedqueenbitch@reddit

I've embraced the witch look. I secretly kind of love that it makes some grown-up mean girls mad. I am not interested in men on dating apps though, so there's that.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

Girl i'm not on dating aps either- metioned in post how a buddy of mine is in those & she reported that many bios state to "move on if you don't dye yer hair" or whatever.

I’m sorry to say I’m in the silver shaming camp

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PuzzleheadedBobcat90@reddit

I too, was traumatized by the Dorothy Hamil haircut for years. Here I am at 4. Now I keep it jist above my shoulders with the left side (from just behind me ear shaved up to my side part)

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StanleyQPrick@reddit

Same but sometimes I put blue in the grey

Crone goals all the way...im slowly getting there at 51. Its a different type of beauty and I honestly think many men find it intimidating. Just something about it.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

yah, i know attraction is about procreation. My womb room, esta cerrado for sure.

But the cultural take on women & aging - that's gotta change

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Turbulent_Garden5@reddit

56 with long arse witch hair. I don’t care what anyone thinks, long hair is easier. I live on my farm in a windy climate and drive a Jeep, short hair just doesn’t work for me. I wash, air dry and then braid or whip it into a messy bun. Whatever, I’m a descendant of a Salem witch so I may as well look the part.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

Yes, long hair is just easier. Hair cuts & styles are just too extra

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iloveairportsushi@reddit

I’m 50 and on dating apps. I’ve literally never seen people say anything about going silver and not being interested. Absolutely zero! Your friend is bullshitting. Besides, we are old - we have greys. What looks worse… grown in roots or natural silver hair?? I’m currently going natural myself.

About the length of, that’s up to you. Personally I prefer well maintained haircuts short or mid back at the longest. It shows you care about yourself. Plus, it’s just hair it grows back. It’s not your whole personality. When I see ultra long hair I get the impression that person is insecure about something.

In the end, it’s your hair to do whatever you want with it.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

Yah, haircuts give me the heebieJeebies, but you do you!

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Tall_Score569@reddit

I really dig it. She has never looked better and constantly gets praise on her hair. Even from strangers.

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Secret_Agent_Blues@reddit

This was me too! Gray in my 20s and before covid I colored my hair red for about 35 years. Ive embraced my silver locks now and I love it.

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poolpog@reddit

Don't have to atone, be strong as a stone and own the crone zone

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yah i pluck those 🤣

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DragonfruitOdd8884@reddit

Just had to say, I feel you about the Dorothy Hamill cut! After surviving my childhood with that, I can never have short hair again

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

Yah. I thought the 50s had some scare hair, then came the 70s scissors 🤣

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CelticGardenGirl@reddit

Same here! My grandma cut my hair to the same length as my ears…a few days before I started 4th grade at my new school. 😩😒

I looked like a goddamn mushroom. 🍄‍🟫

Needless to say, I have never let it get shorter than my shoulders ever since!

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scarybedtimestories@reddit

Waist-length brown/gray checking in. I will never dye it. I have earned this gray hair. I've walked this earth for over half a century and I have loved and lost and cried till I was sick and laughed till it hurt.

My hair is a story. Screw anyone who wants to reduce that to "pretty" or "not pretty".

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

IKR? Pretty? Like a pretty pony? WtAf? I'm not a cartoon 😳

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Proper-Abroad5253@reddit

I am started graying in my late 20's, never touched a dye ro cover up. Now in my late 40's and I get tons of compliments. People even ask if I dyed it gray. It's nice. Either way I dont a sh't.

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Stopped bleaching during covid and never looked back!

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Bixiebee23@reddit

I always had thick blonde hair, so when it went gray it wasn't much of a change really. I still have a ton of hair and it grows really fast so I did let it get pretty long the last couple of years.

But a couple weeks ago I was bent over changing out an hdmi cable on the back of my gaming computer and my hair got caught in the fan, which was a bit traumatic and hilarious LOL.

So, I went and had it cut back to shoulder length and will probably keep it there for the foreseeable future.

I guess our marketing culture uses the word "gramma" as derogatory -as in, "gramma hair" or "gramma smell".

It's already an association, the grey hair w the "gave up" thing.

I hope that's changing. I just don't want to shame dye. I also genuinely feel Crone is cool. I'm gettin there!

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kimmy-mac@reddit

This is where I’m at too. My once red hair is now sad mouse brown, and what’s coming in is white. But not enough of it is white, so I dye it all back red. When I have the time and energy.

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BlackBasementCats@reddit

I’m using my whites and greys as free highlights

Once my hair gets more silver I’m gonna go a lighter shade of red(s). My husband’s grandmother was also a ginger and tinted her white hair red so it looked like a pale apricot red shade with streaks of darker red and I love that look.

I’m not sure if I’ll rock the natural silver. I’ll make up my mind once I have more than a handful of grey hair.

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raerae1991@reddit

I had a Great Aunt who colored her once red hair. She was an apricot pink hair for as long as I remembered her.

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KerissaKenro@reddit

I only have an awesome grey streak so far. I usually lighten the top layers of my hair, so it turns into a blonde streak. My mom is nearly eighty and still is only half grey

Genetics is so weird, I know people who started going grey in their twenties, and some like my mom who are senior citizens with their natural color. It’s all the luck of the draw

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remembertoread@reddit

No shame in the silver, you earned it

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Funke-munke@reddit

So I made an attempt to go silver. Im naturally dark brunette and have been dying it for at least a decade. after several months of it being more white than brown I started to notice peoples reactions to me were noticeably different and not in a good way. Suddenly being dismissed, brushed off or people treating me like my mere presence was a nuisance. Im married and my husband honestly doesn’t GAF either way. But DAMN it was crazy.

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raerae1991@reddit

At my dads funeral, his old post woman, told the story of him one day saying “you’ve done something to your hair” and she said to him “oh I stoped coloring it” his response to her was “good, you should have done it earlier” that gave her the courage to keep her grey and never looked back. Mind you my dad was like Anderson Cooper, where he had old man white hair in his late 30’s and had family who was even younger when their hair turned white

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invisiblebyday@reddit

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Signal_Glittering@reddit

I stopped coloring my hair in 2021 and have the most amazing hair ever. It’s so full and luscious and thick. I look much better than I did with dark hair. I do keep it styled though. Regular cuts and good shampoo make a huge difference. It’s for me and no one else.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

geez sis, i'm just reading about heavy metals in hair dye. Thankfully i wasn't down w shame dying when i saw another silver. No way in H am i gonna douse meself w dementia just to look...what? Younger?? Appropriate? Not witchy??

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Signal_Glittering@reddit

If I had known this hair was waiting for me I would’ve stopped with the chemicals so much sooner. So I wear it proudly 🤩

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

same. I trim my ends, but salons just shame me.

Only beauty colleges treat me w interest & listen to what i need, so i've gotten a few low process "blends" over the past decade.

Mission_Wolf579@reddit

I'm courting the silver. My hair is about chin length, I pull it back so the grey streaks around my face look like lightning bolts on the sides of my head. Soon my lightning bolts won't stand out as much, the surrounding areas are increasingly coming in grey too. I'm looking forward to the day when I'm fully silver.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

silver streaks are so super cool.

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Diasies_inMyHair@reddit

My hair is almost waist length and is streaked with silver. I have earned every last silver strand. Damned if I'm going to dye it or cut it because someone ELSE can't handle the fact that I have some life experience!

BE the Witchy Woman you are!

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Repulsive_Regular_39@reddit

Nope, i'm vain as fuck. Will dye it until i die like most women in my family.

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MystyreSapphire@reddit

I don't have many greys but I wear long hair. But Im more Xennial than GenX (75)

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Pristine_Frame_2066@reddit

Crone! I am a 54 yo woman with natural hair. Except my dad and grandparents were white haired and I am still blond at my age.

My hair is doing wild things in menopause. I am getting fat waves and thicker hair strands, and hrt is making my hair grow in more. But still a dark blond with streaks. I only have white in my ling sideburns. I would love thick solid silver or white.

ResidentTurbulent647@reddit

Anyone who tries to tell you your gorgeous long silver hair is ugly is JEALOUS and insecure.

Hey. I didn’t put him in this position. It’s just where he finds himself.

Plus read his post - I’m not sure he needs much help in the area of narcissism…

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

in my psyche 101 class contrarianism is a covert form of narcissism. IJS

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chrispd01@reddit

You needed a psychology class to tell you that?

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JoyDVeeve@reddit

Under my purple there's about ten grey hairs so I'm doing well in the greying game. I'd never dream of making a negative comment to another woman about any aspect of her appearance

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Global_Friend5300@reddit

Natural is beautiful. I see hair dye in later years as a sign of insecurity. And insecurity is never sexy.

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The only reason I dye my hair is because I still need to work, and have to avoid looking too “old”. Ageism is rampant where I live.

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katiegirl-@reddit

When I grow my hair out from neglect, I tell people the hairstyle is ‘git off my land’.

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strangedazey@reddit

Crone! Just turned 55 but started graying in my late 20s. I colored for a long time and finally got sick of in about 5yrs ago and just let it go now. It has about 80%white now.

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TakitishHoser@reddit

I was told if I grew out my hair colour that my hair texture would go all coarse (I've got naturally curly hair) it didn't.

I have my natural hair colour & give zero f's what anyone thinks of it.

I also have my hair long.

I also paint my toe nails what ever colour I want too.

I don't see things as a midlife crisis, I see it as midlife freedom. Not caring what people think of shallow stuff (never really did anyway) is even easier to ignore as I get older.

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DesignNormal9257@reddit

I’m letting my hair grow out. Not silver yet, but think that women with long hair look great at any age.

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ecochixie@reddit

53 here. Silver surrounds my face but is still mostly brown on the rest of my head. The only time I color is when I want fun colors. I only use semi-permanent & no bleach. I never want to deal with roots again.

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SquirrelsNRaccoons@reddit

Where do you live (general state/region), may I ask? Because I'm in California, and even in my youth-obsessed state, silver hair has become not only acceptable but quite popular. You rock that gorgeous hair and don't for one second listen to any negativity! In fact, I'd get the hell away from anyone who said such things to me...it tells you who they are, and they suck. Boomers tend to feel more like this because they grew up in a time when all that mattered about women was how attractive they were to men. Times have changed for the better, only extremely shallow people still demand that women must color their hair to be attractive. Steer clear of those people, they will tear you to shreds because of their own body-insecurity! You do you and own it! (I'm also a Gen X woman who is letting her gray come in and I've had nothing but compliments!)

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digawina@reddit

I dye mine, but would never shame someone for their greys. So neither?

women are taught to be ashamed of our silvers.

so wild

how can a culture shame ageing & grieve death? but here we are. AT least you're supportive of her process 😄

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newhappyrainbow@reddit

Crone! I’ve been completely silver since 40yo. I must be extra croney because no one has ever told me I was too pretty for it! I did have to cut it a bit shorter (was waist length, now shoulder length) because of menopausal overheating. 🥵 I get compliments on the color all the time.

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witchofpain@reddit

I am jealous! I would love to have long silver hair!

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Engchik79@reddit

Yeah girl! I have a stripe of silver in my hair right in the middle. I don’t cover it up but it’s the only place it grows ( as of now) I have blonde hair tho so I love my silver stripe it fits in nicely.

I’m a proud silver sister in process! Stopped dying when I saw an actual streak coming in. I loooove silver hair and love it so much more than the mousy brown my hair darkened into as an adult. I went lighter forever until The silver started. I won’t color ever again. Bring on the silver. I get way more compliments on my hair now than ever before.

I do keep it cut in a way that compliments my features and personal style and I invest in good skin care and treatments, so I haven’t “let myself go”. I am happy with how I look and that’s really the opinion that matters.

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5150-gotadaypass@reddit

Post chemo my hair grew back curly and a mousy brown that doesn’t go with my face at all, so I went platinum blonde instead.

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ThginkAccbeR@reddit

salons think your'e nuts & try to talk you out of it, or they want to douse the whole head w "toner" or other shit chemicals.

I started going to beauty colleges cuz they're too scart to be bossy

All i needed was just a few level 9 tiny micro weaves plus a natural wash out silver dye w fewer chemicals. No toner. No extras.

the ends caught up to the silver roots, but your growing out process is always healthier.

hair is super happy now that i don't do anything but love it! It scares women & weeds out men. My friend group is more solid now too. (just ppl from old days who are flippin out)

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Own_Celebration5462@reddit

Totally in the silver camp. I was tired of putting chemicals on my scalp, presumably more for men, because women have a lot of nice things to say about it. If I was on a dating app and a man said silver girls need not respond, I would be grateful for the heads-up that I was avoiding a superficial POS who probably doesn’t use Just For Men to dye his grays, because he thinks he looks “distinguished”.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

yah i heard about that. "silver girls need not respond". Ok.

wtAf

Dye is associated w dementia acceleration, so guess he's rather a batty brunette. 🤣 or befuddled blonde 🤣

so i'm gonna get DEMENTIA cuz the "male gaze" is scared of a little experience & natural human evolution??

I started seeing grey when I was 21, 59 now and my grey is mostly in my temples but it’s silver-white against what my (bonus) daughter calls my blonde hair, framing my face and just kind of hanging out and being cool.

When I pull my hair back to a ponytail or such, the streaks are super-noticeable, and I often get comments on them.

I haven’t colored, permed, or done anything but shampoo and conditioner to my hair since about 1992. At this point, I don’t even own a hair dryer 🤣

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Dismal-Activity8878@reddit

1 million percent Crone!

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app_generated_name@reddit

1974 male here with a full head of dark brown hair.

My take is this; you do you. The lucky ones amongst us will get to age. If you're looking for a dude, just be you. None of us look like we used to & who cares!?!? If you are a loving, caring, sexual person then I don't think dating isn't going to be an issue.

Have fun!

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

ya goal isn't dating, more of an artsy thing unto myself

Wild how our culture simultaneously grieves death...& shames ageing.

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app_generated_name@reddit

Wild how our culture simultaneously grieves death...& shames ageing.

I think you're off base with this. We don't shame aging , we worship youth. There is a big difference.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

nah. I don't agree, you don't see it as a man who gets to be a "silver fox" or "distinguished"

teal sounds bichen.

No-County7603@reddit

I love my silver hair❤️

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10tonnetruck@reddit

I love the long silver hair look. The friend I have who has the black & silver hair going on is beautiful. She sometimes dyes a streak of purple or another color & it just looks so good.

I have some gray, and my hair hasn't been cut in I don't remember how long. 15 to 20 years? It gets down to around the bottom of the shoulder blades and just doesn't get any longer. Pretty much wash it - pull it back in the ponytail and don't worry about it.

I vibe with you, OP. Just not very interested anymore, haven't even bothered with dating apps so no idea there

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Torylynn-writer@reddit

Since starting Ozempic, my hair has gotten curly and a bit greyer on the temples and I’m in love with it. I’m done for my crime phase!

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BlueButtons07@reddit

I turn 49 this year. I had tried just going hair dye free a few years ago when I had a pixie cut. The unruliness of the short grey hair was my demise ...so I started coloring again, until Jan of this year. Its been easier being longer length and not coloring it.

I'm at the point in life, where I don't really care what other people think of my hair, clothes, body etc....if you don't like it, don't look at it..and I'm not entertaining negative comments, especially from people that are close to me.

fulldarknostarz@reddit

My friend has fairly long silver hair. She asked me what I thought about it. I told her it was beautiful. While I still have mostly natural hair I'm getting gray. Not beautiful silver hair, guhray.

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temerairevm@reddit

I see you with the Dorothy Hamill trauma. Me too! It’s real. I had the bad fortune to have it forced on me during one of those unfortunate elementary school growth spurts where I was temporarily taller than most of the boys. Not cool. I’ve always had long hair since.

I’ve been married approximately forever so I’m the wrong person to give dating advice if that’s even relevant. But F anyone’s opinion. You do you. I mean if you start looking like Kim Davis or someone’s sister wife maybe get it shaped.

M grandma rocked long silver curls into her 80s. I will do the same!

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InadmissibleHug@reddit

I’ve been rocking a pixie and I even spent some time colouring it.

Whole thing was a shemozzle and quite frankly, I’m starting to grow the colour out and the cut as well. It can all eat a dick.

I mean, I like the pixie well enough but I can’t find anyone who will cut it how I like it consistently. So fuck it.

Coz it’s hot here, that means I’ll be back to rocking some version of a bun, but so it goes.

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DirtyLikeASewer@reddit

50 and have hair past my butt. Long brown I too mostly eschew salons. It has been 25 years for me. I cut my own to my shoulders every so often. Twisting into a bun and braiding seem to contribute to spilt ends, so I just have a pony tail. It makes a lovely scarf when im cold. I too DGAF about what others think, its long and smooth and pretty. And I don't worry about looking old... I welcome it.

I LOVE silver! Always wanted to be silver... Unfortunately my genetics arent allowing me a single gray. I love my partner's salt and pepper hair, and the wings of silver he has at his temples. 💕 enjoy your beauty in your own way. Your hair is for YOUR enjoyment, everyone else can give compliments or keep it to themselves.

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RedditSkippy@reddit

Dating profiles that outright reject undyed hair?!? WTAF??

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AquaLady2023@reddit

I was so sick of coloring my hair (it had gotten to every 12 days), I finally said enough. I’m so happy with my silver hair but I have a pixie cut so I don’t think it looks aging…I hope lol

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Prestigious-Curve-64@reddit

I'm dishwater blond, and finally started going gray in earnest a couple of years ago. I LOVE it! On good hair days (the ones where I do not look like I've been electrocuted,) it's silver around my face and streaky - almost like I did it on purpose. And mine has always been long. I have zero patience for the maintenance short hair demands - regular professional cuts - expensive since my hair is kind of curly - not to mention having to tame it daily.

With this, I can put it in a loose braid after washing, and it looks reasonably presentable and stays out of my face.

Silver all the way, baybee!

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OrangeMustangGal@reddit

Me too. I had the Dorothy Hamill cut. 😞

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Love my crone hair, not dying it

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ebeth_the_mighty@reddit

I’m eagerly awaiting the grey. I’ve been telling people for 15 years that I’m “too old for this shit”, but I’m 55, with dark brown hair, and my hairdresser had to hunt to find a grey one.

I want to go silver, dammit!

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Substantial_Layer_79@reddit

I've wanted silver hair since I was 7. I'm now 58 and haven't touched my hair with anything in over six months and all I have is my white birth mark that is under a colicky. Know, that I am jealous.

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

yah mine is just tiny long tinsel mixed w dishwater blonde. Not the white of my granny atall, but rad IMO.

nineseventeenam@reddit

If my hair would go silver, I'd stop coloring in a heartbeat. My dad's is silver, but I didn't get the genes. My natural is washed out dirt brown.

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AbsoluteApril@reddit

I have long silver/mixed hair, i have gotten so many random compliments from strangers, it's been a bit surprising!

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plnnyOfallOFit@reddit (OP)

yah i get compliments from stangers, but ppl who know me are super pist. hahaha

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Diela1968@reddit

Anyone who thinks silver is a deal breaker isn’t worth talking to anyway.

I would consider going shoulder length in the next five years or so. That’s a lot of weight to deal with when washing.

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fridayimatwork@reddit

I like how mine looks. Weirdly my husbands is turning in almost the same way