Sex life in your 50s?

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no-curtains2020@reddit

50m. 53f. Together 26 years. Sex 5-7 days a week.

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no-curtains2020@reddit

We have always had an active sex life and still do.

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Velvet_Samurai@reddit

My wife and I just started having sex again now that one kid is in college and the other is old enough to have lots of activities. It had been about a decade.

She's in perimenopause now so that's killed her libido and her ability to get wet at all, although it does rarely happen and that gets me super hot because it means she likes it. Most of the time she doesn't not care and it's 100% for me. I don't love that.

We're doing it about once every 6 weeks, I would be super happy with twice a month, but at this point we're both super busy there are times that I'm horny but I'm helping my parents install a new sink in their kitchen. Sucks missing a time when we would have had the house to ourselves, but life is gonna do what life is gonna do.

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Lemon-Cake-8100@reddit

Please buy some lube. No shame in that!!!

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Velvet_Samurai@reddit

We have tons of lube and toys. The lube is required, but doesn't really change much for her. She's not into toys. I can get her off about half the time with oral, the other times she lets me try and then says "It's not gonna happen, just put it in and finish up."

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Lemon-Cake-8100@reddit

Yeah, ok, that's different. I'm 55F and when i've said those same words it's bc for me to orgasm my brain needs to be feeling sexy. And sometimes it doesn't bc I am.... making lists in my head of all the shit i gotta do before tomorrow/this wknd/next month - either in the home, or for other people, or at my job. And I cannot turn it off! OR, I am emotionally exhausted, or overwhelmed. And my husband thinks that foreplay is just physical. It's not. It's mental & starts early in the day. Telling me I'm pretty, telling me I'm smart/he loves me, sending a funny/loving/sexy text. telling me he's just done the thing I've been asking him to do for a month... these things help! What also helps sometimes is a little light visual mind-adjustment into sexy land (AKA porn). If he wants it & i'm not quite in the mood, he goes down on me (his fave) while i go to a NSFW subreddit & scroll a few images/quick clips, which puts me into a much better mindset for orgasm!! (And he never asks what i look at. So i can be as freaky or boring as i like without fear of judgement!). I hope something I've written helps... oh! We also mostly have sex in the AM bc i'm not so overwhelmed/angry at the world first thing, lol.

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Velvet_Samurai@reddit

Yeah, I've noticed that the only time she can get off and have fun is when our son is at work on the weekend. He works 8 hours every Saturday and we know this is an entirely unbroken period we can have to ourselves. During the week if he has an after school thing he's only gone for 2 hours, that's not enough time. We've tried meeting at home and having sex that doesn't work at all. Ruins her whole day, rushes her actual lunch. We've tried doing it quietly at night after everyone is in bed, that's no good. Doing it in the morning is her worst nightmare. So we just try to schedule it for a Saturday when he's at work and we don't have a million things going on, which happens about every 6 weeks.

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Rational-ish@reddit

Definitely! 💯 Makes it more enjoyable both ways and much less dangerous.

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Mysterious_Can_6106@reddit

please read knowing this is TMI but OP asked for honesty and men should know women go through a lot after menopause so I can understand why things would slow down. Menopause isn’t talked about enough, I HAD NO CLUE!! I figured you no longer had a monthly cycle… BOY WAS I WRONG!!! There’s more 🫶🏻 Honestly I don’t even want to think about how long it has been!! Illness, well a blood clot that lead to a very lengthy hospital stay and an amputation, then menopause, now bleeding after menopause so I have to have a D & C (I KNOW TMI BUT YOU SAID BE HONEST) my husband and I have been married for 31 years, we used to be like rabbits!!! That is until life dealt ME a difficult hand in 22 that WE are still dealing with.

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tcdaf7929@reddit

I hear you!! Been married 30 years…it’s been about a year and a half since…had medical issues with face pain and then like you said menopause! Just had my second D&C!! Things are ok now but let me tell you…I have major atrophy and it’s a bitch!! (TMI here too)! So working on that now…but bless my husband..has never complained to me…hoping things will work themselves out soon! Hope all goes well for you!

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Mysterious_Can_6106@reddit

It might be TMI to talk about it here but I am suffering from atrophy as well. And I am scared to death about my D&C with only my husband to talk to about it. Would you mind being my DM buddy (for lack of a better term). If you think I’m crazy for asking I completely understand 🫶🏻

Sorry to others reading this … I realize not everyone wants to hear my TMI story.

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tcdaf7929@reddit

Would totally be your DM buddy!!! Would be glad to help!

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KingPabloo@reddit

59 and 56, Saturdays for sure and sprinkle in a few other days for spontaneity.

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External-Dude779@reddit

Saturdays are get drunk and fuck at our house 😂

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KingPabloo@reddit

Hell yeah!

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miniwhoppers@reddit

I don’t currently have a partner, but if I did, I would be having a lot of sex. My hormones are freaking out with perimenopause.

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Poneke365@reddit

Same! I thought perimenopause would create the opposite effect!

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DMGlowen@reddit

57 married 30 years, maybe 2-3 times a month.

I have very low T

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Aware_Interview_6247@reddit

Fix this low t. So much better emotional and mental health.

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DMGlowen@reddit

Working on it.

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Electrical-Bobcat435@reddit

We are making up for our 40s, so a 'whole-lotta-love' in the mid 50s here!

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Alternative-Law4626@reddit

We were swingers in our 40s. Definitely dropped off d From that level of sex. Then again, that decade probably covered a lifetime twice.

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I-Am-All-Me@reddit

We're still going strong!

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Alternative-Law4626@reddit

That’s awesome! We’ve now leveled up to 60s. We’re still hot though…lol. Still teachin’ the youngins how to party. But, not swinging anymore. No regrets though.

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I-Am-All-Me@reddit

ZERO regrets

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timberwolf0122@reddit

Swinging, heck I’d be happy if we could just get some kink going and have sex for more than 10 minutes.

Ironically she is the all “hurry up”, okay so I do, then the complaint it “too much pounding”. I am not sure how one is meant to hurry up without hurrying up

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No_Associate_4878@reddit

Very rare. We were both already dealing with low sex drives for years, then I started having incredible pain with penetration has not been resolved.

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Sure_Artichoke_3662@reddit

Ok that's very concerning. A friend of mine had that and it turned out she had cervical cancer. I hope that's been ruled out for you

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No_Associate_4878@reddit

I've had regular paps and follow up for an abnormal one, so it's not cancer. Vaginal pain with penetration is quite common during menopause, apparently because of vaginal atrophy due to low estrogen. I've had topical estrogen but am going to ask for a referral to an HRT specialist.

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Sure_Artichoke_3662@reddit

I'm so glad it's not cancer! But now I'm worried about about vaginal atrophy. Do we ever get a breakkkk

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the_couch_monster@reddit

51f - my sex drive is through the roof and my husband is finding his favorite chair. 😂

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External-Dude779@reddit

RIP to your DMs

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the_couch_monster@reddit

Nope - I’m not interested so they’re just wasting their time.☺️

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Keldrabitches@reddit

I was a nymphomanical Scorpio till my hysterectomy at 46. Now I don’t even think about it. Unless I’m longing for companionship. Which is kinda often—but nothing like that omnipresent sex drive SHEESH

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Bibliophile1998@reddit

1-2x a week, together 30 yrs, age 50. Beyond getting my perimenopausal hormones “fixed,” it is TOUGH with kids at home still 😩

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blacklabbath@reddit

Kids are the ultimate cock block. 😂

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Bibliophile1998@reddit

YES! We have 1 high schooler and 2 in college. Oldest lives at home and also works. He’s the ultimate block!!

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middlingachiever@reddit

If they are adults, have at it. We try to be considerate (quiet), but we aren’t pretending we don’t have sex with adult kids in the house. They know what couples do.

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CodeNameFrumious@reddit

So is a schnauzer.

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Canthelpit2056@reddit

Hahaha I see a shit load of lies on here. A whole lot of wish it was. And a bit of fantasy. And op of course ask this to see all the tall tales that would be coming. Still fun to see. Love the ones who say that all there doing is getting more now then when they were younger hahahahahahahaah lies.

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Bubbly_Following7930@reddit

Once a week.

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ShowLasers@reddit

Happy cake day! May today make your week!

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GenX-ModTeam@reddit

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Fudloe@reddit

Best it's ever been. Finally met the perfect woman at 47. 58 now and she cannot help but turn me on.

It's goddam wonderful.

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H3nchman_24@reddit

Doing great! I was in a threesome last night, in fact. There was a couple of no-shows but I still had a good time!

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit

I used to be a burger joint. Anytime you like it, served up quick. Now I'm a fine steakhouse. Quality is far better and more satisfying, but you better make a reservation in advance.

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Komaisnotsalty@reddit

54 female. Always had a uh, busy sex drive and it hasn't changed. Only thing that's changed is adding arthritis pain to activities. 😆 Some things are just too achy to achieve.

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FI_321@reddit

53M and all the damn time. Current gf is a smoke show and basically demands it.

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Smoking0311@reddit

Not much 🤷‍♂️

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mzeb75@reddit

Yup. Easily.

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Aware_Interview_6247@reddit

M53 F28. Heh heh heh.

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Jas62021@reddit

56 and 52
Once or twice a week.
More since our kid moved out. Plus he WFH so that helps

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ZenPokerFL@reddit

Once or twice every couple of weeks.

Not nearly enough for me but she’s fine with it. I’m not but several conversations have failed to improve the situation (for me) so I just deal with it.

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emover1@reddit

49m do not sure if i count in this poll yet. I turn 50 later this year.

2 to 3 times a week and we send the kids away every so often for the weekend so we can have a few days of uninterrupted “adult” time.

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Chemical-Carrot-9975@reddit

52 and 56. At least weekly, more if off work.

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Dextropic@reddit

I'm almost as active as I was in my 30s...

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Operation-FuturePuss@reddit

So once a month?

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Dextropic@reddit

Once a... HA HA HA HAAA...sigh oh that's a good one.

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Coffee_24-7@reddit

I'm in the second month of what's looking to be a really great relationship and it's 2x a night when we can get together. 58/57

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Commisceo@reddit

Truthfully, at least daily sometimes more. I have more testosterone now than ever.

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Balrog71@reddit

55, twice divorced and won’t get back into a marriage probably. Got a lady friend I take on trips a few times a year and we drink and molest each other for a few days then she goes home and I go home and we always feel the same about each other. Weird love is way better than none

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RightSideBlind@reddit

My wife decided that she just... not interested in sex. At all.

It's been almost 18 months at this point. I love her, can't imagine being with anyone but her... but it hurts.

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Lemon-Cake-8100@reddit

Get her on hormones!

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StunningCode744@reddit

What’s he supposed to do, feed her hormones like he’s pilling a cat??

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Sure_Artichoke_3662@reddit

Hide it in cheese

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IndgoViolet@reddit

HRT = Progesterone and DHEA helped tremendously

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KilroySmithson@reddit

💯

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Didthatyesterday2@reddit

Couple times a month. It's plenty.

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Commercial-Novel-786@reddit

Let's just say I feel like I'm a virgin again.

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GrandPriapus@reddit

I’m 59 and my wife is 57. She’s been dealing with stage IV metastatic breast cancer for about 6 years now, and that has really taken a toll on things. Because her cancer is the kind that loves estrogen, she has to take hormone blockers, which shut things down. We manage maybe once or twice a month, and while I wish it was more, I know it’s tough for my wife.

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mrkeith562@reddit

More than many of us are having without the severe medical drama. Since menopause no vaginal anything here. Hope your wife feels better!

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vasbrs9848@reddit

We are 56&57. When the kid left for college 4 years ago, it picked up to 1-2 times a week. Now it's 3-5 times a week.

As of this week.. we are on a six days in a row streak with two yesterday, this morning before work, and definitely Friday, Saturday and Sunday.

Our last streak was ten days in a row.

Don't ask what happened, We have both tried to figure it out and all we can come up with is... opportunity and sex begets more sex? We are easily doing it as much as we did when we first met in college.

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OnehappyOwl44@reddit

I'm 48 (post menopausal), my husband will be 50 this summer and we still have sex 3-5 times a week. We're retired and empty nesters. I'm sure if we were still working full time and had kids at home it might be a bit less.

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Junior_Statement_262@reddit

Dang, lucky! I didn't even start peri until I turned 50. Still having periods at almost 54. Oy!

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OnehappyOwl44@reddit

I had a hysterectomy at 35 so I started early.

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takisara@reddit

I think that makes a big diff. Im 49 and post menopausal as well, but i have a 10 year old, a long commute for a ft job. Wfh, used to allow for fooling around at lunch time while kid was at school....but by the time we are alone, i just cant be bothered. We are affectionate, but i just dont want to these days.

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BigD_PorkChop@reddit

Ours has actually picked up now that the kids are grown. Roughly once a week average.

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clauderbaugh@reddit

Does someone brushing up against me on the train count?

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ONROSREPUS@reddit

If you finished I don't know why it wouldn't.

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Think_Secret_7315@reddit

LOL

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sugahack@reddit

Im single so sex with other people takes more work than it's worth right now

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blacklabbath@reddit

Pretty much same as married. Grass is always greener.

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sugahack@reddit

I would think being married would at least mean you didn't have to put pants on and leave the house to even potentially find someone interested. I could be wrong though,, I've not been married since 2000

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SquirrelFun1587@reddit

If I was single I don’t think I would make the effort either.

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seattlemh@reddit

Never. My plan is to keep it that way.

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DevotedHeretic1@reddit

Do y'all look at 40 year olds and find them attractive or opposite someone older than you?

Asking as I wonder when I get that age if I'll be able to see someone who is old and wrinkly and think "I got me a blue pill w/ ur name on it!"

P.S. yes I know I'm a pig and a horrible person. Personality is what matters yadda yadda. Question stemmed from find out senior citizen homes are orgy hotels.

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cyn00@reddit

Nope. 5 years this June. Not by choice, and unfortunately, perimenopause is having the opposite of the expected effect on my libido.

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Dull_Swimming_5407@reddit

Get a bump of testosterone for you and your partner and you’ll be weekly if not daily!

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TheLastGenXer@reddit

any recommendations about this. my sex drive is at zero at 45

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Maximum_Locksmith_29@reddit

why?

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This-Assumption4123@reddit

A couple of times a week at least.

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oddball_ocelot@reddit

A couple times a week. We're pretty happy with that.

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NihilsitcTruth@reddit

About once a week depending on illness or injury. Both very happy with that.

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TwoBitFish@reddit

3/4 times a week. Married 34 years.

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CodeNameFrumious@reddit

Three-fourths of a time per week? How does that work?

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mattimattlove111@reddit

I haven't had sex since Feb 2008. I have forgotten what....I don't even have words. It's like someone else had sex in my life. Every year longer that I have gone without it... the more it's felt like someone else had sex not me. It's just experience I had .. my willingness to give up my time of not having sex has become more principled and more about connecting and respecting. I'm 59 now and... so know all I have to offer is senior citizen sex. I can't imagine I would ever have sex again. But I do my best to be open minded to all of life.

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NewDayNewBurner@reddit

Variable here. 2-3 times per week is the average, I’d say.

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kinggeorgec@reddit

Every night before bed. Married 30 something years.

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chaosrulz0310@reddit

I am jealous. Married almost 30 cannot remember the last time even solo.

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kinggeorgec@reddit

I can't really give any advise on how to get there. It's not something we discussed or work toward. When we dated we bang all the time and it just continued.

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HLLAuntClaire@reddit

You’re so full of shit gtfo

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Th1nk18@reddit

Almost every night…by myself. With the wife about once a month

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JonCocktoastin@reddit

Every other day, depending on schedules and so forth sometimes a little more on weekend and definitely on vacation.

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Thirsty4Knowledge911@reddit

We schedule a date night once a week. That usually works to set the mood. Average 3 to 4 times a month. We’re 60/61.

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MaximumJones@reddit

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Melodic-Classic391@reddit

2-4 times a week is the norm for us

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Dry_Ad7529@reddit

Married together a long time - peri + pandemic + more life stress than we can barely handle = twice in 6 years

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rfriend73@reddit

By myself or with my wife ? Huge difference.

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Ok-Entertainment5045@reddit

The struggle is real

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KurtStation68@reddit

59 x2 week unless on vacation but the SO 12 years younger so she keeps me going

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ManonastickUk@reddit

Nope, can't be arsed anymore.

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marugirl@reddit

None, single. Last time was in 2019 😔

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IndgoViolet@reddit

3 to 6 times a month now that I'm passed perimenopause

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Pristine_Software_55@reddit

Could I ask if that was up or down from before perimenopause?

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IndgoViolet@reddit

Very much up since I got on HRT and my life became less stressful. I was care giving full time for 3 family members while raising 3 sons and running my microbusiness and struggling through perimenopause, for 10 years. I just didn't have any urge or energy for sex.

I'm passed that now and under way less stress, and in the last 2 to 3 years, my desire is coming back.

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Pristine_Software_55@reddit

Oh, thank heavens ;)

Not that what worked for you must work for us, but there’s hope. At any age, that sounds like a wickedly overfull plate. I’m glad things have eased for you! (And will look into HRT on our side!)

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IndgoViolet@reddit

For me, adding the DHEA (OTC supplement the body converts into testosterone) and the Progesterone really seemed to tip the scales back into my old self.

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Top-Obligation7500@reddit

I’m in my mid 30’s and have sex once a month or every other month.

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Kurtbott@reddit

2-3 times a week. Twice on 1 of the 2-3 times. Together with wife for 22 years

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msyd1024@reddit

Mid-50s. Saw this under my other account but had to switch to this nsfw one because it's relevant. Sex life used to be pretty good. We're sexually different people but still love each other, but we made it work and found a nebulous middle-ground. So (and this was her idea) a couple years ago we opened up our marriage so I could explore my alternative idiosyncrasies. So sex with each other is not too often but usually pleasant for us both. But my adult play is mostly with others at this point.

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LONGVolSilver@reddit

How do you go about finding your other playmates?

Does your wife see their dating profile pics, review your communications with them, etc. or is it more arms-length than that?

Are you "allowed" to go on overnight trips with them, go on dinner dates, etc?

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ihatepickingnames_@reddit

Zero. Single.

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Brilliant-Onion2129@reddit

That is the best time to have sex!

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Sure_Artichoke_3662@reddit

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justusleag@reddit

Twice a week.

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thirtyone-charlie@reddit

Going strong 💪🏼

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cartman1205@reddit

Perimenopause has entered the chat

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VeganDogPro@reddit

Menopause welcomes you!

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Junior_Statement_262@reddit

I'm right there, but hornier than ever, so.....

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A_Gringo666@reddit

Wife and I both just turned 51. Married 25 years. Minimum once a week. Never less, rarely more.

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KC5SDY@reddit

Sex? What is this sex thing you speak of? My junk don't work. No... there is no sex life.

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tuffdadsf@reddit

We have sex at least twice a week. Been together for 26 years and still have the spark. Also, we're both dudes and dudes never say no to sex.

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AngelMom1965@reddit

Or have to deal with the effects of menopause. 😜

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VeganDogPro@reddit

Ugh. Hating it. Sex used to be sooooo easy.

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AngelMom1965@reddit

I know! Never thought that I would become an expert on lubes and moisturizers. Why didn’t anyone warn us? Doctors? Older sisters? The press?

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VeganDogPro@reddit

I don’t know. I was completely caught off guard. Unfortunately, lubes were not even remotely effective. I’m on to HRT and now considering bio-identical injections. WTF!!!???

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Rubberfootman@reddit

That does rather throw a spanner in the works.

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boobsandbrains668@reddit

It goes up and down. One month we could be doing it daily, a few times a day. And then it might be 1x every other week. Hate to say it but it honestly depends on my hormonal fluctuations and how I feel about myself. We still try to spice it up after 20 years together by trying new stuff to keep it going. When one of us has to travel we have a lot of spicy texts, videos, ect we send back and forth.

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tictacksmuggler@reddit

Once a month man. Life is hectic happy to get it in when we can. Pun intended

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jeetah@reddit

I forgot what it was like to want to. Due in part to my daily pill salad.

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DaveKelso@reddit

Daily pill salad had me rollin'

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randy_trevor@reddit

?

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hanzobust75@reddit

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75artina@reddit

married 10 years, dead bedroom. I had a hysterectomy 10 weeks ago, and I've been... ready, so I tried a week ago or so and nothing happened. We used to be on it 3-4 times per week. I think we both have just lost interest.

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incredulousgeek@reddit

Couple times a week. Modern medicine FTW 😅

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straylight_2022@reddit

Couple times a week. More when my partner is ovulating. Not tryin to have another kid, she is just extra frisky when that is going on.

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KilroySmithson@reddit

At least once per week.

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driftless@reddit

Truthful? You want truthful? The mind works GREAT! The body…doesn’t want to cooperate.

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nadiaco@reddit

😂😂😂😂 none

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raginghappy@reddit

At least a couple of times a week, canoodling daily ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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strangedazey@reddit

Going on 6yrs solo ❤️

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GothGranny75@reddit

3-5 times a week. It was more , but lately we've just been so tired.

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All-IWantedWasAPepsi@reddit

Twice a day. We are outliers.

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Miss-Asshole@reddit

I’ve had the same bf for about forever it feels like and we still have sex about once a week. It’s not full of bells and whistles like the good ol’ days, but that happens. He’s also about six years younger than me, so he’s not quite Gen X.

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RetiredPoPo10-8@reddit

When he gets a little older and has to start taking Cialis for prostate issues and testosterone therapy because his levels are low...watch out! He will want attention every night. 🤣

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realityqueen68@reddit

Every Sunday

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throwpayrollaway@reddit

Hello vicar!

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bibdrums@reddit

On average probably about once a week. I’m 50m and she’s 50f. It’s been a little tough because she is perimenopausal though.

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yarnhooksbooks@reddit

With a partner? Not in line a decade. I’m having more orgasms than ever though 🤷‍♀️

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fastballcdm2019@reddit (OP)

Masturbating doesn’t count, but any kind of foreplay does.

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Infamous-Yak2864@reddit

Does face in the booty also count?

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drumbo10@reddit

56 here. Twice a week. Been together since 1989 and got married in 2008 when we had our only son. We don’t go to the gym but have pretty much stayed the same just gained 10pounds since the start.

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MikeOrTara@reddit

Maybe once every couple of months. Been married 26 years (55m me, 51f) and it has just gradually fizzled out. Having a daughter later in life (she just turned 15) definitely contributed to it too.

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murphydcat@reddit

Once a week. No complaints!

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ConsequenceNational4@reddit

Umm..probably about 4 years ago...so sex life..none.

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BringOutYaThrowaway@reddit

Not since 2013, probably never again

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Raynee_Haze@reddit

Menopause ended my drive. I feel bad for the hubby, he tries, but the thought of it, with ANYONE is just gross atp.

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copperfrog42@reddit

Same here, that combined with a Crohn’s disease diagnosis during perimenopause just killed my drive completely. Also hubby’s got some issues affecting his as well. So it’s been a while, but I’m alright with it.

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cgund@reddit

I want to be another voice for those of us who are past that part of our journey. Even at our most active, it was only ever 1x a week.

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Mockingbird_1234@reddit

Hormone replacement therapy is a wonder.

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lindalou1987@reddit

Not everyone can take it unfortunately. My GYN said no due to a history of blood clots.

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Raynee_Haze@reddit

It can help i suppose. I'm on only E. Cannot take progesterone (hysterectomy) and my T measures normal and Free T is high. It's not a miracle worker to take HRT, unfortunately.

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Informal_Daikon_9812@reddit

Sadly it's dropped off significantly. When we fist got to gether (20 years ago) we were like rabbits. Now, in my 50s (she's still in her 40s) and I'll be lucky once every month or every two months. It sucks. I love having sex with my wife and i know she enjoys it, it's just she entering pre-menopause and I have back issues so doing it all the time is too much for us to handle everyday.

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ConstantConfusion123@reddit

Zero. (maybe TMI): Aggressive prostate cancer, non nerve sparing surgery. No more erections for my man, which would be workable but he has no sensitivity either. Anywho, before that lil snafu I'd say about 2x/wk.

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TheRateBeerian@reddit

That sucks my dude. I had the laser surgery that seemed to have nicked a nerve, and my testosterone dropped. But not as bad as that! I hope at least they got all the cancer and you can live a long life.

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LuceLeakey@reddit

Zero at the moment, but only because I haven't had a partner since 2023.

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PatientGiraffe@reddit

Almost never. It sucks, but I am having all sorts of health issues which doesn't help. Not at all what I was hoping for once we were empty nesters. I figured we'd do all the things we didn't have time to. Instead we basically stopped doing anything about 7 years ago. Now it's. maybe once a month at best.

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Repulsive_Regular_39@reddit

I'll be honest... hardly ever. Having health issues. Whoever says 'all the time' after 20 yrs of marriage is lying or empty nester.

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battlesong1972@reddit

I’m 54, my wife’s 50. I find it happens in waves, sometimes we’re at 3 or 4 times a week and sometimes we’re at once in a 2-3 month span. It leans more to the second. I try not to let my frustration boil over when we’re in a celibacy phase, but sometimes it does and it becomes a real point of contention

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MutedTechnology8644@reddit

This is wild reading through some of these comments. 58 and 56...4-5x a week.

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timberwolf0122@reddit

Late 40s and it’s less than 1x a week, sometimes over a month between quick sex that’s really not that satisfying.. sigh

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Electrical-Bobcat435@reddit

Thats about my target for wifey though Im allowed less frequently, but not complaining! 🤣

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PowerNinja5000@reddit

I'm only 45 but my gf is 52. We bone pretty much every chance we get. We don't live together yet so that means a few times every weekend. She's in perimenopause or whatever it is and is horny as hell all the time.

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Beneficial_Pickle322@reddit

Every Saturday or Sunday morning, sometimes both of if I get lucky :) but we find it’s important to our relationship

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Routine_Breath_7137@reddit

Does masturbation count? Then maybe too often.

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timberwolf0122@reddit

I was on #3 by lunch time

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EVy-and-August@reddit

What if it’s mutual masturbation? Does that count?

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Routine_Breath_7137@reddit

Beggers can't be choosers.

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lazytiger40@reddit

What sex life? Been married 7 years the DB started 3 years ago (52 while the wife will be 50 in two weeks). So far nothing...

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Phobos1982@reddit

DB?

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everyoneisnuts@reddit

Dormant Balls? 😂

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jsamuraij@reddit

Dick Boredom

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FrankParkerNSA@reddit

r/deadbedroom

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RogerMoore2011@reddit

Still once a week after 28 years of marriage. We make it a priority. We have found that it’s not just the orgasm but the intimacy that’s most important. As we age, I can still find things about my wife that make me physically attracted to her. Sex is the glue that keeps a marriage together. Otherwise you are just roommates.

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ZetaWMo4@reddit

Both 52 and still average 4-6 times a week. I’m perimenopausal and wearing him out regularly. We’re empty nesters and I’m retired so we have plenty of time.

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Angry_GorillaBS@reddit

I'm not quite there yet but hopefully it doesn't drop off any

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Kitchen_Page9991@reddit

Why are widows so damn horny? I’ve been dating g a widow for a few years. She’s 60 I’m mid 50’s. Damn she has a strong sex drive!!

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timberwolf0122@reddit

It’s survivor bias. My wife does not have a strong sex drive, if we ever separated I don’t see her perusing another partner.

Conversely a woman with a still functioning sex drive would probably go on the prowl

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I-Am-All-Me@reddit

We started swinging in our 40s, we have oodles of fun now!!

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tftf055@reddit

Late 50s, been together 40 years. 2-3 times/week. I’m a very lucky guy.

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LawDogSavy@reddit

Wife going through menopause. So that's a negative Maverick.

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Flaky_Wheel60B@reddit

“Tower requesting a flyby?”

“Negative ghost rider pattern is full”

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RonGoBongo111@reddit

"She's lost that loving feeling….i hate when she does that.”

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Lightningstruckagain@reddit

Alone or with my lady?

I guess either way, a few times a week.

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EmbarrassedAge7612@reddit

Just turned 50 this year. We have it 2-3 times Mon-Friday. Weekends we usually have sex in the morning and again mid afternoon and then at bedtime, both days.

We’re both very high drive and have great communication skills with each other.

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MarkItZeroDonnie@reddit

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EmbarrassedAge7612@reddit

Never thought I’d get a downvote for getting laid.

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MarkItZeroDonnie@reddit

You flew to close to the sun with wings of viagra.

Even if you’re telling the truth . That’s more sex than I want ….. unless it with different people , and that’s not happening 😄

Who am I Dan Fielding

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Used_Flatworm_6633@reddit

Married almost 20 years. Early 50s both. Can't get him to at all. Don't remember the last time. Depressing

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Waesrdtfyg0987@reddit

Honey I told you I'm having problems.. oh wait you're not my wife.

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Used_Flatworm_6633@reddit

He's not having any physical issues. He doesn't care about it anymore.

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Previous_Finance_414@reddit

My brain doesn’t even go there. I’m still the horny 20 yr old I used to be. I did my maturing elsewhere.

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Odd-Animal-1552@reddit

Terminally single. It’s been years lol. I don’t see that changing anytime soon.

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JettaRider077@reddit

What’s this talk about sex, we do t even sleep in the same room.

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MTheadedRaccoon@reddit

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VeganDogPro@reddit

Lol. We don’t sleep in the same room either which is probably why we are still having sex! Though it has been more than a challenge with menopause. And we are both still working and pretty busy. So, once every couple of months but we are both fine with that.

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ismybrainonthefritz@reddit

Usually once a week. We only see each other on Wednesday nights for a couple hours and then Saturday for an overnight. There’s usually sex on Saturday night or Sunday morning.

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Frosty-Ad8457@reddit

We have it 3-4 times a month. He would like to have it every day, if only I said yes lol

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Previous_Finance_414@reddit

That’s most of us. (Is me for sure). We’re a once a week team, and maybe one extra ✋ job if I ask nicely.

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Frosty-Ad8457@reddit

Hahaha nice

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whistlepig4life@reddit

Heart attack and the meds have brought on other issues. Not needing medical help but it’s a bit more difficult.

Spouse has some issues going on that require surgery and that really messes things up.

So maybe once or twice a month when it was once a week previously.

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NaughtyLittleDogs@reddit

I've been with my husband for over 30 years. We have two teenagers still living at home and our house is small, so our bedrooms are close together and we all share one bathroom. This, on top of work stresses and general aging, means that we don't often have the time, privacy, or inclination to have sex. We have to *purposely* make plans for it, usually on rare occasions when neither of our kids are home and we're both awake. Currently, we manage to get together about once a week. I'm fine with that but my husband definitely wants it more often. But I just don't feel horny when I know there's a kid within earshot. Some people can let loose and have wild, headboard-thumping, screaming orgasms when their kids are within listening range but that REALLY isn't me.

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Dairyman00111@reddit

Old people sex, gross

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RonGoBongo111@reddit

When you’re old, you’ll love.

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Alarmed_Term_7770@reddit

Turn the light off. We can do shit you only saw on the internet.

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Sneezydiva3@reddit

Not since 2022. Estrogen blocker after breast cancer killed it for me, which in a way was a good thing. My husband has a lot chronic pain issues, which zapped his libido. So at least I’m not frustrated anymore.

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Sneezydiva3@reddit

Not since 2022. Estrogen blocker after breast cancer killed it for me, which in a way was a good thing. My husband has a lot chronic pain issues, which zapped his libido. So at least I’m not frustrated anymore.

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briank2112@reddit

Retired…

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indianajane13@reddit

ED has killed that.

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lassita_48det@reddit

Yep. My husband has zero drive. And no, ED meds don’t work for him.

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Electrical_Fishing81@reddit

Similar situation here.

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Cautious_Income7311@reddit

My husband gets testosterone. His urologist literally said said, "don't know why what women go through is called menopause when that is what men go through." He gets testosterone beads injected in his butt cheek every 3 months. He is a literal walking hard on. I didn't mind multiple times a week, but now, I want to hurt that urologist.

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Jolly-Guard3741@reddit

Me 55M and her 61F regularly hold to once a week unless health or job schedule gets in the way.

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Affectionate_Drop765@reddit

Both age 57. Mine cranked up in the last 18 months. 4-5 times a week now from 2 times a month. I think the stress of raising kids has gone away and the libido has gone up. GLP-1 may also paying dividends. Life is good.

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88jaybird@reddit

i have to give me wife a footrub if i want some lovin.

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FrankParkerNSA@reddit

Just puts my wife to sleep. I make her pay in advance if those are the terms.

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DrSamLoomis@reddit

Last time was 2011 😞

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GuvNer76@reddit

So it really depends on what you mean by Sex, just intercourse? That numbers lower then having other fun too. We actually found an app that tracks what we do and how often and all that jazz. 2.3x a week, 10.7 times a month roughly.

But that totally averages, we have a stressful week and there is nothing happening. We are on a beach vaca for a week with bottom less drinks, and no stress it’s like 3-4 times a day.

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rulerofearthnyc@reddit

Sounds like on the vaca it ain’t just the drinks that are bottomless! Awooogaaa!

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bigmedallas@reddit

Twice a week, and twice a weekend. Working out and stretching became a must in our 40s and now in our mid 50s it obvious how much it helped.

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-BigDaddyTex@reddit

2-3X a week. But only been together 5 years.

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No_Gap_2700@reddit

Frequency has dropped from daily/multiple times daily in the past years. Frequency is down, but the type of sex we're having now is...different for sure. After marathon sex, I dont want it for a few days.

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Ill_Appearance_8097@reddit

57m. Wife is 40. Better now than in my 20's. We are very happy. 3 to 4 times a week

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DietznutzCA@reddit

Wait till she hits premenopausal. That shit will shut off

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wikkedwench@reddit

61, hubby is 49. 2-3 times a week. Post menopausal, It just gets better.

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mr_vestan_pance@reddit

Five knuckle shuffle.

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kalelopaka@reddit

Daily, my wife has kept me going. Thankfully.

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OUBoyWonder@reddit

My man...

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holidaycheese87@reddit

We’re both early 50. Maybe once a month, and it doesn’t bother either of us.

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Phobos1982@reddit

Haven’t had sex in over 20 years. Just not a priority for me.

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clejeune@reddit

Both my wife and I travel for work. Different jobs, different travel. Every few weeks is great, once a month is more common though.

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TenuousOgre@reddit

M59, W57, averages 3-4 times per month. Celebrated 38 years recently. But it’s changed since menopause. Bit less of some things, but more of others.

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mday03@reddit

Twice a week average.

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ChaosTheoryGirl@reddit

I honestly thought we would be like rabbits until we were 80. I was wrong. Frequency depends on how busy we are but it ranges from once every week or two to a couple of times a week. Mind is still dirty, but the body just lags.

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Comprehensive_Sir49@reddit

Well, even though I'm married, I'm currently having an affair with my left hand....

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-CgiBinLaden-@reddit

Hand Solo, gets it done in 2 parsecs.

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BMisterGenX@reddit

I haven't had sex in 2.5 years, and my wife gets uncomfortable and changes the subject whenever I try mentioning it. Both in early 50s

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SuspiciousGenXer@reddit

Peri- and menopause can really disrupt sex drive, pleasure, energy levels, and more. I've described it as something akin to being invited to dine at a high-quality buffet, but you already feel too full, tired, and/or overwhelmed to even think about eating.

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AcesAnd08s@reddit

54m, wife same age. I try to initiate it about 3x a week. Unfortunately, it only actually happens about 7x a year.

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in-a-microbus@reddit

Sorry for that. What's the block?

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AUCE05@reddit

About every 2 months.

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MinusGovernment@reddit

Whenever I feel like pestering my wife enough that she will get naked. It goes in spurts. A couple weeks of feeling like it all the time and then a monthish of only minimal effort to get past resistance. She doesn't hate it when we do she just doesn't ever want to get to that point to begin with.

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in-a-microbus@reddit

Pretty good.

We no longer have the weekend marathons that caused us to become parents, but we still manage 2 quickies a week and a 'let's keep going until wifey cums' roughly once a week.

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ThrowRAboredinAZ77@reddit

It ebbs and flows of course, but right now we're averaging 3 times a week.

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Mental-Artist-6157@reddit

I'm knocking on the back door of 56, he's 46. During the weekdays we're too wiped tfo by life but on the weekends IT'S ONNNN!

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kalelopaka@reddit

Daily, my wife has kept me going. Thankfully.

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BlueHeelerLuv@reddit

2-4 times a week. Just depends on how our schedules/ workload/ plans shake out.

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Dangerous_Crab_7108@reddit

2-5 times a week!

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Poultrygeist74@reddit

That part of my life is over

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Novel_Pin_6784@reddit

I'll be 60 next month. We stay reasonably fit and we still fuck a few times a week. Communicate. If yall talk about it, you'll get horney.

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Junior_Statement_262@reddit

Once a month????

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yarn_slinger@reddit

Until my hip got bad a last year, we averaged twice a week. Now it’s about twice a month.

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jacklogan2972@reddit

1-2 times a week.

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TheresaB112@reddit

Husband and I are once a week most weeks (sip if one of us is sick or in pain like when he first was diagnosed with arthritis in his knee).

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HeldCaptiveByCats@reddit

A few times a week

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StarDewbie@reddit

Last time was July of '24. I'm fine with it.

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Ive_seen_things_that@reddit

Mid 40s, no kids. Once a quarter if I'm lucky. It's bad. Nothing I do works anymore. Backrubs, dinner, a night out, gifts, trying to do extra chores, nothing. We are both pretty exhausted and probably slightly depressed at this fucked up world, so I'm not really even mad.

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