Would it be socially acceptable to use a leisure centre pool with visible scarring?

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Hi all! Apologies for the weird question and if this doesn’t belong on here I also apologise, but I’m wondering if it’d be socially acceptable to use the pool at my local leisure centre with visible scarring particularly on the tops of my legs? I have decided to start training for a triathlon, but while I run & cycle competitively already, I kind of have to swim and the fact of making people uncomfortable is really throwing me off 🙈. I was talking to my dad about it the other day and he said that I’d probably be okay, but it’s pretty obvious what they’re from based on the state of them and the fact that I’m literally 17 so not much else could have happened to cause them lol. I’m possibly one of the least insecure people going, but i really don’t want to make people uncomfortable or anything 🤷‍♀️. Any input would be greatly appreciated, thank you so much!!!

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Jojo6167@reddit

If people don't like it they don't have to look

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em0409@reddit

I remember the first summer I felt ready to wear short sleeves I literally asked my mum if she’d “mind”… and she told me of course not, they’re MY arms. No one has ever commented on my scars, and if they’ve stared then I haven’t noticed. I don’t think it’s any different to surgical scars or burn scars or birthmarks—everyone’s skin is different and it doesn’t matter, no one cares!

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Agitated_Parsnip_178@reddit

People at my pool are missing limbs, sort poor and stonkingly wealthy, extremely overweight, covered in tattoos, happily and unhappily married, 90 years old and athletic also 40 years old and decrepid, learning to swim as adults etc etc. No one gives a single solitary shit who is in the pool and for what reason - as long as lane discipline is respected 😉

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HorrorAccomplished78@reddit

Yeah! The rattles my cage. It’s like the M25 with all the lane swapping.

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pajamakitten@reddit

And there is always someone going under the limit getting angry with everyone who is going the correct speed.

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Prestigious_Sand1978@reddit

There’s a correct speed?

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pajamakitten@reddit

You have slow, medium and fast lanes at a pool. There is no exact speed but you have to be aware of the pace other people are going. The lines can blur a bit (I am a bit too fast for the medium lane but too slow for the fast lane) but no one likes the person who does a light breaststroke taking up space in the fast lane.

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OkTechnician4610@reddit

It’s others issues if they can’t keep their mouths shut about it. They r in the wrong not you. Don’t be held back by scars I’ve got some whoppers on both my legs too one is a bit fresh still so still looks a bit scary I did cover it whilst it was healing, it’s from an accident. Why should Anyone have to make changes for others ignorance. Go do your swimming & enjoy it.

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ReySpacefighter@reddit

Why wouldn't it be socially acceptable? Do you think people with scars must shy away from doing anything ever in public? It's their problem, not yours.

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Still-BangingYourMum@reddit

Exactly this reply. Listen, you are doing yourself a disservice by thinking like that. Get in that pool and swim. Splash, dive etc with your mates, don't worry about scars, if anyone looks at your or stares at your scars, either just ignore them or ask if they want a closer look. Im an amputee, I have a damnably large and prominent scar 6 inches below my right knee. I have absolutely no problems with people staring or looking at my scar, and I actually find people talking to me about how I got the scar, or how its healing etc, its a great conversation starter. And young kids are fascinated by it and very inquisitive. Their parents are more than likely to avoid eye contact or shout at their kids or call me disgusting and saying I shouldn't be showing my scar around. To those kids, its something that's fascinating and interesting, if they ask questions, I answer and talk to them. If the parents start arguing with me and telling me its disgusting etc. I generally just tell them to go get informed and be open minded about disabilities. Go and enjoy yourself be who you are and have fun

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GhoolsFold@reddit

Do people (adults) really call you disgusting? Avoiding eye contact I can imagine, being awkward, but calling you disgusting, to your face (or away tbh) I cannot fathom. Maybe I'm terribly naive but I can't imagine anyone I know doing that. How disgusting of them!

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Still-BangingYourMum@reddit

Yes on several occasions, and not just in the swimming pool, when I am out and about on my mobility scooter, if its a leg off day, for which there are many reasons. If its a warm day, I will wear shorts, and, again that also causes people to say variations on gross, disgusting, shouldn't be allowed, etc. That doesn't bother me at all, im happy with my stump and how things have turned out, bearing in mind it was a voluntary choice to ask for the amputation. This link is NSFW and gives details of how I ended up asking for an amputation. Contains gooey pics. MODS PLEASE ACCEPT MY APOLOGIES IF LINKS ARE NOT ALLOWED. BUT IT GIVES FURTHER EDUCATION WITH REGARDS TO MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCES WITH AMPUTATION. ALL PICTURES ARE FREELY AVAILABLE AND I HAVE NO PROBLEMS WITH PUBLIC ACCESS TO THEM. https://imgur.com/gallery/DDg5uVQ This link shows how i put my prosthetic leg on. https://imgur.com/gallery/af84l Googly eyes https://imgur.com/gallery/bmWvX53

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intenseskill@reddit

I am the same, my scars are so normal to me if anyone was staring or even saying something negative i would probably find it amusing.

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Still-BangingYourMum@reddit

Thank you to the kind person for the award.

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Amazing-Heron-105@reddit

> I actually find people talking to me about how I got the scar Would you say this is common? Never know whether to acknowledge stuff like this. Don't wanna be rude.

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dracuella@reddit

It's a difficult conversation starter for adults but young kids absolutely will ask "Why don't you have any legs?" My dad was a double over-the-knee amputee and he liked to sit outside his local supermarket having a fag or a snack after doing his shopping. Loads of kids would come up to him (because he was always smiling and super approachable) and ask where his legs went. My dad would answer all their questions and that'd get the parents talking, too. He lost his to bad circulation (smoking/diabetes combo), something most adults know about and can relate to, making it easy to talk about. I reckon some might not know what to say if it'd been an accident or other traumatising experience.

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St2Crank@reddit

What’s the subreddit for wholesome replies by horrible username’s?

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Typical_Ad_210@reddit

r/rimjobsteve

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JohnCasey3306@reddit

My Spidey senses think OP is saying they might be "socially unacceptable" because they're self-inflicted. Top of legs is a common place. I'm covered in self harm scars too and it's not so much being ashamed of how the scars look, but rather don't want to upset other people or make them feel uncomfortable -- hense "socially acceptable" But in principle your reply still applies; of course OP should go swimming, you can't fuss about what other people might be thinking.

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SuzLouA@reddit

Self harm scars, to my mind, should be seen the same as any other scars: as a remnant of a medical problem that you survived. Just because it was a mental health problem rather than a physical one shouldn’t matter - you survived it, and you have (hopefully) come out the other side. I know it’s of course more complicated than looking at, say, a scar from a careless bit of work at the chopping board, because they’re bound up with the memories of the emotional strife you were suffering at the time. But the only thing any right thinking person should feel when they look at a stranger with scars is, gosh, they must be brave, because I bet whatever caused that was hard to go through.

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Prior-Beach-3311@reddit

Ah OK, that makes a bit of difference but I agree, same principle applies, swimming in a public pool should be accessible to all, and it still stands most people won't be looking at others in that much detail but be more worried about people looking at them There are however lots of designs for swimming costumes so if it helps them feel more comfortable they could look at shorts etc.

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pajamakitten@reddit

People will judge OP much more harshly for their line etiquette than their scars. Any swimmer knows that.

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IHateTheLetter-C-@reddit

I've got two on my nose, one on my lip, and one on my finger, so I'd be stuffed!

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Mavericks7@reddit

I have keloid scarring all over my back (no idea what triggered it) but it was when I was a toddler. I've always shied from swimming. It definitely is a self conscious thing. Because I do feel like I'm on show when I go into a steam room

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Traditional-Type881@reddit

To let you understand how much of a non-issue this would be for me, when I read the title I thought she was referring to the pool having scarring and that this was an OSHA question.

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citygirluk@reddit

Everyone else is too busy worrying about their own bodies and issues to think about yours, other than (if at all) in passing. It's amazing how self absorbed most of us are, so take comfort and enjoy your swim! Definitely fine and you have every right to pay your money and swim away, while feeling pleased with yourself for making more fitness effort than the majority!

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weatherillj09@reddit

If they're judging you, they're the problem.

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JennyW93@reddit

I have a lot of ugly scars both from self harm and from hidradenitis suppurativa. The HS scars are particularly grim because it looks like a contagious disease. But I’ve genuinely never spotted anyone staring or even glancing, and certainly nobody’s ever commented. I genuinely don’t think anyone cares.

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Buffy_Geek@reddit

You might be not very observant or be incredibly lucky to be in a very open-minded, empathetic, kind environment. Most people with visible self harm scars are judged negatively by others, especially strangers. It's similar to how people look at those with a disfigurement or disability, some of it is disgust or contempt, or they have sympathy and felt sorry but still look down on them. Of course you should prioritise how some strangers react and how much you care is the most impoetant thing. But I don't think it's helpful (or realistic) to say that no one will notice or stare or react negatively to seeing the self harm scars, that's just setting them up for the disappointment or reality hitting them in the face.

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JennyW93@reddit

I’m very sorry that sharing my personal experience offended you.

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BeatificBanana@reddit

It didn't read to me as though your comment offended them. They just seemed to be sharing that their experience was different to yours

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Buffy_Geek@reddit

Thank you, I wasn't offended by their comment at all and I am confused how they even got that impression. I was sharing my experience, and that of my friends and acquaintances who have self harm scars. I was also trying to help warn others who have self harm scars who might get their hopes up that they wouldn't get stared at or treated differently, so end up being disappointed and hurt.

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JennyW93@reddit

The fact they replied to provide a moralistic lecture only to me and not to the many other comments, including ones that refer to disfigurement, suggests that they were offended enough to reply to me and nobody else.

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Buffy_Geek@reddit

Like if someone said they they are having symptoms of cancer and planning to go to the Dr to ask for advice, if someone said that they went and the Dr took it seriously and gave them the appropriate investigations, tests etc and it went well that would be fine. However for an informed opinion OP should also be told about experiences of people where their Dr didn't take them symtoms seriously, misdiagnosed, delayed treatment, or missed the cancer all together until they ended up in the emergency vomiting blood. It's not realistic or helpful to only tell people about the good outcomes because that accurate of everyones experiences. (& I am genuinely glad if you have really only experienced positive reactions from others and I hope it gets better for everyone but we are not there yet, where I live that is impossible.)

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Buffy_Geek@reddit

What about my comment sounded moralistic to you? And what other comments would you feel better if I replied to? I replied to a few different comments but not all of them obviously! I don't choose who to reply to base on if I am offended or not, is that how you choose to reply? I don't think that your comment was rude, so why would I be offended? I just disagree with your description... I think you are omitting others experiences which have been more negative, so are not giving a good overview, or accurate picture, of how people with self harm scars are viewed and treated. So I wanted to add to help give a more balanced view. I replied because I am concerned that OP and others reading who have self harm scars are going to believe that your experience, or recounting of it, means that they will definitely not receive stares, looks, or judgement. I want to prevent others from getting shocked, disappointed, and hurt. (I don't think that counts as moralistic or being offended.) I also want them to be aware of potential negative reactions when deciding if they want to reveal their scars, or not, only giving them pros doesn't enable them to make an informed decision.

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BeatificBanana@reddit

I didn't read it as a moralistic lecture, just them sharing their experience same as you shared yours

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Buffy_Geek@reddit

I am very sorry that sharing my personal experience has offended you. I hope you'll be ok.

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intenseskill@reddit

Hell no it would not be. JK of course it is ok. When i was 16 moths old i pulled a boiling kettle onto myself and ahd 3rd degree burns over about one third of my body and other burns pretty much everywhere (Take that with a pinch of salt) but it meant that after all the operations and healing i have massive scarring on my left arm, scarring over a lot of my chest going up to under my chin and then skin graft scars on my legs and i never let it bother me. If someone pointed at me and said it was horrible i do not think it would bother me.

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anonaccount119@reddit

You can wear a swim skirt if you'd prefer but I doubt anyone would care.

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ComfortableWish@reddit

I wear a swimming costume which has little legs and arms. No one has ever looked twice. Saves a lot of shaving as well

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SuzLouA@reddit

We’re going on holiday soon and I’ve ordered some swimsuits with long sleeves, it’s going to be a fucking game changer in terms of my neverending battle against sunburn! (I can burn in literally minutes, even here in the UK, and my ADHD brain either forgets to put on cream, forgets to reapply, forgets I’ve got it on and I absent mindedly rub it off, or some combination of the above, so covering up is the safest option for me. Cossies with proper sleeves is going to make a day at the pool a lot more fun!)

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C2BK@reddit

There are lots of great swimwear options available for women who want to be modest for various reasons, including their religion, and I'm considering those. I usually wear a long sleeved rash vest & leggings to protect myself from the sun when I'm snorkelling abroad, mostly because I can't stand sun cream, it feels just horrid. Don't forget the back of your neck though!

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yoquierochurros@reddit

Yep, Decathlon have a good range of swim skirts and swim shorts in the ladies section. Only wear them for your own comfort though. Don't worry about anyone else and what they think!

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shinyditto00@reddit

You'll be fine. It's totally okay. You can't be expected to hide your body -- if your scars were from a physical illness or accident nobody would expect that. If you wanted to, it'd also be totally fine to wear shorts over your swimming costume if that would help you feel more comfortable, even if you just did it whilst you build up confidence.

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Severus_1987@reddit

Go and sit and watch for a bit. You’ll see all kinds of different appearances and realise you’re totally fine. At most someone is gonna look if their attention is caught and a few seconds later they’ll have moved on with their day

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Fun-Yam2210@reddit

Every other woman in there thinks she’s too fat/ thin/ old/ hairy/ varicose-veiny. Noone’s looking at you - they’re just trying to get in & out unnoticed. We’re all insecure about something. Jump in & enjoy your swim 🧜🏻‍♀️

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kimbastern@reddit

Stretch marks, cellulite … don’t forget those mundane big ones, lol. None of us are perfect, that should not stop us from living!

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kone29@reddit

I can’t believe how conscious I used to be of my stretch marks!

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SupermarketOverall45@reddit

This exactly. I swim a lot and I've never seen a body that was remarkable enough that I've thought about it for even a moment after I've left the pool. Swimming is a great leveller. It's why swimmers and swimming people are the best people.

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Turak64@reddit

It's called spotlight syndrome. You think everyone is looking at you, but really they've got their own shit to deal with.

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Beginning-Annual-860@reddit

Except people do stare and ask questions. I’m an amputee and I’ve dealt with other people’s discomfort since I was a baby. It is a “them problem” - but it can be exhausting answering the same questions repeatedly to people who will resent me having a blue badge when I put my leg back on.

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FerretChrist@reddit

> Noone’s looking at you Fuck Noone, let him look.

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Megacityone1@reddit

Exactly!!! I also have SH scars, lots of tattoos, and I don't shave. I stopped caring after the first few visits because I realised there's ladies of all shapes and sizes just getting on with it. Although I don't think I'll ever get to the stage of walking around the changing room naked

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LoveBeBrave@reddit

People definitely notice self harm scars, and they will judge. Hopefully it’ll be silent judging, but pretending it won’t happen is just unkind to OP.

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theraininspainfallsm@reddit

Everyone’s body’s are weird and wonderful. Jump in the water and have fun! (Or you know train for a triathlon).

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Mumlife8628@reddit

Exactly we're all to busy freaking out about our own bodies 🤣🤣

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Defiant-Tackle-0728@reddit

I have multiple scars and burns from being injured in the London Underground attacks in 2005. Ive had scar reduction treatments on my face and hands to make it less visible during normal clothed activities, but they cant be avoided if I swim or wear shorts and t shirts at the gym. Ive had others day i should just go home and not scare the kids, people staring, people complaining at management. Over the years thankfully the comments have decreased but my go to response if folk approached me directly about them and got arsey and loud was "these scars show I survived a f**king terror attack I would call for you to cover up for being such a c**t".

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plasticmick@reddit

You wear whatever you like you wonderful human

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Bodhisattva-Wannabe@reddit

If you are female there are lots of suits that could be able to cover up anything that you are not comfortable to show (yet) eg swim dresses, long swim shorts, swim tees with long or short sleeves

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DinkyPrincess@reddit

Yes absolutely. If you ever want to cover them up after you’re no longer drawn to create new ones then tattoos are also an option. And apologies for the SA assumption. However you got them it’s fine. I’ve got SA scars covered on my arms. I’ve also got surgical scars on both knees. But yes. Please use the pool.

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illegalbusiness@reddit

You have every right to have your scars out in the open. They make you YOU. Other people being uncomfortable is on them. I speak from experience, and have a stoma bag.

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filipha@reddit

No-one will give you a second look. If you're insecure, get yourself a longer legsuit/trunks for swimming.

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unstoppabledot@reddit

Unfortunately that’s just not true. People will definitely second and even third look it’s just in our nature to be curious. Ya just have to not care. Hard but can be done : )

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sputnikmonolith@reddit

In the immortal words of the philosopher-poet Lemmy, "Fuck 'em kid. Do what you want."

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Soapy_Von_Soaps@reddit

Hello, I have several visable scars but no one ever says anything about them. Don't worry what other people might think, enjoy your time at the gym.

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Prior-Beach-3311@reddit

I used to go swimming a lot, now I just tend to take my son to the leisure pool. I never focus on people's bodies, I focus on myself and my child and husband (when I used to lane swim it took a few weeks to recognise my colleague that's how much I look at others, and maybe how much I rely on my glasses) I would say most people are the same, a lot of people feel self conscious over their bodies for different reasons and won't be spending time scrutinising others - and if they do they aren't worth your time. Swimming should be an exercise and leisure activity for everyone regardless of what they look like

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Upbeat_Branch_4231@reddit

Heck yes. Don't allow others to body shame you. Beauty comes from inside, not from a botox injection.

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RedditMrJay@reddit

Leisure centre manager here - you''d be the 10th person of the day, honestly no one would even notice, care or realise 👍

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Forward-Swimmer-8451@reddit

Yes of course it's acceptable and frankly this is a you think about them more than the world does. Ps I'd add I have kids and if they asked me what happend I'd just say " sometimes people get sad. Come to me if you ever are " and that would be the end of that convo .

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RanaBufo@reddit

You'll be in water anyway and you can wear shorts. Not the same but i don't shave my legs and i feel self concious when i fo swimming. For like 5 seconds and then im in the pool and no one can see anyway

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Welshbuilder67@reddit

Yes, but if you are concerned buy a style of trunk called a “jammer” longer legged almost to the knee in some cases

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Beginning-Annual-860@reddit

If people are uncomfortable with your scarring, that’s a a them problem. You have to live with it, and as an amputee, I think we need to normalise the face that people are still beautiful and getting on with it, despite the challenges life throws at us.. Please do it, you may give a child confidence to uncover their smaller scars🫡🫡

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SpamJavelin00@reddit

No one gives a shit or it’s any of their business about your scars , but if it makes YOU uncomfortable and you wish to cover them, there are plenty of swimsuits & swimwear shorts which will .

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o-J-A-Y-_-J-A-Y@reddit

I have a scar on my calve that covers about 70% of it. Looks like a shark bite. I take my kid to the pool all the time. Its not my problem if it makes you uncomfortable, I cant really do anything about it. I also wear shorts most weekends.

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Legit_Vampire@reddit

You are you, so go for it there's no reason you shouldn't. There are big small, scarred unscarred, old,young, good and bad swimmers where I used to go. We went to swim not judge anyone. You go & enjoy it

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widdrjb@reddit

Scars mean you survived whatever it was. In my case, that's cancer, two broken legs, a knee replacement, a foot realignment, and a rebellious appendix. I wear a rash vest to streamline the colostomy bag. Nobody cares, or if they do they're not telling me. Go and have fun.

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Holli303@reddit

I joined my gym at 253lbs (5'0"). I could only swim because I could barely move. Nobody cares what you look like. At least at my current gym. Someone called me a whale at a different gym. I never went back. Now go to a different gym. I'm over 100lbs down and I'm training for my PT. If someone's rude to you, tell the management. Honestly, we're all worried about our body image, but generally, nobody else cares. If it's really impacting your ability to feel comfortable working out, there are swimsuits with shorts attached. No idea what you'd call them. A lot of triathletes wear them for swimming in the sea.

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jclom0@reddit

Yes it’s 100% socially acceptable. However if you’re self conscious, try board shorts instead?

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blodblodblod@reddit

Nobody cares what your body looks like - we are all too distracted by the person in a t-shirt and crocs blow drying their pubes.

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Hughdungusmungus@reddit

I did shut the curtain.

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spamjavelin@reddit

The curling tongs were a step too far, though.

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CakeCatsClay@reddit

On the pubes!??

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Present_Program6554@reddit

You mean you don't? Did you have a perm instead?

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ecstatic_trance@reddit

Yeah for real. I saw a man at the poolside shower pull open the front of his shorts to rinse his pool noodle just... right there... like I'm glad, but there are showers in the changing room too... That's the kind of thing people are going to find weird, not some scars on part of you that is obscured by the water anyway!

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Dependent_One6034@reddit

Honesty, that's on you for directly looking toward the showers? Is this whole thread not about not judging people? and here we are. Outside showers are great, but wearing swimming trunks doesn't help getting the sand out of areas....

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ecstatic_trance@reddit

It was at a public swimming pool and if you actually read my post with some level of reading comprehension, instead of looking to get all upset, you'd have noticed I said there were private showers available 😂

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Dependent_One6034@reddit

>you'd have noticed I said there were private showers available Cool, We aren't talking about those. We are talking about the ones poolside. It's nothing to do with my comprehension, or "looking to get all upset" this whole thread is about not judging people in the pool, or by the pool. Which is exactly what you are doing. Your description of the man didn't come off as vulgar, He wasn't doing it to show it off or anything. >I saw a man at the poolside shower pull open the front of his shorts to rinse his pool noodle

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Away_Amoeba5554@reddit

I’m sure he knew what he was doing and enjoyed it 😖

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ecstatic_trance@reddit

I don't need more reasons to be disappointed in men 🫠

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Dependent_One6034@reddit

This entire thread is about being non judgemental toward other people while swimming or whatever. Please tell me why you are being judgemental toward other people while swimming or whatever?

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ecstatic_trance@reddit

I suppose that I am actually being judgmental since we are all making judgment calls all the time. For instance, I am judging that I don't find a person who has scars on their body problematic or objectionable. I am also judging that a person openly washing their genitals in front of me when they had the ability to do so in a private area is objectionable and questionable, and my experience of men specifically (I have a feeling that's what you're sensitive about) makes me leery of the intention behind that choice of behaviour. Further, it is my judgment based on experience that the men at my pool very frequently act in poor and inappropriate and disappointing ways. I do not cast negative judgments on people based on their appearance, but I will do based on their behaviour. Hope that clears things up :) I will not be responding to further questions :)

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frogfoot420@reddit

or the old fella in the changing rooms stark bollock naked.

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Present_Program6554@reddit

I taught my nephew to blame his scars on sharks in the deep end if anyone mentioned them while he was swimming. He scared a few kids out of the pool but if they had minded their own business he wouldn't have said a thing. You have every right to use any public facilities whether you're scarred or not. Go and enjoy your training

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ffsmadeleine@reddit

People will probably look but as long as they are scars and aren’t fresh you have every right to be comfortable swimming.

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KoalaCapp@reddit

If every person who gave birth and has full on stretch marks didn't go out in public it would be a very uncrowed place. Unless your wounds are open, seeping etc then you are fine. Heaps of people have scars from a 1000 reasons. You are an amazing, one of a kind person and you deserve to be out in the world enjoying it.

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MeadFromHell@reddit

Hey, I've got scars up my arms and down my legs, and while I haven't been swimming in absolutely AGES, when I did go I was never looked at in the slightest for them. I was iffy about it too until a friend pointed out that no one is watching you get into the pool, and once you're in the pool, no one can see anyway. I wouldn't stress so much over it.

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Littlelindsey@reddit

Yes it’s socially acceptable to have scars in public

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Afraid-Video-3146@reddit

Badly burned on my back and left harm,never bothered me, it is their problem

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weefawn@reddit

I am an FTM transsexual who chose not to keep his nipples after surgery. Nobody ever looked at my weird ass chest twice. People really don't care

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fionsichord@reddit

Of course. You have every right to use the pool (as long as you’re all healed up, which it sounds like you absolutely are). What would be socially unacceptable is if anyone were to comment or otherwise draw attention to it, and you would be within your rights to give them a Look and tell them to get lost. Hopefully others would too, I know I would.

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nocerealever@reddit

You can use swim pants if you like

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Curious_Octopod@reddit

Its completely acceptable, but if you're self-conscious, why not get (long) swim shorts and tankini? Lots of people choose that setup anyway for modesty or comfort.

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Tay74@reddit

It *should* be socially acceptable, but there is a non-zero chance someone will stick their nose in and comment unfortunately. Most people who notice will likely just see it, hope you're in a better place now, and move on with their day, but some people try and day something, some will be well meaning, others, eh, it just depends If you would feel more comfortable and they are mostly around the top of your thighs, could you wear swim shorts perhaps? Either way, I hope you are doing better these days, best of luck in your triathlon training

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Fellowes321@reddit

I go for early morning swims in my local pool. It’s mostly old people but each day has a class that starts as I’m getting out. One class has a couple who need a special hoist to get them in the pool. Others in the class are missing limbs. Another exercise group has a guy who is rather large. I’m no oil painting myself. It’s a public pool. You’re a member of the public. It’s for you. I can’t say say small children will not stare but kids are weird. They stare at anything.

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Bionix_52@reddit

I’m an above knee amputee. My leg is attached to my body via a bone implant that comes out of the end of my stump. When I go swimming I walk to the pool, unscrew my leg, leave it somewhere close by, jump in the water. Never had anyone say anything negative about it.

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MoodyStocking@reddit

No one will care, I’m half blind when I swim without my glasses so even if I was looking I wouldn’t be able to see anything 😂 There are all sorts at the pool, bodies of all ages, shapes, and sizes, there are a couple of amputees at my pool as well, no one will worry about some scars :)

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Cirieno@reddit

You can get prescription goggles, I had some when I was at school.

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Taken_Abroad_Book@reddit

They're bloody expensive for complex prescriptions unfortunately

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Queen_of_London@reddit

They can't fully correct, but you can get them down to -8 these days (and still for £20), and reading correction and astigmatism aren't as big a deal for swimming. They've been a gamechanger for me, and my prescription is definitely complex.

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Taken_Abroad_Book@reddit

Astigmatism correction is absolutely huge. I got some of the cheap ones without it and they gave me such a headache within a few minutes.

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Queen_of_London@reddit

I guess it just varies from person to person then. I don't know if mine is bad or not - it's 2 in one eye and 2.75 in the other eye (for astigmatism, I mean; I also have -7 and -8, +1.5 and +1.5), which is bad enough that contact lenses can't go that high, but that's my only frame of reference - and prescription goggles are great for me. I do only do pool swimming though, so that might make a difference. Open water swimming, I imagine, might require more precise correction. Or it could just be that not everyone reacts the same way. Bodies aren't always predictable just based on numerical values. But for anyone that hasn't tried prescription goggles, I'd say that £20 makes it worth a punt.

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MoodyStocking@reddit

I do actually have some but they’re about 5 prescriptions out of date, game changer though, especially when swimming in the sea!

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HarketSavoy@reddit

I’m weird because I wear my glasses in the pool and the sea.

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DontMakeMeFightYou@reddit

If people cause a big deal THEIR behaviour is socially unacceptable, not yours. I have big, now old scars, all over but I went swimming when they were still livid & most people don't bat an eye. For full disclosure I have had people approach me to offer advice or sympathy in public which is both lovely & I found a little embarrassing but it's rare. As embarrassing as it can be I really do get it, I've got older I've covered mine with tattoos now (because hell just because I don't like this body doesn't mean I can't decorate it better) but if I see someone who went through what I did my immediate thought is "my brother, I fucking love you" but know how weirded out people would be based on how I was so just know if someone does that it is from a place of care. Go smash that triathlon.

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SeasonReasonable4282@reddit

OP, Scars are proof that you are stronger than whatever tried to hurt you. Carry them with pride.

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meltymcface@reddit

If your scarring makes people uncomfortable (it won’t) then that’s their problem. I’ve recently gained a new philosophy/mantra I keep in mind when people decide to react weirdly to stuff: “let them.” - I find it freeing from trying to manage other people’s feelings.

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Original-Big-6351@reddit

I’m a fat woman who avoided swimming for YEARS for fear of being looked at some kind of way at the pool. Now I swim every week, it’s my absolute favourite place to be. No one cares. No one. And when you’re a bit older if you like you can get some tattoos and then if people do look, they’re just looking at your sick ink (this has been my strategy!) Go have a wonderful time training!

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OldLondon@reddit

It’s socially unacceptable for people to not mind their own fucking business. You do you and bollocks to anyone else. Your scars are part of your journey and who you are today.

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abyssal-isopod86@reddit

I have a genuine question for you: why do you think it might not be socially acceptable to do so because of sh scars?

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Alert_Ad_5750@reddit

OF COURSE!! Nobody will care and if you did get an unlikely negative comment or vibe towards you from someone, pretty much every single person in that room would feel disgust towards THEM. You go and enjoy your swim. If you feel insecure about it, you’ll be in the water most of the time. People come in all shapes and sizes with all sorts of ‘flaws’, we all feel we have them in some way or another. Scars are scars and they’re not jarring or bad. Start giving less of a shit about them and go enjoy things you want to do, don’t let them hold you back. Anyone unkind you can do a big 🖕.

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FST_Fruckie-Poo@reddit

Don't be filling your head worrying about what other people think or you will never fully be able to commit to certain things in life & cause yourself unnecessary anxiety. The only thing that matters is how you feel about your scars! If others are uncomfortable then that's on them for being such narrow minded individuals & they can leave. My sister has MANY scars on her body and used to have similar worries until she realized she was causing herself more harm than good especially mentally. Be confident, own your scars & they will. fade more over time!! Best of luck with your triathlon 🫶 Now go get in that pool 🏊

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Sergeant_Fred_Colon@reddit

Of cause its OK. If you're self conscious about the scars you can get long swin ware that will cover the scars.

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thebottomofawhale@reddit

I'm guessing you're meaning they're SH scars? Mine are quite faded now, but when they were more fresh, the moment I stopped hiding them was actually very healing and liberating and people did not really care that much. In a swimming pool, you're under the water most of the time and people aren't really looking or judging eachother. If you feel really self conscious about it, there are long sleeves/short swimsuits that could cover. But I think you'll be ok.

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Either-Blackberry-46@reddit

No one cares. If you are self conscious of it and it’s blocking your enjoyment of swimming you could try to get a knee length speed swim suit or use waterproof kinesiology tape to cover areas. But really how you look didn’t matter, just enjoy the movement and time in the water.

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Short-Shopping3197@reddit

Whatever people’s reaction is, it’ll be nothing to them compared to what you’ve been brave enough to survive. Get out there and live your one life, let other people be responsible for their own feelings. It sounds like you deserve a bit of grace.

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Plumb789@reddit

I have a surgical scar that runs 2/3rds of the way round my body. Every week I go swimming, and it's a communal changing room. I know it's not the same kind of scar-but a scar's a scar. I've never wasted a single second worrying about whether other people don't like my scar-or what they think about it. My logic is that, the more you see something, the more desensitised you get to it. I'm doing other scarred people a favour by normalising it.

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Top-Goat-9195@reddit

I promise you everyone else is worried about how they are personally looking

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peskyant@reddit

It's fine man you're not in japan.

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chuckiestealady@reddit

The people who matter don’t mind. The people who mind don’t matter.

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littlegreycells_11@reddit

I would just go for it, as long as they're fully healed and not still open wounds. Once you're in the pool, no one will be able to see. My arms are covered in scars from when I was a teenager, and while I used to get people looking, no one ever actually said anything to me about it. I'm 36 now and they've faded a lot, I've not had anyone stare at them for about a decade.

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welshgirl0987@reddit

Absolutely acceptable ! I was a lifeguard for years and if it gives you any comfort? A body is a body. We saw so many of them? Its like I've heard doctors describe you just dont care what anyone looks like. Its a body, everyone has one.. they come in all shapes and sizes. Well done on wanting to train and try and be comforted by the thought that honestly? Nobody's looking particularly. If they do? Just ignore.

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SpartanS034@reddit

I have had visible self harm scars on my arms for almost 2 decades and no-one i don't know has ever made a comment, made me feel uncomfortable or even noticed as far as I know.

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Sea-Possession-1208@reddit

Open wounds no. Scars - totally acceptable. But bear in mind that just because you are in the right doesn't mean people won't be arseholes. And may pass comments or stare etc. And then you need to be ready for how that may make you feel. If you don't care. Go ahead. But the fact that you've asked this, makes me suspect got would struggle if some ignorant twat started having a go at you. You may want to swim in eg swim shorts. I do this for other reasons. But it helps me feel more confident. And i get some questions about them but very few. Fewer than i got before i started wearing them.

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miowiamagrapegod@reddit

It's infinitely more acceptable than judging someone for having scars.

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julianAppleby5997@reddit

You do what makes you happy. Xxx

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CurrencyAbject6088@reddit

You’re fine. Wear whatever you feel comfortable in (swim shorts/skirt, one piece or bikinis) if it makes you more confident have a stock reply if any one is enough of a troglodyte to mention them. As the scars are upper thigh, I recommend “why are you staring at my thighs? Pervert!” Or “Eww, why are you talking about a child’s body!?”

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Dangerous-Use7343@reddit

Most people have scars, lots of people have more noticable scars. It's really not anyone's place to judge you. Your legs will also be in the pool most of the time.

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ancommy@reddit

I have the same thing and no one has ever commented on it The only time I’ve tried to hide them is when I’ve been to baby swimming classes with my daughter and I had already been getting to know some of the other mums and was just too embarrassed for these new friends to see them, so I bought a unitard swimsuit from next

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Buffy_Geek@reddit

One concern, espeically if your marks are fresh, then the staff might be concerned that you pose a healthy and safety risk to yourself. So they might be either logistically fosuinh on you more, or be emotionally concerned with your wellbeing. As you might know a lot of people don't understand self harm and can mistakenly think that everyone who does it is suicidal. And that can lead people to be either overly concerned and particularly with staff or like safety/care guidelines often this means not letting people be alone, or closer monitoring or other restrictions. (Plus some prejudice but that comes with depression and self harm too.) I used to attend a leisure club with my friend as a teen and they had visible self harm scars that they didn't cover up (I hid mine) and the staff deemed my friend a healthy and safety risk. I dot know how much was that they didn't want to be deemed liable if she hurt herself on their grounds? Vs following some guidelines, that they referenced. My friend also had anxiety and hated their reaction and what she saw as testing her like a child.

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oooohshinythingy@reddit

I can’t imagine anyone finding it not ok. If anyone does then that’s their problem and sod em. You enjoy yourself, it’s awesome you’re training for a triathlon, go for it 🥳

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adam190990@reddit

It doesn’t matter how the scars got there, or even that they __are__ there. The main thing is that you train despite them being there. Personally, I have a huge scar from brain surgery, but that doesn’t stop me from doing what I want to do whether people stare or not. Train your ass off. Win.

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gottaloveteatime@reddit

I swim with marks and bruises all over my body, caused by pole and aerials. I've been asked about them once, by a lovely lady who wanted to check I was ok/wasn't being abused at home. No one else has ever commented or complained.

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Buffy_Geek@reddit

You should be more concerned with how others will view and treat you, rather than if the scars make others uncomfortable. If you genuinely don't care how others view you, and are not affected by them staring or whispering about you, so it wouldn't negatively affect your mental health, then just go for it. However if you might be negatively impacted by a negative reaction, or if thinking about that would take attention away form exercising and being healthy, then it's worth covering up. Or if you are hoping to get attention or sympathy then consider if that is a healthy positive decision? Or if you could fulfil that desire and meet your emotional needs in a better, healthier, longer term way. Overall you need to balance the pros and cons for you, not for strangers.

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Impossible_Volume811@reddit

If _you_ would feel more comfortable or relaxed if your scars weren’t visible you can find stretchy swim shorts that would be similar to the wetsuits that a lot of people wear for triathlon. But don’t feel you have to cover up for anyone else. I personally wear shorts to swim, not skimpy briefs, but I don’t care what other people wear.

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ms_amaranth@reddit

I have some nasty scars, I swim, if anyone has a problem, they have a problem, I dont

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Expert-Tie-1530@reddit

If you are really worried, how about a light weight wet suit. Please do not be embarrassed you have nothing to worry about. Have you seen the state of some people’s bodies! and they don’t seem to care

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Famous_Address3625@reddit

I’m old, I have wrinkly saggy skin at the top of my thighs and if I wear the wrong cossie, boobs around my knees. Also a mahoosive epigastric hernia that I’m awaiting surgery for. Off on holiday next week - grandkids love me taking them swimming as I chase them around being a shark. Admittedly the giant hernia (aka alien baby) is giving me some pause re swimming, but I can’t let them down and you shouldn’t let yourself down if you need to reach your triathlon potential. People may look, wonder, but will ultimately forget and do their own thing. Go for it, enjoy it! Anyway, once in water no one will even see

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Suspicious_Banana255@reddit

You don't need to hide anything but if it makes you feel better look for a swimsuit that covers more, try Googling modest swimsuit

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easterbunni@reddit

The only socially unacceptable thing would be being dirty and washing grime and skank off into the pool

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quellflynn@reddit

id happily take your scars than have my shit bag on show, with the ever likely chance it'll fall off and cause the entire pool to be evacuated. please, have a swim for me!

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ShinyHeadedCook@reddit

I regularly talk to an old guy in my sports centres thermal suite and pool. He has over 50% burns to his body. Nobody cares what other people look like in sports centres, just behave with respect to others and everyone usually gets on

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AmbitiousAd543@reddit

You don’t have to shy away just to suit other people’s eyes my lovely.

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Sfb208@reddit

Yes,it's entirely socially acceptable to use a leisure centre pool with visible scarring. What wouldnt5be socially acceptable would be to exclude someone from said pool due to said scarring.

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WarAdventurous5277@reddit

Dear 17 yr old, please don’t ever worry about what others think of your appearance. It really does not matter what others think about your body. Your body houses YOU and that’s all that matters. Swimming should be a pleasure to you and not something which worries you regarding physical appearances. And I absolutely need to take my own advice. Yours sincerely, a 33yr old with hormonal issues and so a lot of hair in swimsuit areas! >_<!

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potato_pineapple52@reddit

If it helps I’m 21 and have some cracking scars on legs and wrists and have been swimming regularly at my local pool with my scars out for years. Nobody even looks twice at me - everyone is too busy being self conscious or doing laps or planning their shopping list or whatever! Get out there and enjoy yourself :)

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Squiggally-umf@reddit

Absolutely not. The fact your concern is whether or not you’re committing some kind of taboo simply for existing is a sign that you need to be kinder to yourself. You are as worthy of occupying space on this planet as everyone else.

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butterypowered@reddit

I think a lot of people are well-meaning and supportive but forgetting what it’s like to be seventeen. Nothing wrong with asking first. Hopefully you’re seeing the support and not reading any of it as dismissive or condescending. Well done and good luck with your triathlon. :)

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pootler@reddit

For years, I didn't go swimming because I thought people would judge my bodyor worse. When I finally plucked up the courage, I found that my local pool was used by people with all sorts of bodies. Ans that once you're in the water, all people see is your head. If it helps, your pool will have a quieter time each day. For me, it's about 1 to 3pm. Originally, I went then because there were fewer people to see me. Now it's a good time to get plenty of room to myself, often even an entire lane. :)

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Apprehensive-List794@reddit

Your scars are not something to be hidden but if you feel more comfortable there are long swimming shorts you can wear.

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Creepy-Albatross-588@reddit

We all have scars of some form whether they be from childbirth, stretch marks, operations, self inflicted or the scars inside that others can’t see but make us feel rubbish. We have hair in places we don’t want it. My boobs are too big, my friend’s boobs are too small (to us). Our own scars are always bigger in our own heads. I’m too busy trying to keep my boobs in my swimsuit to notice others. No one will care. Go for it.

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HecatesOracle@reddit

If anyone gives you odd looks, or says anything, you could always pull a Joker. "You wanna know how I got these scars?" 🤭🤭 Or tell them you were attacked by a rabid hedgehog, then bite them 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️ (I know I'm not helpful, but I have similar scars, and I'm petty AF 😇) ❤️

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Embarrassed-Shock621@reddit

I think it would be fine. You might get the odd look, or glance, but give them no mind. People are drawn to catch a second look at the unusual, a passing curiosity, but should leave you alone as they would wish to be left alone. Everyone is there to get fitter and stay healthy, not to be rude or upset by others because of how they might look. At my swimming pool many people with physical disabilities due to both accidents and disorders come to swim. None are stared at, all are accepted. As you will be. Good luck on your journey, I wish you well.

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Airurando-jin@reddit

Yes, totally acceptable . I have self harm scars on my arm. I tought my kids how to swim

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Etheria_system@reddit

Yep it’s fine! In general, I’ve come to learn that people are far more worried about themselves than they are about other people, and if they are obsessing over other people it’s because something is lacking in themselves anyway. We all have stories. Yours is just shown a little more physically than others are. You deserve to be in a leisure centre just as much as anyone else

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badger_fun_times76@reddit

I've got some big scars from a laparotomy years back (kinda like a zipper between my breastbone to below my belly button). Quite happy to go to the pool - have never had any problems, never any comments. Use the pool. You own those scars and you earned them with blood sweat and tears. Also scars are cool.

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CrustyHumdinger@reddit

Mate, be at one with who you are, scars and all. I'm fat and hairy, that's much worse

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Violet351@reddit

Yes, it’s fine. I have a large very visible birthmark and I always think it’s their problem not mine if they have an issue with it.

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jeminar@reddit

Blimey. If public pools became a place of judgement, I'd be toast

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zikhara@reddit

Out of all the times I’ve gone swimming with my eczema scars out, only once have I had a comment of, “wow you have a lot of bruises”.

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Outrageous-Mammoth47@reddit

Other people’s opinions of your body should never matter more than your own. If you want to go swimming, go swimming

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Bloverfish@reddit

You can get male and female swimming costumes called 'Jammers' where you can have knee length or full leg length costumes and female ones cover body and arms as well. I wear full leg male jammers as I have a lot of scarring from a motorcycle accident a few years ago. Have a look at Decathlon's website to see examples of these costumes.

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CurvePuzzleheaded361@reddit

Why wouldnt it be?

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G-reeper66@reddit

Scars are a part of everybody, regardless of their cause, I was 20 when my right leg got crushed in a work accident (military) I recovered and had a full career. I have scars from that and twice breaking bones in my back that I wear as a badge of who I am, and you should too, never be afraid to be yourself. If anyone has issues then it is their problem to deal with not yours.

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Kudosnotkang@reddit

It’s your body, it can’t be socially unacceptable Also it’s not obvious to me what the scars are from , I don’t know what would cause scars at the tops of legs? Maybe lots of people would be in ignorance like me so don’t worry about it .

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bluebellwould@reddit

I cycled into a lamppost when I was 11 and had stitches at the top of the leg. There is a lump and a scar. I wear swim shorts sometimes but to be honest, once your in, who can see?

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seesawgame@reddit

I use my local leisure centre pool and I’ve never seen anyone pay any attention to my scars. You’ll be in the water most of the time anyway where no one can see them.

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HorrorAccomplished78@reddit

I would treat you exactly the same as anyone else. Neutral and non judgmental. Go for it.

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dreadwitch@reddit

Making others uncomfortable doesn't matter, if they're uncomfortable the that's a them problem. The question is do you feel comfortable? If so then that's all that matters, nobody can tell you it's unacceptable to get your scars out in public no matter how they were made.

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-Xserco-@reddit

Stop caring about the opinions of legit nobodies. Go swim.

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SpudFire@reddit

They probably won't notice. You can't do much about them now anyway so if people do notice and are for some reason bothered by them, they need to get over themselves. If you feel uncomfortable having them on display, you can get swimsuits with shorts style legs which will cover your thighs. Search for boyleg/legsuit/shorty swimsuit (different brands call them different things).

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MaxximumB@reddit

Nobody cares what you look like. So long as you don't have any open wounds I'd say you are good. Good luck for your first triathlon.

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No-Snow-9605@reddit

If there is a problem it's theirs, not yours. Go ahead, use the pool,it's there for everyone to use. You have nothing to hide,or be ashamed about. HAVE FUN.

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Specific-Sundae2530@reddit

My kids were in a swimming club and swimsuits with cycle short style bottoms were very popular.

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RunningDude90@reddit

This, I would suggest jammers, but whatever a female jammer is.

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Hillbert@reddit

Jammhers?

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Phenomenomix@reddit

I barely know her!!

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sweetlambly@reddit

The same as Jammers but pink and more expensive

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RunningDude90@reddit

Blokes tight swimming shorts.

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Hillbert@reddit

I know, I have some, it's my suggestion for the female version!

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BeanOnAJourney@reddit

Without wishing to sound blunt, nobody will even notice, much less care what you look like. I go swimming with a very large scar on my abdomen (visible because i wear a bikini because one-piece cossies are uncomfortable to me), back rolls, thunder thighs, lardy arse, body hair everywhere it grows and guess what, nothing happens. Nobody bats an eyelid. I get in, I swim, I enjoy myself, I get out, I go home.

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Rare-Candle-5163@reddit

It’s not your responsibility to make other people comfortable about your body. If you are comfortable with your scars, that’s all that matters. If you decide you would like to cover them up, you could look at getting swimwear that covers your legs a bit more. I don’t know your gender or what you would be wearing in a pool, but you can get swimming costumes with in built shorts or skirts. W can also just wear longer shorts either over a normal swimsuit or on their own, either with or without a bikini or tankini top, depending on your gender or gender expression.

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Inevitable-Tomato237@reddit

No one will care at all, probably won't even notice. When people are wearing snorkels, flippers, hand paddles and tying their legs together with blocks I honestly don't think they're in any position to judge others 😂 Just don't get in the way during lane swimming... that shouldn't be socially acceptable. Good luck with your triathlon training!! 🧡

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lighthousemoth@reddit

I have the same sort of scars all over my legs and arms and torso and no one has ever glanced twice or made a fuss. Go for it! And enjoy your training. A triathlon is a serious accomplishment to go for!

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Extension_Sun_377@reddit

I work at a Leisure Centre, you will be made very welcome but if you yourself are self conscious, you can get swimming costume with short shirts or shorts at the top. If anyone there makes you feel uncomfortable, speak to one of the centre staff.

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ADHDJ86@reddit

If someone has a problem with anyone's scars fuck them theyre a dick. Be proud of your scars, I have a scar full length of my arm and I fucking love it because it tells a story that others may not have survived.

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peppermint_aero@reddit

Go, be free, and enjoy the water! But also: if _you_ prefer to cover up there are lots of swim leggings/shorts and "modest swimwear" these days.

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StabbyMcStabbedface@reddit

I have a lot of scars all over and I too was really nervous about going to the swimming pool as it’s not uncommon for people to stare at me in public places, but I’m glad I went, I didn’t notice anyone starring or any comments at all, I felt normal. Have a great time at the pool and enjoy.

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BlueFungus458@reddit

Other people are worried about their own stubbly legs, hairy backs and baggy or too tight swim-wear. No one cares about other people.

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Missus_Nicola@reddit

I have masses of stretch marks visible on my tummy. Doesn't stop me wearing a bikini to swim. Anyone who would actually be bothered by it is someone you don't need to be worried about.

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Impossible-Tackle253@reddit

You have them, yet you are here and doing something nice to better yourself. You are all good! If it helps, my grandad had scars from his many heart bypasses and he wore a shirt to the swimming baths "to avoid scaring kids" - as a kid myself I can say I never particularly found his scars scary (but I did have questions). Basically, I think you are fine and personally I can't say I found scars scary as a child

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winebookscats@reddit

I really hope these comments have given you the confidence to jump in that pool and give zero f***ks about your scars. My 16yr is in a similar position and swims with her arm and leg scars on full display. Thankfully, hers are healed - I hope (for your sake, nobody else's) that yours are too ❤️

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Which_Performance_72@reddit

I had heart surgery when I was six so have a very visible scar right down my sternum. I used to wear a swimming top until I was 15. And then I thought, fuck it, the pool isn't a social place and I never see anyone I know, I realised scars aren't a weakness they're a part of life. No matter how you got them

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Consistent_Aide_7661@reddit

get therapy

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KookyStructure6076@reddit

Anyone who has an issue with your body and the way it looks, is a not a nice person and that issue is a reflection of them self's rather than a reflection of you, wear your scars as a badge of honor that you survived

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Foxtrot7888@reddit

I think it’s fine. Nobody is paying much attention to what anyone else looks like, and when you’re in the water nobody will even see the scars.

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Glittering_Win_5085@reddit

Stop apologising so much and worrying about this stuff. Save the apologies for when you've actually done something wrong. I get the worry and stuff but if you're 17 I will say what I wish someone had to me; people pleasing gets you nowhere. I presume they are SH so I hope you're getting help too :)

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Hampshire-UK@reddit

The rest of us are worrying about tummies, man boobs, stretch marks and moles. We are all in this together. Please go for it.

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cantankerous-salmon@reddit

I have prominent SH scars on my thighs and arms and have gone swimming in various leisure centres many times without any issue. Please don't worry about making other people uncomfortable. As others have said, you can always get swim shorts if you really don't want to show your scars, but there's absolutely no requirement.

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Jin-shei@reddit

Their discomfort is their problem. That said, people notice way less than you think

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Electronic-Air2035@reddit

What other people think isn't your problem, they MAY have a quick glance and guess what it's from and probably move on with their day immediately. However, I have had the exact same issue in the past as you at the top half of my legs which put me off going swimming and I understand that you may feel self conscious of this... The good news is they make 'modest' swimwear for those who don't wish to show parts of their legs and arms and sports designs are available, so look into that, also well done on the triathlon training, I bet you'll smash it 👌

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extranjeroQ@reddit

No one cares. I have a delightful outbreak of psoriasis on my legs currently and it isn’t stopping me doing my laps.

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originallyale@reddit

It’s no one’s business what your body looks like. If you’re feeling conscious you could swim in Lycra shorts maybe? But honestly it’s no one’s business and if they make you uncomfortable I’d personally report them to the pool staff. One of my favourite gym instructors is covered in SH scars from her past but exercise it what kept her here and I loved her for showing them because it made me feel more welcome too. You do you & enjoy your swim! You’re not hurting anyone

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Arefue@reddit

Yes, its 100% ok. Enjoy the swim / training

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Conscious_Lie_9266@reddit

They literally won’t care Anyone that doesn’t like it doesn’t understand the struggle

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Turbulent_Ad_880@reddit

I would hope it would be socially UNacceptable to prevent or otherwise draw attention to anyone with such scarring doing whatever the hell they want, the only requirement being health; that the wound was not infected and was suitably dressed ("scarring" to me implies an old wound that's healed, but knowing what Reddit's like I felt the need to clarify).

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D0wnb0at@reddit

Fuck em. Honestly. If you are comfortable then that’s all that matters. I was soooo insecure about scars that cover my right leg I got as a young kid. Looks like bad burn scars but it’s not. Wasn’t till I was in my mid 20’s I wore shorts in public, and very rarely. I’d always cover my legs if I could. 40’s now and honestly don’t give 2 fucks what people think of me. Wear shorts all the time and it doesn’t even register in my brain that my scars are on show. I know your scars tell a different story than mine, but if you are comfortable, fuck everyone else.

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Ok_Egg_4585@reddit

Absolutely acceptable!

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Chickenhugga@reddit

1) you’ll be in the water most of the time, they won’t see them 2) as long as the scar is healed, there aren’t concerns - don’t worry about other people they have enough insecurities to worry about others

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sweetlambly@reddit

You will be fine. I have significant scarring on my arms and spent so many summers sweltering in long sleeves. I worked hard to change that, and now i barely think about it. Occasionally, very very occasionally, I will get some old biddy asking what happened. I usually say "I used to be sad, now I'm not" sometimes children will ask, they get "I was in an accident" or "i had a fight with a tiger" Some people are nosy. In a swimming pool you're out of the changing room and into the water so quickly, it's unlikely people will even see. And if they do most will just look, think "oh how sad" and go about worrying if they've turned the gas off. Don't stop living your life because of your past. You are amazing.

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Forgetful8nine@reddit

I'd be surprised if anyone looks that closely.

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Interesting-Beach235@reddit

I have scars on my arms. Im 25 with 2 kids. I do the school run i work out i live a full life. You gotta live your life regardless of your body and your past. Go to the beach and the pool and everywhere you want. Do not be ashamed of your body (easier said than done i know). Other people's discomfort is none of your concern. Inbox is open if you need it.

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CosmicChameleon99@reddit

Nobody will care but if you care about it you can get swimming trunks

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Kizzieuk@reddit

Many disabled people go swimming without limbs, I'm sure no one will care about scars

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cayosonia@reddit

Just go for it, nobody cares. They might catch somebody's eye but that's all. Good luck with the triathalon

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teluch@reddit

Is it socially acceptable? Of course. Will they talk about you? I don’t think so, everybody is busy with their own shit. But even if some of them talk, who cares? You are too young and it is understandable that you think in that way especially with stupid perfect body people on tv culture. If you feel uncomfortable, it is also ok to cover your upper legs. Everything you do is ok. Just don’t worry about it!

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onionsofwar@reddit

Completely socially acceptable, it's remarkable that you would even have to ask. This is just like that post about using a public park to put up a tent lol. You're legs will be under the water and frankly, the shape and look of your body isn't relevant when you're trying to exercise. No one has a right to be offended or uncomfortable by someone else's body.

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Salty-Letterhead3731@reddit

I swim with visible scars and no-one has ever batted an eyelid. Go for it and happy swimming!

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bluebellwould@reddit

Yes, totally acceptable

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Ruu2D2@reddit

Yes i got condition that cause tumour to grow on me . Some awful people are awful about it . But I still use public pool and spa I spent my youth feeling shame and won't go swimming unless I could cover myself . But I got to point in my life where I'm like people can be awful and nothing I can do will change that. So I need to enjoy my life and let them be awful . I won't change them

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Opening_Effective_18@reddit

That’s their prejudice not yours. I myself have scars on my arms that are too symmetrical to misunderstand. I was also worried about what people would think or say. However I’ve worked in the hospitality industry for the last 6 years, all in a short sleeve shirt. I’ve been asked about them exactly 0 times. For a while I kinda wished people would ask about them, just to prove myself right. It took a while, but eventually I realised that most people really couldn’t care less. They’ll either see it and say nothing, or they’ll see it and say something. But I guarantee that if they ever said anything it wouldn’t be handled in their favour. Your scars are yours, a life without scars is a life without struggles, be those scars physical or mental. If someone is upset by them, take that as a judge of their character, not as a judge on your own

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Mandaxx25@reddit

Wear cycling shorts if you really feel it's something that bothers you but it's nobody's business that you have scars. I say this as a woman with lipoedema on my ankles and I try to hide them constantly so if you do this, I'm going to promise to work on my insecurity too.

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My_sloth_life@reddit

Well I don’t think anyone is going to care very much as we are all worrying about something. I’m super fat and would be prime material for weird looks or staring but nobody gives me a second glance. That said if you feel insecure about it you can get some pretty nice leg suits which would cover them up. Speedo have some very nice ones.

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UnnecessaryStep@reddit

I tend to wear swim shorts or a swim skirt. Then I don't need to worry about anything escaping containment. They would probably cover a chunk of them. Also, everyone there is far too worried about themselves to look at anything else.

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EducationalBison5359@reddit

Try not to stress about what people think. The right people won’t judge you for it.

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Sandy_Bananas@reddit

Most def. Some people might gawp. But fuck em.

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Neither_Process_7847@reddit

Seriously doubt anyone will even notice, let alone be uncomfortable - and its their problem not yours if they do. Do keep in mind that the source might be obvious to you but isn't to others. And even if some twerp does ask obnoxious questions feel free to either ignore them, tell staff, or just give yourself a laugh by making up the most ridiculous story about how you got them (fell off your horse through a barbed wire fence while using the hedge trimmer at age 4, then sadly landed in some brambles, that sort of thing) - anyone daft and rude enough to bother you about them might even believe it...

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Sevenoflime@reddit

I’m in my thirties and my entire body is covered in scars, very visible ones. They’re old but still very obvious. I can’t spend the rest of my life hiding away and nor should you. People make look but it doesn’t matter, that’s their issue, not yours. You’re allowed to take up the space just as much as they are.

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allthingskerri@reddit

Everyone else will be too worried about their own insecurities. Honestly no one cares and no one is judging you (apart from yourself) scars happen. Go to the pool and enjoy yourself

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manic_panda@reddit

Its perfectly acceptable but people will look, however, if you don't mind that then no problem. We're nosy by nature and we look at things that are different or uncomfortable, but most people wont think twice about you having them. Those that do and are dicks about it aren't nice people.

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V65Pilot@reddit

Scars are like tattoos, with cooler stories. I wear mine be with pride. They have become less visible in the almost 40 years since I did my human fireball impression though. I'll use a pool without issue,vand have no issues with others doing the same.

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blondeheartedgoddess@reddit

I'm reasonably sure that the scars were not your choice or something you could have controlled. Who cares if you have scars? If anybody gives you dirty looks, side eye or says anything, either respond or ignore them. To the people that stare, say, "Take a picture. It will last longer!" To anyone who would have the audacity to say something, look them dead in the eye and say, "Who hurt you so badly that you think it's okay to say such hurtful things to me?" Go to the pool. Train for your event and remember: what anybody else thinks of you is none of your business. Good luck!

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Yorkshirerose2010@reddit

I have a chronic eczema all over my body and I hate it. One day I was taking my friends kids swimming and we were queuing for the flume and another child pointed at me and went “eurgh what’s wrong with that persons skin” my friends daughter turned round (she was only 6 at the time) and went “that’s extra and aunty rose has it because she is extra special and only extra special people have it” and since then whenever I have felt self conscious about it I think about that day and how “I am extra special” to that now not so little girl

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affogatohoe@reddit

People arent looking at other people's bodies that closely really*. I didnt swim for years because I was worried about being looked at and when I started firstly I didnt look at or notice anyone's bodies but then I realised literally no one looks or cares! Go for it, no one is going to notice likely and being uncomfortable is ok, some things make some people umcomfortable thats just life. Good luck with your training and have fun *tattoos are eye catching so these do sometimes draw a look but not excessively, more a curiosity to see what the picture is

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Reasonable-Cat5767@reddit

I have awful scars on my thighs too from the same, I wear shorts to swim. Might make you feel more comfortable?

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Kiloyankee-jelly46@reddit

It's socially unacceptable for people to make you uncomfortable about your body while at the pool, whatever you look like.

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alillypie@reddit

Nobody will care. If they do they they should avoid public places as they are for everyone

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Trancer79@reddit

If other people have a problem with your scars, that's entirely on them. It's none of their business anyway. Respect for taking on a triathlon!

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TheDutchess_420@reddit

Just go and swim 🙌🏼👏🏼

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ChelseaMourning@reddit

Honestly everyone is more worried about what they look like than what other people look like.

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AromaticVacation3077@reddit

I'd rather you didn't swim in my local pool, sorry. Last thing I need is 17 year old athletes strutting around making me look more ancient and podgy than I do already.

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anabsentfriend@reddit

I'm going to join the chorus of no one will care. People might look, but then they'll get on doing their own thing. If you feel particularly self-conscious you could try the swim gear I wear. A two piece tanking with shorts instead of high cut bottoms. Enjoy your swim.

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ScarletScotYew@reddit

I think I can understand your concerns. I have a very large scar on my ankle - think it's about 15cm long and about 1cm wide and is very red so stands out compared to my pale skin. I remember being really anxious about going to the pool at the caravan park for the first time as my kids wanted to go swimming. Maybe because I was on holiday and away from folks I might bump into I felt a bit freer to try. Now I don't even think about it. I do get some stares sometimes, usually from the folks sitting in the water at the pools edge as they are eye level with my scar. I don't feel that they are 'judgement' stares, more how someone might look at a tattoo to try and figure out what it actually is.

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TroublesomeFox@reddit

Hey! So to answer your question, no, there's nothing wrong with scars and nobody should be looking at your skin anyway. If someone says anything just ask them why there looking at your crotch anyway. That said, I have lots of scars also and I find that I feel better if I cover them. I had a Google and you can get mens shorts that aren't baggy so that could be an option for you. No idea on what this particular brand is like, I just posted it as an example! https://www.mandmdirect.com/01/details/SP30469?gclsrc=aw.ds&ds_rl=1260413&campaignid=19584038344&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19584038344&gbraid=0AAAAAD5OKP0WlMxjWhQR7A_H0hz47N_ME&gclid=CjwKCAjw5NvPBhAoEiwA_2egfqUOW0buwGBW4xeBzyahKuDLbn27Y4uA_D3Ovq2M5AXok1pZagWeMxoCspwQAvD_BwE

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Pantles@reddit

Back when I was swimming regularly, there was a man who had two prosthetic legs who would swim daily. I never saw anyone say a thing about it, it’s no one’s business but his. I also saw plenty of people wear shorts and T-shirts over their costumes. We all have bits we think we should hide, that no one else even notices. I always think scars can tell stories. I’ve got a keloid scar on my arm that was pretty large and nasty looking for the longest time. Over the years it’s faded so much I forget I have it. At first I would get questions about it, but I used to joke and tell people I’d been shot, or bitten by a shark, or burned with a lightsaber. I’d just make it crazy to see how long it took them to figure out I was kidding. It’s no one’s business how we end up with scars, but we choose what we say about it.

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Leicsbob@reddit

I have very noticeable self harm scars on my arms and legs and I swim. I am very self conscious about them but accept I can't easily cover them up.

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Hocus-Pocus-No-Focus@reddit

As someone who doesn’t have any scars like this, so I can give an entirely neutral view … it’s nothing more than a passing ‘what is that’ which goes through other peoples heads. There’s no judgement, no curiosity, and no real interest in them. It really is at most something that I’m not used to seeing so it might catch the eye momentarily. Please don’t think that other people are going to be thinking about it, and definitely don’t ever let it stop you doing something.

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Pengetalia@reddit

Yep. Absolutely. You'll find other swimmers are too busy swimming, lifeguards are too busy lifeguarding; and there are few other people who would be in the vicinity to notice.

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Terrible-Goose5135@reddit

I don’t think it should matter like others have said- but I have some myself and know how you feel. I found a swimsuit that has a skirt attached and little shorts built in so I have no worries when swimming!

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poop-in-a-bucket-82@reddit

It’s absolutely fine. Realistically, some people might look (they should mind their business tho) and children might look. I don’t think you should be put off. I wouldn’t look twice. There are shorted or skirted swimwear if you were self conscious tho.

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ajsadler@reddit

I wouldn't blame people looking, as long as they aren't staring or judging.

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ClarifyingMe@reddit

Do your scars jump off your body and try to drown people? If not, do what you want. If they do, don't let the government find out, they'll weaponise you, or turn you into an experiment.

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Fast-Drummer5757@reddit

Of course it's fine. If you are insecure about them then buy a swim suit that covers them up, they come in a shapes and sizes these days.

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Background-End2272@reddit

Pretty much every single person is honestly worrying about their own body and how they look in public in their swimming stuff. Honestly don't worry about it.

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SoggyWotsits@reddit

Most people are insecure about bits of themselves when they go swimming. You can rest assured that the other people there will be more concerned about how they look than how you do! Swimming is great exercise and training for a triathlon is impressive. Once you’ve been in the pool a few times, you’ll find it easier and easier.

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Prestigious_Emu6039@reddit

In the UK physical disfigurement does not mean social exclusion.

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WhatYouLeaveBehind@reddit

It's not socially unacceptable, I'll tell you that.

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JosKarith@reddit

I have a LOT of scars and refuse to cover them. If anyone has a problem with that the problem is theirs, not mine.

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CheeryBottom@reddit

My daughter self harms. It wouldn’t be uncomfortable for me to see someone with self harm scars swimming or out and about in general, just getting on with their life.

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TedWasler@reddit

I can perhaps suggest that you just go ahead and enjoy the pool, and if anyone gives you bad vibes just DM me and I’ll pop round and give them a slap?

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WGD23@reddit

My ex used to wear hotpot style bikini bottoms. I've seen other women wear long cycling / legging type shorts so you have clothing alternatives. Ultimately, do whatever makes you feel comfy. If anybody does have a problem, its a them thing, not you. Christ, have you seen the state of most people in a leisure centre / swimming pool / gym / spa? ;)

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ecstatic_trance@reddit

I've seen people with scars (yes those kinds) rocking swimsuits a ton. I've never seen anyone bothering them or staring. Yeah it's probably noticeable, but the majority of people either understand and are compassionate or don't understand and try to ignore it. I hope that's not too honest of me, it's just what I've noticed in my time on earth. If you think the self consciousness will stop you from enjoying yourself, there are longer swimsuits that are designed with modesty in mind, you can get them at places like Decathlon. But really I think you're probably fine. Enjoy yourself, you deserve it!

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Billy_Rizzle@reddit

You training for something more mentally difficult than being judged by random snobs. Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable but also doesn’t impede your ability.

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SongsAboutGhosts@reddit

Yes. Yes it's fine. Yes you deserve to be able to swim too. But I also totally get why you might be self conscious - trust me. Depending on where the scars are, boyleg swimming costumes might help cover them and make you feel more comfortable. Very best of luck ❤️

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PipsyDizzle@reddit

I'm always too self conscious to care about what other people look like, and I assume everyone else is the same tbh lol you'll be fine I promise. I also got one of these [ swimsuit with shorts ](https://www.regatta.com/cath-kidston-bikini-short-cream-harmony-ditsy/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=%7Bcampaignname%7D_23777034709&utm_content=%7Badgroupname%7D_&utm_term=&utm_brand=regatta&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23777070172&gbraid=0AAAAADQdSE8L6GQOKRD4RY9bjHEnIcf-K&gclid=CjwKCAjw5NvPBhAoEiwA_2egfk_NEWRWFg8eo7SMCFSQgKj8QeUSmY57MSpNubkRlzqiVKKJSo3oqRoCZTkQAvD_BwE) and I loovveee it

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Manifestival1@reddit

I don't think it's matters whether it's socially acceptable. People do it and the more that do means it becomes an increasingly acceptable behaviour because the sheer number of people not feeling they have to hide causes it to be normalised. People may look and that's natural. I'd advise having a go to response planned for if anyone says anything so that you aren't thrown in the moment.

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kimbastern@reddit

How amazing you are! To be so dedicated to such a demanding goal. Goodluck with your training 💪🏾.

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Optimal_Collection77@reddit

Your training so putting in the effort. Go for it!!

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Wackobacco@reddit

Be proud of your skin, no one will judge you and those that would invalidate their opinion. You’re alive and breathing, that’s all that matters - don’t let anyone else’s thoughts effect your happiness

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HankHippopopolous@reddit

Yes it’s perfectly fine. Most people are focused on themselves and won’t even notice. Also once you’re in the water no one can even see anything anyway. You can also wear suits with legs which will cover it up if you want to do that too, but to be clear this is 100% not necessary and only if this option makes you more comfortable. You can absolutely swim in whatever kind of outfit you want. The only socially unacceptable thing to do at the pool is swim if you know you have some contagious skin condition. Apart from that everybody is welcome regardless of what they look like.

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Remote_Dish_5420@reddit

If you mean SH scars, if anyone commented it would be children and it’s very unlikely! You should definitely go swimming and not worry about it. I went swimming a few weeks ago and had worn my swimsuit to the pool. My hayfever had started up and because we had to run errands beforehand, I’d stuffed a big wad of toilet roll between my breasts. We went for the toddler swim and when I was showering in front of the pool afterwards there was toilet roll in pieces flowing down my body and a massive lump on my stomach of bloated bog roll. It was in the pool too, floating around. No one seemed to notice and if they did, they didn’t say anything 😭 don’t worry about your scars or covering them up.

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Holls73@reddit

Every body is a beach body. People gain and lose weight, get scars, stretch marks, wrinkles, and tattoos they regret. Go for it. No open wounds though, they can get infected.

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IkeTurn@reddit

Yup. I have a foot long scar on my leg when the stitches on an operation ripped the skin so looks pretty nasty but I don't care. Never had any issues with it really.

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Yikes44@reddit

I honestly wouldn't worry. but if you don't want your scars on show then I've noticed a lot more modest swimwear on sale now (probably to cater to other cultures). Even M&S have a range of it now.

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-Rhymenocerous-@reddit

I have two massive skingrafts on my lower half of my left leg. Doesnt stop me. Doesnt make me any less clean than the next person. If they dont like the look of it they can look away.

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Careless-Cooker@reddit

Far more socially acceptable than a guy wearing an ankle tag, and not the jewellery type, I saw once!

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WanderWomble@reddit

https://www.nessswimwear.co.uk/swimwear/ladies-swimwear/kneelength-swimsuits.html?srsltid=AfmBOopK8AASnxORc2YzCXZqDFBCSGkfRxeUhi_Gnv75-hdtPQl5cZKY Would something like this give you more confidence? ☺️

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_FreddieLovesDelilah@reddit

I have very obvious SH scarring down both my forearms and a few years ago I decided fuck it. I have my arms out all the time now at work and I go to the pool etc. no one has ever said or reported anything. I also have a lot of scars on my legs from eczema and OCD skin picking.

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Gloomy_Custard_3914@reddit

I also have scars from you know what. Don't feel bad and enjoy the swimming pool

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Itsmeladyt79@reddit

I have scars on my legs, extremely large visible scars and I go swimming. It was hard to start with because I was getting used to them but now I see they are just part of my story. Go swimming have fun training.

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whitefire9999@reddit

Yeah no worries, people might look / glance but that’s just human nature, as long as you are clean there’s no issue

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maranru@reddit

Two points. 1. Most importantly, of course you can. Your body is yours. It's highly unlikely anyone will be bothered. And if they are, that is a then issue only 2. Your comfort. Whether it if birthmark, accidental or other. If you feel uncomfortable then clothing options can help

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Elephants_and_rocks@reddit

Love I’m guessing but I reckon your in the same boat as me sh scars. Is that correct? Mine aren’t visible (under a swimsuit) but I know quite a few people with very visible and obvious ones. One of my friends the second time I ever met her I saw her scars and I thought “like me, someone who gets it” I didn’t question it or judge her and nor did it trigger me. You might find children will comment but adults generally won’t. Also particularly while swimming, it’ll be very hard for anyone to actually see your scars. Think about it, they’ll mostly be under the water where people won’t be able to see them or you’ll be moving your legs. If you’re worried about anyone seeing when you go to the pool you can wrap yourself up in a towel and then quickly jump just after taking it off. You’ll be okay ❤️

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N64Andysaurus92@reddit

Your legs would be under the water so not that anyone would see, you'll be okay, just wrap with a towel when walking between the pool and changing rooms.

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Tape_Badger@reddit

I wear swim shorts over my costume for other reasons but OP could do this if she doesn't want them on display at all.

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Interesting_Fish309@reddit

My left arm is scarred. I never hide it. U go for it 💪 Best of luck too 😊

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Funmachine@reddit

Don't worry about what othe people think. Of course it's socially acceptable, you aren't doing anything to anyone there. If they're uncomfortable that's their problem.

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cubevic@reddit

I have a lot of scarring on my arms and legs from self-harm. I stayed out of the pool for a long time as I was self-conscious. I gradually got over it and now swim 4 times per week and compete. I’m so very glad I got over it as I missed being in the water. I echo everyone else, no one notices/cares and once you’re in the water it really isn’t visible. Go and swim, and enjoy.

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RandomRedditor_1916@reddit

Absolutely. You're not going for a swim with open wounds.

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No_Candle2537@reddit

I actually have some experience here. I was younger than you, but I'm not sure you could've even really called them scars yet. Lots of them very visible. Not once did anyone say anything (even though they possibly should've!), nor did I ever feel I was being stared at. The pool is one of the best places for body neutrality - almost everyone feels at least a little bit vulnrable, nobody is spending their time worrying about other people's bodies too.

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Altaccount_T@reddit

Yes, go for it I have visible scarring (including several large surgical scars) and the very most I've got was people looking for a little too long. In the unlikely chance someone has an issue, that's their problem, not yours. Best of luck with the triathlon training!

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here-but-not-present@reddit

I've got extensive scarring from SH, especially on my arms and it took me a very long time to be able to stop fearing what people thought of me (I'm 41 now). Funnily enough, swimming is one thing that doesn't bother me - I'm going to be in the water 95% of the time, where noone is really going to be able to see it. Why not give it a try - you also should be able to find a style of swimsuit that covers some of your thighs if you find that you find that you're uncomfortable.

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BubblerSpesh@reddit

My dad had over 900 stitches, skin grafts and it never stopped him. He started off life very self conscious about them, but eventually realised they were a beautiful symbol of his survival against the odds, and the strength a person can have. Hope you do too!

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mbridge2610@reddit

Being blunt; who gives a fuck what anyone else thinks (unless you do, of course). And, as I say to my daughter who has anxiety, people are too busy to worry about what you’re wearing/doing/hairstyle/delete as appropriate You do you

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DaughterOfATiredMech@reddit

Things happen in life. I got stabbed when I was younger I have visible scars on my body. I don’t shy away from wearing what I want However I do get questions occasionally, so be wary if your insecure

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Enough-Ad3818@reddit

I have what looks like a stabbing scar on my chest. I've never caught people staring or noticed anyone uncomfortable. Nobody has ever come and masked me about it, and if they did, I'd tell them the truth. I had dodgy moles removed, and had to move house almost straight after, so my stitches burst due to the lifting/carrying, and the wound open up...twice. What should have been a small scar of a single line, now looks like I got knifed in the ribs.

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theavocadolady@reddit

100% fine! If you're comfortable then go for it.

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NotTooShabby95@reddit

I have a whole forearm of SH scars from my teen years and being in my thirties now it has literally never occured to me. I say just go for it.

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VolcanicBear@reddit

I have a few obvious self harm scars on my arm (they're like 20+ years old but they were rough) and I swim 4km per week at my local pool. It's fine. There won't be any, but fuck people who judge either way.

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Professional-Deer-50@reddit

Years ago I found that people often made comments, but I just ignored them. I have two scars on my left leg - one from being impaled on a fence and the other a 13" scar where I had a knee operation in the 1960s. I got lots of rude comments when on holiday or sunbathing, but it is their problem. If it helps, make up a silly reason if anyone is stupid enough to ask what happened - my favourite was "I was sword fencing with a dwarf in Heidelberg". They get the message and move on.

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StoneyThrone@reddit

Hello, someone with scarring to his torso here who swims at a leisure centre 3-4 times a week. Trust me, people of all shapes and sizes use the pool and bodies with a bit of character are most definitely welcome.

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CrabNebula_@reddit

I’d rather follow someone who knew lane etiquette than someone who had perfect skin. I’m there for my fitness, not to judge you

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Linkyjinx@reddit

I’ve known people with scarring, from accidents or abuse and any decent, logical adult wouldn’t bat an eyelid tbh, it’s life, just as you don’t point it out with amputees etc. a child is always going to ask Why? and point to their parent though lol, it’s a chance to educate maybe?, and groups of immature/ignorant people will always speak before they think, but again that’s always happened in society for good or bad mixture.

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Radiant-Mycologist72@reddit

I wouldn't worry about it. Kids can be curious though, so maybe have an appropriate child friendly answer ready for if they ask about them.

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Vipera_Berus1@reddit

If having scars makes it socially unacceptable to swim I have gotten away with it for way too long. Lol If it makes you uncomfortable then cover them up, otherwise ignore the judgemental pricks.

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Mumlife8628@reddit

I swim with scars If you're really self conscious get the swim race suits (which are used for triathlon) you dont need the expensive ones to start i got the normal swim costume type as the proper ones are really expensive (tho after alot of patience I got one on ebay for £25 theyre normally over a 100 lol) But honestly noone will care as much as you do, https://preview.redd.it/yd570i7csxyg1.jpeg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b458d2f5cece87fe6d6cb0687b21f9e1d4795e20

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rosywillow@reddit

You’ll be fine. If anyone else feels uncomfortable it’s their problem, and if they are rude enough to comment it’s now the pool staff’s problem to get them out.

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Responsible-Ad-1086@reddit

Yes absolutely

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Significant-Sun-3380@reddit

If you're referring to what i think you are referring to and are worried about triggering somebody else, you could always just wear water shorts or swimming trunks that are enough to cover them. At the end of the day it is on the individual to handle themselves(I say that as someone who gets triggered by these things), but if it's something you're concerned about then you can just wear swimming trunks, I've seen lots of girls prefer swimming shorts so I don’t think anyone will care

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UniversityPotential7@reddit

You have no reason to feel that you should hide them away but as someone with SH scars - people WILL look and the most obnoxious of them will ask you questions or make some kind of remark so bear that in mind.

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Badlydressedgirl@reddit

I’m 28. I’ve had self harm scars on my arms, stomach and legs since I was 12-ish. Nobody has ever said anything! That includes swimming, at the gym, doing burlesque and other NSFW activities. You’ll be fine. At most somebody else who also has scars might be greeted with a smile from somebody else with scars, in solidarity.

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No_Medium_648@reddit

Female. Ex SIer. No one cares. I do have boy leg swimsuits. Lots of women do. I have scars on my arms too. Other people are too busy worrying about their back hair or belly fat or zits. Promise.

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CarelessAnything@reddit

Healed scars? Totally, totally ok - of course! Be proud of your body, the greatest instrument you'll ever own, and your own personal temple. Bleeding or open wounds? You might want to think twice just from an infection point of view, for your own sake as much as anyone else's.

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xxhamsters12@reddit

Their issues with your body is NOT your problem.

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sapphire-sky-dragon@reddit

Aa someone with scars with an obvious cause I just don't care. Scars are from something that tried to break you but you where stronger. These are strangers you will never see again just do what makes you happy.

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I_ALWAYS_UPVOTE_CATS@reddit

Firstly, this will not make people uncomfortable. Secondly, why do you care if it does? You're using a public pool, not running naked down the high street. If anyone does feel uncomfortable that's entirely down to them, not you.

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VioletDime@reddit

Used to do a gym glass with a girl that had scars from knee to hip and wrist to elbow. She wore hot pants and a vest. No one was offended, grossed out or any other negative reaction. People did look, but only a glance in the way you might register a tattoo or piece of jewellery, and then crack on with whatever they were doing. It's you, be you, and good luck in the triathlon!

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Smeeble09@reddit

Honestly not seeing what the thought is behind not being ablt to go swimming with scars? Massive scabs that are still healing I'd understand, but scars don't matter at all.

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That-Caterpillar-301@reddit

I promise everyone will be too busy thinking or being worried about themselves to give too much time to you or how you look. Go for it getting swimming.

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Diesel1donna@reddit

A body without scars is like a canvas without paint. My beautiful late husband was like the bionic man. Every organ bar his heart was operated on. We went swimming and he was brave, but I do think to hell with people if they stare. Be bold. Be you! Xx

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kb-g@reddit

It is 100% acceptable. Firstly, and most importantly, scars are not “unclean” or contagious. Those are the only things that would keep someone out of a public pool. Anyone who comments negatively is being an AH. Secondly, you’re going to have them under the water most of the time. No one will notice. Most people are too self conscious themselves to look at anyone else or they just don’t care. Go swim and good luck with your triathlon!

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-pixie-ninja-@reddit

At the end of the day it's their problem if they wanna be judgy, nobody should judge anyone on history. Saying that, I have scars on my legs that I'm horribly self conscious of and chose to always have them covered. There would be a few options such as shorts or swim suits. Times I've had my scars on show noone has ever said. Anything.

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pancreaticallybroke@reddit

Some people might be bothered but if they are, that's on them. It is not a you problem. As long as the cuts are healed its fine and its got nothing to do with anyone else. To be honest, if I noticed you swimming with self harm scars, my first thought would be "good on you" because you aren't letting it stop you from being out and getting active (which has been proven to be as effective at improving mood as low to mid level antidepressant doses).

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ChaiGreenTea@reddit

Swim twice a week here- literally no one will even look. No one would even see in the water. Everyone is pretty focused on themselves in the pool. I take note of where people are so I don’t bump into them/can swim around them but I don’t pay attention to anyone’s outfit, skin condition, what they look like, nothing

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gsko5000@reddit

Yes you're good. Enjoy yourself 🙌🏽

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Biggeordiegeek@reddit

Anyone with a problem with your scars is a person whose opinion isn’t worth a shit Go fucking swimming and have fun

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AuroraDF@reddit

If you are not uncomfortable, you can do what you want. But if it's worrying you, you could wear swim shorts. Might just take the pressure off and give you one less thing to think about. Sometimes, it's worth doing that, even if it's not neccesary.

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CaterpillarLake@reddit

Your body is your body and it shouldn’t be considered unacceptable for you to be visible in the world. It is kind of you to consider other people but you need to consider yourself first. There’s a possibility that there may be the occasional person who is triggered by seeing your scars, but that’s their responsibility and not yours. I say just wear whatever you’re comfortable in. I’d hope that you don’t get unwanted attention or stares. If that does happen and if it bothers you, you could just wear shorts (you can get all different length shorts and they match well with tankini tops). But hopefully no one will pay any attention.

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RealLongwayround@reddit

I’ve no idea what your scars could be caused by, but essentially it’s irrelevant. Do whatever you want, so long as it causes no harm to others. Seeing legs, scarred or otherwise, is not harmful.

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Timely_Egg_6827@reddit

Once you are in the water, no one will see and most people won't care. My mother used to be very self conscious about varicose veins and stretch marks. No one cared. Most people are more worried about how cold the water will be. If really worried, swimming shorts are a thing and even skirted swimsuits. But that's only for your self comfort not because you need to.

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thegentleduck@reddit

Yes. If anyone has a problem with it, THEY are the problem, not you.

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broken_phoenix19@reddit

I go swimming with visible scarring constantly, I promise no one is even likely to pay attention and id be shocked if they even notice let alone care. If you dont feel comfortable you could always wear some cycling or swimming shorts, ive often seen men wearing tshirts in the pool. Scarring is absolutely not an issue in a pool (or anywhere for that matter)

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IntergalacticCows@reddit

Lots of triathlon athletes wear tri-suits which have short type legs. That could be an option if you want to cover up. I've also bought black bikini shorts that basically look like 4-inch tight gym shorts from ASOS before which cover the thighs. But also I wouldn't worry about making other people uncomfortable. If you want to cover up for you, that's your choice, but if other people have an issue with your body... that's on them.

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Competitive_Pen7192@reddit

No one is going to care even if they notice. The staff won't care. I wear glasses so I can't see $hit when I swim, I certainly won't see any scarring on someone else's legs! Get longer stuff with more leg material if it makes you feel better.

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Mondays-fundays@reddit

I swim at my local public pool daily. No one will bat an eye. There will be people of all ages shapes and sizes

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EfficientOwl4756@reddit

I worked with a senior doctor with visible arm scarring. I just hope all those they cared for were as proud of them as I was to work with them. They’d clearly been through a hell of a lot to get to where they were. Whether that’s medical school or training for a triathlon, the sentiment is the same. I’m proud of you.

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00mpollard@reddit

I've always said scars are like a free tattoo. Flaunt it! Don't be ashamed of scars, we all have them. Some mentally, some physically.

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gerrineer@reddit

Scars are scars everybody has something. dont worry about it no will say anything .and if they do they are dicks!

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Eyupmeduck1989@reddit

I have a fair amount of scarring and it’s pretty obvious that it’s something I did to myself. Sometimes I feel a bit uncomfortable with it if someone asks me about it, but it’s never happened at a leisure centre/pool. You’re absolutely ok to use their facilities

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RookieDuckMan@reddit

Go for it and have fun, some may look so I’d be prepared for that, but that’s on them

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DollySheep32@reddit

Most of your body will be under water and honestly, people don't pay that much attention to other people. Hell, if they're staring at you walking to and from the pool that's creepy and on them for watching a minor in a swim suit. NTA.

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BiscuitCrumbsInBed@reddit

I have a 10inch scar on my arm and over my shoulder. I also wear a sensor on my upper arm for my diabetes. Sometimes one or the other might get a glance but hardly ever. Sometimes I might clock someone glancing but I can't do anything about either so I've made a point of not thinking about them. I have been asked about both, by strangers, and I just answer them. There is nothing you can do about the scarring, dont let it prevent you from living your life. One of my nursing colleagues has self-harm scars all over her forearms. We wear tunics so her arms are on display all of the time. Sadly, you are not alone out there, i just hope you are in a better place.

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Rude-Possibility4682@reddit

You'll be in the water most of the time, no one will see them, and it's usually a few paces to the pool from the changing rooms.

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StoneColdSoberReally@reddit

If anyone has a problem with your scarring, the problem lies with them, not with you. I do understand, however, you may be self-conscious and if it gives you a little more confidence, the swim skirts and shirts people have mentioned in other comments.

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MidnightPractical727@reddit

In any situation, but particularly if the scars are self inflicted and that makes you self conscious, I would recommend wearing shorts to help you feel safe enough to swim. In the long term, worth working through with a therapist because it's your body for life!!

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JasperCarrots@reddit

I do aqua HIIT and aqua cycle and boy short costumes and even knee length costumes are very popular, you want something that's not going to ride up if you're active in the water , something like a Speedo hyper boom splice leg suit. I'd just assume you were an athlete in training wearing that kind of suit

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RunningDude90@reddit

No one is going to care. Don’t worry about it.

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flohara@reddit

As long as it's not an open wound, sure. Why not? Everybody deserves to exercise Great that you are doing better now.

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InternationalCap6019@reddit

Once you are in the water, no one will see anyone. Please don't let your worry about other people stop you doing the things you want to do.

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scrotalsac69@reddit

People won't care, and if they do then tell them where to go. If you feel the need you can get swim stuff with legs down to the knee such as trisuits

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Swamp_Donkey82@reddit

If you are uncomfortable showing them, then cover them. If you are not bothered then don’t, as it’s nobody else’s business.

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Marzipan_civil@reddit

Generally people in a leisure centre pool are only concerned with themselves or the people they came to the pool with. If you're worried yourself, you could find some swim shorts or a skirted swimsuit - if that makes you feel better. It's not about what other people think, it's about what you feed comfortable with.

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Efficient_Chance7639@reddit

Yes, no problem

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SuperDinkle406@reddit

Yes, and I do.

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IcyReveal3024@reddit

Definitely it’s ok, you go for it, don’t let things hold you back or stop yourself from enjoying yourself 👍

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YouCantArgueWithThis@reddit

I don't get it. You have a body. You want to use it for swimming. If you dont have anything contagious then it's down to your body, your choice.

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pumaofshadow@reddit

So if its just the top of the legs you can get suits that cover and are "boy leg" so they look like bike shorts. And you can get longer ones too - nearly effectively full body suits, and certainly down to the knees. (and longer swim shorts exist too). Yes, people will likely notice the suit different and "stare" but at least you'd know they are staring at the suit not the scars. As for can you? Even if you don't cover the scars absolutely! People may stare (maliciously or not, and often its just a natural instinct to spot a "difference" not born out of hate or anything else), but you aren't doing anything wrong.

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OldAnalyst5438@reddit

Swim shorts are your friend. I also wear a swim top also but that's more for my insecurities.

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barriedalenick@reddit

You'll be fine. Virtually everyone will be just getting on with their swim. Anyone getting upset about a bit of scarring is not worthy of your time or thought

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captainhazreborn@reddit

Other people being uncomfortable isn’t your problem, it’s theirs. Your scars are part of your history, wear them without shame and get the training started! Slightly related: don’t forget brick sessions and remember that transition is a discipline in itself.

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Novel-Case6821@reddit

I think you would be fine, if the concern would distract you from training then you could consider swim shorts/swim skirt. Next sell them.

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IntrusiveUK@reddit

Who gives a shit. You do you.

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Prudent-Pressure2146@reddit

I doubt anyone would notice, or if they do notice I’m not sure they’d care

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TrifectaOfSquish@reddit

Of course it's ok

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shinyscot@reddit

Their problem not yours. Knock yourself out

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Amazing-Visual-2919@reddit

Yes. Just do it.

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