Anyone in here move after youngest graduated high school? How did it go?

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TXtogo@reddit

3 days later. We sold the house and closed 3 days after she graduated HS

We literally bought the house as part of a school shopping exercise so that we didn’t have to spend the money on a private school. We moved to the burbs to a new school for 5 years and saved the 2k a month tuition. We figured even if we broke even on the house when we moved out, we’d be ahead. We ended up making a little money on the house and we moved back into the city as fast as we could.

Traffic in the burbs sucks and we both have jobs in the city so we wanted to have reasonable commute times and proximity to all the things… when we retire we don’t care so much where we live but while we are working we want to be near work.

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Lower_Classroom835@reddit

I would say it's better to wait and see where your kids settle after college.

We moved when our grandchild was born to be close. Our second child decided they wanted to live close to the family few years later and now we are all 10 min away from each other.

You don't know if they will come home after graduation. Wait to see so you don't have to move twice.

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Character-Twist-1409@reddit

77 miles isn't that like an 1hr or so drive? That just seems like nothing to me. Like they can still see their friends and you yours

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TWALLACK@reddit

Or 2 hours, depending on the area.

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LKPTbob@reddit

We waited till our first grandchild was born, then we move closer to them.

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FoleyV@reddit

I’ll let you know after next month!

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

Best of luck!!!

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Ray_The_Engineer@reddit

We waited til they were out of college, but yep, we flew the coop, and love it.

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Independent-Dark-955@reddit

I did when my youngest was 20. I have to wonder if that factored in to him enlisting a couple of years later. My son who was 22 ended up moving close to me (30 minutes away).

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hapster85@reddit

Our youngest graduated highschool 8 years ago. We talked over if we wanted to move, or stay and finish the basement. We finished the basement. She does occasionally mention moving somewhere warmer, but neither of us really want to move.

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bondaroo@reddit

We left town the weekend after our only graduated, moved halfway across the country. Kid stayed in town for the summer for a job, then joined us to go to university. They got homesick after a couple of years, moved back to their hometown for a couple of years, found out it wasn't all that great, then moved back with us and finished school. It was a bit bumpy, but 10 years later all is good. Kid has a good job, a partner, a house, a dog and wedding bells are in the near future (we're told! haha).

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ClassicOutrageous447@reddit

We moved from the Midwest to SoCal one month after the youngest of two graduated high school. She is my stepdaughter, so her mom was still in town and that made it easier for her. I think there was some sadness all around, but everyone was excited for us and everyone visits everyone. It's been six years and we love it so much here. Never moving back.

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LayerNo3634@reddit

Our kids lived at home and commuted to college (to graduate debt free). Everyone was ready for their own space when they graduated. They moved out and so did we.

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

That is where it might get tricky. Our oldest might live at home all 4 years of college so it might delay it by 2 years. I am 99% sure our youngest gets doesn’t want to go to the college here in our city.

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LayerNo3634@reddit

My kids had a choice: live at home going to local college and graduate debt free or your on your own. I was not going to bust my butt if they were accruing debt. They started out wanting to go off, until they realized I was serious. No help with the application, no nothing or all the help they wanted local. They now thank me.

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frog980@reddit

That's where I'm at. We have a great local college and they can go there tuition free now if they keep the program going, yeah our local taxes pays their way but even if not it's not very expensive and they can get a start or a good degree (especially nursing which one wants to do) and if they want to continue on they'd have a good start with all the basic classes out of the way. We just finished up the wife's school debt a few years ago and I really don't want to be the one footing th bill again. We don't make aot of . money ourselves and really need to ramp up our retirement savings at this point to catch up.

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LayerNo3634@reddit

My kids' friends (who bragged about going off to college) are really struggling with debt and

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Fun-Position7750@reddit

I have one left in high school right now and considering a massive move within the next 3 years. I’m originally from northern CA and have been stuck in the Midwest. Kids know they are welcome to come along, if not, so be it. This is the longest I’ve stayed in one area. 25 years at home. 25 years raising kids. My next 25 are on my terms.

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Ok-Advice1072@reddit

Sou brasileira e acho curioso o modo como vocês querem se livrar dos filhos logo que acabam a escola. Lol Minha filha mais nova tem 20 anos e mora conosco. A filha mais velha saiu de casa quando terminou a faculdade e hoje mora sozinha. O filho do meio trabalha e faz faculdade e ainda mora com a avó (a mãe do meu marido). Aqui no Brasil nós damos mais suporte aos filhos até um pouco mais velhos. Na maioria das vezes eles só saem de casa quando vão casar.

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jamiestar9@reddit

Constantly messy rooms, loud and often annoying, nonsensical talk. Of course I weigh that with how much I love the kids but me and the husband want our house back. Time to fly little birds.

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Ok-Advice1072@reddit

That's right! Better to be honest with how you feel. To be honest, I would feel the same if I had all 3 at home all the time! My younger one is the light of my life and I wouldn't mind having her with me forever, but the older ones had a very different upbringing and we don't match 100%... So I understand how you feel!

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

I didn’t realize I said anything about getting rid of our kids. We simply want to move. Our kids know exactly the area we want to move and have seen some of the houses and community amenities and they are more than welcome to live with us. Plus my parents were the only ones who lived near us and they passed away 12/30/24 and 2/7/25. We now don’t have any other family in our state.

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ajbadabing@reddit

Move, reinvigorate your life. It’s the Journey that makes it great.

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tvieno@reddit

After the youngest moved out, we sold what we could and moved to Arizona. Five years later, we got divorced and I havent looked back since.

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Slight-Nectarine7243@reddit

We’re planning to move about 3,000 miles away the second our youngest walks across that stage in three years and takes hold of that piece of paper. Heck, we may even drive the moving van to the ceremony 🤣.

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

😂😂😂😂

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NaturGirl@reddit

We're preparing to do it next year when our youngest graduates. I'll be sad to leave my garden. I'm sure the new owners will just let it go to shit or will just mulch over it or turn it all to lawn.

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Savings_Artichoke913@reddit

I’m oddly concerned about my garden as well

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joemamah77@reddit

My friend’s father moved when he went to college. Didn’t tell him! Luckily for him the new owners kept his boxes in the garage for him when they figured out the situation at closing.

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ReadGardenCamp@reddit

Wow!

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Critical-Range1213@reddit

My parents did it to me, I graduated high school 1994, October of 94 they were in the mountains of north Georgia from Atlanta. I wanted to be buried in my childhood backyard. Couldn’t care less now.

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

My parents did it to me but I was super happy because I wasn’t involved in the move and they moved to a nicer house.

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Peloton72@reddit

My parents moved right after I graduated high school to a town about 60 miles away. My younger brother was starting HS at the same time and he was always annoyed that he didn’t fit in at the new school. I was annnoyed that going to parents over holidays and school breaks meant going to a town where none of my friends lived. Just food for thought. We both grew up and figured out adult life just fine but it was a bummer at the time.

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ElJefe0218@reddit

My only is graduating a year early and we are looking to move, very soon.

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

Hope all goes smoothly.

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BerryLanky@reddit

My son was over 18 when my wife (his mother) passed away. He had moved out a few months before her passing. I moved to another state, with his blessing, and started over. Best decision I could have made. Love it here. Meet new friends. Reinvented myself. I was in my 40’s. That was 13 years ago and I’m happy with my life

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wannareadrandomstuff@reddit

One potential issue is the kids could lose the feel of coming home when they visit you as adults. After my parents moved to a new house, about 10 years after I graduated high school, visiting them was never the same. It was less comfortable for sure. My wife had the same issue but it happened earlier after she moved out.

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SpiffyMrSr101@reddit

Moved while they were in college. One came back for a while and all were cool with the change

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gmkrikey@reddit

Yes and no. We moved from the Seattle area to Los Angeles in 2020, a couple years after our youngest graduated college not right after high school.

All of the kids went to out of state colleges and none moved back home. Nothing but my job was keeping me in Washington state. When the pandemic hit we took the opportunity to move. Sold my home at a large increase and got a 2.85% mortgage on the LA home which is a sideways move in terms of the house but a much larger lot.

We visit the kids and now grandkids. The have busted here. It works out. I wish we lived closer but they love where it snows and I am done with snow.

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freerangeXkid@reddit

Waited until our daughter graduated college (she lived on campus in the city and came home on weekends to the suburbs). After school she joined the Navy and we moved out of the metropolitan area 300 miles away in rural mountains.

She's back in the city after her 5 year tour and if we want to see her we have to go to the city. She hates the sticks but that's ok, we sometimes miss good restaurants and are happy to go visit a few times a year

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Empty_Nestor@reddit

We ended up moving six hours away shortly after our daughter graduated. She didn’t want to move with us so she found other accommodations (our son had already moved away years earlier). We jumped around from city to city for 10 years and finally moved back to our hometown where our daughter still lives. Our timing was perfect because she gave birth to our first grandchild back in December!

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

Wow. Congrats!!!

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Empty_Nestor@reddit

Thanks!!

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Horn_Flyer@reddit

My dad did. After my brother graduated he moved from Ohio to NC.

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MaximumJones@reddit

We got extremely lucky and both of our kids got jobs in their fields after college in the same city.

So we moved to where they are after our daughter had our first grandkid.

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Affectionate_Bid5042@reddit

We moved to another state (about 7 hours drive) and son initially came with, but in the end he hated it there and moved back after about a year. It took a couple years of near monthly and at least quarterly trips back home before we gave in and moved back too. Since you're not moving that far I think it would be very workable.

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ReadGardenCamp@reddit

We moved 45 minutes away the August after our only offspring graduated high school. He was in favor of the move, but has not spent more than a few weeks here total while he’s been at university. I’d say it went well.

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Mushy-sweetroll@reddit

We moved to another state a few months after graduation. It’s been fine.

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

Oh wow. Did it affect in state tuition rate?

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Mushy-sweetroll@reddit

No. Our former state (NY) gives in state tuition to public school graduates for five years after graduation. He went to college there.

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

Oh nice. That is good.

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Mushy-sweetroll@reddit

Yeah, it worked out well.

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Timely-Tourist4109@reddit

I did. Across country to fulfill my dream

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

Awesome!!!

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Buckeye_mike_67@reddit

I had planned on it. Built my current house in 06. Me and my wife’s kids would graduate in 3-4 years. Plan was to sell after 5 years and buy a piece of property. Then the Great Recession happened. I am in the construction industry and it was all I could to keep the house. It was worth less than I owed. Fast forward to last year I finally put a bunch of money in it to get it sellable. I now have a contract with a closing in 2 1/2 weeks. A 5 year plan turned into a 20 year plan

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Callahan333@reddit

We will probably move in the next few years. Our only child will graduate high school next year. A lot will depend on where/what he does.

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Anxiouslycalm12@reddit

Used to live up north, I waited a year after my kid started college to move south, folks need help

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

That is very nice of you.

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Beatrix_Kitto@reddit

We moved about that distance when our kid went to college his second year. It went great for us. Next month we’re actually moving 7 hours away from our hometown. Happy to be exploring and experiencing new places and people.

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SouthOrlandoFather@reddit (OP)

That sounds awesome and adventurous.