Does anyone else get overwhelmed with a sense of homesickness?
Posted by Avocato255@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 12 comments
I grew up in Vancouver BC, but have been living in the US since I was 12. For the last few years, a few times a week a huge wave of nostalgia and homesickness washes over me.
I'll see a pic of my hometown and my heart just drops.
Whenever I go back to visit, I feel like I can breathe freely again.
Unfortunately I can't yet go back at this point in my life.
Anyone else feeling like maybe you should be somewhere else?
Any suggestions to help deal with these feelings?
Cheers all
RandyBeaman@reddit
I get this. I moved from my home town at 10 and whenever I go back it feels like home in my blood. I've lived where I do now longer than anywhere else but it still just feels like the place I live for now.
sfdsquid@reddit
Not really - but I found the word for what I do feel - hiraeth - the longing for a place you've never been. I have this desperate feeling sometimes: "I wanna go home..." without knowing where I mean by "home."
MaximumJones@reddit
I was a military brat so I don't have a hometown to go back to.
All my extended family hail from a large city than I have no desire to ever visit again.
Repulsive-Carpet9400@reddit
Summertime.
From Michigan, and miss the summers.
Cuz I'm in Phoenix now.
You can't go home again.
Slight-Bowl4240@reddit
I’m homesick for a time without smart phones and having your license was king
godofwine16@reddit
I used to but since I’ve been back to my hometown I realized that nothing is there for me. There’s some places that are still there but the people are all gone :(
Historical_Project86@reddit
I didn't think I was homesick until I moved back home. My home town is a bit of a dump in parts, but I remember when we were looking for a house I felt so comfortable walking around the streets.
squirtloaf@reddit
I do. I grew up in this little town that was like all of the little towns in all of the stories about America. It was a fantastic place to be a kid, all woods and rivers and nice people, and it was the seventies, so there was this nice background of classic rock and (older) kids smoking weed and drinking in the woods and stuff. 50% Dazed and Confused, 50% Freaks and Geeks. I loved it there.
We moved to a bigger city where I did most of junior high and high school, then after high school I moved 2000 miles to a giant coastal city, where I still live today.
My whole family back there had died by the late nineties, so I had no reason to ever go there until 4 years ago when I had to take a vacation because of rule changes at work.
...and I was amazed. The town was still very much like I remembered it, but it was not stuck in time. Most of the things I had liked were still there, but now it had new restaurants and some brewery/pubs and stuff, so it felt the same, yet contemporary as well.
I had that thing you were talking where I felt like I could breathe again...and this weird feeling of...connection, like my bones knew the rocks and the ground I was standing on and this was the place I was meant to be all along.
I did not expect any of that. I thought it would just be a run-down relic of something I once liked, but it was like it had grown up along side me.
When I got back I started really thinking about how I could go back. One thread that may lie ahead of me would be to head there once I am forced to retire, trading the big city hustle for that quiet and calm.
...and how poetic would that be, finishing off back where you started? A round trip back home, where I could be an old fart who watches the young kids coming up complaining about how there is nothing to do there and that they should move to a big coastal city.
Distinct_Magician713@reddit
Yes, and I'll be moving back to the mountains as soon as I retire.
Ok-Lingonberry-8261@reddit
Short answer no. Every time I visit that place, I remember why I left.
Comedywriter1@reddit
Not overwhelmed, but I definitely feel it at times. I’m from the States but have been living in England for the better part of two decades.
It tends to hit me at Thanksgiving and Christmas. And yes, when we go back to visit family and friends, there is a strong pull. (That said, I absolutely love living in the UK.)
I suppose what helps me is keeping in touch with people on a weekly basis. Emails, Teams calls, phone calls, etc.
Hang in there!
Ray_The_Engineer@reddit
A little different for me; I've lived in southern US cities for all of my life. They were charming during my childhood to some degree, still retaining a bit of North Carolina charm. After our kids were grown and gone, we moved to the mountains, permanently. I get a sense of wanting to return and see the town I grew up in, occasionally...but it's gone, forever. Folks have moved in from all over, and the culture has irrevocably changed, along with traffic that is intolerable.
When I return to my home, there's a place along the road where everything opens up, and as you say, "I can breathe again."
Life is short; make plans to get to that place that makes you happy, ASAP. Trust me on this.