"Im sorry colleague, that was incredibly callous, dumb and poorly thought out I don't know why I said that. Im very sorry to hear about your loss and I hope you and your family are doing okay under the circumstances. Just to reiterate take all the time you need, my thoughts are with you and your family"
Will still be weird/bit of an atmosphere maybe but that might salvage something. Definitely refer to them as "colleague" as well, don't use their name, people hate when you use their name.
Saying "colleague" would be too formal; top stuff and weird. Saying their name may be too informal - I do agree, sometimes people don't like to called by their name (I think usually only if it's excessively used), but I think in this context that would be fine. Or you could just say "I'm sorry," and not address them with a name/title, instead just go ahead with the apology.
Either way, this post is fake and gay so no need to draft hypothetical responses. Though if it was real it likely would take a small miracle to recover from such a fuck up đ¤Ł
This is the kind of shit you would quietly say to the person next to you in the back of the class just to realize the rest of the class was coincidentally completely silent right when you said it.
Which is why as you get older and begin to move in environments with actual consequences you learn to just not say that shit out loud no matter how funny it is.
Man I get that in real life where your mouth can run faster than your brain, but anon typed that shit, looked at it, probably corrected some spelling, looked at it again, and then hit send.
If I type a text response longer than a sentence I reread that shit 5 times and rethink it twice before hitting send.
I've put my foot in my mouth before in text conversations. One time in particular I can recall is because I was having a live conversation - it was a group chat where several people were present/typing/reading/engaging. There wasn't that pause between me typing and hitting send because my brain was treating it more like a face to face conversation, I guess.
But also part of what reduced that "wait, you should probably think about what you're typing/saying before you hit send" response in my brain may have been my state of mind. When I think back on it I do recall that I wasn't in the best place mental health wise. That can't excuse it, though; at the end of the day I was being an ass who lacked consideration for others. Anyway, I do think there's a possibly my less-than-great mental health may have had something to do with how I handled that situation.
Funnily enough, the context is kind of similar to this greentext. I ended up saying something insensitive towards a friend's (terminal) family member. It wasn't quite as bad at this greentext, lol, but still.
Okay but honestly who gives that much information? Just say âfamily emergencyâ and let that be enough. Youâd probably need to do whatever you need to do to get bereavement time but thatâs probably something you do with an email or a phone call because âmy brother drowned in his poolâ still a lot of information to drop in a single sentence via text.
But also, someone making a joke immediately after the fact would be remembered more fondly than hearing a million people say âsorry for your lossâ or something like that. And who is to say rice canât solve drowning? Has anyone tried? Iâve never heard of anyone drowning in a rice paddy. Maybe anon was coming from a place of sincerity.
Yeah just saying family emergency is incredibly vague, whereas saying your little brother drowned gives the person enough context on what your mental/emotional state will be when you get back.
Sometimes it's nice to give people a sense of how to react between "my nephew forgot his show and tell toy at kindergarten" and "I saw my wife beheaded in a car accident"Â
based i see nothing wrong with this
when my best friend died another friend asked
"what do you think simon is doing in heaven"
my other homie said Benzos lmao
cuz he loved xans
made me chuckle
well he didnt accept jesus as his Lord and saviour so propably not but he was the best Person in the world
i looked up to him he was my big brother for all my life
Being a moral person without religious reasons takes more backbone and principle than with. A God that punishes someone not for their character but for their lack of subservience is not a just God.
thats not how god works
god doesnt punish you, you punish yourself
you can choose to be with him or to be seperated
god is all good
im to lazy to explain anyways
your idea of god is wrong tho
You can joke about everything but not with everyone
If you know your friends are into that kind of humour, go for it. But unless you're 200% sure the person is gonna take it well and laugh, you want to go for a classic "I'm so sorry for your loss". Otherwise you're going to make that already miserable person feel even worse and they're gonna think you're an insensitive asshole
Some people and families are just different, not saying I would find this funny but who knows. At my mother's celebration of life they accidentally spilled some of the ashes. Me and my nephew drunkenly decided that we should put Mom on our pinkies and do a bump. Family didn't even bat an eye, we're all pretty stupid.
Fuck, Iâd laugh if someone said that to me. I remember I started laughing at my Grandaâs funeral when my brother slipped and almost dropped his casket lmao
OrangeKefir@reddit
"Im sorry colleague, that was incredibly callous, dumb and poorly thought out I don't know why I said that. Im very sorry to hear about your loss and I hope you and your family are doing okay under the circumstances. Just to reiterate take all the time you need, my thoughts are with you and your family"
Will still be weird/bit of an atmosphere maybe but that might salvage something. Definitely refer to them as "colleague" as well, don't use their name, people hate when you use their name.
nyoomers@reddit
Saying "colleague" would be too formal; top stuff and weird. Saying their name may be too informal - I do agree, sometimes people don't like to called by their name (I think usually only if it's excessively used), but I think in this context that would be fine. Or you could just say "I'm sorry," and not address them with a name/title, instead just go ahead with the apology.
Either way, this post is fake and gay so no need to draft hypothetical responses. Though if it was real it likely would take a small miracle to recover from such a fuck up đ¤Ł
ur_moms_boy-toy@reddit
This is the kind of shit you would quietly say to the person next to you in the back of the class just to realize the rest of the class was coincidentally completely silent right when you said it.
ABHOR_pod@reddit
Which is why as you get older and begin to move in environments with actual consequences you learn to just not say that shit out loud no matter how funny it is.
MissCandid@reddit
laughs in mental illness
ABHOR_pod@reddit
Man I get that in real life where your mouth can run faster than your brain, but anon typed that shit, looked at it, probably corrected some spelling, looked at it again, and then hit send.
If I type a text response longer than a sentence I reread that shit 5 times and rethink it twice before hitting send.
nyoomers@reddit
I've put my foot in my mouth before in text conversations. One time in particular I can recall is because I was having a live conversation - it was a group chat where several people were present/typing/reading/engaging. There wasn't that pause between me typing and hitting send because my brain was treating it more like a face to face conversation, I guess.
But also part of what reduced that "wait, you should probably think about what you're typing/saying before you hit send" response in my brain may have been my state of mind. When I think back on it I do recall that I wasn't in the best place mental health wise. That can't excuse it, though; at the end of the day I was being an ass who lacked consideration for others. Anyway, I do think there's a possibly my less-than-great mental health may have had something to do with how I handled that situation.
Funnily enough, the context is kind of similar to this greentext. I ended up saying something insensitive towards a friend's (terminal) family member. It wasn't quite as bad at this greentext, lol, but still.
limbo612@reddit
Did you try putting it in rice?
Jay_T_Demi@reddit
MissCandid is a pretty apt username for this topic
Drafo7@reddit
I mean it's probably fake anyway.
Danger_Lab_NNN@reddit
Now explain why old people just say what comes to their mind. Like you'd beg them to behave themselves and they just don't care? Whats up with that?
splyfrede@reddit
Considering this is on 4chan i think (ironically enough) that the problem lies in the assumption they thought at all
pedrokdc@reddit
thr33beggars@reddit
Okay but honestly who gives that much information? Just say âfamily emergencyâ and let that be enough. Youâd probably need to do whatever you need to do to get bereavement time but thatâs probably something you do with an email or a phone call because âmy brother drowned in his poolâ still a lot of information to drop in a single sentence via text.
But also, someone making a joke immediately after the fact would be remembered more fondly than hearing a million people say âsorry for your lossâ or something like that. And who is to say rice canât solve drowning? Has anyone tried? Iâve never heard of anyone drowning in a rice paddy. Maybe anon was coming from a place of sincerity.
baudmiksen@reddit
Try blowing smoke up their ass
sebastiano7789@reddit
my little brother died in a rice paddy
wordjedi@reddit
Face down in the muck in 'nam
baudmiksen@reddit
Spilled the same blood in the same mud!
strawberry_semenade@reddit
That's how the army vets who got their Vietnamese girlfriends pregnant did abortions
anon67543@reddit
Thatâs impossible
komay@reddit
Did anyone try putting him in a pool?
FuciMiNaKule@reddit
I was going to agree with you but then you threw in that second paragraph, like damn
shepard_pie@reddit
One, people share that level of information all the time. It's not an egregiously weird amount of info to drop. Some people wouldn't, but many do.
SirChasm@reddit
Yeah just saying family emergency is incredibly vague, whereas saying your little brother drowned gives the person enough context on what your mental/emotional state will be when you get back.
I_Am_Sharticus_@reddit
When did everyone on the internet become so enamored with context? Sometimes you don't have to know something.
Dhb223@reddit
Sometimes it's nice to give people a sense of how to react between "my nephew forgot his show and tell toy at kindergarten" and "I saw my wife beheaded in a car accident"Â
Dovahbear_@reddit
I mean thereâs a middle ground as well: âThereâs been a loss in the familyâ
watabotdawookies@reddit
Grief is fucked. Sometimes you just overshare and regret it immediately
eat_my_bowls92@reddit
When youâre grieving, sometimes you just⌠say thing. It makes sense that your filter would turn off. Who has time for that under duress?
Also, I was curious. When I first read the title, I misread it and thought THE mob (like, the ITALIAN mob) drowned them in a rice paddy.
https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/india-mob-american-tourist-caitanya-holt-rice-paddy-choked-death/
Informal_Bus_4077@reddit
WELCOME TO THE RICE FIELDS, MOTHAFUCKA
jerk_chicken_warrior@reddit
its obviously fake its just funny
BurningStandards@reddit
fliegenpilz_tim@reddit
based i see nothing wrong with this when my best friend died another friend asked "what do you think simon is doing in heaven" my other homie said Benzos lmao cuz he loved xans made me chuckle
Aggravating_Bids@reddit
Lol you think that guy made it to heaven?
fliegenpilz_tim@reddit
well he didnt accept jesus as his Lord and saviour so propably not but he was the best Person in the world i looked up to him he was my big brother for all my life
Scotchin@reddit
Being a moral person without religious reasons takes more backbone and principle than with. A God that punishes someone not for their character but for their lack of subservience is not a just God.
fliegenpilz_tim@reddit
thats not how god works god doesnt punish you, you punish yourself you can choose to be with him or to be seperated god is all good im to lazy to explain anyways your idea of god is wrong tho
drinkpacifiers@reddit
You should go to random funerals and start making jokes about the deceased. See how that works out for ya.
fliegenpilz_tim@reddit
seethe and cope
Champomi@reddit
You can joke about everything but not with everyone
If you know your friends are into that kind of humour, go for it. But unless you're 200% sure the person is gonna take it well and laugh, you want to go for a classic "I'm so sorry for your loss". Otherwise you're going to make that already miserable person feel even worse and they're gonna think you're an insensitive asshole
kvltsincebirth@reddit
Some people and families are just different, not saying I would find this funny but who knows. At my mother's celebration of life they accidentally spilled some of the ashes. Me and my nephew drunkenly decided that we should put Mom on our pinkies and do a bump. Family didn't even bat an eye, we're all pretty stupid.
PhantomCruze@reddit
Embrace the tism, it's beyond weaponizing at this point
Dominator616@reddit
That's not weaponized tism, at that point its a tism nuke
Renophantom@reddit
Read 12:39pm
Scarytoaster1809@reddit
Fuck, Iâd laugh if someone said that to me. I remember I started laughing at my Grandaâs funeral when my brother slipped and almost dropped his casket lmao
Cocaine-Spider@reddit
i miss granda
internetlad@reddit
FLEENSTO? UG.
Informal_Bus_4077@reddit
Non binary grandparentÂ
Scarytoaster1809@reddit
Me too
BurntoutHeart@reddit
I love that anon had to be left on read for 40 minutes before he realized that probably wasnât what he shouldâve said
leastemployableman@reddit
It took him 40 minutes to get through the captcha to post
circlefrog6@reddit
NTA
mariojw@reddit
Delete facebook, get a lawyer, hit the gym
Cozwei@reddit
G13
303x@reddit
get facebook hit the lawyer and delete the gym
BrokeBoiForLife@reddit
Lemon
Diels_Alder@reddit
That sub is borderline unreadable. They'll justify psychopath behavior.
odessa_cabbage@reddit
You donât.
airfryerfuntime@reddit
What phone has a screen that shape?
natalo77@reddit
https://www.reddit.com/r/unsound/s/nQTjNZ9fZo
echit2112@reddit
at this point just stand by it
lardman1@reddit
Yep. Double down. No reply in two hours? Hit them with â?â
minty-moose@reddit
haha you there? Did you drown too?
HampusTman@reddit
"...đ"
Ok_Elk_4333@reddit
Double down and ask him if the rice worked when he comes back to work
bigbadbillyd@reddit
It's the "lol just kidding" part that makes me laugh every time I see this
LogDog987@reddit
Technical-Earth-3254@reddit
Just tank it
Exter10@reddit
Laughter is the best medicine, I'm currently overdosing đ
SaltOk3057@reddit
Just double down atp
vverbov_22@reddit
anon is kinda based
blveberrys@reddit
Every time this is reposted, it never fails to make me cringe
Barkinsons@reddit
Just move to another country and start a new life
ur_moms_boy-toy@reddit
Fake your death, move to rural Russia, and live the rest of your life as a hermit in the wilderness.