Can’t Stay Up Late? 😫

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Bitter_Frame3054@reddit

I totally understand...I get up at 4:30-4:45 am. When my family has a dinner & doesn't eat til 7 pm. I'm like what I usually eat at 4:30-5 pm ...your eating at my bed time.

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breadit8@reddit

I’m a couple hours later, but I have two good 9 p.m. bedtime friends.

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Esoteric_Owl87@reddit

I’m in bed by 8, asleep by 9-930. It’s the best,

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magpieoneeye@reddit

Teenagers are biologically more nocturnal, you just grew up. It happens to the best of us, you're in hood company.

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Competitive-Mud-6915@reddit (OP)

Hood company and good company

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magpieoneeye@reddit

Lol....eyem sew gud aht thpellung

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Yes, but my kids are older now and I manage to get out and party till one am once in a while. Helps to have great music and events in my city worth going out for. But without reason, I’m in bed by 10p

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According_Love2510@reddit

100% me. I used to be a total night owl- 2am was my regular bedtime and I’d be up for work at 7am, always a little tired, but okay. Now- if you mention doing something out of my house that starts at 9pm? Absolutely not. My alcohol tolerance has plummeted as well, and every thing costs a million dollars, so more often than not I am so happy to spend the night at home, be in my bed by 10pm, and enjoying my peace.

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Grouchy-Wedding-9862@reddit

I'm jealous. After years of working mornings I still hate it and wake up everyday feeling like I've been hit by a bus whether I was out or not because I'm a night owl. I always hoped I would change. I can still go out at midnight if I get bored.

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ken830@reddit

It's 5:30am as I type this. My normal bedtime is sometime between 4am and "oh shit! The sun is rising!"

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Dickrubin14094@reddit

Same! I’m at the point where I’d rather get together for breakfast with friends at 7 am than going out late. Also, forget alcohol. If I have any kind of drink including water after dinner I know I’ll be getting up during the night to relieve myself.

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NorthBase710@reddit

I am 42 and have no problem staying up late.

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thecatsofwar@reddit

Nope still a night owl.

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DrewBaron80@reddit

Not being able to sleep past whenever the sun comes up has been the most surprising part of getting older for me. When I was in my 20s I'd stay up until 2am on a regular basis, sleep till 10 or later if I could. Now, it's like I have an alarm clock in my brain that goes off no matter what at around 5:30 in the morning. I get up for work at 6, so it's fine, but it doesn't turn off on the weekend. That means if I stay up a bit later on the weekend I end up missing out on sleep compared to during the week when I'm in bed by 10.

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Adventurous_Pin_344@reddit

I just told my kid that sleep is the ultimate luxury, and that she would understand when older.

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RainbowMage81@reddit

I actually have the opposite problem. When I was young I had a hard time staying up past 9 (unless I was partying). Now I have to make myself go to bed at 9 or 10, or I’ll be up until 12 or later. No party necessary.

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flamingknifepenis@reddit

A few (read: seven of eight) years ago I saw Ride play a live show, and it was fucking awesome because they went on stage at 8, rocked their asses off until 9:30, played an encore, and were done by 9:50 so that “all you old fucks can be home and in bed by 10:30.” I’d never felt so seen.

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Interesting_Owl7041@reddit

Yes, but it’s entirely driven by my work schedule. Monday-Friday I’m up at 5am, so by the time 9pm rolls around I’m done. If I don’t have to wake up early for work I can easily sleep until 9 or 10am.

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Konnorwolf@reddit

I have crazy hours. I'm even even asleep until six am.

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Bitter-Discussion@reddit

In my teens and twenties, and most of my 30s ... Staying up all every night and play video games was normal... Around 38 39 It hit me i started laying down around 11pm.. I'm 40 now and still a gamer but most nights it's off by 9:30...

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Weird_Squirrel_8382@reddit

Let's have some fun, this music slaps, I'm 39 so I'm a take a disco nap

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PuppyJakeKhakiCollar@reddit

As a child, teen, and young adult, I was a night owl. Staying up until 2 or 3am and sleeping until noon, if allowed to. Now in my 40s, staying up late is more like 11:30pm. And I can no longer sleep in either. On my days off I try to sleep late but can't get past 9am. I even have found I now like getting up early! Younger me *never* would have thought that would happen.

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ineffable_my_dear@reddit

Never in my life (I mean, as far as I can recall) have I been able to go to bed before 10pm, typical is usually 1-3am. My mom is the same, as was her mom. Now I’m seriously fucked up so my bedtime/sleep is delayed by a little each day. I can entrain but it’s incredibly difficult. I also have to take pharmaceuticals to fall & stay asleep. Just. Sooo. Fucked up.

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Gamecockgirl79@reddit

Same! Even when my dogs don't make me up, which is rare, my internal alarm wakes me up by 6:30. Sometimes, it's even earlier. It's depends on whether or not my brain will stop going 500 mph as soon as I wake up.

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Apidaelia@reddit

I was out too late for a show last night. I had one drink at home and one there, GA ticket so on my feet the whole time, and chilled out for a few too drink water after I got home. This morning I have a terrible headache and limped away from my bed until my body loosened up. I'm not hung over from alcohol - I'm hung over from the whole experience.

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DetCityDaveST@reddit

Sounds like you should exercise more often. Being on your feet for a few hours shouldn’t cripple you the next day.

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Apidaelia@reddit

You are assuming I've reached this age in perfect health.

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DetCityDaveST@reddit

Exercise is beneficial even when you’re not in perfect health.

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Apidaelia@reddit

I agree

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PopcornSurgeon@reddit

I run 4-6 miles 4 times a week and lift twice a week and dancing for hours hobbles me too. It’s not the cardio that’s the issue, it’s that my feet are old and don’t bounce back from being abused in stylish non-supportive shoes.

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ChiefBroady@reddit

Bruh. I am not afraid to go to bed at 7. Do some things, watching a show or movie and starting to sleep 9ish.

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nobearable@reddit

I'm with you! I had caffeine after 9am AND didn't get to bed until 9:45pm yesterday. I am dragging today, send help. Alcohol is completely off the table (I'm fine with this though) and weed gives me screaming anxiety, regardless of the strain.

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MoviesFilmCinema@reddit

Get some weed drops and determine your personal dose. Could be 2 or 3 drops. Then you can use it to chill or get slightly high. Weed is too strong now. Remember when weed made us laugh?

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ChiaOtter@reddit

I’m seeing the same things! I had to basically give up caffeine any time after 10am if I want to get to sleep at a normal time. Booze makes my nose all stuffy and gives me a headache 90% of the time, so it’s not worth it. Weed makes me anxious. Having to go through the 2020s with nothing but sober reality is rude.

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nobearable@reddit

Oh damn, I hadn't even thought your last line through before. o.o It is friggin rude.

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Babymakerwannabe@reddit

I stay up late but I don’t want to be out of my home late

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NovaForceElite@reddit

I'm up all night trying to fall asleep. Can we switch for like a week?

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Apprehensive-Sky6467@reddit

Dude I love my sleep lol! I don't stay up past my bedtime unless I'm having bad insomnia. Which I have often because I'm getting old. Yeah being in our 40s sucks

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mjh8212@reddit

I’m ready to go to sleep by 9 latest I’ve stayed up was 11 when my husband didn’t have to work the next day. My husband gets up at 3am for work so that’s my excuse for going to sleep early but I really just like going to sleep early.

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nickd1980@reddit

Most nights I'm in bed between 10-10:30, Thursday nights however I'm in bed by 9 so I can wake up at 4 so I can get to the gym by 5 and lift and jump into the pool by 7ish so I can avoid the old ladies that jump into the pool at 8 so they can warmup for their "aqua aerobics" class at 9!

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icanliveinthewoods@reddit

I usually head to bed at 11, asleep by midnight. Then, I wake up without an alarm around 530-6. I am not tired throughout the day, and don’t nap, though I am sluggish for an hour or so after getting up (which is fine, since I’m the only one up, so I have no one else to rush me through my morning sluggish hour). In my 20’s and 30’s I was always dying to sleep in and take a good nap when I could. I feel like I’d have plenty of energy, and then crash and need extra sleep in some form. Now I seem to have a kind of steady level of energy throughout the day, and somehow need less sleep at night and no naps.

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dewihafta@reddit

Yes, omg! Especially these days with the fibromyalgia and arthritis, i feel best when im laying in bed and reading. Late nights with friends are fun, but i usually have to have a late afternoon coffee in order to not conk out by 9.

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afleetingmoment@reddit

I've learned I need an hour to "wind down" after anything social. So that means during the week, I really need to be heading home by 8:45 or I'm screwed. No regerts. I like knowing my system and working with it.

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Tora-bora83@reddit

Ditto. An hour minimum for a 10pm bedtime

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Phyzzx@reddit

Im usually up earlier than everyone by at least 2hrs too. I hate it because I can't do anything inside without making noise.

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casdoodle527@reddit

My kids are 5 & 2 and I LOVE crawling into bed as a family and watching a show together, then headed to our respective sleeping spots. I’m in bed by 9 unless it’s a day I work late

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AJ14847414@reddit

It hit me just a couple months ago at 45

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Vellekyn@reddit

The rough approximation is around 400 million people worldwide who can directly relate to that specific situation...

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JamesMattDillon@reddit

Like no one else has the same situation as themselves.

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Fun_Committee1478@reddit

Yes. I was someone who never went to bed ever, before midnight for about 15 years!!! Now, I can’t go past 10 very often. All the exact reasons you listed too.

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YourGuyK@reddit

Can't relate. I'd stay up until 3 AM every night given the chance.

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PrncessVespa@reddit

I'm still a night owl - or, I would be if society allowed for it...

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LineImpossible3958@reddit

I relate so much to this. I worked overnights in my 20s, I was literally up all night for years working in tv news. What a waste! Now by 10 I’m done, some nights it’s 9. I don’t like being social anymore either so that adds to it. I prefer to stay home with my family and get stoned in the garage by myself. Thankfully my wife agrees.

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MysteriousCicada5012@reddit

I was up until nearly 3am and now I'm up at 8 am... Going to get a coffee

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No_Today_4903@reddit

I love it if I can be laying in my bed by 7! that’s my goal! I usually am asleep by 930 if not 9. I just can’t hang anymore. Alcohol bores me, I drink one energy drink with my breakfast and the rest of the day is water. I’m the most uninteresting person in the world and I’m ok with that lol!

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HopelessMagic@reddit

No, but I also get up for work at 3:30am soooo....

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horceface@reddit

It makes it really hard to see the sunset. Half the nights I go to bed through the summer, the kids are still splashing in the pool outside.

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HopelessMagic@reddit

Unfortunately, I also get home from work at 8pm most days. So I get to watch the sunrise and sunset. 🫩

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Plane-Match1794@reddit

Out past 10? Try 9:00! Haha

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No_Today_4903@reddit

This is meeee!

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tgbarbie@reddit

Same same. My kids stay up later than me. I just went to a matinee disco in nyc, 5-9 pm. So I don’t think we’re alone. I’ll have half a coffee at 4pm if I need to be out till 11

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beachbummeddd@reddit

I heard Matinee Disco is performing tonight down at the El Ray.

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pimento_mori@reddit

And if I do stay up late, I can’t even sleep in the next day, because my body just wakes up at its usual time. Then I’m screwed because I’m sleep deprived all day. Back when I was younger, I could stay up late and make it up the next day. Those days are over.

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Frosty_Cloud_2888@reddit

I haven’t regretted going to bed early. . . Ever.

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BasicRabbit4@reddit

Im the same. If I get to bed too late I feel hung over the next day. Even though I dont drink. When I was in my 20s I routinely stayed out until 4/5am with no issue.

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cellrdoor2@reddit

I naturally want to be asleep by 10:30 and I usually go with it because regular sleep makes me feel so much better. The trouble is when I have to stay up until midnight for work or if my teens are being loud and keeping me awake. Once I miss that window it’s so much harder to sleep. I’ve taken to using low dosage edibles for cases like that, it really helps.

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Old-Tea1980@reddit

Same

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funatical@reddit

My most frequent goal in life is to be home before sundown. Reverse vampire thing.

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New_Stats@reddit

That's how it's supposed to be. There's a theory that older people needing to go to bed early while younger people wanting to stay up late was crucial to early human survival Someone was always awake, serving as the lookout while the rest of the group slept https://www.science.org/content/article/early-bird-or-night-owl-modern-day-sleeping-habits-may-be-ancient-survival-tools

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Bird_Herder@reddit

I had a friend ask if I wanted to hang out yesterday. I was thinking along the lines of heading over to her place about 6 or 7, working on an art project we had been talking about for a couple of hours, then sitting around the fire pit until 9 or so before heading home. She finally messaged me at 8 saying she was going to eat dinner then, meet with someone at the local bar for a few minutes, then we could light up the fire pit. At 9:30 she said she was ready. I said I'm already in my pj's.

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OohBeesIhateEm@reddit

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OohBeesIhateEm@reddit

There are few joys as wonderful as slipping into clean sheets by 9 pm 😆

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smoke2957@reddit

I'm with you! On Fridays I drink more coffee than normal in the hopes I'll stay up late and maximize every minute of my 2 days off. I'm lucky if I make it an extra hour before falling asleep. My new act of rebellion is staying in my jammies until 11 on weekends instead of staying up late. Watch out everyone I don't want you getting any of my bad assery on ya (This is why I suck)

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farfanseaweevil@reddit

8:30-9:00 for me and the wife. 1979/1981 respectively. Kids stay up a little later but they’re out by 1000 on their own. I was not like that in high school…I’d stay up as late as possible.

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Moons_of_Moons@reddit

Me at 9:15pm ![gif](giphy|PkLPBuyozY7F31wCxF)

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jmac11281@reddit

I feel as though that this will happen sometime in my life. But for now, I have the opposite problem. I don't get to sleep until after midnight. I have just started going back into the office 4 times a week. So now I am waking up at 6:30 almost every weekday. I have gotten used to the sleep schedule, and if I am tired, I will sneak in a little nap. I also do catch up on sleep on the weekends so it all kind of balances out.

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FoppyRETURNS@reddit

8 pm bedtime is awesome!!

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The_dura_mater@reddit

I’ve woken up at 0500 for work for the last 20 years (and a few years I had to wake up at 0400)… so yeah… sleeping in for me is until 0700. My body just will NOT be having fun past 10pm at this point 🤷‍♀️

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ElegantGoose@reddit

I feel like shit if I don't go to bed by 10. I used to leave the house at 10 to go out. I used to stay out until 4am!

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Ill-Percentage-3276@reddit

I'm pretty sure I fell asleep last night while it was still light out.

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eternallysantanasass@reddit

I am in bed by at least 9:30 or 10. Depending on how settled I can get my mom (she has dementia and lives with me). Once she’s good I am out like a light

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Maleficent_Gas5417@reddit

If I’m not home by 7 I will completely crash out. I have an entire evening routine and if it gets disrupted, I’m a mess.

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DickBurns01@reddit

10? I'm usually asleep before 9

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Automatic-Nature6025@reddit

This happened to me in my early 30s, but as it happened, I noticed my morning and daytime energy increased, and that weird thing where I used to get all this motivation at 10:30 every night, started to happen less and less, thankfully.

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StillhasaWiiU@reddit

I guess i just don't need that much sleep or rest. Midnight to 6 is my normal schedule. being up to 3 on weekends is pretty normal.

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Blackbird136@reddit

I’m not a parent but I’m working a job that’s not a good fit for me (extroverted job and I’m becoming more introverted the older I get), plus the commute is 40 mins each way. So most days I’m drained. I’m occasionally up until 10, but 9:15 or so is more common. And I also wake up at 5 almost every day, despite not having to be up until 6. It sucks! And wake up mullllltiple times most nights too. Yay anxiety.

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chuckleborris@reddit

Over recent years, I’ve actually migrated towards the opposite: I don’t fall asleep before 1:30 am unless there’s an extenuating circumstance (ex: migraine). It’s strange, I’d never routinely stay awake so late in the past, but it’s been this way for a while. I usually wake up for work by 8:30 so I still get a reasonable amount of sleep.

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ScarlettWilkes@reddit

I want to go to bed at 8:30 these days. So, yeah, I can relate.

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ManateeNipples@reddit

I'm not a drinker but I'm so tired of not even being able to have 1 without feeling like crap the next day. So when I want a couple I wait for the weekend and have them early in the day, then I can take a nap and feel a little shitty later but my next day is fine. Day drinking ftw! Just don't have more than a couple or you ruin the next day anyway 🥲

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No-Dig-4408@reddit

Yeah. Up to age... maybe 35 or so, I could stay up till 3a.m. but get up at 6:00. Just drink some caffeine or whatever, get a sugar rush and get through the day mostly fine despite a groggy first chapter. *Now?* No, sir. If I don't get at least 6 hours of sleep, but preferably 8+, I'm likely to spend all day feeling like I have the flu and nothing can really save me.

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anonmygoodsir@reddit

I try to be in bed no later than 9:30 most nights. I'm up at 5-5:30 for work. Unfortunately if I stay up too late for an event I'm too wired for sleep. Took the kids to the circus last night and didn't sllep till almost midnight. Thank god for caffeine.

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Medical_Solid@reddit

Opposite problem, can’t sleep.

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small___potatoes@reddit

In bed at 9:40 most days and up at 5:40 for work, get to sleep in until 6:30 on weekends. We have a 20 month old.

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onions-make-me-cry@reddit

My personal motto is "Nothing good happens after dark". I've always, always been a morning person. Consequently, I go to bed early, because even if I go to sleep late, I can't sleep in, so I can't tack it on the other end. Learned the hard way that means that in order to get proper sleep, I need to go to bed early. It's gotten more extreme as I've gotten older though.

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giraffemoo@reddit

I went to sleep at 8pm last night. The nights are mine, especially weekends because I only work weekdays. I could either force myself to stay up late, watching tv that I'll forget by the next morning or playing video games, but unless you're doing something exciting, what is the point of pushing through that tired gritty feeling? For what? I would rather be asleep in my big comfy bed. Sleep is so delicious, I love sleep. Also, if you go to sleep early the you can wake up early feeling fully rested, and mornings are wonderfully silent and peaceful! You can have everything you want to enjoy late at night, first thing in the morning if you want. I have to make a plan if I'm out later than 10, like I have to have someone drive me home because I'm that sleepy.

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Rebel9788@reddit

You guys are getting sleep?

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AtFishCat@reddit

I can only stay up late on nights where I subconsciously do the whole bedtime procrastination thing. Just did it last night, wife went to bed at 9:30 and just stayed up for no particular reason until 1. It's 8am now, my watch says I got a whole 4.5 hours of sleep, my elementary age children are on the couch with... regret is not a strong enough word.

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littleseaotter@reddit

Not me unfortunately. I still fight going to sleep every night for some reason so end up going to bed between 11 and midnight most nights, sometimes a bit later on the weekends. I'm not a morning person and struggle to get up in the mornings even if I got an adequate amount of sleep.

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noonesaidityet@reddit

We're usually in bed by 7-8pm, but we don't have much of a social life anymore and we both get up at 5:30am for work. We're the friends without kids, so our plans with friends revolve around everyone else's schedules, so most get togethers only happen on weekends during the day, anyway.

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Rebekah513@reddit

I can seriously relate. I worked retail for years and wouldn’t even start getting ready to go out until around ten PM. Now if someone suggests going to dinner any later than 5 I’m annoyed. That’s just one small example!

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Into-the-stream@reddit

I’m the same but without the self loathing. I’m fine with who I am and do not care if the 20s version of myself would think I was cool.

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touslesmatins@reddit

My kids don't understand what a luxury and a gift it is to go to bed early and get a good night's sleep. Damn whippersnappers.

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SweetCosmicPope@reddit

I was just discussing this with my wife because I was dying driving to our hotel at 10:30. We used to just get the night started around 11, we’d close down the bar, then go get breakfast before going home. Then we’d be up early the next day to start over, perfectly fine. Now I can’t handle more than one or two drinks, and if I’m up past 10 I’m feeling it for days.

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DetCityDaveST@reddit

Not quite as old as you but no. On a normal weeknight my wife and I go to bed around 10-10:30 and get up at 7 to get our kids to school. They’re 9 and 7. But at least once a month we go out to dinner and a concert or sporting event. We live in a city so lots of options. Our kids will stay with a relative. I look forward to it. Sometimes it is a weeknight because that is when the bands we like are in town or our schedule allows. We will be up until midnight or later and have a few drinks and get up at 7 the next morning no problem. We are very busy with our kids extracurricular activities so we fit it in whenever we can. Probably couldn’t do it multiple days in a row but we can stay up late occasionally and I really look forward to those nights out.

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prix03gt@reddit

I get up stupid early for work (4am) to avoid traffic and I can't afford to live close to where I work. Most days, I'm struggling to make it past 8pm...

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Enge712@reddit

I can go out but if I’m sitting on the couch I can be nodding off by nine. I generally get up around 530 so 9 isn’t really that early to get a full night. Alcohol can actually have the opposite effect for me. I don’t regularly drink anymore but I can have a drink too late and get on a tear of actually doing g something enjoyable and then suddenly it’s almost one.

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GXP_2009@reddit

Depends on the day for me. Normally I'm up to 11 or 12. Up by 6 or 7. 47. Daughter is now off at college.

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