Do I ask for ticket money?
Posted by Calgib@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 439 comments
My son and I have season tickets for our local football team. I was chatting to a 70-odd year old neighbour/friend from down the street, who I've known most of my life, about a big end of season game coming up. Knowing he used to go to the games, and still keeps up to date with the results and team news, I said "do you fancy coming with us? I'll get you a ticket". He was delighted, and really touched to be asked. He doesn't really associate with anyone, and doesn't have anyone else to go with, and me and my son get on well with him. It's really no big deal if he started coming along regularly tbh.
Only issue is money. What's the expectation here? I offered out of the blue, and said I'd get his ticket. It cost £10, which isn't going to impact on our family, and I have absolutely no issue buying it for him.
My wife seems to think I should ask him for the money. Neither me or him are struggling financially, and if I even mentioned it to him he would be straight into his wallet without question. But I feel weird asking, as I offered, and he's more a friend than a neighbour. I'll probably just tell him I got his ticket free through a scheme with our season tickets to avoid any mention of money, so I'm not looking for guidance on what to do personally, but what is the general consensus on how to deal with it?
GummySophie@reddit
Your wife seems cheep/mean for that if it won’t have an adverse effect on you.
DidgeryDave21@reddit
If you aid you would get the tickets, it would absolutely be a dick move to later on charge him for said tickets
Cautious-Start-1043@reddit
Especially for the sake of a tenner. I mean, wtf??!!
summerdog-@reddit
If someone said to me I will get you a ticket I probably wouldn’t expect to pay for it but I would definitely be the person offering to pay for the half time food and drinks. If I was to then go to other games with them I would pay for my own ticket each time
Zealousideal-Sail893@reddit
The half time food and drinks for three will far exceed a tenner though.
summerdog-@reddit
That’s not the point though, it’s the generosity of OP inviting him in the first place. To be included in something that OP and his son regularly do that’s the nicest thing here.
Barn_Brat@reddit
Exactly this which is why OP shouldn’t say the ticket was free- just don’t mention it
niall626@reddit
Especially if he knows the team and would go to games he knows the price id say maybe he'll get the beers.
Any_Marsupial836@reddit
Sounds like a DidgeryDont ;)
MonounsaturatedChain@reddit
I also think this is changing with generations. In my experience for anyone <30 it's expected to pay back (see: rude to assume it's a gift), whereas anyone older would be the opposite afaik
IcyKape@reddit
Not really.. i think the vast majority of people are sensible enough that they would know the ticket is "free" but would make up for it by paying for food and drinks etc.
First_Willingness846@reddit
I'm well over 30 and would definitely not expect it as a gift.
redpanda6969@reddit
I’m 29 and if I offer somebody a ticket somewhere I’ve assuming that cost. Also if the cost is THAT low like I’m sure he’ll make up for it in a round of drinks or something.
trade-da-ting@reddit
As you get older and spend more in long term jobs, difficulties around money fade away and you find you don't need to keep on top of getting money back from people.
Atm I've got about £100 lent out to my friend group. They will pay it back, it's just not much of a concern right now because I have a solid monthly pay check and a bit of savings
Whereas 10 years ago I would have asked for that back immediately because my circumstances were different
Cultural-Ambition211@reddit
It’s how you word it.
“Ill get the tickets” = you are buying
“I’ll buy the tickets for us, they’re £10 each, that good with you?” = pay me back
LongjumpingInside565@reddit
26 and for me an off the cuff "I'll get you a ticket" that ends up costing £10, that's me paying them back with a drink or food during. To me it fully depends on whether it was something that was actively offered vs planned. I'm only ever offering something I can afford to take the hit on or care more for than the financial hit.
CapnRetro@reddit
I’m 36 and I would definitely repay either with cash or in kind for another event. But the way OP has phrased this it very much sounds like an offering as a gift. I’d be careful about how the proposal to join more in future is worded though to make clear that the old gent will need to be buying his ticket. I know a lot of clubs now require an online membership to even buy tickets so maybe something along the lines of “let me know how you get on buying tickets online whenever you want to come in future, I can help you if you need it”
sullcrowe@reddit
Especially if it's only a tenner. He'll probably find he's straight up the bar buying his lad cokes, crisps & sweets and spending more than the ticket price anyway.
Let it play out
smay1989@reddit
Yeh - your wife is your problem OP, dont let her ruin your neighbours life aswell
Appropriate_Dirt_285@reddit
This is right, this could be a one off thing and wee treat for him.
You could tag on on the way home from the match that hes more than welcome to come along with you anytime if he manages to snag a ticket and you guys can car pool
ooooomikeooooo@reddit
It's a different situation than just buying someone a ticket if it is difficult to get tickets. If someone said to me I can get you a Glastonbury ticket for example I wouldn't expect that to be free, I'd expect that they have access to tickets that I don't. It sounds like this is he same situation and he can get tickets for the playoffs.
The fact it is only £10 a ticket means I wouldn't bother asking for the money to be paid but the situation doesn't necessarily mean an offer to pay for it.
Crazy-Finding-2436@reddit
This. If op is not bothered about the 10 then leave it.
Frosty_Customer_9243@reddit
Absolutely, knowing some people of that generation he will buy you a meal or drinks to make it even. Usually topping what OP paid for the ticket easily.
Amnsia@reddit
A good neighbour and a good deed is worth much more than a tenner. Although I get a tenner is worth more sometimes if you’re struggling, feel like just take it on the chin for a good deed.
DMF_47@reddit
Is your wife taking the piss?
Traditional-Clue-184@reddit
Wife doesn't exist. Made up story. Refuse to believe this a real situation that someone needs help with.
Kindly_Comedian434@reddit
I am always suspicious of stories where someone just ticks on "oh but my wife told me to do this bad thing. Seems to be a way of people tp go, oh it wasn't me that wanted to charge the guy £10 honest. And by all the people slagging "the wife" it seems to work
DMF_47@reddit
Dunno, he posted a month ago about Dunfermline Athletic in another football sub, and they are playing Celtic in the Scottish Cup final in a couple weeks, so that by all means checks out
TheCGLion@reddit
Same
Snoo_85712@reddit
Enit, it’s so petty. Mybe he didn’t mention to her he invited the geezer first and said he would get the tickets lol
Chrisbuckfast@reddit
I assumed it was the question of the ongoing tenners for ongoing tickets as opposed to the individual tenner. If it was just the one game, no question and I’d probably refuse the money but let him buy my son a half time burger or something if he insisted.
If it was ongoing, that’s a little different - I mean, I’d probably do the same as OP and pretend I got them for free to avoid the money discussion, a tenner every week or every fortnight or however often it is isn’t out of the question for a friendly and elderly neighbour I’ve known most of my life. Maybe get him a season ticket for the following year for his birthday or Christmas or something.
I appreciate affordability might be a factor for others regarding ongoing tenners, and well, have the discussion then.
Chrisbuckfast@reddit
I assumed it was the question of the ongoing tenners for ongoing tickets as opposed to the individual tenner. If it was just the one game, no question and I’d probably refuse the money but let him buy my son a half time burger or something if he insisted.
If it was ongoing, that’s a little different - I mean, I’d probably do the same as OP and pretend I got them for free to avoid the money discussion, a tenner every week or every fortnight or however often it is isn’t out of the question for a friendly and elderly neighbour I’ve known most of my life. Maybe get him a season ticket for the following year for his birthday or Christmas or something.
I appreciate affordability might be a factor for others regarding ongoing tenners, and well, have the discussion then.
KyeThePie@reddit
Under the thumb, been there.
GungHoStocks@reddit
OP is supposed to ignore his tight wife, and neighbour is suppose to offer to buy the drinks or something.
Past_Grass_@reddit
That was my thought too but we're in a cost of living crisis so giving benefit of the doubt.
DMF_47@reddit
OP said he isn't struggling financially, and it was him who invited the older guy. Just seems a bit mental to me
Familiarsophie@reddit
Yeah the wife suggesting to get a tenner from an old man who you’ve invited is insane. It’s not like it’s £60 from a mate who knows. It’s an honestly lovely gesture and the kind of thing that makes the world a better place.
Ozza360@reddit
I thought exactly the same 😂
Pocahontas21334@reddit
This post is fake, it’s the OPs first post. Why do people bother?!
Past-Anything9789@reddit
Saying "I will get you a ticket" sounds like you were offering to pay and I wouldn't be caugh dead asking for £10 from a pensioner, just ses disrespectful.
I know they are probably in a better financial situation than most working people, but on the off chance they aren't, they would likely go without to pay you back.
I'd leave it if I were you and if it happens again then maybe phrase it slightly differently.
Not-a-Cranky-Panda@reddit
That may be the best £10 you'll ever spend don't forget to get him a pie and a drink when there and that'll cost you more than £10.
bobby_szw@reddit
It's a tenner. Think of it as a charitable donation and to make someone think good. Asking for the money after you invited is not the best move.
from-here-to-new@reddit
You said you'd get the ticket, so you pay for it. Don't lie about it costing though that's just weird, simply tell him, "I'll get it this time... you can pay for the next one", or suggest he buy you a drink as compensation.
Grandson4Presidentt1@reddit
I don’t even see why you would ask this question? Get the ticket and don’t ask for money he might end up paying for your drinks maybe? You don’t ask someone to come and then ask the ticket money back lol
SurpriseCompliment0@reddit
Dont even mention the money. If he offers, fine, if not, treat him. If it becomes a regular thing of course that changes.
Not_Wrong_Tho@reddit
You literally said you'd get him the tickets. I'd say thats a pretty clear offer of a gift, £10 isn't worth backpedalling on a gift offer, even if you maybe didn't intend it that way.
Chiccheshirechick@reddit
Absolutely NOT !
Trappedinawrap@reddit
You invited him, you said you'd get the ticket. He is your guest and it would be inconsiderate to charge him after the fact.
Maybe ask him to grab you and your son a pie if he goes to get one himself.
SameCollege4578@reddit
Don't ask...you offered to get it for him. It would be a dickmove to go back on that. If you did that to me, while I'd have paid up immediately, I'd forever think of you as a bit of a tight-arse.
Boring-Effort1660@reddit
I think it depends on the type of relationship you have with him, however generally I would say you should pay for it as you invited him but for future games if he tagged along he should pay for them himself.
Ambitious_Hackerman@reddit
You said you'd get the ticket, so that implies you were paying. If you wanted him to pay, I'd have made that clear
If this were a serious amount of money then I'd have a more serious discussion. But it's £10 and you said it won't have any major impact. £10 to connect with someone is a bargain
jamnut@reddit
Mad that grown people ask these questions on Reddit rather than just using their judgment. I'm assuming it's just karma farming/potential humble bragging. No different from the average amitheasshole post
zougathefist@reddit
Definitely not. You asked if he wanted a ticket, not if he wanted yoy to arrange a ticket or to amble him to get one. It's a £10, imagine asking for that when you say you are not struggling or in need of it.
Common_Man7669@reddit
Just basing it on my dad who's a similar age, I'd be very surprised if he doesn't offer you the cost of the ticket on the day of the game if not sooner, but there isn't a chance I'd take it if I were you. Its a nice thing youre doing, hope you enjoy the game.
Willywonka5725@reddit
I was expecting you to say it was like £100 or something.
He might even offer you the money when you give him the ticket, then it's up to you if you take it.
CharlemagneKidding@reddit
What a cheapskate of a wife 😅
Bigallround@reddit
Make him take the bus there, too - The wife
Sideways_Underscore@reddit
I mean the lonely pensioner is obviously taking advantage of him 🤣
According-Let3541@reddit
Yeah she sounds fun!
No-Snow-9605@reddit
FFS you offered, you buy the ticket and don't embarrass yourself, or him by asking for payment. If he offers to pay then that's your choice. Personally I would refuse.
Appropriate-South314@reddit
Absolutely don’t ask for it. If he’s a normal/decent bloke he’ll probably offer to buy you and you son a drink which will probably be close to £10 anyway. Not worth souring a nice gesture over the sake of a couple of quid.
Suitable-Still6338@reddit
No. Absolutely not. Not only will said neighbour feel embarrassed at 'his' faux pax, he might not actually have the money handy to cover the tickets he was under the impression you were providing. Naturally he will be compelled to repay this money to spare further embarrassment and who knows what sort of position this could put him in? Granted, the tickets are only £10, but if you offered and you're not struggling, maybe chalk this one up to a lesson in better communication?
Only my opinion ofc, but I actually cringed for your neighbour at the thought of you trying to reclaim the money 😬
Hot_Horror_8040@reddit
Firstly, treat him. That tenner spent will bring you both joy than you getting it back.
Hot_Horror_8040@reddit
Secondly, divorce your wife.
SuperExstatic@reddit
Wouldn’t ask for a penny if I’ve invited someone out
Dave190768@reddit
I’m 57 and agree with what most ppl have said “I’ll get the tickets” means you are paying an older gentleman like myself will usually pay you back somehow (not always with money) if he does ask the cost of the tickets be honest and if he wants to pay his way then let him do not ask but if he asks and wants to pay he will be happy you will be happy and most importantly the wife will be happy (happy wife happy life)
Typical-Pair7369@reddit
You pay for the ticket, ignore the wife
ThePodd222@reddit
Why is this even a question 🙈
nuggiesfordays@reddit
Why is this even a question
DeemonPankaik@reddit
Just pay for it, but there's no need to hide/ lie about where you got it from.
If he asks, say you paid £10, and it's a gift. If he insists on paying you back, accept graciously.
ThickTadpole3742@reddit
Oh just treat him, sounds like it means a lot.
rcgl2@reddit
If it was £100 I'd expect him to at least offer. For £10 I'd refuse to take his money. Let him buy you and your son a coffee/beer/coke at the match and that will more than cover it!
chainpress@reddit
I generally agree, but it's a bit of a stretch to expect a 70+ year old to get a bag in.
Capable_Life@reddit
This is exactly what I was going to say. Ask him to get the first round in
Snoo_85712@reddit
I don’t think he should ask for refreshments- the older guy is not obligated to then provide refreshments when he was invited.
Guys come on
Capable_Life@reddit
The beautiful subtleties of doing it this way is that you are getting rounds, rather than asking him to provide refreshments. In a small group getting the first round is largely symbolic as you’re going to then buy them a drink next
PotentialRatio1321@reddit
Who asks someone else to get the first round?
Unless it’s a mate and you got the first round last time?
AdRecent7715@reddit
Exactly this
Bwuk@reddit
This is so wholesome ☺️ if you're financially even, take the hit for the first game, then if you do do it again, just ask for the money upfront. Looking after our elderly neighbours is an important part of society and your street as a whole. My wife and I looked after our older street residents during covid (don't get political, or put conspiracy theories on me, I'm not here for that shit). Since then, they've become adoptive grandparents to our 17 year old
Lshamlad@reddit
Yeah, this.
To me, 'I'll get you' is code for 'my treat' - 'I'll get us a drink' etc.
If you'd said, 'shall I get a ticket, it'll be a tenner' then that's clearer there's an expectation he'll reimburse you.
Loidis@reddit
100% this! I remember and cherish those moments a friend, neighbour or stranger has given me a treat - and love doing it for others, when I can afford to! If there's no risk of it becoming an expectation, just do it in the same way you'd get someone a pint or offer someone a tissue. Not everything has to be a transaction.
Sloth_Broth@reddit
if it's a tenner and money isn't an issue then why even bother making this post..?
Glasgowbeat@reddit
Let him buy you a pie at the game
Unhappy_Spray_7127@reddit
As everyone has said, seems like a major dick move to ask for money when it's a tenner and you asked him. Poor from your wife, and also poor from you to even debate it tbh.
If he asked about the ticket or cost, I wouldn't even lie to him either, that seems kinda weird too. Just tell him it was a tenner and you'd be offended if he paid for it when you asked him. Tell him to buy you a drink or something if he insists.
hughesyg@reddit
What’s wrong with your wife?!
Prestigious_Emu6039@reddit
Just buy him the ticket
slingshotvibe@reddit
the appreciation from the old boy is worth far far more than a £10 dont make him pay if anything ill pay it ffs
KoorbB@reddit
£10! How is this even a question? If you’re expecting the favour returned, my guess is it will as a pint or something.
skewiffcorn@reddit
I just don’t get why your wife thinks you should. You already said you’re not bothered so don’t
InfiniteWalrus1066@reddit
This is so confusing
Why would you ask him to pay after you'd offered it
It's a bit like asking your mate in the pub : "fancy a beer?" then after he's finished it asking for £6 cash
Be liberally generous in this one life we have and never look at willing generosity as a waste of money or attached with strings.
Any_Marsupial836@reddit
How to deal with it. Give him the ticket, treat it as a gift, everyone has a great time.
Asking him for money will taint everyone’s experience on the day. Kind of feels like you’re backtracking on a gift.
My wife can get a bit stuffy when I’m generous to others, fair enough, everyone’s different. Just tell your wife that when you bumped into him one day he just randomly offered up the money to you. She’ll feel satisfied, and little white lie never hurt anyone, everyone wins.
And for what it’s worth, taking the old boy to the game with you is a nice move. Good work mate.
Tequila-Tarn@reddit
Just say it’s your treat but if he wants to come regularly then he’d pay.
DiscoSkrtel@reddit
Nobody seems to have mentioned the obvious solution, which is to get a divorce
Kindly_Comedian434@reddit
Because they have more sense than to fall into the misogynistic trap of blaming a woman that just appears at the end of the story and demands the elderly man pay the £10 without any reason?
MetalWorking3915@reddit
Would cost more than a thousand pennies though....and thats a lot of pennies
HotAdvantage7208@reddit
Scrolled lil too far for the actual answer here
Nitrogenflux@reddit
Maybe give your wife the £10, she seems bothered about it
Kindly_Comedian434@reddit
You genuinely believe his wife has said this? Just out of nowhere? And he then needs reddit to tell him what to do? Come on let's have a bit of common sense.
Thin-Grocery3134@reddit
Or a packed suitcase.
ReallyIntriguing@reddit
Dude you offered, the fact that this is even a thread.... cmon man
68_namfloW@reddit
You offered to get him a ticket, didn’t mention money.
If he offers to get you a drink, or a burger or something, winner. If he doesn’t, I wouldn’t do it many more times.
New_Yardbirds@reddit
Expecting back something from him is not right.
68_namfloW@reddit
Good job I didn’t suggest it was, then.
Mundo7@reddit
saying that “you wouldn’t do it many more times” is clearly saying you did
Fluid_Assumption_457@reddit
If you expected to be reimbursed for the ticket, you should have made that clear when you invited him. The way you worded it, implies it's your treat, so I wouldn't ask him to reimburse you this time. However, telling him you got it for free invites future confusion. It's fine to make clear it's a gift because you'd enjoy his company - I'm sure that will make his day anyway. Enjoy the game!
fistmcbeefpunch@reddit
You offered to get the ticket, so I would assume it's a treat.
Standard etiquette would be that he'd grab you a beer or a bit of food at the game.
And even if he doesn't, this experience would mean the world to him
Illustrious_Low_6086@reddit
Dump your wife
omniwrench-@reddit
Your wife is gonna get those three ghosts visiting her at Christmas she carries on this way 😅
Dannypan@reddit
"I'll get you a ticket" = I'm buying your ticket for you.
If I can get something for someone but I don't/can't pay then I just say so first, like "I can get tickets but you gotta pay for your own, only a tenner" otherwise it's a dick move to then ask for money.
AbelMate@reddit
You made this post over ten quid?
FridgeRaider93@reddit
You offered, you pay.
themightymartin@reddit
Your phrasing implied that you would treat him. If he wants to go again in the future, then I'd say it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask him to pay.
mrfatchance@reddit
Buy it since you’re offering the event to him. He will return the favour on the day
tommybhoy82@reddit
Why would you expect a favour returned for offering an old man you consider a friend a ticket that was £10 and you freely admit can afford? If he offers a drink or pie sure accept but to expect it is weird
Snoo_85712@reddit
Imagine “treating someone” only to expect a favour in return.
Sounds like a fukin transaction to me and I’m not for it -_-
klmarchant23@reddit
‘Do you want a ticket?’ He pays.
‘I’ll get you a ticket’ you pay.
Marmite50@reddit
Ultimately it's up to you but I fear you would regret asking for the money. It's not something you can take back.
The cost of a tenner is not worth losing the benefit of an altruistic act
Automatic-Use-6714@reddit
Its £10. Your wife needs to chill out. You offered anyway
You probably made his week by asking. Dont sour it now.
If he offers out of the blue take it (and but him a beer at the game).
secret_ninja2@reddit
Honestly if it was just £10 like you say and it's something you can afford I'd not mention it. Sometime it's nice to be nice. I don't know what situation this guy is in but like you said hes on his own and might not have someone that can experience this with you .
twonaq@reddit
He can get the drinks or something 🤷♂️
iron233@reddit
You offered so you pay. Simple.
piggys_mumma23@reddit
I went out with a neighbour for a couple of hours and she said she woukd get her daughter to babysit, no mention of money. When we were out, after I had bought her drinks, she said she gave her daughter a tenner for babysitting, but never asked me to pay it. She had free drinks all evening. Next day, she text me and asked me for the tenner I owed her, that she had given her daughter. I was quite miffed, as she had never mentioned it, but I just gave it to her, otherwise she woukd have caused problems. I learned that day she is a freeloader. My point is: be clear. If you wanted him to cover the costs, you should have mentioned it there and then, otherwise mixed messages occur. Its £10. Forget it and move on.
Worldly_Turnip7042@reddit
Don't mention it, if he offers a pie at halftime accept it
jessierob89@reddit
I offered to take my older neighbour to the cinema years ago. His son/DIL were delighted he was getting out the house, they drove us over, I had already bought the tickets but he insisted on buying me a hotdog, drink and popcorn. We had a great time and now hes passed i have a lovely memory.
bisikletci@reddit
Yes just leave it, and don't bother with pointless lies about it being free. If he asks, just say "oh don't worry about it" or "my treat" or whatever, and let him buy you a drink of he offers.
Garyfuckingbarlow@reddit
Yes this, I imagine hel get some food or drinks in, then you’ll be stuck with him for Christmas
BandicootObjective32@reddit
I think the "I'll get you a ticket" implies that you're treating him. The time for discussing I'd consider passed as it's a tenner. "I'll get you a ticket if you're happy to pay me back" would be what to say if you want him to pay. He might get you a drink or something to say thanks
Ok-Literature473@reddit
This terminology is used all the time when buying football tickets. It can absolutely means I’ll source them but generally regular match goers know this so I can get the confusion.
Plus it’s a tenner
TheClnl@reddit
Yeah, if asked just say "it was only a tenner" no point starting something that may eventually blow up - if he thinks you're getting them free and you have a good time and want to do it again multiple times what do you say?
He'll more than likely offer to pay for half time snacks or the ticket itself at some point anyway.
amandacheekychops@reddit
This!
I would have framed it as, "Do you want me to get you a ticket? It'll only cost you a tenner." to make it clear that you're not treating him.
But it's now way too late to ask for the money.
n8te85@reddit
Yes this would have been the way.
In this case though just write it off. Some things in life are worth more than money. I mean in this situation I would have just told my wife that I'm not asking him for the money and that's the end of that. No need to debate any further.
Trancer79@reddit
No, do not ask for the cost of the ticket, you already said you won't feel any impact.
Show your son a small example of how to be a good person by treating your neighbour and it will hopefully pay dividends.
As you said, he's more of a friend as you've known him most of your life, you both get on well with him, he was delighted when you offered.
Pip1710@reddit
Sometimes it's just nice to be nice.
Maybe he will pay you back in kind by buying you a pint before the game. If not, so what, it's a tenner.
Old-Law-7395@reddit
The way you worded it id not be expecting to be asked for £ as payment, but id definitely be buying you and your son a pie or something
Yellow_cupcake_@reddit
I don’t think it’s worth it for £10, honestly. There’s a decent chance he will offer to pay at the game, you can accept or just tell him to get the drinks in. £10 to make a friend feel happy and valued seems like a good deal to me! If he decides he wants to go regularly with you then it is different, and I don’t know anyone who would expect paid-for tickets if it is a routine.
AggressiveAd5248@reddit
Would you donate a tenner to a random stranger who needed a pick me up? I probably would. I’m not going to miss a tenner.
invisibleeagle0@reddit
He could well be from a generation which respects gestures like this. If you keep your mouth shut you're probably going to get a gift of something of higher value. Good for you inviting him
Ok-Literature473@reddit
Been a season ticket holder for Celtic for 30+ years now.
The rule of thumb for me is, if you’re giving someone your own season ticket because you can’t go you don’t charge any money.
If it’s a ticket I’ve bought like a cup game I usually don’t ask for any money depending on who’s taking it, if it’s someone I don’t really know or a stranger I never ask more than face value but I make it clear up front.
If it was someone I’d known forever and had a good relationship with I probably wouldn’t ask for money but in this case you sourced extra tickets so you could ask for money it for the cost I still don’t think I wouldn’t unless it became habit.
Autumn_Falls0131@reddit
Firstly, your wife is wrong. If you invite someone you pay, unless you make it a condition that they pay for themselves.
Secondly, don't you each have your own money? I don't see why either of you need input in the other's daily spending unless it's an amount that would impact both of you.
bennettbuzz@reddit
Jsut accept a pint from him and move on, can’t believe you’d even ask this lol
Zealousideal-Air574@reddit
Fucking hell people are tight
blue_rizla@reddit
OP is not worried about a tenner, he's already said that.
He is also not asking for advice on what to do (although everyone including me is giving it anyway).
He's checking how everyone else thinks this normally works.
IhaveaDoberman@reddit
You clearly didn't read the post. He's asking cause his wife's said he should ask for the money.
blue_rizla@reddit
> I'm not looking for guidance on what to do personally, but what is the general consensus on how to deal with it?
Difficult_Tea6136@reddit
The wife is tight tho
Bottled_Void@reddit
Oh man, you've left the obvious joke right there.
I'm going to rise above it.
Difficult_Tea6136@reddit
Oh I am well aware!
piratedataeng@reddit
If you have to even ask that tells you enough
Mcdhibs@reddit
Is it the principle or the money. Ask yourself if he offered you the cash would you take it or say no that’s fine.
Snoo_85712@reddit
Bro, you literally said you would get the tickets and you asked him to come along too. If you would have said let’s meet up for the game it changes the narrative completely.
Silver-Appointment77@reddit
If you invite someone and offer a ticket then you pay.
Your wifes being a bit selfish here.
After all it is for a friend.
myBracco@reddit
You offered a ticket which means you pay for the ticket. It will make his year!!
RetroBoxRoom@reddit
Just tell her you’ll drink two less pints next month.
Expert-Tie-1530@reddit
Take absolutely no notice of your wife on this occasion. You and your son are doing a wonderful thing for your friend and neighbour, don’t spoil it by asking for money
Thin_Dirt_6244@reddit
Of course a wife would think of this.
thickwhiteduck@reddit
If he offers to pay just say get us a drink. Weird you need to ask to be honest.
ellieunicornrider@reddit
It’s an absolute dick move to ask for £10 from an elderly person who is probably super excited about being invited to a social event.
PS. I’m more curious to hear why your wife thinks you should ask for the tenner back. She doesn’t seem to be a nice person.
88Jewels@reddit
It's a tenner. Just give him the ticket and have a good time.
Jpmoz999@reddit
I wouldn’t dream of asking them for the money.
Top-Bandicoot-3013@reddit
I can't imagine living my life in such a petty fashion.
ValuableForever672@reddit
Do you really need to ask this question? It’s a tenner, don’t even mention it. The likelihood is he will either offer it or buy a round (beers, coffees, waters, burgers etc)
gash_dits_wafu@reddit
Don't even lie about it being free. Just give him the ticket and if he asks what it cost, say "oh don't worry about that." If he insists, accept a pie/pint at half time and call it even.
girlsunderpressure@reddit
You offered him a gift. You said you would get his ticket. To me, that implies you would cover the cost -- the same way that "I'll get this round" means you're paying for that round in the pub or "I've got it" when the bill comes at a restaurant means you've covering the meal. Don't ask for money now.
butterscotchwhip@reddit
You invited him, your treat. He’ll probably buy you some food or sth at the game.
SuperbCommercial7382@reddit
Don't worry. He'll likely offer to pay foe the half time pies.
yearsofpractice@reddit
You offered to get him tickets. That means it’s a gift. Dude. For real, asking for money would be a total dick move.
You’re very kind BTW. Hope you and the old dude enjoy the game!
Certain-Pass-6551@reddit
I think you've seen the general consensus here, don't ask for the money, he'll probably either ask you how much he owes you or he'll grab you a pint/burger/soft drink etc.
I'd just tell the misses that it's a nice gesture and it's something you wanted to do.
PKblaze@reddit
You said you'd get them a ticket. That sounds like you offering to pay for it imo
Initial-Return8802@reddit
I would take that as you'll buy the ticket, if it was me. Asking me for money later for said ticket (no matter how little it is) would be weird...
Any-Memory2630@reddit
I wouldn't ask him, I would maybe expect him to offer/ get some drinks in to the cost etc.
It's a tenner, a good relationship with him is worth.more I'd suggest
Marzipan_civil@reddit
If he offers to pay, ask him for the tenner, and if he doesn't, then since it's not a big amount for you, just leave it.
Phenomenomix@reddit
Take said tenner and spend it on refreshments at the game for the three of you.
SmellingThomas@reddit
It's your money to spend on what you want. I think spending £10 to make someone you like happy is a brilliant use of money. Life is short, spread love and happiness and it will come back to you! Good luck with the game 👍
malak1000@reddit
I’ll get you a ticket = you have just offered to buy him a ticket.
Suspicious-Bread-693@reddit
So are you actually bothered about making an old man day for about £10?
charliekeery@reddit
no you offered to get it, don't be a dick by going back on that
SparkEli1@reddit
£10 for making someone's day? Money well spent.
Oshabeestie@reddit
Let him buy the snacks or drink at the game but do not ask him for money- that would be rude.
Unhappy-Buffalo-5289@reddit
£10 ? Really,?
Your Mrs wants him to cough up for it?!
It's the equivalent of 2 pints. These days it's nothing.
Do a nice thing because you're a nice person, it'll be repaid in other ways, that's how life works.
Jeeeez...
UberMcWolf@reddit
Personally I would absolutely not ask him for money for a £10 ticket. The fact that you asked probably means a whole lot and asking for money could really take the shine out of that.
I will absolutely bet he will insist on paying anyway - and if he does there is no problem with accepting.
Very nice thing that you did by offering to go with them. I also am quite surprised your wife would insist on asking for money over £10 if it would make no difference to you.
Enjoy 😊
Numerous-Abrocoma-50@reddit
Yep.
Obviously no problem accepting if they absolutely insist but I would be saying, get me a pint sometime.
springtuli@reddit
No, fucking hell
Master_____Blaster@reddit
It’s a tenner
TwizzyGobbler@reddit
if it was like £500 i'd understand
it's a tenner mate & you offered
just buy it and take him along?
duluoz1@reddit
Very weird move by your wife. Just ignore her here. Also don’t make up any weird scheme. Just buy him the ticket and leave it at that. Weird.
Fitchie_46@reddit
Buy him the ticket, it’s what you originally offered. Don’t mention the price and definitely don’t try to pass it as a free ticket through a scheme. Take him to the game and when he offers you a pint at half time, say thank you.
Also, tell your wife to get over herself. It’s a tenner and a good deed.
1976tiddler@reddit
Just enjoy the day and make a memory.
thecheesycheeselover@reddit
No, don’t ask. It’s a bit weird that your wife wants you to, honestly.
magicians_Hat2021@reddit
god no
StickmanEG@reddit
It’s £10. Don’t ask for ticket money, it’s a nice thing that you’re doing for this old boy.
Got to ask; where the hell can you get in for a tenner?!
reocoaker@reddit
Christ, it’s £10
TankFoster@reddit
If he offers you the money, tell him he can get the pies or something. Don't ask him for the money.
Particular_Relief154@reddit
Wouldn’t even bring up the money- since you’d said you’d get him a ticket, it’s implied that you’re buying him a ticket, unless you’d made it clear at the time that he’d pay you back for it. Moving forward, I’d ask next time ‘would you want to come with us again? It’s a tenner a ticket though’ or something similar, to clarify cost at the time of asking.
Numerous-Abrocoma-50@reddit
Honestly its £10
You dont need to lie and say you got it free, if he asks and offers to pay just say dont worry about it get me a pint sometime.
Bit weird from your wife.
redpanda6969@reddit
A tenner? After you invited him? Come on…
CapnFap@reddit
The fact that he needs to even ask this on Reddit…
firthy@reddit
Gently push him to get the pints in afterwards
Able_Resident_1291@reddit
Divorce.
CapnFap@reddit
Yeah wtf is wrong with the wife?
Nomad_332@reddit
Out of curiosity, Is your wife from the Nordic region?
MoHeeKhan@reddit
No, if you invited him and said you’d get tickets then you cover the cost. He in turn may decide to get you a drink or a pie at the football in return. Your partner must be tighter than a duck’s arse for suggesting asking for a measly £10 under those circumstances.
Jastha@reddit
This, 100% this.
Luke_Nukem_2D@reddit
It does sound like an offer to treat him. I'd leave it at that, maybe say something along the lines of "feel free to join us again, tickets are reasonably priced at 'x amount'."
You could also say the first round is on him.
Nozoz@reddit
For £10 I'd expect it to be a gift. If tickets were £100 and getting them was really difficult then I'd think it was more reasonable to treat the gift as the opportunity to buy a ticket but in this instance I think the gift is more the ticket and the invitation to go with you
Adorable_Minute4071@reddit
Is your wife called Karen?
oldsch0olsurvivor@reddit
Lmao
elbapo@reddit
He will offer to pay. You say no- and make a joke about 'first ones free but once you are addicted ill start charging'
RangerDerwin@reddit
Don't make up a story about it being free. It's perfectly fine to just do nice things for people. More-so if it's only £10.
Wiltix@reddit
If it’s ambiguous I would personally just pay the £10 for the old man to go. It’s only £10 and an incredibly kind gesture, I’m sure it will mean a lot to them.
Bobby144@reddit
Go to the pub he buys a first maybe?
Most_Lingonberry_409@reddit
You can’t charge him after offering to get him a ticket ……
blue_rizla@reddit
Disagree - the onus is partly on him to clarify and offer to pay. These are social niceties that you have to navigate, I don't make the rules.
Most_Lingonberry_409@reddit
I think you’re the one that doesn’t understand social niceties mate
blue_rizla@reddit
You think I'd be demanding the old fella cough up the money, lmao
Dull_Hawk9416@reddit
The onus is one the person offering. “I’ll get you a ticket” is distinctly different from “Tickets are £10 would you like me to get one on your behalf”
blue_rizla@reddit
It's ambiguous and open to interpretation, it's not a direct code. That's the whole thing we're discussing.
I'm having a discussion about language and everyone else seems to be having a conversation advising OP about whether you should be kind to an old man for the sake of a tenner or not lmao.
Texting a friend: "I'll get you a ticket to Glastonbury". Stag do Whatsapp group: "I'll book the flights" - not so clear now is it?
tommybhoy82@reddit
A ticket to glastonbury or flights is different than offering an elderly neighbour you consider a friend a £10 ticket to the local football team, you’re being ridiculous
blue_rizla@reddit
Obviously I'm demonstrating that it's not black and white
Dull_Hawk9416@reddit
You clearly think you’re “clever”. I was also talking about language and not kindness
blue_rizla@reddit
Yeah but you're muddying the water and making false comparisons. Of course "Tickets are £10 would you like me to get one on your behalf" is very clear. But "I'll get you" is less clear. So do you still think the onus is on the person offering if they say "I'll get you a ticket"? I think there's partially an onus on the other person to clarify and offer to pay (either directly or more commonly with getting a round in etc.
VisionaryMarketingEU@reddit
This guy has to be an Arsenal fan for asking this 😂😂😂
ikariw@reddit
A big end of season game for a tenner, at arsenal?
Icy_Reply_7830@reddit
The general consensus is your wife sounds like a greedy bastard
Critical_Boot_9553@reddit
You offered, you pay, and don’t mention the cost.
My wife earns a tiny fraction of what I earn, her view on spending a tenner on something unnecessary is very different to mine.
ShoddyEggplant3697@reddit
You asked him to come and said you'd get the ticket you should not ask for money if he then asks if he can come again then it's his responsibility to pay for the ticket
skippington94@reddit
Why is this even a question? It's £10, neither of you are hard up it seems. You don't always need to be even, it usually comes out in the wash between friends. If he asks, just say you've got it covered, and he'll probably offer to buy you a pint anyway.
TheNotSpecialOne@reddit
You offered him a ticket. I fully expect no charges at all. Its a nice one off gesture
Beavberry@reddit
I'm sure he'll buy you both a drink at the game, so it's a nice gesture to give a (£10!!) ticket that will even out anyway!
Billy_Daftcunt@reddit
A post about £10? 😂😂😂
4WheelBicycle@reddit
And it doesnt affect either of them either... bruh
Icy_Reply_7830@reddit
“The only issue is money” I thought the ticket was going to be hundreds of £
ImportantAd6193@reddit
Why can’t you resolve minor disputes with your wife without running to Reddit? Talk to her.
NorthbankN5@reddit
Your wife sounds awesome.
grand_total@reddit
The problem is not really the £10 is it? The problem is that your wife wants you to ask for the money and it doesn’t really matter what the consensus on Reddit is, she is still going to want you to ask him for the money.
Kiel297@reddit
Absolute madness for this to even be a consideration over a tenner.
If I'm offering to take someone somewhere, I'll say it up front if I want them to pay for their share. Otherwise I'm considering it a gift that I'm giving to them, regardless of the cost.
But a tenner? Only on my skintest day would I even think of asking for it.
Standard_Power135@reddit
Good god its a 10er , how is this a question.
blue_rizla@reddit
Interesting that a whole bunch of people are saying that using the words "I'll get you a..." directly equals "I am paying for it" as though there's no ambiguity in the situation. That's obviously not true lol
Texas_Dan89@reddit
It actually does mean that in this context though. You'd have to be pretty socially unaware to not understand "ill get you a ticket" means im gifting it to you here
Most people do not fuss over the exact phrasing of something so minor, sure "i'll get you" technically means "i will physically acquire the ticket" but in this context its a gesture of giving
OP meant it that way, the old fella understood it that way, the only thing thats made OP question things is his wife's input.
Its not even about the tenner and how much that might mean to someone, its just part of the good natured gesture to give it as a gift, like buying someone a drink to cheer them up. Only a weirdo keeps track on that sort of thing
Teapot_Digon@reddit
'I'm not looking for guidance on what to do personally'
you can take any course of action you like but lying about the ticket being free when it isn't is pointless and potentially risky.
Treat him, make him pay, whatever. Just don't lie to him. It's about the only way you might sour a genuinely nice gesture. If found out it may not be received in the spirit it was meant, especially in an older person.
TwoValuable@reddit
This! I can't understand the need to lie. You either treat him or you ask for the money.
The lying especially over a tenner is insane.
notanadultyadult@reddit
It’s only a tenner. Just leave it. If he offers, great. If not, you haven’t lost out on a huge amount of money.
If the ticket was say £60, then I’d say yes ask him. But for such a small amount, just go and have a good time together and not mention it.
Disco_Killer@reddit
Nah, wait for him to offer and insist it's fine. 10 quid to do a kind thing is worth every penny.
TheMarkMatthews@reddit
You offered him a ticket -can’t expect him to pay now.
cable-wrangler@reddit
Why does your wife give a crap, sounds like a nightmare
Rodge6@reddit
For the sake of a tenner, two pints will set you right.
ZookeepergameOk2759@reddit
You’re partner is a tightarse lol
piratedataeng@reddit
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AuramiteEX@reddit
Why on Earth are you making such a fuss over £10?
Why is your wife being weird?
I think there's some issue on your side you aren't admitting to.
Scundered-I-am@reddit
You asked him to go and said you'd get his ticket. Asking for money would be like asking someone to dinner then saying there's the bill for your part of the meal lol
MattHatter1337@reddit
If you said "I'll get the ticket for you, just pay me back later" or to that effect, then you should ask as its stated.
If you just said "ill get the ticket" then its implied that you will buy it and that you are paying the price of the ticket.
danielsemaj@reddit
I wouldn’t ask, he should offer and you should decline. It’s nice to be nice
InsaneInTheRAMdrain@reddit
"I will get you a ticket" comes under the assumption you would be paying, plus its an awesome gesture. You're a good person.
BasicBanter@reddit
It’s £10…
EasyPriority8724@reddit
You offered, you pay. What's it got to do with your missus?
Pristine_Poem7623@reddit
"I'll get you a ticket" = "I'll pay"
"The tickets are a tenner, do you want one?" = "he pays"
And it's just a tenner! If it was a premier league, £150 ticket (that's the average price!) it'd be different, but £10 wouldn't even get the 3 of you a pint each
sharplight141@reddit
If you offered and didn't mention money then why would you ask him later on?
RummazKnowsBest@reddit
If he offers you can accept it (though I wouldn’t, or if you do use that money for food / drink).
I wouldn’t ask for it.
NurseRatched96@reddit
Your wife sounds like a horrible person, treat the old man it will make his week.
alphawave2000@reddit
Agreed, also, he should say to his wife, no, I offered to get him the ticket. She doesn't understand the male dynamic.
StrangeArcticles@reddit
"I'll get you a ticket" implies an invitation. It would be rude and weird to ask for money after that. It'd be polite for him to reciprocate by maybe covering drinks or snacks, but that part is out of your hands.
Thamesider@reddit
I'm 60 and "I'll get you a ticket" suggests it's a gift. I'd probably ask "would you like me to pay you back" or offer to buy drinks but it sounds like a gift. If you'd said "would you like me to buy a ticket for you" then the cost of the ticket has been mentioned at the beginning and there is more of an expectation of getting the money.
Put it this way: what if the ticket was £100. You never mentioned that it was possibly beyond their budget, seems unreasonable to spring it on then after you'd bought it. If you were expecting money back you would have said "would you like me to get you a ticket, they're about £100"
Bookman8@reddit
I wouldn't ask him to pay for it. If he insists on paying just tell him to buy you a pint before the game
LeFrickolas@reddit
I think a lot of people are missing the nuance of language used with football tickets. If you are an ST holder, you usually have access to tickets that Joe Public won’t. So if an ST holder says to me I can get you a ticket, I understand that to mean they can access it for me but expectation of me paying would be implicit.
That being said, situationally I agree with most that you just pay the tenner on this occasion.
dereks63@reddit
As far as I'm concerned you offered to get him a ticket end of!
Crazy_Requirement884@reddit
The fact that it’s being discussed is suspicious to me. What is the real issue here?
Dollypuggle@reddit
Why don’t you just wait and see what happens. In all probability he’ll offer you the tenner. You seem to be making a mountain out of a mole hill. Your wife can get stuffed though.
Graxu132@reddit
Ask you wife for money on the cheapest thing you bought for her, see how she reacts.
Consistent-Sport-481@reddit
You offered to get the ticket, the price is minimal and you've just made an old man's year.
Why would you ask for them to pay Thier own ticket now?
Your wife is mean .
atomic_mermaid@reddit
The way you offered sounded like you were gifting him a ticket. For a tenner you can easily afford I wouldn't even mention it again.
Pristine_Poem7623@reddit
Just out of interest, what part of the country are you from, and what part is your wife from?
linksarebetter@reddit
for a tenner? That's deeply embarrassing from your wife.
this cannot be a real post, try harder.
Haytham_Ken@reddit
Within my friend group, getting a ticket for someone never means paying for them but yes 70, where it might mean that. It's a tenner, so I doubt it matters either way. If it was me I'd happily pay the tenner for him, especially as he said he doesn't really associate with anyone else.
Greedy-Mechanic-4932@reddit
Don't ask him for the money, as a one off.
Chances are he'll buy you a couple of drinks at the game as a gesture to say thanks - or on the day he'll offer you the tenner back.
That's always been the done thing for us.
Unlikely_444@reddit
What do people mean by “let him buy you a drink or this or that”?What if he doesn’t want a drink or doesn’t offer? Is OP supposed to ask for one? He’s around 70 so I assume he’s on a pension. I’d probably buy him a pint myself and give him a memorable day, who knows how much time he has left.
And if you can’t even offer to treat someone, maybe you shouldn’t be asking them out. At the very least, word it properly. “I’ll get you a ticket” actually means you’re offering to pay
Godedger@reddit
It’s £10. Wife is joking surely
jimm3hshshsv@reddit
Wouldn't dream of asking for the money. If you had said you was getting me a ticket id take it as you didnt expect me to pay, however I would insist on paying for food/drink at the game to repay the favour.
With these things I really dont care about the relative values, if someone makes a nice gesture you do something nice in return, enjoy the day and you have likely made his year by offering
gofancyninjaworld@reddit
Don't. Consider it a gift.
AfternoonLines@reddit
Your wife is weird. Pay for the ticket.
tommybhoy82@reddit
You offered a friend a ticket, you can afford it, it means a lot as you said to him, don’t spoil it by asking for the money for it, not sure why you would even need to ask the internet a out this
InternationalHat663@reddit
It’s a tenner
AuroraDF@reddit
If you said 'I'll get you a ticket' that was you offering to pay.
'I'll get you a ticket next to us and we can sort the money later' or similar is how you needed to do it if you expected him to pay.
On a side note, how nice of you to ask him to go along with you. My stepdad would have loved to have a neighbour do this for him when it got to the point he had no one to go with.
Slight_Card4313@reddit
What am I reading here? I don't know which is worse - your wife being tighter than a submarine door or you wasting your time even posting this. Grow some bollocks - he's a 70 year-old man you've invited. The ticket isn't expensive.
Fucking hell. No wonder this country is finished.
Silent___CrayonZ@reddit
You said you would get him a ticket. Do not ask him to pay.
zonked282@reddit
Nah, the way you offered implied it was a gift, and considering they were only £10 it would be odd for him to question that
Estebesol@reddit
It's a tenner, you don't seem to mind paying it, and it would be a nice thing to do. I'd just pay it in the same circumstances. Let the old man buy you a drink if he offers, which I expect he will.
gsko5000@reddit
Do you want to come with us, I'll get you a ticket
Sounds like you offered to get his ticket? I think it would be weird asking for money
HiddenHarry91@reddit
Ill get you a ticket
Comes across to me as ill pay for your ticket
If thats me, id offer to get the food, but eould feel odd if I was asked to pay
HotAdvantage7208@reddit
Give your wife a tenner
HotAdvantage7208@reddit
Then enjoy the game with your friend
DifficultySalt4231@reddit
Is this a joke? Can I purchase you something and then later saying hi can I have said money? Rage bait
Justan0therthrow4way@reddit
No, it’s a £10 ticket. He’ll probably buy you a pint to say thank you and that’s it. What is wrong with people. I know it’s a cost of living crisis but presumably if you were a bit short of cash you wouldn’t offer.
chicken_nugget94@reddit
Treat him, he may pay off his own back or just buy you a pint at the game. Even if he doesn't I wouldn't hold it against him as it could quite easily be interpreted as you taking him to the game as a treat anyway.
Start asking your wife for money every time she buys something for her out the joint bank account
hotchy1@reddit
Dont take money. He'll repay it some other way. Just wait and see. If your wifes got a problem with it, just lie and say he paid it. Jon's a good one.
quite_acceptable_man@reddit
If you invite someone out, you pay. It's as simple as that.
He will probably offer to pay, and you should refuse.
Bufger@reddit
For £10 dont ask. He will probably buy you a beer at the ground or offer to get the food. Enjoy the game
i_am_vkr@reddit
Tell the wife he paid you or bought the pies and dont ask for the money.
Everyones a winner unless he tells the wife. In which case, Good Luck!
sheffCocksuckerS20@reddit
Your wife is a cretin.
You offered so you don’t ask for the money back. I had someone who got me something without asking then when I said thanks that’s nice of you they said great £4.00 please. I’m not hard up but i didn’t ask you to get it so I said nah fuck that. Enjoy your gift to yourself.
DannyRedditt@reddit
If he offered take if not don’t mention it simple
OptionalQuality789@reddit
Jesus Christ do not ask him for a tenner. Your wife is mental.
Kud13@reddit
It's £10 mate I wouldn't bother asking for money back personally. You've daid you've known him most of your life and he doesn't associate with many people, so treat the chap and just enjoy a day at a match with an old family friend and cherish the memory. He will.
Gary_BBGames@reddit
Maybe your wife missed the context of how this was offered, otherwise she’s a right old meanie
MrJones-@reddit
You offered to get him a ticket off your own back. I wouldn’t be expecting money for it, if I were you.
Same goes if someone invites you out for dinner, as done the inviting you would be paying.
Easy-Hunter-5972@reddit
Cover this time and if he wants to join again he can grab his own ticket
YouCantArgueWithThis@reddit
"I get you a ticket" is a problematic way to express yourself because it is up to interpretation. You should have been clearer and tell him whether you foot this ticket or not. I am the type of person who requires crystal clear communication ( auti), but the neighbour obviously not if he didn't ask you "what do you mean by getting a ticket". I'm afraid that it's too late too dickish asking money now.
Deep-Refuse-9414@reddit
It’s a £10! How tight are you?
blagsag@reddit
If you offer a ticket, you pay. If he asks for a ticket, he pays. That’s how it works.
pbroingu@reddit
I don't think this is necessarily as black and white as you make out.
If the ticket is for an event that's really high demand e.g. world cup final, the value being offered is the fact that a ticket can even be obtained in the first place. I wouldn't assume it's free if I were on the receiving end in a situation like that.
It's possible this man didn't ask for the cost because he knows it'll be relatively cheap anyway, so they can true up later.
iceman2g@reddit
For the sake of a tenner, even if there'd been a misunderstanding, I'd buy his ticket and not even mention it. Ten quid is a small price to pay for the sake of not looking like a complete arse. If it was £100, that would be different.
idontlikemondays321@reddit
If he offers the money, take it. If he doesn’t then you’ve just done a good deed
MacsKolinge@reddit
That's not very British now, is it?!
If he offers you the money you say "no no, it's fine" at which point he goes "no no, I insist!"
Which repeats until someone gets more awkward than the other and stops.
Thin-Grocery3134@reddit
Rock, paper, scissors for it, surely.
Gary_BBGames@reddit
If someone said they’d get me a ticket I’d assume they’re offering to pay, then I would insist on paying, which I would expect to be declined.
If you had said “ tickets are £10 and I can pick you up one when I’m there next” then I would immediately assume you were not offering to pay and it was for me to give you the money.
MetalWorking3915@reddit
A tenner? This cant be a serious post.
Your making someone happy for a tenner...... a tenner. Is your wife that sad that there is some power trip over a tenner and are you this ridiculous to be on hwre asking thks question given you say it makes bo difference financially to you.
Gibber_jab@reddit
Just get him to buy you a beer or something
_Starwind@reddit
It's £10? Unless you're struggling for £10...
Thin-Grocery3134@reddit
In which case why are you going to the football lol
South_Leek_5730@reddit
My advice. Get some WD40 for the wife.
Spiritual-Thanks4070@reddit
Ditch your wife and ask him to move in.
Thin-Grocery3134@reddit
Hes the wife now.
Icy-Abalone-8968@reddit
Dont listen to your wife wtf shes on about?
RowRow1990@reddit
Do not ask him for the money. You asked him and said you'd get him a ticket.
Asking him would completely ruin the intention.
International-Wear57@reddit
Mate no… it’s a tenner. It’s ok to treat people sometimes.
Particular-Fly-7783@reddit
Just pay for the ticket, it’s a tenner.
Grey_Bomberman@reddit
Dude, I'll give you the tenner just to stop this ridiculous debate. You invited him, said you'd get the ticket, done ✅
Gloomy_Custard_3914@reddit
You said you will get him a ticket, to a normal person that means you will pay.
Your wife is an idiot.
manic_panda@reddit
I think the implication here is you get the ticket means you pay. Its only £10, why is your wife so keen to get that back if you don't need it? Or is it to make him feel less awkward? If so, why not let him offer to pay for snacks or something, that'll probably end up being more than the ticket to be fair.
THE_IRL_JESUS@reddit
Why is this even a question? If you are fine for cash and you invited him and it's only £10 obviously just leave it. Maybe he'll return the favour but no big deal either way.
kylehyde84@reddit
I think you prob know the answer to that
oktimeforplanz@reddit
For the sake of £10? Absolutely not. The way you asked made it sound like you're paying for his ticket, so it would be weird at this point to turn around and ask for the money. And it's only £10 for a friend. He might well "pay you back" anyway either by buying food or drinks at the game, or if you go to a pub afterwards.
Don't lie to him about how you got the ticket either. Just don't say anything about the cost. If he offers to pay for it, then by all means, let him, but don't ask him for money.
If the expectation is that you want him to pay for his ticket, then that's something that should be made clear up front.
Oshova@reddit
I generally find that the elderly are more than willing to repay kindness. For the sake of a tenner I'd just let it ride.
RuneClash007@reddit
I find the elderly are more likely to repay out of kindness, whereas 16-35 are more likely to repay as they feel like it's necessary
35-65 just seem to be the worst and don't repay tbh
Independent_Run7182@reddit
Please don’t
CapnSeabass@reddit
You offered to get him a ticket - he accepted. If you wanted reimbursed you should have been upfront and said “Tickets are a tenner - do you want me to pick one up for you?”.
If he does insist on paying you back, let him buy you a pie.
OwlPatient7252@reddit
You've bought him a ticket, enjoy the match & feel good about doing something nice for an old man who's also a friend
NovelDevelopment8479@reddit
You invited him so the expectation is that you are paying. If he wants to accompany you to games in future it's for him to pay for his ticket and you to call on him on the day.
According-Let3541@reddit
You invited him - you should pay. It’s likely he will offer anyway once you confirm the ticket at which point you say no, and maybe a ‘you can buy me a drink afterwards’ if he insists.
ITrampyMcGee@reddit
I think give him this for free but if he's going to be coming regularly perhaps have a casual chat with him about some form of payment? Could be like "Oh we had a great time last time! Would you think about coming regularly perhaps? Tickets are a tenner so let me know and I can book for you and you can just repay me when I see you next."
You may also find that he is grateful and offers to buy drinks, for example - and I'm sure that would come to more than a tenner!
DigAndScoop@reddit
You get the tickets. He gets the beer. Come one now……..
KimonoCathy@reddit
No, don’t ask him for the money. As you said, he’s absolutely delighted and it’s only a tenner so just basking the feeling of having done someone a good turn. You’d have spent that on a couple of coffees or beers without even noticing, and this will have much more positive impact.
TPatches1989@reddit
Or just let him but you a pint at the pub afterwards. He feels like he contributed, you get a pint and you both get to have a good time.
Aimo321@reddit
If its a one off - absolutely free, can't believe anyone would be so stingy at requesting payment for that. Its a kind gesture, your wife should be ashamed at being so selfish. However, if it becomes a regular thing, then it should be shared, one buys ticket, one buys snacks or a drink. But only if it becomes regular.
Thin-Grocery3134@reddit
No. This shouldnt even be a consideration based on what you've said.
It would be weird to ask to be honest, and a huge dickmove to ask for it after you have offered. If someone pulled that on me id be annoyed. Its not about the money either. It would turn a treat you offered into not a gift are all, which might even upset him.
Treat the man for god sake.
aMaeveing@reddit
Wow, your wife is being a miser. This is an isolated elderly man who you've invited and explicitly said you'd pat... And it's only a tenner, which will make absolutely no difference to your finances. I'd be totally embarrassed to ask him.
Is she ok?
FunkyYoghurt@reddit
> My wife seems to think I should ask him for the money.
No.
Ill-Maintenance8986@reddit
Why is this even a question?! Talking about souring a nice thing. Have a word with your wife.
Eggrolls1990@reddit
It's £10. The fact you are spending more than 2 seconds making this decision and coming to Reddit for opinions is ridiculous.
Ambitious-Win-9408@reddit
You invited him. You can tell her you invited him and you'll be paying the tenner. A sane person would understand this. I don't even understand how someone would respond with anything other than "That's nice! I hope you have a good time"
InformationHead3797@reddit
For £10? Jesus.
MostlyBoringYou@reddit
Well, I'm a tight-arse at the best of times, but I could never ask an older person to reimburse me £10 for something I offered to do... obviously if he insists on paying me without prompting, thats a different kettle of fish...
Remote-Field4624@reddit
Dude what are you doing pay ten pound get him the ticket do something nice for a fellow human and when he offers money which he probably will just say ah buy my son some food or a drink and call it quits.
You already know this and just tell your wife no is or if she's gonna make your life that much hell over a tenner say he give you it.......
C'mon mate. Get the tickets give someone who could need a nice gesture one. I am in debt and can't get out I'll send you the 10 pound next month on principle.
hook-happy@reddit
It’s a tenner, I definitely wouldn’t be asking for the money. Plus you invited him, he didn’t ask, so it would be impolite to later ask him to pay.
Stunning-Profit8876@reddit
You said you'd get it for him, so I wouldn't ask. He might ask how much he owes you, then you do you, but personally I'd just buy him the ticket and let him buy me a pint at half time or whatever. I'm sure he'll offer.
HotPotatoWithCheese@reddit
Don't listen to your wife. You offered to get him a ticket and it's only a tenner.
ribenarockstar@reddit
For the sake of £10 I'd let it go, but I'd also expect that he'll probably cover parking/ buy the pies/ whatever.
Haveyoushatmyself@reddit
£10 is the same as 2 costas or a single meal in mcds/Toby carvery(weekday menu) or parking for a couple of hours. Neither of the above will give you the satisfaction or memories of a good friendship.
gromit1991@reddit
You cannot offer to take him and get a ticket and then expect payment.
KoontFace@reddit
For a tenner? No way I’m bringing it up.
GarwayHFDS@reddit
I'd wait for him to offer, wouldn't bring it up.....if he offers, simply say thank you or tell him you don't want paying.
Tell your wife he gave you the money.
bahumat42@reddit
Its a tenner, I'd eat the cost unless they offer.
Illustrious_Day5086@reddit
You offered to get him one - I would expect you were paying if that was me.
If I was him I would then offer to buy you food or a couple of drinks to say thank you.
I wouldn’t lie about how you got the ticket - if he insists on paying then just say ‘get me a coffee’ or something
No_Yoghurt3370@reddit
Buy him the ticket and when he offers you some money tell him not to worry it was only a few quid, I wouldn't even mention the 10 to my partner
LordCoops@reddit
Is a tenner, just give the old boy his day out. If he offers the money refuse to take it, if he wants he can get some drinks in.
allabouttheplants@reddit
I would treat him this time, in the future would expect him to pay. So if he asks how much he owes you just say its on me this time.
Physical-Bear2156@reddit
You offered out of the blue. I think it is implicit that the offer included paying for the ticket tbb.
VodkaMargarine@reddit
"Here's your ticket, just get the round in at half time"
Competitive_Pen7192@reddit
Pay for the old boy, wife seems somewhat stingy there!! I hope your birthdays presents are up to scratch!!
SeoulGalmegi@reddit
Asking for a tenner you admit makes little difference to you is a sure way to make a nice thing that little bit awkward for everybody.
Show the wife this thread.
SpeccyPig@reddit
You said you’d get him a ticket? You worded it to him poorly
soulbored@reddit
if you wanted him to pay for it, you should have said ‘get a ticket and come with us’. not ‘i’ll get you a ticket’. you can easily assume ‘my treat’ was implied or would have been naturally added on lol. just tell your wife he bought you a drink or two at the game to call it even (he probably will do that?)
snowdroptiger@reddit
I’d say just cover it. But if I was him then I’d be buying the hot dog for your son / coffees for the grownups in thanks.
ITF5391@reddit
I wouldn’t worry about it. If anything, I’m almost certain your neighbour will ask how much he owes you once you handover the ticket anyways.
dgreen1415@reddit
Don’t ask for money. He will probably offer it at the match, which you should also refuse. Obviously if it becomes a regular occurrence maybe have the conversation.
No-Translator5443@reddit
Treat him he might treat you to drinks and snacks as a thanks
BrewDogDrinker@reddit
You offered to take him, id assume you'd meant you'd pay.
At end of day, its £10 and not a lot.
Just treat.
pgnlzbth@reddit
Yeah just treat him, since you can afford it and it is awkward to raise. If it becomes regular thing or he expresses interest in doing it again, just say ‘no problem - the tickets cost £10’ so it’s not as issue in the future.
Scottish_squirrel@reddit
I wouldn't ask him for money. He'll likely offer to get the Bovril or whatever men drink at football these days. Nice wee day out for him and everyone is happy all round.
-Skengbiscuit-@reddit
Tell your wife to get a grip! You invited him you pay
I-Spot-Dalmatians@reddit
Don’t bring it up, if he offers then maybe? But even then if it’s only a tenner I’d just say to him buy me a pint when we’re there or something
gse2026@reddit
Nah man its a tenner. Very worthwhile investment treating him to some football!
mattdaddy2025@reddit
Mate. It’s a tenner. He’ll but you a pie and a pint at the game. If he doesn’t then, it’s just a tenner.
Confident_Yogurt1787@reddit
Let him buy you a pint in the ground. Local clubs need bums on seats and all the match day revenue they can get.
grepusman@reddit
It sounds like you offered him a free ticket to me.
Spencer_Perceval@reddit
A tenner to make somebody happy?
Wonderful-Bonus5439@reddit
Is this a joke?? Id be soo embarrassed if my husband asked for money! And you offered!
Alien-lifeform666@reddit
For the sake of a tenner I wouldn’t. It’s a nice gesture if friendship. You / your wife wouldn’t think twice about spending a tenner on a round of drinks or a birthday present for friends. This is in the same category in my opinion.
Alternative-Purple76@reddit
You 100% buy the ticket for this gentleman and give him a lovely day. Wife on the other hand🤔
oscarx-ray@reddit
"I'll get you a ticket" is an offer to buy it for them. It's only a tenner and you'll be making a nice old man happy. Don't lie to him. You said you'd get him a ticket, do it and don't mention it being purchased or procured otherwise, that will sully the gesture.
oscarx-ray@reddit
"Feel free to join us" is "Buy your own ticket". "I'll get you one" is an offer.
BeKind321@reddit
I would never ask for the money and if he offers just say don’t worry about it, you can get me a pint later and I wouldn’t even expect that from a pensioner to be honest.
frankensteinsmaster@reddit
Just treat him. He’ll probaly offer anyway, and will buy you a pie/juice/pint
MonounsaturatedChain@reddit
I think it sounds like this is something you WANT to spend your own tenner on (treating him to a day out and making him feel welcome and wanted). If you put it that way to your wife, she'sll probably be more understanding
Necessary_Village878@reddit
Why offer if you weren’t paying?
sophietheadventurer@reddit
It’s £10….
Jackk12121@reddit
Really
Captain_Chappie@reddit
I know
NoFewSatan@reddit
It's £10, don't ask for money ffs
JustJavi@reddit
Just treat him.
scrappy1982@reddit
Honestly, soak up the cost. Even if he offers you the money, just say for him to buy a pint or something.
Broric@reddit
I think this is a “nah don’t worry, just buy me a pint” situation.
Confudled_Contractor@reddit
I’m sure he’ll offer to pay when you give him the ticket.
I’d just ask for a pint instead.
Future_You_2800@reddit
Cant believe youre asking this if indeed you can afford it.
jac_ogg@reddit
No, you invited him so don't ask for money. Most likely he'll repay the favour anyway by getting drinks or something else
martinbean@reddit
I stopped reading after “I’ll get you a ticket”. That implied you’ll be getting and paying for the ticket.
If someone said to me, “Do you want me to get you a coffee?” I wouldn’t then expect them to put it down on the table and then tell me I need to give them four quid or however much.
UKWatchCollector94@reddit
Treat him! Memories are far more important than the monetary cost. You never know he might buy you food or a drink at the game 😀
Pocahontas21334@reddit
You would seriously ask for £10? It’s a nice gesture and gift and that’s what it should be, a gift!
-info-sec-@reddit
If you're short fella, I can send you the £10. In return, when you're all good, just pay it forward.
P33tree@reddit
You've given a load of reasons why you should treat this old chap to the event. It's a tenner. A chance to brighten this guy's day, week and month for the price of a crap meal in a takeaway. Do it. Bring a smile.
Mav_Learns_CS@reddit
Bud it’s £10 just take the geezer and forget about the money
Funmachine@reddit
You invited him and offered to get his ticket. If it's only £10 and he you know he would pay you back immediately then he could have been buying it himself anyway. You've set this up as your treat. To then ask him later to pay you back would be in bad taste.
Why is your wife being cheap?
BroodLord1962@reddit
You offered without telling him how much it would costs, so the assumption is that you are paying for it
theroch_@reddit
Best tenner you’ll spend. Would be a bit odd to invite him then ask for money. I’m sure in your head you wouldn’t ask anyway. He’ll be made up to go the footy with you 2. Will be a brill day out for you all. Just need a win to cap it off
JustJoshwaa@reddit
You offered, can’t be an Indian giver.
If asked just literally say “this one’s my treat” so there is no expectation on either side for next time
Most_Lingonberry_409@reddit
Please don’t use outdated, racist terminology - thanks
RevolutionaryWorry87@reddit
For a tenner? Not a chance. First round is on him though.
blue_rizla@reddit
This time as its a one-off - wait for him to ask. Very good chance he goes "how much do I owe you?". Or gets a drink for you and your son before/afterwards.
If you end up offering to get him a regular ticket, don't make the offer without mentioning cost.
"Do you want us to get you any more for next season? It's a tenner per game".
Easy.
eca3617@reddit
Just be altruistic. Fuck the tenner.
cbrownmufc@reddit
I’m with you. You offered for him to come, so it makes sense that you pay.
Based on what you have said, I wouldn’t be surprised if he buys you a drink or a pie when at the game.
Professional-Test239@reddit
If he offers just ask him to buy you a pint.
Sea_Director_4439@reddit
It's a tenner
Careless_Ad_2811@reddit
It's only £10 and you're not struggling so I would just pay it and never mention it, if he brings it up himself just say it's on you and you're just happy to have him there. Lovely thing to do for an elderly neighbour. 😊
Timely_Egg_6827@reddit
Treat him. But don't be surprisrd if he offers to buy food or something. Or brings something. That is usually how it works.
kalshassan@reddit
Just be gracious about it, and don’t mention it. It’s £10.
Altruistic_Grocery81@reddit
It’s a tenner mate.
ClaspedDust4415@reddit
I expect at some point he'll ask how much ge owes you, either tell him to not worry about it or get you a drink and call it even (assuming drink prices are sensible).
If the £10 isn't going to hurt you, it's more about his pride than anything.
jj_sykes@reddit
Why you waiting for replies - go round his immediately, knock down the door and demand a crisp ten pound note.
Or just treat the chap - it doesn’t seem to be about money just seems he is happy with the activity/company
BowiesFixedPupil@reddit
No way. You don't need the money and even though he'll happily pay and would likely hate to feel like he were taking the piss, having known him for so long I think it's a nice thing to do and won't go unappreciated.
If he offers, maybe ask him to cover a burger each or something and if he insists, just accept the money. But asking after he potentially assumed it was a gift could embarrass him a touch, potentially.
Worried-Penalty8744@reddit
£10? That’s just a gift surely. It’s hardly a £300 Liverpool ticket is it..
Make him get the Bovril in if you really want to be “even”
macman501@reddit
In this instance I'd just give him the ticket and say nothing unless he offers to pay. If there is a second visit I'd word the offer in a way that's clear he is expected to pay for it. On that basis I wouldn't make out that the ticket was free via some offer or he might think that's a regular thing. If the subject arises just let him know you paid but it's on you.
namtabmai@reddit
If you'd expected them to pay for the tickets you should have mentioned it when asking if they want to come.
"Do you fancy coming with us? Tickets are only £10 I can pick you one up"
But as you didn't and it's cheap enough I wouldn't, but I also wouldn't make up some story about getting it for free either. If they ask tell them not to worry about it, or get you a beer and call it even.
Frostyballschilly@reddit
Maybe if you treat him to the ticket he’ll return the favour and but you some food at the game
CLWggg@reddit
If you didn't mention money at the time, he might have thought you were offering to treat him. And then he might "repay" you later by buying you a pint or something. Especially if the tenner isn't much of an issue for you, I wouldn't ask him for it. And if the money really isn't an issue, I'm not sure why your wife would even bring it up!
Marion_Ravenwood@reddit
Personally I'd buy it for him. The way you have worded it, to me, implies you will get him one and pay for it.
If was a larger amount of money, I'd be tempted to ask, or at least ask for a contribution, but at £10 I'd gift it to him. If you go for a pint afterwards and he doesn't offer to buy you one I'd think it a bit cheeky, but then you know you don't go to another game with him, it next time you as for the money or he gets the tickets.
Cultural_Tank_6947@reddit
Oh for a tenner and for a friend? No of course you don't ask for money.
If he's a good friend, he'll probably make sure he buys an extra round.
fail_happy@reddit
I wouldn't mention it for £10, you offered without mentioning the cost.
If it comes up I would let them know it was £10 but still would not ask for the money, but would take it if offered and thank them.
If it did become a regular thing, that's when I would say the tickets are £10 and ask to be reimbursed if you are still the one buying them.
OPGR1234@reddit
No, probably made the poor man’s day. It will come back to you in other ways.
emmiewag@reddit
I wouldn't ask for the £10. If I was the recipient of the ticket I'd get the drinks in.
CuratorOfNoise@reddit
I’d just get him the ticket personally, chances are he’ll get some drinks at the ground or something anyway, but if not, a good deed is done.
Dependent-Ganache-77@reddit
Good deed for a tenner is cheap, I wouldn’t ask…
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