what kind of relationship do you have with your colleagues?

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Maleficent_Day_3869@reddit (OP)

probably not, i keep myself to myself and don’t really speak to anyone. but it’s only because i know what they’re like

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To be honest, OP, I can't help but feel that all these people commenting with all assumptions and no empathy ("well YOU must be the problem!") are probably the same kind of bullies you deal with in real life at work. Ignore them.

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Mr_Bumcrest@reddit

Not really. It costs nothing to be polite to people, especially those who you spend the majority of your time with.

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WeeklyPermission239@reddit

We have no evidence OP isn't polite to their colleagues. In a similar vein, it costs nothing to reply to a post like OP's with empathy and curiosity, rather than assuming they're the problem and chastising them for what you've assumed.

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Real23Phil@reddit

I don't work anymore due to disability, there are 2 people from my 15 years working I talk to (1 of them I message on their birthday, they return that text 2 weeks later)

Don't hate them, I just lack social skills.

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kettlejuices@reddit

Most of my colleagues are pleasant, but there's a pretty big generational gap between me and them so it's sometimes difficult to relate.

There are a handful of bumholes who seem like they're trying to trip people up and punch them down for brownie-points with the CEO.

Then you have the CEO who runs this company like an abusive household.

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notemark@reddit

I get on well with everyone at work but I tend to leave it there, I don't tend to bother with social events and the like but that's just me and everyone knows that's me and are fine with it.

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opitypang@reddit

It's said that if you think everyone around you is an arsehole, the arsehole is probably you.

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littlebird2446@reddit

I agree for the most part but it does happen sometimes that everyone’s a dick.

I’ve made most of my friends through different jobs. But one job I had in a vet surgery was awful because 90% of the staff team were bitchy, gossipy and downright rude. I’m a shy but nice person. They were awful to me I think because I didn’t fit in with their vibe. They’d giggle and whisper, made snide comments etc.

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Ok_Service_5104@reddit

It's skewed because arseholes employ arseholes

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Ok_Service_5104@reddit

This is not necessarily true.

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TheWeirdDude-247@reddit

95% great.

Banter and all the works 247 with each other, most of them do monthly meets at pub/club/restaurants etc.

Not me, iv stopped getting invited because its always no, iv helped few with car issues even on weekends but.....they know our place with me.

I see work as literally work most of them dont which tbh....I dont care as doesnt affect me, in work we best freinds....moment I leave carpark......you can fuck off......everyone knows im the....(insert username) i appreciate they also understand this.

I have my breaks in my car too as I need that 45 min escape, but work time we just do the job but if anything, im main instigator as I love trolling others, I often turn their stations off from behind so they get blamed and im asking why they so slow.........fyi I get it back too.

On a whole I enjoy my colleagues but not job.

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WeeklyPermission239@reddit

I moved workplaces, in part due to the culture at my old job, and although this can be true it certainly isn't always.

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Mobile-Access-9693@reddit

I love everyone in my team, we all do a lot together outside of work and genuinely all consider each other friends. I'm very lucky, because it makes going to work a joy

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Huge_Horse_8945@reddit

There's a divide in my team now. 2 keep butting heads over the dumbest crap. Both of them have colleagues who back each other up. It's honestly so draining because 1 if them just gets on with it whilst the other CONSTANTLY moans at me about it. It's caused me to actually really dislike the person and avoid speaking to them because i'm sick of hearing it.

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PowerApp101@reddit

I see them at work, have a few polite chats, and then forget about them when I'm at home.

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TheWeirdDude-247@reddit

95% great.

Banter and all the works 247 with each other, most of them do monthly meets at pub/club/restaurants etc.

Not me, iv stopped getting invited because its always no, iv helped few with car issues even on weekends but.....they know our place with me.

I see work as literally work most of them dont which tbh....I dont care as doesnt affect me, in work we best freinds....moment I leave carpark......you can fuck off......everyone knows im the....(insert username) i appreciate they also understand this.

I have my breaks in my car too as I need that 45 min escape, but work time we just do the job but if anything, im main instigator as I love trolling others, I often turn their stations off from behind so they get blamed and im asking why they so slow.........fyi I get it back too.

On a whole I enjoy my colleagues but not job.

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stumblingfortheeight@reddit

Professional but uninterested, as I am confident they are in me.

I’ve been at the same company for 12 years, working in roughly the same area (what I do is quite niche so not going to be moving sideways); up until 6-7 years ago, there were people I genuinely liked, and three - who have long left- became friends (although that has drifted away with all but one).

I don’t really feel any connection with the people around me now, but I realise that that is down to me. I have always been introverted, but since the pandemic and all that went with it I just have no interest in ‘getting to know people’, nor them knowing me. I love the people I love, and I just see work as £ now.

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ScumBucket33@reddit

I’d happily go out for a pint with any one of my coworkers.

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Scarred_fish@reddit

In 35 plus years I can only recall one dickhead colleague, and he didn't last long.

We all get along great. Some are closer than others but none I wouldn't help out if I could or offer a cuppa if they popped by.

I'm not a fan of the "works night out" thing though, forcing it is just weird. Naturally meeting up or because you have other connections is the way to go.

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OllyDee@reddit

Good natured banter and sexual innuendo with some, philosophical nonsense and abstract hypotheticals for the one and only intellectual.

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ForesterDean23@reddit

I work for the police in a west of England force. We are not police officers but our department supports them in a vital way. I am easily the oldest in my team having just turned 60, a lot of the others are in their 20s. Honestly they are a joy to work with. It would be so easy for them to be nothing more than polite but they are so much more than that, I honestly can’t speak highly enough of the people I work with. Great bunch.

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Acrobatic_Extent_360@reddit

Where do you work?

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Maleficent_Day_3869@reddit (OP)

in a nursery

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asolarwhale@reddit

Kids can be brutal tbf

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Derfel60@reddit

Every job ive had im friendly but distanced with colleagues. I dont add them on facebook, im not in group chats and i dont go to company drinks or christmas parties. I come in, do my work and go home.

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No-Daikon3645@reddit

I like my team, but we all work from home and only meet in person a couple of days a month, so that may be the reason.

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imtiramisu2025@reddit

I get on with most people at work and it makes work more fun, however I would never allow myself to trust any of them or would want do be friends outside of work. I made that mistake once.

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Certain-Donut-9175@reddit

This. Once you learn that lesson the hard way, boundaries are important. My colleagues are great but I dont see them or speak to them outside of work. We chat about our weekend and families etc but I wouldn't confide anything in them that could bite me on the arse in the future. I have great fun with them, laugh a lot, and they're good people as far as I can tell. But work is work, and home is home to me. The 2 don't mix anymore.

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docju@reddit

I have a great relationship with most of my coworkers. There was a point where a promotion job came up, we knew we had all applied for it, and we were all genuinely happy for the person who got it.

The only one I didn't get on with was a bit of a weasel who asked out every woman in the office (including one on her first day).

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TheCookieMonsterYum@reddit

I like all mine to be fair. Work in huge company. Some annoying people but to be honest I think the company I work in is lucky to have a good team

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Time-Mode-9@reddit

Mainly in think they are are ok, but we don't have in common.

I work in IT

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HotMuffin12@reddit

I’m based across head office and my local office. My best friends are in head office and I probably talk to them about 15-20 hours per week. And in my local office I have some amazing colleagues. I’m incredibly lucky

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ClarifyingMe@reddit

My current colleagues are a very small number. My manager and another person. My manager is very all over the place but he's lovely and fair.

The other guy is all over the place on steroids and sometimes he makes me uncomfortable about how he treats my manager. But he's not malicious I don't think.

My last workplace had so many terrible people.

I don't care whatever gossips about me as long as it's the truth. I'll probably tell the person myself so it's not much gossip, you just didn't speak to me yet.

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Certain-Donut-9175@reddit

I have pleasant working relationships with all of them, some of them I get along with more naturally than others. None of them are out of work friends, nor are any of them really out of work friends with each other. But we chat about our family and personal lives on shift (NHS, team of 15 combining clinical and support staff) and are generally friendly. We do the odd team thing out of work, christmas do and maybe one bbq or something in summer, and occasionally some of us do something, like wild swimming or a pilates or pickleball class as examples, because one of us already does it and is happy to support newbies in showing the ropes, but its a free for all invite and usually directly after work rather than on days off. I wouldn't generally text any of them individually (we have a group WhatsApp but it's mostly traffic or 'I'm late' updates 😂). So I guess we are work friends but that's kind of the extent of it. It's perfect for me. I have friends and whilst I like my colleagues a lot, I find strong friendships in workplaces, especially when it's groups, create cliques. Everybody at my place just rubs along together nicely, supports each other through tough stuff be it work or personal, and generally gets along. I don't mind which of them I work with each shift. Obviously there are trivial disagreements about work sometimes but its usually quickly resolved and not personal.

I used to work in a much bigger dept with a lot of friendships and cliques and it was like being in high school. Stupid arguments, fallouts, bullying, people throwing strops about not getting to work with their besties and just generally toxic behaviour. Its a relief to work somewhere that everyone just comes to work does their job and is professional while having a bit of fun.

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Imaginary_Finger7844@reddit

A professional one.

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WeeklyPermission239@reddit

They're great. Can happily speak to any of them, no drama, made a few close friends too.

Night and day from my last job. Strongly advise people struggling with mean colleagues to move job. Your whole life improves literally overnight.

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Nosworthy@reddit

Generally great - made some really close friends and a good number who I probably wouldn't go as far as to class as a friend but think highly of.

You get the odd toxic workplace but in general I think most people in most workplaces are sound. You see comments like the OP on Reddit all the time and the posters always sound an absolute delight.

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gigglesmcsdinosaur@reddit

I tolerate them up to the point I am contractually obliged.

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Eastern_Selection335@reddit

Spot on.

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vipros42@reddit

My colleagues are largely smart, funny, lovely people who are a pleasure to work with. I've worked with some for close to 20 years give or take, but even the ones who have been with us a short time are great to work with and great to know.

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Forgetful8nine@reddit

In my current job, I get on well with most of the staff and volunteers. There are a couple I don't particularly like...nothing serious, just the sort I'd rather not have to deal with.

Most of the time I'm on my own. The bosses pretty much leave me to it. Get an occasional email or phonecall if something changes. So long as my deliveries are made, they don't care about trivial things like me only working a half-day tomorrow, or the fact nobody needed anything yesterday, so I went home. I've never had such a laid back job.

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ClericalRogue@reddit

Mostly get along with them all - we're on good terms all around. One person i really dislike but i kinda just interact with her as little as possible (shes one of those nice to your face, bitch about you behind your back types and i dislike her negativity).

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Ecstatic_Effective42@reddit

I'm actually pretty lucky in that regard: I work with some seriously skilful individuals. We may have some very different personalities but we all get on well. Quite frankly, the whole lot of us are a bunch of prima donnas (I feel REALLY sorry for my boss sometimes) but it works.

IT techies, bunch of weirdos all being weird together.

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Interviewing for personality as well as skill is important.

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DNBassist89@reddit

I get on with them fine. Made one particularly good friend, the rest are fine but we wouldn't socialise outside of work.

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