ULPT Request - narcissistic father in law with dementia ruining business

Posted by throwRA-loveolderman@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 7 comments

My father in law and husband own a business 50/50 and the father in law has been engaging in reckless expenditure. Father in law has dementia with primary impacts on executive functioning, decision making, behaviors, etc. We have a lease with a mall and I am a guarantor on the lease with my husband. He keeps spending money by ordering inventory that gets paid via auto draft so that we don’t have any money to lag the rent. This is the 4th month in a row that the rent is late and I’m tired of it. My husband wants to keep the peace but I don’t, so I need to figure out how to get the old man to fuck off and or ruin his life.

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Quirky-Invite7664@reddit

You and your husband need to get advice from an attorney, before you wind up in serious debt. NO JOKE.

Just hire an attorney for advice. Tell your husband you he doesn’t have to act on the advice, but he can at least get educated. Ignorance isn’t an option here.

I don’t normally give ethical tips in this sub, but this time I am. Otherwise I see bankruptcy in your future. By the time your husband decides to act, it could be too late. Don’t let your FIL’s illness destroy a lifetime of work.

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LXVIIIKami@reddit

No ULPTs for stupid petty issues you can just easily solve

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willywonkydonkey@reddit

Stop the auto draft. Find out if FIL has any POA for finances. If not, get FIL to sign over to someone safe (your hubby??) Then work with the legal system, have the courts declare FIL does not have competency. I hear your frustration, but honestly trying to ruin his life would probably hurt your spouse more.... depending on harm could fall into elder abuse (assuming you're from 🇺🇸)

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Good luck Ig

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i-am-foxymoron@reddit

Let me get this straight, this is your husband's father?

I can't imagine what your husband would think about you wanting to ruin his father's life.

Why not just stop the auto draft feature ir start depositing money on a separate account. Then he can order all he wants, but they won't ship ig they aren't getting paid.