GenX men (especially those who are a little bit or more overweight): do you or does your wife cut your toenails?
Posted by NJRougarou@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 1026 comments
My husband is, generously speaking, a little overweight. He usually asks me to cut his toenails for him because he says it is difficult for him to do so himself. I wanted to ask my community as to whether this is commonplace or not. TIA.
FLGuitar@reddit
If you can’t trim your own toenails, that’s not a little overweight. That’s morbidly obese. My mans got to start exercising and eating right.
DandelionPopsicle@reddit
My wife says she did her ex husbands (overweight). She’s offered to do mine (not overweight but bad back and pretty stiff) but I’ve so far said no. My feet are usually pretty beat up, and it feels kind of odd to have someone else do it. She did put on my socks for a month or so when I had hip surgery, but I regained movement before nails became a problem.
Gullible_ManChild@reddit
I don't think its normal but its not abnormal. Personally I cant have anyone touch my feet, i'm in my 50s and still too ticklish. I'd never think to ask anyone for help with that.
Without harping on him, or saying anything, you should make it a daily routine to ask if he's like to go on a walk with you. If he says no just go by yourself so he never knows its for his benefit. Make no scene of it at all. Keeping doing it until he comes with you daily. He'll start losing weight. And at worst, that is he never comes with you, you'll be healthier.
LaMadreDelCantante@reddit
Why should she need to parent him?
Gullible_ManChild@reddit
Damn, looking out for your spouse is now considered parenting? She should just let him bloat and rot inside because that's what good partners do - they let their partners destroy themselves because helping them would be parenting. Helping is wrong?
Loving isn't hard. And its not exclusive to parents. You can even love friends, help them get off their asses without giving them a hard time about it - you can live in service to others, and be kindly, it happens.
LaMadreDelCantante@reddit
No, this is parenting. You can look out for your spouse etc but they still need to act like an adult and be responsible for themselves.
Gullible_ManChild@reddit
You've never dealt with a human overweight before - good for you I guess. Here's something about human nature, human adult nature, humans are a social, and they can derive motivation from the humans around them - that motivation can be positive or negative. As in you can tell the adult to stop being lazy and exercise for their own benefit, to be responsible which does work on some but not just doesn't for many many others, that's a negative approach to chastise or perhaps appeal to a guilt or some other negative emotion. Negative reinforcement is not healthy. OR you can be positive and just provide your fellow human with the opportunity to be active with you - this is a positive way to deal with the fellow humans that you care about - like a spouse, kith or kin. Or you could be an selfish narcissist and just ignore the other human altogether (that's you isn't it). If only all parents considered parenting to solely be this positive reinforcement rather than the negative kind - would a parent you know act as I suggested or would they tell their fat kid to get off the coach and be responsible for themselves - we all know that parenting hardly works well. I'm advocating love, that's it.
A mature adult human develops healthy empathy that helps his community. Some adults never mature emotionally and never learn that we are not only responsible for ourselves, but we are responsible for others. The boomers, aka the ME generation, did allot to suppress the human condition - the socialness of our species and ultimately the way of approaching life as a service to more than just our self, but to the service of others, has been lost - I think this loss is the draw the younger generation is feeling towards traditional lifestyles, even back to religion, and within religions return to more traditional forms - its the worldview where others are more important than yourself, you aren't the center of the universe, (that's how humans win).
LaMadreDelCantante@reddit
Even you understand it is parenting. You're talking about what a parent should do with their kid. But she isn't his parent. She can walk with him and explore healthier foods with him etc but she shouldn't need to change her whole routine and try to trick him into it. He should take the initiative.
TransportationDue856@reddit
I’d rather eat my own toenails than cut his.
JakkSplatt@reddit
Have gone from 224 to 184 on a 5'10" frame. It's easier to clip them today than last year.
Illustrious_Risk_840@reddit
Great job!!
Apprehensive_Put4319@reddit
Same here. Easier to do everything!
JakkSplatt@reddit
I started cooking everything from scratch like my Mom did when I was a kid. I bake my own bread and sweets too. My browned butter chocolate chip cookies are phenomenal. In fact, I just had some sourdough rye toast with grilled cheese spread (that I made as well) and cut up carrots and radishes for breakfast 😂
Apprehensive_Put4319@reddit
Awesome! Keep at it! I had help with Zepbound and the first 15 came off fast. It helped motivate me to begin running and it took about a month to get to 20 miles per week. Now i do 25. That whole process led me to eat better again, adopt intermittent fasting (now up to 16 hours per day no food) which is amazingly healthy in its own right and makes it easy to restrict calories. I added a lifting routine which turned fat to muscle while i was losing the final 15. At 55, I am lighter than I was at 31. My body looks like an in shape 30 year old. I have adopted 4L per day hydration. My life is night and day. It really is true - healthy diet, sleep, exercise is the key to staying young, fit and sharp. I will never go back to being fat. My goal is to stay at 184-85 forever. I find listening to podcasts like Attia, Huberman, Hyman and Andy Galpin is very inspirational and helps my workouts at the gym.
TexasLiz1@reddit
no - he can get a pedi or lose weight
No_Animal_7163@reddit
The thought 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
inspctrshabangabang@reddit
I'm a little overweight, I would have to be pretty fat to not be able to cut my toenails. But at the rate I'm going, I'll be there soon.
Fantastic-Host4195@reddit
I cut my husband's toe nails. It's pretty comical although not my favourite chore since they tend to go flying as I cut them (at me lol)
DrFunkensteinHandjob@reddit
176 lbs, and my wife cuts all my nails because she likes to.
rialtolido@reddit
No. F-ing. Way. Nope. He can go get a pedicure. And he should speak with his doctor about his weight and mobility. If he can’t properly groom himself, that’s an issue.
Big_Grapefruit_5708@reddit
Hell no. Tell him to make an appointment with a podiatrist they do them there.
melnve@reddit
Nope, nope, nope. He can cut his own or go pay for a pedicure. I’m not his personal carer.
Ill-Speed-729@reddit
Podiatrist will also cut toe nails. I have an uncle who has mobility issues due to a back injury, he's not over weight at all...but he can't reach and so he goes to a podiatrist. He doesn't expect his wife or anyone else to do it.
ibuycheeseonsale@reddit
Medical pedicures are supposed to be great. Like, they can work your calluses to make walking more comfortable.
Vivid-Weird-5888@reddit
Not going to happen .. ever…
stang6990@reddit
If you cant reach your toe nails you are far past "a little over weight" or take 15 minutes and do some basic stretching.
dlirius14@reddit
For health reasons, not related to weight, my husband can't cut his own nails (hands or feet). I'm not comfortable assisting, because he has a history of ingrown nails.
So, when he asked for my help, I took him to pedicure appointments with me until he got over his initial mental block of the treatments being girlie things. He now goes on his own once a month for a mani/pedi. His nails are healthy and well-groomed and he is very happy with the service.
I always recommend nail spas for people, especially as they age, because nail health is important.
ExaminationFancy@reddit
A podiatrist can fix ingrown toenails with a matrixectomy, where they kill off the portion of the nail bed that is becomes ingrown. I had this done on both my big toes, and it’s covered by insurance.
Best. Decision. Ever.
AdGold205@reddit
My husband would love to go to a pedicure with me, but I have a weird thing about being touched by strangers.
Maybe I need to get over it for him.
dlirius14@reddit
They are only strangers the first time. You absolutely can develop relationships with your nail techs and request the same ones each time.
All the ones I've ever gone to have been so good with consent. I have one part of one foot that is very ticklish and they are really good to talk to me about touches there.
Communicate your comfort levels and enjoy being taken care of.
Pheighthe@reddit
My nail spa has twelve chairs and is always 1/3 older men getting a pedi. I didn’t even know that it was weird. I guess because we have so many retirees it’s par for the course here.
dlirius14@reddit
It's absolutely not weird. 😁 But, some men like to think of any pampering or self care as girlie until they realize it's health care. So glad retirees in your area got the memo!!
oldlaxer@reddit
I started getting pedicures a few years ago. I tended towards ingrown toenails because of my work boots. I swear by them!
RhymenoserousRex@reddit
so long as I can sit crosslegged or cross my legs in a chair I should have no problem reaching my toes. And I don't.
Oliverboliver64@reddit
My husband is GenX and a bit overweight and he's never once asked me to cut his toenails. Honestly, I don't think i could do it. That squiks me out a bit.
Mega---Moo@reddit
Flexibility tends to just keep diminishing as we age.... and the less we move and stretch, the faster it goes.
I'm an elder Millennial, but I can still touch my toes to my nose....if I couldn't reach my toes I'd be incredibly concerned.
Bellatrixxxie@reddit
If my hubby wanted me to or needed me to - I would. I am not grossed out by bodies and I’m happy to help him with whatever.
Now if the role was reversed, I’d personally prefer to just go have mine done at a pedicure place rather than ask him to help. He’d probably do a terrible job on mine, plus I like them painted. Lol
shan68ok01@reddit
My family was like a troop of monkeys. It wouldn't bother me at all, but I also wouldn't ask someone not in my family or from a family with a similar mindset to cut mine. I like the pampering I get from a nail salon though.
Chumptopia@reddit
Ew. Does he expect you to get turned on and want sex with him after you cut his toe nails?
Extra_Shirt5843@reddit
Um...no. I literally went to someone else to deal with my own feet today because I hate doing all that stuff period. (I mean, I'll cut my nails when necessary, but if I can squeeze in a pedicure, I'll take it!) But no, unless my husband became genuinely disabled, I'm not doing that.
Sittingpretti24@reddit
Same!
sagefrogphotography@reddit
No! Fuck sake, is he so fat he can’t drive his ass to the nail salon? I know for a fact that’s what my wife would tell me if I ever dared ask her!
harristusc@reddit
I have never cut my husband‘s toenails. If he were very old and infirm I would offer, but I can’t imagine how physically diminished he would have to become to ask that of me.
Robviously-duh@reddit
lol.. my issue isn't love handles getting in the way it's being able to see clearly and do the job.. I need one hand for a light, one for my toes and one for the clippers.. my issue not enough hands.. lol
Puzzleheaded-Belt823@reddit
This is what headlamps are for my man! You can get a USB rechargeable one for 10 bucks or so.
mjwash@reddit
Why did I never think of this?? Genius!! I’m ordering one now!! Currently use an old desk lamp so I can see precisely what I’m doing. Pain in the ass to have to haul it out of the cabinet all the time. I’ve had both knees replaced and it’s hard to get mine close enough to see good what I’m doing 😂 I don’t like people touching my feet. I do cut my husbands for him. He has MS and doesn’t have fine motor skills in his dominant hand and he’s diabetic so I also do a foot check. I wish I could bring myself to get a pedicure. Would be a lot easier but having someone else touch my feet gives me anxiety. lol
Robviously-duh@reddit
lol.. have one somewhere from when son was a scout.. maybe.
-Dee-Dee-@reddit
I cut my husband’s nails. He’s diabetic so I do a quick foot inspection too in case anything crops up.
mjwash@reddit
Same. My husband also has MS and he is lacking fine motor skills in his dominant hand. Do I enjoy doing it? No, but I do what’s necessary. He would 100% do anything I ask of him and he’s taken care of me when needed.
snowtweet@reddit
Not a chance unless he was sick or hurt. But no no.
PossibleDiscipline90@reddit
My husband asked me once. I tried, then went outside and got the mini chainsaw. He never asked me again lol
Stefgrep66@reddit
Not in my household.
My toenails are tough as old rope, and my tiny little spouse with wrists you can circle with thumb and forefinger, isn't strong enough to get through them.
It's not that easy for me,I'm 185cm and my 59nyear old back doesn't bend like it used to.
Fortunately I've got arms like a chimpanzee, which compensates for my increasing lack of flexibility
Sneezydiva3@reddit
I cut my husband’s just once while he was recovering from back surgery and not allowed to bend over to do them himself. If he needed them done regularly, I’d make him go to a nail salon.
ThrowRA_nthng@reddit
Wife and I get pedicures together. They do a much better job of pulling out ingrown nails than I can
Pads4Life@reddit
It’s a no from me. But, I would happy go with to get a pedicure.
HeadstashedAF@reddit
If he needed me to I would (we’re millennials) but even at his heaviest of 320# he didn’t need my help. Even at 9m pregnant with twins I could do my own
Usual_Confection6091@reddit
EW. F no unless he is ill.
Raythecatass@reddit
I cut my husband’s toe nails sometimes. Most times, I tell him to cut them on the balcony.
lawyerballerina4@reddit
Tweezerman has clippers with a long handle for people that can’t reach their toes. Have him buy it. He’s a husband not a toddler
stellarduchess@reddit
If you love your husband, and you don’t mind doing it, just keep helping him. ♥️
hemidak@reddit
the only time I have asked for help is when I fell and hurt my back and could not bend over. Other than that, as far as I am, I do it myself.
katemm13@reddit
Oh ick
rach_a_bake@reddit
My husband is an old genx and I do cut his toenails for him, but he doesn't expect it and is very grateful about it. I also paint his toes in the summer, I think it's fun. If I don't clip them, he tends to tear them off when they get too long and that bothers me
missfozzard@reddit
🤮
Red9Mayonnaise@reddit
That's embarrassing as hell! I stay fit just so I can do that myself! Next is him asking you to wipe his ass! Hahhahahh! Good luck!
Leading-Yellow1036@reddit
Lots of weaponized incompetence being described in this thread. Gross (on several levels).
HoochieKoochieMan@reddit
New fitness goal unlocked.
ChiliAndRamen@reddit
I’m single and a bit overweight, never been that flexible. I cut my own toenails but it’s a literal pain in the knees and back.
Honestly I’ve been thinking about checking out the price for a pedicure because it’s painful.
Nngor@reddit
Even being overweight he should be able to cut his own toe nails.
But if its something you don't mind, keep doing it, but there should be no reason why he can't do it himself.
Pretty-Performer3904@reddit
make him go to a place. then encourage him to get on glp tirzepitide on refills dot com. it is life changing.
quadraticqueen@reddit
Regularly? Absolutely not. For special circumstances that fall under in-sickness-and-in-health (injury,surgery, disability), of course! Otherwise he can go get a pedicure as easily as I can. Go with him the first few times so he becomes comfortable. Make sure he knows how to “order” a basic with no polish, give him etiquette tips, set up a regular time with the same person if possible. My 87 yr old father goes every month, he’s a beach bum in thongs and doesn’t want “gross old man feet”, his words, not mine. Let’s normalize men getting some professional grooming time. It’s a win-win.
Wrong_Pen6179@reddit
Same, my husband had hip surgery and I did his for him then but before and after he’s on his own!
Alit_Quar@reddit
Not everyone can afford regular professional pedicures.
JettaRider077@reddit
What if he wants a clear coat with flames on his toenails? That would be awesome.
At0mJack@reddit
I gave myself (51m) the first pedicure of my life last week and it was a gamechanger. Will probably try to do it once a month or so.
ThisMomIsAMother@reddit
I second pedicures.
quadraticqueen@reddit
Before my mom died 2 yrs ago they went together. Adorable. He had to drive her and was just sitting there every 2-3 weeks while she got her mani/pedi playing on his phone. One of the techs finally convinced him to give it a try. Sold. He will never cut those bad boys again. :)
MrsOdie43@reddit
We go for a pedicure date every 3-4 weeks.
Vixen-van@reddit
I have on old man friend that can’t reach his toes so he and I go get pedicures to keep up with his foot health.
fingernmuzzle@reddit
yo I am so grossed out rn 🤮 fuck no I’m not cutting somebody else’s toenails- ESPECIALLY if it’s because you’re too fat to do it yourself
Happy-Routine-3677@reddit
I’m a gen jones and my wife did it for me after knee surgery but she always tried to cut them too short and would hurt me so I had to stop her. She did the same thing with her elderly mother who won’t let her do it anymore either.
FarCry5372@reddit
Why would any able bodied person have their spouse cut their nails for them?
Left-Action-1107@reddit
Not GenX, but yes, he asks me to do this. Not a big deal either.
kayakdead69@reddit
I cut my own or she does it sometimes. She takes care of me when I cant. Like recently I had a knee surgery. She took care of me at all ends. Ive had to take care of her sometimes to. I have never been "grossed out" by anything I have had to do for my wife or children. I dont pass those jobs onto someone else nor does she. If you get "grossed out" by taking care of a loved one you should reevaluate yourself and go see a psychiatrist. Someday will come when you might have to take care of a loved one and there won't be someone to do it for you.
Dez2011@reddit
I think it's normal to get grossed out wiping someone's butt, no matter the age, but you should do it without saying anything hurtful or hire someone to help.
kayakdead69@reddit
Sure, but you do it because you love them.
tcd5552002@reddit
Monthly pedicure for the win! We make it a date…..
Rambling-Holiday1998@reddit
I don't cut nails. I send him of for a pedicure when I don't like his feet. He is physically capable of trimming his own feet but he always cuts his nails too short. I worry about his foot health.
I do file his toenails for him between pedicures though. I can get them smoother than he can, and if I keep them filed he's less likely to cut them back to the quick.
Why does it sound like I'm describing a petulant child? Lolol. He's a full adult who takes good care of himself, I don't mind doing this for him. After all he's the only I can call on when I get stuck in my sports bra. We do weird shit for each other.
Icolan@reddit
It can be difficult for me to clip them sometimes depending on what I have been doing in the gym lately and because I am short and my hips are not all that flexible. I pay for a pedicure every 2 or 3 months and keep them trimmed myself in between.
JETEXAS@reddit
Send him for a pedicure.
wengla02@reddit
FIL, who was a bit heavy, would go to a podiatrist regularly for feet care, trimming etc.
RunDre22@reddit
My spouse always cuts his. I'm sure at some point he may not be able to and he would HATE that. He has a mild paranoia about his feet getting funky when he gets old. I would try to do it for him but I don't even do my own. I'm not good at it, I don't like doing it, and there are people that I can pay to do it for me. So most likely I would just take him to a nail salon.
CaughtALiteSneez@reddit
wifeofpsy@reddit
I would say cutting each other's nails can help you not get divorced
uwila@reddit
No wonder so many of us in our 49s almost 50s, are quite content to be happy, single, cat ladies. WTAF.🤢
lAngenoire@reddit
Yeah. I’m certainly not signing up for that at this time in my life. Even cats have groomers who will come do that
QueasyTemperature714@reddit
I have a lower back problem that makes clipping my toenails a challenge. I'm doing everything I can to NOT ask my wife but the day is coming. If so I'm sure she will and we'll have a laugh about it. You do things for people you love.
Dez2011@reddit
When I was 100lbs overweight I still cut my own. I sit on the toilet and put my foot on my other knee or sit in the recliner with the foot section up and my foot on it and have clippers that catch the pieces.
Typical_me_1111@reddit
No but cut my wife toenails recently!
HairyEyeballz@reddit
Oh lawzy, if I ever get that girthy, I'll go pay a little Asian lady to do it before asking my wife.
Low_Fly117@reddit
I’m in shape as a GenX man, do yoga etc. so maybe this just doesn’t apply to me. But I would seriously never occur to me to ask someone to do this. Your guy does not sound disabled. Is he physically unable or is this a fetish?
Ok-Key-7039@reddit
Diabetics are supposed to go to a podiatrist to have their toenails clipped. Small wounds can lead to an amputation. Patients would often ask to have their toenails clipped while hospitalized. We could not do it.
Low_Fly117@reddit
Yeah but that does not sound like OPs situation unless there is more they didn’t say. Also there are insulin diabetics in my family and none of them need to do this. So I guess it depends on the severity?
Ok-Key-7039@reddit
My last boomer year ex husband cut his own toenails. My Gen X brother cuts his toenails. I have never known an adult to not cut their own toenails (pedicures excluded).
Malice_N_1derland@reddit
Is this really a genx problem or a health issue? If this were due to a spinal problem or some disability other than ‘weight’ I would consider it. But once I start being inconvenienced because of someone else’s lack of self care we have an issue.
GaeasSon@reddit
I'm horrified by the thought. I would as soon ask her to brush my teeth. If I'm absolutely exhausted, I might let her help me take off my shoes.
FabricArsonist@reddit
No. I would if he needed me to, but he's got those nasty military toes. I'd need wore cutters and a dremel.
Suspicious-One-1905@reddit
Years ago when I was pregnant, my husband clipped my toenails for me. He has never asked me to do that but I know he was struggling (age, weight). I suggested he go get a pedicure. He goes regularly now
Middle-Noise-6933@reddit
I found out a way to cut my own nails by putting my foot up onto my bathroom vanity. I am fat but oddly flexible I guess. I do have trouble with the little toe, but the nails are kinda weirdly shaped.
Virtual-Culture8830@reddit
I’m a woman. But, I have been sick and my husband has wiped my butt. If it is difficult for him to do, do it. Show him love. But, I will say that I know that as people get older, say, in a nursing home, they bring in Podiatrist to do this. Because Pete can be tricky. And if your husband is overweight, does he have a diabetes problem? That’s what cutting toenails can be dangerous if the skin is cut.
Starkville@reddit
Sometimes he cuts his own (he can still get around his incipient belly), but I’d prefer doing it. He lets them fly everywhere when he does it. Back before we had kids, I’d give him full pedicures, which he loved. We take care of each other in all kinds of ways. Who doesn’t love that?
klutzosaurus-sex@reddit
Mine is also super tall and doesn’t fold up well. And gets an ingrown toenail, I don’t mind taking care of his feet. He does my dishes. makes my coffee and gives me foot massages so it’s pretty even.
SuperbRow7606@reddit
No, but I would if he needed me to do it.
Initial_Warning5245@reddit
Ewwwww! No!
He can go get a dang pedicure
PeanutButterToast4me@reddit
Nails? I'm not overweight at all and I can barely get my own socks on. Nails are low on the list of daily wtf
OccamsYoyo@reddit
Can relate.
DruncleMuncle@reddit
Either I do it, or we go on a lunch date to get pedicures.
Cesear410@reddit
Nasty
Cricket_1044@reddit
My hubby pays our daughter $10 to do it🤣
MoonGrog@reddit
I’m a big dude and I manage without issue
Beruthiel999@reddit
This is the first time in my life I have EVER heard of anyone cutting someone else's toenails unless it's a professional pedicurist, or the person who's nails being cut is either a very young child or severely disabled/elderly.
(or I guess if it's a fetish/kink thing)
NO this is not commonplace, WTF?
whitneylh14@reddit
It absolutely is a normal thing unless you hate feet for some reason. My daughter hates them, so I get it. Neither my husband nor I are overweight. I don't clip my husband's, but I do file them after he clips them because he makes such a mess. He also gets bad calluses and I file those down. I've done it for about 20 years. It's relaxing to him. I don't let him clip mine because of said mess and I like for mine to look nice when I wear sandals and flip flops. My feet are also very ticklish so I don't like for anyone to mess with them. It's up there with plucking hair and squeezing blackheads/pimples. It's just stuff you do. Don't try to make it sound like people have some weird fetish thing because they take care of their spouse. WTF? 😒🫤
Routine_Ingenuity315@reddit
Oh good, it's not just me. I had no idea people did this for other people. Unless it's for a child or elderly parent.
Beruthiel999@reddit
I mean, you CAN for a loved one if you want to, but it is definitely not a normal expectation
MystressSeraph@reddit
I HATE feet with a desperate passion, BUT I will do my parents' when needed (between podiatrists' appts.!) BUT they are in their 70s and 80s ... and I deem it a medical assist, just like dressing a wound - which is frankly, less distressing ... yes, feet are that big of an issue for me.
I would never volunteer to do a partner's unless they were recovering from illness/surgery, etc.
Tell him to get a pedicure, or go to a podiatrist!
Tekon421@reddit
I’m a lot overweight and I still manage
PegShop@reddit
Can I answer for my hubby? He gets pedicures and loves them, despite being the total opposite person you’d think would go. If and when he has to cut his own (he won’t let me as I hurt his piggy toe once, lol), he will put his foot up on a chair as he stands as the best option to get it done.
Kind-Group-9679@reddit
Buy a dremmel.
Status_Friend9594@reddit
Hard nope.
Cheska1234@reddit
There are cosmetology schools who do pedis for under $10. Just send them there? Good for everyone :)
Psycle_Panda@reddit
They'd have to use bolt cutters, an angle grinder and an industrial belt sander on my nasty assed toenails. I'm all sorts of chunky, but I do mine with some pipe hitting clippers. How chubby is the hubby, OP?
wherehasthisbeen@reddit
I do my husband pedis. If I don’t and he cuts them they will look a got a mess
No_Apartment_4551@reddit
I would not have a particular problem doing this for my other half but he’s never asked me to and I hope he never needs to ask me. To me this is the sort of self care that falls under bum wiping and nose cleaning - of course I’d do it if life necessitated it - but it’s not something I’d like to have to do for him, or like him to have to do for me!
Routine_Ingenuity315@reddit
Nope, not cutting toenails unless hubby has some medical emergency.
Sterek01@reddit
I am over 60 and tend to chubby, i have diabetes as well. Lucky for me my wife is a reflexologist and looks after my feet including all maintenance.
ShellyForNow@reddit
I cut my husband’s toe nails. And I enjoy doing it too.
PowdurdToast@reddit
Absolutely not. He can do that himself! Lol! Feet gross me out, so I’m afraid he’s on his own there.
_genepool_@reddit
My wife cut my toenails twice. I had some issues with RA flare-ups and couldn't do it myself .
Ok-Shift-908@reddit
I can’t cut others toenails. It just grosses me out. I take my husband out to my nail salon and we get our mani & pedi’s done. Every other month, the ladies love him. It has gotten harder for me to cut my nails. I’m not as flexible as I gotten older.
pookieHOS@reddit
In the kindest way..... fuck no I'm don't cut his toe nails
Appropriate_One_2533@reddit
That is a big nope for me. He gets pedicures. I hate feet so he doesn’t take it personal. 🤮
DearGabbyAbby@reddit
I’ve been married for 40+ years. My husband is not overweight and yes I clip his toe nails for him. I never thought it was a big deal. He showers often, his feet are clean. I also give him foot massages. It helps him go to sleep on the nights when he’s having difficulties
He cuts mine as well. No foot rubs. I’m quite ticklish but he gives me body massages
I can’t remember when we started doing this for one another
artizin@reddit
Not in my household. My wife doesn't like feet, so I clip my own. Or I go get a pedicure. Strangely enough she loves pulling out my ear hairs with tweezers. LOL
TragicEther@reddit
She just likes hurting you
jluvs2bake@reddit
Ew. I love my husband, and I’m sure I’d do it if he really needed me to, but 🤢
Assuming there are not health issues preventing your husband from losing weight, since that wasn’t mentioned, my thoughts on this would be: - honey, I’ll do it once a month if you promise to work on your weight. I’m worried about your health. Not being able to cut your own toenails indicates that something needs to be done. I will help you call around about (weight loss programs, gastric bypass, whatever), and I will help you make sure our household has the right food for you to be successful. I will do slow, short walks with you and gradually help you build up to longer, brisker walks. Because I love you and want you to be healthy. But if you aren’t willing to do this for yourself and for me so I can have you around a long time, then I am not willing to cut your toenails.
JasmineandRose82@reddit
My husband is 6’8” and he’s 51. I don’t mind cutting his toenails because that’s a long ways away and he’ll butcher them. There’s no money for pedicures in this house 👍
CuteContribution4695@reddit
How is age relevant?
JasmineandRose82@reddit
I guess I should have added that he s blue collar and his body is well used.
tia2181@reddit
I would have made him lose weight before it reached that... been with my partner 25 yrs and even with chronic pain condition in my hip and leg would endure the pain it creates. Did my sisters nails when she was pregnant with twins. But draw the line at being overweight. I gained weight because of medication started at 42 after my second child born. Just lost 40kg to improve my self confidence. Bonus is his appreciation!
Kkittums@reddit
You can’t make people lose weight lol
tia2181@reddit
Oh course you can help them.. dont stock cupboards would high sugar high fat items, cook healthier meals. Encourage them to go to gym.
My partner had opposite problem a few years ago and I helped him regain his lost weight.
bugabooandtwo@reddit
Then they can live with long toenails.
Kkittums@reddit
Also true
giggletears3000@reddit
I’ll cut my husbands nails for him, but he’s gonna owe me a backrub
wifeofpsy@reddit
I cut my husband's nails, top and bottom. He's very fit, not overweight, and very capable of doing it himself. It's just a part of our couple grooming rituals and we like it.
If I was asked to do it because he was unable to physically, or it was difficult, I would still do so. It's kind of a pay me know or pay me later situation. If he can't care for them himself then they'll get ingrown and other issues down the line. If you don't like dealing with it, he can go to a nail salon instead.
teesepowellm@reddit
I'm shocked how long it took me to see this answer. Never heard it put that way, but yeah we got each other & actually enjoy it!! And if it were able issue & something like a pedicure/podiatrist could, that be ok too.
ReeCardy@reddit
My husband is 57 and still quite fit, he cuts his own nails. I don't love feet, but if he needed me to I would cut his nails. I'm 5'2" and had a 10+ lbs baby and cut my own nails my whole pregnancy. Yes it was awkward but you figure it out.
SavaRox@reddit
I'm tall (5'10"), but I gained 60- pounds with each of my four pregnancies. My belly was, of course, huge, but I always managed to cut my own toenails anyway, even though it was challenging.
Ok_Mango_6887@reddit
The podiatrist will do this as well - I believe even if not diabetic.
ArcticPangolin3@reddit
Ack. Not sure I could do that. I'd send him for a pedicure. That's what my 90yo mom does because she can't reach anymore - she's just not flexible enough.
SunshynePower@reddit
It's not unusual when they're are circumstances that make it difficult to reach your toes. I clipped my dad's nails because he had neuropathy from his chemo.
If you're husband doesn't have any other health issues than send him for a pedicure and then get him on board with some exercise classes or walks around the neighborhood.
Kat_Smeow@reddit
Get a damn pedicure like a grown up.
chamrockblarneystone@reddit
Get him on a GLP stat. I’m 59. I lost 65 pounds like it was nothing. The only difference is I don’t think about food all the time and when I do I’m satified with very small amounts. I weigh less than I did in high school!
Gretzi11a@reddit
Me, too! :)))))
chamrockblarneystone@reddit
Amazing stuff right?
Gretzi11a@reddit
So cool to be staring down 60 without the geezer problems following me. The expense now will more than pay for itself. Or. So I tell myself. Don’t get old without it!
Gretzi11a@reddit
Absolutely!! I’m totally blown away. In my 3rd year, now. Only first year was covered.
Pennichael@reddit
My husband does his own for the most part, but every now and then I will spoil him with an in home pedicure. He loves the attention and how soft and smooth he feels after.
evolutionsknife@reddit
Send him for a pedicure. My friend is quite large and does this regularly.
Responsible_Side8131@reddit
My husband is tall and obese, but he has no problem clipping his own toenails.
Parking_Champion_740@reddit
I would not do that for my husband unless he had a medical issue
onions-make-me-cry@reddit
I'm not a Gen X man, nor am I overweight, but due to a disability I have, I have a really hard time taking care of my own feet.
My husband does it for me as a result. In sickness and in health, right?
clownhunt69@reddit
50 years old, 6’3” 280lbs and would never ask my wife to cut my toenails.
Aggravating-Pick8338@reddit
Did his mom cut his dad's toe nails? Maybe he thinks this is normal.
StrawberryKiss2559@reddit
Did he cut them for you when you were pregnant?
StrawberryKiss2559@reddit
I’ve never even heard of this.
Certain-Challenge43@reddit
This is fascinating. I didn’t realize this is a thing. I have not cut his toenails but it’s never occurred to me to do so either.
Lucee_fir@reddit
If you love your husband he will get him to do something about his weight if he is so obese that he cannot even clip his own toenails.
AngstyAF5020@reddit
I don't do feet.
Randonwo@reddit
Lol…My wife freaks out if my toes even touch her in bed…”no toes! No toes!”
BlackSheepReddits@reddit
I don’t see what is so gross about caring for the body of someone you love. I guess I also don’t find clean feet to be gross at all. I’ve helped my partner with his for a long time, in part because his flexibility has always been terrible and it puts a lot of strain on his back. He CAN do his own, but it’s not an offense to me to help. Just another gentle touch we can give each other.
No-Transition8014@reddit
It’s not about not wanting to help your loved one. It’s how helpless some people can behave over basic self care when they are fully able bodied.
Few-Honeydew2676@reddit
I'm wondering what some of these people are going to do when spouse has a stroke or some other type of illness and needs help wiping.
twostartucson@reddit
The minute I can’t cut my own toenails, I’m done.
Distinct_Magician713@reddit
That's a pretty defeatist attitude.
No-Transition8014@reddit
De-feet-ist I believe you meant.
soopirV@reddit
Take my feet
Solid-Wish-1724@reddit
Please!
No-Transition8014@reddit
It’s literally my profession and he cuts his own damn nails.
Its_noon_somewhere@reddit
That’s also my wife’s profession and she also does not cut my nails, however she does scalpel down my callouses sometimes (at her clinic)
No-Transition8014@reddit
Callus debridement definitely can need a little extra help. I’d do that!!
waitwutok@reddit
I’m a big guy and I cut my own toenails.
Suggest that he gets a monthly pedicure.
w3woody@reddit
Even when I was 90 pounds heavier than I am now, I managed to cut my own toenails.
rogun64@reddit
No one has ever cut my toenails for me. I'm not overweight and I still manage just fine at 58.
thatsplatgal@reddit
Mine can’t bend down very easily so he gets a monthly pedicure. There is not enough love in my heart to trim his or anyone’s toenails.
eyeap@reddit
Some Podiatrists make all their money trimming the toenails of older folks who can't reach. Medicare often pays
Few-Honeydew2676@reddit
Medicare will only cover it if the patient is diabetic.
eyeap@reddit
Til.
Jumpy_Cobbler7783@reddit
Back when I was in grade school in the 1960's I was more than "a little bit overweight" thanks to my mom forcing me to become a child glutton and as a result extremely morbidly obese.
Not only did my mom have to trim my nails - she also had to dress me and strip my clothes off when I got home and wipe my bottom because I couldn't reach past my enormous belly.
At school I had to go to the school nurse so that she could pull my short pants off so that I could use the staff restroom and wipe my bottom.
This is on my 10th birthday and I was 300 pounds:
Top-Address-8870@reddit
I pay a stripper like a respectable adult.
73rd-virgin@reddit
Under ordinary circumcisions, I ball up like a roly-poly and roll around to trim my nails.
I don't have a wife (or girlfriend) to clip my toenails. I wouldn't feel right about it.
A couple of weeks ago, I was getting ready to take a shower. When I took my right sock off, the toenail from my big toe fell out of the sock.
Last summer, I almost took out my sister with a flying toenail when she was trimming my nails. Nailed her right between the eyes.
MightBeYourMom99@reddit
Under ordinary circumcisions, most men back up like a roly-poly - and sob uncontrollably, lol.
73rd-virgin@reddit
Reminds me of when I was four...
postscarcity@reddit
> Under ordinary circumcisions
what about extraordinary circumcisions?
73rd-virgin@reddit
Damn autocorrect!
Quirky_Commission_56@reddit
I don’t cut his toenails because while he has a bit of a gut, he’s still perfectly capable of clipping his own damned toenails. I trim my nails and toe nails myself and have no difficulty whatsoever because I’m still flexible as hell.
GallopingFree@reddit
I’m significantly overweight and I can still trim my own toenails.
lololollieki@reddit
A LITTLE BIT? If you can’t cut your own toenails and you aren’t pregnant with twins plus - you might try diet and exercise.
CorrectMasterpiece55@reddit
Is really hard for me to let my wife touch my feet (I'm very ticklish) so I learn a really while ago to do my toenails
BertaRocks@reddit
I do from time to time. He’s diabetic and a wrong nick can be catastrophic.
From the comments on this thread folks would be absolutely disgusted with the things we have done for one another over the years.
jitterbugperfume99@reddit
I’ve had some major medical issues and surgeries. The things my husband has done for me, I’m sure it would make others blanche. I guess people are seeing it as a laziness thing but I see how it could be something else.
Out_of_Darkness_mc@reddit
OP didn’t say anything other than she was being “generous” about him being overweight and taller and not too flexible. Not that he was having major issues or surgery. That’s different and most loving spouses would agree!
My spouse and I would never ask each other to take care of basic hygiene just because of flexibility and it’s uncomfortable.
I asked my husband although I knew the answer! Even messed up, (accident for him) and bad pregnancies and autoimmune issues for me, we would prefer to be independent and handle our own hygiene.
We’re in our 50’s and not geriatric.
BertaRocks@reddit
We can sit together.
CorrectCondition9458@reddit
If he’s diabetic he can get a podiatrist to do it and most insurance will cover it. We do it every other month. Also good bc the dr may recognize any issues that need to be addressed in terms of and rubbing from shots etc.
BertaRocks@reddit
His does not cover trims. It is what it is.
flyfishfem@reddit
Wait wut??? Are u okay?
rydray1@reddit
What wife?
Sweaty-Bed6653@reddit
There is literally no way. But mine isn’t overweight.
jderflinger@reddit
I wish, she doesn’t go near my feet.
That being said, it is difficult for me to do it myself.
Watermelon_Sugar44@reddit
I massage my hubby's feet and cut his nails if they need it. He never asks me to do these things.
Longjumping-Code7908@reddit
You do it while he's sleeping?!
Watermelon_Sugar44@reddit
No 😂
Grannypanie@reddit
You fu;ker!
Realization kicks in.
Pinepark@reddit
My husband is easily 30/40 pounds overweight (has a big belly) and has 4 herniated discs and 3 bulging discs and he can cut his own toenails. If he could not then I would be taking him to a podiatrist for regular trims because he has pretty gnarly feet - 30 years of installing floors will fuck up the toes. Doesn’t mean I don’t love him.
For the record: I birthed a 10 pounds overweight baby and was well over 200 pounds (I’m 5’11) and could still trim my own toenails nails. So anything is possible! Handy tip - don’t do it sitting down. I put my foot on the lid of the toilet and was able to reach way easier than sitting on the couch and trying to fold in half.
Out_of_Darkness_mc@reddit
Same!! I was taking care of myself as a kid! Sure as hell won’t even ask my spouse to take care of my basic hygiene when I’m not injured or had a stroke or something and neither would he!
Neither of us would even consider asking each other to take care of our basic hygiene!
Washing each other in the shower is different and for fun but asking because we can’t reach past our bellies (not the case) would be absolutely pitiful to both of us! I asked him about this and he laughed and said “wtf?”
Commercial_Okra7519@reddit
There are lots of options to address this that don’t require you to cut his toe nails for him.
You can get long handled clippers made specifically for these situations 🙂
https://a.co/d/01FbzZSv
Rockatansky77@reddit
My wife made me get a pedicure 15 years ago before our wedding. We have been going together once a month ever since. Trimming, descaling, hot wraps and hot oil massage to the knees. We see me go in for a simple trim all the time. There is nothing wrong with you doing it for him.
Relevant_Fuel_9905@reddit
No. If I gain so much weight I can’t take care of myself, I will most certainly lose that weight.
jhil77@reddit
For real 😬
ptm93@reddit
Um, no. He cuts his own toe nails. So do I.
Tiny-Adhesiveness287@reddit
Take him for a pedicure- started doing this with my partner and he loves them and we get some couple time
Creepy_Addict@reddit
I would clip my husband's toe nails if if he asked me to. Feet don't grosels me out though.
SnuggleMoose44@reddit
I’m not sure why that matters. He asked you to help because it’s harder for him. If you don’t want to, you don’t need to get Redditor opinion before you tell him no. You should ask yourself why you don’t want to help him.
pinkocommieliberal@reddit
Seriously - I help my husband when he needs help because I love and like him. Why are so many people married to people they don’t like??
Out_of_Darkness_mc@reddit
I like and love my husband but he’s not a child. If he can’t cut his own toenails because he’s too heavy, the nails are the least of the problem!
I would focus on his weight and to get healthier.
He wouldn’t even ask me to because he would be humiliated if he wasn’t hurt in some way.
He was in a horrible accident many years ago, including being burned needing skin grafts.
He’s a stubborn bastard and I took care of him even when he would shoo me away but that’s just basic hygiene, OP is asking about.
Unless I missed a comment, it’s because he can’t “reach”.
That should be addressed.
But everyone is free to do what’s best for them!
My husband…can’t even picture him asking unless he was injured or sick!
34 years and going strong so we for sure like each other!
SnuggleMoose44@reddit
So, injured or sick is okay, but not being able to reach is a bridge too far.
Out_of_Darkness_mc@reddit
Is for me! I figured it out pregnant! Again, it’s not just the toenails, it’s the basic hygiene for me.
I would not ask my spouse to do this unless something was really wrong with me.
I can take care of myself and so does he.
We’re just too independent to do that.
pinkocommieliberal@reddit
Sure - the situation needs to be addressed. But that’s going to take a while. In the meantime, the man needs his toenails cut, and I’m at a loss as to why that’s a problem for a loving spouse.
Out_of_Darkness_mc@reddit
I think because if you can’t perform basic hygiene, with the absence of something seriously wrong, it’s a problem in itself. It’s not a problem for EVERYONE.
I’ve washed my spouse from head to toe when he as injured, changed bandages, although, my skills weren’t very good with those, but basic hygiene just hits different. At least it does for me and from the comments, to many. My husband would never ask me to do basic hygiene unless he absolutely couldn’t.
I wouldn’t either. Maybe we are the truly independent Gen/X people talk about! Idk!
I wouldn’t lower myself to ask him or anyone else to take care of my basic hygiene unless I was totally incapacitated!
MeLlamoMariaLuisa@reddit
No way, he’s your husband not your patient.
babs82222@reddit
Ew. I can't stand feet and as much as I love my husband, this would be a revolting dealbreaker for me.
If he never wanted any action in the bedroom ever again, this would be the way to do it.
This is precisely why men go get pedicures. It's not a girly thing to do. It doesn't make them gay. It's just good maintenance and hygiene.
nicebooots@reddit
Hell no. Pedicure date is the solution.
Ok_Responsibility419@reddit
Gross. No.
NeedleworkerLow1100@reddit
My diabetic husband gets his nails clipped at the podiatrist. They have a salon for pedicures attached to them.
darkest_irish_lass@reddit
Diabetics have to do this, though,because they can lose feeling in their feet and not know they're hurt.
A friend of ours was diabetic and had a giant abscess on his foot that just wouldn't heal. He ended up with a big, permanent hole and had to get physical therapy.
foetusized@reddit
I have diabetic neuropathy and tarsal tunnel syndrome. I get my toenails cut at the podiatrist.
Pixie_crypto@reddit
No sorry I would cut nail on sick patients as a nurse. I cut my kids nails but no way in hell I would cut my husband nails for him if he could do it himself.
SandersDelendaEst@reddit
Lmao how fat do you have to be to be unable to cut your toenails?
dyingbreedxoxo@reddit
not very! to reach them all without leaving jaggedy bits.
dyingbreedxoxo@reddit
I’m a woman but have the issue. Pedicures are the answer.
Prestigious-Dirt-95@reddit
My husband is thin and I cut his toenails when he ask. We used to go get pedicures together and now I’m just cheap 😂 and it doesn’t gross me out. One day i noticed my son’s feet and asked him if he wanted me to cut them and he looked at me like I was crazy. I don’t mind
Hefewiezen1@reddit
I am too hardheaded to admit I can’t do it. I engineer ways to do it myself
Livid-Technology-396@reddit
Gross. Nobody ever touches my feet. NOT EVEN IF THERE IS A FIRE! I cut my own nails. I’m not going to win any man feet contest, but I stay trimmed, clean, and neat. If a man is so fat he can’t take care of his own feet, then he has no hope.
turcorgen@reddit
"man feet contest" 😆
duzzabear@reddit
Yeah that woulda had to have been in the vows of he expected that from me. Barf.
Soniquethehedgedog@reddit
That’s more than a little.
listenupbud@reddit
Yuck. Single probably because I couldn’t imagine cutting someone else’s toenails or having someone cut mine. Ftr I’m a “little overweight,” 200@6ft. I’ve been as much as 240 & never even considered not being able to cut them myself
PNWirishdad@reddit
He’s a fucking grown up. Go get a pedicure
Alit_Quar@reddit
Not everyone cnn afford to do that.
Alit_Quar@reddit
I cut my own. I asked, my wife would do it without hesitation or complaint. I’d do the same.
DontHugMe73@reddit
Do we shave his back too? 😂
aduirne@reddit
Like on Malcom in the Middle
deadbear1975@reddit
Fat guy here. I cut my own nails, and get pedicures in the summer, so my heels don’t get all cracked when I wear sandals.
itusedtorun@reddit
I have been volunteered to cut my wife's toenails. She is not overweight or anything like that, but hers get rather badly ingrown and she is, frankly, not good at doing it herself. So, dutiful husband that I am, I do it for her. Do I like it- no, not really. But that's one of those things you do for marital harmony. For the record, I do my own. I've seen what she does to hers, no way in hell she's cutting mine.
Acrobatic_Code_7409@reddit
My wife used to cut mine until she developed arthritis very early. Then it was my turn to fish out the occasional IUD that got pushed back up and stuck. We do what we have to for the ones we love.
BayouVoodoo@reddit
Please tell me you meant tampon lol. An IUD stays in the uterus.
(My brain immediately went to flashlight and kitchen tongs 😂)
AccomplishedIgit@reddit
I gained 20lb moving back to my home state but I’ll still within a normal BMI. BUT I have noticed my flexibility is almost nonexistent and due to intermittent back problems, I really struggle to reach my toes sometimes. It’s certainly never “easy” like it used to be. I’m a woman but just putting it out there that it might not just be due to weight gain or he’s too lazy. It could also be flexibility.
cellardooorr@reddit
I cut my bf's nails, not because he can't do it himself (he can and he does), but because it's something we both enjoy. Him, because he's being groomed, me, because I like making his nails look and feel good (he just cuts them roughly and I also use the file and some foot cream). We usually do it while watching YouTube and it's just a nice moment together. I don't understand the whole "omg that's disgusting " thing in comments 🤷🏻♀️
AccomplishedIgit@reddit
Aw that’s so sweet
unclesnook@reddit
I do a pedicure, every couple of weeks and not overweight. It is just so much more healthy and sanitary imo
Thick-Fly-5727@reddit
I've done it for my husband, but we also get manis and pedis together.
CitizenChatt@reddit
I haven't had a problem getting down there to do it.
But I do like a good back rub occasionally
th3tadzilla@reddit
I had one girlfriend who cut the kids nails and was like "get over here," it had nothing to do with weight. I had another girlfriend who just did it, pedicure style, when she was doing hers. Nothing to do with weight. My wife, she wouldn't do it if I asked 😆
SwissyRescue@reddit
He gets a pedicure at the salon. They take care of his rough heels, too, and his feet look amazing.
NoInternal21418@reddit
Reason 876 why I never wanted a husband. Ewww
Ckn-bns-jns@reddit
He must be really overweight, that’s gross to ask your wife to cut your toenails. Unless it’s a bedridden deal I’d say it’s time for hubby to eat better for a few weeks and work on that toe reach.
jthockey78@reddit
If he is unable to cut his toenails, he’s gotta be quite a bit more than “a little overweight”.
Minimum-Comedian-372@reddit
My husband has blown out knees from years as an auto and diesel tech, and yes he’s a little chonky. He’s never asked, but I’ve offered a few times because it looks very uncomfortable. I wouldn’t want to walk around like that.
oface1@reddit
Tell him to hit the pool,lay off the lil Diabeetus cakes, and trim his own nails…..
cowbud1@reddit
My husband has been really big, but I would NEVER! Hes smaller now, but he knew better than you ask.
thasparzan@reddit
Eww
CodenameZoya@reddit
Quit a Twinkie on the end of a fishing pole and run him around the neighborhood barefoot. I take my dogs on walks to grind down their toenails. Let’s see if it works for your husband.
CodenameZoya@reddit
Oh my God, so much to unpack here…
Iko87iko@reddit
Id did my FIL when my wife & I cared for him, but he was 90. Get him to start doing basic yoga. One you lose your flexibility you're screwed. Its not too late to get it back, but its about to be
Out_of_Darkness_mc@reddit
My husband is overweight (dad bod style). He bet not ask me to do that!
If he isn’t sick, paralyzed or any other type of messed up, I expect him to handle his hygiene just as I handle mine.
Is your spouse willing to go to the nail salon and address his weight?
If I couldn’t reach my toes (non-pregnant), I would be addressing that ASAP.
I’m not skinny and work at my weight but when you can’t reach things, that’s a problem!
Andie_OptimistPrime@reddit
Make him walk his ass to the nearest pedicure salon. Every day. And occasionally, make sure he goes inside to get his nails cut.
awaino@reddit
I honestly can’t see them very well, so I get a “nail fix” appointment where my wife goes. It’s $10 plus tip every three weeks and they even fixed an in grown big toenail.
ChaosRainbow23@reddit
It's really sweet. I'll give you that.
Professional-Day-748@reddit
I had to do my husband's towards the end of his life.
smiling_toast@reddit
My husband suffers from neuropathy to the point he can't use nail clippers any more (chemo). Can't do fingernails either so I do them.
dry_towelette99@reddit
I can’t recall ever seeing a Reddit post get ratioed before now.
TIL that cutting your spouse’s toenails is a hot-button issue for many. If there are any execs from Big-Toenail-Clippers industry, please take note
BionicBrainLab@reddit
Gotthold1994@reddit
What the hell has happened to us?!! So fat you can't trim your toenail claws and probably can't properly bath but at 13 years old we were burning up 8000 calories a day riding our 3 speed Huffies 15 miles away from the house and drinking water out of your buddies hose. Came back home to play baseball or stickball all or shoot hoops all day and had like 3% body fat and now you have to go to the Asian nail place cause the belly is way to big lol
ChocgrlPenrosian@reddit
Time to get in shape. That goes for everyone in the house.
Expensive-Day-3551@reddit
Send him to get a pedicure. And send him to yoga.
MagistraKennedy@reddit
I would send him to the podiatrist.
lazytiger40@reddit
Nope. When I was heavier than now I figured it out when I couldn't just bend over my knees ..plus I got big feet (US 17) and I got toes longer than her fingers ..not exactly romantic when she's visualizing me snatching my dinner from a lake like a harpy eagle ..
lAngenoire@reddit
Dude. Shaq is looking at your feet in awe. Are you like nine feet tall? God bless your cobbler.
lazytiger40@reddit
No just a.humble 6'6"... Shaq is 7ft and wears a size 22...
LolaAucoin@reddit
The mental image of you toenail fishing just made my day. Someone feed that into ChatGPT 🤣
lazytiger40@reddit
lazytiger40@reddit
I'm here all day. .lol
DarthPops@reddit
Jesus Christ, 17's?!? My dad has size 14 and when he finds shoes in his size he buys like 3 pair. Do you just like bungee tarps to your feet or what? I'm in little kid shoes myself, opposite side of the problem...
lazytiger40@reddit
It's a struggle...luckily I have some connections with Volkswagen, you know to strap on some Beetles or Tiguans....seriously though I sometimes hit the big and tall store, and sometimes Ross has a random shoe section (the one in the college town not far from me) that ex B Ball players go to ...mostly it's an online affair and expensive. Plus comfort cause I have foot ankle and knee issues now, and good brands like ASICS, Brooks and Hoka don't have my size ..
FlyingTerrier@reddit
That is bad. He needs to work on his mobility as once you lose it it’s hard to get it back. He needs to get fit and flexible, the weight is only part of the problem. Basically he needs a carer already.
Hedgehogosaur@reddit
I started struggling with things so I lost weight.
W33CH0@reddit
when I was pushing 260, I really struggled. Im alot slimmer now but I dont like doing it. I would never ask my wife to (though Im sure she would). I have been considering going to start getting a pedicure though.
groverlaw@reddit
The first time I got a pedicure I asked myself why I had not done so before. They don’t just clip your nails, you get a foot scrub and a calf massage. It’s pretty awesome really.
CompetitiveAppeal663@reddit
Next up……”I can’t quite reach to wipe my ass….you mind getting that for me, sweetheart?”
madlyhattering@reddit
I do my husband’s, but it’s just to spoil him and because he has cute toes, lol. If I told him I wanted to stop doing it, he’d take over without any drama.
Dame_Ingenue@reddit
Get him an express pedicure. Pretty much the same thing as a pedicure, but no nail polish (and therefore costs less).
Niiohontehsha@reddit
Men just aren’t flexible in the hip the way women are. I’d do it for my partner if he asked. So far he hasn’t but it wouldn’t bother me.
OddSand7870@reddit
What does he weigh? 500 pounds?
NJRougarou@reddit (OP)
No. He's just tall, gangly, and overweight. But inflexible AF.
johninfla52@reddit
When I couldn't bend over after a surgery, my wife helped me. I will gladly help her when it's her time. That's why we married each other....to help each other out.
wishuponareddwarf@reddit
I’ve cut my husbands toe nails for the last 22 years. He’s not fat at all, he’s muscular cos we go to the gym. He does kind things for me too.
hazelquarrier_couch@reddit
Are all men straight in your world? I have a male partner and he doesn't cut my toenails. I have always done them myself. Even at my heaviest weight I have always been able to do them myself.
leicanthrope@reddit
I’ve never been terribly flexible, but even at my heaviest, I was able to manage it by Captain Morganing my foot onto a chair. I don’t especially like the idea of having someone else cutting my nails, so I’ve been incentivized to figure out a way.
nerdmoot@reddit
The fuck?
Lilpunkrkgrl@reddit
Pedicures are so expensive here, who has an extra $100 for that kind of thing? I dont even get haircuts anymore.
lAngenoire@reddit
If you have medical reasons you can get a pedicure through the podiatrist for whatever your plan costs.
Basic pedicures are like $30 here. Self care is important. People want to be partners not projects.
Lilpunkrkgrl@reddit
If you can afford medical insurance, which I see many people can not anymore. Pedicures where I am are $80 and up. People want partners, not fuck buddies.
happymask3@reddit
Time for a pedicure!
InadmissibleHug@reddit
My dad used to get me to do his and he wasn’t overweight. I have no real idea why he preferred not to do them himself 🤷♀️
Tough_Ad6387@reddit
Bad hip stops me from doing this. 60(m) go for pedicures once a month. Always thought it strange for men to get them, now that I do, money well spent. Wife usually comes with me and gets one too.
Emotional-Medium-929@reddit
90s x-men theme song is playing through my head now. ngl
Starbreiz@reddit
Dumb question - I'm pretty hefty, but I'm a woman, and I just bend my hips a little more so I can reach from the side. Is this a thing men can't do?
SamePhotographs@reddit
Same - but, I've always been a little extra flexible. I have absolutely lost much of that flexibility, but, I'm still able to look after my feet.
OP, you should ask at your pharmacy if they know of any services, as well if there's a nurse led diabetic education clinic in your area, they may have information as well.
pigbear32@reddit
The difficulty tying shoe laces stage is always a sign for me that I need to shed pounds around the middle… If I have to exhale and hold my breath to make room for shoe tying I’m too fat!
GrannyLuGoat@reddit
My husband developed thick cataracts that made it so he couldn’t see to trim his toenails.
No way was I doing them while we waited for his surgeries.
I called a mobile foot nurse and for $45 a visit, she came every 6-8 weeks and soaked his feet, trimmed his nails, fixed an ingrown toenail and moisturizer his feet.
Now that his surgeries are done and he has perfect vision, he’s looking after them himself again.
Money well spent imo, because eww feet!!
PahzTakesPhotos@reddit
I cut my husband's toenails and fingernails. He only has the use of one hand- his left. Till he had the stroke, he was right-handed. Even now, 31 years later, his left hand still isn't great on stability while doing something like this.
I know that it's a different reason than anyone else's, but yeah, it isn't a big deal. If I didn't do it, he would be able to climb a tree barefoot.
Affectionate-Map2583@reddit
Until this very moment, I never wondered about how my one armed boss cuts his fingernails...
Good thing he's married, I guess.
na8thegr8est@reddit
If I'm too fat to cut my own toenails, I'm losing weight
soggytoothpic@reddit
If I’m too fat to bite my own toenails, I’m losing weight.
4x4Welder@reddit
No. I am "obese" by BMI, but have never allowed myself to get to the point of inability to perform self maintenance. I guess that's a sort of a line for me.
abstractraj@reddit
I could lose 20lbs, but it’s not stopping me from doing my toenails
ByWillAlone@reddit
Not only would I not expect my wife to cut my own toenails, I wouldn't even ask as a favor.
There was a time last year that my girth was making it a little more difficult for me to do it myself and that lit a fire under my ass to drop some weight. I'm 38 lbs lighter and 3 inches off waist from this time last year and it honestly feels great to have no problems reaching every inch of my own body again.
Superb-Network-9133@reddit
There are places on every corner that can do a pedicure. If you don’t want to get the full service just ask for a cut down. I’ve known many men who happily go for pedicures.
Particular-Fennel-67@reddit
A little overweight, and he can't reach his toes? 🤔
cmt38@reddit
There is an outrageous number of Gen Xers here who talk about their ailments as though they are 85. My 79 and 81 year old parents are apparently more active and able-bodied. What the hell is going on?
cmt38@reddit
Flexibility is SO important as we age. Luckily, you still have time to fix this. You can work slowly but steadily on improving your flexibility by doing simple stretches every day. Barring a medical condition that cannot be altered through physical activity, there is zero reason for people our age to be unable to cut their own toenails, walk up stairs, stand on one foot, or myriad other simple, everyday tasks.
notguiltybrewing@reddit
I'm not too fat. I'm just finding it much more difficult. I still do my own for now. I guess I'm not as flexible as I used to be.
Jmckeown2@reddit
I had a BMI of 47, and could still trim my own nails. It’s certainly easier now, but I would have died before getting help.
TrueCrimeInTheBuff@reddit
I'm a woman but I give my husband pedicures and foot rubs since he's not as flexible as I am. I take care of my own feet because I like to pamper myself with pedicures. My husband also gives me foot rubs though.
OceanParkNo16@reddit
I regularly offer to assist my Generation Jones husband with his toenails. He declines. I honestly would not mind, esp right after his shower. He is not overweight but it’s still not easy for him to get to that last darn pinky toe that is turned sideways!
imtooldforthishison@reddit
🤢 I cut my own toenails and no amount of undying love for anyone over the age of 7 would have me cutting their toenails. Off to the salon you go buddy because I am not doing that.
Curious_Dot3635@reddit
I have never cut anyones toenails but my own. Neither of us are big so that is part of it as well
OkCalbrat@reddit
My husband is disabled. He has had several back and neck fusions. He also has nasty ass troll feet with fungus.🤢 He has never taken good care of his feet even when he could. He is a boomer and because of his disability and age the VA podiatrist will do it for him. Does he go? Nope!
I understand that he can't cut them himself now, but even when he could, he wouldn't. Apparently it's MY job (yes he actually says that) 🙄 l refuse. It's just too gross. I tell him to make the appointment with the podiatrist at the VA and I'll take him, it's literally 6 minutes from our house. Does he? Again, nope. He will literally let his nails get so long they are growing over the toe next to it! Sometimes he will wait and manage to snap them off but then there's the nails too thick to snap off. 🤢 So I eventually call and make him an appointment, half the time he will purposely miss it. Then we are back too "It's not the podiatrist at the VA's job (it literally is!) it's YOUR job". Seriously! 😡
Accomplished_Map2206@reddit
My mom puts her husband’s socks on for him every morning. Both 67–I think it’s so strange.
Few-Honeydew2676@reddit
I'm 61 and it takes me damn near 10 minutes to get mine on. My husband sleeps much later than I do or I'd ask for help. Degenerative disc disease is not fun.
Accomplished_Map2206@reddit
See, now asking for help in that case makes total sense to me.
SiroccoDream@reddit
I’m a Gen-X woman. I read your topic and reached out to my similar-aged friends, women and a few men, to get their input.
Across the board in my very unscientific poll, the first reaction was something along the lines of NO!, followed by a variation of the word EW!
One or two have cut their partner’s toenails due to temporary disability, such as recovering from abdominal surgery where their partner couldn’t bend that low until they healed. I would absolutely do this for my husband if he had a sort of temporary condition where he couldn’t get to his toes.
What your husband is asking isn’t due to a temporary condition, though. He is too fat to reach his own toes. That didn’t happen overnight. I’m a Type II diabetic, and I was once a lot heavier than I am now, so I am not trivializing his struggle.
When my diabetes was running out of control, I was the one who had to take real responsibility and DO BETTER. I changed my diet, I started walking EVERY DAY, I changed my endocrinologist to someone who was a better fit for me, and followed their instructions. Yes, I am on Ozempic, but was originally put on it for diabetes control. I’m sure it has contributed to my weight loss, but so have all the other changes I mentioned.
Your husband got himself into this position, and only he can get himself out of it. Tell him you will NOT be doing the things that a man his age ought to be able to do for himself. If he can’t do them because of his weight, then it is up to him to figure out what to do about it. He can see a podiatrist for his nails, or go to a pedicurist.
Tell him you will support him if he chooses to work on his weight, starting with a visit to a medical professional for a FULL check up and battery of tests. His weight might have an underlying cause, and it’s probably causing or exacerbating conditions that he is currently unaware of. Once his medical care team sets up a series of things he needs to do to get his weight back down, tell him you will join him as a way of supporting him.
We’re GenX, we can all benefit by eating better and exercising!
VR46Rossi420@reddit
….. oh and I’m on Ozepic.
GTFO
SiroccoDream@reddit
Yes, I take a medication for my diabetes, after a decade of trying other medications to regulate my glucose level without success.
JFC even before Ozempic I was able to cut my own toenails!
Ted_Denslow@reddit
I do. She lacks the forearm strength to wrangle these talons. My toenails are fuckin gross. Even if she had the strength to farrier these toe hooves, I wouldn't subject her to it.
preinternetdad@reddit
I used to cut my own toenails. Sill do, but used to too
gnortsmracr@reddit
I’ve always cut my own.
Cars_Music_GoodTimes@reddit
I cut my own: always have. I recently changed from cutting them in the bathroom sink to the toilet. I’m 30lbs overweight with flexibility issues from disc damage in my back.
G_Stenkamp72@reddit
I make it a point to take care of myself. That's part of being Gen X, we're self reliant. Almost to a fault. I do understand however that at some point I'll probably have a regular appointment with a podiatrist to have my toes taken care of.
thumpingcoffee@reddit
I get a pedicure every couple of months. I’m not that much overweight but being diabetic I look after my feet
dreaminginteal@reddit
I do my own. I'm still limber enough to put my foot up on an ottoman or some such.
My grandpa lost mobility with his Parkinson's, and would ask us to trim his toenails when we visited. (They were pretty gnarly!) My mother introduced him to the wonders of the nail salon...
IranticBehaviour@reddit
I cut my own, always have. I'd have a pretty hard time admitting I was too fat to look after myself, let alone actually ask for that kind of help. I'd probably be trying to trim them by clamping a power tool to my work bench before I asked her to do it.
However, I'm absolutely certain she'd help me with anything if I needed it, just as I'd help her. That's part of what it means to love somebody.
Cool-Coffee-8949@reddit
I cut my own toenails, not because it is easy, but because it is hard.
yupjustarandomranger@reddit
Ewww fellas, go get a pedicure if you can’t reach/see what you’re doing.
MarquesTreasures@reddit
I cut my own toenails ... but I do find myself gravitating to slip on shoes and boots over anything that I have to tie....
Dangerous_Abalone528@reddit
When I was nine months pregnant I cut my own toe nails.
mjh8212@reddit
When my ex was big I had to give him pedicures. He couldn’t do it or hold his breath long. When he lost the weight I was thankful that I didn’t have to do it anymore. I was always the small one in the relationship but gained weight myself. I was in the 200s when my met my now husband and never asked him to cut my toenails even though it was difficult for me to do. I’ve lost the weight and everything’s easier.
Necessary-Balance152@reddit
I feel like most people answers reflect the real issue, do you mind cutting his toenails? If it's fun, cute, intimate, or no big deal to you, there's your answer. But if it bothers you enough to ask reddit if it's weird, you are entitled to that boundary. He's not disabled, and there are professionals who can do that for him. Your comfort matters.
LAARPer@reddit
Sometimes my wife will help out, but I’m too ashamed honestly. My feet make birds feet look good.
missmarimck@reddit
Send him to get a pedicure. Many people who can trim their own nails have it done when they go get a pedicure.
Oxjrnine@reddit
Your 50s and early 60s can determine how your 70s and 80s are going to feel if your husband is already getting you to cut his toenails. His last decade of his life is going to be absolutely miserable and probably shorter by about five years.
Even though our parts are starting to wear out, we are still young enough to build up. Muscle tone stretch properly and have good cardiovascular health and being in good health can last for a long time when it starts to get more difficult to stay in good health example if you currently rotten 5 to 10 K every day when your hips and knees and your ankles wear out, you are still going to be able to walk and get the same amount of cardiovascular health through much less exercise.
johnrgrace@reddit
I’m a fat bastard and the idea of this has never even occurred to me
Jaded_Film_2622@reddit
Ain’t no way I’m cutting his toenails.
elizajaneredux@reddit
No, I wouldn’t cut my husband’s toenails unless he had a serious medical disability/impairment. He can have a professional take care of this for him if he can’t do them himself. Maybe this will help him realize how limited his life is becoming because of his size and help him seek treatment for that.
East-Philosophy@reddit
This is so gross omg
lcplscary@reddit
At 42, when I realized I was holding my breath to tie my shoes I started going to the gym.
I'd be horrified to have to ask for help with basic grooming. Reason #1 that I have an exit strategy before I get there.
AshDenver@reddit
When his own toenails start slicing his leg and drawing blood, he props on foot on the edge of the tub and leans over with the clippers to do it himself.
Wacko_Banana_Pants@reddit
57m, 5'11", 280lbs. I cut my own without issues. No huffing, no puffing.
ennuiandapathy@reddit
If this is not something you want to do, you don’t have to do it. A podiatrist or nail salon would be the place for him to get that done.
At my heaviest, I struggled to cut my toenails – I’d be panting and huffing and puffing like I was running up the stairs just bending over to reach them. That was when I knew I had to get serious about dropping some pounds. I’m still overweight, but not so much that I can’t take care of basic hygiene.
Peachily_Suns@reddit
I take care of my partner’s feet. He has some issues that make it challenging for him to do it. I love him and am happy to do this for him.
Nice-Track4271@reddit
No longer married but would've cut toenails like I've cut my 83yo mom's and would cut my 86yo dad's (even tho his are nasty). Weight may be OP's husband's issue, or it may be flexibility or some other reason. If he's asking for help, why not? There are cheaper places for pedicures - beauty schools, Groupon specials. Heck, I've had my ex join me for a pedicure day. Not sure why so many are so freaked out by it.
PressureMajestic1046@reddit
Same.
daddy4you76@reddit
A little overweight means he's in the 190-215 range. There is ZERO reason he can't (barring actual handicaps). He is either much more than a little overweight or lazy.
beakermonkey@reddit
You don’t know the person’s height, build or even their actual weight. Stop putting people down.
vhalember@reddit
This depends on your height and build. At 200, I'd have less than 10% body fat.
But yes, a little overweight means they should be able to trim their toenails. Also sounds like they have a laziness and/or flexibility issue.
Lima3Echo@reddit
Would my wife do it for me? Probably. Would I ask her? Absolutely not, but I don’t like people touching or even looking at my feet.
idrathern0tsay@reddit
I cut my own (59m) and I cut my wife’s. She has fibro, neuropathy and isn’t as flexible as she used to be. I told her while I was cutting them “this is what true love looks like”. Last time I came into the room with swim goggles on and cracked her up.
Ancient-Store6124@reddit
If he needed help with it, I would help. I love him and meant in sickness and health.
No_Height_8075@reddit
My husband is in fantastic shape. I've been cutting his toenails for years. I trim, clean up the cuticles, buff and moisturize. He's got nice feet, no gross nails or foot odor or anything like that. I'm not sure I'd be so willing if they were troll-feet. Not sure if it's normal or not, it's just something nice i do for him.
Distinct_Magician713@reddit
I'll cut them. He's very fit but not flexible. I cut them after he showers. We're not paying someone to do something I can do at home. His dick has been in my mouth, so I'm not bitching about touching his feet.
PerilousPurpose@reddit
Lmao, thats actually pretty solid reasoning all around in my opinion. Im with you on all accounts.
Poppy-Cat@reddit
Nope thank you.... see a podiatrist or nail technician
RGUEZAR1999@reddit
Your insurance covers it. As he gets older it will require a professional.
chefybpoodling@reddit
For richer for poorer, through sickness and health. but first I’d make us an appointment at the nail joint.
Regular_or_BQ@reddit
I have a serious foot aversion and would not do this for a situation where the requesting party COULD change the situation but opted not to. Hope that helps.
No_Yesterday7200@reddit
I did for a bit before he had hip replacement. Not my favorite activity to he honest. Now he does his own.
PeptoBismark@reddit
I’m headed for a hip replacement, reluctantly and eventually.
The point at which I can’t trim my toenails on that side is when I’ll have to schedule the operation.
tmstas@reddit
Had mine done at 49. Waited about 2 years too long and wish I had done it sooner. It's been 8 years and it's completely pain free.
mmmmmarty@reddit
My husband has an impingement. This is in our future. Glad to hear it's been positive for you because I know he's scared to death.
Prairie_Crab@reddit
My husband cuts his own. He’s quite slim and able to do it himself. I DO cut the crazy hairs on his eyebrows. 😄
Umeyard@reddit
Married to a big dude, he trims his own in the bath tub to soften them up first so it's easier
Acceptable_Reality10@reddit
I refuse to have my wife cut my nasty ass toenails. Will she? Absolutely. I found a better solution, every 2 weeks I go to our local mani/pedi place with her and have my guy Jim do it. We have a blast, I get my my feet scrubbed and trimmed up, Jim loves me because I’m a regular who always tips well and it’s another thing we can go and do together on a Sunday.
WolfAtNeck@reddit
If he's large and our age he would be safer having them done by a podiatrist or you. Someone who can see the entirety of his foot , especially the bottom. Specifically I am thinking because of diabetes and even just a tiny cut can lead to infection and amputation.
Ancient-Store6124@reddit
Finally, someone talking about real concerns about your partner instead of ew gross feet.
W_J_B68@reddit
Not being able to cut your own toenails because you are too fat is a damn good reason to loose some weight.
Downtown_Anteater_38@reddit
How heteronormative of you to assume we all have wives.
Ike_In_Rochester@reddit
Ouch, my dude. They’re clearly working through some stuff. Cut a little slack.
Downtown_Anteater_38@reddit
Not your dude.
GenX-ModTeam@reddit
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Scary_Application_70@reddit
I cut my husband's toenails for the first time last week. They were so badly in need of cutting, one of them had started growing sideways. I've been telling him for ages to cut them. He finally admitted he couldn't reach them.
EdenSilver113@reddit
If you hate it why don’t you go get couples pedicures together? I used to run into a couple from time to time that got mani pedis together. They said at first he only got a no-polish pedi. But in time he started getting polish. Then to take up more time he did a spa pedi. Then she started getting a spa pedi. Then they were both doing the whole 9 yards. He did gel polish with hand painted designs and she did acrylic. They were so cute together.
mmmmmarty@reddit
I'm not touching any other human's feet on purpose who is not disabled in some way. YICK.
rjm72@reddit
As a somewhat “husky” 53-year-old guy, I started getting pedicures about ten years ago after breaking an ankle and dealing with the resulting nastiness from having a foot casted for two months. Now those pedicures are my favorite day of every month.
YogurtclosetParty755@reddit
Disclaimer, I’m single, but no way would I do that! In my opinion, he can go get a pedicure have them cut his toenails.
Massive-Ant5650@reddit
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Lucky_Astronomer_435@reddit
Tbh I had/have gnarly feet. I could cut them myself tho but now that I’ve lost 100 it’s much easier and the tone nail fungus that was making my feet so gnarly is gone after dropping the carbs. I won’t talk about the fungus I had in other places. Luckily it’s all gone.
Kylearean@reddit
you sound like a fun guy
Urbs1993@reddit
Nasty as F
JettaRider077@reddit
F as in fungus.
WithoutDennisNedry@reddit
OP, it looks like the Gen has spoken. Verdict: unless that man is mobile disabled in some way, make him cut his own damn toenails.
MinusGovernment@reddit
Nobody touches my feet but me. I'm too fucking ticklish there. No way I could hold still. I can even tickle my own feet. I'm probably about 10 lbs heavy.
jeon2595@reddit
Bro needs to get healthy.
meermee7@reddit
Why do you assume he isn't?
oldandinvisible@reddit
Because he's under 60 and can't reach his own toenails...just a guess
Few-Honeydew2676@reddit
Where did she say he was under 60?
oldandinvisible@reddit
Gen X eldest are 60 barely 61 if born early 1965....so just an extrapolation.
jeon2595@reddit
Because he can reach his freaking toes?
SarcasticGirl27@reddit
I know that as my grandparents aged, they went to a podiatrist to get their toe nails cut, but we’re talking they were well into their 70’s when that happened.
I’m a big girl & I still cut my own toe nails no matter the struggle. The only way I would be if I got a pedicure.
Munchkinpea@reddit
My husband is bed-bound. He uses adult nappies which I change and I wash every inch of him.
He has a podiatrist that comes every 8 weeks to trim his toe nails.
jljanowski@reddit
Ewwww!!!
TheNolaCatLady@reddit
I am single because I do not want to be put in a position where a man expects me to cut his toenails. Yuck!
HandAccomplished6285@reddit
The day my wife has to cut my toenails I’d better be paralyzed. I have a very bad back and I’m about 50 pounds overweight, and I still wouldn’t ask my wife to do it.
InebriousBarman@reddit
That can't be the result of a little overweight.
I'm a little overweight, and I even have bad hips. I cut my own toenails, and if I couldn't, I'd be getting myself on a regimen to overcome that battle.
pnw-fun-cpl@reddit
I ask my wife to do many weird things, but never this
swadekillson@reddit
Being unable to cut your toenails isn't a little overweight. That's fat as fuck.
Critical_Purple_8600@reddit
I don’t think so. It depends on how bendy you are. I’m small and pretty bendy but I’m starting to see where it could get difficult. Two toes on my right side were tough to get to last time I cut them.
protrident@reddit
Saved me from typing, ty
titwrench@reddit
If I got so big that I couldn't cut my toenails, I would be embarrassed.
Currency-Substantial@reddit
Are they stuck in a bed? That's more than being slightly overweight. They are grown ass men.
therelybare5@reddit
I cut my own toenails, Thank you very much!!! 😃👍
kittycat_34@reddit
I adore my husband but he has the most disgusting feet ever. Hammer toes, bunions, toenail fungus, size 14 boats....I do not touch his feet with a 10 foot pole! I suppose if he was absolutely incapable I would throw on a pair of gloves and do it.
GreyLoad@reddit
How can u even be with someone like this and don't say love
Beyondoutlier@reddit
Not my spouse’s nails but I can’t cut a straight line so I go to the nail salon and get gentlemen’s manicure and pedicure. It’s a wonderful relaxation moment that prevents me from getting ingrown nails.
myeggsarebig@reddit
This is why I cut my ex’s. He couldn’t cut a straight line!!
Annual-Duck5818@reddit
…is this what to ask for to prevent ingrown toenails?! How exciting!
Beyondoutlier@reddit
I haven’t had an ingrown toenail since I started. I just want the pedicure and don’t get color or clear - just a nail cutting, cuticle removal, a warm towel and a small massage ( fingers, wrists, toes and feet ).
kat_storm13@reddit
One way to prevent ingrown toenails is to not cut them too short, especially on the sides. I file mine instead of cutting so that it's easier to go straight across
Rodneysk88@reddit
Well, might sound crazy: Cutting toenails often leads to more where I’m from if you know what I mean?!🤤
Revolutionary_Bee700@reddit
Today I learned people are phobic about (assuming) clean feet.
Ziggerific@reddit
I have trimmed my husbands toenails on occasion due to his having had both hips replaced. He has had arthritis flareups. I don’t love doing it but am not as horrified as many on here seem to be.
Ornery-Ocelot3585@reddit
Does he do half the housework? Childcare? Animal care? If needed.
How do you feel about this?
NJRougarou@reddit (OP)
He's 50/50 with everything and even gives me massages. He's rather tall however and not very flexible.
myeggsarebig@reddit
My ex husband used to cut mine bc he said I did a terrible job. With my next partner, I cut his because I saw what my husband meant by someone doing a terrible job on their own feet 😂
Ornery-Ocelot3585@reddit
How do you feel about him asking you about the toe nails was my question?
AgentDangerMouse@reddit
And husbands wonder why their wives don’t want to have s&x with them.
MaybeOnFire2025@reddit
Counterpoint: As a husband, I always take what you ladies refer to as "everywhere" showers, getting all nooks and crannies taken care of completely. I have been surprised more than once in my life when being prepared led to...amazing feelings that don't happen unless everything is clean.
LolaAucoin@reddit
This is the most basic expectation of hygiene.
MaybeOnFire2025@reddit
Yeah, I know, I was using a term I heard one woman use about another about a big date, it was a little ha ha.
Had I said "yeah, I always wash every inch, including scrubbing my taint and butthole in case that's on the menu tonight," it wouldn't have landed the same way...
LolaAucoin@reddit
An everything shower involves shaving your body.
itcantjustbemeright@reddit
Getting the nooks and crannies should be the normal goal of bathing.
It’s surprising how many grown men think just standing under the water and rubbing body wash across their belly does the trick. It does not.
d_ippy@reddit
Yeah everywhere shower is not a thing. You just wash it all.
MaybeOnFire2025@reddit
Maybe it was an "everything" shower. I heard it used in the context of one woman to another when the latter had a big date.
d_ippy@reddit
Could be. But the fact they construed it as “everywhere” is pretty funny. Thats a big difference.
LolaAucoin@reddit
Right? The only thing that doesn’t get washed daily in my shower is my hair.
zorkempire@reddit
PREACH
HalfaEnchilada@reddit
My husband comes with me to get a pedicure. He doesn't go as often as I do, but he keeps his own foot care his responsibility, as it should be.
OP's husband is hopefully getting a wakeup call from this post and starts working on his weight and ability to do the basics of self care.
DaveKelso@reddit
I cut my wife's toenails, sometimes I do her nail polish as well. Do I want her to lose weight so she can do it herself? Definitely.
HighOnGoofballs@reddit
If I couldn’t cut my own toenails I’d start losing weight today
Can he tie his own shoes?
SunShineShady@reddit
Exactly. How low can the bar go?
brandysafinegirl@reddit
My husband is about 50-60 lbs over weight and that has never once come up. He does it himself and I would NOT want to do that. I’ll do plenty of other things. In recent years he’s asked me to cut his back hair which all of sudden started growing and I have no problem with that but I hate feet so that is a no for me. Lol
Electronic-Ear2329@reddit
100% wake up call imo
nerdPatrol2@reddit
I would never, unless he was sick. He, however, has asked if he can paint my toes.
PabloDabscovar@reddit
JFC thank gawd I’m not married.
miniature_ghee@reddit
15 years married & gagging at some of these comments. Not only would we never ask the other to do this, we don't even clip our nails in the same room. It's an essential SELF-care practice but quite unflattering to witness. Go to another space for the <5mins it takes & leave a little mystery in the marriage.
AMTL327@reddit
Exactly! Cutting each other’s toenails is not conducive to sexy time.
SoUpInYa@reddit
I do it in the backyard on the grass so no cleanup
warrior-flock@reddit
Thanks for this! I was just thinking that I guess I’m not marriage material
sfdsquid@reddit
No fucking way would I do this. But I have the opposite of a foot fetish and wish I hadn't read this while eating lunch. 🥴🤮
jhm-YNWA@reddit
Same! Holding onto my lunch for dear life.
To be helpful, in addition to pedicure, he may want to visit a podiatrist who can evaluate while cleaning them up the first time.
warrior-flock@reddit
lol, I hear you!
No1Czarnian@reddit
Fuck no. I'm not asking anyone to do that. Tell him to go get a pedicure if he's to fat to reach his feet. Or tell him to lose weight
Urbs1993@reddit
Couldn’t have said it better myself! Gimme a break! Guy has some audacity to even ask that!
thejohnmc963@reddit
I have a loving wife willing to do it because I can’t . She actually suggested it as I was having so much trouble.
MythicMythness@reddit
My initial reaction was absolutely not. Being a couple doesn’t mean you have to do gross things for each other. In an emergency, maybe; in the regular, hell no.
Now that I’ve read a bunch of comments here, many saying it’s about living and caring for one another and all that…
Still hell no.
BreadMaker_42@reddit
I’m not quite sure I understand the problem. If he can’t cut his own toenails then either the belly is too big or the flexibility is bad. You don’t want to have either of those issues as you get older.
As a spouse, we have to be willing to do things for our partners that maybe we didn’t have to do 10yrs ago.
thejohnmc963@reddit
Exactly
Pineygirl13@reddit
My man is not overweight but I cut his toenails. He was getting ingrowns from cutting them too short and his big toe being smooshed in boots all day so I take care of his feet for him so that doesn’t happen anymore. He brushes my hair sometimes and gives me massages so we’re even.
HighOnGoofballs@reddit
He also needs bigger boots…
RoofAway1331@reddit
Holy crap this is a thing? Yikes talk about enabling.
thejohnmc963@reddit
By helping?
cutsryd@reddit
Acceptable_Usual1646@reddit
Send him to a foot salon. Ewwww
AMTL327@reddit
This! I love my husband, but unless it was a one-off hangnail or something, I’d send him to a salon for a pedicure. That’s what I’d do for myself, too. I’d never dream of asking him to do this for me. It’s hard to feel sexy when you’re trimming each other’s toenails.
stardust_361@reddit
My husband is slightly overweight but that has never been a problem for cutting his toe nails. It's the fact that his legs are short and he has trouble seeing them. He still does it but I've been thinking of offering to do them for him. I hate feet (and don't allow anyone to touch mine) but I love him and as long as I can wear gloves, I'll do it for him. lol
superthighheater3000@reddit
I cut my own toenails, but if I’m feeling extra lazy I treat us both to a pedicure.
Aggressive_Power_471@reddit
Xennial here. I take care of my husband's feet in between podiatrist visits. he just has gnarly toes. He can reach (6'2 300lbs but with long arms) but I just take care of him and the kids usually at the same time.
sophiesmom712@reddit
Oh hell no.
Aggressive_Power_471@reddit
my girls are 5 and 11. The 11 year old is starting to learn but 5 is too little. Husband I just make him take a shower and then cut his too.
His dad has gout from his diabetes and lost toes. So doing the toes helps me keep an eye on his feet so they don't get bad in older age. Sort of like how I have him check the boobs monthly for lumps.
hapster85@reddit
I do it
Pho3nixr3dux@reddit
Eeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!
Guys I'm sorry but the indignity of not being able to cut your own toenails is what is supposed to make you realize that it's really really time to focus on your health.
axolotl_fart@reddit
I can think of many reasons for not being able to cut one’s own toe nails. Obesity is only one.
Pho3nixr3dux@reddit
I agree but I think mere chubbiness is implied but I edited my comment to reflect a more precise posit.
honkytonksinger@reddit
For a while it’s kinda been a thing in my lexicon: who’s gonna cut your toenails for you when you get older. Came about in the early 2000s when my grandmother was in assisted living/dementia care. It’s something for those who never had kids, or outlive them and the remaining family…. Just something to think about.
cupcakesandvoodoo@reddit
Having children definitely doesn’t mean someone will be there to cut your nails. My grandmother was an incredible woman who had 8 children. None of them did this for her. She went and got pedis once it became a bit too much, then the nurses at her care facility did it for her.
Bromodrosis@reddit
I cut my own. I'm not limber enough to chew them off anymore.
impersephonetoo@reddit
My spouse is overweight but can still cut his own nails. If he couldn’t I would do it though.
Far-Ad5796@reddit
I do, not because my spouse is overweight but because he's had two strokes and can't manipulate the cutters. But honestly? I hate it. I hate it so much. I wish he would just go get pedicures, but he's embarrassed. So I suck it up. But I hate it. Did i mention I hate it?
colostitute@reddit
As your average middle aged dad, I would love to have a pedicure. Also due to that, I’m too cheap to pay for it.
kat_storm13@reddit
If you want to try it out you could see if there are any cosmetology schools near you. They often provide discounted services
Rad1PhysCa3@reddit
I obviously don’t know your situation at all, but what about taking him to the podiatrist? If his feet are bad enough that he’s too embarrassed to get a pedicure and you hate doing it (don’t blame you at all), then he likely needs to see a foot doctor anyway. And then maybe his feet would be in an overall better condition and eventually get to a point where you don’t hate it so much or where he’s willing to get pedicures. Just a couple thoughts that may or may not help. I feel for you, though! Hugs!
ChrystineDreams@reddit
He may be able to see a podiatrist rather than going to a nail bar or esthetician.
harmonimaniac@reddit
This subject is my gauge for whether or not I can officially be considered old. So, if someone asks me, "Hey, how ya doin'?" I reply with, "Still cutting my own toenails, thanks!".
SummerBirdsong@reddit
My husband and I cut eachothers toenails and other general foot care. It's a simple kindness that makes life easier for someone we care about. I haven't asked him to paint mine. I think I would go to a salon for that but for general care we take care of each other.
daphatty@reddit
Today I learned that difficult cutting ones toe nails is an obesity warning sign. I’ve got to get this weight off!
Luv2Dnc@reddit
My husband’s feet were completely uncared for when we got together. So I brought him along for a pedicure. He liked how it felt so we made it a routine.
bigballs2025666@reddit
no, I cut my own and go to the gym…
Habeas-Opus@reddit
My wife has been trying to get me to let her trim my toenails for all of the 25 years we’ve been married. The answer was no in the beginning and it will always be no. I will do so myself, thank you very much.
Prestigious-Algae886@reddit
Im over weight, working on it though, but no i still cut my own toenails.
OneMustAlwaysPlanAhe@reddit
Have the hubby start doing push aways: push away from the table, away from the buffet, etc. Then he can cut his own.
OkCalligrapher2453@reddit
Push aways!!! That's exactly what our family Dr told my mom to do when she was pregnant with me!! 😆
Oh and he gave this sage advice while lighting up a Kool 100!
When we were kids he smoked in our faces in his office while he was telling our parents about our respiratory problems.
Oh the 70s.
Living-One5265@reddit
There are businesses who provide this service, come to your home and everything. I do homehealthcare and several of my clients use this service.
emacextrabrut80@reddit
I love my FH. But if that was ever a problem, 1) he would definitely take care of his health, lose the weight and fix whatever habits got him there; and 2) I’d send him to the nail spa for a pedicure. :)
exitpursuedbybear@reddit
I was 315 down to 240 and still dropping. I have always cut my own nails. He probably is just very sedentary and is lacking flexibility.
Sunsfever83@reddit
That's just nasty and lazy. No, I wouldn't have my wife cut my toenails. Haven't asked once in almost 30 years, I won't be starting anytime soon.
Abzstrak@reddit
What the actual fuck. If you're so fat you can't cut your nails, time to change your life. Drastically.
I'm a guy, and I'm no picture of fitness, but I would consider this a personal failing of the utmost degree.
Barring, of course, something temporary due to injury
Express-Studio-8302@reddit
Yeah there's not enough context here. My grandma had a degenerative disease that she eventually ended up not being ble to walk. She went from slim despite 5 children to quite overweight stuck in a wheel chair. Thats a totally different story from someone who is just neglecting their health to the point simple personal self grooming can't be handled.
Abzstrak@reddit
Yeah that's not what OP explained at all though
Express-Studio-8302@reddit
OP didnt really explain anything. They said he was overweight. How'd he become overweight? Theres a lot of judgement in this thread about his weight and we really have no idea how he ended there.
The comment I was replying to called out something like an injury. Which could also be an issue. Injured or sick people often cant move well and thus gain weight.
Some people just DGAF and drink 4 super gulps a day.
Of course this just assume anything in the OP is real. Im convinced 99.99% of all content is all fake or misleading.
Rushedhomeroughyn@reddit
Down votes in 3…2…1… 😂
CanadianExiled@reddit
I'm 330lbs, down from 410. I've always done my own grooming unless I'm with someone who wants my back to be smooth, I can't reach back there so they need to shave that spot.
cosmoboy@reddit
No. I can still do it and honestly the idea that I might need someone else to is going to get me on my Peloton.
Alternative-Hurry287@reddit
I’d rather be dead than ask for such a thing. FFS basic personal grooming and hygiene are my own responsibility.
Such-Kaleidoscope147@reddit
Nope. He is just being lazy.
Cantseetheline_Russ@reddit
If you can’t cut your own toenails, you are WAYYYY more than “a little overweight.”
kadyg@reddit
Hell nah! Everything below his shoulders is his responsibility.
I’m not a complete monster though: I brush and braid his hair most days (it’s long and we both like it), and trim/pluck his wild Scottish eyebrows.
Comfortable-Help9587@reddit
Bad naked with my foot on the bathroom sink.
clementynemurphy@reddit
My man is pretty fit. But I like doing his toes for him because he likes it. And I can tell by the shape that growing up he just randomly cut them all the time. So I like his little toes to be nice and rounded evenly. He likes to wear flip flops a lot...
Cheoah@reddit
Honey, is that you?!?!?
clementynemurphy@reddit
Ha, no! And I realized after I commented that it was a question for you guys lol
ToughCareer4293@reddit
It’s not even about being overweight. I’m 57 and there’s just nothing wrong with self-care after years of having to do for everyone else. I like to get a professional manicure and pedicure: 1) because it’s harder to get a the right cutting angle thanks to rickety joints and 2) because it’s a nice experience to have someone do a better job than I could.
lushlanes@reddit
This, I even get my toenails painted. Great conversation starter in the summer months.
ToughCareer4293@reddit
Yes! Dark tropical green is my toenail go-to color or something in an aqua-related color if I know I’m going to be spending a lot of time in water.
No-Hospital559@reddit
Nope, I guess I am not as overweight as I thought.
Appropriate-Idea5281@reddit
Not overweight but no way. Have some together time and go get a pedicure.
OpeningFuture6799@reddit
I cut my own nails. I would feel comfortable asking someone else.
FuturamaRama7@reddit
Take him to the podiatrist- they will cut them properly and check for any issues.
ONROSREPUS@reddit
I have seen how my wife cuts her nails. I don't want her to touch mine. I would have bloody nubs. You a very helpful person.
drunkenknitter@reddit
When/if the time ever comes that my husband and I are unable to maintain our own toenails, we'll go get pedicures.
BertaRocks@reddit
Fun fact. Diabetics are not supposed to get pedicures and podiatrist charge like $60 just to trim toenails, no pampering involved.
Majestic-Explorer-76@reddit
nail trims by podiatrists are often covered by insurance, which is much more ideal than having another older person do them
One-Rip2593@reddit
There wasn’t really a predisposition to lung cancer before cigarettes. Just sayin.
drunkenknitter@reddit
Luckily neither my husband nor myself are genetically predisposed to diabetes, nor does our bloodwork indicate that diabetes in imminent. But thanks for the heads up on the cost for podiatry; we'll add that figure to our retirement speadsheet.
jitterbugperfume99@reddit
Hey some insurances cover it! PS love your username, fellow knitter.
RedRapunzal@reddit
Take him to a pro nail person. They may notice issues before you do.
Phobos1982@reddit
No way dude. I cut my own nails.
OldSlug@reddit
My father goes to the podiatrist to have his toenails cut, but my mom (a staunch feminist who doesn’t believe in traditional gender roles) would’ve trimmed them for him when they were married if he needed it, because partners do things to help each other. It’s not inherently demeaning or dehumanizing.
EducationalRule1425@reddit
I would NEVER cut his toenails or do anything to anyone's feet. I hate feet! 🤮 He can go get a pedicure or go to a podiatrist. I ain't doing it! LOL
Ok-Entertainment5045@reddit
You sound like my wife
EducationalRule1425@reddit
😂😂
Acrobatic_Present613@reddit
Nope. Nope. Nope.
I would feel creepy as hell having someone else cut my toenails.
MaryAnnZhlotnik@reddit
PSA that is slightly unrelated: cut your toenails after a bath or long shower. The hot water softens your nails a bit making cutting them 100 times easier to cut.
beyondplutola@reddit
Get a good pair of Japanese nail clippers and it won’t matter if they’re soft or not.
omysweede@reddit
We are both above average, and in my family we have always done each others toe nails so I am a bit of a pedicurist myself. I like doing it.
However, my wife raved over her nail guy where she goes for manicures every couple of weeks, so I booked an appointment.
Yeah this. Is. The. Way.
I will go to a nail salon from now on. My heels are like babies feet.
altblank@reddit
mom used to do that for dad. i've also trimmed his toenails a couple times.
if asked, i don't mind cutting my wife's toenails (and i know it's OK the other way around too). but thankfully, no need to just yet.
i think it's pretty common that family takes care of family, even across generations. it's sort of endearing in today's nuclear family situation, i think.
Full_Mission7183@reddit
Family life isn't always pretty, and looks different from house to house in the same neighborhood.
I do not think this is an always yes or always no type of situation, sometimes life just makes some unsavory things reality.
genghis_Sean3@reddit
My wife - God bless that woman
TinyPinkSparkles@reddit
I cut my wife’s toenails. I’m better at it than she is.
(I am also a woman.)
bernardfarquart@reddit
My knees hurt from standing up for ten hours a day over thirty years, and I have about 30 extra pounds, but I sit down and tend to my own hygiene and grooming because I'm not a little bitch. Make that fat fuc go get a pedicure at the nail salon.
UKophile@reddit
NOT.
Independent_Fox8656@reddit
Um… no. Ew.
If he can’t reach his own toes to cut his own, that’s a major red flag for numerous health issues. Be careful making life easier for him in that state.
AlmiranteCrujido@reddit
I'm more than a "little" overweight, and have no trouble cutting my toenails.
I also have an old injury that means I can only cross my legs one way (left over right) and it's a bit less convenient to get to my right foot, and I manage just fine.
This sounds like your husband is just asking you to pamper him.
Amateur_TimeTraveler@reddit
Omg do not cut your husband’s toenails. He is a grown man. Maybe not being able to cut his own toenails will make him consider getting off his ass
happyme321@reddit
My boomer dad is overweight and asked me to cut his toenails. Hell No! I did get him a gift certificate for a pedicure and he loved it. Someone who gets paid to do that kind of thing and also massages the legs can do it. I'm not married, but I'd do the same if a spouse asked me to cut his nails.
someguymark@reddit
You might ask your (his) GP/PCP to refer you to the podiatry section of your care provider/doctor’s, if they have one.
Our local provider will cut toenails & inspect feet of diabetics, or others with neuropathy, at no charge. Otherwise, for anyone else it’s just the copay.
However, they don’t do massages!
onherwayupcoast@reddit
A friend of mine has a monthly pedicure date with her dad. It’s a lovely way for them to spend time together and help keep him mobile.
heruskael@reddit
No, she can't run the angle grinder precisely enough.
Stardro@reddit
She'll start thinking about the dirty laundry on the floor or something you did/didn't do 5 yrs ago and it'll be a toe clipping.
heruskael@reddit
Unfair. When a man says he's gonna do something, he's gonna do it. She didn't need to nag me every 6 months.
Mwvnova@reddit
JFC I didn’t realize this was a thing. Thanks for the weight loss encouragement
relikter@reddit
And here I am thinking I'm weird because I go into my back yard to clip my nails and just let the clippings fly off into the grass.
PrincessMagDump@reddit
My husband cut his toe nails into the landscaping off the front porch of a vacation bungalow on Phu Quoc and a trail of ants immediately came to carry away the clippings.
Scary_Possible3583@reddit
What foreign foot funk is this, must take it back to the queen!
Scary_Possible3583@reddit
Thank you!
My husband trims his over the trash can, but his dragon nails sometimes fly!
ddraig74@reddit
Yes! I’m not the only one!
ArcaneElement@reddit
I make my son do that. He and my husband have crazy strong nails that grow way too fast.
Gloomy-Mammoth-8230@reddit
No, that’s the only way to do it!! lol
lAngenoire@reddit
There are places full of people who will cut your toenails. You can also get medical pedicures from a podiatrist. Absolutely not. Until he can no longer get out of the house unassisted it’s a no.
JeahbyJobe@reddit
Go get pedicure
SBInCB@reddit
Meh. I think that’s where I got the toe fungus that I thought was skin cancer at first. No thanks.
FlatulousStanko@reddit
Find a clean one. It's not difficult to judge at all, just read reviews. One near me offers free drinks too, so I usual get a good buzz with my massage. And since toenails grow slow, I only need to go once a month. Worth it.
GroundbreakingRip970@reddit
This is the answer. He gets a foot massage and someone else trims his toes. Winning!
LisaOGiggle@reddit
I would, he won’t allow it. I’d prefer a pedicure, but I do my own.
My very late GenX friend—when his wife was confined to bed whilst pregnant—trimmed and polished her toenails, helped her shave her legs, carried her back and forth to the shower. (BIG dude. Sweet as honey.) Said—I caused this, I can at least make it easier for her.
Grouchy_Vet@reddit
That is so beautiful. What a wonderful spouse
LisaOGiggle@reddit
I dated his dad…who is generous and kind and funny…but his son is god tier as a husband.
Taodragons@reddit
Big fat guy here and......absolutely not. She absolutely would but, I'd never ask. I'm already borderline unfuckable lol
Scary_Possible3583@reddit
Thank you for remembering this fact ... So important as we get older. My husband is height weight appropriate, but his level of domestic incompetence makes him borderline unfuckable at times.
tlgexlibris@reddit
I don’t like feet, but my husband cuts his father’s toenails and fingernails and files them smooth.
DallasMotherFucker@reddit
Hell no. I would never ask and would probably turn it down if offered. If I became incapable of reaching any part of my body, that would be a wake-up call it’s time to lose weight and/or work on my flexibility, even if that meant PT or some other medical or professional help.
hmmmpf@reddit
I cut my husband’s toenails, but he has Parkinson’s Disease and has dystonia and tremors that prevent him from doing it.
LayerNo3634@reddit
That's completely acceptable, that's part of the "in sickness and in health." A "little" overweight and can't should be a major wake up call. That's lazy, not illness!
unicornshenanigator@reddit
I would absolutely do it if my partner couldn’t because of illness.
BraveG365@reddit
You can get those like little chainsaw nail grinders.....tape it to the end of a long stick and let him go at it....that away you don't have to cut them for him.
ointmant555@reddit
I bought my husband a really good set of Japanese clippers. That helps him between pedi appointments. Our pedicurist has a lot of older male clients, it’s normal. He loves going!
AceBH13@reddit
I have a bad hip. I can do my left but not my right foot. Wife helps me with right foot. I am grateful. I do rub her feet an average of 45 min a day per year while we watch tv. So she is definitely getting the better deal lol
ineedlotsofguns@reddit
“a little overweight” is such an understatement for someone needs their spouse to cut their toenails lol
Majestic-Explorer-76@reddit
Older people, men and women should be going to a nail salon and getting regular pedicures.
Dirt-Track_Pinto@reddit
This
Impressive_Duck_3569@reddit
I'm GenX, but my husband is a Boomer. Every 3 weeks, I cut his toenails, exfoliate his feet and legs, etc - basically a full pedicure. Even when someone gave him a gift certificate for a pedicure, he had me cut his toenails before he went bc he doesn't trust anyone else to do it. I don't mind one bit. The man works so hard and treats me like a queen. So, he's not had to cut his own toenails for the past 20 years. It's the least I can do after all he does for me.
Choice-Lingonberry-5@reddit
Nobody, but nobody, touches my feet. Furthermore, I question the sanity of anyone who would want to.
gogomom@reddit
I did, not because my husband was overweight, but he was dying from cancer and he didn't have the ability to bend over like that anymore.
There are all sorts of things I did for a sick person that I would have scoffed at doing before he got sick.
TenuousOgre@reddit
I’m a bigger guy but cut my own. I stretch to maintain flexibility. It’s the knee that needs surgery. So tomorrow’s hike through Chichén Itzá will go well I’m sure.
ApatheistHeretic@reddit
270 here, but I can still pull my feet up as needed.
The only thing my wife has to do for me is run the clippers through my back hair periodically.
LayerNo3634@reddit
No. Time to do yoga for flexibility and address food to lose weight. I cut my own even when pregnant. Husband does his. We're not THAT old.
Pragmatic_Hedonist@reddit
My husband could do it himself, but we get pedicures regularly. He really enjoys it!
catfurcoat@reddit
Not Gen x, but I work with disabled older adults.
If you do it, he'll lose the ability to do it for himself at all. He was to keep trying, even if it's hard.
Known_anonymously_as@reddit
“A little overweight” should still be able to cut their own toenails. Morbidly obese maybe? I’m 6’1 and 210 and that’s “a little overweight.” And I cut my own toenails without any issues.
Foggyswamp74@reddit
I am 5'5" and 270 and I can cut my toenails no problem.
Impressive-Shame-525@reddit
Dude I'm 5'9 and 250. Granted I was a power lifter but I don't have that much muscle on me
And no way in hell would I ask my wife to cut my toenails.
I'd get one of those temu belt sanders stick it on the floor and use that before I let her cut my toenails.
Top-Order-2878@reddit
I'm the same size and have screwed up my back, hips, knees and ankles.
I still cut my own.
Even being wheel chair bound for 4 months I was able to cut my own. I was probably closer to 235 then.
TalFidelis@reddit
6’ 215 here. I consider myself “a little overweight”. But I can cut my own toenails just fine. It’s the back hair I can’t reach.
galumphix@reddit
Oh HELL no
Murky_Possibility_68@reddit
He just got a fancy rechargeable (pet) nail clipper.
axolotl_fart@reddit
Depending where you are and what your health insurance is like, he might want to visit a podiatrist for a “cut and trim”
GinormousHippo458@reddit
And this is why health insurance is unaffordable. Used to cut *ucking toe nails. Gen X is better than this.
axolotl_fart@reddit
If you have the insurance, use it :).
Hab_Anagharek@reddit
Uh, no, this is not why health insurance is unaffordable.
GinormousHippo458@reddit
But it's sure part of the plot.
PsychologicalLab6637@reddit
I don't touch my partners feet but I do take care of my dads toe nails every few weeks. I actually give him a full pedicure. He loves it and I don't mind doing it for him.
lewisfairchild@reddit
TIL
Talking80s@reddit
I do it. For a big guy, I’m REALLY flexible. I’d never in a million years ask my wife to trim my toenails unless it was medically impossible for me to do so and even then, I’d go get a pedicure instead.
Spiritual_Sail_8969@reddit
Pedicures!
SkirtTheBudgie@reddit
My husband won't let anyone touch his feet.
WeirdcoolWilson@reddit
We go get pedicures
AnnaMPiranha@reddit
My husband has spinal stenosis, spina bifida occulta with a tethered cord, and his artificial hip is a lot less flexible that his other one, so I do trim his toenails on the side of the robot hip. He puts lotion on my back. It evens out.
Rags2Riches420@reddit
I admit it's a pain sometimes, but what I usually do is do it right out of the shower. Put my foot up on the counter. It's a lot easier that way.
WontRememberThisID@reddit
My husband and I were each \~100 lb overweight at some point in our marriage - no longer now - but I’ve never cut his toenails, nor he mine, even when I was pregnant. If he’s that overweight, he needs to work on slimming down.
lascriptori@reddit
My husband would have to be, like, paraplegic or recovering from a devastating injury to ask me to clip his toenails. I would do it if he were genuinely physically incapable. Otherwise fuck no.
LumpyAd6108@reddit
i am little overweight.
i usually get a pedicure once a month and tip generously.
space_wiener@reddit
No chance. Ever.
Also “a little bit overweight”? You’d have either be injured or well into the obese category to not be able to reach your feet.
Beetso@reddit
At my heaviest I topped out at 5'8" 307. I was still easily able to cut my own toenails. That is definitely a lot more than a little overweight. Unless your husband is even fatter than that he has no excuse.
Former-Crazy-9224@reddit
I love my husband dearly but I am not cutting anyone’s toenails. He can go to a podiatrist or a nail salon!
UpstartCrow88@reddit
There is no fucking way.
SnooOnions973@reddit
I mean you’d be surprised where, when and how people decide to shed their spare keratin. The guy whose office was next to mine for about 5 years used to religiously clip his nails at about 7:36am once a week or more…. Which is weird because he generally didn’t come to work so early (I had to be on the desk by 7am).
So, just when the office is so silent, peaceful, almost…. No one around except overworked analysts and cleaners. So literally nothing, absolutely no other sound could be used to explain that caustic sound from his office, regularly as his 3pm farts…. A resounding… C.L.I.C.K… C.L.I.C.K……… (and you knew it was going to be a rich chop, if the click halted at the very beginning… you could hear that level of… juicy cheese-filled-resistance… and then the revolting resolution of the ….record-breaking “C.L.I.C.K MUTHAFUCKAH”. Usually j m y co-worker would stop then.
AND THEN HE INEVITABLY-DECIDED NOW WOULD BE A GOOD POINT TO CLOSE HIS DOOR.
So yeah, it’s weird. I still think about that toe cheese Gorgonzola smelling man.
Extension-Rabbit3654@reddit
Cmon dude, little overweight? I think id have to be in a body cast before I let my SO do that
IndependentMethod312@reddit
Nope. Not at all. My husband is a bit overweight and he has never asked. If he was hurt or bedridden or something I would do it but just as regular hygiene, he can manage himself.
joshua_addison_music@reddit
My wife has cut mine before, just because it’s easier. Maybe 1 or 2 outta 10 times.
jk_pens@reddit
You’ve only cut your toenails 10 times since getting married?
joshua_addison_music@reddit
No 🙄. Every 10 times I cut them, about 20% of the time my wife helped.
Sweaty-Society7582@reddit
In the case of an inevitable zombie apocalypse one may find that the ability to quickly climb a tree to be a safe option.
cindoc75@reddit
Absolutely fucking not! 🤢
Itchy-Butt-hole-@reddit
I'd rather chop my toes off than have my girl cut my nails!
LuckyAd2714@reddit
Idk but I would not. He can go to the nail shop
punktualPorcupine@reddit
Wow. Nope. Never have I ever been that inflexible.
I guess if it ever got to that point I’d start getting pedicures or something. At least they’re get paid and tipped.
But no, never my wife.
FlyAdministrative886@reddit
This comment thread is why I always say humans would be extinct if we had to base our mates on our feet and how they look 😂
DreadGrrl@reddit
My husband is fit and in fantastic shape, but he (and I) both work the same physically demanding job. Some days we’re so sore we can barely move. I have no problem cutting his toenails for him if he needs help. He has no problem cutting mine if I need help.
We help each other with whatever is needed. After reading some of these comments I’m even more thankful that we somehow found each other in this world.
AnUnexpectedUnicorn@reddit
Yuck, no. I can reach my own toenails just fine but I get pedicures cuz I'm not good at getting them even. I would tell anyone else in my house to go to the nail salon or podiatrist too.
infinitynull@reddit
Foot care is definitely something that the elderly struggle with. Most care homes have someone to do this for tenants as they're unable to care for themselves.
I was 230 and starting to struggle with that myself. My mobility was really poor and it caused quite a lot of pain to bend over and cut my toenails. I can believe it might be something your partner genuinely struggles with. I'm down to 180 now but still have a ton of tightness in my hips and it's still painful to bend over and cut my nails. I do it because I have to.
I can't speak to your relationship with your spouse though. Is it, "serve me", or is it, "I suffer doing this myself, can you help me?" That's something you have to decide.
Top_Condition_6390@reddit
Obese people go to the Podiatrist.
Silver-Squirrel@reddit
Have him put his foot up on the toilet seat or sit down on a set of stairs
vaspost@reddit
My father in-law would go to the VA to have his toe nails clipped. 🙈
LolaAucoin@reddit
Hey, at least he got it done. That’s what they’re there for.
tia2181@reddit
But likely age or diabetes related vs obesity..
Flamingogo117@reddit
I'm very overweight and I cut my own toenails
kingForOneDay@reddit
If you get to the point where your weight makes it difficult to trim your toenails, it's time to change something
LordTegucigalpa@reddit
No. we get pedicures together
Guardsred70@reddit
What?
I would drown myself in an unflushed commode before asking my wife to cut my toenails.
I mean, I just don't get it. Once you turn that bend as a person, I don't see the point of even being here.
slfnflctd@reddit
To me, it all hinges on what the underlying medical issue(s) causing this are.
Obviously, everyone's jumping to "he's fat and brought it on himself, what a terrible person" which I kinda get, but there may be more to it than that, we don't know.
Regardless, there are a lot of ways people can end up in this kind of situation. Be careful with your words. My partner and I have both had major surgeries, and were willing to take care of each other afterwards to some extent. "I don't see the point of even being here" is a pretty extreme response to something most couples eventually have to face if they live long enough. Not everyone can pay someone else to do it for them.
Each situation is different and should be judged on its own.
Guardsred70@reddit
I don’t disagree. I’m just saying I’d rather die than ask my sexual partner to help me with my toenails.
Few-Pineapple-5632@reddit
No. Eeuuuw
NelsonMuntz3@reddit
I would cut my own toes off before inflicting that upon my wife.
snarlywino@reddit
This is why I have started getting pedicures in my 50s.
Stardro@reddit
This makes me so sad reading the comments. My spouse is not even close to overweight but his back was hurting the other day because we busted ass doing yard work and he has mad arthritis in every joint. He was clipping his toenails later that evening and it obviously hurt bending. Damn right I offered to clip them for him. Gtf over yourselves and wash your hands after. Broken or chubby I will happily clip his toenails.
LolaAucoin@reddit
That’s a completely different scenario. Eating until you can’t perform basic functions is a fucking problem. I’m not going to be someone’s mommy because they’re a glutton who can’t control their daily caloric intake.
ScabRabbit@reddit
Weight gain isn’t always about overeating. There are medical issues, medications, injuries, and a lot of other factors. Assuming ‘gluttony’ is a pretty big leap. Regardless of the reason, helping your partner with something they physically can’t do isn’t ‘parenting,’ it’s just care.
LolaAucoin@reddit
Uh huh. Everyone on Reddit who is obese has some deeper “medical condition” and eats like a bird. It’s quite the coincidence!
Stardro@reddit
I have gained 80 lbs over our marriage due to mobility issues and simple cruel genetics with aging. He pushes me but also is there to meet my limitations and I meet his. Weight isn't always about calories. If he was eating and sedentary to the point you mention; I would still clip his toenails while simultaneously pushing for better mental health. This goes way beyond toenails but I would still do it because at the end of the day it's 5 min for me to help him; that's not mommying.
Calm_Distance8618@reddit
Yep, same. My husband works his ass off. I'm happy to help.
Prestigious_Buy_6433@reddit
This. Yes
No-Country6348@reddit
Absolutely no
Embarrassed-Oil3127@reddit
What? No. And you know this. Come on girl. It’s not common in our generation or any generation.
ClaireHux@reddit
What the hell?
No. Honey, just no.
2boredtocare@reddit
Good god, no! Nor would I ever expect my spouse to do such a thing (even when I was pregnant)
General_Ad_6617@reddit
Absolutely not!
One-Rip2593@reddit
What? No! Ew!
DevilMan17dedZ@reddit
Bingo!!! No toes. No nails. No problem.
wendx33@reddit
Dude 🤣🤣 this was my exact response!
pasafa@reddit
Can’t he just go get a pedicure and pay someone?
Maccadawg@reddit
I just vomited.
No one should ask someone else to cut their toenails. And preferably, people should not be so outsized they can't cut their own toenails.
Back to vomitting.
Sufficient_Space8484@reddit
Gross…….
Actual_Efficiency_98@reddit
I was much thinner a few years ago and have become overweight. Think around 170 to 210+. While I have noticed it is much harder to do bend over my belly, I still do my own nail cutting.
twigs1404@reddit
Not commonplace
Dense-Consequence-70@reddit
This reminds me of the Louie CK bit about how putting on his socks is the worst part of his day.
jk_pens@reddit
Fucking socks
MajYoshi@reddit
Seriously. Fuck socks.
I'll deal with chasms of dried skin cracks on the back of my heels before wearing ever wearing socks.
APWildlife@reddit
The moment I am too fat to cut my own toenails, is the moment I realize it's time to go on a diet and make some lifestyle changes.
Potential_Lie_1177@reddit
If he became handicapped ok, but probably as long as I can afford it, probably send him for a pedicure.
If he is too fat and there is no reason why he can't lose weight, absolutely no, cut back on food and spend some time on the treadmill. I have enough to do as it is. Even when I was 9 month pregnant I cut my own.
tango421@reddit
I trim my own. Definitely overweight, that said it’s an improvement from obese.
I also injured my right leg and foot on separate unrelated occasions, so it’s difficult to bend towards it. I mean my belly gets in the way when I trim on my left but my right side is harder to manage.
Still trim my own toenails though.
burgundycoffeebean@reddit
my husband and I go on pedicures dates together.
Ceorl_Lounge@reddit
No, I love her too much.
bugabooandtwo@reddit
Hell no. I can see someone in their 70s or 80s needing help, but not Gen X age.
Simply being overweight is not an excuse....and honestly, it should be a wakeup call for him to drop some weight.
10202632@reddit
I would never I’d go for a pedicure before I’d ask her to do that.
jk_pens@reddit
I can’t imagine asking my wife to do mine, but it has definitely gotten a bit more challenging with age and weight gain…
TheVioletEmpire@reddit
I could never let myself get that overweight.
Calm_Distance8618@reddit
My husband has back issues from working on the house, I happily do what he needs, a little lotion and cut the nails. It's just feet ya'll.
Ancient_Star_111@reddit
Gross 🤮
LolaAucoin@reddit
Nothing would dry up my vagina faster.
Sitcom_kid@reddit
super fat and hand crippled but I still cut my own. I don't think they turn out perfect, but it's better than nothing
WordCount2@reddit
I wouldn’t do it, sorry. There’s more than just cutting toenails! Nor would I ask him to cut mine. I have a professional pedicure at least once a month and I enjoy it so much that I recommended he have one as well. He finally consented to having a pedicure and now he loves it.
PeriwinkleWonder@reddit
It's time to suggest mounjaro or zepbound to you husband.
FormCheck655321@reddit
“Wash my feet? Nah. The water will get it.” 🙄
Narrow-Hall8070@reddit
I’m a fat POS but would never ask my wife to cut my toenails
Twisty12223@reddit
Toes give me the creeps. Weird little fugly things. I maintain mine but refuse to touch anyone else.
The_Wild_Bunch@reddit
I agree. Can't stand toes.
Pho3nixr3dux@reddit
Pretty female toes? Yum!
My toes? I'd rather have flippers.
fbombmom_@reddit
I did not sign up to give pedicures in my marriage vows. I would do it if my husband were disabled through no fault of his own, but if he ate himself into disability, he'll need to figure that out himself.
We both have the gift of self awareness. If our weight causes us issues, like being out of breath or clothes just don't fit, we both take steps to rein it in. His dad was morbidly obese, and my mom is a lifelong fad dieter. Because of that we both believe in taking personal responsibility for our weight. His dad passed away from colon cancer that couldn't be operated on because he was so overweight and his heart couldn't handle the surgery. My mom currently looks like an ozempic skeleton and her hip replacement keeps coming out.
FormCheck655321@reddit
Dude. What???
I would set myself on fire before asking my wife to do that for me.
nevermore90038@reddit
Make a date for you and him to get a pedicure every 6 weeks. It's so relaxing. Normalize men getting pedicures.
formercotsachick@reddit
If he can't cut his own toenails his weight has become something he needs to address.
The time for an intervention has come and passed, because I can't imagine he's not experiencing other health issues and/or lifestyle difficulties, which will only get worse as he ages. If you're already doing these kind of caregiver duties, I can assure there are many more of them to come in your future. I guess it's up to you to decide if that's the kind of life you want to live for the next 20 years.
FruitOfTheVineFruit@reddit
Definitely indicates a problem. See this study: Predicting catastrophic decline in mobility among older people
pkrkbk@reddit
If you love someone you will do anything for them. It may not be something you want to do, but are there limits to love? You love them bad or good, skinny or overweight, young or old, sick or healthy.
Nobody does anything alone- we all got here on a road someone else paved. Fyi- I do the trimming because I have better eyes and fine motor skills. Wounds on the foot are no joke
Stardro@reddit
Thank you!! 🙌
so2017@reddit
I cut my dad’s toenails when he was in his 80’s. It was just part of a broader part of care.
Xryanlegobob@reddit
Bruh
Manalagi001@reddit
My aunt would do this for my uncle. He was not overweight.
filmAF@reddit
i am a bachelor and cut my own nails. however, i have had girlfriends cut my fingernails in the past and quite enjoyed it.
KindheartednessOnly4@reddit
My sister told me I’d never have a husband if I didn’t doctor his bo-bo’s or cut his toenails. Ig she was right, bc I’m 58 and still single 🤷🏼♀️
formercotsachick@reddit
I would like to introduce myself to your sister, a woman who had been happily married for going on 32 years who doesn't do any of that for her husband.
littlemsshiny@reddit
That’s terrible advice.
Hotsaucejimmy@reddit
Mobility is essential to longevity, independence, and hygiene.
Touch your toes.
9for9@reddit
I made a similar comment. She should not indulge this shit. He needs to lose weight, work on his flexibility and mobility and get physical therapy if he can't figure it out in his own.
If he doesn't his mobility and loss of function will get worse making him more dependent and shortening his life.
Ramona_Lola@reddit
It looks like you have your answer OP. Brave of you to have asked so…points!!
Mattturley@reddit
I have severe nerve damage and vascular issues in both legs, along with having inherited my dad’s in grown toenails. If I would have asked my ex husband to trim my toenails, the divorce would have been much faster. I am supposed to go to a podiatrist, but that is at the bottom of my list of issues. I manage. It takes me about 6 hours to get both feet done, and every toe will bleed. The right leg is the challenge as I fell on a hip implant and fractured my femur into 19 pieces and now have a second new hip, an 18” titanium rod, 5 cables, and seven screws holding it all together.
If I can do it, he can do it.
Several-Squirrel654@reddit
When I was 9 months pregnant with sciatica I was able to cut my toe nails.
yayayagilliganhell@reddit
I cut my own nails, always have.
flixguy440@reddit
Even when some would consider me obese, I never had my wife cut my toenails. I muddled through. I lost significant weight, so it's easier now, but still. Just no.
Sufficient_Stop8381@reddit
I’m typical middle age overweight but no one but me has ever touched my toenails. I would never ask my wife to do that or any other personal hygiene activity for me.
Ok_Drawing_1762@reddit
The only time I would ask my wife to cut my toenails is if we were sitting opposite in a large soaking tub, both armed with clippers. 25 years and counting.
MagnumPIsMoustache@reddit
That’s weird. Even if you’re overweight, can’t you cross your leg and put your foot on your lap?
gp66@reddit
Nope. End-stage osteoarthritis in hip.
Paperwife2@reddit
There’s not much lap to work with.
9for9@reddit
Do not accommodate this shit. He needs to lose weight and work on his flexibility. This kind of loss of function is something that should be resisted not accommodated because it only leads to increased loss of function.
HermioneMarch@reddit
I love my husband but no way am I cutting his toenails. Get a pedi or go to the podiatrist.
AbsintheRedux@reddit
Hubs is just got a few extra lbs on, nothing critical but if he was super heavy I would definitely keep an eye on on his toes and get him into my monthly pedicure routine. I would worry about diabetes if he was that heavy and all the bad things that happen to the feet because of that.
Illustrious_Study_30@reddit
Oh my good god no...and I was a nurse for many years.
Sorry but if he's too fat he'll have to lose weight. People becoming incapable because they don't look after themselves is not my idea of a healthy relationship. If that was due to illness it's a different matter.
bigredroyaloak@reddit
Hell to the no. If he’s only a lil overweight then he can put his foot on the toilet seat and clip those bad boys right into the basin. If he’s actually obese and can’t do that he should see a podiatrist.
HomerSectual@reddit
This. Just eewwww.
wandernwade@reddit
I cut my own. My husband cuts his own, but not as often. There was a time (much earlier in the marriage) where I would “give him a pedicure”. I thought of it as grooming, like a monkey does. Now, I have no desire. LOL (Been together about 30 years)
SmokeyFrank@reddit
I have spastic leg muscles and last had nails trimmed by a podiatrist (59M at the time).
planty_pepperomia@reddit
I’m sorry, but thank God I’m single
jmg733mpls@reddit
Ewwwwwwwweee
FangioDuReverdy1@reddit
No way. If he can’t cut his own toenails there’s a bigger problem
H-is-for-Hopeless@reddit
Not a chance. I'm 300 lbs and there's no way I would even ask my wife to do that. My personal hygiene is my responsibility, not hers.
SouthernTrauma@reddit
It's 2026. Who isn't getting pedicures??? Jewz, even my 88 year old dad gets pedicures.
DeeLite04@reddit
If you can’t cut your own toe nails then the issue isn’t the nails.
HonestOcto@reddit
This is why there are nail salons and podiatrist! He'll ask can you look at this? I'll look and say do this or go to the doctor. Choice is his after that..!
Disastrous_Cream_539@reddit
Does this mean that if I can still manage my toenails I'm not that fat?
notquitesolid@reddit
I believe in if you don’t use it you lose it. It may not be easy for him but it’s better that he cuts his own toenails. It’s not good to not be able to reach your ow feet.
danby999@reddit
I would use my belt sander or bench grinder before asking my wife to do such a thing.
DrKlahnsRightHandMan@reddit
There's no way I'm letting my wife get an up close look at my feet. I want her to stay. It has become difficult to do myself as I've gotten fatter. I have to hold my breath and dive in. I clip as much as I can, come up for air, then repeat until it's done.
Zealousideal-Law2189@reddit
My parents had a standing mani-pedi appointment to preserve their marriage. Mom didn’t mind if dad got a little thrill when Angel did his toes 🤣
digitalsparks@reddit
Like any civilized GenX, I go to the salon and get a pedicure. And if needed, I cut my own.
DKBeahn@reddit
Nope. Even when I was morbidly obese I cut my own toenails.
Open_Appointment1091@reddit
I (58M), am disabled with fused lower back and overweight, and I can still cut my own toenails.
Paperwife2@reddit
Everyone heals differently. I have a fusion too but it took years of rehab before I could reach my feet again.
Open_Appointment1091@reddit
I sit in a recliner and bring my feet to me. I’ll never be able to bend over again, walk with a cane now. I’ve never recovered after 5 years.
auntiecoagulent@reddit
Ew. No
DismalBumbleWank@reddit
How difficult are we talking here? I get the sense you think he's giving up too easy. He should fight that mindset or he will age quick imo.
spsled@reddit
Yes. That is sign or possible symptom of bigger issues.
Positive_Chip6198@reddit
They kinda just exist somewhere down there (im divorced). I learned to not take off my shoes and socks at the beach on account of the screams of the innocents.
Sonoran_Dog70@reddit
I have a bad back and a little overweight. It makes cutting them a chore but I have a system and it gets done. I go outside with a bucket of warm water, sit down and soak my feet for a good 10-15 minutes then prop one foot at a time on another chair in front of me and get to work. It’s much easier to trim after a soak.
I see someone mentioned getting a pedicure. I might look into that.
spsled@reddit
Cut my own. 5’9, heaviest I got was 230. But if the poor fella is having a hard time doing it or can’t, that is def a tell tale sign to improve his health. Stretching, etc.
MaximumJones@reddit
dehydratedrain@reddit
My husband made it to the 330s (150kg), now lower 200s (105 kg), and I have NEVER trimmed his toenails.
Traditional_Land_553@reddit
I am a little overweight (6'5" 230), but my main issue with getting to my toes is horrible lower back problems.
Sometimes I can get there myself and sometimes I can't. So, about twice a year, I'll go for a pedicure. Had my first one 11 years ago. I was in Iowa for my nieces wedding. My wife and another niece were going for mani/pedis before the wedding. I figured "why not."
I tell you, guys. Women are keeping this a secret from you. Go get one. They're amazing. Your feet have never felt as good as they will when you walk out of there.
guzzijason@reddit
Yeah, sorry... if I ever got to the point of obesity where I couldn't cut my own nails, that just means I've given up on life completely. At that point, my toenails would be the least of my problems.
Beagleguy26@reddit
The wife's maid. Or the Thursday swing maid if the other maid is off.
Of course I cut my own fucking toenails. Good God.
Having two Professional Wipers standing by 24/7, that's a different story (here come the RedditThink bidet people).
Roddy_Piper2000@reddit
If the dude is medically incapable due to back or leg problems, that's one thing.
If it's because his gut is too big? I would suggest that he go get a pedicure. Ideally he should start walking to the nearest nail salon. If he isn't willing to tackle the weight then I'd ask him to make sure his life insurance premiums are paid up. Dudes in their 50s with too much visceral fat are prime candidates for cardiac, kidney, liver failure.
Toenails should be the least of his worries
Paperwife2@reddit
Actually since he’s obese he is probably more likely to have type 2 diabetes so foot care is really important, but I’d be telling him to tackle the weight issue and go get a pedicure too.
Potential-Drawing745@reddit
My wife and I cut each others' toenails.
happycj@reddit
Pedicures, baby. The salon I go to also does amazing leg and foot massages as a part of the $35 service, and I get a free Vietnamese iced tea, too!
Dudes, if you aren’t getting pedicures once a month, make time for it. This is one of those quality of life things you don’t even know about. Chilling for 45 mins, nails come out perfect, feet and legs happy, and a nice little caffeine buzz.
Ain’t nothing wrong with any of that!
Blankbetty11@reddit
Isn’t it just shocking how cheap a pedicure is? I wouldn’t do all that for $100 and a gallon of Purell. Hopefully you tip well, I always do.
happycj@reddit
$20 tip. Every time.
fuckreddit-69@reddit
I cut my own but I have a bad back (surgery) so it's hard to bend down. They end up looking like someone took a weed Wacker to them. I would highly suggest getting a pedicure once every couple of months. Don't put your wife through that( unless she truly enjoys it) That's what I do.
BR1M570N3@reddit
Pardon my Spanish, but, no fucking way. I'm 6' tall and 310lbs and I would never ask my wife to cut my toenails or do anything else for me, for that matter, because of my weight.
The_Existentialist@reddit
Gen XXXL
TXtogo@reddit
We never gave a fk about nothing and we still don’t.
TheSwedishEagle@reddit
Weird.
Paperwife2@reddit
I’ve had spine surgeries and my husband cut and put nail polish on mine when I was recovering and couldn’t do it myself. I went to get pedicures once I was feeling up to it, but I really appreciated him caring for me.
One-Result1187@reddit
Send him to get his own pedicure.
TXtogo@reddit
I peel them with my fingers and flick them at the dog
It’s a game we play
/s
Temporary_Lab_3964@reddit
Nope. Would never.
mjcostel27@reddit
This is the most disturbing post I’ve ever seen in this sub.
ElJefe0218@reddit
I can bite my own toe nails, no clippers needed.
GinormousHippo458@reddit
Don't get old
SwitchCaseGreen@reddit
And whatever you do, don't gain weight 😏
DagnyLeia@reddit
Wouldn't be able to do it...I think feet are gross.
Express-Studio-8302@reddit
I also hate feet. Cannot fathom how people have a foot fetish.
Billy-Ruffian@reddit
Hate to break it to you, but revulsion and fetish are two sides of the same coin.
No-Access-2790@reddit
If a man can’t cut his toenails due to being overweight, at least you won’t have to do it for much longer.
AdGold205@reddit
My husband likes it when I tend to his feet. Almost like he’s getting a pedicure. He will tend to mine if I ask him.
It’s not my most favorite thing, but he’s worked hard to not have Swampthing toes (which he did before we were married and I refused to touch his toes.) But relationships are a give and take. I tend to his feet, he changes the oil on my car.
His weight seems to have no bearing on whether he wants me to pamper his feet.
(This may be some sort of mild fetish thing or just a way he feels loved by me. ¯_(ツ)_/¯)
Sanjomo@reddit
No. This is not common it’s wack. Being too overweight to clip your own toenails should be a damn good motivator to lose weight … not an excuse to figure out how your wife can help you live overweight.
Hillman314@reddit
I totally agree.
I also know that the slip on sneaker market is a $6.2 billion dollar industry. Those fat f**ks want convenience.
GenX-ModTeam@reddit
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2wheelmoron69@reddit
I’m shocked at all the people who are put out over this. I’d crawl across broken glass for my spouse, trimming toenails wouldn’t even rise to the level of “odd”. My wife has happily done way grosser things for me just out of convenience, not even nessecity.
Briollo@reddit
Before back surgery, I did it myself, or got a pedicure. Post back surgery, my wife did it once, but now it's usually a pedicure.
mother_octopus1@reddit
My husband was very overweight and had back problems. He cut his own toenails.
Individual-Fail4709@reddit
Totally normal to have someone else cut your toenails. My husband isn't very flexible and isn't fat. Sometimes I help him. I don't do my own unless I absolutely can't get to the salon.
tonna33@reddit
Yep. My husband is 6'0 and 180lbs. He has a bad back and just can't do it. We really need to start budgeting for him to get pedis, though.
Individual-Fail4709@reddit
Agree. My husband likes pedicures, just never has time!
thehappiestdad@reddit
A little overweight should have no issues cutting toenails
kinkykoolaidqueen@reddit
Hyche862@reddit
I’m 6 feet tall and 285 I can cut my own toe nails!
I have several times asked my wife to verify that I got a difficult nail cut well enough she has cut my nails maybe twice in twenty years
DerfK@reddit
I'm 385 and I just clipped my own this morning. Crossed my legs to do it, I don't think I could get my knee under my chin like I used to, flab or not.
UnkleClarke@reddit
If a dude can’t cut his own toenails he must be obese as shit!
rockalyte@reddit
I can still reach mine thank you :) and also still in shape at 57.
popcorn-jalapenos@reddit
Yes, because he has a bad back. Glad to do it,
tonna33@reddit
Same here. And he's definitely not overweight. I actually started to worry about him losing too much weight after starting medications for Diabetes.
Not sure that I'd say I'm glad to do it, though. But he is my husband, and I love him, and I'll help him out how I can.
OceanGrownPharms@reddit
What? No. Gross
Initial-Relation-696@reddit
Cut? You mean grab an edge and rip , right?
ironicmirror@reddit
Does he offer to cut your toenails?
small-gestures@reddit
GenX- meaning mostly 60 and under and described as a little overweight- so not disabled. Unless you or him share a “feet” thing - then that’s just odd.
CoachOpen1977@reddit
I’m 47 and a little overweight and I cut my own. Though I do love a pedicure!
CaffinatedManatee@reddit
If a fella can't cut his toenails due to a big belly, he's more than "a little bit overweight"
And there's no reason to not try to get that weight off as we get older. It only makes aging more dangerous and uncomfortable for everyone involved.
AstronomerForsaken65@reddit
Yeah, if I was at that point I would be disappointed in myself. But truthfully, when I cut my toenails yesterday it is getting harder to bend that much and I am in good shape.
neitherzeronorone@reddit
what about sitting in a chair and lifting one’s legs and crossing them over the knee to reach the toes?
AstronomerForsaken65@reddit
Then when getting up it takes my leg a minute to wake back up.
CaffinatedManatee@reddit
True, nothing gets easier.
I took OP's question to be specifically related to excess flashiness.
Mondschatten78@reddit
My husband asks me to do his. He's not overweight, but does have a really bad back and has had one knee worked on.
JimTheJerseyGuy@reddit
They day I need to ask my wife to cut my toenails is the day that I need to start a crash course of Ozempic *and* get my ass to the gym on a regular basis.
AZJHawk@reddit
I’m a bit overweight. I have never asked my wife to cut my toenails.
FruitToots@reddit
Yeah I feel like someone would have to be much more than a little overweight to not be able to cut their own toenails. I've struggled with my weight for my whole life, but I've never not been able to touch my toes.
brownmtn@reddit
I don't like when other people touch my feet. So I can't imagine asking someone else to do it.
chopper5150@reddit
Better tell his ass to start stretching unless you feel like babying him the rest of his life.
Ray_The_Engineer@reddit
59/M, I cut my own toenails, lol. In fairness, I'm on the lean side compared to most of my peers, and stay pretty fit. I have to imagine that a number of the guys I know that are my age have a tough time with it.
Ray_The_Engineer@reddit
Wow, downvoted for being lean and fit. Gotta love this place.
ThrowRAboredinAZ77@reddit
You don't have any votes at all.
Ray_The_Engineer@reddit
According to insights, I have 3 upvotes with an upvote ratio of 71.4%. The little number doesn't tell the full story.
Competitive-Brief839@reddit
upvoted to counter it for you, proud of you for staying fit!
AccomplishedQuail841@reddit
Your husband should get a long handled toenail clipping tool-do a search, they're easy to find. They're made specifically for people with mobility issues. He could also get a monthly pedicure. I love my husband more than anything, but I would not be comfortable clipping his toenails (and I doubt he'd ever ask.)
ladyrose403@reddit
I handle my husband's toenails. His flexibilty sucks. But, the best thing ever was getting one of those spinny nail grinders. Some of his nails are just too thick to safely try to cut, you'd end up splitting the nail all the way down. So now I just grind them down smooth. Those that are all worked up, well, if you're not comfortable w/ it, don't. But, I just look at it as looking after him.
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
Like you do for dogs 😆
ladyrose403@reddit
all men are animals, some just make better pets than others.
Brownie5993@reddit
I work on my husband’s feet when he asks me to. He’s a disabled vet, bad feet/back, has had multiple surgeries on his feet & one on his lower back. He is a bigger guy (6’2, 280#) but he can cut his own toenails. I cut the big toenail on his right foot so it doesn’t become ingrown because it’s hard for him to see/manipulate the tool to get it. I also use a straight blade to cut away his little corns because they cause unnecessary pain.
sayerofstuffs@reddit
If I can’t cut my own toe nails because of weight, I’m doing something about it, meaning the weight
Dry_Ad687@reddit
"Listen, I'm a grown ass man..."
ghostrider4918@reddit
53, a little over weight nothing like I was. Get mani and pedi every 2 weeks.
NicAoidh65@reddit
I have bad hips and can't get at my feet so I have to have someone cut them and I hate it but have no choice.
ferretgr@reddit
49, overweight, I handle my own grooming.
Is this seriously something men ask women to do? Jesus. Not trying to shame you, OP, but that is pretty insane to me.
BonezOz@reddit
The day I can't cut my own toenails is the day I can't wipe my own ass, and I'm sure as hell not going to ask my wife to do either.
meermee7@reddit
It's odd that you asked a question, OP, and it devolved into everyone judging people's weight and sharing their assumptions about fat people.
tanhauser_gates_@reddit
No shade. The 1st time that had to be asked of me to my partner, I would be on the jab or in the gym post haste.
Independent-Gur-3110@reddit
Commonplace or not - this is not okay. Wtf is wrong with people. He needs to figure this out for himself by getting pedicures if necessary rather than to you as a caregiver. If food were on the ground he’d find a way to bend down to eat it.
NotAnotherThing@reddit
This isn't about weight unless it's extreme. This os either about not maintaining basic flexibility or laziness.
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
Eh, think pregnant women who can't reach their toes. He's probably got a big gut that gets in the way 🤷🏼♀️
NotAnotherThing@reddit
I have had two children. It's still a flexibility issue. Was perfectly able to attend toy toes and put on socks and I'm no contortionist
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
I have had one child. It was difficult for me to clip my toenails.
I'm super flexible (hyper mobility disorder- it's not a good thing) and, when not pregnant, can bend over and put both hands flat on the floor in front of my feet, so for me it was absolutely not a flexibility issue 🤷🏼♀️
Further, I've also been 100# overweight (thank god those days are gone forever), and never had any problems reaching my toenails, so 🤷🏼♀️
NotAnotherThing@reddit
Were you trying to pull your knee up towards your chest to reach? I just put my foot on my opposite knee, belly avoided.
badgermushrooma@reddit
Well, if that isn't a reason to work on that big gut I don't know what else is.
past-and-future-days@reddit
My husband is overweight (more to love!) but active, and he has always maintained his own feet. He's been a bigger guy most of his life, maybe he's just had longer to get used to it than someone who was skinny for a significant part of his life but clip his toenails? My guy.
TheOtherElbieKay@reddit
Ew. No. I had to buzz my husband’s head during Covid when salons were closed. He wanted me to continue to save money. I am a working mom of three kids. Not interested in adding “hairdresser” or “pedicurist” to my resume. I have enough to do and can barely maintain my own feet. It’s 2026 for g-d’s sake.
Shopworn_Soul@reddit
I can't help but feel there is more to this tale, and it is not a happy one
ElFlauscho@reddit
Gen X doc here. In tough cases, that’s my go-to line: "Does your wife clip your toenails?"
Disclaimer: Rural area. We’re quite direct. This has worked multiple times to offer support in weight loss.
alpacamade@reddit
Thank you for giving a reasonable answer without the vitriol. Mother was morbidly obese, but ate nutritionally better than I did. I cut her toenails, cleaned her parts, dressed her weeping shins and all the rest, out of love for her. You and I both know weight issues are way more complex than, get off the couch you lazy slob.
ccoakley@reddit
I am 8 pounds into overweight territory, so I am also a little overweight. I also had to go to physical therapy due to limited hip mobility after a stay in the hospital. I’ve asked my wife to scrub my back when we were in the shower together. But I just cut my toenails last night with no difficulty. I have never asked my wife to cut my toenails.
Odd_Praline181@reddit
Have him get pedicures. He might be embarrassed for whatever reasons, but it could be an unexpected nice grooming outing for him. Like when he goes to the barber, he could go get his man pedi too
Ornamental_oriental@reddit
No, I even broke my hip about 6 months ago and that was my goal. To just cut my own toenails. I did it at about 3 months and still do. My wife stretches in the morning for 30 min. Not yoga, but just actively stretching her muscles before getting in the shower so she is still flexible at the moment.
Calinthalus@reddit
Sometimes. I've got a bad back on my left side so sometimes it's painful to cut the toenails on my left side. And apparently when I do cut my own toenails with my limited reach, I somehow do it wrong. My wife is a nurse and has very specific ideas about toenails.
Caspers_Shadow@reddit
I can reach my toes and I cut my own. If I couldn't, I would have regularly scheduled pedicures.
SabineLavine@reddit
Send him to the salon
DazeyDookie@reddit
For me, it will eventually be the knee arthritis keeping me from reaching my toes. Can still do it for now, painting them is always fun too, if I get enough all over my toe it gets covered, and washes off in the shower lol
cdlauro@reddit
As we get less mobile, that is dangerously overweight for recovering from falls. If you can’t get off the floor, that’s a warning sign.
Catfiche1970@reddit
No. And he needs to get healthier or you'll either be a widow, or worse, a full time caregiver. It's NOT the life you want, believe me.
MaybeOnFire2025@reddit
I am probably a tad more than a little overweight, and...no. Never been an issue, never occurred to me to ask, nor would I unless I was in the hospital or something.
penntoria@reddit
Don't ask there either 😂
TripleJ_77@reddit
Sounds like a silent gen or early boomer question. I agree with the comments that say this is a wake up call. Similar to having to rest between floors when going up a couple of flights of stairs. Gentle movement exercises exist. Tell him to get started.
UberMommy66@reddit
My hubby and I started going for pedicures together a few years ago so it would never get to that point - he quite enjoys them
UberMommy66@reddit
My hubby and I started going for pedicures together a few years ago so it would never get to that point - he quite enjoys them
Appropriate_Let2252@reddit
He’s lazy.
Aggressive-Cod1820@reddit
God no!! 🤢
Carefree_Highway@reddit
Whut
Parking_War_4100@reddit
Tripswitchnow@reddit
I would get him on GLP-1’s and send for a pedicure. Both problems solved!
mommacat94@reddit
Absolutely not
thirtyone-charlie@reddit
I have only needed to ask a few times because of knees and shoulders surgery but I always cut them before and even then I would also go get mani/pedis when I could get up and around. I have done it plenty of times for my wife just to be nice or big sexy daddy! Also times when she got injured or what not.
If there is something he can do about his size it would be great if he would do it. He will feel so much better.
thin_white_dutchess@reddit
Dude, I do not cut my husband’s toe nails. He is not overweight, but he is exceptionally tall which has led to back issues (constantly bending down). He stretches a lot, for mobility reasons.
Mushy-sweetroll@reddit
Send him to get a pedicure
Mushy-sweetroll@reddit
You could go together to make it more comfortable for him
penntoria@reddit
Gross. If my husband ever asked me to cut his toenails, I would laugh or gag, then suggest a pedicure or podiatrist visit. Ugh, shudder. To be fair though, I am a nurse and I find toenails fairly disgusting overall 🤢
AchinForSomeBacon@reddit
Loving the judgey weight-related comments. To OPs question: I cut my own. My wife has done mine in the past at her request as something she “wanted to try” it otherwise I do it myself.
OP, maybe get your hubby to prop his leg up or sit on the edge of the tub with one ankle over the other knee to change the angle/make his foot more accessible?
TheArbysOnMillerPkwy@reddit
As the doctor in the thread said, this is a clear-cut red flag of a loss of mobility, likely exacerbated by weight gain. It should be a wake up call to change life habits, eat better, reduce weight around the middle, and get moving and stretching.
MutedLandscape4648@reddit
Not for nothing, but my dad - solid boomer generation - gets regular pedicures. It’s not crazy expensive, gets him out of the house, and is a little self care that dudes could benefit from. Maybe suggest this to your hubs if it’s feasible/you don’t want to anymore?
cr4d@reddit
Uh, no?
DogsAreOurFriends@reddit
Oh hell no.
hammerofspammer@reddit
No.
I’ve had my knee replaced twice and it doesn’t bend very well. I figure it out.
Due_Fill608@reddit
Lots of comments here about weight. I'm going to advocate for your husband increasing his mobility. You gotta be able to stretch, touching your toes as a starter. Get that man to a yoga class.
Beautiful_Arm8364@reddit
Ha. No. Absolutely not.
Namethypoison1@reddit
It's definitely NOT how you handle that...tell his cheap butt it's time for professional pedicure appointments. 🙄
Dry_Yogurt2458@reddit
Today it's toenails, tomorrow it's wipe his backside because he can't reach around and helping him get out of a chair
This is why strength and flexibility are an insurance for your old age.
Not being able to cut your own toe nails should be a warning sign sand a wake up call. It's fine for you to do it for him, but you also need to make it clear that he is on a one way street to immobility unless he starts moving more and charges his diet.
SignificantApricot69@reddit
I would encourage men to stay mobile and flexible for as long as possible. Regardless of weight.
OE2KB@reddit
This is a sign to get healthy- maybe lose the extra or develop some flexibility. Not judging- just sayin’.
CaptMerrillStubing@reddit
I'll judge. It's gross and he needs to drop some weight.
toqer@reddit
Sometimes at our age it's unavoidable. For me between knee surgery to remove a tumor that was pressing my knee out of alignment and testosterone slowing down, I was just caught off guard. Couldn't run or even walk like I used to for 3 years post surgery. Now I'm getting back into walking/hiking.
CaptMerrillStubing@reddit
Different situation. OPs man can't do it because he's too fat. I will continue to judge him.
itgoesineasy@reddit
No one ever cut my toenails and I hate having my feet touched. I was pretty heavy at one time and I would cut one and sit up to breathe easier. I’ve lost over 50 lbs and toenail cutting is a breeze.
tempfoot@reddit
Dude. Gross.
Crivens999@reddit
No way in hell. Anyone touches my feet, even my beloved wife, and they will involuntarily be kicked through the window. Seriously, have a massive freak out reaction to people touching my feet. I would say I’m on the slight cuddly side. I can cut my own toenails out it that way
Bluerocky67@reddit
Noooooo! I hate feet (other than my own!) I won’t cut my 91 yr old mums toe let alone my husbands’.
NorseYeti@reddit
Even when I was fat (390 at 6’3”), I cut my own toe nails. I would have been mortified to have to ask my wife to do that. Sometimes it was difficult, but I fought through it, and got it done. Now, at 235, it is no issue at all.
Wren_and_Arrow@reddit
Big congrats on the big weight loss!
NorseYeti@reddit
Thanks, I see it as a work in progress. Still want to lose some more, don’t know yet where my happy place will be weight wise. Oddly, I am now in the same size pants I was wearing when I graduated High School.
GrandPriapus@reddit
I’m a pudgy guy and I still do my own toenails.
the_answer_is_RUSH@reddit
Not being able to cut your own toenails is a sign you need to lose weight. Unless he has a disability, tell his fat ass to get moving.
Ok_Cicada_3420@reddit
Ew
RhodeReddit@reddit
Try this: put one foot on toilet seat, trim nails over bowl. Repeat with other foot. If you are a GenXer (1964 to ‘80ish) and you can’t do this, your health and mobility is the bigger problem. And you did already say as much. We all have different wake up calls; this may be yours. Good luck.
wheredidyoustood@reddit
No. What you call “a little” seems like a lot if he can’t cut his own nails.
Repulsive_Dig_133@reddit
This was one of the things that made me lose weight, it was becoming a struggle.
I imagine its very common, see plenty of other guys my age fatter than I was.
eirinne@reddit
No, ew
Pure_Floyd_Smernitch@reddit
My husband does his own but maybe every season or so I give him a proper pedicure as an act of love. He gets the whole treatment
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
That's different. You're doing that for fun, once in a while, not because your husband can't be bothered to take care of himself, won't get his fat ass off the couch and exercise, and keeps shoveling donuts in his mouth to the point of not being able to reach his own feet for pity's sake.
There's a big difference between doing something for someone as a special love treatment (like your pedicures), doing something for someone because they've got cancer or another illness and can't do for themselves (totally normal and loving thing to do), and being asked to do something for someone who can't be bothered to take basic care of themselves to the point that in their fifties (not old!) they're so fat that they can't reach their own fucking feet!
That's just disgraceful. I understand that it's hard to lose weight, believe me, but cmon, have just a little self-respect, man 😑
Pure_Floyd_Smernitch@reddit
You seem upset.
Affectionate_Joke720@reddit
I usually cut my own toenails. However if I get the start of an ingrown I ask my wife for help. Note that has been 2x in last year for reference.
ExaminationFancy@reddit
Yikes. Time to go on a diet.
House_Junkie@reddit
Thankfully this is not something I need help from my wife with, but if I did, I wouldn’t think twice about asking her. The same goes for absolutely anything she needed help with. We’re always there for each other.
Automatic-Pick-2481@reddit
No I would not ask my wife to do that unless I broke both arms or hands or something physically prevented me. Dude could sit in a chair and put his feet on a small stool or something and cut them himself also maybe lose some weight lil
TheRateBeerian@reddit
My BMI is 32, not great, I can still cut my own toenails.
saki4444@reddit
Yeah I was gonna say - that’s more than just a little overweight (assuming that the need for toenail help is actually due to weight an not something else)
notsensitivetostuff@reddit
If you can’t cut your own toenails because you are fat, not bendable to cut your own toenails is the least of your worries. Get to the gym, get some diet drugs.. get control of yourself.
quipsNshade@reddit
Not a chance: however he and I have pedicure appt every 6 weeks. As a diabetic, I won’t touch his feet. If I caused damage I wouldn’t be able to forgive myself. Plus, he gets a leg massage. Win win
SageObserver@reddit
Holy hell, if I needed my wife to cut my toenails at this age I better make sure my will is up to date.
Straight-Study-8611@reddit
I cut mine, I refuse to allow myself to get in that type of condition. At 55 I am the same weight when I graduated Marine Corp boot camp in 188 at 6-2.
The_Pharoah@reddit
fk that. I would never get my wife to cut my toenails. The hell is that about? if he can't reach it, tell him to lose some weight. And before you have a go at me, I'm 115kg so I know what being overweight is all about. And I can STILL cut my toe nails myself.
donner_dinner_party@reddit
I’m kinda fat but I can’t imagine not being able to cut my own toenails unless there are some other kind of factors involved.
Kestrel_Iolani@reddit
I can cut my own nails (and i am a little overweight/inflexible). My wife wants to cut my toenails because toenail care was the you tube rabbit hole she fell down during Covid. I'm the toe equivalent of a dress up Barbie.
sumbozo1@reddit
Get those tootsies on onlyfans, you could make dozens of dollars!
jeepjinx@reddit
I have introduced my brother in law and a couple male friends to the joy of pedicures.
The_real_Tev@reddit
Are you sure your husband is GenX? Sounds like a millennial to me.
BrittaUnfiltered67@reddit
I know some couples have fights over this, or some men asking wives to cut their hair, as if they had the training of a barber, while other couples have some sort of mutual care for one another where they don’t seem to have a problem if something like this comes up. It is kind of gross for me, but I am not in a relationship. While I can cut my nails properly if need be, I saw a along toenail clipper once when I was looking for something else, and I will share a picture of one for you. It might make it easier.
One_Laugh3051@reddit
That’s a level of intimacy and trust I have yet to achieve.
One_Laugh3051@reddit
I will probably just go full Howard Hughes if I can’t trim my toenails anymore. I’m gonna start saving tissue boxes now just in case.
-Odi-Et-Amo-@reddit
My husband can cut his own toenails but he does a terrible job. There was no way in hell I was offering to do it so after years of trying, I finally convinced him to get a pedicure. Luckily, after the first one, he was hooked. And now he has nice toenails and I don’t get stabbed at night. Problem solved.
ThrowRAboredinAZ77@reddit
My dude's a sexy chunker. I clip his toenails.
BadHairDay-1@reddit
I'm not a man, but before I had my gastric bypass, my husband would sometimes paint my toes for me.
skeeterbmark@reddit
OMG…that’s horrifying. If I got to the point where I could not cut my own toenails, I’m taking action to rectify the situation.
Pristine-Speaker-768@reddit
There are only a few things in life that that make me squeamish. Number 2 on my list is feet. I hope I never am in the position to have to do that for my husband. I honestly don't think I would be able to. I shudder thinking about it.
am312@reddit
I cannot with feet! Like, make me gag I hate feet so much. My sister cuts my mom's toenails at the nursing home and the thought makes me shudder.
He is on his own with those dogs.
cliqclaqstepback@reddit
I’m overweight and cut my own. Yes, it can be very difficult/uncomfortable working around my large gut, but that’s my problem, not my wife’s.
Puzzleheaded-Sky3141@reddit
I feel like this might be TMI but my husband is a generously apportioned man, and I've actually offered to cut his toenails just to be kind. He won't let me do it. Now, I'm relieved, don't get me wrong....
golfingsince83@reddit
If he can’t cut his own toenails because he can’t bend over it’s time to lose some weight
Beginning_Key2167@reddit
Not overweight, but would never ask my partner to cut my toenails. Would she? Probably.
I am going to start getting pedicures.
Glabrous@reddit
e1p1@reddit
Difficulty cutting my toenails and also putting on boots is definitely one of my signs that it's time to go on a diet. That said, I also didn't realize how hip arthritis was limiting my movements until my hips finally gave out. Now I'm on the path of getting them replaced.
I guess my point is maybe OPs husband needs to do some other body evaluation as well.
mpls_big_daddy@reddit
I had shoulder surgery several months ago and that is one thing that I still cannot do, so my lovely wife took me for my first pedicure and it was awesome. I slept so well that night. He should try that. I was the only guy in there so I was the star attraction lol.
tvieno@reddit
My wife loves to give me pedicures once a month.
Ok-Work4134@reddit
Take him with you to get a pedicure.
Curlytoes18@reddit
Hubby cut his own toenails until his stroke - now I do it for him because of his partial disability
pandemicblues@reddit
I have no problem cutting my own toenails. However, my wife likes to do this for me. When I cut them myself, she is a little disappointed.
TheRealCabbageJack@reddit
I cut my own. I sit on the front porch steps so the clippings can just go anywhere without a care.
AngryBagOfDeath@reddit
Hey that's my nail clipping spot too.
BigRudy99@reddit
You just get a little stand/stool/Ottoman whatever about a foot and half off the ground and put your foot on it. It's not the most comfortable but it's more than doable.
Routine_Breath_7137@reddit
You put his socks on too?
slowtreme@reddit
This is his sign that needs to correct his health situation - now.
Dry_Nail5901@reddit
I get pedicures or see the podiatrist, been having trouble with a hammer toe
TheReadyRedditor@reddit
Absofreakinlutely not. If he was incapacitated and unable to do so himself at some point, but otherwise…no.
External-Dude779@reddit
Honey, is that you?
Nevermind I now see you WOULD cut them if I was incapacitated and no effin way my wife is touching, let alone cutting, any of my toe nails
TheReadyRedditor@reddit
Ha. My husband doesn’t even know what Reddit is. He barely picks up his phone, let alone use any social media. But he does find it hilarious to occasionally reach a foot over and touch me with it, knowing that feet ick me out. 😑
External-Dude779@reddit
I do this to my wife too.....its actually really hilarious. You never should've let us know how much you don't like man toe 🤣
No-Clue4432@reddit
My husband sees a podiatrist to get his done. But he also gets ingrown toenails. And we have insurance that doesnt have a bad copay so its worth it.
WishIwascruisin00@reddit
Nope. Hard nope.
In our area we have “foot nurse” services for diabetics and others. If they can’t do their own they can hire footcare!
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
I was just gonna say this: podiatrists often cut the toenails of people who for whatever reason can't do it themselves.
Personally if it was my husband I'd tell him to get up off his lazy ass and go for a fucking walk because no one should be that fat 🤨
Majestic-Pilot3718@reddit
I do my husband's, he has trouble bending and reaching. 🙄
vanbrima@reddit
I also help my husband. He is overweight and it's very difficult for him to do. We don't have the money for regular pedicures. And yes, he is trying to lose the weight! But until then, I don't mind helping him. I love him. He would do the same for me!
Dpgillam08@reddit
Once a quarter, I go get a pedi on the recommendation of my doc; too many years abusing my feet, and the poor girls have to deal with the calluses and auch. But I cut my own nails regularly.
And every time my 3 year old granddaughter comes over, I end up with painted nails too🙄😋😋
Justanaveragedad@reddit
55, somewhat out of shape and I still cut my own toenails.
Salt-Amoeba7331@reddit
They do pedicures for guys, too! Do t have to get nail polish.
tommyalanson@reddit
I can cut mine while standing on one leg balancing over the toilet so my clippings go into the bowl.
Ffs, man, take a walk, stretch too.
Flaky-Debate-833@reddit
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No_You_4833@reddit
My dad is a bit overweight and almost 80 years old. He goes to the salon and gets a pedicure once a month. He would never ask his wife to do this for him.
sbfb1@reddit
I weighted 500 at one time (I’m not bragging) I cut my own toenails even then. I also have had a few acl surgeries, so in not super bendy
CanadianBertRaccoon@reddit
Eeew
shitty_advice_BDD@reddit
No, he is too overweight. However, I actually go to a nail salon, not because I am overweight, which I'm not, but because I get pampered and the foot and calf massages are divine. More men need to discover the joy of having their toes done.
RugbyGuy65@reddit
At age 61 and with 18 years of American football and another 20 of rugby beaten into me, I can still cut my toenails but I enjoy a monthly pedicure. They just do a better job.
Bubbly_Following7930@reddit
We're both overweight and neither of us have asked the other to cut their toenails. Or pop their pimples or other bodily hygiene.
No_Tension420@reddit
You do what? Nope, just you.
bks1979@reddit
I got to almost 400 pounds (have been getting my shit together and losing weight since), and never stopped trimming my own toenails. While it was certainly more challenging, it wasn't that difficult.
MaybeOnFire2025@reddit
Congrats on your motivation and weight loss!
bks1979@reddit
Thanks! It was a one-two punch as I changed jobs and started working from home about a month before the pandemic hit. Even though it took five+ years, it felt like all of a sudden I was obese. Like it came out of nowhere. I still have a ways to go yet, but I'm already feeling less drained and more spry. I can stand for more than 2 minutes without my lower back hurting which is nice! lol
thebiglerm@reddit
He needs to increase his flexibility for real
Agreeable_Peak_6100@reddit
F no! Gen-X don’t play that.
AldebaranTauri_@reddit
If it is to the point he can’t cut his toenails I think he has some serious problems. Hopefully he will turn his life around.
PrairieGrrl5263@reddit
Under no circumstance would I take on the responsibility for regular basic grooming of another adult except in a case of illness or injury.
Historical_Monk_6118@reddit
I have a belly on me and that makes sock, shoes and toenails a little awkward. However I see that as a sign to do something about it, not rely on someone else to do it for me!
AggravatingBobcat574@reddit
I cut my own, but it IS a bit difficult.
gorkt@reddit
Oh HELL no.
My husband is 54, about 50-75 lbs overweight and he would never dream of asking me to do it.
AnotherBaldWhiteDude@reddit
Yes she does, and i paint her toenails so it's a fair trade
geodebug@reddit
🦶 🌙 🌙
No, but I sometimes have to hold my breath when tying shoes.
zorkempire@reddit
This is the most depressing questions I've ever seen on this sub. I do not expect my spouse to groom me.
heynow941@reddit
WTF?
Kiwifrooots@reddit
That's extreme. Could he use it as a stretching opportunity and maybe reach the toes gently daily as an almost zero effort path to maintaining mobility
emryldmyst@reddit
No.
And if he's too heavy to do it he needs to lose weight cuz that's not healthy.
Thirsty4Knowledge911@reddit
Put down the fork and step away from the table.
froction@reddit
My gf is a bigger gal and I do her toenails, but it's just to be nice, not because she can't reach them.
Pro-tip: Do them outside so you don't have to worry about the clippings.
Chunkyisthebest@reddit
I used to do it for my husband before he had both of his hips replaced. He was physically unable to bend that far to reach his toenails. I’d buy him gift certificates for a men’s spa in our city for his birthday and Christmas for a few years so he could go for pedicures.
NotAnotherThing@reddit
Disability is a perfectly acceptable reason to do it.
KurtStation68@reddit
I cut my own, it's a bit of a stretch, also trying to trim so I don't end up with an ingrown. It's when I slow straighten up I pray the sciatica gods don't notice.
endlesssearch482@reddit
I’m 5’11”, 190 pounds and my gf and I go to get pedicures together. Rough feet and gross nails are a turnoff and it’s a fun thing to do together.
LeisurelyHyacinth246@reddit
I did help my boyfriend with this for a while. But he got one with a longer handle that made it easier.
Old-Asshole@reddit
My wife and I get pedicures every 6 to 8 weeks. It's worth it.
worstpartyever@reddit
Send him to a nail salon. Honestly, I live in an area with a lot of retirees and men go to the salon all the time. The technicians have experience working with things like nail fungus (very common), neuropathy, diabetes, etc.
WildlifePolicyChick@reddit
No.
Staran@reddit
My wife was a nurse for 20 years with experience cutting toenails and I would never get her to do this.
Just no.
Environmental_Ride_8@reddit
Nah... no way. I'm 350 and I manage it.
comish4lif@reddit
Older GenX, not obese, but I'd go and get a basic pedicure before I asked my significant other to help with my basic hygiene.
chimpyjnuts@reddit
If I get to the point where I can't do my own toenails I'm cashing out.
Various-Advance-6400@reddit
I’m embarrassed for the OP that asked this question
pdperson@reddit
Jesus Christ.
pursuitofyuckyness@reddit
You’re married to a child. Yes, this is common. The marriage to a child part. Lemme guess, he throws his clothes on the floor and you pick it up and wash it.
Lonely-Ad-5340@reddit
That’s love right there
pariahgod@reddit
I’m over 300lbs and I have no problem cutting my own toenails
Educational_Bid_5315@reddit
I’m overweight and I don’t ask for my husband to cut mine 🤷🏻♀️tell him to go to a podiatrist
-Granby-@reddit
Absolutely fucking not. I am not obese but definitely overweight. I have severe COPD and it is hard to bend down. I have a hard time cutting nails or putting my compression socks on. My wife has offered to do it but I cannot bring myself to allow that. I can't even explain why but it is not happening.
On the flip I would cut her in an instant no problem. But no I cannot have her doing that. That's a step away from wiping my ass and that ain't happening either.
But that is just me. I am sure it is pretty common. Nothing wrong with it I just cannot
Aromatic_Location@reddit
I can see how it would be difficult if you're overweight. I'm not and it's getting harder to bend enough to cut them.
StandardSwordfish777@reddit
I sometimes use a salt scrub and pumice stone on my husband’s feet to pamper him. He doesn’t need me to cut his toenails but I would if he needed help.
sterling3274@reddit
Eww.
HighJeanette@reddit
I’m a wife and I say hell no.