ULPT request: incentivize an elderly squatter to leave my mother’s house

Posted by No_Produce9067@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 294 comments

New York City. My mother, 88 has had dementia for years and has been living in her 4BR house with an 89 yo guy who has sponging off her (or really, me) for at least 10 years. He doesn’t contribute a cent to anything at all and never has. Unsurprisingly, he’s also a very difficult person.

Now we are moving my mom to managed care. I gave the guy and his three kids a 3 month heads up, which I extended to 4 months at their request. When I checked in, seeing no progress with only one month remaining, his son in law told me “he’s not leaving the house” and in so many words, to go fuck myself.

I have a lawyer working on all the things needed to eventually get him removed by marshalls but it’s going to take a long time, evidently. Of note, the house is actually owned by a trust that my wife administers. It’s not my mother’s. But it could be six months to a year and I need to sell the house to offset my mother’s care. Delay is consequential.

I know what the lawyer advises wrt legal proceedings. What are some good ULPTs *strictly within all legal boundaries* that would help make clear to him (and his three kids that have made this my problem) that staying there rent free, waiting to die, is not the right move?