>family are the only thing keeping him alive
that stings. i hate myself for having dreams of a future in which my mom isn't around. i'm so tired of waking up every night and the first thought i have is that i should've hero'd myself 10 years ago.
One day your mom won't be around anymore, and you'll lament the fact that you didn't cherish her while she was.
i'm so tired of waking up every night and the first thought i have is that i should've hero'd myself 10 years ago.
The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is now. Start taking care of yourself today, and in another ten years you'll be glad you never an hero'd.
I know what subreddit we're in but I just wanted to say it was very kind of you to share your words of encouragement with a stranger who is obviously hurting.
It's easy to put down people like the person that made the cartoon, but I guarantee you its him, that's why he hit everything on the head.
Depending on where you live, every country is made for a certain type of people and if you don't fit into that system, this is what happens.
Imagine if the Chads or Stacies had a system that wasn't geared for them? How do you think they would take it? You ever work around these types of people that nearly have a complete meltdown just hearing the word no?
If we flipped a switch tomorrow and sociopaths,narcissist's,good looking,ultra wealthy no longer meant anything and were looked down upon, how many of those people do you think would even make it more than a year?
This is a hardcore cope to justify self hatred. You don’t need a system to be yourself. You don’t need to judge yourself against others to be happy with who you are. And you don’t need to be a chad or Stacie to be something or do something. You don’t have to be attractive, be from an affluent family, or fuck man - you don’t need really need money. There are plenty of poor people being content with themselves, who they are, period.
If anyone feels like an outcast of system, stop comparing yourself to that system. I’ve been on this earth a good deal of time, long enough to tell you that you’re never alone in who you are or how you feel.
Self hatred is a vicious cycle, I think this meme does a great job at both the logic of self hatred and the flawed logic that accompanies it. It’s part of the cycle. Because you know how flawed your self loathing is but can’t seem to break the track. Well, it’s honestly as simple as finding inner peace and acceptance by any means necessary, until something sticks and you have the “ah ha” moment that finally breaks the cycle.
I dealt with self hatred and alcoholism for about 8 years until I finally did something about it.
What he was saying is that people are different and that society just doesn't fit some sorts of people. This has been repeated by great minds throughout history and is sorta at the core of our critical problems in western society today. If we did away with personal capital tomorrow, would people like Elon Musk keep thriving? Would the passionate artist continue struggling?
This was me for the past 5 years. Hated my job, the town I lived in and my apartment so it created a feedback loop. Had no hope for anything in the future, knew I needed to accomplish basic things but figured I couldn’t.
Then I moved and got a new job two weeks ago. My new apartment is way better than my old one, the job is better and pays more, and I finally got stuff I had put off for years done.
What I’m saying is, there is never a “too late” for 99% of the things you’ll want or need in life. Being brought down by inertia is a hard thing to overcome. I feel lucky I was presented an opportunity to start fixing my life with way less pushback than I thought it would take. It took me a bit to nut up and decide if I would continue having a mediocre existence which almost drove me to alcoholism and suicide or take a chance to start over somewhere new with the risk of losing everything.
I give credit to Auron from FFX when he said "Now is the time to choose, die, and be free of pain or live and fight your sorrows,
Now is the time to shape your story, your fate is in your hand!". I know it’s Reddit to say a video game changed your life but Auron really made me think of my choices. I could either figuratively die and never test myself, just going through the motions till my death or try to improve my life but experiencing pain along the way
TL;DR Auron from FFX inspired me to break the cycle.
Have you tried methamphetamine? I not, that is a very efficient way to get motivated to do stuff. Just don't smoke it or you'll end up st3al8ng catalytic converters
Just play video games, masturbate, and eat fast food. I did that for a while. It's not as soul-sucking as people say. It's just unsustainable unless you have some form of income you don't have to work for.
I have a job, girlfriend, and I'm down 82 lbs now though if anyone was wondering.
I feel like this, although I do still push on and get on with my life. I think it's because my dad was a very hands off parent, and I didn't really get much in the way of guidance for life, so I've had to figure stuff out on my own, leading to persistent self-doubt.
Had a friend like this, watched him slowly descend into complete insanity despite all help thrown his way.
Eventually he cut me off for “being manipulative (no elaboration)” and now spends his days in his empty flat, he has no electronics whatsoever and spends entire days ruminating on what event from 20 years ago could’ve gone better.
serendipity and luck are things but you do have to at least put yourself in a position to get anything out of them. Nobody is going to walk into your bedroom and offer you a way out of the funk.
The thing with luck is that as long as you're not putting yourself in suicidally dumb positions it's mostly upside. Play the lotto is what I'm saying
Believing you are this person is a cope. If you think this is you, you’re not living below your potential. You are exactly where you ought to be.
This “I can do really good if I stop being so heckin lazy” mentality that a lot of ppl have is a cover for being of average intellect and capability. Even a dumb person can imagine themselves being successful.
Smart and capable people do things that smart and capable people do, the people described in the post above don’t do those things because they aren’t smart and capable.
Brainless take. Inaction is what ruins the average person's life in the slowest way. Sitting around not taking care of yourself, refusing to get out of your comfort zone, losing track of or failing to maintain friendships. Average people can do these things, but if your brain is fried from media scrolling you're going to underperform as a matter of fact.
Stupid people who are ambitious and put themselves out there are very successful. Just look at any company and you'll see tons of stupid people at the top. Don't listen to this absolute moron.
Do you actually believe that the people who run successful companies are actually stupid? That they just “put themselves out there” and gain success just because? That’s the brainless take.
This was true of me until I found a higher purpose. That's sort of the issue though: only you can find your own higher purpose. For me it's my fiance and my religion.
People are hard on the guy the wojak depicts but it's a genuinely tough nut to crack. Having a routine isn't sufficient because that's just going through motions. If your life doesn't have a higher meaning and priority, then of course you'd live like this (as I have lived the same way for so many years). I know what's worked for me, but I can't really put that advice to others a lot of the time. You have to find something or someone that you put over yourself.
want to be fitter but scared: go do burpees and eat like mince meat, vegetables, rice or something
want to get a better job: learn something online you have the entire world. Tutflix lets you pirate $10,000 courses.
cant find a job: AI your resume and copy paste copy paste pm people on linkedin even
cant be fucked doing the above: go get medicated maybe you have like add or something
want a girl/boyfriend: you probably need to work on yourself more so someone else will like you. if you look bad it probably wont work but you need to put yourself out there
i have no friends: try joining a sport team or in aus go do a free run club somewhere, people may be chads but in my opinion a lot of people want you to succeed if you out the effort in
if you’re in your 20s try a contact sport or something maybe : one season of rugby got me more friends than the last couple and im not the biggest dude and there were definitely dweebs but in that environment the majority didn’t care when you’re at the pub.
if you’re a neet and never leave your house and you’re embarrassed and you fucking hate everything and literally have nothing to lose you have a good starting point to build up. If you want a hobby go buy a mask or something and make heaps of tiktoks or some shit about like video games or movies. whats the worst that can happen? Now you have learnt how to edit videos and built your own community.
this is super duper basic but i fucked around for a long long time but have tried all the above and its working okay so far. You need to take care of yourself and put yourself out there. Be okay with failure because if you’re not failing you’re probably not trying
SevereBruhMoments@reddit
>family are the only thing keeping him alive
that stings. i hate myself for having dreams of a future in which my mom isn't around. i'm so tired of waking up every night and the first thought i have is that i should've hero'd myself 10 years ago.
JeSuisLePain@reddit
One day your mom won't be around anymore, and you'll lament the fact that you didn't cherish her while she was.
The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is now. Start taking care of yourself today, and in another ten years you'll be glad you never an hero'd.
Ciclopotis@reddit
When you wrote the first part of that second sentence, I thought you'd tell him to kiss himself right now
Garchompisbestboi@reddit
I know what subreddit we're in but I just wanted to say it was very kind of you to share your words of encouragement with a stranger who is obviously hurting.
JeSuisLePain@reddit
Thanks man. The world can be a dark place on its own, the least we can do is try to make it a little brighter for each other.
BrocoliAssassin@reddit
It's easy to put down people like the person that made the cartoon, but I guarantee you its him, that's why he hit everything on the head.
Depending on where you live, every country is made for a certain type of people and if you don't fit into that system, this is what happens.
Imagine if the Chads or Stacies had a system that wasn't geared for them? How do you think they would take it? You ever work around these types of people that nearly have a complete meltdown just hearing the word no?
If we flipped a switch tomorrow and sociopaths,narcissist's,good looking,ultra wealthy no longer meant anything and were looked down upon, how many of those people do you think would even make it more than a year?
McWeaksauce91@reddit
This is a hardcore cope to justify self hatred. You don’t need a system to be yourself. You don’t need to judge yourself against others to be happy with who you are. And you don’t need to be a chad or Stacie to be something or do something. You don’t have to be attractive, be from an affluent family, or fuck man - you don’t need really need money. There are plenty of poor people being content with themselves, who they are, period.
If anyone feels like an outcast of system, stop comparing yourself to that system. I’ve been on this earth a good deal of time, long enough to tell you that you’re never alone in who you are or how you feel.
Self hatred is a vicious cycle, I think this meme does a great job at both the logic of self hatred and the flawed logic that accompanies it. It’s part of the cycle. Because you know how flawed your self loathing is but can’t seem to break the track. Well, it’s honestly as simple as finding inner peace and acceptance by any means necessary, until something sticks and you have the “ah ha” moment that finally breaks the cycle.
I dealt with self hatred and alcoholism for about 8 years until I finally did something about it.
aghastamok@reddit
I agree with most of what you said except
> this is a hardcore cope to justify self-hatred
What he was saying is that people are different and that society just doesn't fit some sorts of people. This has been repeated by great minds throughout history and is sorta at the core of our critical problems in western society today. If we did away with personal capital tomorrow, would people like Elon Musk keep thriving? Would the passionate artist continue struggling?
MikeRadical@reddit
what does this even mean
SevereBruhMoments@reddit
that's like someone saying "i'm drowning" and the answer to that is "some bodies are simply not designed to float"
i get your point though
Camulus@reddit
This was me for the past 5 years. Hated my job, the town I lived in and my apartment so it created a feedback loop. Had no hope for anything in the future, knew I needed to accomplish basic things but figured I couldn’t.
Then I moved and got a new job two weeks ago. My new apartment is way better than my old one, the job is better and pays more, and I finally got stuff I had put off for years done.
What I’m saying is, there is never a “too late” for 99% of the things you’ll want or need in life. Being brought down by inertia is a hard thing to overcome. I feel lucky I was presented an opportunity to start fixing my life with way less pushback than I thought it would take. It took me a bit to nut up and decide if I would continue having a mediocre existence which almost drove me to alcoholism and suicide or take a chance to start over somewhere new with the risk of losing everything.
I give credit to Auron from FFX when he said "Now is the time to choose, die, and be free of pain or live and fight your sorrows, Now is the time to shape your story, your fate is in your hand!". I know it’s Reddit to say a video game changed your life but Auron really made me think of my choices. I could either figuratively die and never test myself, just going through the motions till my death or try to improve my life but experiencing pain along the way
TL;DR Auron from FFX inspired me to break the cycle.
TraumaPerformer@reddit
Personally I’ve tried a bunch of times to improve my lot in life, every attempt has left me worse off and more drained of hope.
Now I’m just coasting in a shitty dead end job. Don’t know where to go from here or if I even want to.
alberthething@reddit
man, i hate how much i identify with this
i want a cope like OOP
yaangyiing_@reddit
cope is a lie, find God or literally anything reason to get out of bed. For me, I need money for alcohol
alberthething@reddit
God isnt enough of a cope and alcohol tastes bad, try again
Ok_Field_5701@reddit
>alcohol tastes bad
pussy
alberthething@reddit
every time i tried it i embarassed myself in some way, it didnt even make me feel any better while i was drinking
but yeah, i also just am a massive pussy
NotAUserNamm@reddit
Have you tried methamphetamine? I not, that is a very efficient way to get motivated to do stuff. Just don't smoke it or you'll end up st3al8ng catalytic converters
Claudzilla@reddit
no you just have to get used to the rush of adrenaline and eventually things will slow down in your head
bannabananabanna@reddit
pussy tastes worse!
AHighAchievingAutist@reddit
That’s your issue right there - learn to self motivate and stop relying on other people for direction and validation
alberthething@reddit
nah
yaangyiing_@reddit
then rot
Public-Nectarine6607@reddit
you have to believe in the lie first for the placebo to work
Khalixs1@reddit (OP)
Ignore this guy coping is based. Stay in bed.
LukeJaywalker0@reddit
Just play video games, masturbate, and eat fast food. I did that for a while. It's not as soul-sucking as people say. It's just unsustainable unless you have some form of income you don't have to work for.
I have a job, girlfriend, and I'm down 82 lbs now though if anyone was wondering.
McWeaksauce91@reddit
Literally change anything
Valuable-Chipmunk784@reddit
We are all the 21st century schizoid man
JeSuisLePain@reddit
Nothing he's got he really needs.
brus_wein@reddit
I feel like this, although I do still push on and get on with my life. I think it's because my dad was a very hands off parent, and I didn't really get much in the way of guidance for life, so I've had to figure stuff out on my own, leading to persistent self-doubt.
TraumaPerformer@reddit
Had a friend like this, watched him slowly descend into complete insanity despite all help thrown his way.
Eventually he cut me off for “being manipulative (no elaboration)” and now spends his days in his empty flat, he has no electronics whatsoever and spends entire days ruminating on what event from 20 years ago could’ve gone better.
clayticus@reddit
You need goals and God
Ecstatic-Compote-595@reddit
serendipity and luck are things but you do have to at least put yourself in a position to get anything out of them. Nobody is going to walk into your bedroom and offer you a way out of the funk.
The thing with luck is that as long as you're not putting yourself in suicidally dumb positions it's mostly upside. Play the lotto is what I'm saying
Public-Nectarine6607@reddit
he's just like me fr fr
droogvertical@reddit
Believing you are this person is a cope. If you think this is you, you’re not living below your potential. You are exactly where you ought to be.
This “I can do really good if I stop being so heckin lazy” mentality that a lot of ppl have is a cover for being of average intellect and capability. Even a dumb person can imagine themselves being successful.
Smart and capable people do things that smart and capable people do, the people described in the post above don’t do those things because they aren’t smart and capable.
The_Donald_Rises_@reddit
Brainless take. Inaction is what ruins the average person's life in the slowest way. Sitting around not taking care of yourself, refusing to get out of your comfort zone, losing track of or failing to maintain friendships. Average people can do these things, but if your brain is fried from media scrolling you're going to underperform as a matter of fact.
Stupid people who are ambitious and put themselves out there are very successful. Just look at any company and you'll see tons of stupid people at the top. Don't listen to this absolute moron.
droogvertical@reddit
Do you actually believe that the people who run successful companies are actually stupid? That they just “put themselves out there” and gain success just because? That’s the brainless take.
spyder160@reddit
Bro the people out there doing the most are fucking retarded what are you talking about lmao
Autumn_Fire@reddit
This was true of me until I found a higher purpose. That's sort of the issue though: only you can find your own higher purpose. For me it's my fiance and my religion.
People are hard on the guy the wojak depicts but it's a genuinely tough nut to crack. Having a routine isn't sufficient because that's just going through motions. If your life doesn't have a higher meaning and priority, then of course you'd live like this (as I have lived the same way for so many years). I know what's worked for me, but I can't really put that advice to others a lot of the time. You have to find something or someone that you put over yourself.
extreme_cuddling@reddit
Stop smoking weed
MinosML@reddit
There's a Dr K. video about this specífic image btw. It could probably help.
Pyrimo@reddit
Didn’t need to be attacked like this today but ok
the_mailbox@reddit
this is super duper basic but i fucked around for a long long time but have tried all the above and its working okay so far. You need to take care of yourself and put yourself out there. Be okay with failure because if you’re not failing you’re probably not trying
Razgriz_AAF@reddit
mrguy08@reddit
Oh cool. Glad this isn't me.
Thebigbestman@reddit
Truth hurts